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Are you too busy to enjoy life?

Are you too busy to enjoy life?

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Are you a NETTEL? This acronym, coined by market researchers to describe people struggling with crazy-busy lives, stands for: not enough time to enjoy life.

These 10 tried-and-true tips can help you to find a little bit more time for yourself on even the most hectic day.

1. Break it down: When faced with a huge task, as the saying goes, “Take one bite of the elephant at a time” — do one thing at a time, do it well, and move onto the next. Don’t waste time by panicking over what you have to do, or haven’t done yet.

In pictures: Feel better on the Bollywood diet

2. Plug time leaks: Fill in those little leftover moments of time with something constructive. When you’re stuck in traffic or kept waiting for an appointment, listen to your iPod or a talking book, read a magazine, plan a menu.

3. Clean up as you go: If you spend 10 minutes every day looking for your keys, work files, bills or lost earrings, you waste more than 60 hours a year. Remember what your mother told you, “A place for everything, and everything in its place.”

4. Work out what you’re worth: Calculate your hourly wage. Then, perhaps you can pay someone less than your rate to do the time-consuming chores you hate most. That way, you’ll have more time to either do the work that pays you more, or just chill.

5. Don’t say “yes” straight away: When you’re asked to do something you don’t have to time to do, train yourself to say, “I need 24 hours to think it over — I’ll get back to you.” When you call back to say no, suggest someone who may be able to do the job instead. That two-letter word “No” is the single most important time-management tool you have.

6. Shorten your “to-do” list: According to Forbes magazine, the most effective managers identify only three top priorities every day. Try it. Your self-esteem gets a big boost when you repeatedly cross off all three tasks, day after day. Anything more than three is a bonus.

7. Write a “don’t do” list as well: This should include any tasks you can delegate, anything that you do just to please others, and any job that really doesn’t matter much. Ask yourself: “What’s the worst that can happen if I don’t do this?” If the answer is “Not much” — don’t do it.

8. Pick your peaks: Are you a day person or a night person? Everyone has a biological clock and certain times of day when we are most alert, and other times when we’re not. Schedule routine chores and low-priority jobs for your “down time”.

9. Jump in: The most insidious thing about procrastination is that the job gets bigger and harder and scarier the longer you keep putting it off. Once started, most people are surprised to find it doesn’t take that long after all.

Related: The meltdown-free guide to time management

10. “Stop when you’re hot,” Ernest Hemingway said: In other words, stop a task at a point when you’ve achieved something, rather than in the middle of a problem. It’s much easier to return to it.

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How to wear: The new skirt length

How to wear: The new skirt length

Images from Fendi's spring 2011 ready-to-wear catwalk show

Somewhere in between a midi and a maxi, a new length of skirt arrived during the spring-summer shows and looks set to stay for autumn. The hem hovers a few centimetres above the ankle, and looks beautifully chic on the genetically blessed blondes wafting down the runway, but can it work for the rest of us?

This new hem length is a welcome alternative to the panic-inducing miniskirts of late — not only do they cover a multitude of sins; they are also an easy piece to throw on for work that will transition easily from summer to winter. However there are a few guidelines to help you pull it from frumpy to fabulous.

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Firstly, heels are a must. Even though Chloé paired floaty Grecian numbers with soft ballet flats, mere mortals should opt for sky-high heels. Although the ankle-strap version was a favourite with designers, beware of this style as it can easily cut you off and make your legs look shorter. Demure pumps will elongate your silhouette while also lending to a ladylike and polished look for work and evening, or try wedges for a modern, daytime feel.

Avoid wearing heavy layers on top. Instead, keep it simple and fresh with a T-shirt for the weekend, or a silk or chiffon blouse for easy glamour. Add a pop of colour or a statement print on the top if you are bottom heavy, and once the colder weather sets in, team it with a slouchy jumper, belted around the waist for a defined figure, or try a slim fit cardigan.

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Body sculpt: Best workout for your body type

Which workout will give you the best results in the shortest amount of time? It all depends on your body type. Exercise physiologist and nutritionist Kathleen Alleaume reveals the right fitness level for your body type.
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Which workout will give you the best results in the shortest amount of time? It all depends on your body type. Exercise physiologist and nutritionist Kathleen Alleaume reveals the right fitness level for your body type.

There are a number of different body types and you can thank (or blame) your parents for the genetics you have inherited. Although you can’t change your height or bone structure, you can certainly change your body shape (fat versus muscle) with the right exercise and eating habits.

