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Review: *The Boys Are Back*

The Boys Are Back

Clive Owen shoots from the heart rather than a pistol in the new Scott Hicks film,The Boys Are Back, an adaptation of Simon Carr’s memoirThe Boys Are Back in Town(2001), which looks at the challenges men face as parents. Apparently this film has been eight years in the making, although Hicks and Owen were involved from the beginning.

Joe Warr (Owen) is a sports journalist, who returns from England to find his wife Katy (Laura Fraser) in ill health. It’s not too far into the film before there’s a funeral. He is then left with a difficult triumvirate of a demanding job, a spirited six-year-old son, Artie (Nicholas McAnulty), and having no idea of how to parent.

He tries, fails, and soon adopts the creed of “Just Say Yes”. If Artie wants to dive-bomb into a spa bath, take his bike through the house, or ride on the bonnet of a car, Joe’s response is to go along for the ride. And soon he is regressing into his childhood.

It’s when his son, Harry (George MacKay), from a previous marriage in England, wants to join him, and a local single mother, Laura (Emma Booth), comes into his life, as well as the constant battle to juggle the emotions of mother-in-law Barbara, that his novel approach to parenthood comes under the spotlight.

It’s family melodrama, and in the hands of a younger director, this story could easily turn to treacle. Yet, somehow it manages to avoid clichés. The mother-in-law, Barbara, so well played by Julia Blake, is real and sympathetic; the performance of Laura Fraser as Katy is very warm (try picking her real accent; she’s a Scot not an Aussie), and even in her short role does plenty. And the “performance” of McAnulty is amazing. According to Hicks, they wanted a child actor who didn’t act, and this kiddie is a natural. And George Mackay is a child actor whocanact, and does it well.

Much has been made of Emma Booth’s rising star, and it is warranted, although a little hyped. Clive Owen looks as though he’s in cruise control, but maybe it’s because he doesn’t have a shoot-out to drive him. But fans will love him, and his performance is true.

A lesser director would have grabbed for the heart strings and schmaltz, whereas Hicks goes for a natural pace and teases them gradually. And Greig Fraser’s photography is stunning. South Australia has never looked so good, as in so many films this year. It really has stolen the march on other states.

The Boys Are Backis a lovely film which brings out the natural humour and faults of its characters. There is no preaching here; this movie has a warm heart and while the edges are soft, they are not dull at all. And you will find your heart strings tingling before you know it.

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I faked an STD to expose his cheating

I’d just been transferred for work to a small country town. I’d only ever grown up in the city and I was finding it really tough adjusting to the new surroundings and the change of lifestyle. It felt like I was being watched and judged 24/7 by the locals.

I found it so hard to make friends as the town was very cliquey and didn’t welcome outsiders, which I was.

After being there a few months, I met a local guy called Sam. We were both having dinner at a restaurant and he came up to me and made small talk for no apparent reason which I found to be rather odd. People in the city don’t just walk up to strangers and engage them in a conversation.

Every so often I’d see him here or there, it was a small place and bumping into the same people was common.

I’d found out through the local grapevine that Sam was a fair bit younger than me. He was doing a construction apprenticeship and still living at home with his Mother and Father.

After a few “bump ins” at the pub and down the street, I found him incredibly immature and irritating and honestly couldn’t stand being anywhere near him.

Somehow Sam got my mobile phone number and he started texting me. He asked me out about a hundred times but was constantly rejected. I felt like he was just out for a good time when I wanted something a little bit more stable.

A few more months went by and I found myself growing lonelier and lonelier. I thought that perhaps I’d been a bit judgmental with Sam and that maybe I should get to know him first before dismissing him.

I called Sam up and we arranged to spend some time together. After a few weeks it turned into a relationship which Sam was very enthusiastic about.

It wasn’t long before I realised that Sam and I weren’t compatible. He was childish and inconsiderate and probably needed a babysitter more than a girlfriend. He’d get drunk on the weekends and ring me at all hours of the night to pick him up from wherever, and if I didn’t, he would walk to my house and knock on the door until I let him in.

He would stay over at my place every night and spend every moment of his spare time at my house. It got on my nerves like anything. I later found out that his parents, who had never met me, did not want me to come over to their house for some unknown reason.

