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Paulini: My mum saved my life

The former Idol reveals to CLARE RIGDEN how her mother stepped in to put a stop to her partner’s abuse.

After the first series of Australian Idol, she was one of Australia’s brightest stars, but Paulini Curuenavuli’s home life wasn’t so glamorous. A victim of domestic abuse, she endured beatings that left her emotionally and physically scarred.

“There was a point where I said to myself, if I don’t leave now, I won’t make it,” she reveals. “Things were getting so bad that I was fearing for my life in those last few weeks.”

Paulini reveals how it was her mum, Miliana, who finally broke the cycle and rescued her.

“One afternoon things had got so bad that [Mum] saw the aftermath of what had happened, and that was it,” Paulini recalls. “She said, ‘OK, if you don’t want to do anything about this, I’m going to.’ And she took steps to inform the CEO of the company that was looking after my ex-partner. They were helpful and tried to get help for him.”

Paulini has made the brave decision to speak out about the abuse – widely believed to have taken place when she was dating NRL player Wes Naiqama – as a way of raising awareness.

She says she was one of the lucky ones because she had the support that made it possible for her to walk away.

“My mum and dad and my friends were so supportive all the way,” she says. “Even when they saw all of this happening, and I didn’t see it, still they were standing by me.

“I want to encourage women out there to talk to people – talk to family, talk to friends, talk about what is happening.”

And that’s exactly what Paulini is doing now.

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Hugh Forgives his mum

The Aussie star puts the past behind him, as he welcomes his mother into his family.

Hugh Jackman and his mother Grace are enjoying being a family again after years of heartbreak, following her decision to walk out on her son when he was aged just eight.

Enjoying a day out in Manhattan with Hugh’s daughter Ava, 3, mother and son have clearly put the painful past behind them. Friends say that British-based Grace has been happy to help out with the kids while Hugh’s wife, Deborra-Lee, has been in Australia raising awareness of adoption issues. But things weren’t always so easy.

Hugh recalls the pain of arriving home one day from school to find his mother gone. She sent a telegram the following day informing her family that she was returning to her native England, where she raised her daughters Zoe and Sonia.

Her three boys, Hugh, Ian and Ralph, remained in Sydney with their father Chris.

While Hugh confesses that his mum’s sudden departure cast a long shadow over his childhood and teens, he says the passage of time and an increased understanding of the emotional torment she was going through at the time –reported to be undiagnosed postnatal depression – have helped them rebuild their relationship.

“I had some very dark periods as a child but we’ve made peace with each other,” Hugh says. “The bottom line is, I never felt that my mum didn’t love me.

“Now that I’m an adult and have talked to her, I can see there was no other way she could see to solve it at the time.

“My mother was not well. I always hoped she would come back, but I never blamed her for anything that went wrong.

“On some level I understood that she was not in a great way. But it was a big tumultuous change.

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Mark Holden now a legal eagle

Sporting an imposing barrister’s robe and wig as he stands on the steps of Melbourne’s Supreme Court, Mark Holden is almost unrecognisable as the flamboyant former Australian Idol judge who coined the catchphrase “Touchdown!”.

But Mark, who once described his persona on the popular TV talent quest as “loony”, couldn’t be more serious about his new career in the courtroom.

Having completed a law degree almost four decades after he began studying for one, the 55-year-old former singer and actor is ready for the spotlight in an entirely different arena – as a barrister.

“I started my law degree in 1971 and dropped out three subjects short of my final year, when I was signed to EMI for my first album,” Mark says.

“I always felt it was unfinished business, and it bothered me.

I like to finish things I start, so I eventually did.

“Then, after Australian Idol ended for me two years ago, I had a year off and met Melbourne barrister William Lye. He encouraged me to become a barrister and became my mentor. Everything lined up, and it became a reality.”

Happily immersing himself in the law, the father of two admits there is a theatrical side to his new line of work.

“That’s a part of it that appeals to me – there is an element of understanding your audience and of personal projection,” Mark says.

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Alan’s cancer fight

There’s no denying that radio king Alan Jones, AO, is contrary, cantankerous and combative, with his no-holds-barred approach to life winning listeners across the country, as well as every radio ratings survey in history.

An equally tough, get-on-with-it attitude towards prostate cancer and then a brain tumour have earned him the respect of prime ministers, presidents and his devoted listeners; he has endured no less than five operations in the past year.

But it’s not just his own struggles that have made the subject of brain tumours deeply personal for Alan.

