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Are our mums safe in Australian hospitals?

By Glen Williams

Pictures: Andrew Jacob

**A number of recent tragedies have highlighted the controversial debate about how safe pregnant women are in our hospitals. In the past few weeks three women have reported suffering the pain and trauma of losing a baby in hospital bathrooms.

Here one woman tells Woman’s Day of her horrifying ordeal and how she survived it.**

The moment is melt-your-heart tender. Doting new parents Jana Horska and Mark Dreyer can’t stop looking at their 15-week-old baby, Sarah Louise.

This cute little bundle knows she is adored. She stares back, wide-eyed, happy to coo at Mum and Dad. It’s a special moment, but one tinged with raw and angry memories.

Just 16 months ago, Jana, then 14 weeks pregnant, lay alone, doubled over in agony in a toilet in the emergency department at Sydney’s Royal North Shore Hospital.

Jana was no stranger to miscarriage — she’d lost their first baby in April 2007 — so when she started cramping she took no chances. She phoned her trusted family doctor, who advised her to go to her local hospital, where he said she’d be most likely put on a drip and given bed rest.

The couple went to Royal North Shore, not knowing they’d chosen that hospital on a night when staff were overworked and beds scarce.

“You go to a hospital expecting basic care, at least compassion,” says Mark. “When we arrived at RNS, we explained Jana had the same symptoms as her first miscarriage and we wanted to have her checked out. The response was, ‘Oh, well, if you’re going to miscarry, you’re going to miscarry’…”

For the full story, see this week’s Woman’s Day (on sale January 26).

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War of the Hollywood mums: Kate slams Ange

Angelina Jolie is reeling after a series of attacks by her new rival Kate Winslet…

Kate Winslet has launched a war of words against fellow actress Angelina Jolie, dismissing her life as a “soap opera” and appearing to criticise her parenting techniques.

Just days after she failed to acknowledge Ange among her fellow nominees in her Golden Globe acceptance speech, Kate slammed the star’s high-profile personal life.

In an interview with Britain’s Daily Mail newspaper, Kate, 33, took more than a few swipes at the Jolie-Pitts and the fishbowl they live in.

“They’re like a walking soap opera,” said Kate.

The English actress, who won the Golden Globe Award for Best Actress in a Film Drama for her role in Revolutionary Road, then appeared to declare herself a more credible actor than her award rival.

“I didn’t choose this profession because I wanted to be famous,” she said when asked about Ange. “I come from a family of actors, who have often struggled, so I always thought I’d be lucky if I even got a job.”

“To me, parenting is about consistency, among other things, and routine,” says Kate, mum to Mia, 8, and Joe, 5. “Children love routine…”

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Lisa Marie Presley: Meet my gorgeous twins

The proud mum shows off her daughters Finley and Harper for the first time.

Lisa Marie Presley beams as she nurses her double bundle of joy. With a baby in each arm and husband Michael Lockwood by her side, Lisa Marie, 41 next week, is a picture of bliss.

The twins — who have unusual names for girls — will share their LA home with big sister Riley, 19, brother Benjamin, 16, three dogs and three cats in one big, happy “chaotic” family. And it’s fair to say Lisa Marie is gushing as she introduces Elvis’s grand-daughters to the world.

How are you coping with having twins?

I’ve never been happier. Michael and I just spend our days staring at them in amazement, absorbing anything and everything they do. We giggle all the time when he reminds me that I am a mother of four. I can’t believe it.

Are you handling it better at 40 than you would have at 20?

Being older now, I am not pulled anywhere. I don’t feel I have to do many other things because I have done a lot in my life so I can completely submerge myself into being a mother and enjoy every second of it.

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In the mag – February 2, 2009

Issue on sale Monday January 26, 2009

Lisa Marie: Meet my gorgeous twins

The proud mum shows off her daughters Finley and Harper for the first time.

Stars tell: Our magical Australia Day

Aussie icon Margaret Fulton and TV presenter Catriona Rowntree tell why Australia Day is so special to them…

War of the Hollywood mums: Kate slams Ange

Angelina Jolie is reeling after a series of attacks by her new rival Kate Winslet…

Princess Mary’s rugged-up royal kids

Icy temperatures don’t stop the little royals having fun…

Sasha and Malia Obama: ‘First Daughters’

Life for the new President’s young daughters, Sasha and Malia, is about to be transformed in more ways than they can imagine. Woman’s Day takes a look at what life in the White House holds for them…

and Vegie muffins

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Princess Mary’s rugged-up royal kids

Icy temperatures don’t stop the little royals having fun…

Princess Mary’s little ones, Prince Christian, 3, and Princess Isabella, 21 months, were like any other Danish children when they took time out with their favourite uncle to muck around at the local playground.