I got quite close to one of Sam’s friends Stuart who I am still very good friends with to this day. I would often confide in him and went to him because he knew Sam best.

Stuart would often tell me that Sam was a bit of a “ladies man” and that he was talking to this female at the pub on the weekend, or he walked home with this female. This sparked my curiosity so I would confront Sam but he would just brush it off with a “I grew up with her, I was just walking her home safely” and that kind of rubbish. I dropped it but kept it at the back of my mind.

Every month, Sam would have to travel 3 hours away to do his TAFE course which went for a week. During that week, he’d study during the day and party hard at night.

One of these weeks, he came home with a hickey on his neck, clear as day. I confronted him about this and he said, “I couldn’t get her off me, she over powered me, we’re just mates, nothing happened, I swear, I only want to be with you.”

It was this point that in my head, the relationship was over. I wasn’t particularly upset but I was angry that he would think I am that stupid to believe an excuse as pathetic as that.

In the next few weeks, we drifted apart but he wouldn’t let go. I’d had enough and I wanted him out of my life. One night I rang him and told him he needed to come over, we needed to talk. I’d worked out a brilliant deception to get him out of my life.

He came over. I told him I’d been to the Doctor and had a blood test. I told him that I had contracted an STD and that he should probably get tested. He broke down. He confessed to me that he had been unfaithful for some time with various girls, including the one that had given him the hickey when he was at TAFE. Finally, it was confirmed. I told him to get out of my house and to never speak to me ever again.

I’m not proud of lying to him but it did lead me to the truth. I am much more careful now with who I let into my life and I will not allow myself to be treated like this ever again.

All names have been changed. Picture posed by models.

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How I lost my fiancé the day before our wedding

It was a fairy tale beginning. I was a bridesmaid at my cousins wedding while Richard was my matching groomsman. We were instantly attracted, spending the day getting to know each other and the night in each other’s arms on the dance floor.

I didn’t hesitate in giving him my number at the end of the evening, even with the knowledge that my boyfriend, Mike, was interstate at a conference.

Things weren’t going well with Mike, to say the least; our highlights were all in the bedroom where harsh words and angry tears were replaced by passion and fireworks.

We had been together for four years, on and off, and during the off times when I would start dating someone else, Mike would go to great lengths to get me back, and it didn’t take much persuading to get me back into bed with him. The guilt that followed meant an immediate end to many fledgling romances with other men.

My family didn’t like Mike, and were always encouraging me to take a break and give myself the opportunity of seeing what was out there. I could see the pleased looks on their faces at the wedding when they noticed the attraction Richard and I shared, and on the way home, my mother was full of praise for him and his wealthy family.

Richard sent me flowers at work the following day, and picked me up from my office in the evening so that I didn’t need to walk in the rain to catch my train. He took me to a small romantic restaurant with beautiful harbour views, and then left me on my doorstep with a sweet kiss on the lips.

I walked in, an hour and a half after I was due home, to find Mike snoring in front of the television, pizza box under one arm and several beer bottles scattered on the floor around him. The disgust I felt towards him and his evening ritual, especially after my dream evening with Richard, was enough for me to pack my bags and catch a cab back to my parents’ home.

My dad cried tears of joy when he opened the door and saw me with bags.

My love for Richard blossomed, and I made every effort to avoid Mike. I changed my phone number and even changed my job to avoid the risk of bumping into him in the city. Mike got the hint and didn’t bother with his usual tricks.

Meanwhile, Richard and I settled into a comfortable and happy life together. Because Richard had money, he showered me with gifts and weekends away. He even took me to Paris to mark our first anniversary, proposing to me on the Eiffel Tower.

I was happy but hesitant. Richard was perfect in every way, except I craved for him to be more like Mike in the bedroom. Every time we talked about setting a wedding date, I had a reason to put it off.

The reason for my hesitation was that, after returning from Paris, I came face to face with Mike. As much as I tried to resist him, we ended up back at his place. This time I vowed to be strong and make it the last time.

Every time I looked down at my hand, I was reminded of the love Richard and I shared. But it wasn’t enough for me to turn my back on Mike.

