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Julia Gillard on tears, heels and ‘ranga’ pride

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Everyone is talking about her, but few get to know the real Julia Gillard. In our light-hearted Q & A she reveals a side few people see.

What would the 10-year-old Julia Gillard think of you today?

I think she’d be pretty amazed. There’s no way she could have imagined any of this.

What is the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?

It’s hard to pinpoint, as there are so many people that have supported me over the years. However, I do receive a lot of kind letters from members of the public, particularly when I first became Prime Minister.

What trait can’t you tolerate in others?

People who are rude to others they think are beneath them.

Would you tell your partner, Tim Mathieson, if you hated the way he did your hair?

Yes, I would. It hasn’t happened yet, he’s a very good hairdresser, but I would speak up.

With so much attention on your hair, have you ever wondered if blondes really do have more fun?

No, I’m convinced redheads do OK. Go the rangas!

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Meet Kyle’s new “dance partner”

Kyle Sandilands is no stranger to controversy. Indeed, the outspoken X Factor judge usually revels in it. But this is one moment he really didn’t want you to see.

Trailing matching Louis Vuitton luggage, the brekkie radio host casually guides a dark-haired babe through a busy airport to a waiting taxi, where they kiss and tenderly touch each other’s faces.

The woman is not Kyle’s estranged wife Tamara Jaber, but Californian exotic dancer Nicole Marie White – who was last week still featured on a dance club website, dressed only in a bright blue bra and black knickers.

A wannabe actress, model and US reality TV star, Nicole met Kyle at Los Angeles gentlemen’s club Plan B, about 12 months ago, when he requested a 90-minute “private session” with her.

See the full story in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 9, 2010.

Read more: Kyle and Tamara’s split

Split: Kyle Sandilands and Tamara Jaber

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Robbie Williams marries Ayda Field

Notorious ladies’ man Robbie Williams tied the knot with American actress Ayda Field yesterday at his Beverly Hills mansion in front of only 75 guests.

Wearing a black tux, 36-year-old Robbie held a traditional ceremony on the grounds of his Beverly Hills mansion. The venue was decorated with white flowers, including a centrepiece spelling out the word “love” in flowers.

Before tying the knot the former Take That star reportedly signed a prenuptial agreement in order to protect his fortune, which is reported to be more than $226 million.

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Robbie proposed to 31-year-old Ayda in November last year after the couple had been dating for three years.

The actress seems to be the one who has tamed the party boy after he promised to give up smoking (more than 60 cigarettes a day) for her.

Before Robbie met Ayda the former Take That star dated a number of high-profile beauties including Rachel Hunter and Cameron Diaz.

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I sabotaged my best friend’s future with a safety-pin

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Last week, I received a letter from an old friend. I hadn’t seen Carol for twenty-five years. She wrote to congratulate me on my recent appointment of Professor at a university of great renown – she’d read about it in the papers.

Carol wrote of how her husband, Brett, left her only a few years after they married, leaving her with two young children. She confessed that at the age of forty-one, she was broke and depressed, and unemployed with zero career prospects.

And she apologised for having been so heartless when we were at school. She hoped I had forgiven her. Forgive her? Little did she know it was me who needed forgiving. I had stolen her future, taken what was rightfully hers …

Carol and I grew up in a small town in rural New Zealand. Remember, in New Zealand twenty-five years ago, girls with unplanned pregnancies had no options, beyond giving birth, or visiting Australia for an abortion. There was also a tremendous amount of shame. Such girls would disappear to a city, never to be publicly spoken of again.

Carol and I were at school together, all the way from kindergarten to high school. We planned to go to university together as well. Carol was extremely bright, the first in class. I wasn’t far behind, coming in a very close second.

But in the beauty stakes, I wasn’t even in the race. Carol was gorgeous and everyone wanted to be her friend. Carol was invited to all parties, whereas, I was shy and podgy with erupting skin. I got to mostly stay home on my own.

When we turned fifteen, Carol started seeing Brett. He was seventeen and the handsomest boy in town. Brett was also cruel. He relished in ridiculing me publicly. And clearly, he didn’t want me hanging around him and Carol.

Consequently, Carol and I barely spent any time together, other than at our secret place. A small, sandy cave in the forest that grew at the back of our adjoining farms. In the cave, we would meet after school to giggle and read books by candlelight. And there, by unspoken mutual consent, we never discussed Brett, or anything about Carol’s new life. At the same time, we no longer discussed the future, or going to the city to attend university together.

One afternoon, I entered the cave to hear strange grunts and thumps. I saw Carol naked with Brett. Brett swore, “what’s the fat, ugly *@#?! doing here?” Instead of defending me, Carol merely laughed. Humiliated, I ran away, crying tears of rage and shame.