As soon as you adjust your fitness routine according to your build and metabolism, you will achieve success more easily and faster than ever before.

If you don’t feel you fit exclusively into one category, opt for the body type that best describes most of your characteristics. This guide to body types is a helpful place to start but remember, no matter what category you fit into, your first concern should be health.

People who are inactive, overweight or have any medical problems may need a clearance from their doctor before embarking on any new exercise program. If you have any doubts or concerns, see your GP or exercise physiologist for individualised advice.

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Which body type are you?

While we’re all individuals, most of us fall into one of three basic categories: endomorph, mesomorph and ectomorph. Don’t be dazzled by these scientific terms. Working out which group you fit into and knowing the most effective exercise for that body type will give you the best chance of reshaping your body.

  • Ectomorphs tend to be thin, long-limbed and typically described as the “ruler” shape. They are usually tall in stature, with a long, slender neck. And due to their super fast metabolism, they carry very low levels of body fat, but have poor muscle definition compared to mesomorphs (below).

  • Mesomorphs tend to be the best body types for controlling weight. Typically referred to as the “hourglass” shape, mesomorphs have broad shoulders with a narrow waist and have a muscular physique enabling them to lose weight more easily than endomorphs (below).

  • Endomorphs are generally shaped like “apples” or “pears” and carry more body fat relative to muscle. They tend to have a round, chubby face and usually struggle to control their weight, due to a slower metabolic rate than other body types.

How to exercise

Ectomorphs

Since ectomorphs burn kilojoules very quickly and tend to want to gain weight, their fitness routines will differ. Good exercise for ectomorphs includes intense weight training workouts that will tire the muscles and build them up. Weight training is also good for building bone density, which is important for women, whose bones are prone to osteoporosis. Cardiovascular exercise is still important for general health and wellbeing.

Weight training: Three times per week, targeting the upper and lower body. Perform moderate to heavy weights with a low number of repetitions (2 x 8 repetitions), as too much activity will burn lots of kilojoules. The goal should be to try to build muscle, rather than waste kilojoules minimising what muscle tissue you already have.

Cardio: Thirty minutes, three times per week, of low-to-moderate intensity aerobic activity, such as brisk walking and swimming. Swimming is highly recommended because the water provides resistance, which is great for muscle toning.

Mesomorphs

Strength training: Yoga or Pilates, three times per week, provides muscular conditioning in a routine more likely to develop muscle tone, not size. This type of exercise will ensure a good balance between the upper and lower body, and encourage balance, stretching and flexibility.

Cardio: Circuit training (moving quickly from one exercise to the next without a break), one or two times per week, promotes strength and stamina without building bulk. Other options include boot camp, spin and step classes.

Endomorphs

Endomorphs usually carry extra fat around the lower abdomen, hips and thighs, so the key is to start with a program that burns kilojoules. Many endomorphs avoid weight training because they don’t want to bulk up. You should not avoid weights! Since building lean muscle also burns fat, endomorphs should also include weight training in their fitness plans to give their metabolism an extra boost at the same time.

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Weight training: Once or twice per week of moderate weight training, using the whole body. Use light to moderate exercises, with lots of repetitions, at a slow pace (3 x 15 repetitions) to burn extra kilojoules. To improve body symmetry, you may want to double up on upper-body exercises. For example, push-ups, pull-downs and chin-ups.

Cardio: Thirty to 60 minutes of cardio work, three to six times per week, for maximum fat and kilojoule burn. Your cardio workouts should generally be done at a moderately intense level, such as brisk walking (adding hills), elliptical training, stair climbing, jogging and incline walking. Be sure to choose a safe exercise as the extra weight can cause increased pressure on joints and bones, so it is important to avoid engaging in exercises that can add stress to these areas. Also, increase incidental exercise levels by walking (instead of driving) and taking the stairs (instead of lifts or escalators). The goal should be to burn as many kilojoules as possible.

What about diet?

Ectomorphs: Lucky you! Due to an extra fast metabolism, you actually need to eat more kilojoules than people with other body types, especially if you’re trying to build muscle. Don’t get too carried away, though, thinking you can eat whatever you want – making healthy choices is still important. Focus on complex carbohydrates, such as multi-grain breads, pasta and whole grains, fruit and vegetables. It’s best to eat often and snack on kilojoule-dense foods, such as nuts and dried fruit.

