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Lindy exclusive interview 30 years on

Lindy exclusive interview 30 years on

The red blanket of parched earth is endless, each kilometre stretching out the same as the last. Yet to Lindy Chamberlain, a certain patch stands out like a beacon, even 30 years on.

“Stop here,” Lindy says suddenly, causing a convoy of four-wheel-drives to come to an abrupt halt. “It’s over there,” she says without hesitation. All heads turn in the direction of her pointing finger. All that’s visible is yet another dry, dusty patch of desert. But not to Lindy. For her, this is a sacred place, a site redolent with memories both terrifying and touching. This place, she says, is where her baby Azaria’s clothes were found.

It’s hard to believe it’s 30 years since a distraught Lindy clambered desperately from a dishevelled tent, screaming into the night, “The dingo’s got my baby”.

For Lindy, 62, the horror of that evening and the nightmare that followed burns more intensely than ever.

“You can’t turn it off,” says a pensive Lindy, who is returning to The Rock with Woman’s Day to mark the anniversary of the disappearance of her baby daughter, Azaria, on August 17, 1980.

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I’m not having an affair but it’s more than a friendship.

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I’m not having an affair but it’s more than a friendship. My husband and I have been friendly with another couple for about five years but a year ago the man started to work at my company and we have great fun together. Not during work because that would cause problems, but a couple of times a week we have a sandwich together and we take it in turns to drive to and from work.

My husband isn’t the least bit bothered about this but his wife is quite a jealous person and now when we’re all out together she makes digs about us spending so much time together.

Later this year we go away for a three night conference and she’s already started moaning about it, so I asked my husband if he wanted to come although partners aren’t really expected to join us. He said he couldn’t think of anything more boring and said I should stop pandering to her – that if they had any issues it was up to them to sort out.

He’s right and there’s no way we would have an affair but I talk to this man the way I talk to my sister. We’re very close and we even discuss sex which might sound a bit strange but there’s nothing in it.

I mean, I think we’re both attracted to each other because we discussed it once and agreed that if we’d met when we were single things would be different, but we are both happily married so we’ve put that behind us and just enjoy being friends.

The only annoying thing is his wife because I really think she could cause problems – she’s started going on at him to apply for other jobs.

Your husband sounds very calm and confident, maybe because he senses that even if you and this man find each other attractive you have no intention of doing anything about it. If your friend tells his wife that you discuss sexual issues or that he finds you attractive that could be why she reacts like this.

However, it isn’t your problem other than how her jealousy could impact on your friendship and she will have a fair amount of influence, so you might want to consider reassuring her to some extent. Perhaps you could nurture a separate friendship with her, so she learns to like and trust you more and realises that you’re not a threat.

Ultimately, it’s up to your friend how he responds to her jealousy though you acting totally normally around her should help.

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James Bulger’s mum — my hell never ends

James Bulger’s mum — my hell never ends

The news that one of James Bulger’s killers has been accused of a new sordid crime has reopened old wounds for the late toddler’s mum, Denise.

It was the case that sent shockwaves around the world 17 years ago. James Bulger was just two years old when he was abducted at a shopping centre in the English city of Liverpool and brutally tortured and murdered.

In an unthinkable twist, it was revealed the killers were 10-year-old boys – Robert Thompson and Jon Venables, who became the youngest convicted murderers in modern English history.

After eight years in prison, the boys were released in June 2001 with new identities. At the time, the European Court condemned their “inhuman treatment in an adult court”.

On March 2 this year, Jon Venables – now 27 – was taken back into custody amid allegations he possessed “high-level” child pornography. For James’ mother, Denise Fergus, now 42 and remarried with three younger sons aged 10 to 16, this latest development is too much to bear.

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Midwinter feasts

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Midwinter is the time for feasts — not just around the table, with friends on long cold winter nights, but in the garden, too..

Summer’s harvests often have to be picked fast, before the fruit fly get into the apricots or the lettuces go to seed. Winter harvests are more gentle, and more generous too. They go on producing for months, while you pick them as needed — if the birds don’t get there first.

If you don’t have any of the winter beauties below, this is the perfect time to plant most of them, so that next year, or in two or three years’ time, you too can pick baskets of winter bounty, and share it with your friends.

The most beautiful winter harvests:

There is nothing as elegant as rich orange persimmons, hanging from a leafless tree. They are almost too lovely to pick. Sadly if you don’t, the birds will soon find them. I tie “bird bags” — calico bags or old stockings — over some of mine, to keep at least some of the fruit for ourselves. I have to admit that daggy calico bags do dampen the elegance a bit.

