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Susie Maroney: How I lost 30kg just 4 months after having my baby

By Jenny Brown

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Swimming champ Susie Maroney wins her Olympic-sized battle of the bulge…

Waves of joy wash over Susie Maroney’s face as she tickles her baby daughter Paris and gets a big, gummy giggle in response.

Susie, 34, feels wonderful and looks just as great, having shed 31kg since the birth of her tiny daughter on June 19. After years of heartache, the marathon swimming great has plunged into single motherhood with all the dedication she once devoted to her sport.

Getting fit and strong for Paris was her number one priority, and she did it in just four months.

“It took real willpower, but I had a goal,” smiles Susie, showing off her sleek 56kg shape. “Now I’ve got Paris, I had to get myself in a positive place to look after her properly. If you’re tired, overweight and eating bad food, it’s a lot harder to cope.”

Sunny, determined Susie has been faced with so many heartaches — the tragic death of her twin brother Sean in 2002, the loss of two unborn babies, and her split from banker husband Rob Daniels only weeks before Paris was born.

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Posh Spice consoles Tana Ramsay

The Ramsay and Beckham families have long been friends. Now, according to UK publication The People, Tana Ramsay has turned to Victoria Beckham during the trying times of her husband Gordon Ramsay‘s cheating scandal.

Tana and Gordon’s 12-year marriage has been rocked by accusations that the TV chef had a seven-year affair with Sarah Symonds — author of a self-help book for mistresses.

Posh has experienced similar woes in the past, with David Beckham having been accused of cheating with Rebecca Loos in 2004.

“Tana has always respected the way Victoria handled the Rebecca Loos scandal, holding her head up high and refusing to give up on her marriage,” the source says. “She just never expected to be in the same position.”

It’s said that Posh has offered Tana continuing support: “I’m here for you day or night, whenever you need to talk.”

It’s reported that Tana has taken Posh up on the offer, with lengthy phone conversations between the friends throughout 42-year-old Gordon’s scandal. Aside from being a close friend of Tana’s, says The People‘s source, “when it comes to handling the media storm Victoria is an expert.”

According to The People, Victoria, 34, advised Tana, 33, “to make sure she looks her best when she goes out, let the photographers get their pictures and not look as if she’s running away or trying to hide.”

It seems that the phone lines will be running hot between the friends for a while yet.

“Victoria also understands that no matter how strong and smiley you appear in public, behind closed doors it’s a different matter. You can’t handle humiliation like that without a lot of tears and anger and soul-searching.”

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Kangaroo: The weight-loss meat

**Dear Judy,

I have heard kangaroo is low in fat and good to eat when on a diet. However, I’m worried that if I give it to the family we could all end up with parasites! Is this true?

Thanks,

Erin**

It’s funny that this rumour has become so widespread. The answer is there is no risk to you or your family if you buy kangaroo meat from the butcher or supermarket — just don’t scrape it off the road!

Kangaroo is one of the healthiest and most hygienic meats you can eat. I should rephrase that by saying, like all other meat on sale for human consumption, kangaroo is extremely safe to eat. It is also one of the healthiest and most economical meats to include in your diet.

The reason I initially suggested that kangaroo was healthier than other meats is because there are such stringent health measures enforced by the industry before the meat is approved for resale. Approximately 0.7% of kangaroo is rejected for human consumption use, which is a third less than the amount rejected from domestic animal farming practice.

The other bonus is, kangaroo meat is free of chemicals. When a kangaroo gets sick in its natural environment, it dies. Domestic animals, on the other hand, are treated by the vet using antibiotics, hormones and other medications that can be transferred to our food.

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Tropical paradise

Most Australians will identify with the lasting connections experienced from childhood summer holidays spent lazing at the beach.

There is something so invigorating about the biting tang of salty sea breezes, the sweet and irresistibly cloying scent of coconut oil sizzling on skin, and the earthy grounding notes of moss on rocks, seaweed fermenting on sand and sun-baked driftwood.

Create your personal paradise

1.Estee Lauder Beyond Paradise Eau de Parfum Spray, 50ml, $100, embodies unexpected blooms tropical flowers.

