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Prince Harry jokes about his ‘crown jewels’ at charity swim

Prince Harry jokes about his 'crown jewels' at charity swim

Prince Harry on the Norwegian island of Spitsbergen yesterday

Prince Harry might be a royal, but he showed he is just like any other young man yesterday when he joked about his private parts during a swim in the Arctic Ocean.

The 26-year-old prince was on the Norwegian island of Spitsbergen training for his upcoming trek to the North Pole.

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As part of his preparations, Harry and his companions took a dip in the frigid ocean. Donning a bright orange immersion suit, the third in line to the throne jumped in. “It’s quite tight on the balls!” he said.

Harry floated around in the 1°C water, laughing while splashing his swimming companions. When asked how the water was, he joked: “That’s a silly question … it’s warm. It went up my nose.”

Harry will join wounded British servicemen for the first five days of their 320km trek to the North Pole on Friday. The expedition has been organised by the Walking with the Wounded charity, of which Harry is the patron.

He was joined in the arctic waters by the charity’s co-founders Ed Parker and Simon Dalglish.

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Harry and the other trekkers will face temperatures as low as minus 45°C on their journey. They will need to wear their orange suits to cross cracks in the ice, so they are protected if they fell into the freezing water.

Walking with the Wounded hopes to raise £2 million ($3.1 million) from the trek to support injured servicemen and women.

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Gok Wan launches Australian style tour

Gok Wan launches Westfield Australia tour

To the delight of fashionistas, everyday women and fans of the TV showHow to Look Good Naked, UK fashion guru Gok Wan launched his Westfield Style tour on Wednesday.

Kicking things off at the Pitt Street Mall Sydney store, Gok got his tour off to a cheeky start by de-robing four models to reveal the latest autumn-winter trends, which were body painted on.

He said his tour would help women feel more comfortable with their bodies and the clothes they wear.

“Our brave lasses showed us that when we strip fashion right back, it’s all about embracing your body shape and dressing for it,” he said.

“By accentuating your God-given curves everyone can look fabulous! We can’t wait to show all the Aussie ladies who’ll visit us on tour how to make the most of what they’ve got ? ‘cos if you’ve got it, flaunt it!”

Known as “Fairy Gok Mother” his tour promises to empower women to dress for their body shapes giving them some seasonal style hints along the way.

Gok will visit 10 Westfield centres across NSW, ACT, SA, Queensland and Victoria.

Tour details:

NSW and ACT

Thursday, March 31, Westfield Parramatta from 6pm to 7pm

Friday, April 1, Westfield Miranda from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

Saturday, April 2, Westfield Belconnen from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

Sunday, April 3, Westfield Kotara from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

Tuesday, April 5, Westfield Hornsby from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

SA

Wednesday, April 6, Westfield Marion from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

Queensland

Thursday, April 7, Westfield Chermside from 6pm to 7pm

Friday, April 8, Westfield Carindale from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

Victoria

Saturday, April 9, Westfield Southland from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

Sunday, April 10, Westfield Fountain gate from 12.30pm to 1.30pm

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22 Britannia Road

22 Britannia Road

22 Britannia Road by Amanda Hodgkinson, Fig Tree, $32.95

There is no shortage of stories inspired by the terrors of World War II and the Nazi occupation of Europe, but Amanda Hodgkinson’s debut novel is so much more than that — beneath the story’s wartime bunker is a complex, intriguing and, in snatched moments, deeply sensual love story punctuated with dark surprises at every turn.

Silvana and Janusz seem made for each other when they first meet in small-town Poland in 1937. Barely into adulthood and immediately giddy with sexual attraction, they are eager to explore their lust as it develops into love.

Silvana, a pretty peasant girl with a strained relationship with her tragic drunken mother, easily loses her heart to Janusz, who has a natural bent for fixing mechanical things, but whose upwardly mobile family is eager for him to go to university and study law or enter the priesthood.