Persimmons grow in any climate, though they may need a sunny wall in very cold climates, and may not lose their leaves in hotter winters.

Red round pomegranates hang from leafless branches too. I used to battle the birds for them, until I decided to grow five pomegranate trees instead of one. Now there’s enough for all of us — and the birds look beautiful, too, cavorting upside down as they eat the fruit. Pomegranates suit almost any climate, and are wonderfully drought-hardy once they have been growing well for two or three years to get established.

I love the bright orange fruit of cumquats and calamondins — calamondins are like cumquats, but smaller, sourer and hardier in frost and heat. They make great marmalade and cordial, too. Oranges and mandarins also have their own beauty, glowing orange in the deep green leaves. Starved citrus, on the other hand, just look ugly.

If your citrus trees have narrow, yellowish leaves, give the poor things a good feed of old hen manure or other organic fertiliser or citrus food, a good water, plus a good mulch too.

In frost-free areas, tamarilloes can be stunning — dangling from the tree or rather large bush. They also fruit the same year you plant them. Commercial tamarilloes are deep red, but there are dark orange and pale orange and even yellowy orange varieties around too, that seem to be a bit more cold-hardy than the red ones.

Tamarilloes are one of the few fruits that grow in dappled shade — a great plant to fill in awkward spots in the garden. Tamarillo grows quickly from seed, or you can propagate it from a cutting in late winter. The bush tolerates about three degrees of frost. Even if all its leaves disappear, they’ll come back in spring and it will bear a late autumn crop. In mild areas, tamarillo crops all year round.

Peel your tamarilloes before eating. Chop them into fruit salads, use instead of kiwifruit on pavlova — or try a mix of red tamarillo slices and green kiwifruit. Add tamarillo to a salsa of chopped coriander leaves and diced avocado.

The most generous winter harvests:

This might be lemon trees or Tahitian limes: so many fruit you’ll find yourself giving away baskets full and hopefully getting some jars of marmalade in return. Avocadoes give lemons and limes a run for their money, though — a good, well-grown backyard avocado tree can give you hundreds of fruit each winter.

Another over-the-top cropper is kiwifruit. You need a male and female for pollination, and a good sturdy fence or pergola for them to ramble over, or a warm balcony in cold areas. But in return you get masses of fruit … or the birds get masses of fruit, so pick them as soon as you see the first bird pecks, or you may find they vanish before you can get a taste.

The prickliest winter harvest:

Chestnuts take about 10 years to fruit and grow into enormous trees. But if you have space you’ll find they drop their spiky nut vases all through winter, so every day there is a basket full to pick up — carefully, with gloves on. They are great fun for kids, like a backyard treasure hunt tree, where they never know quite how many nuts they’ll find each morning. Chestnuts are traditionally roasted, but they are just as good boiled for about 20 minutes — and it’s much easier!

Winter salads:

I plant masses of red mignonette lettuce in autumn, enough to see us through the winter. Although mignonette and other winter lettuce like cos are frost-resistant, they don’t grow fast (or even much at all) in cold weather. They make lovely salads though, soft-leafed hearts mixed with crisp slices of apple and thinly sliced celery.

Parsley is another wonderful winter salad standby, if you’ve remembered to plant lots in summer to see you through winter. Finely chopped broad-leafed or Italian parsley is wonderful mixed with chopped avocado, celery, apple, peeled tamarillo and a touch of lemon- or lime-based salad dressing.

And then there are garlic chives, and winter sweet broccoli and cauliflower to steam or roast and serve with vinaigrette too, and carrots and beetroots that really are sweeter and have a richer flavour in winter, and superb either raw or grated with salad dressing, served hot or cold.

Australian gardeners are lucky. We have backyard bounty all year long. Midwinter is the perfect time to share it — winter harvests that become midwinter feasts.

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Lose weight and stay warm

Turning to comfort food during these cold days is the worst thing for your waistline. But you can stay warm this winter on our fantastic reduced energy weight loss plan. It’s comforting, delicious and easy, and you’ll love the results. And the best thing is, if you are feeding the family they can enjoy the same evening meal as you!

  • Stick to the portion sizes.

  • Eat nothing raw.

  • Stay hydrated by drinking warm or hot water with grated ginger, water at room temperature or herbal teas throughout the day.