2.Giorgio Armani Acqua di Gio, 50ml, $119, combines jasmine and hyacinth, freesia and sweet pea

3.Escada Moon Sparkle EDT, 30ml, $79, evokes hot summer nights with a magical intensity, be it Fiji, Tahiti, Vanuatu or Hawaii.

4.Sarah Jessica Parker Covet EDT Spray, 50ml, $85, features a cloud of hypnotic flowers, radiant top notes of purple plum, mandarin and coconut water.

5.Lola Lempicka Fleur de Corail, 50ml, $99, has sun-kissed citrus fruit, frangipani and vanilla orchid, amber, musk and driftwood notes.

6.Michael Kors Island EDT Spray, 50ml, $138, is the essence of an island in a bottle with the sparkling wetness of waterfalls, voluptuous ginger lilies and dewy hydroponic honeysuckle and driftwood.

7.Reniu Coconut Body Oil, Tiare Infusion, 355 ml, $29; and Reniu Coconut Sugar Scrub, Pineapple Infusion, 240ml, $28

8.India Hicks Island Living Spider Lily EDT, $79.95; and India Hicks Island Living Casuarina Fragrance Diffuser,$89.95.

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India — Scents of the East

Anyone who has ever visited India will never forget the first breathtaking moment they step out of the airport and into the overwhelming heat and chaos of this country.

Hit by a blanket of humidity and a frenzy of sounds, the scent of the air is indelible. Simmering in the heat are the aromas of spices, a sensual mustiness and pervading hints of sandalwood and musk.

A journey through India is as much an exploration of dizzying fragrances as it is of culture and terrain. My initiation to India in the palace-rich state of Rajasthan awakened my love of colour with its pink city of Jaipur, a labyrinth of bazaars and kaleidoscope of dazzling silk saris.

The scents of the East

1.Estee Lauder Private Collection Amber Ylang Ylang Eau de Parfum, 75ml, $240, is built around amber and ylang ylang with spicy notes of sandalwood and vanilla bean.

2. Calvin Klein Secret Obsession, Eau de Parfum, 50ml, $95, resonates with the smoky sexiness of cashmere woods, burnt amber, vanilla, jasmine and mouthwatering plum.

3. Dior J’Adore L’Absolu Eau de parfum, 75ml, $175, created by Francoise Demachy uses the absolutes of three main flowers — Sambac Jasmine from Kerala, Ylang Ylang and Turkish Rose to create an intensely sweet and sophisticated floral fragrance.

4. Tom Ford White Patchouli Eau De Parfum 50ml, $155, uses white patchouli, bergamot and coriander accents to evoke a mysterious eastern mood.

5. Jo Malone Dark Amber & Ginger Lily Cologne, 100ml, $140, warms the soul with cardamom and ginger and evoke passion with orchid, sandalwood and incense.

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Take a trip to the forgotten corners of France

Ancient Aquitaine harbours the spectacularly beautiful Dordogne and many forgotten corners of south-west France. Take to the road and discover some of the region's hidden treasures.
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France rediscovered

As you journey through south-west France, a landscape of turreted chateaux, arched bridges and rose-tinted roof tiles unfolds among the vineyards. It’s a rural idyll dominated by the past, where Gothic cathedrals rise above sleepy market towns and medieval castles tower over fortified villages. The French call it Aquitaine – land of legends.

Julius Caesar had another name for it – “land of water”, because of its network of meandering rivers, including the Dordogne, today a byword for scenic beauty. While the Roman emperor paid the area an occasional visit, its most famous resident, Richard the Lionheart, son of Eleanor of Aquitaine, called it home. King of England, Richard spent more time in Aquitaine than he did in the country he ruled, dying there, in his mother’s arms, after a siege in 1199.

Visitors often wonder how Aquitaine’s medieval past still stands in such good fettle 700 years later. The French proverb, “An empty purse is the great preserver of history”, gives a clue. As Aquitaine’s capital, Bordeaux, became rich on wine revenue, its rural hinterland languished. And ever since, life on the land has continued at an unhurried pace. Grapevines are pruned and harvested, and hand-grown produce continues to be sold at market.