Yet this is not to be. Marriage follows a surprise pregnancy and the couple’s upbeat new life in a flat in Warsaw is cut brutally short by the war. Janusz heads off to fight, leaving Silvana and their baby son, Aurek, in the wrong place when the Germans invade.

What happens to each during the shambolic war and how that plays out when they are finally reunited on British shores provides the framework for a compelling and powerful study of love and loss in its many guises.

Told in alternate chapters, which jump both between each of our protagonists and forward and back in time, the author also manages to create a sharp sense of dramatic tension as painful secrets of unspeakable wartime trauma are revealed.

At the end of the war, Silvana and her son are discovered living like animals in the forest and this theme of the sanctuary of nature in its wildest forms runs through the book. When Silvana comes together with her husband in a new and strange land, nothing is the same and the scars of what each has endured seem to conspire to tear them apart.

Hodgkinson’s language is precise and spare, reflecting the uncomfortable situations that our pair continually find themselves in, but her imagery is dense and evocative, making the emotional subtext of the novel resonate long after the final page.

About the author

Books were an essential part of growing up for Amanda, whose parents ran a second-hand bookshop in a village in southern England. “I was 10 when we had the bookshop and I began to read obsessively. That was when I decided I wanted to write,” says Amanda, 47.

22 Britannia Road is her first novel. “It took me several years to write. I was working at the same time and I had my two daughters and family to care for. But the last year I spent on [it] was different. I gave up work, ignored the housework and wrote every day. During the final two weeks, I wrote through the day, slept for a couple of hours, then got up in the night and began again. I think that kind of devotion and passion is what a book needs.”

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Your next holiday: Canada’s west

From spectacular scenery, fine restaurants, island retreats, ski resorts and White Christmases, British Columbia and Alberta serve up a tantalising array of tourism options.
Ice skating at Lake Louise

Vancouver

The locals call Vancouver “Lycra city” because they’re always outside exercising — walking, jogging, ice skating — in the stretchy stuff.

Like Sydney, it’s an outdoors city with a spectacular harbour and conveniently close beaches. A short ferry trip away is Vancouver Island, a wilderness of pine forests and log cabins for the rugged, chic resorts for the pampered, and Victoria, British Columbia’s historic capital city, for the urbane.

Three hours inland, you’ll find snow-sports central, Whistler, in the Coastal Ranges, as famous for the 2010 Winter Olympics as it is for employing every other young Aussie in search of a job on the slopes.

In downtown Vancouver, shimmering glass towers overshadow uber-cool inner-city terraces with gallery cafes, shops and some of country’s best restaurants. Yes, Vancouver is billed as one of Canada’s top dining-out cities. Fine food, great sights and beautiful surrounds — what more could anyone want? Here are some of highlights of this frontier city:

Grouse Mountain is an ideal first destination — whatever the season — as the views of the city are good and in the colder months it’s a fantastic introduction to the city’s wintery wonderland. It’s a 15-minute drive from downtown Vancouver to the base of the mountain, where there’s a scenic SkyRide to the peak.

During December, this snowy haven is a child’s paradise, with a Santa in residence, sleigh rides around the mountain through snow-covered forests, treasure hunts and ice-skating to the sound of cheerful carols in the background. In summer, the wildflowers are spectacular. The fee for the return SkyRide ($34.95 for adults and $12.95 for children) makes it one of the city’s great bargains.

The Vancouver Trolley Company offers red trolley car tours through the city, Chinatown and around Stanley Park, allowing you to get on and off at 23 stops along the way.

Vancouver Aquarium will enthral kids with the haunting beauty of the white beluga whales and the antics of playful sea otters, sea lions and seals.

Capilano Suspension Bridge is a 137m plank bridge crosses the Capilano River and soars 70m above the rugged Capilano Canyon, swaying perilously in the breeze.

