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I stalked my best friend

Sophie and I had been friends since primary school, so when I found out through a mutual friend that she slept with my boyfriend, I was devastated. I wasn’t interested in her apologies or pleas for forgiveness. I was incredibly hurt and just wanted her, and my newly-ex-boyfriend out of my life.

After I recovered from the initial shock, it didn’t take long for hurt to turn to anger, and a desire for revenge. I wanted to hurt Sophie the way she hurt me. Sophie had always been a bit of a scaredy cat. She slept with a light on and couldn’t stand scary movies, so with that in mind, I thought I’d give her something to really be afraid of.

I started by calling her house, twice, maybe three times a week, always at night, not saying anything, just playing classical music down the phone. This went on for a few weeks until I decided to take it a bit further.

I set up an email account and began sending her emails from it. In the emails I talked about how I’d been watching her. I described her house and where she worked in detail. I told her that we were meant to be together and would be one day soon and always signed them from ‘Mr. X’. Once I even took a photo of her in the street without her realising and emailed it to her.

I began hearing through the grapevine that Sophie had a stalker and she was getting really scared. Admittedly I was a little nervous that she might go to the police, but I was enjoying myself to much to stop, and in any case, I didn’t see how anything could be traced back to me.

Soon I also began to send little packages. A dead rose, a container with dirt in it, even a chicken bone, anything that would freak her out. I even stuck a few notes on the windscreen of her car.

As much as I tried to avoid seeing Sophie, our paths soon crossed at a mutual friends wedding. I did my best to ignore her at the reception, but after consuming a few to many champagnes I decided to go and chat with her.

It didn’t take long for her to start pouring her heart out about her ‘stalker’. As I listened I realised that I had definitely taken things way to far and I knew it was time to stop. Sophie and I ended up talking a lot that night. I forgave her for what she had done to me, and we began rebuilding our friendship.

I was worried if I stopped ‘stalking’ her straight away she’d guess it had been me all along, so I gradually slowed down the emails and phone calls, stopping all together after about a month.

One year on, Sophie and I are great friends again. She still talks about her stalker and sometimes I wonder if I should own up, but then, if I did, she might decide to take revenge on me!

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Golden Globes gossip

Hot shots: Golden Globes glamour

Kiefer Sutherland almost missed out on all the Golden Globes action on Monday night ? the star of 24 was without a ticket or a limo pass right up until the last minute. Apparently the same strict rules apply for everyone ? even if you’re Kiefer ? no ticket, no entry. Luckily, the organisers managed to rush a ticket to him just in time for the big event.

Meanwhile, Prince wasn’t so fortunate. The veteran musician won the Best Original Song in a Motion Picture category, but he arrived too late to accept his award. Poor old Prince was stuck in traffic when his name was announced, so presenter Justin Timberlake saw his chance to take a stab at the 155cm singer and crouched down low to accept the award on his behalf. But Justin was just getting his own back for Prince’s harsh comment at last year’s Emmy Awards afterparty: “For whoever is claiming that they are bringing sexy back, sexy never left!”

Kyra Sedgwick was kicking herself for leaving her acceptance speech at home on Globes night. The actress had taken the same dog-eared sheet of paper to her last three awards shows ? leaving empty-handed every time, but after she forgot the speech last night she finally got lucky and picked up an award for Best Actress in a TV Drama.

It seems Helen Mirren’s star power easily eclipses Sean “Diddy” Combs when it comes to hanging out at LA’s exclusive hotspots. When Diddy tried to wander into a Golden Globes afterparty at the Sunset Tower Hotel, he was met with resistance by uniformed security guards who were impervious to his repeated cries of, “Do you know who I am?” However, five minutes later 61-year-old Helen, who had won two awards earlier that evening, was greeted by security guards and ushered straight past Diddy.

Keith Urban ? who has just been released from rehab ? didn’t attend the Globes, but was spotted at the private CAA afterparty with wife Nicole Kidman. Keith checked into rehab on October 19 last year seeking treatment for alcohol addiction. After spending almost three months at the treatment facility, with a brief period of “leave” over the holidays, it looks like Keith’s finally back for good. He plans to launch his Love, Pain and the Whole Crazy World Tour in April.

See the magazine for more Golden Globes gossip and loads of hot pics! On sale Monday, January 22.

