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*Winners and Losers* star Mel Vallejo: I’m engaged!

Winners and Losers star Mel Vallejo: I'm a winner in love

In a Woman’s Day exclusive, the gorgeous television star tells Clare Rigden she can’t wait to walk down the aisle with her fiancé, Matt Kingston.

It has been an enormous year for Winners & Losers star Melanie Vallejo. A hit series, a move from Sydney to Melbourne to work on it, an engagement, and soon, the best of all – her wedding.

No wonder her head is spinning! “To say it’s been big is an understatement,” says Mel, 31, laughing at what has taken place. “It’s been a huge year and things are really great. But, yeah, sometimes it’s weird when I stop and actually think about it all.”

That’s not something Mel, who plays Sophie Wong on the hit Seven Network drama, has had a lot of time to do lately. Currently on a production break, she’s well and truly preoccupied – organising her wedding to her fiancé of a year, New Zealand-born advertising planner Matt Kingston.

“We’ve been together about two years, so it’s not a huge amount of time,” she says, looking over at Matt, seated beside her on the couch. “It’s funny, because when people say to us, ‘How long have you two been together?’ and I say, ‘Two years,’ it doesn’t sound like long. But from very early on, we recognised there was something more.”

By May last year, Matt, 29, knew it was time to think about making things official. He had it all planned – a romantic weekend in Melbourne, dinner and champagne, and then the big question. However, proposing to Mel was never going to be easy. First of all, he had to persuade her he wasn’t just having a laugh!

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Home is a dangerous place

Ever had one of those days? Things are out of control at home, the house is a mess, you're struggling to get the dinner on the table and the kids keep wrestling and fighting on the sofa.
Home is a dangerous place

Ever had one of those days? Things are out of control at home, the house is a mess, you’re struggling to get the dinner on the table and the kids keep wrestling and fighting on the sofa.

You just want to scream…”Will you kids stop it!”

Stepping over the toys scattered across the lounge room like domestic landmines to pry your two warring offspring apart, you slip on Tommy’s skateboard and SNAP goes the ankle.

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Not only have you told him one million times to clear away his toys, but your broken leg has now thrown the household into chaos.

Your life flashes past your eyes. You can’t drive the car or do the grocery shopping, and routine housework like the laundry and cleaning now seem overwhelming.

How would you cope? Six weeks with the right leg in a cast…

In our family, my husband Peter would be forced to take annual leave to stay at home and keep the household moving. There goes the beach holiday. He wouldn’t be a happy camper.

Every six months, 1.7 million Aussie women injure themselves so badly they are unable to do their normal household chores.

Doing less housework! Maybe that’s a good thing.

Remarkably in Australia, the domestic goddess life is more dangerous than many people realise. Of those 1.7 million injuries, 1 million occur at home.

Far from being a castle, the family house is fast becoming as dangerous as living on the median strip of a four lane freeway.

Dislocations, sprains, torn muscles or ligaments are the most common injuries, followed by serious cuts and bruising.

Falling is the most common cause, closely followed by “hitting something” or being “hit by something”.

And younger women are more at risk than their mums. Research tells us that Gen Y (18-30 years) and Gen X (31-45 years) are more accident prone than Baby Boomers (46-64 years), while Gen X is also most likely to suffer in silence by applying their own medical treatment, rather than seeing a doctor.

Why don’t we know this? Why aren’t women speaking up to debate this issue?

Do we suffer in silence, or are we embarrassed we ruptured our left knee carrying the overloaded laundry basket down the stairs, while our best friend Tracey seems like a cookie cutter from Desperate Housewives, running the house with barely a hair out of place?

Go to work and injure your pinkie and HR is onto you quicker than you can say ‘valued employee’, to fill in a workers comp claim.

Why don’t we value our stay at home mums to the same extent? It’s about time we started talking about this.

Can I be the first one to confess? A few years ago I caught a heel on the top of our stairs at home and my legs buckled beneath me. I skinned both shins, sliding on my knees like David Beckham after scoring the winning goal.

I was in absolute agony. Naturally I soldiered on and refused to go to the local medical centre.

My three year old son witnessed the accident and raced off to get his ‘little doctor’s kit’ to fix mummy’s legs.

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I might have had tears rolling down my face in pain, but there was also a smile on my dial from the love of my beautiful little Prince.

Lynette Argent is the CEO of Million Dollar Woman, an insurance brand designed to meet the needs of women.