Despite this, I still set a wedding date with Richard for our fourth anniversary, made all the preparations, had a stunning ring made to fit around the large diamond engagement ring and ordered my designer wedding gown.

Richard made me book three months leave for our secret honeymoon as well. I later found out that it included a trip to Paris, a fortnight on a yacht off the coast of France, a trip through Egypt, Turkey and Greece, finishing with two weeks on a secluded island in the Maldives.

The wedding was fast approaching, and the tension I was feeling was building. I wanted a life with Richard, but I realised that I would never be finished with Mike.

In the end the decision was taken out of my hands. The day before we were due to be married, Richard came to see me. The look on his face said it all. He told me he wanted to hear from me what the truth was, and whether I could leave the past in the past and be his wife, and only his.

I told him about Mike, and that as much as I loved Richard, I could never be rid of Mike. Richard spent several hours, along with my parents, begging me to reconsider.

In the end, I feel that Richard is better off being set free. At least one of us is free. Mike has no remorse for what he has put me through and still continues to toy with my emotions.

I am seeing a counselor now, but my life is a miserable mess. I hear from my cousin that Richard sent his parents on the honeymoon and has moved interstate to be rid of me and any reminders of me.

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Oprah calls it quits

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She has seen and done it all; from sitting next to Tom Cruise as he jumped on her couch through to giving Dr Phil his shot at the big time. Oprah Winfrey is certainly the queen of all talk show hosts.

But after 25 years interviewing celebrities, politicians, movie stars and everyday people, Oprah has decided to call it quits.

It has been reported that her final show will air in September 2011 in her 25th season.

Oprah’s production company Harpo Inc revealed in a statement that Oprah would be making an official announcement on the show on Friday.

It is expected that Oprah will also comment on why she has decided to call it a day after 25 years.

The Oprah Winfrey Show is watched by 49 million people in the United States each week and broadcast in more than 145 countries.

Oprah has said that her mission statement for the show was to “use television to transform people’s lives, to make viewers see themselves differently and to bring happiness and a sense of fulfillment into every home”.

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Courteney Cox has her claws out

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When it comes to being a diva, Courteney Cox seems to have the role down pat. According to sources on the set of her new television show, Cougar Town, Cox seems to be taking the role a little too seriously.

According to an unnamed Cougar Town staffer, the former Friends star is “a control freak”, blasting members of the crew for not bringing her enough wardrobe changes through to putting the wrong meat to cheese ratio on a sandwich, the National Enquirer reported.

Courteney plays Jules Cobb on the US ABC show, a recently-divorced single mother who is now dating again. According to one crew member, Courteney is the one everyone on set is trying to avoid.

“Courteney is the star of the show and very domineering. She gives off this ‘I’m important and you’re not’ vibe,” the crew member reportedly told the National Enquirer.

“Courteney makes a huge number of script changes to make her character look good, and she is extremely picky about everything on the show.”

It seems the wardrobe department on set are also steering clear of Courteney after she apparently demanded five outfits but only received three.

“Courteney got so mad and told her she would be back in 10 minutes, saying, ‘If you don’t have what I requested, you’d better not show up next time,” a member of the wardrobe department reportedly said.

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How NOT to let your anxiety or phobia rub off onto your kids.

Around 25 per cent of Australian adults will, at some time in their lives, suffer from a diagnosable mental health problem, most prominently depression or anxiety, including phobias. And as many of these people will be parents, unfortunately some of these behaviours are bound to be passed-onto their children.

“Maybe someone can’t go into lifts; or onto planes; or can’t give a speech at work,” explains Leslie Posen, a Melbourne-based clinical psychologist, with a special interest in phobias and anxiety disorders.

“And while there is a strong family history involved with these conditions; we don’t really know for sure if they’re inherited or environmental (learned).

“But if parents are living with these themselves, then it is very easy to pass them onto the kids – as they’re so very perceptive and learn so much from watching and copying.”

Leslie explains that the more you try to hide your behaviour, the more conspicuous you actually become. “When kids see mum getting nervous and flustered, they’ll pick up on it,” he says. “So instead, you really need to make sure you are getting professional help if you feel you need it, and then try to demonstrate that you’re managing.