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Adro — New baby, new body

The Biggest Loser has double the joy, with a new son and a great new body.

Snuggled against his daddy’s bare chest, little Eden Sarnelli sleeps soundly, blissfully unaware of the significance of this cuddle.

Yet for his father Adro this intimate moment marks not only the beginning of his son’s life but, in a sense, the rebirth of his own.

Few will forget the inspiring image of a staggeringly slimmed-down Adro Sarnelli winning last year’s The Biggest Loser. But as he introduces his beloved new baby to Woman’s Day, Adro also exclusively reveals his sensational new body and the extraordinary steps he took to turn himself into the man he always wanted to be.

Eight weeks before baby Eden was born on November 30, Adro checked himself into hospital for the first of two operations that would rid him of the armfuls of sagging skin which were the legacy of his obesity.

“When I came home from The Biggest Loser, I felt cheated,” he says, speaking candidly about the complex emotions which surrounded his massive weight loss.

“All my life as a fat guy I dreamed that if I lost weight, life would be perfect. I lost more than 50 kilos, but my body was just as bad as when I started because my skin sagged so much. The first thing I saw when I looked down were these horrible flapping man boobs. When I washed I had to lift up bits, like the apron hanging from my stomach, to clean underneath.”

With his wife Sam pregnant with their second child, Adro, 27, was determined that he would — quite literally — be a new person by the time his son was born. Within weeks of the show ending he consulted four plastic surgeons and chose Sydney-based Dr Mark Kohout to perform the operations.

Says Adro, “As soon as I’d started losing weight I knew I wasn’t going to be happy with all the wobbly skin. Having it removed was part of the journey, it allowed me to have closure on the obese person I’d always been.”

Initially doctors suggested a tummy tuck and a male breast reduction, called a gynecomastia, but Adro wanted more. “I had really saggy love handles on my back, my thighs were droopy and I had wobbly tuckshop lady arms. It wasn’t a case of wanting it removed, I needed it removed. I wasn’t prepared to have it hanging around as a reminder of how I was — I have a TV program to remind me!”

To recap, Adro won The Biggest Loser title last April when he dropped a staggering 51 kilos from his 136.5kg frame after competing in the Network Ten series. One of seven children from an Italian family, he began stacking on the weight as a child thanks to rich meals and being forbidden from playing sport.

“Even when I went on the show I didn’t think I’d lose the weight,” he admits. “I’d had it drummed into me for years that I had big bones or that I’d got the bad end of the gene pool.”

The Biggest Loser proved that wasn’t the case. However, despite leaving the show with a 32-inch waist and wearing a medium shirt, Adro couldn’t fully appreciate his new fit body.

On October 3 he went into hospital for a circumferential body lift, a tummy tuck, an outer thigh lift and a buttock lift.

Says Adro, “I was feeling nervous but the anaesthetist was brilliant and asked if I’d like something for the nerves. The next thing I knew was I was waking up and it was over.”

Although the operation had taken more than six hours, Adro felt no pain afterwards. Even when the morphine wore off, he says he felt only discomfort.

Back home after four days, he was amazingly mobile and the only sign of the operation was a thin cut all the way round his abdomen with little suture strips over it.

“From the very first second that I could move enough to see it, I was like ‘wow’. To be flat all the way down was a spinout. I run my hand across my abs (abdominal muscles) all the time because it’s not the sort of thing I ever dreamed I’d have.”

Six weeks after the first operation, Adro returned to hospital for the gynecomastia (breast lift) and the removal of skin from his under-arms. Fifteen centimetres of skin weighing 200 grams was removed from each breast and the nipples were removed and then grafted back onto his chest. The operation took three and a half hours and afterwards he had to wear a protective vest.

“There was a chance the nipples wouldn’t take and the doctor had warned me they would be black for three to four weeks, but within five days they were already pink on the edges,” says Adro, who credits his speedy recovery to his general fitness and use of vitamin supplements.

Initially he had to be careful not to lift his three-year-old daughter Odessa, but now with the swelling nearly gone and only a little fluid retention, he’s delighted with what he calls “the new me”.