Mesomorphs: If your goal is to put on muscle, you need to consume an excess of both complex carbohydrates and protein. If you consume too many kilojoules and don’t exercise, you will put on extra fat. Aim for lean protein, such as turkey, chicken, low-fat dairy, fish and legumes, and opt for carbohydrates with a low-glycaemic index (slow-digesting), such as grainy breads, brown rice and noodles, and include healthy fats from raw nuts, olive oil, flaxseed oil and avocados.

Endomorphs: If you eat more kilojoules than you need to maintain your current weight, your body will store those extra kilojoules as fat. So, you should try to lower your total kilojoule intake by eating five or six mini-meals per day (this also helps stave off hunger). Never wait until you’re hungry to eat and never eat until full. Instead, load up on high-fibre, low-glycaemic index carbohydrates, such as fruit, vegetables, wholegrain breads, pastas and brown rice, to keep you satisfied for longer. Avoid sugar, processed food and junk food entirely. Drink enough water to stay properly hydrated. Also eat as much lean protein as possible, avoiding fatty meats and alcohol, which are high in kilojoules.

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Are you too busy to enjoy life?

Are you a NETTEL? This acronym, coined by market researchers to describe people struggling with crazy-busy lives, stands for: not enough time to enjoy life.
Are you too busy to enjoy life?

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Are you a NETTEL? This acronym, coined by market researchers to describe people struggling with crazy-busy lives, stands for: not enough time to enjoy life.

These 10 tried-and-true tips can help you to find a little bit more time for yourself on even the most hectic day.

1. Break it down: When faced with a huge task, as the saying goes, “Take one bite of the elephant at a time” — do one thing at a time, do it well, and move onto the next. Don’t waste time by panicking over what you have to do, or haven’t done yet.

In pictures: Feel better on the Bollywood diet

2. Plug time leaks: Fill in those little leftover moments of time with something constructive. When you’re stuck in traffic or kept waiting for an appointment, listen to your iPod or a talking book, read a magazine, plan a menu.

3. Clean up as you go: If you spend 10 minutes every day looking for your keys, work files, bills or lost earrings, you waste more than 60 hours a year. Remember what your mother told you, “A place for everything, and everything in its place.”

4. Work out what you’re worth: Calculate your hourly wage. Then, perhaps you can pay someone less than your rate to do the time-consuming chores you hate most. That way, you’ll have more time to either do the work that pays you more, or just chill.

5. Don’t say “yes” straight away: When you’re asked to do something you don’t have to time to do, train yourself to say, “I need 24 hours to think it over — I’ll get back to you.” When you call back to say no, suggest someone who may be able to do the job instead. That two-letter word “No” is the single most important time-management tool you have.

6. Shorten your “to-do” list: According to Forbes magazine, the most effective managers identify only three top priorities every day. Try it. Your self-esteem gets a big boost when you repeatedly cross off all three tasks, day after day. Anything more than three is a bonus.

7. Write a “don’t do” list as well: This should include any tasks you can delegate, anything that you do just to please others, and any job that really doesn’t matter much. Ask yourself: “What’s the worst that can happen if I don’t do this?” If the answer is “Not much” — don’t do it.

8. Pick your peaks: Are you a day person or a night person? Everyone has a biological clock and certain times of day when we are most alert, and other times when we’re not. Schedule routine chores and low-priority jobs for your “down time”.

9. Jump in: The most insidious thing about procrastination is that the job gets bigger and harder and scarier the longer you keep putting it off. Once started, most people are surprised to find it doesn’t take that long after all.

Related: The meltdown-free guide to time management

10. “Stop when you’re hot,” Ernest Hemingway said: In other words, stop a task at a point when you’ve achieved something, rather than in the middle of a problem. It’s much easier to return to it.

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Ruby Rose on how she beat bullying

Ruby Rose on how she beat bullying

One in four Australian students will be bullied at school this year. Bryce Corbett talks to TV presenter Ruby Rose about how she overcame the bullies who made her school days hell.

Ruby Rose:

“It only really started when I got to high school. I was never really one of those kids who blended in. By the time I got to high school, I was different enough to attract the attention of bullies. The fact I refused to apologise for being different just added fuel to their fire.

“I was raised by a single mum; we never had much money. I couldn’t afford the clothes all the girls were wearing and I’d get around in Blundstones and trackies. I started doing a bit of modelling and that seemed to annoy the bullies. Plus there was the fact I was gay. It was usually groups of girls who would hassle me.

