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Tom Cruise in Melbourne

With the Cruise-Holmes clan in town, speculation is rife as to what Tom and Katie will get up to in Melbourne today in celebration of Tom’s 47th birthday.

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes have already had a busy few days of sightseeing after settling into their seriously top-notch luxury apartment at Crown Towers near Melbourne’s CBD.

On July 1, the couple went with their daughter, three-year-old Suri, on an excursion to the Melbourne Aquarium where a passer-by Robyn was surprised to encounter the Hollywood A-list family amongst the sharks.

“I turned around and there was Tom Cruise,” the mum told the Daily Telegraph. “It was a pleasant surprise.”

Also on the activity schedule this week was a trip for little Suri with her dad to Melbourne Zoo yesterday, where they were given a private behind-the-scenes tour which included meeting a koala, a tree kangaroo, and a tawny frogmouth named Georgie.

“They were absolutely charming,” a zoo spokeswoman said. “He is very, very nice and his daughter is so cute.”

Cruise then made time to pop into Myer, picking out a lavish hobby horse and toy kangaroo for Suri from the store’s toy sale.

He also treated his beloved daughter to two sequined dresses from the Big by Fiona Scanlan range, and some lip glosses that Suri took a fancy to at the Becca and Bloom cosmetics counters.

Security has been closely guarding the family’s privacy, scouring the Crown complex for cameramen. The cameramen have been doing their best to avert suspicion by using walkie-talkies to communicate with each other and hiding their lenses in backpacks and shopping bags.

For Tom’s birthday tonight all eyes will be on the MCG and the Collingwood vs Essendon AFL match where the partying is expected to kick-off.

There are even rumours that Australia’s own unofficial Scientology ambassador and singer Kate Ceberano might play a role in the celebrations.

Ceberano is friends with Tom and sang for the Hollywood star at his birthday in Los Angeles in 2005.

It will be back to work for Katie Holmes, 30, on Monday when filming begins for the movie that has brought her to Melbourne: the big-budget horror Don’t be Afraid of the Dark, with Aussie actor Guy Pearce.

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Food, fun and Figueres in Barcelona

If it's hip and happening, it's in Barcelona, one of Europe's most dazzling cities, as Jo Wiles discovered on a visit to the Catalonian capital in Spain.
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Ole, ole, ole, ole … it’s 1am and the locals — or Barceloneses as the people of Barcelona are known — are just warming up; thrumming their fingers, stamping their heels and emitting the unmistakable yelps of people having fun. We are singing and yelping, too, thanks to a couple of jugs of sangria and the passionate, frenetic rat-tat-tat of a flamenco fusion band whose percussionist sports a T-shirt that reads simply, “BLING”.

There’s a lot of bling about Barcelona. The city that started life 2000 years ago as a Roman military camp called Barcino and burst on to the world stage as host of the 1992 Olympic Games, is today one of the hippest, most dazzling cities on earth. Art lovers, bar hoppers, backpackers, families and serious students of Dali, Picasso, Miró and the great Modernista architect, Antonio Gaudi, will never be bored in Barcelona.

From the soaring towers of Gaudi’s unfinished masterpiece, La Sagrada Familia, to the neon-bright bars of the Barri Gotic in the city’s medieval quarter, there is surprise and diversion at every turn. This is a city that rises at 10am, lunches at 2pm, takes a siesta at five and goes to dinner at 9.30pm — then wants to party from midnight until dawn. It’s also a city of sublime beauty and unabashed grime, a treasure house of Gothic and Modernista (Art Nouveau) architecture and a place of passionate politics and a fierce pride forged in the fires of Spain’s bloody civil war.

Don’t even think about driving. Not only is parking impossible, but thieves are known to strip rental cars of their contents. Use the easy, efficient Metro. Five colour-coded lines will get you to all the sights.

*TIP: Buy an orange carte with 10 rides. It can be used by 10 people for one ride or 10 rides for one person.*

First-time tourists can get their bearings by boarding either the blue or green sightseeing bus that departs regularly from the port near Christopher Columbus’ statue. This hop-on, hop-off Bus Turistic tour visits the major attractions (Port Olimpic, the zoo, maritime museum, palace, Miró Fundacio) and its ticket price includes discount vouchers that can be used any time for the best ones.