Treetops Adventure at Capilano Suspension Bridge and Park — where a cable bridge is suspended between a series of treetops, 33m above the forest floor — offers an extraordinary aerial walk. During December, you can visit at night to experience Canyon Lights, with all the bridges glowing with 200,000 fairy lights. Cost is $25 for a family of four.

Stanley Park, Vancouver’s 400-hectare evergreen oasis, comes to life throughout December, with a display of more than a million festive lights. We spent hours meandering along a maze of illuminated paths, gasping at the splendour of the displays, warming ourselves with massive mugs of hot chocolate and munching on salty roasted chestnuts.

Whistler

Drive two hours east along the Sea-to-Sky Highway and you’ll arrive at one of the world’s great ski resorts: Whistler. If skiing isn’t your priority, visit the Tube Park and spend hours zooming down the slopes in rubber doughnut-like tubes — great for families.

For young skiers, there are also some of the best ski destinations with bear-viewing tours, escorted mountain walks, kayaking around five lakes, four championship golf courses, horseback adventures, mountain bike adventures, trout fishing, summer skiing on Blackcomb’s glacier and Zip Trekking (where you slide at high speed on a flying fox between tree platforms over a river valley and get an exhilarating three-hour tour of a 1000-year old-growth forest valley).

Vancouver Island

Just a short ferry journey away from Vancouver, Vancouver Island offers an ideal daytrip or weekend. It’s British Columbia’s whale-watching capital (killer whalers) and an ideal place to kayak with dolphins, trek through pristine forests, camp or simply stay at a lodge and enjoy a pristine beach and refreshingly cold water. If you need an urban fix, visit Victoria, BC’s capital, a laid-back historic port.

Banff and Lake Louise

Banff is a charming little frontier town high in the Rockies in the neighbouring state of Alberta. On the high street, you’ll find timber buildings with cafes, book shops and boutiques and an occasional elk wandering around as if it owns the place.

In winter, it serves as base for three ski resorts: Lake Louise (63km away), Sunshine (16km) and Mt Norquay (10km). But for those who don’t like snow, summer is the ideal time to visit with either Banff or Jasper National parks, both on the town’s doorstep. Two of the largest parks in the Canadian Rockies, both have healthy populations of grizzly bears, moose, caribou and wolves.

Hot springs bubble to the surface at Banff and the Solace Spa at Fairmont Banff Springs hotel is world famous. Here you can soak in a pool filled with hot mineral water under a great glass dome, contemplating the mountain peaks, before slipping outside for a quick roll in the pristine snow in winter or a frigid pool in summer.

It’s an imposing Scottish-style baronial hotel with lofty, vaulted halls and fossils in its flagstone floors. Located at the junction of two glacial valleys, with commanding views, it’s a palatial labyrinth of columns, minstrel galleries and huge leaded windows, with 700 guest rooms, 12 restaurants and 35 shops.

Less than an hour’s drive away is Lake Louise, a spectacular stretch of turquoise water framed by awe-inspiring mountains. On the waterfront is the Fairmont Chateau Lake Louise, a good base to go trekking around the lake or just sit on the terrace and admire the view.

White Christmas in Canada

Discover a winter wonderland on a five-day Canadian guided holiday with Trafalgar Tours. The adventure begins in cosmopolitan Vancouver and continues on the Snow Train to Jasper with its private sleeping compartments, gourmet meals and the 360-degree mountain views from its famous dome cars.

In Jasper, the land of a million Christmas trees, there are guided walks to mesmerising frozen waterfalls and ice-covered trees. Heritage log cabins at The Fairmont Jasper Park Lodge combine luxury with the essence of the Rockies, complete with roaring log fires.

The tour continues along the spectacular mountain drive, the Icefields Parkway, before stopping over at The Fairmont Banff Springs hotel in the very heart of the Banff National Park. After a visit to Lake Louise and the Chateau Lake Louise hotel, it’s on to the famous wine country of the Okanagan Valley and a visit to Victoria on Vancouver Island.

