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Not so Serena

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Coming out of a tough area of LA, Serena Williams isn’t your ordinary tennis champion. Sheer grit has seen her overcome huge obstacles to reclaim the world’s number one ranking. We find out what makes the superstar tick.

Two years ago, Serena Williams let out a mighty yelp. She was playing in the Australian Open, she was slow, overweight and had sunk to 81st in the world rankings. And she had just about had enough. At that moment, it was impossible to know whether she’d had enough of success or of failing.

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The yelp proved to be a turning point. Match by match, she remade herself. She slapped her thighs, swore at herself and forced herself on. Astonishingly, she reached the final to play the in-form Maria Sharapova.

So, that was that. After all, she’d played hardly any match tennis for two years and you couldn’t win a major on willpower alone. Former Wimbledon champion Pat Cash had called Serena “deluded” when she said she planned to be number one again.

Serena did not simply beat Sharapova that day, she annihilated her. It was one of the most unlikely victories the sport has seen. By the end, the woman who could barely stretch for a ball in her first match was lithe, fast, subtle and brutal.

After the match, she rolled on her back, legs kicking in the air like a puppy. She bowed and blew kisses, mouthed, “Oh my God!” and whooped and whooped again. Then she made a thank-you speech that said everything you needed to know about the rise and fall of Serena Jameka Williams.

“I would like to dedicate this win to my sister, who’s not here. Her name is Yetunde. I just love her so much … So, thanks, Tunde,” she said, before breaking down in tears. Tunde, her eldest sister, was killed in a drive-by shooting in Compton, Los Angeles, in 2003.

In September this year, Serena Williams completed what may well be regarded as world tennis’ most remarkable comeback, when, at a tournament in Japan, she overtook Russian Dinara Safina to reclaim the world number one ranking.

It’s a resurrection of Lazarus proportions, though not without bumps along the way, such as Serena’s extraordinary outburst at the US Open earlier that same month, when, in a semi-final against Belgian Kim Clijsters, she abused a line official, screaming that “if I could, I’d take this f—ing ball and shove it down your f—ing throat.”

The incident showed the world that serenity is a sometimes elusive state for Serena and gave a glimpse of the high pressure and deep emotions that simmer below the surface.

In 2003, Serena Williams became only the fifth woman in history to hold all four majors simultaneously. Today, she has reclaimed two of them, winning the 2009 Australian Open and Wimbledon titles, and, for good measure, taking the doubles titles in Melbourne and London with sister Venus, for the second successive year.

It’s an extraordinary story, but not one that comes on its own. It’s also the story of her sister, Venus, and of the whole Williams clan, and it belongs as much to myth and marketing as to fact.

Your say: What do you think of the Williams sisters? Do you think Serena is a good role model? Does it matter? Share your thoughts below…

Read more about Serena in the December issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly out now with Julie Goodwin on the cover.

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My fight for life

Photography by Tim Bauer. Styling by Stav Hortis

Photography by Tim Bauer. Styling by Stav Hortis

Navy diver Paul de Gelder survived a savage shark attack, but despite his horrific injuries, as he tells us, he’s not going to let that stand in his way.

It was a beautiful February morning, with the early sun dancing on the still waters of Sydney Harbour. From his position, swimming on his back between Garden Island and Mrs Macquarie’s Chair, navy diver Paul de Gelder could see the elegant lines of the Opera House.

The anti-terrorism exercise was just another day at work for Paul, 32, but that was about to change in a heartbeat. He was struck from below, a bone-jarring jolt that took his breath away. In milliseconds, he flipped over and found himself staring straight into the cold, black eyes of a massive bull shark – one of the ocean’s most aggressive predators, known as “the pit bull of the sea”.

His left leg was in the shark’s jaws and he went to lash at the shark with his left hand, planning to jab it in the eye, but it was too late. Its razor-sharp teeth had already closed around his wrist. “I tried to push it off with my other hand and punch it on the nose, then it started shaking me,” says Paul. “Sharks have teeth that work like a saw and that’s when the pain started. It was all instinct: fight or flight.

“I didn’t feel anything after it shook me … the adrenalin kicked in. I didn’t have time to think. I didn’t even know that my hand was gone. It was only when I started swimming freestyle to get away and back to the boat that I looked up and there was no hand there.”

Amazingly, the former paratrooper had the presence of mind – after four years of intensive naval training – to sidestroke his way back to his boat.