“For example, if your anxiety is about housework – or you might like shoes in the wardrobe to be lined up perfectly – then it’ll really help your kids if you say something like: “This is how I prefer things”; rather than insisting that this is how it must be done.

“Help kids to learn they can be flexible and have the control to do things their way.”

Some include:

  • Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)

  • Post traumatic stress

  • Social anxiety

  • Panic disorder

These behaviours become an issue when they have serious negative impact on a child’s life.

For more information about Leslie, his website address is: www.flightwise.com.au

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Spring fling with brights!

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The skies are just starting to show signs of the season ahead – the sun is shining and the trees are bursting with flowers. Take a hint from the runways around the world and put a burst of colour on your face, brush it on your lips or smudge it on your lids. Whichever way you do it, make it bold and bright!

In pictures: Brights on the catwalk

The ’80s are back! First, shoulder pads started to make their way from the catwalk to the streets, now the bright eyes and bold lips of the decade that gave us Knight Rider, Milli Vanilli and Rubik’s Cube are back.

Take your inspiration from the runway rather than Dynasty, with matt brights and natural neons. This is a tricky trend, so read on to get the know-how to pull it off.

Bright eyes

Give the black kohl a rest this spring and opt for eye-popping colour. GOSH Extreme Art Eyeliners are guaranteed to turn heads. They come in a rainbow of colours and, better still, they’re waterproof, so if the heavens open up mid-summer, your eyeliner is safe!

Take a deep breath and try out a brightly hued eyeshadow. You’ll be amazed how it lifts your look and your mood instantly. It might take some getting used to, but with the right shade for your skin tone, your peepers will stand out in the crowd. And, don’t forget, it comes off!

Lip smacking

They key this spring is not to be shy, but brave and bold. If you’ve got pale skin, go for pinks and lilacs. For darker skin tones, take a cue from the runway and go for orange and purple shades. Catwalk lipsticks (such as Prague, $4.95) are a great choice if you want to try this look out, without a massive financial commitment.

Finger paint

If a Shu Uemura green eyeshadow is too much for you, but you still want to give brights a go, give your nails a coat with one of this season’s brilliant new colours. OPI No Room For The Blues Nail Lacquer (rrp $19.95) is the perfect way to brighten up your day.

Gimme more

If you still want more colour in your beauty cabinet, Marc Jacobs Lola (rrp $160) is the fragrance for you. It smells delicious, with fruity top notes and base notes of vanilla, and comes in a beautiful (bright) bottle.

Check out the best bright products

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Britney misses audience connection

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After all the hype and lip-syncing controversy, Britney Spears finally performed her first show in Sydney last night. And although she was welcomed by a huge crowd with thunderous applause and cheers, it seemed the pop star didn’t exactly blow them away.

Yes, she looked amazing. Yes, there were all the elements a theatrical stage show should have. And yes, it was clear the crowd did love certain parts of the show, but it felt as though fans were left wanting something they didn’t get.

Apart from the very obvious fact that Britney was lip-syncing, she didn’t dance a great deal. In fact, she seemed to be out-danced by her back-up dancers.

The high-energy show included Britney (who looked stunning in an array of circus-themed outfits) dancing to a certain degree, but she mainly strutted in super-high heels from one end of the stage to the other.

The hard rap Britney’s receiving since hitting the stage in Australia is due to the fact she is following two big acts, Pink and Beyoncé, who did not disappoint with their long-running performances and tear-jerking moments.

It’s hard not to compare Britney’s performance to previous divas and pop stars who have performed here, especially when they seemed to have so much to offer and her performance was, in parts, a little lacking.

And the main element that was missing was a connection with the audience.

The pop princess greeted the crowd once after she had performed four songs, asking, “What’s up Sydney, how are you all feeling tonight?” and later thanked the crowd just before she ran off the side of the stage surrounded by security guards.

Fans stayed seated after she disappeared in the hope of an encore performance, but were left disappointed when the lights came on about five minutes later.

But it seems that no matter what is said about Britney’s show, her fans are willing to see it for themselves. It was hard to spot an empty seat at last night’s show and it seems this will be the case for her other Sydney performances as she is set to perform in front of more than 67,000 fans.