La Sagrada Familia

By all means immerse yourself in the museos of Picasso, Miró and Dali, but if you see only one thing in Barcolona, make sure it’s La Sagrada Familia, Antonio Gaudi’s astonishing, uplifting cathedral for the common man (and woman). Started in the 1880s and due for completion in 2026, the church is funded completely by public donation and was the life’s work of this Modernista genius, a man dubbed “God’s architect”, and now slated for sainthood. Arrive at 9am and go straight to the lifts for a bird’s eye view of heaven and Hosanna and Excelsius written in tiles on the lofty spires. Gaudi is buried below the jackhammers and cranes in a crypt accessible only during Mass celebrated daily at 9am and 7pm. The shop stocks the best Gaudi souvenirs in town.

*TIP: Take an evening picnic to the park across the road. At 10pm precisely, the cathedral is lit up in all its glory. At weekends, watch the men playing boule or the Catalan game of bittles, a form of skittles where players throw a wooden pin and try to knock down five out of six skittles. Top points go to the player who leaves one standing.*

Parc Guell

Escape the heat and hustle of the city with a picnic in this 20ha hilltop oasis. Designed by Gaudi as a refuge for wealthy Barceloneses and named after his patron, Parc Guell contains not only his famous mosaic salamander and panther head fountains, wave seating and extruded rock columns, but also Gaudi’s own house, which you can tour.

*TIP: Take a taxi and arrive at the front gate. If you go by train, you’ll have several hundred steps to climb to the top of the park.*

Palau de la Musica Catalana

This extraordinary concert hall with its awe-inspiring stained glass dome, decorative mosaic columns and Catalan imagery of roses and St George is to Barcelona what the Sydney Opera House is to Australia. Inaugurated in 1908 by Modernista master Lluis Domenech i Montaner, it is now a UNESCO world heritage site and choral venue that even the most rabid rock fan will love.

*TIP: Book early for the very popular daily tour in English.*

Santa Maria del Mar

According to art critic Robert Hughes, “There is no grander or more solemn architectural space in Spain” than this gothic church, built over 60 years by the people of Barcelona and completed in 1383. Despite the ravages of the civil war, which stripped most of its baroque decoration, its soaring, vaulted interior remains a place of wonder.

*TIP: Don’t miss seeing the exquisitely painted chapel of angels on the right of the nave.*

Casa Batllo

With its dragon tile roof, mask-like balconies and blue-green façade decorated to look like a painting of Monet’s waterlilies, this is arguably Antonio Gaudi’s most beautiful building and its interior is a marvel of Modernista curves, stained glass and clever engineering. It’s on the ritzy shopping strip of the Passeig de Gracia and is open Mon-Sun from 9am-8pm.

*TIP: Buy a paper fan as a souvenir from Casa Batllo’s small, but funky shop and stay cool.*

Casa Mila

Also by Gaudi, this is one of the world’s most famous apartment buildings. Nicknamed La Pedrera (“the quarry”) for its cave-like appearance and sentinel chimney pots, it contains a fully restored apartment and rooftop laundries.

*TIP: Take the English tour daily at 4pm. In summer, follow this with cocktails or a flute of cava, the local champagne, on La Pedrera’s rooftop terrace overlooking Barcelona.*

By day, the famous Bar del Pi in the Barri Gotic. By night, there’s the Harlem Jazz Club for flamenco fusion, Brazilian and blues, as well as jazz, Al Limón Negro for world music and head to the Gracia district to Zigzag, Bikini or Fonfone for dancing.

*TIP: Nothing starts before midnight.*

Passeig de Gracia for upmarket brand names; The Diagonal and Eixample for homewares; La Rambla for everything from tourist T-shirts to exotic macaws; the Barri Gotic for unusual, chic shops, including La Manual Alpargatera at Carrer d’Avinyo, 7, where Catherine Zeta Jones, Jack Nicholson and the late Pope all bought their espadrilles, and Casa Oliveras, a fourth-generation lace shop in Carrer de Dagueria.