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Hilary Swank on her childhood and career

Hilary Swank on her childhood and career

Hilary Swank at the 2011 Academy Awards

Hilary Swank is not one to do anything by halves. She has built her career playing underdogs — women who struggle to overcome adversity through dedication and hard work — and in the process has earned two Oscars (Boys Don’t Cry in 1999 and Million Dollar Baby in 2004).

Her own tough beginnings growing up an outsider in a low-rent trailer park have forged an actress as driven as the women she portrays.

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“I’m just a girl from a trailer park who had a dream,” she said in her first Oscar acceptance speech. And now she explains why she understands the women she plays. “I grew up in a lower-income family,” she says, matter-of-factly. “And at age seven, I learned what class-ism was, because a lot of my friends’ parents didn’t want me playing with their kids.

“They would tell them, ‘It’s time to come in’, if they were with me. Or, if I was at their place, they’d say, ‘Hilary you need to leave’. I just can’t understand how they could do that to a child. But I guess we’ve all felt like an outsider at some point, and so my friends became characters in movies.”

Hilary’s story is almost as dramatic as her on-screen roles. At 15, she left school for Hollywood with her mother. They had so little money they slept in their old car and called agents from pay phones. And yet she doesn’t view this existence as negative. “It gave me a lot to pull from. I was just trying to live my dream.”

Parts in TV shows, including a season on Beverly Hills 90210, from which she was fired, led less than a decade after she arrived, to Boys Don’t Cry and the Oscar.

Meeting her, you understand that this did not happen by chance. Rehearsing her role as a transgender teen in Boys Don’t Cry, she passed herself off as a man for weeks before filming began, fooling neighbours and friends in the process (at 24, she also lied about her age, saying she was 21, to get the part).

For Amelia, the story of Amelia Earhart, the first female aviator to attempt to fly solo around the world, Hilary learned to fly.

And she gained 8.5kg of muscle and trained for six months to play a broke waitress driven to be a boxer in Clint Eastwood’s Million Dollar Baby.

For Hilary’s latest movie, Conviction — the true story of Betty Anne Waters, an unemployed single mother who, in real life, spent 18 years becoming a lawyer to free her brother who had been wrongfully imprisoned for murder, she gained 7kg and learned off by heart a two-and-a-half hour recorded interview with her character, before she even tackled the script, just to get the accent right.

“These roles that I’m blessed enough to get the opportunity to play — they make my heart beat fast. Am I going to be able to pull it off? Can I do justice to the story? My homework just settles my nerves.”

Even so, she says she drives to work going, “Please don’t let me mess up.” You believe her when she says it takes her a month after shooting a film to get back to her old self.

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This vulnerability shows a refreshingly human side to her, because here’s the strange thing about Hilary. Despite her brace of Oscars, she is surprisingly below the stellar radar. We don’t feel we know her, or look out for a Hilary Swank movie the way we do with a Sandra Bullock comedy or an Angelina Jolie thriller romp.

Could it be that we remember the characters, not the actress? “It’s true,” she tells me. “I’ve been playing real-life people who are ordinary people with extraordinary experiences. Like Betty Anne [in Conviction], I really relate to that. I choose stories that move and inspire me. Getting to walk in these women’s shoes, even briefly, has been a wonderful challenge.”

Read more of this story in the April issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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Blood Vows: Helen Cummings reveals the terror of her abusive marriage in her new book

Blood Vows: Helen Cummings reveals the terror of her abusive marriage in her new book

Actress Sarah Wynter (right) and her mother Helen Cummings (left) with new book Blood Vows inset

In an exclusive extract from her moving book, Helen Cummings talks about the terror of her abusive marriage and the realisation that she too could have ended up dead had she not left her ex-husband.

It started out as an ordinary Newcastle day, one weekend early in March 1984. Something was creating a strange sense of sadness and unease in me. I was crying and couldn’t explain why. My children [Sarah and Brendan] were settled and happy. My parents were living just around the corner. My brother and two sisters were happily married and raising their families. But still the tears flowed. I’d never experienced anything like this.