“I feel brilliant,” he enthuses, stripping off his shirt without a hint of embarrassment. “Before, I would never have taken my shirt off at the beach or the pool, but now I walk around all the time with a bare chest. I now feel finished and I definitely got that closure I was after.”

One thing he wants to impress is that he didn’t have any liposuction or fat removal. “I know some people think I lost a bit of weight then used surgery to finish it off, but that’s not the case. I don’t want anyone to think I cheated.”

While he may yet have a third operation, Adro’s surgery has already totalled $51,000, although he has only had to pay $25,000 because of the promotional benefits of the documentary he is making on his experience.

At their home on the NSW Central Coast, Adro’s wife smiles across at him with pride. Sam says his saggy skin never bothered her and that the decision to have surgery was entirely his. “I was so scared with the first operation. I spent the whole day wrapped in a doona sitting on the lounge and waiting for a phone call from the doctor,” she says.

Although Sam, 27, would love Adro whatever he looked like, she is delighted that he is now healthy and fit enough to really enjoy their children. “One image that will stay in my head forever is the first time Adro took Odessa to the play park after coming off the show. Previously he would sit on a bench outside, but this time he was playing in the tunnels for an hour and a half. When he came out he was smiling from ear to ear.”

While Adro says his new body makes him feel sexier, Sam says she also enjoys the emotional and spiritual development that has come with his weight loss.

In fact, Adro regards his time on The Biggest Loser, particularly the challenging time at the holistic health retreat Camp Eden, as so significant that he named his son after it.

“Camp Eden was a turning point for me. It was there that I confronted my demons and realised I was not going to be fat ever again. When we were thinking of names, I wanted something that related to the new me and both Sam and I loved the name Eden.”

Even Eden’s middle name, Harper, is a tribute to the show’s trainer Bob Harper, who Adro believes made the difference between success and failure.

Born weighing 4020g (8lb 14oz) (or as Adro says, “one Mars bar short of 9lb”), the little boy completes a momentous year for the family.

Sadly, Adro’s success has come at a price, particularly the collapse of his car repair business, which floundered without him at the helm. He has launched a new health and fitness enterprise — adrohealth.com — and has hopes of opening health centres called The New Me.

But as he says, he has his health and his family. “My life is so good that every day starts with a pinch. I think it will last forever.”

**For more information about Adro, see adrohealth.com

For more amazing pics of Adro’s transformation, see this week’s issue of Woman’s Day.**

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Yoga

Relax while you work out

Yoga is one of the world’s most popular forms of exercise and although its roots are ancient, it’s widely used today to ease the stresses and strains of modern living.

Alex Grant is a Sydney-based yoga practitioner. Here he answers a few questions about yoga.

Q: What is yoga?

A: Yoga is the practice of being in the moment at all times. The Sanskrit word “yoga” literally means to “yoke” or “unite” and all the different aspects of yoga aim to unite the mind and the action so that one can become connected to whatever they are doing.

There are many different ways of practicing yoga, including asana, the physical postures, pranayama, breathing exercises and dhayana, meditation.

Most people practice the physical aspect of yoga which is called hatha yoga, which includes various asanas designed to both stretch and strengthen the body while controlling the breath and focusing the mind.

Q: How does yoga work?

A: By staying in the moment with the physical practice, one is able to develop concentration, which is vital to the more meditative aspects of yoga. By practicing the asanas [physical postures], one is able to keep the body healthy, with many asanas focused on toning the muscles, nervous and endocrine systems. The effect of this is creating a free flow of energy throughout the body. By developing the mind, one is able to keep the thoughts focused on productive ends and not react negatively to problems in life.

Q: Why is it good for you?

A: It can keep the body toned and free from disease; it calms the mind and helps people concentrate. It also gives people more energy.

Q: Who can do it?

A: Anyone can do yoga. The more physical styles such as Bikram, Ashtanga and Iyengar may be more difficult for those in less than perfect physical condition, but if people have trouble with these styles, they can approach more traditional hatha yoga classes, which often focus on gentle asanas and relaxation techniques.

Q: Are there any risks?

A: Yes, most injuries occur when people are not being mindful. If practitioners stay focused on the moment, then there is very little chance of injury; it is when they push themselves and start daydreaming and stop breathing that injuries occur.

Q: How many different types of yoga are there?