Your say: Have you injured yourself in your home? If so what did you do about it?

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Should children be given anti-depressants?

Should children be given anti-depressants?

Children as young as two are being prescribed anti-depressants. Elizabeth Burke looks at the arguments for and against medicating sad children.

When anti-depressant drugs like Prozac and Zoloft became mainstream in the late 90s there was outcry against the desensitisation of people, a loss of dealing with human issues without drugging and sedating, and of course the gamut of side effects. These concerns were for adults, and longstanding sufferers of clinical depression.

Now, news has emerged children aged six and under are being prescribed the drugs at a soaring rate and antidepressants are once again setting off alarm bells.

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Federal Health Department figures reveal that children as young as two are being prescribed anti-depressants, with alarming increases in the numbers of prescriptions of the controversial drugs in the 2-6, and 7-11 age groups.

The Royal Australian and New Zealand College of Psychiatrists said it was disturbing that anti-depressants were being prescribed for children at all.

While health and community groups are speaking out against the prescription of anti-depressants to children, Australian Medical Association vice-president Dr Steve Hambleton said he had prescribed anti-depressants to six-year-olds who had benefitted from the treatment.

The argument against anti-depressants for children:

A common arguments against anti-depressants for kids, is to let them just be kids. A six-year-old is thought to have a limited understanding of their emotions and it can be of very little benefit to restrict emotional development through medical treatment.

Yes, some kids have a lot to deal with &151; there is bed-wetting, shouldering mum and dad’s struggles, bullying, and a whole world of soul-searching and identity issues that come with those early formative years. But are drugs really the answer? Should it be the parents’ responsibility to ensure their children don’t require this kind of treatment? Is it really possible for such a young child to be suffering from depression? And are drugs an easy fix to struggles kids and parents have been dealing with since the dawn of time?

On top of all this are the medical risks associated with the drugs, which have been linked to suicidal thoughts and are thought to be responsible for the deaths of five people aged 10-19 in the past two years.

The argument for anti-depressants for children:

On the other side is the argument that depression, untreated, could ultimately lead to suicide as well.

While anti-depressants are commonly prescribed to treat depressive disorders, they are also given to kids and adults to address obsessive-compulsive disorder and ease anxiety. Some health professionals believe that if these conditions aren’t treated early on, the child will be unable to lead a happy, fulfilled, normal life.

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So if the treatment is available, why not utilise it? A troubled childhood is not an uncommon scapegoat for troubles in adult life, so preventative troubleshooting may not be such a bad idea.

Your say: Do you think children should be prescribed antidepressants?

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Rosemary and Melissa’s Quins come home!

Australian quintuplets come home

With quintuplets and a toddler to look after, sleep isn’t an option for these two Australian mums.

Rosemary Nolan and Melissa Keevers’ Brisbane home looks much like any other house in their suburban street. There’s a swing in the front yard, shoes outside the front door, and you can hear the giggles of their 21-month old toddler Lily drifting through the window. But inside it’s a different story. Five little bundles sleep peacefully as their birth mum, Mel, and her partner, Rosie, gaze proudly at them. This is no ordinary family.

It’s been five months since the Australian same-sex couple first showed off their quintuplets, who were born in January, to Woman’s Day. Conceived via a US sperm donor, they were still in hospital and each weighed less than 900g. Now Noah, Charlie, Eireann, Evie and Abby are at home, healthy and happy. And while their mums are busy, they’re coping well.

“It’s a piece of cake!” laughs Mel. “It’s just like it was when Lily first came home – only this time it’s multiplied by five!” adds Rosie, 22. “They feed every four hours, and by the time we’ve fed, burped and settled them, the whole routine takes about two-and-a-half hours. We each feed two at once, then whoever finishes first grabs the spare baby!

“Then they go to sleep and we clean up and put two loads of washing on. We have about 90 minutes to play with Lily and eat – then the whole thing starts all over again.”

The routine continues well in to the night too, with the quins waking at around 3am for a feed. “We both get up because otherwise it would take four hours to feed them all,” says Mel, 27. “Although, Rosie struggles to wake up – sometimes I feel like throwing a glass of cold water over her!”

Read more in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale May 30.

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Young dad’s bizarre gift: ‘I got a vasectomy for my 21st birthday’

Young dad's bizarre gift: 'I got a vasectomy for my 21st birthday'

Three kids are enough for this online Lothario, who married his a 14-years-older US lover.