Meanwhile, in a doctor’s surgery in the Victorian town of Heathcote, the patients were getting restless. It was the Tuesday morning after a long weekend. Many had waited for surgery hours to consult their local GP, Dr Stuart Wynter, but there was no sign of him. Something must be wrong. His lateness was out of character. Dr Wynter’s partner, Dr Jim Casey, was worried.

The two doctors had known each other for about five years, having met in March 1979 on the Micronesian island of Banaba. They’d worked together in the Heathcote practice since February 1982, and their daily routines were well established.

Stuart was due to work at the local hospital at 8.30 on Tuesday morning, but he didn’t turn up. By now, the receptionist had phoned the flat several times, and so had Dr Casey. The receptionist had also established that Binatia [Dr Wynter’s daughter with second wife Raken] wasn’t at her pre-school.

Dr Casey’s concern grew by the hour. He drove to the police station, where he reported his concerns to Senior Constable George Entwistle. He drove back to the flat with Entwistle, who entered the flat through the unlocked back door while Dr Casey waited outside. A few moments later, Constable Entwistle came back and beckoned Dr Casey into the flat. In the bedroom were the bodies of Raken, Stuart and Binatia.

At about four o’clock that afternoon in Newcastle, I received a phone call from a sergeant at Mayfield police station. He had some bad news. “Stuart Wynter is deceased,” he told me. I immediately asked if Raken and Binatia were okay. I held my breath as I waited for his reply, silently saying, “Please, please God — no, please.” After a few seconds, he said quietly, “No — they are all deceased.”

At that instant, my mind began spinning like the wheels of an overturned truck after a crash. I was facing my own past. Later that afternoon, my sister, Margaret, drove me to visit Eve, Stuart’s mum, who lived alone in the family home. Two police officers spoke with my sister while I comforted Eve. The officers were puzzled about how I knew the deaths weren’t accidental. No one had given me any details. Margaret smiled grimly and said, “She knows.”

This is an edited extract from Blood Vows by Helen Cummings, published by The Five Mile Press, $32.95.

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Meeting epidural victim Grace Wang

Epidural case sparks medical review

Grace Wang and baby Alex

Grace Wang is the victim of one of Australia’s most shocking medical mistakes. During birth, her epidural was filled with antiseptic instead of anaesthetic. Today she is severely handicapped and unable to lift her baby. Here, The Weekly‘s Michael Sheather discusses his emotional interview with Grace.

One of the great privileges of working for The Weekly is that I sometimes meet and interview people who truly inspire me.

Grace Wang, the woman injected with antiseptic instead of instead of anaesthetic during an epidural at Sydney’s St George Hospital in June last year, is one of those people.

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Small framed and quietly spoken, Grace is a woman of immense character and an immeasurable inner strength. She bears her physical disabilities with a courage and quiet determination that few of us could muster in such difficult circumstances.

The chemical injected into Grace, chlorhexidine, wreaked havoc with her body. As a result of this catastrophic medical blunder, Grace, 32, can no longer control her legs, which are gripped by sudden and painful cramps at all times of the day and night.

She has only limited use of her arms and her grip is now so weak that she has difficulty holding hands with her husband Jason, 42. She needs a mechanical sling to get in and out of bed. Most distressingly, Grace cannot hold her baby son, Alexander.

We conducted our interview in the small unit that she now occupies not far from the main buildings of St George Hospital in Kogarah, south of Sydney. It boasted a small combined kitchen, dining, and lounge room, a bed room and a bathroom. Her son sleeps two rooms away in the care of a nanny.

Grace and Jason came to Australia from China in the hope of building a new life for themselves and starting a family. However, those dreams are now in ruins and their future at best uncertain.

Most difficult for Grace was not her many physical disabilities but rather the loss of normal physical contact with those she loves.