A: There are many different styles. Yoga has been traditionally passed on from teacher to student for thousands of years. In the past 100 years, with the embrace of yoga by the West, there has been an explosion in the number of styles. Most are based on several lineages of hatha yoga and most share the same postures. The difference is in the sequencing and pace as well as the focus.

As to the style that is right for you, I advise a new student to sample a few different styles and try to find a teacher they feel comfortable with. In the end yoga is a personal endeavour and the yogi will find what is right for him or her.

Q: Where can I find yoga classes?

A: Yoga is very widely practiced in Australia now, so you could ask at your local gym, look up the Yellow Pages or visit my website: www.findyoga.com.au.

Slideshow: 5-step guide to simple yoga

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Puppies and children

How to prevent your child from becoming a chew toy

There are a few things you need to do to ensure a harmonious family life for you and your dog.

First of all, your new puppy needs to be included and to feel part of his new human family. This mimics the pack order dogs are used to in the wild ? learning where they come in the social hierarchy is important. It is up to you as the adult to establish yourself as the dominant figure in the family and teach your children to establish their positions in the hierarchy above your new pup.

If left alone, your pup may challenge your youngest or smallest child in an effort to place itself higher in the pecking order by barking or nipping at the child. Puppies must therefore be taught not to use their mouths on humans, even if they’re playing. If your pup bites one of your children, teach them to take hold of its muzzle and look into its eyes and say “no” firmly. Puppies must be taught what is acceptable behaviour in your household.

Your new puppy must also be taught to tolerate having their ears, mouth, feet and tail touched and to allow food to be taken from their mouth. This will help ensure that the puppy is able to tolerate any child accidentally pulling too hard on their fur or patting them a little too hard.

Although many dogs will tolerate almost any behaviour from children, they should not be expected to tolerate children who have not been taught the wrongs of hitting, kicking, pinching or tormenting their own puppy.

Puppy pre-schools and obedience classes are ideal for teaching first time dog owners how to get their pup responding to commands. This is also a good way of socialising your puppy and learning the basics in obedience, which you can practice at home with your children.

Other simple rules include making sure your children are seated before picking up your puppy, as a wriggling puppy can be dropped.

A safe area should be created where the puppy can go for rest and ‘time out’. Children should be told not to disturb it there. If a puppy is tired of playing with children and tries to move away from them, don’t let them follow.

Keeping these things in mind should allow your children and new puppy to grow up with each other peacefully and happily.

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Reese tells Ryan: stop the divorce

Reese Witherspoon has decided to give estranged husband Ryan Phillippe one more chance after they reunited over Christmas.

Insiders say the intimate holiday with her ex left Reese thinking she was too hasty in filing for divorce after their October split.

Now she’s asked her lawyers to put divorce proceedings on hold for another six months while she decides whether to make their reunion permanent.

“Reese still loves Ryan, she always will,” says a source. “And she’s really starting to melt toward him, even if she’s putting up a steely front.”

While still hurt by the publicity surrounding his alleged infidelities, Reese agreed to spend time with Ryan over Christmas for the sake of their kids Ava, seven, and Deacon, four. But friends say their reunion reignited deep feelings in the couple instead.

“She’s asking herself a lot of questions now, wondering if she pushed Ryan away,” says a friend. “That’s why she may agree to let him come back.”

For the full story, see this week’s issue of Woman’s Day.

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Ange confesses: I don’t feel for Shiloh

The actress stuns the world with her controversial comments about her biological daughter.

Brad Pitt is devastated by Angelina Jolie’s shock new claims that she hasn’t bonded with their baby daughter Shiloh.

Referring to her only biological child as a “blob”, the actress admits she doesn’t “feel” for Shiloh as much as she does for her adopted children Maddox and Zahara.

“I think I feel so much more for Madd and Zee because they’re survivors, they came through so much. Shiloh seemed so privileged from the moment she was born. I have less inclination to feel for her,” Ange reveals in her explosive new interview with Elle magazine.

“I met my other kids when they were six months, they came with a personality. A newborn really is this … a blob! But now she’s starting to have a personality,” the actress admits.

In the controversial interview, Ange also confesses, “I wasn’t planning on getting pregnant. I’m the one that got knocked up,” and says she has to watch herself for signs of favouritism towards Maddox, five, and Zahara, two, over Shiloh.