Dressed in plenty of layers, the young royals were all smiles as they braved the winter temperatures on the trip with Prince Joachim and their nannies to a public park near Marselisborg Palace.

Isabella suffered a brief mishap when she took a tumble, but quickly cheered up after a turn on the swing.

Mary has always hoped to give her children a normal upbringing, although she admits the pressure of royal duties changed her initial decision to raise them without nannies.

“The routines are important to us. It gives us a good feeling that the children follow their routines regardless of whether we are with them or if they are taken care of by the nanny,” explains Mary, 36.

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Sasha and Malia Obama: ‘First Daughters’

**By Jo Knowsley

Life for the new President’s young daughters, Sasha and Malia, is about to be transformed in more ways than they can imagine. Woman’s Day takes a look at what life in the White House holds for them.**

As the armoured car carrying Barack Obama sweeps up the long drive towards the Oval Office, the new US President and his beautiful wife Michelle could be forgiven for reflecting on just how much their lives are about to change.

But the little girls huddled together excitedly in the back of “Cadillac One” can have no realisation of what lies ahead. Malia, 10, and Sasha, 7, are now the First Daughters of America, and the youngest inhabitants of the White House since Amy Carter, who was nine when she moved in after her father Jimmy became president in 1977. And, like all children who grow up in the White House, their lives are set to be an extraordinary mixture of harsh restrictions and amazing opportunities.

“The long road to the White House brought us closer together as a family,” President Obama has said, adding that “the most fun I can have is just sitting there watching my girls play or talking to them about their worries.”

But how do two little girls who grew up in Chicago go from being fairly normal children with $1-a-week pocket money to becoming the most famous “tweens” in America, living at the world’s most famous address?

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Stars tell: Our magical Australia Day

**By Glen Williams

Aussie icon Margaret Fulton and TV presenter Catriona Rowntree tell why Australia Day is so special to them.**

They may be generations apart, but Margaret Fulton and Catriona Rowntree share a mutual love for the country they call home. Meeting for the first time, the two women discovered they have a lot more in common than just their patriotism.

**Do you have a favourite period in Australia?

Margaret** My favourite time is now, I’m having it now. I used to think it was funny when I’d hear people like my father in their eighties say, ‘I want to live until I’m a hundred’. Now I understand. I may get things going wrong physically, these days, but I wouldn’t change a day of my life. I want to say Happy Australia Day to all Woman’s Day readers. And I hope you’re as happy about being Australian as I am. I’ll be 85 in October. Where else in the world could you be 85 and they still want to hear from you and write cook books for them?

**What’s your ideal Aussie meal?

Margaret** My daughter cooked a meal the other night. It was lovely grass-fed beef. I know that anywhere in the world, people would love it. I don’t eat a lot of beef but this was delicious. It makes a difference eating meat that hasn’t been grain fed or grazed in paddocks where pesticides and other poisons have been sprayed. For Australia Day, I would make a seafood salad because I live near the Sydney Fish Markets.

**Catriona, what was it like meeting an Australian living treasure?

Catriona** Surreal in that I feel I’ve grown up with Margaret. The moment I heard I was meeting her, I grabbed her cook book, which a dear friend gave me on my engagement, and then I quickly dropped home to grab my photo album and Mum and my Grandma were saying, ‘We’ve got all her books in the kitchen’. Mum said when she got married, she was given all the Margaret Fulton Cook Books. It’s such a pleasure to see she’s as generous and warm as the famous woman I’ve grown up with.

**Catriona, since you’ve married and moved to the country, you’ve actually been cooking for your shearers. It doesn’t get more Aussie than that.

Catriona** We treasure our shearers. A big reason why they come to our property is that the food is so good and we adore them. My mother-in-law is a gifted cook, but the last time the shearers came, her kitchen was being renovated, so the task fell to me. I flipped out, then I called on other talented country cooks and they guided me and it was a success. I chose one of the roasts from Margaret’s books and they gave me a 9½out of 10.

**What is your favourite Aussie expression?

Catriona** Fair Dinkum. I also say crikey a lot. I’m not stealing it from Steve Irwin — I genuinely say it. My country-boy husband, James, also constantly says it. And it’s genuine.

**Do you have a favourite Aussie song?

Catriona** I was on a tall ship on Sydney Harbour on the eve of 2000 and they had the most amazing mix of Ivor Davies’ Great Southern Land. Later on I met him at the Opera House. The entire Harbour was silent as that song permeated the air.