Pate de foie gras, tiny sweet strawberries, melons, chestnuts and sweet cider can be found. Keep an eye open, too, for white asparagus, pink garlic, goat’s cheese and walnuts. Not to mention the famed Bazas beef, known for its fine grain, tenderness and superb flavour, which the French savour with the inky red wine of Cahors, once popular with the Czars of Russia. And then there is armagnac, cognac’s southern cousin, considered one of the world’s finest spirits.

Aquitaine stretches from the great Atlantic port of Bordeaux in the west to the sunny city of Toulouse in the south-east. Its northern borders flank the oak forests and limestone gorges of Perigord. Between lies the Dordogne, and the medieval city of Sarlat-la-Canéda, once described by the American author Henry Miller as “the closest thing to heaven on earth”. Further south is the Gers region, with its Gallo-Roman town of Condom and many fortified hamlets, known as bastides.

If the Dordogne is known for its perched castles and chateaux, many of which cling to precipitous limestone cliffs, Lot-et-Garonne is renowned for its perched villages. A gentler, more fascinating part of France you’ll be hard-pressed to find.

Bordeaux

Located on the estuary of the Garonne River, a short drive from the sweeping beaches of the Atlantic, Bordeaux is one of Europe’s new weekend destinations. A two-year facelift has removed the grime, revealing magnificent 18th-century facades. A futuristic tramway now snakes around the city, and the quaysides offer impressive waterfront views. At night, its pale golden buildings and cobbled streets are skillfully floodlit.

Stay: La Maison Bordeaux boutique hotel, tucked in a courtyard (113 Rue Albert Barraud; www.lamaisonbordeaux.com). Rooms from $220.

Visit: In the heart of the city, Quartier St Pierre has many cafes and clubs. Stand on the Pont de Pierre for a panoramic view of Bordeaux’s splendid waterfront. Visit the Sunday seafood market at the Quai des Chartrons.

Be seen: Dame de Shanghai restaurant/bar on the Quai Armand Lanlande is a converted wooden boat lit with red lanterns (www.damedeshanghai.com).

Eat: L’Estaquade, a wood and glass cabin perched on stilts in the Quartier Bastide on the other side of the Garonne, offers views of the city across the river. A three-course lunch costs from $30 (www.lestacade.com). Musée d’Art Contemporain, an old converted spice house on Rue Ferrere and the perfect place for a Sunday brunch (from $25) in the rooftop Café du Musee (www.bordeaux.fr).

Shop: The Alleés de Tourney (known as Bordeaux’s golden triangle) houses flashy boutiques, funky jewellery and antique shops, chocolatiers and L’Intendant, a stylish wine store housed in a cylindrical tower of ancient stone and modern metal, where women in Chanel suits serve you.

Condom

Known as the “little capital” of Armagnac, Condom has been the butt of many English jokes. However, in French the word has no connection with contraception. It sits on the Baise River and the town’s sandstone quays once witnessed millions of barrels of armagnac being loaded onto barges for the journey to Bordeaux. These days, boats take tourists on lazy half-day trips along the river.

Stay: Hotel des Trois Lys overlooks a courtyard (Rue Gambetta; visit: www.lestroislys.com; phone: 05 62 28 33 33). Rooms from $150.

Eat: Aux Delices du Roy (Rue du Chateau; phone 05 53 65 81 12), a seafood restaurant, in the nearby Nerac, which also serves regional specialities.

Visit: The Gothic cathedral and cloisters, the Armagnac Museum and the Wednesday market.

Places to visit around Condom

Larressingle

Five kilometres west of Condom, this bastide is one of the best preserved in France. Once a shelter for pilgrims on their way to Santiago de Compostela in north-west Spain, it’s surrounded by its original walls, has a church, a keep (castle fortifications) and a small crêperie.

Moncrabeau

Perched on the top of a hill, this village is a must for all politicians. On the first Sunday of August, it holds the Fête des Menteurs (“Fête of Fibbers”). The contestant who tells the tallest story is pronounced “Roi des Menteurs” (“King of the Liars”) and earns the right to be economical with the truth, any time, any place.