For fast, fresh, fabulous food — think razor fish, prawns, squid, swordfish and tortillas of every type — you can’t beat eating at El Quim or one of the licensed bars in the Mercat de la Boqueria Sant Josep, the covered fruit and veggie market, off La Rambla. For coffee and cakes, go to Escriba, a pastry-making dynasty housed in an Art Nouveau showcase on La Rambla. For tapas, try the chorizo in cider, deep-fried olives, or ham and cheese croquettes at Sagardi or any bar in El Born or a pre-club paella at La Concha, in the Barri Gotic. For more upmarket fare and Catalan cuisine try Casa Calvet in its original Gaudi setting, Agut in Carrer d’En Gignas 16, Els Quatre Gats, Restaurant 7 Portes and, for a casa countryside lunch a short taxi ride from town, Can Travi Nou.

If you can stay for a week or are travelling with friends, rent an apartment. An all mod-cons apartment for six people in hip’n’happening El Born costs $340 a night. Book online through www.oh-barcelona.com or www.bcninternet.com. If you’re staying only a few nights and are sightseeing from dawn to dusk, choose a hotel close to the sights. One of the cheapest is the Hotel Penisular, Sant Pau 34, off La Rambla in the slightly edgy El Raval area. Clean, friendly and $120 a night.

Trip the light fantastic to Figueres, the birthplace — and final resting place — of Salvador Dali. The great surrealist is buried within his Teatro-Museu Dali, a former theatre decorated with a façade of bread rolls and giant eggs, and showcasing the artist’s life’s work from eye-popping art and exquisite jewellery to sculptures three storeys high and the artist’s skewball take on the Sistine chapel, The Feet of Dali (as opposed to the Hand of God).

Arrive early to beat the crowds. Don’t miss seeing the Mae West room and the ruby-studded, beating “royal heart”. And treat yourself to a fabulous Dali “melting time” watch in the museum shop.

Next, head along the coast to Cadaques for a lazy lunch on the beach or a dip in the Mediterranean before driving to the tiny fishing village of Port Lligat — a must for devotees of Dali. It is here in a whitewashed jumble of fishermen’s huts that Dali and his wife, Gala, lived for 40 years. Only eight people at a time are allowed to tour the house, so book ahead for a wonderfully intimate glimpse into the life — and bedroom, bathroom and studio — of one of 20th century’s greatest artists.

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Financial help for divorced women

Who needs a man? Well your purse might. But if all fails, here's something that'll help you land on your own two feet.
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YOU hear the same old story trumped out a lot, the woman who was happily married to a well-off man in a wealthy suburb, has three young children then all of a sudden, he moves out.

Turns out, he is in love with someone else, and cuts off his wife financially, to try to blackmail her into accepting his settlement terms so he can run off, scot free with the nanny, secretary or woman he met on the plane.

Not many people feel sorry for his wife, as her friends and colleagues probably think she was so well off that she doesn’t need any help. She finds herself completely broke, alone and emotionally devastated. It’s even worse when her husband is for example, a lawyer and honestly thinks her contribution to their life as a stay at home mum (which he insisted on) is really not much of a valuable contribution. He thinks that she really doesn’t deserve much of his hard earned cash as really she is worth little more than a house maid.

Unfortunately, this happens a lot. Just because someone does not have the power over the money or the high earning job and is therefore in a weaker position does not mean they have to take whatever pitiful settlement the ex husband offers her.

Enter the modern day Robin Hood for divorced women. There are now funds that will lend damsels in distress money to fund their life until their settlement or for reasonable legal representation so they can ensure they get their fair entitlements. These funds are expensive but not for long and if you get a much better settlement because of it, then of course can be well worth it.

One such fund run by Brendan Lyle, has many happy customers, and over 90% are women. It is good to know these people exist to help women in their hour of need. Again if the settlement is not likely to be much then it may not be worth doing, but if there are substantial assets at stake then it can be worthwhile.

You can speak to someone at any one of these funding places to find out. By Virginia Graham a finance broker from www.modelmortgages.com.au

Your say: Have you ever been a damsel in marriage distress? Would you turn to a modern day Robin Hood to help you out? Email us on [email protected]

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Singapore’s new jumbo jet takes to the skies

Discover what it’s like to fly Singapore Airlines’ new “super-jumbo” between Sydney and London.
The A380 from Singapore Airlines

From the tarmac, it looks no bigger than a jumbo, but, believe me, it is. As high as a seven-storey building and as long as two blue whales, it can carry 853 passengers in full economy mode, compared to a jumbo’s maximum of 500. Singapore Airlines, however, has decided on 471 seats in three classes: 399 in economy, 60 in business and 12 “beyond first” suites.