“During the first few weeks after the accident, I could hold and feed my baby,” says Grace. “But later I lost the strength in my arms and hands. Yet no one supported us.

“They left us to cope on our own. One night Alex was crying and he was hungry and I pressed the button but no one came for half an hour. I cried and cried because it was so difficult to know that your baby needed you but you couldn’t do anything.”

For all that, Grace shows little, if any, self-pity. She is, instead, mostly stoic and ready to get on with her life as it now stands. Nevertheless, as we discovered during our interview, emotions are sometimes overpowering — we stopped twice for extended periods after Grace found it too difficult to continue.

During one of these breaks, Jason fed his wife lunch patiently raising the food to her mouth, dabbing away excess with a napkin and gently ensuring Grace maintained her dignity. Intensely intimate, it was a moment that spoke volumes about the tenderness they share.

“She can’t hold anything,” her husband Jason told me. “Grace complains about loss of sensation. Both arms have more numbness than before. That is why we worry. That is why we are scared for the future. We both think a lot about what the future will be like for us but we don’t know. No one can tell us if it will be worse in the future.”

Grace also pines for her family, who live in China. “I miss them,” she says. “I would like to see my mum but she is not well and can not travel.”

Jason, too, is a quietly spoken but perhaps understandably he is angry. He has, he says, lost confidence in the system in whose care he, Grace and Alexander now find themselves.

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Yet, somehow, Grace and Jason cling to hope. It is possible, they say, that time may heal the damage to Grace’s nerves, that one day the toxic chemical effects may dissipate.

“We hope that the chlorhexidine will disappear and the nerves will heal by themselves, that Grace will one day stand up and everything will be normal,” says Jason. “But we don’t know what will happen.”

It’s worth noting that what happened to Grace and Jason might have happened to any of us. Their lives changed irrevocably because of a tragic accident. Nevertheless, it was an accident that should never have happened.

Read more of this story in the April issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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My epidural hell

Epidural blunder hospital refusing to release report

Grace Wang and baby Alex

Grace Wang is the victim of one of Australia’s most shocking medical mistakes. During birth, her epidural was filled with antiseptic instead of anaesthetic. Today she is severely handicapped and unable to lift her baby.

Sometimes it’s a touch on her face. Sometimes it’s a look exchanged across a meal. Sometimes it’s a shared tear. Grace Wang, once an active, vibrant young woman with the full promise of motherhood stretched out before her, takes solace in life’s simplest expressions.

“The things that lift me up are small; things other people take for granted,” says Grace, 32. “To see my husband’s eyes, to know he cares for me, to see my baby son and know that he is safe and well. These things help me keep my hope when hope seems so far away.”

Grace needs hope in a way few of us can understand. Nine months ago, she suffered a catastrophic medical accident. An anaesthetist at St George Public Hospital in Sydney injected antiseptic into Grace’s spine instead of anaesthetic during an epidural, a procedure intended to relieve the pain of childbirth.

That blunder, almost inconceivable in a modern Australian hospital, sent a toxic chemical coursing through Grace’s body, ravaging her nervous system and robbing her of her ability to walk, to use her arms, to care for herself. Moreover, that ghastly mistake cost Grace everything she held dear: the future she planned for herself and her family.

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In an emotional and, at times, gruelling interview, Grace and her husband Jason, 42, tell for the first time of their feelings about the mistake that changed their lives irrevocably. Grace speaks candidly about two brain operations, her depression and thoughts of suicide, of not being able to hold her baby son Alex, of the impact her injuries have had on her marriage and her fears for the future.

“We don’t know what will happen to us, tomorrow or in 10 years,” says Grace. “We don’t know how I may be affected in the future, whether it will change or whether it will get better. It is like being in a kind of limbo, with no going forward and no going back.”

