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Hugh Jackman: How my kids saved me

Hugh Jackman: How my kids saved me

He’s been declared the Sexiest Man Alive, but we see him more as Father of the Decade. The chiselled and toned in-demand actor is a devoted, hands-on dad who says his kids have helped him to get over his own unhappy childhood.

Hugh Jackman clearly recalls how he felt at age 10 – the age his son Oscar is now – when his mother abandoned him and his four siblings, leaving his father, Chris, to rely on others to raise the kids while he travelled for work.

“It was very unusual for the mother to leave, and I remember knowing people were looking at me differently,” Hugh recalls of this dark period in his life. “I wished I came from a normal family. I hated feeling that we were the weird ones on the block.

“My mother was not well,” reveals Hugh, who has since reconciled with her. “She was probably suffering post-partum depression. It may not have been diagnosed … but she was going through a tough time. I spent the first 18 months with my godparents.”

Hugh’s mother, Grace, came back home when he was 12 to try to patch up her marriage, but it didn’t work, and one morning Hugh and his siblings awoke to find her gone again.

“Out of the blue. There was no warning. There was just a letter saying she’d gone back to England,” he says. “I was very angry.” Today, as Hugh plays with his own children, son Oscar, 10, and daughter Ava, 5, the tough memories of his own upbringing have been replaced by the pure joy of giving them the childhood he was denied.

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Sonia Kruger’s dad reveals: I owe my life to Sonia!

Sonia Kruger's dad reveals: I owe my life to Sonia!

The Dancing With The Stars host’s dad dodged a bullet thanks to her intervention, writes Katherine Chatfield..

Just a few weeks ago Sonia Kruger didn’t know if her father, Adrian, would see out the year. Without surgery to replace a new valve in his heart, he wasn’t expected to live past Christmas, but his heart wasn’t strong enough for him to undergo the operation.

“It was a real worry that we were going to lose him any second,” says the Dancing With The Stars co-host. “He couldn’t walk more than a few steps without feeling breathless. “He deteriorated rapidly in the past few months. It was a matter of life or death for him to have that valve replaced.”

For Adrian, the thought he might not see his five grandchildren, the youngest of whom is just 18 months, grow up was devastating. The 76-year-old has suffered from heart problems for the past two years. After he was rushed to hospital with severe pneumonia, doctors discovered he had a blocked artery and a worn-out heart valve. They told his shocked family he didn’t have long to live.

“The doctor told us we needed to get his affairs in order,” says Sonia. “We had to call the solicitor in to update his will. He’s always been the life and soul of the party and all of a sudden we thought we were going to lose him. It was such a shock.”

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Bert and Patti Newton: We blame ourselves

Bert and Patti Newton: We blame ourselves

Matt Newton is at rock bottom after suffering a mental breakdown amid allegations he beat Rachael Taylor after she rejected his marriage proposal.

He sips vodka and soda discreetly in a trendy nightclub. It’s dark, but not enough that he can’t be recognised.

Occasionally, he leaves his celebrity friends and hangers on for a private room. As the night goes on, his speech is slurring more and his feet are becoming increasingly wobbly. Finally, he leaves at 1.30am.

This eye witness account could be any night out for a trendy young thing, but not Matthew Newton, the star disgraced in the past who had been given the ultimate second chance. On this night, he was less than a month out of rehab and beginning his quest for public redemption as the host of Channel Seven’s multi-million dollar production The X Factor.

“His whole attitude had changed and he was in the mood to party just like the old Matt,” says a source of his quick turnaround after rehab.

Matt’s new role on The X Factor, an enormous leap of faith from Channel Seven executives well aware of his past, was on the condition he had reformed. He clearly hadn’t. The next week, he was back at the same Kings Cross haunt again, back to his old ways.

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Michael Clarke’s new girlfriend

The cricket star is seriously dating for the first time since his split with Lara, Jonica Bray reports.

Michael Clarke is moving on with a new love less than six months after calling off his high-profile engagement to Lara Bingle.