He chose nappies and sleep deprivation over clubbing and hanging out with mates when he fell in love at 16 and became a dad soon after his 18th birthday. Now, three-and-a-half years later and father to three children, James Barry, 21, has added “vasectomy” to his “been there, done that” checklist.

“Chronologically I’m young, but in terms of life experiences I’m doing well,” he says.

When Woman’s Day first met James four years ago, the young Perth man had just proposed to his sweetheart Karen Anderson. The loved-up couple had braved damning headlines worldwide for their brazen fling, after they met on the internet and Karen flew from her home in California to meet James. She was accused of preying on the teenage virgin, who was still at school.

“I can see why the public said we’d never make it,” Karen, now 35, says. “When I saw those articles on us I felt violated, but hopefully now people will see I wasn’t a predator. It was real love.”

Within months she was pregnant and the pair had married and moved to America. However, they had to wait six weeks after the wedding for their marriage to be declared legal because Karen’s divorce papers hadn’t come through in time.

Your Say: Do you agree or disagree with his decision? Share your thoughts below.

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Ivan Stoiljkovic: ‘I’m a human magnet!’

Ivan Stoiljkovic: 'I'm a human magnet!'

Ivan can’t help attracting attention, as well as cutlery and other metal objects!

Like most active six-year-old boys, Ivan Stoiljkovic enjoys rollerblading and kicking a soccer ball around the garden. He’s also learning how to play the accordion.

But young Ivan has a special quality that sets him apart from most little boys his age.

He is said to be magnetic. This Croatian lad can stick metal objects such as spoons, coins, frying pans, mobile phones, even irons, to his torso. His family claim he can carry up to 25 kilograms of metal on his body at a time.

“I have no problem with holding metal objects, but eventually I get tired,” says the schoolboy, whose powers have been compared to those of X-Men super-villain Magneto.

Apparently, Ivan is stronger in the morning than the afternoon, and his incredible skills are at their best when he’s relaxed and happy.

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Stedman speaks out: Why I love Oprah

Stedman speaks out: Why I love Oprah

Oprah Winfrey’s publicity-shy ‘rock’ finally breaks his silence – to declare his love for her to the world.

It was a day full of surprises, tears and special guests. But among the movie stars and music legends who appeared on Oprah’s Surprise Spectacular last week, one guest did more than any other to take Oprah Winfrey’s breath away – the man she shares her life with, Stedman Graham.

Forever cast as the quiet man behind the world’s most popular woman, Stedman, 60, has always been something of a mystery – even to Oprah’s most loyal fans.

However, when he took to the stage for her final show, taped at the United Center in Chicago, the reaction of Oprah, 57, told its own story. The woman who has seen it all could only shake her head at seeing Stedman with a microphone in his hand and exclaim, “What in the name of Jesus…”

Stedman, who has been by her side for 25 years, proceeded to deliver a heartfelt dedication to the love of his life. “I’m so proud of you,” he told Oprah. “All of us are proud of you and who you have become.”

He added a touch of humour, telling the 13,000-strong audience and the millions of TV viewers, “It really does amaze me that I get to be around a woman who changes people’s lives every day… and takes her own lunch to work!

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Princess Mary’s children are little stars

Princess Mary's children are little stars

Isabella and Christian steal the scene with their high-spirited street dancing.

Her name is Isabella, but as far as her mum is concerned, her little girl is Princess Personality. The playful four-year-old recently turned a walk to her dance class into a high-energy performance, and her theatrics drew plenty of attention.

While Princess Mary and Prince Frederik tried to blend in as they strolled along with their daughter and her big brother, Prince Christian, 5, little Isabella had other ideas.

“It really was quite surreal,” noted one delighted observer. “This is Denmark’s royal family, with two future kings and a future queen, and they just look like anybody else. It is so nice they have no airs and graces.”

With her four-month-old twins Vincent and Josephine safely at home with their nanny, Mary looked chilled-out as she walked around Copenhagen wearing jeans, comfortable loafers and trademark big sunglasses. If Mary, 39, and Frederik – who celebrated his 43rd birthday last Thursday – had been hoping to be anonymous, Isabella and her equally mischievous big brother were determined they’d be noticed.

“Bella”, as her mum and dad call her, was on her way to attend the end-of-season show at her dance school. But she decided her performance would start well before she got on stage. Cheeky Christian busted some moves too, jumping back and forth like a hip-hop star.