  • Avoid ice-cold water.

  • Exercise at least 30 minutes a day.

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Jet set beauty

Hands up if you would like a holiday? Wouldn’t we all! For those of you taking time out this year to jet overseas, drive up the coast or go to the local holiday park with the kids, there are a few must-haves that you shouldn’t leave home without.

Leaving on a jet plane

If you’re heading overseas for travel, first of all, have fun, but second, you don’t need to leave your daily beauty routine at the baggage scan. Most cosmetics, these days, come in travel-friendly packaging perfect for the in-flight experience. Yet there are a few items that you should pack in your check-in luggage because you will need them when you land.

We love: Remington Travel 1800, $22.95, 1800 623 118. Nivea Touch of Happiness, $6.25, 1800 103 023.

Just after you’ve eaten your dinner and before you settle down for an in-flight movie, take some time to care for your skin. The recycled air on aeroplanes is not your skin’s friend, so fight it with a good moisturiser. Make sure you drink lots of water – always accept some when it’s offered (especially if you’re partial to an on-board wine).

We love: Ecotools Bamboo Sleep Mask, $6.95, (02) 9526 0777. The Body Shop Vitamin E Face Mist, $23.95, 1800 065 232. Estée Lauder Take It Away Remover Towelettes, $45, 1800 061 326. Recipe For Life, by Nicky Pellegrino, Orion, $32.99. SK-11 Facial Treatment Mask, $28 each, 1800 012 169.

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Summer lovin’

If you’re off to a beach holiday or somewhere tropical such as Bali, the different weather conditions are likely to wreak havoc on your skin and hair. Protect your skin with a moisturiser that won’t leave your skin feeling oily and which has a high SPF. To protect your hair, Brad Ngata, from Brad Ngata Hair Direction in Sydney, says you can win the battle against humidity. “It’s a good idea to use products containing UV protection, which guard hair from losing natural oils, while preventing the drying effects of the sun,” he advises.

We love: L’Oréal Professional Série Expert Solar Sublime protection spray, $24, 1300 651 141. Kérastase Soleil Gelée Aqua-proof, $41, 1300 365 552. L’Occitane Shea Butter Foot Cream, $16.95, (02) 8912 3000. The Affair, by Santa Montefiore, Hodder and Stoughton, $32.99.

Snow bunny

In sunny Australia, we’re not always prepared for the harsh winters of other countries. If your passport is taking you somewhere the powder will be soft and the chairlifts plentiful, you’ll need a moisturiser with SPF and a good lip conditioner.

We love: auscreen SPF30+ Active Clear Zinc Lotion, $9.99, (03) 9338 5222. Lanolips 101 Ointment, $17.95, (02) 9663 4277. Vaseline Aloe Fresh Hydrating Lotion, $4.99, 1800 061 027

Working for the weekend

Some jobs require more travel than others and not just the glamorous ones. Often, conferences will be held out of town, so you have to pack a work wardrobe, plus your beauty routine, and relocate them. A great way to make sure you’re looking and feeling your best for the breakfast meetings is to get a professional blow-dry just before you leave home, if possible, and prolong the effect with dry shampoo.

“The best tool to travel with, in order to keep your hair looking fabulous, is a GHD iron. This will make styling easy and as efficient as possible,” according to Brad Ngata. If you’re spending the whole day in meetings, you probably won’t have a lot of time to check and fix your make-up, so choose products that are designed for the long haul.

We love: M.A.C Fix+, $27, 1800 613 828. Lee Stafford Poker Straight Dry Shampoo, $13.95, www.priceline.com.au. ORLY Limited Edition Matte Couture Collection in Blue Suede, $18.95, 1300 769 355. Napoleon Perdis Auto Pilot Napoleon Complex Skin Renewal Serum, $79, 1800 814 572.

More travel must haves

Flashpacking

It’s the new backpacking – travelling overseas with a slightly more generous budget, but still looking for the fun and adventure that comes with backpacking. Chances are there will be late nights, fabulous dinners and lots of driving. So, make sure you’re prepared for getting ready quickly, but still looking picture perfect.

We love: Sebastian Professional Liquid Gloss, $36, 1300 728 333. ORLY Limited Edition Matte Couture Collection in Purple Velvet, $18.95, 1300 769 355. Flexi Flats, $15.90, flexiflats.net. Ms Money Spending Diary, $24.95, (03) 9486 0925,

On the road again

A driving holiday can leave you with great family memories, but it can also mean that packing space is limited and there won’t be a lot of “me-time” to attend to your skincare routine. When you set up camp for the night, spend a few minutes looking after your skin. Choose products that are easy to pack and don’t need a fully equipped bathroom to use.