At the end of the day, if you’re a Britney fan you will like the show, because it’s Britney Spears, the pop princess, who is so fun to watch but not so fun to see perform.

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Review: *The Imaginarium of Dr Parnassus*

Heath Ledger in The Imaginarium of Dr Parnassus

It was always interesting to see what Terry Gilliam — the man responsible for the cheeky Monty Python animations — would do with a good script, excellent actors and a budget that would allow computer-generated graphics to unleash his imagination. And the result, The Imaginarium of Dr Parnassus, is somewhat amazing..

And of course, this is Heath Ledger’s last-ever film.

Thousands of years ago Dr Parnassus (a great romp for The Sound of Music‘s Christopher Plummer) won immortality in a bet with the devilish Mr Nick (Tom Waits). But Dr Parnassus traded his immortality for youth when he met the love of his life, on the condition that Mr Nick, the Devil, could collect their child’s soul on its 16th birthday.

Dr Parnassus also has a drinking habit to fund and other debts to pay, and his magic powers are used in a sideshow act, bringing imaginations to life inside the “Imaginarium”.

Dr Parnassus’ Imaginarium is a rickety old horse-drawn sideshow which creaks through the streets of modern London. While it promises to unlock dreams and imagination, no-one seems to notice it. Only drunks and computer-game obsessed children seem to wander in.

With his daughter, Valentina (Lily Cole), the adoring Anton (Andrew Garfield) and Percy (Verne Troyer, Mini-Me from Austin Powers in Goldmember), Dr Parnassus and his Imaginarium struggle on, until they save the enigmatic Tony from death.

Enter Heath Ledger. His silver-tongued charms transform their show, bringing rewards as jaded shoppers step through the Imaginarium’s magic mirror, coming out seconds later swinging with joy and emptying their purses. Literally. But Tony’s dubious past catches up with him around about the same time as the Devil, Mr Nick, comes to collect Parnassus’ daughter.

The Devil offers Parnassus a final way out, and it merely requires him to collect more souls that the Devil in the Imaginarium.

It’s when we step through the mirror that the screen lights up with Gilliam’s brilliant imagery and vivid colours, in stark contrast to the dark gothic streets of London. You can feel his joy as he teases us without visual boundaries, and each scene is a hallucinogenic trip. The only problem is you may not want to return to the story.

Heath Ledger was apparently still buzzing from his performance as The Joker in Dark Knight and adlibs a lot of his role. It’s a performance which shows off his versatility rather than his quality. A range of A-list actors (Johnny Depp, Jude law and Colin Farrell) fill in the missing scenes when Tony steps through the mirror, so we forgive the crazy changes and accept it as a tribute of sorts. There was so much more to come.

There are some great performances, particularly by Plummer, Troyer and Waits. Garfield (Lions for Lambs) is more annoying than endearing, and Lily Cole (St Trinian’s) is a better supermodel than actress. And Heath’s Dark Knight role had more power.

Parnassus’ story — one which Gilliam jokingly referred to as autobiographical — is of the struggling artist who wants people to lose themselves in their imagination for a time through the magic of the artist. It is also about making deals with the Devil and others’ dreams of an ordinary existence.

The sprawling story loses its focus at times, probably because Gilliam was lost in the Imaginarium himself, which is understandable. If you’re in the mood for a fun ride, with some black humour and bright visuals, strap yourself in. It’s a wild place to be.

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How Sunday has changed Keith Urban

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Country-music sensation Keith Urban has said his “heart stretched” the day he became a father to daughter Sunday Rose.

“I think, as Nicole has said, it’s just the stretching of the heart,” the singer, who is married to Aussie beauty Nicole Kidman, told STV Entertainment .

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“It is an indescribable feeling! It was much like the first time [daughter] Sunday cried, when she came into the world. There are certain things in life you have to experience, otherwise, it’s just a vague concept of what it would be like. It’s had such a big impact on my life.”

Keith said Sunday Rose has changed his life so much that he now schedules his concerts so he can spend more time with “his girls”.

“I structured the tour so I would do three shows in a row, then take about three or four days off,” Urban said. “Now we have Sunday, it is about enjoying the simple pleasures — just being able to say ‘Goodnight’ to my girls and not be on the phone doing it.”

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