Grace and her family endure unhappiness of a vastly different magnitude. “I don’t know how this happened to me or why,” says Grace quietly, speaking out for the first time since the accident. “But I know this should not have happened and I hope that it does not happen again. No one should have this happen again.”

Today, Grace is severely handicapped and unable to move from her bed without a mechanical sling to place her in a wheelchair. She is in constant pain from muscle cramping, as many as 100 a day. She cannot raise her arms above her shoulders and is losing the feeling in her hands. Most distressingly, she cannot hold her son and fears her bond with him will slip away.

“There have been times when I thought that it would be better if I was not here, so that Jason and Alex can go back to normal life,” says Grace. Her smile is gone, replaced by tears and grief.

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“One day, I went to the hospital library with Alex and his nanny. Every mother there was holding her baby. They were singing and laughing, and enjoying themselves. But my Alex was being held by a nanny. He was in her arms and then he looked around and I knew that he was looking for his father, not for me. I was hurt. I am scared he will forget me.”

Her hopes are simple. “I want to be like other mothers,” she says. “I want to hold my baby, my beautiful baby Alex. I so want to feed my baby, but now he is living with the nanny and is so close to the nanny and not to me. Alex even touches the nanny’s face with his hands. I am very jealous.”

Read more of this story in the April issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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Magda Szubanski: Fabulous at 50

Magda Szubanski: Fabulous at 50

The paparazzi knew they had a good get — a female celebrity in a swimsuit always is — but this was the jackpot. The public face of weight loss in Australia and as such the body everyone wants to critique. And so, as Magda Szubanski and some friends enjoyed an impromptu swim at Bondi Beach in January, a long lens was hard at work, capturing full-length frames.

What the public saw published the following week were photos of a happy woman enjoying the surf. What they didn’t see, however, was a candidate for Victoria’s Secret’s next angel and, for some, this came as a shock.

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Even after losing a remarkable 36kg and maintaining her goal weight for two years — the true achievement in weight loss — Magda is still popularly considered a big girl. She is aware of this and, what’s more, knew this would be the case when she set out. Magda always had a goal of 85kg (down from 121kg at her heaviest) and at a 157cm was aware these statistics would never crunch down to a Miranda Kerr.

Yet Magda was and still is okay with that. Her goal in losing weight was to regain her health and, as such, save her life. She doesn’t need to look like a supermodel. Doesn’t want to. Never has.

So, when the beach photos were published, Magda once again heard the comments. Most, she concedes, were the usual “good on you” votes of encouragement that she credits with making her public weight battle the most “rewarding and life-affirming experience” of her life thus far. Yet she was aware of other comments, too, those jarring reminders that her idea of body confidence and society’s have a long way to go before they meet. And it saddens her still.

“I actually love the beach photos,” Magda says, straight-faced. “Honestly, I really do. I think it’s great to be photographed the way I am. My body shape is very normal for an awful lot of people. I am what I am and I’m not ashamed to be so.

“I know that there are people out there thinking I should lose more and I might. Ideally, I’d be a vegan. Maybe I’d have to be to please some people, but as long as my basic health parameters are sound, I am happy.

“I don’t know if I will lose more weight and I am not about to make any promises. It just doesn’t matter. If this is as good as it gets and I am healthy, then I’m fine about that. If I lose more, then that’s fine, too. I’m about to turn 50! My hormones are changing. I’m doing my best and that’s all I can do.”

When Magda hits the big 5-0 on April 12, family will be large in her thoughts. She will be raising a glass to those who have gone before her, along with her loved ones still here. Happily, her 85-year-old mother is and, listening to Magda, she had better have her party shoes ready as she’s going to be busy.

“I am going to party all right — many times and in many different ways — a hootin’ and a hollerin’, massive series of parties,” Magda says, that cherubic smile returning.

“I want to go overseas, I want to party, I want to fully embrace it. I want all my friends together, a big gathering of the clan.

“There’s a certain kind of peace of mind when you get to this age — it’s a great time of life. You still have the energy to enjoy. I’m a party animal and I get out there and have a lot of fun.