Chateau de Cassagne

Twenty minutes south-west, this 13th-century chateau is in the heart of Armagnac. Here, you can visit the cellars, sample and buy armagnac, or take a walk around the grounds and into the village. Do try the exquisite raspberry liqueur armamboise.

Vianne

This glorious bastide, with its tower gates and sturdy walls, is an hour north, via Nerac. On the Baise River, it is the perfect place to have lunch, before visiting the great castle of Barbaste nearby.

The road to Toulouse

A scenic route from Condom to Toulouse is on the D roads via Lectoure, Fleurance, Mauvezin and L’Isle Jourdain. It’s a round-about way that allows you to visit the unspoilt villages of La Romieu, St Clar, Marsolan and Castera Lectourois. Stop for lunch at the Gallo-Roman city of Lectoure, that’s perched on a ridge overlooking the Gers River. If you smell a tang in the air, it’s because a third of France’s garlic is grown in this region. If you’re passing by on a Tuesday, stop off at Fleurance for its famous market.

Toulouse

Known as the “pink city” because of its red-brick buildings that change from pale rose in the morning to deep purple at dusk, Toulouse has an exotic Mediterranean feel, thanks to its sunny climes, southern charm and proximity to Spain. As in Bordeaux, the Garonne runs through the centre, where stone bridges arch gracefully over the river. Around the Place du Capitole, you’ll find cobbled streets and the city’s historic heart.

Stay: The Wilson Square Hotel is on a little park close to the centre (Place Wilson, Rue d’Austerlitz; www.hotel-wilson.com). Rooms from $100. Visit: Cité de L’Espace, the Space Park museum (Avenue Jean Gonord on the eastern outskirts) with its life-size model of the Mir space station. Be seen: Exploring the cafe-filled squares of the old quarter around Place Saint Pierre.

Eat: Lunch upstairs in one of the many restaurants in the covered market at Place Victor Hugo. Dinner at the riverside Brasserie Flo (1 Quai de la Daurade; phone 05 61 21 12 12), opposite Pont-Neuf, where you can enjoy a three-course dinner, from $55, in the splendour of Belle Epoque decor.

Shop: Rue de Rome with its trendy fashion shops and designer boutiques, second-hand jewellery and kitsch speciality shops. Look out for clothes and accessories in blue/indigo, created from woad, a local dye. Also, the covered market at Place Victor Hugo (open every morning except Mondays) with its mouth-watering produce.

Sarlat-la-caneda

Sarlat is the best place to stay and explore the pretty villages of the southern Dordogne and western Lot. It has a fascinating labyrinth of cobbled streets, steps, squares, arcades and beautifully preserved medieval buildings. On the way north from Toulouse, stop off for lunch at Cahors, famous for its old quarter and spectacular medieval bridge, Pont Valentré, with its three towers and six Gothic arches. The city’s inky red wines – the darkest in France – were once popular with the Czars of Russia. Cahors also has a great fresh produce market each Sunday.

Stay: The historic two-star La Couleuvrine on the main square at 1 Place de la Bouquerie (www.logis-de-france.fr; phone 05 53 59 27 80). Rooms from $75.

Eat: Restaurant Rossingnol on 15 Rue Fenelon (phone 05 53 31 02 30) for lunch at $35 a head.

Places to visit around Sarlat

Lascaux Caves

At the village of Montignac, you’ll find the “Sistene Chapel of Prehistoric Art”, where there are 17,000-year-old Cro-Magnon rock paintings of mammoths, horses and bison.

Domme

Like so many other little towns on the Dordogne River, it clings to cliffs on top of a gorge overlooking the valley. Larger than most, it has beautiful buildings and views

that attract tourists in their thousands, so get there early.

Rocamadour

Perched on the edge of a gorge 500 metres above the river, this village looks like a classic fairytale castle. Back in the Middle Ages, Rocamadour’s holy relic, the corpse of St Amadour, could pull a crowd of 30,000, until the Protestants sacked the place and chopped it into bits. Pretty to look at, sadly, this village has lost its soul. Full of souvenir shops, it’s best to visit early in the morning before they open and the tourists arrive.