As soon as you step on board, you’ll be struck by the spacious main staircase and the subtle mood lighting at the front of the main deck. A party of four could comfortably stroll arm-in-arm to the upper deck on these plush carpeted stairs. At the top, unlike in a jumbo’s bubble, you’ll find there’s an economy cabin on the upper deck, after you’ve walked through the business class cabin.

Now, let’s be honest, it’s never easy to stroll nonchalantly past business-class passengers, sipping champagne on seats the size of sofas, without feeling a twinge of envy, especially at the start of a 23-hour flight.

Business Class

Singapore Airlines’ sensational new business class is likely to turn the average passenger green.

What greets the eye are not rows of seats, but 60 spacious suites, each almost wide enough to park a Smart Car. At 87cm wide, this is the roomiest business class seat in the sky and, because the cabin has been designed with a 1-2-1 configuration, every passenger has aisle access. Naturally, each seat adapts into a flat bed, with linen from Givenchy.

Then there’s the 39cm LCD screen and enough space to allow two passengers, sitting side by side, to enjoy a film or a meal together in the same seat, thanks to two headphone sockets and two fold-away tables.

Those looking for a real bargain – two travelling on one business-class ticket – had better think again. On boarding, every passenger has to have their own seat. You can only get cosy after take-off.

Economy Class

The economy cabin (at the rear of the upper deck) is equally impressive, as there are a few welcome surprises. The seat configuration, 3-4-3, is the same as on a 747, but after row 81 on the upper deck it becomes 2-2-2. Take note, row 81 – the emergency aisle seating – is where every economy passenger will want to sit.

Thanks to a slimmer seat design in economy, there is more leg and knee room – not enough to stretch out in style, but sufficient to make a comfortable difference. The seats are also articulated, which means when the top half angles back, the bottom part on which you sit comes forward, allowing the body to rest in a more natural position.

The adjustable headrest now extends up (especially useful for tall passengers) and has a pair of soft leather wings that move forward, giving considerable more neck and head support.

Moving into the entertainment department, there’s a raft of improvements, especially for film buffs and computer game-addicted children, thanks to a new version of Krisworld that offers more than 1000 on-demand screen and sound options, surely enough to keep any insomniac amused on a long-haul journey. The new economy class video screen is now the size of the average 747’s business class screen and pivots on a wider angle that allows passengers to rid the screen of unwanted reflections. It also comes with better earphones and an unobtrusive reading light at the bottom of the screen, just at the right height to read a book on your fold-away table or lap, without disturbing your neighbour.

Another improvement is a USB plug for bring-your-own memory sticks. This coupled with a little “qwerty” keyboard (on the back-of-seat phone unit) allows passengers to work on their video screen, by accessing airline software. It’s essential to save any work you do on board to a memory stick, as any records are automatically deleted from the A380’s system on touch down.

Continuing the tour to the back of the A380’s upper deck, you’ll find another staircase that leads down to the main deck and a second economy cabin, which has a higher ceiling and is slightly wider than the upper deck.

Beyond First Suites

At the pointy end of the plane, just before the grand staircase you climbed on boarding, are the “beyond first” suites. Those who have travelled in a first class railway carriage may get a sense of déjá vu on entering one of these suites.

Large enough to accommodate four people (two sitting opposite the other two), each suite has a full-length, fold-out bed, a chaise lounge for “companion socialising” and a 58-centimetre flat-screen TV, all behind sliding privacy doors. The price tag is around $10,000 for a one-way journey between Sydney and Singapore, and according to an airline executive, is pitched at the “same sort of market that buys S-Class Mercedes”.

Two suites can also be converted into a super suite, with a double bed. It costs about twice the price, but conveniently comes with a “do not disturb” sign that can be switched on once the sliding doors are closed.

The verdict?

That’s the end of the tour and I think you’ll agree the A380’s wow factor arises from its new first and business class features. The improvements in economy may seem modest in comparison, but they certainly outshine the current facilities on any 747 and will make long-haul journeys a little easier to bear.

A380 facts

There is enough room on its wings to park 72 cars.

The wingspan is 15 metres wider than a 747, but it’s only two metres longer.