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I was devastated, and furious. How dare Carol have shared our very own secret place with someone else. Particularly with someone who didn’t want to share with me. I was also jealous. At the tender blistering age of sixteen, deep down I believed that no one would ever want me in same way that Brett wanted Carol.

The next morning at dawn, I crept back to the cave to retrieve my books. At the back of the cave, a few packets of condoms were lying around. Without hesitation, and taking out the safety pin holding up the hem of my skirt, I punctured each packet a few times.

I have no idea why I did it, and I honestly didn’t intend what happened next. Carol and Brett left school to get married on the quiet, and moved to the city. As a result of the gap left by Carol, I moved to the top of class, and was eventually awarded a scholarship to university.

I haven’t yet replied to Carol’s letter and I don’t think I will. After all, what could I possibly say or do? It’s far too late now to make amends.

(Names have been changed).

Your say: Have you ever acted on the heat of the moment and later regretted it? Tell us your story below…

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Menopause — the facts

The mere mention of menopause is enough to strike fear into the hearts of many women. Even though it’s a natural and unavoidable stage of life, it doesn’t stop the dread of impending hot flushes and headaches.

But do we know all the facts? Below is some helpful and practical information aimed at making preparation for the menopause just that little bit easier, so you can control this condition and not let it control you.

When we’re born, each ovary contains around a million eggs which slowly decrease through our lifetime. From about 40 onwards, the remaining eggs start to diminish rapidly as does the production of oestrogen. The menopause officially occurs when ovulation finally comes to an end, marked by the last period.

Although it usually affects women around 45-55, about 2 percent of women will go through a premature menopause before 40. This is usually caused by surgery which removes ovaries or the effect of chemotherapy on the body. The Peri menopause is the stage preceding the last cycle, when periods and hormones fluctuate dramatically; often causing the unwelcome symptoms we associate with menopause.

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Not all women suffer side effects. Only 20 percent of women suffer severe symptoms and another 20 percent never experience any. The following are the most commonly faced:

Physical

  • Hot flushes

  • Insomnia

  • Night sweats

  • Headaches

  • Itching sensation under the skin

Emotional

  • Depression

  • Low self-esteem

  • Forgetfulness

Sexual

  • Lack of libido Vaginal dryness and soreness with intercourse

It’s important to realise that often there’s a domino effect at play here, where one symptom triggers another. If, for example you’re not sleeping, this will cause tiredness, which can cause irritability, which can decrease sex drive. Pinpointing the true symptoms of menopause can give hope and solutions for coping with what’s happening emotionally and physically.

Bones: Oestrogen helps the body absorb calcium for bone density. As it decreases, so does bone strength, leading to higher counts of osteoporosis.

Research shows that after the first five years of menopause, women will lose up to 10 percent of their bone mass and after age 60, about half of fractures that will occur will be due to osteoporosis.

To minimise risks of the condition, make sure to have three to four serves of dairy a day and take vitamin D to aid calcium uptake.

Vagina: Without oestrogen, the lining of the vagina becomes thin, dry and fragile, which often leads to painful sex. Lubricants and topical creams will help get sexual relationships back on track.

While many women see it as positive transition, others see it as a stark reminder of entering into the later stages of life, not to mention saying goodbye to their childbearing years. Women can find themselves questioning their identities, achievements and roles in the household, especially as older children start to leave home.

Depression is a common manifestation of all those overwhelming anxieties, especially with oestrogen levels causing mood swings. New hobbies like yoga or meditation are not only great for mind/body harmony but beneficial in cultivating new friendships.

During menopause, weight will start to shift from the hips to the central part of the body, skin will become noticeably drier and defined muscle tone may be no more. But there’s no need to settle for this. Why not put more focus on healthy eating, splurge on regular facials and regain confidence with exercise classes?

HRT or complementary medicines?

It’s still unclear whether the benefits of hormone replacement therapy outweigh the risks as a safe treatment for menopause. While HRT is certainly unsuitable for some and has been reported to increase the risk of stroke and blood clots, for many women it has been a saviour. Always consult your doctor and get the best advice for your situation.

More natural remedies are available if HRT isn’t for you. The herb Black Cohosh is reportedly effective in controlling hot flushes, mood swings and insomnia. Natural foods such as flaxseed and soy are a good source of plant oestrogens that can ease mood swings and insomnia. Acupuncture and hypnosis are also noteworthy treatments.

Don’t feel your body is giving up on you; it’s just changing a little. Remember the same thing happened through puberty with strange body changes and confusing new thoughts. It was scary but you survived the transition.

So, don’t be afraid to ask for help, whether from friends, support groups or doctors. There’s extensive resources out there just for you. After all these years, it’s finally YOU time, so don’t waste it, embrace your fresh new life!

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Why kids need independence

A study from the University of Montreal, published in the Journal of Personality, gives weight to the growing body of evidence suggesting parents do their children a disservice by monitoring their leisure activities too closely — or ‘helicoptering’, as this style of over-zealous parenting has become known as.