La Roque Gageac & Beynac

Both five minutes from Domme, La Roque and its neo-Gothic Chateau de la Malatrie sit next to the limpid Dordogne with market garden cottages rambling up the steep hill, while the fortress of Beynac is perched like an eagle on a cliff top.

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Get moving

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According to a study in the Archives of Internal Medicine (168:154-158), a sedentary lifestyle won’t just trigger weight gain and predispose you to diseases like type 2 diabetes — it can actually make you age faster.

The study, of over 2,000 twins, found that those who exercised for at least 199 minutes per week were biologically younger than their less active siblings.

Analysing DNA samples from the volunteers, researchers discovered that those who were physically active had telomeres (the DNA sequences that protect chromosomes from damage) that were about the same length as inactive people up to 10 years younger. The researchers concluded that sedentary people are more prone to oxidative stress and inflammation, which both accelerate the ageing process.

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Good-for-you barbeques

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The weather is warming up, which means it’s time to fire up the barbie.

However, cooking meat — beef, pork, chicken or even fish — at too-high heats can trigger the formation of dangerous chemicals. The smoke created by fat falling onto coals can contain carcinogenic compounds called polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons (PAHs) which settle back onto your food. Char-grilling meat can also create heterocyclic amines (HCAs), substances that are linked to cancer risk. Plus, the USA’s National Toxicology Program has recently added MelQ and MelQx — two other compounds made when meat is grilled at high temperatures – to its list of carcinogens. So, before you get grilling, follow these hot tips to reduce these risks and enjoy a safer barbeque.

  • Choose lean cuts and trim off fat or skin. Using smaller pieces of meat, such as kebabs, lessens cooking time and minimises smoke exposure.

  • Marinate your meat in vinegar- or lemon-based sauces before barbequing it. According to a study in Food Chemistry Toxicology, a marinade of olive oil, vinegar, garlic, mustard, lemon juice and salt cut the formation of HCAs by 90 per cent.

  • Position your meat at least 15 centimetres from the heat source and turn once a minute to prevent burning. To minimise PAH and HCA formation, place a pan under the grill rack to catch dripping fat.

  • PAHs and HCAs form on meat due to a reaction between the meat’s protein and creatine, an amino acid found in muscle tissue; so, vegetables and vegetable-derived foods like tofu or tempeh are safer fare.

  • When making patties or burgers for a barbeque, be lavish with minced garlic, oregano and rosemary. Apart from adding flavour, they are all rich in antioxidants which help counter carcinogen formation. Even better, use a 50:50 mixture of minced meat and textured vegetable protein (TVP). TVP’s texture is indistinguishable from meat, and it has been shown to slash HCA levels when used in this way.

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Nothing like a Dame

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Dame Helen Mirren rarely divulges much about her personal life, but here she talks candidly to Suellen Dainty about her grand passion, why she’s terrified all the time and never needs to diet, and reveals the truth behind that red bikini.

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Dame Helen Mirren is hungry. She’s not just a tiny bit peckish. She is starving. “I’m absolutely ravenous,” she says in that famous regal voice. “I have to eat something.”

She missed lunch and it’s now late afternoon, but one advantage of portraying so many commanding monarchs throughout her career is that room service arrives immediately. In minutes, an omelette appears. Seconds later, she is tearing into it.

“It’s so good,” she says between mouthfuls. “Cheese and mushrooms, too…fantastic.” The plate is soon clean and she apologises for the interruption. “Now, where are we?”

We are in a private room of a London hotel and Helen Mirren is leaning back on an oversized sofa talking about her latest project, her autobiography, In the Frame. It’s a candid and self-deprecating story of her family told as much through pictures as words. “I’m not really that much of a writer. So when I decided to do the book, I wanted to include as many photographs as possible. I like photographs, don’t you?”