Maximum flight range is 13,140km – 1800km greater than the 747, but still not enough to go non-stop from Australia to Europe.

Seats on the maiden flights between Sydney and Singapore were auctioned for charity and raised $1.44million – Singapore Airlines donated $255,000 each to the Children’s Hospital at Westmead and Sydney Children’s Hospital, Randwick.

A Briton paid $123,000 for seat 1A on the maiden flight.

Getting there

Singapore fling

Singapore has come a long way in five years. Once known as an international shopping hub with little else on offer, the city has undergone a mini-renaissance since the opening of its world-class arts centre and opera house. Today, the city is a hub of cutting edge art galleries, futuristic museums, boutique hotels and world-class restaurants. A stroll through Chinatown, Little India or along Clarke Quay on banks of the Singapore River will reveal what a hip and happening place the city has become. Here, we recommend three places to stay and two of the hottest restaurants in Singapore:

High-end: Goodwood Park Hotel

22 Scotts Road (+65 6737 7411; www.goodwoodparkhotel.com)

One of Singapore’s most famous historic hotels, Goodwood Park was founded in 1900 as the Teutonia Club and sits in six hectares of parkland, minutes from the city – an oasis with hidden gardens, two swimming pools and an imposing heritage-listed white tower (pictured). A favourite haunt of the former Sultan of Brunei and Jackie Chan, it has 233 spacious rooms and three restaurants: the Gordon Grill; Min Jiang, famous for its sechuzan cuisine; and Min Jiang at One-north, housed in a black and white colonial bungalow in a leafy enclave 15 minutes from the hotel, and famous for its Peking Duck cooked in the smoke from apple tree wood.

Hip: The Scarlet

33 Erskine Road (+65 6511 3333; www.thescarlethotel.com)

Two minutes walk from Chinatown, the Temple of Heavenly Bliss and the Dravidian-style Hindu Temple, this hotel is housed in a converted terrace of 14 Chinese shop houses, circa 1868, filled with sumptuous baroque décor in many shades of red, black and gold. It’s very theatrical, but impressive. It has 84 lavish rooms with soft leather and velvet furnishings, seductive drapes, resplendent chandeliers, flat-screen TVs, wireless and beautiful bathrooms. The hotel’s Desire restaurant serves breakfast and good international fare for lunch and dinner; the Bold bar is the place to pose and preen; and the roof terrace café/bar offers great cocktails, seafood platters, barbecued meats under the stars.

Budget: Hotel 1929

50 Keong Saik Road (+65 6347 1929; www.hotel1929.com)

In the heart of Chinatown’s former red light district, two minutes walk from MRT underground station, Hotel 1929 offers funky retro-chic in a four-storey, light-filled heritage terrace, circa 1929, with vintage chairs in lobby (Eames, Jacobsen et al). Budget prices attract aspiring artists and architects, older backpackers and anyone in search of style at budget prices, good value considering the 32 compact rooms each have bold Marimekko fabrics, broadband, flat-screen TV, CD player and mosiac-tiled bathrooms. Don’t miss out on the French-Asian fusion food at Embers restaurant, with its floor-to-ceiling plate-glass view over busy street.

Jade restaurant

Fullerton Hotel, 1 Fullerton Square (+65 6733 8388; www.fullertonhotel.com)

One of Singapore’s best restaurants, Jade serves exquisite modern Chinese cuisine in an elegant space on Marina Bay. Chefs Sam Leong and Thomas Chai have both won multiple awards for their contemporary take on Cantonese, Peking and Sechuzan dishes, often fused with Western influences. A million miles from the fare of your local take-away, dishes such as Crispy Wasabi Prawns with Sicked Peking Duck and Grape Salsa and Pan-seared Wagyu Beef with Foie Gras in Port Wine Sauce are highly recommended. The restaurant also has a superb wine list with many Australian vintages. Jade is an experience not to be missed by any aficionados of fine Chinese cuisine.

Humble House restaurant

2-27/29 Espalande Mall (+65 6423 1881; www.tunglok.com)

With its Alice in Wonderland décor, created by Chinese artist-musician Zhang Jin Jie with giant chairs, flowing drapes, water features, simple zen surfaces and atmospheric lighting, Humble House caused a sensation when it opened several years ago. Its food has been called Chinese tapas. Go in a group and order plenty of dishes to get the full range of flavours.