Woman’s Day can reveal the cricketer, one of the sporting world’s most eligible bachelors, has been snapped up by a new stunner. This time, instead of the blonde-bombshell looks of his former fiancée, his new belle is a beautiful brunette – underwear model and aspiring TV presenter Kyly Boldy.

Spotted striding through a Sydney shopping centre, Michael looked happy and at ease with Kyly, clearly having regained his groove since his very public bust-up with bikini model Lara.

Read the full story, and all about Lara Bingle’s latest squeeze, in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 30, 2010.

Michael Clarke and Kyly Boldy

Michael Clarke with his ex-fiance Lara Bingle

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Passing on environmentally-sound food choices

One of the main reasons people are concerned about the welfare of the environment is to leave the world in good shape for future generations.

But what can we teach our children to help them care for the environment?

Interestingly, our food choices play a big part in caring for the environment and are something we can share with our children. The four key ways we can make food choices to help the environment are:

Eat more fruit and veg

Research shows that almost one third of the greenhouse gases are produced from agriculture, in particular the farming of animals. The most sustainable food choices are plant foods like fruits, vegetables and legumes that require less water and less land clearing. Sending children to school with already cut fruit or sandwiches in a reusable container instead of plastic wrap can make a huge difference to the amount of plastic in landfill.

Grow a veggie garden

Transportation of food is another contributor to the environmental footprint. So, if your food only has to travel from the backyard to the kitchen, it’s helping reduce the energy and fuel use. Growing food also teaches children about responsibility, food sources and the big bonus is they are more likely to eat the food they have helped to cultivate.

Compost

Investing in a compost bin will ensure that any food waste in the house is broken down organically. There are even compost bins available that are suitable for units or small balconies. The benefit of composting goes beyond waste management, it can provide food for worms, produce fertiliser for the veggie garden — all of which help children appreciate and connect the cyclic relationship between food and the earth. And if you can, encourage the school to invest in a compost bin. This way, children will be able to compost any scraps from their lunchbox at school.

Re-use or recycle everything

Children love being creative, they turn cardboard boxes into caves and egg cartons into fancy hats. Save clean boxes, tubes or cartons for children’s art and craft. Not only does this encourage recycling, it gives them plenty of free material to be creative. For all other excess packaging — encourage your children to use the recycle bin.

The great thing about these tips is that they aren’t just good habits to help our environment, they’re also general common sense practices that will hold us all in good stead.

Your say: Do you think about the environment when making decisions about food? Share with us below.

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Lord Howe Island: wildlife wonderland

Because of its spectacular scenic beauty and tame wildlife, Lord Howe Island is a South Pacific paradise.
Lord Howe Island

As I took the plunge with mask and snorkel, the turtle looked me in the eye as if to say, “Come on, mate, I haven’t got all day to show you around the bay”, before gently swimming off in the direction of Sylph’s Hole, a coral crater half way across the bay.

Lord Howe’s wild beauty ranks it among the most alluring islands in the South Pacific. And it’s so close to Australia’s East Coast, you can breakfast in Sydney or Brisbane and swim with turtles in its limpid waters before lunch.

Old Settlement Beach is a favourite turtle haunt and soon after my arrival, I strolled down to the water’s edge to find one floating two metres offshore, head poking out of the water as if in greeting.

Turtles can swim at 20kph. That’s faster than Ian Thorpe, who’s been known to reach 8kph over 400m, which proves the turtle in question could have disappeared in a jiffy if it had so wished.

Instead, I followed it around the bay as it nibbled sea grass and glided gracefully past lion fish and spangled emperors swimming among the purple-tipped antler coral.

World Heritage listed in 1982, Lord Howe has more wildlife than people – 370 residents and no more than 400 visitors at any one time, compared with the hundreds of thousands of seabirds that arrive to breed. Fourteen species lay their eggs on the island – on precipitous cliff ledges, in earthy burrows inland, on the pastures usually reserved for cows and precariously on branches in the pisonia forests.

Stray too close to a nesting colony of sooty terns on Malabar Hill and you’ll find yourself in a scene from Alfred Hitchcock’s film The Birds. Relentlessly, the terns dive bomb intruders until they retreat. Be warned this is a confrontation you cannot win.