For the full story, see this week’s issue of Woman’s Day.

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Hot Gossip — Jan 8-15, 2007

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Brooke gets dangerous

Brooke Satchwell

Brooke Satchwell is facing her fears and loving it. After over a decade in the acting business, the 26-year-old has just come out of a two-year work drought and scored a role in the new series Dangerous on Fox8.

To read the full interview with Brooke, see this week’s issue of Woman’s Day.

Dangerous is your first big role in two years. Were you shocked when you got it?

I actually thought I’d missed out on it. I was seriously looking at all the bills piling up on my floor and playing Tetris with them, moving them from one pile to another. And they weren’t going anywhere which was making me nervous! Then I got the call and they said, “You start tomorrow!” I was so shocked I woke up in the middle of the night, completely disoriented and thought, “I’ve got to do something tomorrow, what is it?” I was thinking and thinking and then I realised I had to work! I was like, “I’ve got a job! Wow, I’ve got a job.”

Do you find being in a relationship with a fellow actor (Matthew Newton) attracts lots of attention?

Inevitably it does always come up in conversation but I expect it. But I’ve started to not cross the line. People think that if you choose not to talk about something then you’re not being honest. But the problem is if you do talk about it then people always draw your own conclusion and it also affects people who haven’t necessarily chosen to be a part of this.

You once said marriage for you and Matthew was “in our future” is that still the case?

Yeah. I mean I have friends who have been together 16 years and have two kids who aren’t married. I’m not a particularly religious person so there’s not the pressure from that end to formalise the relationship. It would be nice to have a really special day to plan though.

What do you do to relax?

I go surfing. I head off to Manly at 6.30 in the morning. I didn’t go for a while because I found it a bit hard adjusting to Sydney beaches. I got a bit spoilt growing up on the Mornington Peninsula and the crowds in Sydney put me off a bit, but now it’s all good. People initially were intimidating but now I’m back on the Mal.

Who do you surf with? Anyone I can find who is awake at 6:30 in the morning. I discovered on Dangerous that a fair amount of people are actually surfers, which I hadn’t known about, so I’m going to be hitting them up; and my high school girlfriend — she and I started surfing together so it’s always good to go surfing with her.

Have you ever had any run-ins?

Yep! Up in Byron Bay one year we were out at Belongil having a surf and these little grommets were out there and they were like, “Hey girlies. Do you know what to do with that thing between your legs?” And I yelled back, “Yeah. Do you know what to do with the thing between yours?” They didn’t like that so they started water-bombing my family, which didn’t go down very well.

Dangerous deals a lot with ram-raiding, which must be pretty foreign to you. Did you draw on anything from your own life?

Well I’ve never been ram raiding, so not from that perspective. I am getting quite partial to the old balaclava. I love it because I can see people but they can’t see me.

How do you feel about your former Neighbours co-star Jesse Spencer’s success in House?

It’s phenomenal. I mean, he’s worked his arse off and it’s so nice to see that it’s paid off. Then there’s Dan MacPherson, who has gone off to do amazing things too. It was great working with him again on Tripping Over. It’s quite funny to see how well we’ve all gone.

Have you ever thought of going overseas?

I used to think I was avoiding it out of fear. But I’m realising more now that’s not the case. The bottom line is that my priorities are different to a lot of other actors. I mean, it was hard enough for me making the move up from Melbourne to Sydney! I really need my family and friends around me as they are a big part of my life and help me deal with the crazy world of acting. Also, really it’s the same thing over there as it is here. Just bigger.

What was it like combining your role on Dangerous with your role as a presenter on Play School?

It was a bit surreal. One minute it’s 3am and I’m knocking over parking meters in Punchbowl and then a few hours later I’m singing ‘Incy Wincy Spider’. There’s no denying Playschool keeps me anchored.

Where would you like to be in 10 years time?

I want to do it all! I mean, I wouldn’t have expected to have been here 10 years ago and while it would be great to have a plan, I really don’t think I can lock myself down to anything. I think this attitude all came from when I was 15 and one week I was mopping floors and the next week I was on Neighbours!

You can read more of this interview in this week’s issue of Woman’s Day — Brooke opens up about coping with unemployment, her marriage plans and why she’d give it all up to become a meteorologist.

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