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“Year 10 was the worst. It got so bad I begged my mum to change schools. It’s not her fault, she never really knew how bad it was, but she would tell me to ignore the bullies and they would go away. They didn’t.

“One afternoon after school I was attacked in a café. A metal chair was smashed repeatedly against the back of my head. The whole school had gathered to watch it happen. And as much as the pain of the attack was awful, the thing that hurt me the most afterwards was that no one stepped in to try to stop it. I remember looking up while the attack was taking place and seeing people laughing. I had to be taken to hospital.

“When you’re at school, it’s hard to see beyond those four walls. You’re too young and have too little life experience to know that school is just a tiny blip on what will hopefully be a long and happy life. It was only when I left school that I discovered there’s a whole world out there – and it’s a big, exciting, tolerant world, filled with people just like you.

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“Do I harbour any bitterness towards the bullies? Not really. I used to, but now I’m older I look back and think those same girls have probably had their own disappointments and challenges and tragedies in their lives and at some point had to face their own demons. As Oprah says, hating someone is like drinking poison every day.”

Read more of this story in the March issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Your say: Were you bullied at school? Do you think children these days are bullied more than in the past? How do you think society should deal with bullies?

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Anne Hathaway’s amazing Oscars outfits

Anne Hathaway’s hosting of the 2011 Oscars might have been panned by critics, but her fashion choices were perfect.

The 28-year-old actress donned eight stunning outfits throughout the ceremony, from her princess-style red carpet Valentino, to her figure-hugging crystal-studded Tom Ford finale gown. She even wore a custom-made Lanvin tuxedo while her co-host James Franco minced about in a pink dress.

Celebrity stylist Rachel Zoe dressed Anne for the event and her savvy choices secured the young star a place of best-dressed lists worldwide.

Anne started the evening in this elegant Valentino design

For her first appearance on stage Anne donned this embroidered Givenchy Haute Couture gown

The hostess then mixed things up, wearing a Lanvin tuxedo and Brian Atwood shoes

Anne’s next outfit was this grey silk frock custom-made for her by Vivienne Westwood

After another quick costume change, Anne shimmied onstage in Oscar de la Renta

Another couture gown next, this time a cobalt blue satin design by Armani Privé

Atelier Versace crafted Anne’s penultimate look, a strapless burgundy beaded number

Anne closed the show in this glittering gunmetal Tom Ford dress, embellished with crystals

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Sandra Bullock sparkles one year after split

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Sandra with her ex-husband Jesse James at the 2010 Oscars (left), and at this year's awards (right)

If her performance at yesterday’s Oscars is any indication, Sandra Bullock has emerged triumphant from the turmoil of the past year.

Within days of winning the 2010 Academy Award for Best Actress for her performance inThe Blind Side, stories emerged of her husband Jesse James cheating on her with a string of women, resulting in a messy end to the marriage.

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She was hounded by the world’s press, went into hiding, and adopted a son, which she later revealed she had been in the process of adopting with Jesse.

Her new start to motherhood on her own, a situation that would have been painful in any circumstances, was made even more so with the whole world watching, particularly after the actress’ heartfelt acceptance speech that didn’t leave a dry eye in the house.

Last night she braved the Academy Awards again, this time as a presenter. Sandra held her head high, looking confident and stunning in a plunging red Vera Wang gown.

Bullock’s wry and deprecating presentation style was a hit. Before presenting Colin Firth with the Best Actor award for his role inThe King’s Speech, Sandra teased nominee and last year’s winner Jeff Bridges over his nomination forTrue Grit.

“Don’t you want to stagger them?” she said.

While Bullock has spent most of the last year out of the spotlight raising her adopted son Louis, her triumphant red-carpet return coincided with her first day of work in more than six months year as she begins to shoot new filmExtremely Loud and Incredibly Closewith Tom Hanks.

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With a healthy and beautiful baby boy, an Oscar on the mantle, and new movie on the way, it looks like Sandra has a better year to look forward to.

Your say: Did you enjoy Sandra’s presenting style? How do you think she handled the end of her marriage? Would you have done the same thing?

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Kelsey Grammer weds fourth wife

Kelsey Grammer weds fourth wife in lavish ceremony

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Kelsey Grammer has married Kayte Walsh in a lavish ceremony in New York on Friday, just two weeks after his divorce from his third wife, Camille Donatacci, was finalised.