His shocked colleagues hauled him aboard and, through his daze, he heard them swear. His face was so white, his supervisor thought he was dead. Yet, when Paul’s eyes started rolling back in his head, he punched him hard, to try to keep him awake. Everyone knew that was his only chance of survival.

The attack on Paul sent shockwaves around the country. It was the fifth shark attack in two months and the first in Sydney Harbour in a decade. A day later, a surfer was mauled off Bondi Beach. As hysteria reached fever pitch and made front-page news, Paul was fighting for his life in Sydney’s St Vincent’s Hospital.

His girlfriend of a year, Kim Elliott, 29, stayed by his side constantly.

“When they phoned me to say he’d been attacked by a shark, I didn’t believe it at first,” she says. “I thought it was a joke. But when they insisted and I asked if he was all right, they just said I should get to hospital quickly.

“The doctors there told me he’d lost a hand and would probably lose his leg, too. My first thought was that he wouldn’t be able to ride his beloved motorbike again, but then I was just thrilled he was alive.”

Paul begged the doctors to save his savagely mauled leg, but, unable to feel his foot, he was filled with dread. “They gave me the option: I could keep the leg, which would be useless and I’d just drag it around for years, or they’d take it off and give me a prosthetic. They explained that if they cut it off, I could be up and running with a prosthetic within 12 months. It wasn’t that tough a decision.”

Your say: What words of encouragement would you like to send to Paul? Did the spate of shark attacks last summer frighten you at all? Share your thoughts below…

Read the rest of this incredible story in the December issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly out now with Julie Goodwin on the cover.

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Hey, Dad!

Photography by Peter Brew-Bevan. Styling by Maia Liakos

Photography by Peter Brew-Bevan. Styling by Maia Liakos

Missing out on the top spot in the Liberal party to Tony Abbott this week, Joe Hockey had been touted as a future Liberal leader and even PM. Shadow Treasurer Joe Hockey has a demanding job, but, as he tells us, nothing compares to being a father.

Ignatius Theodore Babbage-Hockey. When Joe Hockey and wife Melissa Babbage named their third child, born on October 19, it was not on a whim. “Ignatius is for Ignatius Loyola, founder of the Jesuits, and the creed of Ignatius was to be ‘a man for others’. That’s what we want our Ignatius to be, a man in the service of others,” explains Joe. “And his middle name is Theodore, meaning ‘gift from God’, and Ignatius is that because the doctors said Melissa, at 43, was too old to have another child.”

When Joe scaled Mount Kilimanjaro, in Tanzania in July to raise funds for children’s hospitals, he carried something more precious than water, energy bars and medical equipment. On reaching the summit, exhausted and elated, Joe fell to his knees, “and I buried Ignatius’ ultrasound X-ray.

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“The ultrasound was proof positive that the doctors were wrong and, besides, I think every child should start life from the top of the mountain,” he declares.

As crucial political issues go, the Emissions Trading Scheme (ETS) is right up there. On Sunday, October 18, federal Liberal Party leader Malcolm Turnbull summoned his frontbenchers to Canberra to endorse the Opposition’s amendments to the government’s ETS policy. Yet shadow Treasurer Hockey was facing an even more important issue – Melissa was due to give birth to the baby in the ultrasound, at the Mater Hospital in North Sydney.

“When Malcolm said I had to be at the meeting, I told him it was a big ask because Melissa was due any moment, but I flew down,” Joe says.

“I was there for the morning session, but by the afternoon, I was really nervous. Finally, I told Malcolm, ‘The wrath of my colleagues is nothing compared to the wrath of my wife if I miss this birth. See ya!’ ”

When Ignatius was born, at 12.07pm the next day, Joe was at Melissa’s side, as delighted as when Ignatius’ brother and sister, Xavier, now four, and Adelaide, two-and-a-half, were born. “First, I felt relief when the baby was born healthy. Then I went, ‘It’s a boy!’ Then it struck me that he was a normal-sized baby, not a huge baby like his sister and brother had been,” recalls the proud dad.

Your say: What do you think of Joe Hockey? Share your thoughts below…

Read more from this interview in the December issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly out now with Julie Goodwin on the cover.

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When the party’s over

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What do famous faces get up to beyond the velvet ropes of those swish A-list soirees? Some less than stellar behaviour.

Ouch! No, you’re not in physical agony, although the hangover is probably a doozy. Instead, this sting is a memory that you would give anything to forget. You’ve woken up and recalled dancing on the office photocopier, swinging on your neighbours’ curtains Tarzan-style or crash-tackling an off-duty Santa.

What’s worse is that others witnessed the dubious behaviour of your other self, the one that comes out only during party season.