**What are your hopes for Australia?

Catriona** To try in every way to be non-judgemental of other people and other cultures. Travelling has taught me that. As our nation expands with other cultures we have to remind ourselves we are a young nation that’s building and we need to be respectful of others.

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I’m in love with my high school principal

As a 30-something single lady who found the thought of going clubbing to meet a male nauseating, I had to consider a more modern way of meeting a life partner.

I tried speed dating and internet dating but only met weirdo after weirdo. I wouldn’t say I was one of these fussy woman who wanted the perfect man — just someone who was funny, smart and kind of normal!

Just when it seemed hopeless and that I would die alone and get eaten up by my cats, I joined Facebook to re-connect with my old high school chums — and hopefully find a few desperate and dateless ones like me to boost the old ego.

I soon found myself with 236 friends and a page that was the envy of many — OK, so I may have been a little bit obsessed with this new phenomenon!

Soon I received a funny friend suggestion — my high school principal, Mr Freeman. I remembered him as a young, embittered gentleman who never cracked a smile. Nevertheless, I requested his friendship as a joke, which I knew would get a laugh from my online buddies.

The very next time I logged on, there it was — he had added me. I could hardly contain my laughter and I clicked on his page to see his profile and photos. I wasn’t surprised at all to see him single and still looking like he had never had a day of fun in his life. Now in his 50s, he was still quite an intimidating chap.

My online friends had a field day sending me messages poking fun at my new friend. I stayed up almost to 2am one time replying to them all, when I noticed a message from Mr Freeman.

He thanked me for adding him and told me he thought I was a kind and beautiful person inside and out. Being awake in the wee hours of the morning and feeling sleep deprived, I replied with similar praise. Mr Freeman, or John as I had been asked to call him, wrote to me often and we chatted about everything from music to sports to poetry. I began to see him in a new light, which scared me to death. I was beginning to have feelings I could not explain nor wish away.

John wanted to meet up for dinner and, as much as I tried to resist, his pull was too much. I met up with him, only to find that the silver hair, wrinkles and sourness disappeared into a sweet, caring and smiling man who was normal and nice.

The conversation just flowed and my cheeks began to ache from smiling. I was falling and I felt helpless. At the end of the date we kissed — it felt so right that I invited him in and he stayed with me all night.

I soon fell madly in love with John and we moved to the country because I said I liked the space and fresh air. But it was more because I wanted to be away from prying eyes and judgemental people.

I removed myself from Facebook and disappeared to be with my man. I know it is gutless but I can’t give him up and am not ready to show the world who I really am.

Names in this story have been changed.

Your say: Would you date your high school principal? Have your say about this true confession below…

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Get real: 10 weight-loss goals made achievable

What’s the point in setting yourself such a challenge that you won’t want to stick to it?The Food Coach Judy Davie takes a look at some common — and commonly broken — weight-loss resolutions and suggests how you can make them more achievable.

  • Have at least three alcohol-free nights during the week.

  • Instead of beer, switch to a refreshing white wine mixed with soda, or a champagne.

  • Instead of pre-mixed spirit based drinks, drink vodka with fresh lime juice and soda.

  • Take the stairs instead of the lift.

  • Throw yourself into vigorous housework.

  • Find an exercise you enjoy and do it with a friend for support.

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*The Hunter’s Wife*

The Hunter’s Wife by Katherine Scholes

Exclusive extract from The Hunter’s Wife by Katherine Scholes, the Great Read in the February issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Mara peered intently ahead as she steered the Old Land Rover over the trackless terrain, avoiding the honey-badger holes and termite hills. The two Manyala Land Rovers had set off a little earlier and were now out of sight in the next valley; but there were small clues to the route they had taken: the occasional crushed brush or flattened pile of dung.

Her only passenger was Peter. He’d lingered by the lake taking photographs and, since the others were keen to get back and tackle the equipment maintenance and paperwork that followed each day’s shooting, she’d offered to wait for him. Now he was leaning out through the passenger-side window, assessing the way ahead, lifting one hand, at intervals, and simply saying, ‘This way,’ or ‘That way.’ He seemed to understand instinctively that driving cross-country like this was an activity that involved everyone on board. Mara guessed that if the conditions had been more demanding, he’d have been quite happy to sit on the spare tyre on the bonnet, or even stand on the front bumper bar to asses the ground ahead.

The late-afternoon light brewed strong colours in the land – he sky was purple, the earth a deep red, overlaid with a thin covering of spun gold grass. Trees and bushes were beginning to flatten into silhouettes. The birds resting in their branches were splashes of white that blazed as though lit from within. Mara glanced at Peter. She could see he was struck by the beauty of the landscape as well, and she felt a burst of pride as if she were somehow responsible for it all.