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We didn’t kiss until our wedding day

Gold Coast newlyweds Ari Dannenberger and Rachel Nancarrow tell Jo Knowlsey about the chastity promise that meant they didn’t even kiss until they married.

As they read their vows aloud, there was one thing both Rachel Nancarrow and Ari Dannenberger were anticipating more eagerly than anything else: the moment they were named husband and wife and could share their very first kiss.

“It was like a fairytale,” Rachel, 22, from the Gold Coast, said after the wedding.

“Once Ari lifted my veil and our lips locked, everything else disappeared. I was so glad we had waited because it made that kiss very, very special.”

Ari, 30, agrees: “I know some people might be critical and think it was a silly arrangement. But I’m glad we made the commitment we did. It added to the purity of our marriage. It meant our relationship has been built on more than just physical attraction.”

The couple, both committed Christians, first met just over three years ago at the Surfcity Christian Church in Surfers Paradise. And at first glance, they would not have appeared an obvious match. Rachel, then 18, came from a devout church-going family, while Ari had just abandoned a life he says was dominated by his recreational drug and sex addictions.

But when they worked together as social workers at Transformation Ministries, a Surfers Paradise drug and alcohol rehabilitation centre, they began developing a very close friendship.

And two years ago, during “a serious talk” when they were both at Bible College, they realised they held the same values and decided they would commit to a future together…

For the full story see this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale June 29, 2009

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He doesn’t know I was nearly a 40 year-old virgin

I had been in three serious relationships with men who were fantastic. But as for meeting all the criteria and my sexual life – none of them went all the way.

I met my current boyfriend through the most random of introductions, and, as often with life’s funny ways, he turned out to be that guy who swept me off my feet. And he later proved that he was very much in love. He adored me.

I knew I was finally ready to make a change to my sex life. By no means was I a forty year-old virgin, but I wasn’t a spring chicken either. I was at once both scared and excited.

My dilemma was that since the first day my boyfriend and I had talked about past relationships, I had admitted to sleeping with my exes. I am intrinsically a very passionate and affectionate person, and during this conversation came across as very experienced with sexual dalliances. I was intimidated by his age and experience – quite the attractive man with quite the list of ladies to his name. I felt the need to meet him in expectations. Yet I told him I wanted the two of us to wait, until it was the ‘right time’. I felt really rotten, but compelled to tell this story. He had no idea what ‘the right time’ was, but was incredibly sensitive to my feelings and acted like a true gentleman. We were passionate in all other aspects and he even admitted to me he couldn’t wait for the moment.

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I seduced my daughter’s boyfriend

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My daughter Anna had boyfriends regularly and they were all quite the same. They were young, awkward teenage boys who were overjoyed they had a girlfriend.

I met Anna’s 19-year-old boyfriend, Lukas, for the first time at a small party she had for her 17th birthday. Lukas was absolutely gorgeous: tall, tanned, green eyes, broad shoulders and ruffled blonde hair. He came up and introduced himself to me and gave me a firm handshake, which I find is so important when I meet new people.

He gave me a charming, white-toothed smile and said how pleased he was to meet me. I had never intended to look amazing for the evening, but I dressed up for her birthday. But after meeting Lukas I rushed back to my room to fix my hair and make-up.

Anna was my only child and over the years I have taken care of my appearance. I was only young and I was used to attracting men. I knew I shouldn’t have with Lukas but there was something I couldn’t resist.

I ignored my feelings for him that night, while still looking at him when I coincidentally had to put more food or drinks out. While getting food from the kitchen I overheard the boys on the porch talking about how much of a MILF I was. I didn’t know what a MILF was until I asked Anna the next day.

Most of the guests stayed the night. As I went to bed I walked out to see Lukas returning from the bathroom shirtless. I tried to ignore it as best as I could but Lukas noticed my interest straight away and gave me a flirty, arrogant smile. I composed myself and returned the look, his surprise gave me the knowledge I could have him straight away. I controlled my urge that night; I knew it was Anna’s birthday.

Every time Anna wanted to invite him over I said she couldn’t. I didn’t want to confront him or the feelings I had. Anna got upset so often when she couldn’t have him over, as it had never been an issue before, and she thought I hated him.