Before you contemplate a one-way flight to Uzbekistan to avoid the humiliation, console yourself with one sobering thought – at least photographs of your shame won’t be published for the world to see the next day.

In other words, at least you’re not famous.

You see, celebrities make mistakes, too, only theirs often wind up as front-page fodder, allowing those of us denied access to their world of free champagne, famous friends and posh privilege a delicious slug of schadenfreude.

Tips for celebritoes

  • Wear underwear when you leave home and keep it on.

  • Enter a toilet cubicle solo.

  • Don’t be videotaped having sex – it will be leaked.

  • Don’t go back to work if you’ve had one too many and you’re a TV presenter.

  • “Plus one” on an invite means plus one person – not an entire entourage.

  • If you’re slurring the word “taxi”, you need one.

  • If you run a red light, just pay the damn ticket.

  • If you’re banging your head against a fence, it’s time to go home.

  • Remember that goodie bags are gifts, not rights.

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Conjoined twins: Our unbreakable bond

As the nation prays for Krishna and Trishna, JOSEPHINE AGOSTINO looks at the special bond understood by only a handful of people around the world.

While the 32-hour operation to separate Krishna and Trishna in a Melbourne hospital made headlines around the world last week, another set of conjoined twins were embarking on a life-changing journey of their own.

Nineteen-year-old Brittany and Abigail Hensel are about to walk down the aisle.

In a rare feat for conjoined twins, the US-based Hensels have survived into adulthood inextricably entwined, at least in body. And yet even now, with unconfirmed reports that Brittany is set to marry while Abigail remains single, they have no desire to separate.

How the pair will deal with sex, as they share organs below the navel, is not yet known.

Their fiercely protective mother, Patty, has no doubt they will overcome this challenge, as they have other problems. “[The girls] never give up,” says Patty, a nurse. “Anything they want to do, they go out and do it.”

Brittany and Abigail share one body fused at the torso, and one set of legs and arms, but have two spines that join at the pelvis, two hearts, and a set of lungs and stomach each.

Cases like theirs occur in one in 100,000 pregnancies, when a fertilised egg fails to divide fully into identical twins. For reasons unknown, about 70 per cent are girls. Their shared internal organs are usually severely deformed. Very few survive.

Although Brittany – the left twin – can’t feel anything on the right side of her body and Abigail – the right twin – can’t feel anything on her left, instinctively their limbs move as if coordinated by one person, even when they type on the computer and play the piano.

Yet, somehow the girls have carved out entirely independent identities. They have different taste in boys, food and clothes – often wearing contrasting leggings and shoes – and even have separate driver’s licences.

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Karen Bell: Baby Conor is healing my heart

When her three children were murdered by her husband last year, Karen Bell thought she would never survive the agony. Now she tells Glen Williams how love and joy are helping mend the sorrows of the past.

Karen Bell sits by a sunny window singing to her precious nine-week-old baby boy.

She drinks him in, not for a moment embarrassed by the tears of happiness that glisten in her eyes. Those same eyes have all too frequently shed tears of unimaginable sorrow.

The scene is one of sheer wonder. Karen Bell is a mum again – a role she was clearly born to play.

Karen knows this beautiful moment is totally surreal, something she could never have imagined a little more than a year ago. Back then, she was in the throes of fleeing a violent marriage. Back then, on June 22, 2008, her abusive and estranged husband, Gary Poxon, committed the most unspeakable act of cruelty.

He took their three children – Jack, then 8, Maddie, 7, and baby Bon, 16 months – and killed them by running two hoses into the cabin of his four-wheel drive, filling it with lethal carbon monoxide.

Gary also died alongside his children in the vehicle. Consumed by unrelenting grief, Karen told Woman’s Day she didn’t think she could ever love or trust a man again.

The thought of ever finding happiness? Completely impossible. There would be no coming back from this horror.

Then along came Dean Gray, the brother of Karen’s best friend. A big-hearted bloke of few words, Dean tenderly guided her through her saddest moments, showing her a kindness she’d rarely known. Their friendship became love, and their happiness spilled over into joy with the safe arrival of Connor Jack Gray at Bega Hospital in the early hours of September 25.

“We can’t stop kissing him,” Karen says softly, careful not to waken her little treasure. “We’re so happy. I’ve been really happy these past few months with Dean, and this just makes us complete.”

