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Nikki Webster: I was fat, broke and depressed

The darling of the Sydney Olympics tells Lucy Chesterton how being ripped off by a trusted advisor left her fighting to regain her career and self-esteem.

Looking at Nikki Webster posing confidently for the camera, it’s difficult to believe her practised showgirl smile hides years of personal betrayal that robbed her of her innocence – and most of her money.

With her life and her career now headed back on track, Nikki opens up to Woman’s Day about the dark times that pushed her to the edge.

Fleeing Australia after she says she was duped out of her hard-won earnings by someone in her inner circle, Nikki battled deep depression and some serious body image issues alone in Los Angeles.

“When I went to LA by myself I would call my parents constantly, sitting in a little apartment by myself sobbing and thinking I couldn’t go on any more,” Nikki remembers.

“I had so many low moments. It still gives me shivers when I think about it.”

While she will not name the person she says she trusted with her career and finances, her frank admission that she was fleeced displays a lost innocence, and a deep wariness of people with “greedy, jealous agendas”.

“I was ripped off financially – to an extreme degree – but money is money, and what you remember isn’t the money you lose, but what happened to you,” she says. “People who were very close to me completely destroyed my faith in who I was, and from that point I learnt to distrust people…”

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Michael Hutchence’s mum: My fears for Tigerlily

As tragedy strikes her family again, Patricia Glassop tells Julie Hayne why she’s so worried about the granddaughter she hasn’t seen in three years.

Like any other adoring mother and grandmother, Patricia Glassop keeps mementos of her family around her home. Pictures of her late son Michael Hutchence adorn the walls next to photos of Tigerlily, his only child.

Patricia’s loving photographic timeline of Michael’s life ends abruptly in 1997 – when her rock star son died suddenly.

As Tigerlily approaches her 13th birthday, you’d expect the cherished mementos of happy Christmas Days, birthday parties and family holidays to continue. But the tragic truth is that Patricia hasn’t seen her precious granddaughter in years, and barely knows her.

“I don’t know what her favourite colour is, what movies she likes or what fashion she’s into. I don’t know anything, yet she is my grandchild, my son’s daughter,” says Patricia, speaking exclusively to Woman’s Day.

Now Patricia’s greatest fear – that she may never see her darling Tiger again – has become a tragic reality for her husband and Tiger’s grandpa, Ross Glassop.

Her voice breaking, Patricia reveals that Ross passed away from respiratory failure on Mother’s Day this year without being allowed to say goodbye to the little girl he adored.

“Ross was an airforce pilot and not easily reduced to tears. But when he spoke to me about the possibility of dying without ever seeing or talking to our Tigerlily again, he would just break down.

“It’s totally cruel and unnecessary. I’ve lost my husband and now I have a granddaughter who doesn’t even know her beloved Grandpa Ross has died. We have been completely cut out of her life by Bob Geldof.”

Several months before Ross’s death, Patricia wrote to Bob – Tigerlily’s legal guardian and father to her controversial half-sisters Peaches, Pixie and Fifi – begging him to let Tiger speak to her grandpa. “I explained that Ross was seriously ill, but I never heard back.

“Now it’s too late. I don’t understand how any man could do that. It isn’t only hurting us, it’s hurting Tiger as well.”

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Gordon’s Aussie lover tells: He has no respect for women

In the wake of chef Gordon Ramsay’s treatment of Tracy Grimshaw last week, the Aussie woman who claims to be his former lover tells Katherine Chatfield that he has a problem with women.

Despite Tracy Grimshaw “unreservedly” accepting Gordon Ramsay‘s apology on A Current Affair last week after his foul-mouthed tirade against her, Gordon’s alleged ex, Julie Vidovic, has a message for Tracy – and any other women he comes into contact with: “He’ll do it again,” she tells Woman’s Day.

When Julie first heard of Gordon’s obscene comments about Tracy, she says she wasn’t surprised in the least.