Back at Old Settlement Beach, the turtle eventually changed gear and shot off towards the reef, which, according to oceanographers, is the world’s most southerly coral reef. Bathed by the warm waters of the East Australian Current, which sweeps down from tropical Queensland, the reef is home to 500 fish species and 90 types of coral.

A few minutes stroll from the beach is Arajilla Retreat, one of Lord Howe’s most intriguing properties. Surrounded by a ‘cathedral’ of giant banyan trees filled with bird song, this timber and glass sanctuary has 12 pavilions spread around a remnant forest.

The main building – with restaurant and lounge area – is made up of a long crimson feature wall, decorated with Balinese sculptures and soft furnishings. Three plate glass walls give views over a fern garden. It’s an elegant space, where you can dine on freshly caught fish and other local produce.

You would never guess that the resort’s 22 queen-sized beds had been tossed on the ocean waves on “a 400-mile blue water marathon” before arriving in the bedroom suites. Resort owner Bill Shead brought the beds from the mainland strapped to his 17-metre catamaran, Cut Loose. “That’s a lot of effort to create comfort,” says Bill, who has sailed 45,000 miles back and forth between Lord Howe and the mainland. Freight charges, he says, are exorbitant.

Arajilla is perfectly positioned to explore the north of the island along two walking trails. The well-defined path crosses a style at the far end of Old Settlement Beach and then climbs 182 metres up hundreds of wooden steps. Just before the summit, the trail splits into two. Take the left to Mount Eliza and the right to Kim’s Lookout. The views from Mount Eliza and the Lookout take in the entire island, including its emerald forests, crescent-shaped sandy beaches and mesmerising lagoon, an ever-shifting patchwork of turquoise and aquamarine, whch meets the basalt cliffs of Mount Lidgbird and Mount Gower at the southern tip of the island.

After Kim’s Lookout, the trail winds along the cliff-tops, where red-tailed tropic birds can often be seen using the thermals to fly backwards in a bizarre courtship ritual, and then continues to Malabar Hill and Ned’s Beach, where fish are so numerous scenes from the bible come to mind.

Those who like to have the luxury of a room with a view should stay at Capella Lodge on the south of the island, next to Lovers Bay. Here Mount Lidgbird and Mount Gower dominate the outlook from Capella’ terrace and dining room. Besides its spectacular location, the lodge is famous for its exquisite food, courtesy of chef Phil Woolaston, formerly of Finns, Byron Bay.

On my first visit to Lord Howe Island, I missed having lunch at Capella, thanks to a Lord Howe wood hen. At the time, the wood hen faced extinction. There were only six breeding pairs left in the world, all of them on Lord Howe, and as I rode a bicycle to Capella that day one of them attempted to cross the road. Swerving to avoid it, I broke my arm when the bike skidded and overturned on some gravel.

Luckily, Lord Howe has a small hospital. Phil wasn’t cooking in Capella’s kitchen at the time, but I was told later I had missed an excellent lunch.

There are two walks conveniently close to Capella. The easy one follows the old track, past crescent beaches and groves of kentia palms, to the base of Mount Gower. The other is an eight-hour climb to the summit of Mount Gower with Jack Shick, a fifth generation local and one of the few people certified as a guide into this restricted area. The summit has been called a “lost world” where several species of plant, found no where else in the world, thrive.

Between March and September, providence petrels soaring above Mount Gower can be to “called down” by making any continuous loud sound as they return from an afternoon fishing out at sea. Attracted by the sound, the birds land all around the callers and, having no fear of humans, can be picked up.

On my last night at Capella, our feast of lamb loin, soft polenta and sugar snap peas was interrupted by a disturbing shriek from the valley below. “That’s a Lord Howe wood hen looking for love,” said Capella’s manager Libby Grant. I couldn’t help thinking out loud whether it was the same bird that laid me low on my last visit. “Could be,” replied Libby. “It’s one of the rarest birds in the world and that particular one has no road sense at all,” she added with a twinkle in her eye.