The study examined the behaviour of both children and adults who were skilled in either music or athletics. The researchers found that although moderate parental support for a child’s interest was desirable, if the parent was unduly controlling, this encouragement could cause the child to develop an obsessive win-at-all-costs’ approach to the pastime, one where achievement is more important than enjoyment.

On the other hand, children and teenagers who were given autonomy in choosing which sports, music and activities they wished to pursue were more likely to enjoy them for their own sake and to continue to practise and develop these skills as adults because they were genuinely passionate about them.

Your say: What do you think of these findings? Do you think parents push their children too much these days? Share with us below…

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Kerry Katona: I still love Brian

Despite labeling her ex-husband Brian McFadden a bad father, only four months ago (read more), Kerry Katona has admitted she is still in love with him.

Writing in her OK magazine column in the UK the 29- year-old mother of two said she still has feelings for Brian who is now engaged to Aussie singer Delta Goodrum.

“Brian came over and we got on like a house on fire! As soon as I saw him I realised I never got over him — he was my knight in shining armour. I’ll never go back there but I’ll always love Brian,” she wrote.

“Brian ended our marriage on the phone and I didn’t see him for three months after that so I never grieved over him. He just disappeared, and then I got on with my life.”

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Kerry Katona and Brian McFadden

Brian McFadden and Delta Goodrum

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Build strong bones

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August 1-7 is National Healthy Bones Week (www.osteoporosis.org.au), and — seeing as one in two women and one in five men over the age of 50 will suffer a broken bone as the result of osteoporosis, or brittle bone disease — it makes sense to learn how to reduce your risk. Here’s what you need to know:

Keep up your calcium

Low-fat unsweetened dairy products are good sources of calcium: a cup of skimmed milk, for example, provides 300mg of calcium. However, if you are lactose-intolerant, which causes problems with absorption, dairy is not the best source of calcium for you — unsweetened yoghurt is an exception. Other foods providing calcium and important co-factors that assist its absorption include sea vegetables, leafy greens (although not spinach — it contains oxalic acid, which may interfere with calcium absorption), soybeans, nuts, and molasses. Vitamin K, also necessary for bone formation, is found in collard greens, kale, and romaine lettuce.

Be on the safe side

If you can’t guarantee the quality of your diet 24/7, take a daily supplement containing 1000-1500mg calcium and at least 300mg magnesium. The forms that are thought to be best absorbed by the body are calcium citrate, chelate or hydroxyappatite. A naturopath may also prescribe a vitamin D supplement, of 400-1,000IU a day, depending on whether you want to prevent bone loss or already have osteoporosis; have a blood test done to check your vitamin D levels. Ensure you are getting plenty of vitamin C as well — along with its other health-promoting functions, it synthesises collagen, which is a vital component of bone.

Pick protein

To help prevent accelerating bone loss, ensure you get enough protein. It doesn’t take much chicken, fish or meat to supply your daily requirement — as long as you have a serving that’s about the size of your palm, you’re getting enough.

Find phytos

Phytoestrogens are plant-derived substances that act in a similar way to oestrogen in the body. Research suggests that eating soy foods — soy milk, tofu and soy flour, rather than the concentrated supplements — along with other phytoestrogens like beans, chickpeas, lentils and flaxseeds, may reduce the risk of osteoporosis.

Love your fruit and veg

Several studies show a clear link between a diet rich in fresh fruit and vegetables and better bone health. This probably reflects the fact that eating fruit and veg increases alkalinity in the body, which in turn prevents calcium loss from bone. The nutrients potassium and lutein, which are plentiful in fruit and veg, are also associated with significantly higher bone mineral densities.

Bin the bad guys

Cut processed sugars out of your diet, as they contribute to bone loss; so do caffeine, carbonated soft drinks, salt and alcohol. Blood thinners, anticonvulsants, and antacids have all been implicated in bone loss — check with your doctor about potential side effects of any medication you are taking.

Add good oils

Not for nothing are omega-3 fatty acids nicknamed ‘WD-40 for the joints’ — because they inhibit the effects of inflammatory prostaglandins, they’re a great choice for people with rheumatoid arthritis. What’s good for the joints also seems to be good for the bones, especially in postmenopausal women who either have osteoporosis or are at risk of it, with one study showing that those given omega-3s for 18 months had denser bones and fewer fractures than those who didn’t take omega-3s.

Consider herbal help

Some research suggests that red clover can help to slow the onset of osteoporosis in at-risk women, thanks to compounds it contains called isoflavones. Horsetail is a herb that has been traditionally used for osteoporosis treatment and prevention, possibly due to its high content of the minerals silica, potassium and manganese, which all help to increase bone density.