First there was the devastation of losing his friend Aaron McMillan, a brilliant pianist who put together a collection of piano works from a hospice bed before he died of a brain tumour in 2007. Alan fulfilled Aaron’s dream by sponsoring production of his CDs to the tune of $35,000.

Equally, Alan provided emotional support to reality TV doctor Chris O’Brien, the inspirational head and neck cancer specialist who died in June this year, ironically from a brain tumour.

“I supported Aaron because he was such a wonderful fighter and I encourage all people with cancer or a negative diagnosis to set their face and mind against it,” Alan says.

“On top of that, Aaron was uncomplaining. People don’t want to hear you whingeing. Get on with it. Look for the good things … and that’s what we talked about. Because the music was his creation and inspiration, I thought the world was entitled to hear it.

“Chris, too, was a fighter. You must fight. Some people lose, not because they’re beaten, but because they didn’t fight.”

Now, not even a year after Alan’s own diagnosis of a benign thumbnail-sized brain tumour that threatened to invade his vocal cords, he has turned to yet another musical project to help others.

This time Alan is helping babies and children with brain tumours by promoting and singing on a delightful children’s rock ’n’ roll nursery rhyme CD.

Family and friends of children with tumours and a few tumour patients sing their hearts out to raise awareness for brain tumours, the most common solid childhood cancer in children, and one of the most difficult to treat.

Country stars Troy Cassar-Daley and Felicity Urquhart, Home And Away’s Rebecca Breeds, top trumpeter James Morrison, and children’s entertainer George Washingmachine all perform on the CD along with Alan.

They’re joined by the Skat Kats band, started up by family and friends of children with brain tumours, and even some of the patients themselves.

“It’s easy to support a project which helps young people be happy in their environment, especially if at times that environment involves personal struggle,” Alan says.

“Music is one of the great languages of life and gives us a capacity to think beyond the circumstances that envelop us.”

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Our shoot with Idol’s 2009 top four

The fab final four Australian Idol 2009 contestants Stan Walker, Hayley Warner, Nathan Brake and James Johnston, invited Woman’s Day to hang out with them recently for a lunch and photo shoot.

The foursome were all smiles on the set of the shoot as they prepared for the final weeks of the competition.

The group took some time out from the shoot and their busy Idol schedule to have a bite to eat!

Stan Walker and Hayley Warner share a joke over lunch.

Over lunch the group discussed their expereinces on Idol and who they thought would make it to the final two.

Nathan Brake and James Johnston who have since left the competition were extactic to have made it to the final four.

After lunch the Idols went straight back into model mode and were all smiles for our camera!

Although the fourseome struck some great poses…

…no all of them were serious!

Hayley obvously trusts her fellow contestants!

After the successful shoot, the Idols couldn’t help playing around!

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The devil unmasked

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Anna Wintour

On the eve of her 60th birthday, Anna Wintour, fashion’s imperious ice queen, seems to be coming in from the cold, writes Sharon Krum.

For 21 years, Anna Wintour has been famous for her ice-queen reputation. She’s been called Vogue’s “feted dominatrix”, a dragon, a bitch — and probably the most inventive nickname, “Nuclear Wintour”.

In pictures: Anna Wintour

Meryl Streep immortalised her in The Devil Wears Prada and the new hit documentary, The September Issue, has only cemented the US Vogue editor-in-chief’s status as the only woman in the world who can run a magazine, anoint designers, dictate fashion trends and make underlings quake, all with one sharp word.

“She could be late to every fashion show in the world and they would hold it for her,” says fashion journalist Marylou Luther. “She has more power than anyone in fashion.”

Notoriously private for two decades, British-born Anna was the razor-thin fashion editor with the trademark bob and Jackie O sunglasses who became a myth by saying precious little. Suddenly, however, on the eve of turning 60, Anna has come in from the cold, appearing on the big screen, joking with US talk-show host David Letterman and signing autographs for regular folks at a shopping mall.

“It’s weird when you go out with her and you hear photographers calling, ‘Anna, Anna, Anna’,” says her daughter, Bee Shaffer, who, at 22, is not above receiving her own fashion critiques from her mother.

The evolution of Anna Wintour

“I was going on a date and she told me to change, but I didn’t listen,” says the feisty Bee. “I don’t think of her as being famous.”

Yet Anna Wintour is now a bona fide celebrity — and, fascinatingly — it’s all been her choice. Rumours have flown in gossipy New York that the frosty, imperious Anna might be replaced with fresh blood: someone sexier, such as French Vogue‘s Carine Roitfeld or Russian Vogue‘s Aliona Doletskaya.