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Nicole tells: Bella and Sunday Rose are worlds apart

Nicole Kidman has finally opened up about her unusual relationship with her older children, Isabella, 16, and Connor, 14, frankly revealing that the pair, with whom she hasn’t been photographed since 2007, have little time for her baby daughter, Sunday Rose.

The star, who is out promoting her new movie musical, Nine, confesses that the children she adopted with former husband Tom Cruise are typical teenagers, with little time for the latest addition to the family.

“Well, she’s their second baby sister and they’re 16 and 14, and only interested in their friends, but they are good with her,” Nicole told UK magazine, She. “Connor wants a boy – maybe I will try again.”

There is speculation that the Aussie star may have been shut out of their lives since her split from strict Scientologist Tom, but she insists that she remains close to them.

Nicole, 42, who first became a mum at 26, admits she is finding it difficult juggling the competing needs of a toddler and a teen.

“They’re polar opposites. With Bella, I’m being someone she can confide in, while trying not to tell her what to do. With Sunday, I have to show her how to do everything … It’s really keeping me on my toes.”

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Exclusive: Shelly’s surprise beach wedding!

The effervescent Domestic Blitz star tells Glen Williams she has at last found real domestic bliss – marrying her best friend in a secret seaside wedding.

They dreamed it would be the perfect day, low key, but brilliant – and it was.

Shelley Craft and Christian Sergiacomi, two soul mates exchanging marriage vows on the shores of their “most special place in the world”, Belongil Beach at Byron Bay.

Beside the turquoise water, a stunning Shelley walked towards the man who has turned her life around.

Christian, 32 – a passionate Australian/Italian freelance cameraman and former professional Rugby player with Italy’s Benetton Rugby Club – admits to seeing his approaching bride only through a blur of happy tears.

Shelley, 33, did her own hair and make-up, and chose her favourite flowers to decorate the beautiful holiday house – their “special place” – where the wedding was held.

There were pink and white peonies, lisianthus and freesias, their heady fragrance mixing with the saltiness of the sea breeze. And as she made her way through the aisle of guests, all waving festive “twirlers” (aqua ribbons on sticks, made by Shelley), the moment wasn’t lost on anyone.

“I’m the happiest girl in the world,” Shelley told Woman’s Day. “And the luckiest in so many ways. To have found love again, I just wish everyone could do what I’ve just done, to be able to fall in love with then marry your best friend.”

Indeed, Shelley’s “perfect day” was something she could not have envisioned two years ago. Then, she endured the heartbreaking end of her 14-year union, and eight-year marriage, to marketing man Brett De Billinghurst Craft.

“It was a lovely marriage but a difficult break-up,” a gracious Shelley says, not wanting to cast shadows across her new-found joy.

And Christian had also experienced his own long-term relationship painfully ending in 2004. He and Shelley would begin their friendship when travelling the world together on The Great Outdoors in 2007.

“We both started at Channel Seven in Brisbane at the same time in 1994,” Christian says. “I saw Shelley, but she didn’t see me. It was our first year out of high school. Then she moved to Sydney.”

“We’d been in the same year at school, separate schools in the same street, we later found out we had a lot of mutual friends and a lot of mutual stories,” says Shelley, tenderly leaning into her new hubby.

They’d been working together for about five years on The Great Outdoors, and had become good friends and confidants, when love slowly came calling.

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Katie’s regrets

Three years after their lavish wedding, friends claim Katie is feeling trapped by life with domineering Tom.

Tom Cruise wanted to treat Katie Holmes to a three-year anniversary dinner at Bricco, their favourite Boston restaurant, on November 14. He had one tiny request: that the entire second floor be emptied so the two could dine in private.

“When they walked up the stairs, she said, ‘Where is everybody?’, recalls the restaurant’s manager.

Romantic? Yes. Lonely? Maybe. Though a source says she “loves” Tom, “Katie is cut off from the world and feels miserable because of it.

“To say Tom is controlling is an understatement. His whole philosophy is to control, and Katie hates it.”

And barring a divorce, it’s likely her situation will not improve until November 2013. According to multiple sources, the actress, 30, has had second thoughts about being wed to a Svengali-like star and reportedly committing herself to a restrictive seven-year marital “contract”.

“Katie has virtually no say in their marriage and hates it,” says the insider. “In the beginning it was glamorous, but now she’s tired of the life they lead.”

And when she dares disagree with Tom, 47, “he can lash out at her and call her stupid and pigheaded,” claims the insider. (A lawyer for Cruise strongly denies any discord in the marriage or existence of a contract.)

Katie, who once said her childhood dream was to marry Tom, is learning the hard way to be careful what you wish for.

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