“It was in keeping with his manner,” says Julie, 42, who says she had an affair with Gordon for six months last year. “I truly believe he has no respect for women. He has an obsession with referring to women as farm animals, and as pigs. When we were together there were a few things I found distasteful [about his behaviour], that were denigrating to women.”

That certainly seemed to be the case last week when footage was broadcast on A Current Affair of Gordon referring to a Channel Nine make-up artist’s “fat a***,” making a rude comment about Livinia Nixon’s weather reporting and making suggestive remarks about “rubbing olive oil on nipples” to a visibly disgusted Elise Mooney while she interviewed him for the show.

That, says Julie, was bold proof of Gordon’s attitude to women. “When we were together, he’d make off-the-cuff comments, demeaning other women about their weight or looks. No man who respects women refers to them like that.”

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Jodi Gordon: My life is in ruins

The Home And Away star is left reeling as scandal tears her world apart, Sarah Blake reports.

The party is over for Jodi Gordon, with her boyfriend Ryan Stokes ending their relationship and negotiating the settlement of their multi-million dollar home.

In a moment of madness – when police reportedly found her cowering in Sydney gangster Mark Judge’s home after making a triple-0 call under the delusion that armed intruders were threatening her life – Jodi set off a disastrous series of events.

Now, after reportedly confessing to police that drugs had been used in the hours before the bizarre scene, the Logie-winning Home And Away star’s reputation is set to be further rocked by new revelations about her hard-partying lifestyle.

Signs of Jodi’s sad decline were evident to one Sydney businessman in September last year. Jodi, 24, was on a night out at the Piano Room in Kings Cross – the club owned by John Ibrahim, whose brother Fadi is currently fighting for his life after being shot just over a week ago.

“I wouldn’t call her badly behaved,” the businessman says. “She was charming if a little flirtatious, which is why I was quite shocked when she offered one of my clients a line of cocaine.”

While her image has taken a beating, Jodi’s relationship with Ryan is the most painful casualty.

Removalist vans were last week seen at both the luxury home she has shared for the past two years with Ryan, and at an Elizabeth Bay apartment Jodi bought in January.

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Madonna wins the right to adopt three-year-old Mercy

After a lengthy legal battle with Malawi’s high court, Madonna will become a mother once again to an African orphan.

The 50-year-old has won an appeal overturning a ruling which barred her from adopting because she wasn’t a resident of the country — the same law that was overlooked for her controversial adoption of David Banda in 2006.

The singer will soon be collecting three-year-old Chifundo Mercy James from the orphanage where they met last year and flying her to London to join the rest of her children, including fellow Malawian adoptee, David.

“I am ecstatic,” Madonna said in a statement. “My family and I look forward to sharing our lives with her.”

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Cameron: It’s natural to not want children

Cameron Diaz has spoken out about her choice to not be a mother, saying many women are afraid to admit they don’t want to have children.

The 36-year-old Hollywood A-lister said despite the fact there were too many children in the world already, women who chose not to be mums were made to feel they were unnatural.

“I think women are afraid to say that they don’t want children because they’re going to get shunned,” Cameron told Cosmoplitan magazine.

“But I think that’s changing too now. I have more girlfriends who don’t have kids than those that do.

“And honestly? We don’t need any more kids. We have plenty of people on this planet.”

Do you think there are too many people on the planet? Have your say below.

While she was advocating a woman’s right to choose, Cameron also said she wasn’t ruling out the possibility of one day becoming a mother.

“I never say never. I don’t know what’s going to happen,” she said.

“I could end up adopting half a dozen kids, or I could end up being the next ‘octomum’.”

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Anti-depressants: the real story

The drug millions of Aussies are taking – what it does for weight, sex and you!

More than 12 million anti-depressant scripts a year are prescribed in Australia – and rising. But are we taking mood-enhancing meds too far?

Next time you’re at an office lunch, chances are at least one or more of the people sitting around your table are taking Zoloft, Lexapro, Prozac or one of the dozens of prescription drugs currently on the market.

These days there are “happy” pills to treat everything from that severe, can’t -get-out of bed, “dark place” depression, to pre-menstrual depression, right down to anxiety, head-in-the clouds vagueness or even poor concentration.