“Anna has decided to come out of hiding in recent months because she’s actually fearful of her position at Vogue,” says Jerry Oppenheimer, author of Front Row: Anna Wintour: The Cool Life and Hot Times of Vogue’s Editor in Chief.

“Sixty is a turning point for every woman, especially one so high-profile and conscious of looks and beauty. Then, the magazine business is in trouble; there are cutbacks at Condé Nast [Vogue‘s parent company]. I think she worries her time may be up. Anna is a great politician and she’s like a candidate out there campaigning.”

Read more about Anna Wintour in the November issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly out now with Sarah Murdoch on the cover.

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Glasses are not nerdy!

It’s official: glasses are the hottest fashion accessory you can wear this summer, and we aren’t talking about sunglasses.

That’s right, according to Project Runway Australia‘s style guru, Henry Roth, glasses are cool and happen to be a must-have piece for the summer season (even if you don’t need them).

The self-confessed nerd, who has been wearing glasses since he was 13, told Woman’s Day that the days of glasses being “uncool” and “nerdy” are over. In fact, he says he has witnessed people wearing specs, that aren’t even prescription.

The trend is so popular that it is now possible to have frames fitted with glass that is non-prescription, but has anti-glare, just to get the look.

Henry said glasses fashion has come a long way and recalls a time when it was considered daggy and unfashionable to be seen wearing glasses.

“Not only was it daggy to wear glasses, but to add injury to insult you also had to wear a patch on one eye and people were ridiculed,” he said.

“It was the worst news in the world to be told you had to get glasses.”

The stylist, who lives and breaths fashion, is thankful those days are over and welcomes glasses as a way to really reflect your personal style.

“Glasses are all about the reflection of your personality and the expression of self,” he said.

“There are basic rules which are always good to follow but it’s your personality and style that should come through.”

Despite there being the “bread and butter” rules of which glasses suit which face to be followed, Henry’s advice is to take a chance and try something fun.

So what’s in for summer 2009-10? Henry says the sexy secretary look will return for women along with the Clark Kent look for guys.

“Glasses that are all about attitude, that say ‘Here I am I’m confident take a look at me’,” he said.

“In 2010 it’s all about the return of the sexy secretary and all about mystery and being smouldering. Think A-line skirts, a light chiffon blouse or for a relaxed look Havaiana thongs with bright pink mail polish and gold or burnt orange framed glasses.”

Henry says glasses should not be overlooked when getting ready for a night on the town. He said glasses are also a great fashion accessory for evening wear.

“For night time for ladies the little back dress or a chiffon layered dress with high heels and think Swarovski cuffs teamed with diamond framed glasses,” he said.

“You want the look of innocence but there is more to it than meets the eye.”

And for the guys?

“In 2010 for guys the return of the chic/quirky nerd is back,” Henry said. “It’s about short hair with a side shirt part, oversized black rimmed glasses, a T-shirt and lace-up shoes. It’s a very hip European feel.”

When it comes to celebrities rocking the glasses look, Henry says there are definitely some stand outacts to follow.

“Justin Timberlake is the poster child for the Clark Kent look, Simon Baker gives frames a really good name, while Jude Law has a classic conservative look” he said.

“When it comes to the ladies, Scarlett Johansson and Kate Hudson from time to time are the ones to watch.”

Henry says there are three rules which are important to follow, when choosing glasses or any other fashion accessory.

“Firstly, overall the worst thing you can do is not to branch out and not reflect your personality,” Henry said. “The second is to remember that no one has the right to tell you what fashion is, including me. If you like what you are wearing and you feel comfortable in it then you will own it. And specs are a huge new accessory for summer 2010!”

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Chocolate to help you lose weight

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It’s the news we’ve all been waiting to hear: chocolatiers in Spain have invented a chocolate that can help you lose weight..

The chocolate is called Lola and it contains ingredients designed to trick your body into thinking you are full and therefore restrict overeating, the UK’s Daily Mail reported.

On display in Madrid for the international chocolate show, Lola will initially be sold only in Spain but there is the possibility of making its way to overseas markets, starting with the UK, if the product receives enough interest.

Before you book your trip to Spain, you might want to know that the chocolate does have a green tinge to it, due to some unusual ingredients, and it also costs almost $10 for a pack of five.

The inventors recommend people eat one or two of the chocolates an hour before eating to give the chocolates time to work effectively.

“They’ll feel pleasantly full and less like eating to excess,” inventor Armando Yanes said. “The chocolate has an intense flavour and extremely high antioxidant properties.”

The colour of the chocolate is slightly green due to the addition of spirulina, a microscopic algae, which has high levels of nutrients that can have weight-loss benefits.