Lord Howe Island, NSW, www.lordhoweisland.info; www.tourism.nsw.gov.au. Arajilla, 1800 063 928; www.arajilla.com.au. Capella Lodge, (02) 9918 4355; www.lordhowe.com. QantasLink, 13 13 13; Qantas.com.

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Understanding depression

Understanding depression

One in five people will experience depression in their lifetime. It can be anything from a serious depressive period that lasts at least two weeks (major depression) to a less severe low mood that lasts for years (dysthymia).

It can run in families, but difficult life circumstances are more likely to bring on a bout. Medical problems can also be to blame, such as low thyroid function, anaemia, chronic pain and brain injuries, as can certain personality traits, such as being a worrier or perfectionist, negative or self-critical.

Mood swings, irritability, frustration, loss of interest in life, sleeplessness, alcohol or drug misuse, staying home a lot, poor physical health, an inability to take criticism. ”The way to determine if someone is experiencing depression rather than simply having a bad day is the severity of their symptoms,” says Associate Professor Michael Baigent, clinical advisor to Beyond Blue, the national depression initiative (www.beyondblue.com.au).

”If they are persistently depressed and it’s affecting how they function in daily life, they’re having suicidal thoughts, feeling down for longer than two weeks, or having severe mood swings, they could need professional help.”

Reduce stress levels – relaxation techniques, plenty of sleep and cutting down on alcohol can help. Continue to socialise, even if you don’t feel like it, and stay active – research shows regular exercise significantly reduces the risk of developing depression.

Don’t avoid someone with depression. They need to stay socially active and simply spending time with them can show you care. Be ready to listen – not judge – when they want to talk.

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Formerly known as manic depression, bipolar disorder sufferers experience extreme highs – periods of mania – followed by crushing lows that don’t relate to what’s going on in their life. “We think there’s a biological cause behind it, but it’s an oversimplification to say it’s simply a chemical imbalance,” says Prof Baigent.

Bipolar disorder can manifest in extreme opposites – high/low energy levels, rapid/slow thoughts and actions, inactivity/overactivity. Symptoms can also include irritability, inappropriate behaviour due to impaired judgement, sleeplessness, hallucinations, and withdrawing from friends and family. Bipolar disorder ”Most people will have an episode of mania, recover, then lapse into depression, recover, then experience mania again,” says Prof Baigent. ”The average number of mania episodes in a lifetime is about eight. In between the different bouts a person will be their normal self.”

Stress in personal relationships is a common trigger for bipolar disorder, so talk through problems. Try to strike a balance – make time for enjoyable activities, and don’t let work rule your life. Look after yourself with a good diet, and plenty of sleep and exercise.

“You’re never really cured of bipolar, but you can go through long periods without having an episode – just as you can have asthma without having an attack,” says Prof Dr Baigent. “Some people take medications long-term to prevent an attack; others prefer to handle it by looking after themselves and monitoring their situation.”

If they want to talk, listen, and show you understand why they might feel that way. When you are talking, maintain eye contact, create a comfortable atmosphere, and use open-ended questions to encourage conversation. If they get angry, don’t get angry back.

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The type of depression some women get between a month and up to a year after giving birth. Around 16 per cent of mums in Australia will experience PND. It is different to the ‘baby blues’ – when hormonal changes leave a woman feeling tearful and overwhelmed between three and 10 days after giving birth (around 80 per cent of women experience this).

”PND is biological (if you had it with your first child you’re more likely to have it with your second) and circumstantial (having a baby is a significant, life-changing event),” says Prof Baigent.

A lack of confidence, negative thoughts, feelings of inadequacy, guilt and being unable to cope, trouble sleeping, loss of appetite and memory, feeling that life is meaningless and a tendency to withdraw from everyone, including the baby.

Do things you enjoy, even if it’s just reading a book. Ask others to mind the baby to give you a break, and don’t feel bad for restricting visitors. Although you might not feel like reaching out, making a connection with others can really help, especially other mums experiencing PND.