One night I finally agreed to let Lukas stay over. I nervously got ready. My hands shook when I put my mascara on and I put on my nicest underwear and sprayed on the perfume I only used on special occasions, Chanel Chance.

Lukas was arriving from his water polo practice and Anna had singing lessons the same afternoon, so I assumed they would arrive the same time.

Unfortunately at 6pm Anna called and said there had been a car accident and traffic had been built up. She was trying to get the back way home but couldn’t get through.

Lukas arrived on time. I thought it would be awkward, conversing with my daughter’s boyfriend, but I found him so witty and charming. He spoke so confidently and smoothly; I couldn’t tell if he was flirting with me or not.

I got a wine out of the fridge as I did every night and later found myself flirting with him. I bit the edge of my wine glass and laughed when he spoke, leaning over casually so he could catch a glimpse of my cleavage. I noticed his eyes glanced casually over my body, there was no effort to hide it and he caught my eyes, in that moment I knew I had to do something.

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I tried to break up my two best-friends!

Sarah and I have been best friends for as long as I can remember. Tall, lean and tanned it is not difficult to see why Sarah has never been short of male attention. She was constantly bombarded with offers of dates which she regularly accepted only to get bored of her prospective partner a few days later.

A self confessed “man-eater” I doubted Sarah’s chances of ever taking a guy seriously and her flippant nature never bothered me – until she met Tom.

I knew Tom through work and we became the best of mates. Our connection has never been romantic; it is more of a brother/sister relationship. Shortly after I met Tom his girlfriend broke up with him, leaving him devastated.

To take his mind of things, I invited Tom out where I introduced him to Sarah. They got on well and I was hardly surprised when Tom asked me for Sarah’s number. I hesitated, gently warning him that I didn’t think that Sarah was looking for anything serious. I just didn’t want to see Tom get his hopes up.

Sarah and Tom went out a few times and soon they became a fully fledged couple. It was evident that after a week of being together Tom was besotted. Tom was dangerous ground considering he was still hurting from the disappointment of his last relationship. I felt that I needed to protect him from the inevitable heartbreak that commitment-phobe Sarah was going to induce.

I met Sarah for a coffee and Tom, naturally, came up. “He is a really nice guy, but I’m just not sure he is for me,” she sighed twirling her hair. I had heard this line a million times before and it rang out like warning bells. This was the point where Sarah was bored and would give the perfectly suitable guy the flick. I have to admit I was relived.

Three months later they were still together! I was convinced that every day Sarah continued their relationship it meant more heartache for Tom.

Everything came to a head when I got a call from Sarah: “How dare you warn Tom about me!” she spat down the line, referring to what I said when Tom requested her number. “I didn’t mean it like that! I was trying to protect you both!” I protested. “It’s nice to know what you really think of me!” she snarled and slammed down the phone.

Sarah went away to Queensland for a few weeks for work. I assumed that Tom would be collecting her mail everyday she was away. I bought a cheesy postcard with a picture of a sunset on it and flipped it over. I scrawled “A little reminder of the fun we have started… Kisses, Joe” on the back. Then, I posted it to Sarah’s home. I knew the moment Tom saw the postcard he would run a mile!

I waited a week and heard nothing from either of them. The suspense was killing me so I picked up the phone and rang Sarah.

I was amazed when she apologized to me for our fight! I was equally surprised that no mention was made of my postcard. We continued to chat about her Queensland visit when she erupted in to a fit of laughter.

“You wouldn’t believe what happened!” she gasped. She told me how the year before she had met a guy through work who promised to send her some information. “It took him a whole year to contact me and then he did it with the tackiest postcard!” she giggled “Sleaze!”. Apparently Tom saw they funny side of “Joe’s” desperation and even stuck it on the fridge!

Just recently, after spending four years together, Tom and Sarah got married. As they raised a toast at the reception thanking me for bringing them together, tears sprung to my eyes realizing how close I was to ruining something that was so clearly meant to be.

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Fears for Michael Jackson’s children

They spent their lives hidden from the world by a father determined to keep them safe – now there are concerns for the uncertain future of Michael’s children, writes Lucie Morris.

He was adored around the world by millions of fans as the King of Pop, but to his three children – Michael Joseph Jackson Junior, 12, Paris Michael Katherine Jackson, 11, and Prince “Blanket” Michael Jackson II, 7 – he was just Daddy.