Move more

Being physically active is one of the most important preventive measures you can take. Weight-bearing exercises, which work your bones as well as your muscles, are especially important. Studies also suggest that movement techniques, like tai chi, can restore balance and therefore reduce the risk of a fall. In one study, women who practised tai chi for 30 minutes twice a week were significantly less likely to have falls.

Chill out

Stress can, in theory, accelerate the development of osteoporosis because it ramps up production of cortisol, which compromises bone health. Practise some form of relaxation exercise regularly to counter the negative effects of stress

Your say: Do you think you take care of your bones? How do you make sure you’re looking after you bones? Share with us below.

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Fashion classics: What every woman should own!

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Why you need it:

A crisp white shirt not only looks classic, it can also freshen up the face by throwing light against it.

How to wear it:

On a classic button up white shirt the shoulder seems should line up with your shoulders. You should also leave at least two buttons undone to reveal a hint of décolletage.

Why you need it:

The little black dress should be sexy, simple and fun. The best thing about it is that it can suit almost any occasion, make you feel and look slimmer and can be used as a great backdrop for statement jewellery.

How to wear it:

Choose the style of dress that suits your shape best. For example the wrap dress is perfect for hugging curves in all the right places while a tight sexy fitted dress is perfect for a slim figure. Remember that the shoulders almost always look good, so the one shoulder look can be a great way to spice up a little black dress.

Why you need it:

A beautifully made suit can make a woman look powerful and in control. The great thing is that you can mix and match pieces with other outfits.

How to wear it:

Try to choose suits without too much over the top detail, this way they will never date. And when choosing a colour try going for a pale pink as it can suit every skin tone.

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Why you need it:

A good quality pair of pants are a wardrobe essential because they can be teamed with almost anything and work well.

How to wear it:

The trick to finding the right pants for you is to try and try again. Because different designers use different patterns there are a lot out there, so the key is to keep trying until you find the right style for your shape. But a good pair of fitted black pants will never go to waste in your wardrobe.

Why you need it:

The great thing about wearing a trench coat is that you can often look sexy without actually revealing anything. It’s the perfect casual to dressy coat and almost always looks chic.

How to wear it:

Although most trench coats have a belt, they often look better tied in a loose knot rather than buckled up. If you don’t have much of a waste or feel a bit too bulky with it done up, leave it open. Remember that a trench coat should be longer than the skirt or dress underneath.

Why you need it:

Whether it’s for a casual or formal affair, the maxi dress is a wardrobe staple. They are absolutely comfortable and can be worn in both summer and winter.

How to wear it:

Think twice when pairing a belt with a maxi dress and make sure it doesn’t clutters the silhouette. For short girls, the maxi dress can be a challenge. But if you avoid too much embellishment and choose dresses with a scoop or strapless neckline, your body will appear longer.

Why you need it:

Boots can add glamour to any outfit, if worn in the right way, and are a must have to complete your winter/autumn wardrobe.

How to wear it: Be careful when choosing the boots that best suit your outfit. If you are wearing knee high boots avoid short skirts. Only those who are blessed with great legs should wear ankle books with a short skirt. To elongate your silhouette when wearing boots stick to one shade for your skirt, tights and boots.

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25 fashion buys to instantly update your wardrobe

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Woman’s Day has trawled the web to find cheap and chic buys to instantly lift your wardrobe. Everything from effortlessly stylish, Breton stripe pieces, standout printed dresses, dazzling droplet earrings to stackable cuffs, cute clutches and carryall handbags. The transition from winter to spring will be breeze with these perfect tran-seasonal pieces. Click ahead and shop your favourites now.

Vanessa Bruno leather ballerina flats, $136.

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Kenneth Jay Lane gold-plated star bracelet, $150. www.net-a-porter.com

Portmans dress, $99.

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Sportsgirl Breton striped jacket, $99.

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Stella McCartney cloud print canvas bag, $88.

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Diva earrings

Diva earrings, $14.99.

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Elke bracelet, $128.

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Rockmans black dress, $69.99.

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See By Chloe white sandals, $125.

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Portmans Blazer, $129.95.

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Sportsgirl jeans, $49.95.

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Bec & Bridge leather belt

Bec & Bridge leather belt, $130.

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Portmans bag, $34.95.

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Portmans floral dress, $99.

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Juicy Couture striped cotton-jersey mini dress, $177.

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Calvin Klein patent-leather sandals

Calvin Klein patent-leather sandals, $201.

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Vena Cava dress, 163.

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Sportsgirl wedges, $149.50.

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Rockmans jeans, $49.99.

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Sportsgirl blouse, $89.95.

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Funkis sandal, $159.

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Portmans handbag

Portmans handbag, $39.95.

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Paul & Joe Sister Zodiaque belted jersey dress, $219.

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Michael Kors leather tote, $239.

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Portmans skirt, $89.95.

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