Don’t bottle things up from your partner, eat right, stay active, even if it’s only pushing the pram around the block, and nap whenever you can – sleep is very important.

Be there to listen and offer support. And don’t underestimate the value of practical things like babysitting, doing the laundry or cooking dinner. Remember the woman’s partner might need help too.

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It’s thought to be a chemical imbalance in the hypothalamus portion of the brain, which occurs due to a lack of exposure to sunlight – cases in people living within 30 degrees of the equator are rare.

A lack of sunlight can cause a drop in melatonin, a hormone that plays a role in sleep patterns and mood, and serotonin, a neurotransmitter that affects mood.

Depression, hopelessness, oversleeping, lethargy, over-eating, a loss of concentration, libido and energy, anxiety, mood swings, problems socialising and a weakened immune system.

Make your environment brighter – open blinds and trim trees back from windows. Sit closer to windows at home and work. Get more sunlight on your skin – take a walk at lunchtime, exercise outside or simply sit on a bench in the sun.

Even if it’s cloudy, outdoor light can help. If nothing works, try a light box. These high-intensity, full-spectrum devices mimic outdoor light and fool your brain into thinking you’ve been in the sun, thus causing a change in brain chemicals.

If you’ve noticed a friend seems exceptionally down during the winter months and there’s no real reason why, tell them about SAD and help them find out more.

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New acne scarring solution

New acne scarring solution

A new solution to rid the skin of scarring, known as punch grafting, has become one of the most effective ways to treat scarring, the UK’s Daily Mail reported.

The process involves using skin from behind the ears as a skin graft over acne scarring.

Dr Puneet Gupta, a GP with a special interest in dermatology, said despite there being other treatments out there, punch grafting is particularly suitable for those who have severe acne scarring.

“Over the past five years, laser treatment, which stimulates the production of collagen, has been used very successfully as a treatment for acne scarring,” Dr Gupta said.

“However, for people with very deep craters, even strong laser treatment is not enough. They are usually in a very visible part of the face, are hard to camouflage even with make-up, and, as a result, patients often feel very self-conscious.”

But there are some downsides to punch grafting. There is a risk of the graft not taking as well as it should, the area that has been grafted may end up higher than surrounding skin and the grafted skin may not match perfectly.

Website acne.org.au reports that acne affects 85 percent of Australians aged between 15 and 24 years and is the most common skin disease.

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Food Fashion Friends

Food Fashion Friends, BY FLEUR WOOD, PENGUIN, $59.95.

If you’ve yet to discover Sydney-based fashion designer Fleur Wood and her soft, slightly bohemian but always elegant sense of style, this book is a good place to start.

As well as making great frocks, Wood is a fervent home cook and her passion shines through the pages of this photographic storyboard of her stylish life. With recipes, entertaining tips and ideas for events from baby showers to kids’ parties, country weekends and cocktail parties, plus dreamy pictures to help put it all together, prepare to

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Hawke: The Prime Minister

Hawke: The Prime Minister, BY BLANCHE D’ALPUGET, MUP, $54.99.

The most important thing to do when reading Hawke: The Prime Minister is to keep reminding yourself that it is written by his second wife, Blanche D’Alpuget. If you forget, even for a few pages, then you could be lulled into thinking he was the greatest man to ever walk the planet.

Despite this, it is still a compelling and highly enjoyable read, which captures a time in politics when it was about more than spin and focus groups, and when leaders fought over ideas and their vision for this country. Ms D’Alpuget brings to life the events of this period by quoting extensively from some of the major figures of that time, including Kim Beazley, John Dawkins, Ross Garnaut, Bob Hogg, Bill Hayden and a number of Hawke’s loyal staff. This technique tends to mitigate the fact that she is married to her subject. Her characterisation of Hawke’s rival, Paul Keating, is at times condescending yet still incredibly compelling and she nails the ruthlessness and disloyalty of factional heavyweight Graham Richardson. However, her observations on Hazel Hawke seem incredibly inappropriate. In summary, Ms D’Alpuget is a fine biographer and the strength of her writing carries the book.

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