Today anti-depressants are the number one drug Aussies are taking to help them beat their mood problems, and in turn reduce stress, work and relationship issues in their life.

According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, a staggering 20.7 million prescriptions for mental health related medications were filled under the Pharmaceutical Benefits Scheme (PBS) in 2006.

Among other drugs, this included about 12.3 million antidepressant scripts and 1.8 million anti-psychotic drugs, both rapidly increasing in popularity.

Whilst anti-psychotics were once popularly perceived to be treatments for schizophrenia, in reality today they are also commonly prescribed for anxiety, severe depression and a variety of other psychological problems.

But we have to ask ourselves whether popping a pill for every modern malaise is the answer, given a recent meta-analysis of 47 studies, which showed that antidepressants were no more effective than a dummy pill.

Aussie doctors are divided over the recent research, which included the blockbuster brands Effexor, Zoloft, Cipramil, Aropax and Prozac.

Some doctors agree perhaps depression is being over medicalised.

But Professor Ian Hickie from the Brain Mind & Research Institute in Sydney, argues that medications DO have a place.

“Firstly, the people in these studies were not severely depressed patients, because severely depressed patients are excluded from trials. And for these patients we have 40 years of evidence which show antidepressants do absolutely have clear benefits.”

“Secondly, the study also completely ignored the fact that suicide rates have dropped steeply in countries where antidepressants are now in widespread use.

“And thirdly, we have to remember that even mild depression causes a major increase in suicide risk.

“Seeking no treatment for any kind of depression is a bad option. Because often those people with mild depression one day go on to moderate or severe depression the next day. This does not always mean drugs, but in many cases they can help.”

Professor Hickie says if you notice signs of depression in yourself or others (do the mood IQ test below) then don’t delay in getting treatment.

“There is no reason to put up with untreated depression, or for people to be scared of taking a pill if they need to. People take a tablet for anything else, but there is still clearly a stigma that depression is a character flaw, or something other than a clear biochemical illness. But depression is something people can’t snap out of or be jollied out of. It is an illness – a major one, that is often life-threatening.”

And evidence shows drugs may also mean less chance of recurrence.

“Other studies show that people who are on depression medications for 6-12 months and recover are much less likely to have the depression recur within the next two years.”

Professor Gordon Parker from the Black Dog Institute agrees the meta analysis research was flawed, because participants in clinical studies are generally only mildly depressed, did not use drugs or alcohol and didn’t have suicidal thoughts.

“Psychiatrists don’t see people like that in real life. It’s the same flawed logic as prescribing an antibiotic for a common 24-hour cold and the results were compared with placebo treatment after a week.”

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Men’s health: What he needs to know

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Men are usually pretty good at looking after their cars, their families and their mates. But sometimes they need a little more encouragement to look after their own health.

So the aim of Men’s Health Week (June 15 – 21) is to raise the level of awareness about men’s medical issues, and encourage our fellas to look after themselves a little better and take more responsibility for their own health.

“Our concerns are that men don’t look after themselves or go to their G.P. nearly as much as women,” explains Dr Robert Walters – a Tasmania-based G.P with a special interest in men’s health.

“They have particular problems in expressing their worries about mental health issues, yet can suffer with them exactly the same as everybody else.

“Women can help by listening when men do finally open up about matters of the heart and mind, and encourage men to seek help from their G.P. – even accompany them if needed.

“It’s important to find a G.P. you can talk to and establish an ongoing relationship with.”

Here Dr Walters answers some questions and shares his advice about some common men’s health issues:

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Grains and weight gain: Fact or fallacy?

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For many Australians losing weight and maintaining weight is high on their list of priorities. And when it comes to weight, there is a lot of talk about grain foods – including bread, pasta and cereals – and the role they may play in weight gain. But do grains really contribute to weight gain? Or is it a fallacy?

Despite bad press in recent years, grain foods can play a significant role in helping people to lose weight. In fact, a recent scientific review found that diets high in wholegrain foods and legumes were associated with significantly greater weight loss than other popular diet methods.