We love: Kleenex Tissue Tubes, $1.99, 1800 028 334. Nivea Visage Gentle Facial Cleansing Wipes, $7.50, 1800 103 023. L’Oréal Professional Série Nature Source de Tendresse Shampoo for children, $28, 1300 651 141. Sally Hansen Miracle Cure for severely dry hands, $19.95, 1800 812 663.

More travel must haves

On flight restrictions

  • Liquid, aerosol or gel products must be in containers of 100 millilitres/grams or less.

  • The containers must be carried together in one transparent, resealable plastic bag, like the one in the image below, and must be sealed for the inspection before you get on board.

  • The four sides of the bag’s sealed area must add up to no more than 80 centimetres (e.g. 20cm x 20cm or 15cm x 25cm).

  • Only one bag is allowed per passenger, with exceptions for carers, who may carry the bag/s of the people in their care, including children.

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Sip anti-obesi-tea

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You already know about the powerful disease-fighting antioxidants found in green, black and white tea. Now a study from Germany, published in Nutrition and Metabolism, has revealed that, compared with other types of tea, white tea helps prevent new fat cells from forming, and also breaks down the fat content in those already present.

Lead researcher Dr Marc Winnefeld commented that the white tea appeared to reduce activity in those genes that are responsible for the growth of new fat cells. Another explanation is that white tea contains more caffeine and epigallocatechin-3-gallate (EGCG), which both stimulate metabolism.

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Winter exercise tips

There are many benefits to exercising in the cold. You use more energy in winter, which equates to burning more kilojoules. And as you’re burning more energy, you sleep better at night.

Regular exercise is also one of the best ways to boost your immune system and fend off wintertime colds and other illnesses.

But there are a few things to be aware of when you’re exercising in the cold:

  • Warm-up is important at any time, but particularly so during the colder months, as the body’s temperature is generally a little lower and the joints take a little bit longer to warm up properly.

  • Stretching is especially important in the winter months when it’s easier to cramp up or pull a cold muscle.

  • Remember to moisturise. Put a moisturiser on your lips, face, hands or any other area that may be susceptible to the drying effects of the colder air.

  • Drink plenty of water. It’s as easy to become dehydrated during the cold months, as in the scorching summer heat, so carry a water bottle with you and drink plenty of fluids after your workout. Most people forget the importance of water during the colder months.

  • People who are prone to asthma should make sure they carry Ventolin, as they are more susceptible to asthma with the cold air.

  • Whenever exercise is stopped or paused for any longer than a couple of minutes, take off any wet clothes as soon as possible and put on a jacket and tracksuit pants to avoid getting a chill.

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*It Tastes Better*

IT TASTES BETTER BY KYLIE KWONG, LANTERN, $69.95.

Restaurateur and TV chef Kylie Kwong is passionate about sustainable food and ethical eating, and this book is a tribute to that ethos.

Kylie heads off on an inspiring journey around Australia to meet the farmers and producers who are dedicated not only to organic produce, but to food that tastes better. The book features more than 100 recipes, but it is the tales of the people behind the food – including Saskia Beer (Maggie Beers’ feisty daughter) – that make this cookbook a special read.

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In Office Hours

IN OFFICE HOURSBY LUCY KELLAWAY, FIG TREE, $29.95.

Sharp, witty, poignant, observant,In Office Hours, by British Financial Times columnist Lucy Kellaway, ticks all the boxes – especially the in-box – for a Bridget Jones-style romantic comedy for the email, text and iPod generation.

High-flying executive and mother of two, 46-year-old Stella Bradberry, is inches away from being invited to join the board of Atlantic Energy Oil, while single mum and astute junior PA, 27-year-old Bella Chambers, hides a handy degree in Russian up her sleeve. So what makes these smart women embark on affairs with such unsuitable men?

This is a slick, compelling and original foray into the confusion of email and text etiquette, set against seismic shifting in global oil markets and calorie-conscious lunches of tricolore salad – “Hold the pine nuts, the dressing and only one slice of mozzarella”. Brilliantly, the women manage to stay on top (mostly) and polished – unlike the boardroom table with the post-coital stain which the oil company boss tries to remove with bleach.

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