Hidden away, and often pictured with their heads covered by veils, the children were protected by the singer because of his fears of kidnap.

Michael Jackson was the children’s whole life. They lived a largely nomadic existence and, bereft of friends, relied on just each other and their father for company. But their young lives were shattered last Thursday afternoon. The three kids were reportedly all at their Holmby Hills home when their dad had a heart attack and staff were forced to call an ambulance at 12.21pm, LA time. They were then left with a nanny while Michael was rushed to hospital.

Later, it was the grim duty of family members to return to the house and gently break the news that their father had died.

Now it is feared the children will find themselves at the centre of a bitter custody battle between Michael’s ex-wife Debbie Rowe, mother of the eldest two, and the parents and siblings of the singer, who may be keen to bring them up as their own.

There is also concern the anonymous surrogate mother of “Blanket” may step forward to claim custody in a legal battle which could last years.

Until last year, when the children’s faces were finally pictured in Las Vegas, few outside the family and their staff had seen their impish smiles and fair skin. The star went to great lengths to protect their privacy. Now, no matter who wins any eventual custody fight, their upbringing could change dramatically.

Brian Oxman, the Jackson family’s long-time lawyer, suggested that the children would temporarily be placed in Michael’s mother’s care, saying, “Probably Mrs Jackson will take care of them, she loves them.”

The children may also be offered homes by their many godparents including British child star Mark Lester, who has said he will live up to his duties.

Mark and Michael’s families recently spent time together when the pop superstar was in London planning what were to be his comeback shows at The 02 arena in London.

Lester said he would “do anything” to help the three children, saying, “They’re the most fabulous kids. I’m here for them 24/7. Whatever they need, they’ve got from me.”

Legal experts predict Michael’s kids may well be the sole heirs to their father’s estate, however, his fortune has dwindled in recent years, and there were reports the singer was in $500 million debt. His 50-concert This Is It tour was believed by many to be a plan to save his finances.

“There might not actually be that much to inherit, at the end of the day,” says the source. “The most valuable asset Jackson probably has are his children.”

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Michael Jackson’s controversial life

From pet monkeys to plastic surgery and dark secrets, the life of Wacko Jacko was never dull, writes Katherine Chatfield.

Oxygen tents, a reclusive life in a private fun park called Neverland, a pet chimp, multiple face surgeries, his marriages and, of course, the court cases … Michael’s controversial life, at times, almost overshadowed his amazing musical talent.

His bizarre lifestyle started making news in the early 1980s when it was rumoured he slept in a hyperbaric chamber to maintain his youthful appearance, and took hormone supplements to maintain his high vocal range.

His appearance was also starting to change and, by the time Bad was released in 1987, his lighter skin and finely shaped nose drew criticism that he was denying his African heritage. But Jacko was adamant his skin change was due to vitiligo, a skin disorder that causes depigmentation.

Michael’s extensive plastic surgery became a source of endless fascination. Photos document the changing shape of his face and chin, and some detractors even suggested that the amount of surgery he’d had on his nose would eventually cause it to fall off.

In 1993, 13-year old Jordan Chandler accused Michael of sexually abusing him at Neverland. Michael denied it but settled out of court for a reported $US20million.

In May 1994, Michael married Lisa Marie Presley, stirring speculation the wedding was a stunt designed to boost Michael’s poor public image. Despite Lisa Marie going on TV to ask, “How can you fake this 24 hours a day?”, just 19 months later, she filed for divorce citing “irreconcilable differences”. Three years later, he married nurse Deborah Rowe.

Michael’s health was also causing talk. In 1995 he collapsed onstage from dehydration and low blood pressure, and concerns for his mental wellbeing were raised during a 2002 trip to Berlin when he dangled his veiled three-month old son “Blanket” from a fourth-floor balcony. He later admitted it was a “terrible mistake”.

Michael was accused of child abuse again in 2003, this time by 13-year old Gavin Arvizo. Arriving at court in his pyjamas and looking fragile, Michael was said to be eating only one meal a day and weighed in at just over 40kg. Despite his acquittal, Michael’s health never recovered.

In recent months rumours circulated that the singer was severely ill with a rare genetic condition, and that he was in need of a lung transplant as he was suffering emphysema.

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