Are all grains created equal?

In a word, no. Whole grains – where the three layers of the grain (bran, germ and endosperm) are still intact – offer protection from cancer and heart disease as well as being the grains most associated with weight loss.

How much should we eat?

While the Australian dietary guidelines suggest that we eat plenty of cereals – preferably wholegrain, until now, we haven’t had a specific recommendation for serves of wholegrain foods. Go Grains Health & Nutrition – a leading grains organisation in Australia – has reviewed the research and established a daily target for wholegrain consumption. So now we know we should be aiming for 2-3 serves or 48 grams of wholegrains per day. Meeting this target simply includes eating a serve of wholegrain wheat biscuits for breakfast and two slices of wholegrain bread at lunch.

A wide variety

Along with wholegrain wheat and brown rice, there are many other interesting varieties of wholegrain for you to try.

  • Rye. A nutrient rich grain that we are becoming more familiar with, rye contains gluten but much less than is present in wheat. Choose rye or pumpernickel breads and try alternating rye varieties with your regular bread purchase.

  • Buckwheat. Readily available in Australia, buckwheat is commonly made into porridge. You can also add buckwheat to pancakes or try Japanese buckwheat noodles in stir-fries or soups.

  • Quinoa. (keen-wah) A nutritious grain similar to buckwheat in its texture and taste, quinoa has a high protein content compared to other grains which makes it an excellent inclusion to your meals. Try using it as a substitute to couscous. It is available in health food stores and some supermarkets.

  • Barley. One of the oldest cultivated cereals, barley is often ground and can be used as an alternative to flour. Dehulled barley is the wholegrain form as it only has the inedible outer layer removed and it is a great addition to soups and stews. Pearled barley, unlike the dehulled variety, is not considered a wholegrain because it is polished and more refined.This information is brought to you by the Sanitarium Nutrition Service. If you would like more information email [email protected]Your Say: Do you get enough grains in your diet? Do you find it helps with weight control? Tell us your thoughts below…

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What would you do if you won the lottery?

A question often asked by psychologists, educators and curious minds alike. The Weekly's financial expert, Virginia Graham, poses it from a financial point of view.
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They often say people who actually do win a few million dollars from the lottery, lose all the money within a year and end up in a worse situation than before. You might be thinking ‘yes, but I wouldn’t be so silly, I would keep it all, I would get proper advice and buy the right things.’

The question is: why aren’t you doing that now? What’s stopping you from getting yourself financially organised and savvy today?

If you win the lottery or get an unexpected inheritance wouldn’t now be a good time to be organised. Is there anything wrong with adopting a millionaire mindset now?

Even if you don’t win lotto or an inheritance, maybe once your mindset changes, you’ll think of a way to make a huge amount of money. Maybe you’ll think about all the things you’d do and want, and realise you have them already or could buy them for a lot less than a million dollars. So, in one sense you win the lottery today anyway — without even buying a ticket!

Just for fun

Why not imagine you’ve won the lottery and think about all the ways you could organise your wealth. You will still have to plan and budget, still learn more about money, still think about all the things you really want. Write them down. Implement a plan of firstly all your goals and dreams and then how you are going to achieve them all.

Budget/Goals

On a micro-scale you can start now anyway. If you’re in debt, still budget but plan to pay off your debts and once they are gone, plan to start a savings and investment program for the same amount. The same system you would use to budget if you had millions you can do on a smaller scale now.

Learning Program/ Team

Start now learning more about money and how to manage it. Also work out who you would have on your financial advice team if you were richer and follow what they do and see if you can understand more about how they work.

Millionaire Mindset- Decide you are wealthy

Change your mindset now and the money will follow. After interviewing several billionaires the one thing from them about wealth that I learned was that they made a decision that they were already wealthy, and THEN the money flowed — not the other way around. This was the only commonality between them; their mindset.

The best thing about changing your mind is that you can do it today for free; the decision is yours.

By Virginia Graham from www.modelmortgages.com.au

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