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Ricki Lee: I’ve lost 25 kilos and I feel amazing!

Ricki Lee: I've lost 25 kilos and I feel amazing!

The pop princess tells Woman’s Day how she went from plus-size poster girl to perfect 10.

After devoting 18 months to shedding a whopping 20kg, Ricki-Lee Coulter has spent the past six months working out to re-sculpt her curvaceous body – losing another 5kg in the process.

The perky pop star has gone from strength to strength – literally. The curves Ricki-Lee, was once so proud to flaunt for the camera have melted away to be replaced by muscle. And along the way, she also found love with her personal trainer, Richard Harrison.

“I feel amazing all the time now and it’s a nice feeling,” beams the former Australian Idol contestant at the Sydney premiere of Water For Elephants. Richard, 29, has helped Ricki-Lee, 25, achieve what a host of diets and even a brief stint as a weight-loss brand ambassador couldn’t – losing the weight and keeping it off.

He also helped her get over her failed marriage to James Babbington, whom she divorced in 2008, transforming not just her body, but her life and attitude. “In life, we all have ups and downs, but it is about being consistent,” explains Ricki-Lee, looking fabulous at the glittering premiere.

“If you want results in anything, you have to work hard at it over a long period. “I went from being a person who didn’t like exercise and hated running to someone who loves running. I was [naturally athletic], but I got to a point where it was hard. “Now I really love running – I’ll be outside and I’ll go, ‘Oh, I’ve been running for an hour and a half!'”

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Past The Shallows

Past The Shallows

Past The Shallows by Favel Parrett, Orion, $26.99

This is an extraordinary book, part psychological family drama, part mystery, part painful rite of passage, all engulfed in the wild isolation and natural richness of the Tasmanian coast.

Favel Parrett’s intimate knowledge and understanding of this rugged heel of the world seeps through every pore of her debut novel, especially her descriptions of the water, so vivid you can feel the chill and rush of the waves, the pull of the undertow and the ominous danger of the deep. Indeed, this sense of menace underpins the novel as the painful world of Harry and his brother Miles unfolds.

The two brothers live with their outwardly brutish father in an ill-kempt cottage on the south-east coast of Tasmania. Their mother has died in a mysterious car accident and their father, who becomes a nasty drunk, is consumed with an explosive combination of grief and anger fuelled by a cruel secret which is clearly destroying him.

While written in the third person, much of the story is filtered through the eyes of young Harry, who though vulnerable and scared — he is petrified of the water and cowers from his father — brings a captivating lightness to this tortured world.

Harry loves to collect things and his willing optimism in the face of a very dark existence wills us to follow him on his journey to be set free. Harry spends much of his time alone exploring, while brother Miles is forced to man his father’s boat abalone fishing. It’s a tough existence and the family is barely managing to make ends meet.

As the story unfolds, Harry’s grandfather dies and when the family starts to go through Grandad’s possessions pieces of the past knit together and alarming secrets come to the fore. What were they all doing in the car on that fateful night and was someone else there, too?

Desperately lonely, Harry makes friends with a local dog, only to discover he belongs to George Fuller, the man everyone says is crazy and eats people. Soon George and Harry are friends, too, and at last our lad is receiving the sort of parental love and support we so desperately want him to have.

Yet what happens next is so heart-wrenching it has you fearful for Harry’s future as the pace kicks up a notch and hurtles to its tear-jerking denouement. Touching and quite beautiful, Favel Parrett is a fresh and vital new voice in Australian fiction.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Debut novelist Favel Parrett, 36, always wanted to be a writer, but never thought it would be possible. She studied creative writing, invested in courses, and the result is Past The Shallows, which took her three years to write.

Born in Victoria, Favel moved to Hobart when she was eight. “The south coast of Tasmania had a huge influence on me when I was young. It is isolated and wild – a place I will never forget,” she says.

“The story grew out of my memories and feeling for that place,” she says. Inspiration for the book’s protagonist came from her own family. “

Although Harry is not totally based on my brother, the way I feel about my brother is there in the writing,” Favel says. “One of the worst things that could have happened to me when I was a child would have been losing my brother. We are very close.”

Favel currently lives in Melbourne with her partner, David, and two dogs, Dougal and Bear. She is working on a new book, set in Hobart, about a girl finding her way in a new town that seems ancient and cold, and full of ghosts.

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