‘This reminds me of home,’ Peter commented. ‘Australia, I mean…’

Mara nodded, feeling a wave of longing at his words. The landscapes of Tanzania often evoked her memories of Tasmania – especially the area around Coal River. Even the names of the two were linked. Tanzania and Tasmania sounded so similar, many people in the world thought they were the same place. In her early days in Africa, Mara had savoured this connection; it had helped her feel a sense of belonging. But now she found it increasingly painful to think about her old home – how she’d left there with such high hopes for her future. Her letters to her mother were becoming shorter and less frequent. The truth about her life here was no longer something she wanted to share.

‘How long have you ever been here?’ Peter asked her.

‘A bit over three years now.’

‘Have you been back for a visit?’

Mara shook her head.

‘You must miss seeing your family. Do you have brother and sisters?’

‘Just brothers,’ Mara said. ‘But lots of them!’

She paused, an aching lump in her throat. She wanted to tell Peter that sometimes the way he did things – his little mannerisms – reminded her of them so keenly it took her breath away.

‘I was an only child,’ Peter said. That’s why I always wanted to have a big family of my own. But I had a happy childhood. We had a house right on the beach at Bondi. I lived in the surf – before school, after school, during school. That’s why I had become an actor. I couldn’t get a real job.’ He smiled, but then grew serious. ‘I’d love to move back to Australia, actually. I’d prefer to bring the kids up there. But Paula doesn’t want to leave America and I guess it’s more important for her to be where she wants to be. I’m away now and then, after all.’

Mara was unsure how to reply – the conversation seemed to have grown suddenly personal. Being alone together in the Land Rover, after the day’s filming, had made them seem like old friends. But they weren’t, Mara reminded herself. He was Peter Heath and she was jus the safari hostess, driving him home from location.

She slowed and swerved to avoid a dried-out riverbed. A narrow ribbon of dark earth was the only clue to its presence, but she knew that beneath the dry surface of the ground that bordered it, was a layer of deep wet mud. The Land Rover would break through the firm crust, and sink to its axles. She hauled at the steering wheel, aiming towards higher ground.

‘Wait! Stop!’ Peter called.

Responding to the urgency in his voice, Mara slammed on the brakes.

‘What’s that over there?’ Peter pointed along the riverbed to the place where it opened onto a wide pan of dark mud – all that remained of a rainy-season lake – and raised a pair of binoculars to his eyes. ‘It’s an animal – stuck in the mud. It looks like a young buffalo.’ There was a brief silence as Peter leaned further out of the window, still peering through the binoculars. ‘It moved its head!’ he called back into the cab. ‘It’s alive! We have to do something.’

He swung one arm in an arc. ‘If you drive round that way we can get right up to it, The ground looks fine.’ Mara kept the engine idling. She knew the rile: in a situation like this, a wild animal should be left to its own fate.

Peter lowered the glasses, turning to Mara. ‘There must be a way to get out of there.’

Mara’s hand hovered over the gear stick as she scanned the open grassland. The only animals in sight were a few Thomson’s gazelles, grazing in a relaxed manner, tails flicking constantly from side to side. There was no sign of buffalo. She felt a wave of relief. Buffalo were some of the most dangerous animals in the bush. A herd could materalise soundlessly, encircling a hunting party or group of sightseers. Usually they just stood in a menacing stillness, but if stirred to anger for some reason, they became murderous – and the hard shell of a Land Rover offered only temporary protection from their attack.

‘The herd has gone,’ Peter said, as if reading her thoughts.

‘They’ve left it behind,’ Mara nodded.

‘There wouldn’t have been much they could do by staying. They haven’t got trunks, like elephants, to try to pull it out.’

‘Come on, then,’ Peter said impatiently. ‘Let’s go.’

Mara looked away. Inside her head, she could hear John’s voice – calm and sure and reasonable. Leave it alone. The herd is gone. It’ll die anyway. Glancing sideways, she saw Peter guessing the meaning of her hesitation. Shock and outrage gathered in his eyes. Again, Mara knew exactly what John would have said. You have to be able to make the tough decisions. Africa is not for the faint-hearted.

Mara looked at Peter’s face. His eyes were screwed up at the corners like someone wincing in pain. She knew just how it felt, to look like that – the way each muscle tightened, pulling the skin into lines. It was so familiar to her that she might have been watching her own reflection.

Suddenly, she made her decision. Without saying anything, she reached down to select low ratio and then let out the clutch. The vehicle lurched off slowly in the direction of the dried-up lake.

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