The 55-year-old Frasier star exchanged vows with the 29-year-old former flight attendant in the city’s Longacre Theater.

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The venue was decorated with props from Kelsey’s Broadway musical La Cage aux Folles, which is performed in the theatre, and large urns filled with pink and red flowers.

The ceremony was performed by Kelsey’s La Cage aux Folles co-star Terry Lavell and Kelsey and Kayte personalised the ceremony by asking their attendants to read out poems they had written for each other.

Kelsey’s eldest daughters Spencer and Greer were bridesmaids, and were joined by Kayte’s friend Angela Copeland and sister Sophie.

Kayte wore a white silk gown with beaded straps and bodice, which was custom-designed by Peter Langner for Mark Ingram Bridal Atelier. Her attendants wore matching black dresses.

Kelsey also had four groomsmen, including his son Jude, Kayte’s two brothers, and his friend Carl DeGersdorff.

After the ceremony, guests attended a lavish dinner in the Plaza Hotel’s Grand Ballroom. The ballroom was then transformed into a party venue, with gold lounge furniture, a bar and a large dance floor.

Kelsey made an emotional speech at the reception, in which he recalled the first time he met Kayte. The actor was flying to London to the West End production of La Cage aux Folles and Kayte was an attendant on the flight.

“It was really, really sweet,” a guest told People magazine. “Kelsey is very good with words. He’s an actor, so he was very articulate and sweet. She was, too, and very genuine. They looked very happy. Really, really happy.”

Kayte is Kelsey’s fourth wife. He wed dance instructor Doreen Alderman in 1982 but divorced her in 1990. They have one daughter, Spencer, 27. Kelsey became a father for the second time in 1992, when his girlfriend Barrie Buckner gave birth to daughter Greer, now 18. He then married exotic dancer Leigh-Anne Csuhany in 1992, but the relationship ended one year later.

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He announced his engagement to Tammy Alexander in 1994, but the pair broke up in 1995. Two years later he married former Playboy model Camille and the couple had two children, daughter Mason, 10, and six-year-old son Jude.

Kelsey filed for divorce from Camille in June 2010 and was photographed with Kayte in August. Kayte announced she was pregnant in October, but suffered a miscarriage six weeks later. She and Kelsey announced their engagement in December, 2010, and paid $100,000 to book the ballroom at the Plaza weeks before Kelsey’s divorce from Camille was finalised.

Your say: Do you think Kelsey should have waited longer than two weeks after his divorce was finalised to wed again? Would you marry someone who had been divorced so many times before?

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Meet Princess Mary’s twins

Meet Princess Mary's twins

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The newest members of Denmark’s royal family have posed for official portraits, just seven weeks after their birth.

Crown Prince Frederik and his wife Princess Mary welcomed the baby boy and girl at Copenhagen’s University Hospital on January 8.

The babies were photographed leaving the hospital six days later in the arms of their parents and have now posed for official portraits in their apartment in Amalienborg Palace.

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The series of intimate images show the babies alone and with their parents and were taken by royal photographer Steen Brogaard.

The twins will be named at their christening on April 14.

Frederik and Mary have two other children, Prince Christian, five, and three-year-old Princess Isabella.

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William and Kate launch wedding website

William and Kate launch wedding website

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Are you desperate to discover what Kate Middleton’s wedding dress looks like? Intrigued about what colour hat Queen Elizabeth will wear? Wondering whether Prince William will cry when he makes his vows? If so, the new official royal wedding website will probably fill you with joy.

William and Kate launched the site dedicated to their April 29 nuptials yesterday.

The webpage will provide daily “exclusive” updates about the wedding, the latest photos of the couple and a live feed from Westminster Abbey on the wedding day. The royal family is also reportedly considering streaming the ceremony live online.

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The site’s creators at royal residence Clarence House have promised juicy details, such as the style and designer of Kate’s dress, will be posted on the site before they appear anywhere else (in the case of the wedding dress, the information will be revealed at 11am on the wedding day, at the exact moment Kate steps out of her car to walk into the church).

“There’s been lots of interest in the wedding from the public and the website will be a resource for them to go to,” a St. James Palace spokesman told Britain’s Daily Mail newspaper.

Information about the big day will also be published on the British Monarchy’s Twitter page, while exclusive images will be posted on Flickr and footage broadcast on the Royal Channel on Youtube.

Your say: Do you think a royal wedding website is a good idea? Will you visit it?

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