In real life, Helen Mirren, 63, is smaller, younger looking and finer boned than her screen persona, where her life has been a succession of queens, regal consorts, or in the case of TV, the feisty police commander Jane Tennison in the Prime Suspect series.

She is prettier, too, with her fine silver hair chopped into a modern bob and that wonderfully mobile face creasing into a wide smile. The smile is a surprise, but then her roles don’t often call for a grin. She is friendly — also a surprise — and down to earth. In London, she always hops on a bus. “No one recognises me and it’s much faster than a taxi.”

She looks svelte in a black cardigan edged with beads, black jeans and brown suede high heels, which brings us to the subject of that photograph in a red bikini and the subsequent headlines. Six months later, she still finds the furore ridiculous.

“It was completely mad what happened. I certainly don’t look like that,” she says. “I was lucky. It was a very flattering angle.”

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Cause cèlebré

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It take many qualities to become a great actor. Talent. Star power. Dedication. Although immense courage in the face of a life-threatening illness is not usually considered a criterion for stardom, more’s the pity. If it were, the Academy could start polishing a Best Actress Oscar now and inscribing upon it the name Feride Nakhle.

“All her life, she has dreamed of being an actress,” says 11-year-old Feride’s mum, Berna. Yet when she was diagnosed with a rare form of bone cancer after a lump was found on her jaw in August 2007, that dream was put on hold. “Now, thanks to the Starlight Children’s Foundation and Catriona Rowntree, her dream is within her grasp.”

When Starlight, which brightens the lives of children and young people living with serious and chronic illness through a variety of programs, learned that Feride, from Guildford in Sydney, was undergoing chemotherapy, radiotherapy and surgery to remove part of her jaw and replace it with bone from her hip, the charity arranged for her to have acting lessons.

In class, despite often feeling weak and nauseous after chemotherapy, Feride, who is determined to win an audition for Neighbours, has proved herself a trouper with talent. “At first, she was shy,” says Berna, 38. “She was the youngest there. But everyone accepted her and now she just gets in there and acts. She’s a natural. She told me, ‘Mum, when I’m in front of a camera, I don’t feel tired anymore.’ “

Enter Catriona Rowntree. The Getaway host, who has long pitched in for the Starlight Children’s Foundation, invited Feride to a Getaway shoot at Sydney’s World Wildlife Park.

“Even though she’d just been having chemo that morning, she struck me as an amazing child with star quality, beautiful manners and compassion,” says Catriona, who nicknamed Ferides “Fairy”. “I said, ‘Fairy, can you help me present this story?’ Could she! She threw herself into the filming like an old hand. She patted a koala, fed the birds and released butterflies.

After being with her, my heart soared and I thought, ‘I’ll never complain about another thing as long as I live’. I know she’ll be my friend for life. Why do these terrible things happen to the most beautiful people?”

Yet, although Feride is smiling again, her battle is far from over. “There’ll be seven days of chemotherapy spread over the next six weeks. After that, we hope, remission,” says Berna. “Through it all, by helping Feride to act and introducing her to Catriona, Starlight has given her and us a light at the end of the tunnel.”

Feride is one of more than 200,000 Australian children aged four to 18 who, with their families, benefit each year from Starlight programs. As well as granting the fondest-held wishes of seriously ill children (around 450 a year), Starlight offers hospital programs designed to strengthen the spirit through laughter.

These include Starlight Fun Centres, mobile entertainment units that visit the patient’s bedside, Starlight Express Rooms, where Captain Starlight, a superhero from Planet Starlight, entertains the children, and rocket-shaped Starlight Express vans that zoom Captain Starlight to hospitals in metropolitan, regional and remote areas of Australia.

Out of hospital, Starlight Escapes provide children and their families with a much-needed break from the stress of a child’s illness, perhaps a night at the movies or a weekend away, supporting them and connecting them with others.

This year, Starlight — which relies on donations from the public and business, volunteers and celebrities including Catriona, Lleyton Hewitt, Delta Goodrem, The Veronicas, Kate Ritchie, Kieren Perkins and other sporting stars — celebrates its 20th year. It marked the occasion by granting a record 152 wishes last Christmas.