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“And I can now say that I genuinely like myself. I do. And now I like myself, not despite my faults, but because of them. And I’m glad for them in a way, I embrace them.

“I have a real sense of what I want to do, how I want to live this next art of my life, what sort of a person I am and what things matter to me. I really feel fantastic. I really do. I feel… I don’t know, I’m just lovin’ it. I really am.”

Read more of this story in the April issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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Can natural remedies cure arthritis?

Can natural remedies cure arthritis?

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Twenty years ago, Stephen Eddey was confined to a wheelchair, unable to walk and in constant agony due to his arthritis.

Today, he is living a normal life, completely pain-free and he credits natural medicine for helping him get his life back.

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Stephen was in his early twenties when he was diagnosed with ankylosing spondylitis, a form of arthritis that affects the spine and pelvis. Within months he was paralysed by the pain and spent six years in and out of hospital, relying on a wheelchair to get around.

As the years went by, his condition got so bad he decided to turn to what was then the shady “dark side” of medicine: natural health. Shelving his scepticism, Stephen went to see a naturopath, who put him on a healthy diet with surprising results.

“I had been in hospital and a wheelchair for years and nothing helped,” Stephen says. “So I went to what was then considered one of those ‘crazy’ naturopaths and he put me on a new diet.

“After about a month I thought, ‘Oh finally, these pills are starting to work after six years.’ Eventually I forgot to take them. In the past, forgetting my pills would have crippled me. In the past I had been in so much pain I would dissolve my anti-inflammatory pills in water so they would be absorbed quicker and ease my pain faster.

“But this time it didn’t make a difference when I forgot the pills so I stopped taking them all together. After about a month the new diet kicked in and the pain just went away.”

Today, Stephen says he is “100 percent fine”. He walks easily and no longer suffers from any form of joint pain. After his positive experience with a naturopath, he decided to become one himself, studying for a bachelor’s degree in complementary medicine and a master’s degree in health science. He is currently the principal of Health Schools Australia and is keen to share his experiences with others so they experience some of the relief he has found.

“People don’t know about what natural medicine can do for them,” Stephen says. “I advise them to go and see a natural health professional. What have you got to lose? You can waddle around and complain about your arthritis all day or you can do something about it.”

Arthritis Australia president emeritus Dr Mona Marabani is pleased Stephen has found relief using natural medicine, but has some words of warning for others expecting to be miraculously cured.

She says the vast majority of complementary therapies are not backed up by scientific research, and therefore are not guaranteed — or even likely— to work. Despite this, she encourages arthritis suffers to experiment with natural therapies as long as they tell their doctors.

“We at Arthritis Australia are not for or against complementary therapies, we are for anything that may help people with arthritis,” Dr Marabani says.

“We recognise that people may want to try these things but the most important thing from our point of view is that people let their doctors know because some of them may interact with medications.

“You’ve also got to be aware that you can’t expect too much of these things. Not a week goes by when there’s not a new ‘miracle cure’ being touted for arthritis and largely they’ve proven to be a disappointment.”

Dr Marabani also advises against adopting extreme diets to relieve arthritis symptoms.

“No food has been proven to improve arthritis and lots of people go to extraordinary extremes with various fad diets that claim to cure arthritis,” she says.

“The take-home message is that a healthy, balanced diet and avoiding obesity about the only things that are proven to influence arthritis.”

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Arthritis is commonly thought of as one disease but it is actually an umbrella term for more than 100 medical conditions that affect the musculoskeletal system.

Arthritis sufferers experience pain, stiffness, inflammation and damage to joint cartilage, which can make even the most basic tasks impossible.

An estimated 3.85 million Australians suffer from some form of arthritis, and 2.4 million of these are under the age of 65.

National Arthritis Awareness Week runs from March 27 to April 2, 2011.

For more information about arthritis, visit Arthritis Australia.

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