The makers also claim that amino acids in the recipe stimulate the production of a hormone in the brain that suppresses the appetite.

The idea of a product designed to suppress hunger is not a new one, weight-loss toothpastes, soups, pills and other forms of lollies have been tried with limited success.

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Vitamin D: the sunshine vitamin

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Summer is at our doorstep and we’re all starting to enjoy more time outdoors in the sunshine. But even though the sun’s ultraviolet rays on our skin help us produce vitamin D in our bodies, recent studies have found that Australians are mildly deficient.

Unlike other key nutrients, there are few dietary sources of vitamin D. To get adequate vitamin D, we need to spend time in the sun. The sun-safe message has been delivered to us strongly in Australia, and rightly so. We have one of the highest skin-cancer rates in the world. But we need some safe sun exposure to meet our daily vitamin D requirements.

Why do we need it?

Vitamin D has a number of roles in our body, but the most important is the absorption and use of calcium to maintain strong, healthy bones. A deficiency in vitamin D can result in bones fracturing easily and if untreated can last for life.

Vitamin D can have positive effects on mood and deficiencies can result in depression in some people. The elderly, as well as people who are immobile due to sickness or injury and people who cover up in the sun, are at highest risk of vitamin D deficiency. You can ask your doctor to have your vitamin D status checked if you think you’re at risk.

How do we get enough vitamin D?

In the summer, because the ultraviolet rays are stronger, you only need to spend around 10 minutes in the sun each day. In winter, this increases to 30 minutes. Though, the elderly and people with dark skin may need longer exposure because they don’t produce vitamin D compounds as quickly.

The Cancer Council recommends that people expose their face, hands and arms to a daily dose of sunshine but avoid the peak ultraviolet period between 10am and 3pm.

There are some dietary sources of vitamin D, so consuming eggs, oily fish or margarine that is fortified with vitamin D can help top up levels gained from sunshine. The issue of vitamin D highlights the importance of a balanced approach to living. One that includes nutritious foods, physical activity and time spent outdoors in fresh air and sunlight.

This information is provided by the Sanitarium Nutrition Service.

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Review: *The Boys Are Back*

The Boys Are Back

Clive Owen shoots from the heart rather than a pistol in the new Scott Hicks film,The Boys Are Back, an adaptation of Simon Carr’s memoirThe Boys Are Back in Town(2001), which looks at the challenges men face as parents. Apparently this film has been eight years in the making, although Hicks and Owen were involved from the beginning.

Joe Warr (Owen) is a sports journalist, who returns from England to find his wife Katy (Laura Fraser) in ill health. It’s not too far into the film before there’s a funeral. He is then left with a difficult triumvirate of a demanding job, a spirited six-year-old son, Artie (Nicholas McAnulty), and having no idea of how to parent.

He tries, fails, and soon adopts the creed of “Just Say Yes”. If Artie wants to dive-bomb into a spa bath, take his bike through the house, or ride on the bonnet of a car, Joe’s response is to go along for the ride. And soon he is regressing into his childhood.

It’s when his son, Harry (George MacKay), from a previous marriage in England, wants to join him, and a local single mother, Laura (Emma Booth), comes into his life, as well as the constant battle to juggle the emotions of mother-in-law Barbara, that his novel approach to parenthood comes under the spotlight.

It’s family melodrama, and in the hands of a younger director, this story could easily turn to treacle. Yet, somehow it manages to avoid clichés. The mother-in-law, Barbara, so well played by Julia Blake, is real and sympathetic; the performance of Laura Fraser as Katy is very warm (try picking her real accent; she’s a Scot not an Aussie), and even in her short role does plenty. And the “performance” of McAnulty is amazing. According to Hicks, they wanted a child actor who didn’t act, and this kiddie is a natural. And George Mackay is a child actor whocanact, and does it well.

Much has been made of Emma Booth’s rising star, and it is warranted, although a little hyped. Clive Owen looks as though he’s in cruise control, but maybe it’s because he doesn’t have a shoot-out to drive him. But fans will love him, and his performance is true.

A lesser director would have grabbed for the heart strings and schmaltz, whereas Hicks goes for a natural pace and teases them gradually. And Greig Fraser’s photography is stunning. South Australia has never looked so good, as in so many films this year. It really has stolen the march on other states.

The Boys Are Backis a lovely film which brings out the natural humour and faults of its characters. There is no preaching here; this movie has a warm heart and while the edges are soft, they are not dull at all. And you will find your heart strings tingling before you know it.

Your say: Have you seen this film? What did you think?

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