Like the Nakhles, the Brown family of Melbourne don’t look like heroes, just a knockabout bunch who work hard, love their sport and one another, but they are heroes.

Murray, 15, suffers from cystic fibrosis (CF), a crippling disease of the lungs and digestive system. His brother Geoff, 24, also has CF. Mum Sue is stricken with multiple sclerosis and dad Neil has motor neurone disease. Sue and Neil lost a son, Scott, aged three months, to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Too much, you’d think, for any family to bear. “What else can we do but battle on?” says Murray, who has been hospitalised 14 times in the past five years. “We deal with it. We’ll get by. We’re a loving family. We’re each other’s heroes.”

Lleyton Hewitt’s, too. When Starlight told Lleyton that Murray’s dream was to meet him, the champion dropped everything to hang out with the tennis-mad youngster and even played Top Spin virtual tennis on Xbox — won by Murray! “Lleyton,” says Murray, “has given me a reason to stay alive.” The tennis champ returns serve. “Murray’s a tough, brave kid,” he says. “Never have I seen him show pain or complain. He says I inspire him, fighting back from two sets to love down, but that’s only a tennis match and nothing compares to what he’s up against. If being his mate makes him feel good, to me, that’s better than winning Wimbledon. I inspire him? He inspires me.”

“Getting to know Lleyton is the highlight of Murray’s life,” says Neil, 50. Sue, also 50, agrees. “When Murray is going through one of his rough periods, he remembers that he’s Lleyton’s friend and he can still smile,” she says. “Whatever the future holds, his life has been better because his wish was granted. Seeing him fight has inspired the rest of us not to give in to our illnesses. We’re fighters. There’s no time for tears.”

Recovered cancer sufferer and devoted Starlight wish-granter Delta Goodrem knows this better than most. When Delta was being treated for Hodgkin’s disease, she continued to grant the wishes of unwell youngsters. She says their “courage, determination to get better and ability to be happy no matter what”, made her want to try even harder to recover.

Other very sick kids have been given the chance to go horse-riding in the Snowy Mountains, sit in the cockpit of an RAAF jet, drive go-karts, swim with dolphins, visit theme parks, soar in hot-air balloons and attend the ballet. Some have even woken up to find a rocketship cubby in their backyard.

“A Starlight wish gives a child and their family something to look forward to each day, from the excitement of deciding what to wish for, to planning the wish and then having the wish come to fruition,” says Starlight chief executive officer Jill Weekes. “Then there are the lifelong memories for the child and the whole family. “Although Starlight programs reach many children throughout Australia, there are more than 600,000 admissions to hospitals each year, so today, we are only able to reach one in three — our aim is to enable every family access to these innovative programs for the duration of the child’s illness.”

Serious illness spares no family member and diagnosis is only the beginning of the journey endured by the families of sick children: months, sometimes years of watching a loved one undergo painful and invasive treatment, the grinding worry, the crippling cost, the unavoidable neglect of other family members, the dislocation due to long periods in hospital.

“Captain Starlight keeps Murray’s spirits up,” says Sue, “Starlight gives us the moral support and respite to keep going.”

Madison Marsh, 15, of western Sydney, has cerebral palsy-spastic quadriplegia, a brain condition that causes uncontrolled muscle spasms in the arms and legs. Yet while Madison relies on a wheelchair and a walking frame, her illness cannot hamper her love of life, wildlife and the music of her idol, Delta Goodrem. When Starlight learned of Madison’s dream, they told Delta and, last Christmas, she met Madison. Now, Madison and her family are enjoying a longed-for adventure holiday at Port Douglas in Far North Queensland, provided by the Starlight Children’s Foundation.

“We’ve just had a swim and breakfast among the tropical birds,” says Madison’s dad, Phil, 52. “We’re off to a rainforest this afternoon. Madison has been to a crocodile farm and, yesterday, we all went out to the Barrier Reef. It’s everything Madison dreamed. She can’t take the grin off her face — and nor can the rest of us.”

To volunteer or donate to the Starlight Children’s Foundation, visit www.starlight.org.au or phone 1300 727 827.

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