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Maria Shriver: Betrayed but unbeaten

Maria Shriver: Betrayed but unbeaten

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She was always the good wife, standing by her husband, Arnold Schwarzenegger, despite the womanising rumours. Now, Maria Shriver faces a very public humiliation — infidelity in her own home and a love child, writes Sharon Krum.

If you had to pick one word to describe Maria Shriver, “feisty” would work quite nicely. Then again, she has had excellent training. As a member of the Kennedy dynasty, Maria grew up in a world where the rough and tumble of American politics was the family business.

Later, as a TV reporter, Alzheimer’s activist and First Lady of California, she was known for her confident, roll-up-your-sleeves attitude.

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So, no one was surprised when she came out swinging eight years ago when husband Arnold Schwarzenegger was accused of groping women, a story that had been swirling around Hollywood for years.

“You can listen to all the negativity,” she said of her movie-star husband, then running for governor of California, “or you can listen to me. I wouldn’t be standing here if this man weren’t an A-plus human being. I wouldn’t be taking my time, I wouldn’t have left my job that I love, I wouldn’t be doing any of this if I didn’t believe in this man.”

It was an extraordinary performance, one that many believe saved the election for him. It would also be the last time Maria would aggressively defend Arnold, 64, when it came to bad behaviour.

When the bombshell dropped in January that he had fathered a son, Joseph, now 13, with their housekeeper Mildred “Patty” Baena, Maria did something few imagined after 25 years of marriage — she left him.

“The shame of this is overwhelming,” says Laurence Leamer, author ofFantastic: The Life of Arnold Schwarzenegger, explaining why the scandal pushed Maria, 55, to leave the family home.

Though nobody blamed her — many wondered what took her so long, given the endless rumours of his womanising — it was still stunning that the marriage of the former Austrian bodybuilder-turned-Hollywood action hero and the niece of JFK was over.

“This is a painful and heartbreaking time,” Maria said at the time. “As a mother, my concern is for the children.”

Then Arnold admitted in a statement, “I understand and deserve the feelings of anger and disappointment among my friends and family.”

Now, Maria has filed for divorce and there’s an estimated $500 million fortune to divide. They have four children, Katherine, 21, Christina, 19, Patrick, 17, and Christopher, 13, and Maria has requested joint custody of the boys.

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It’s no secret Arnold has a gargantuan ego. The question is: does he understand the pain indulging that ego has caused his family? It sounds like he has see-sawed between acknowledgement and denial.

“I talked to one of his closest friends, who was with him before it became public, and he saw an introspective Arnold he hadn’t seen for 20 years,” said Laurence Leaman.

Yet Sharon Waxman, who edits showbusiness columnThe Wrapwrote that Arnold “does not get what the fuss is all about … ‘At least, I kept it in the home’, is what Schwarzenegger has told his friends. He believes that Maria ought to forgive him and take him back.”

Read more of this story in the August issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Your say: Do you think it’s better that Arnold cheated with someone Maria knew, or does that make things worse?

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Michelle Bridges’ fitness tips for over 50s

Michelle Bridges' fitness tips for over 50s

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The Biggest Loser personal trainer Michelle Bridges has been helping people fight the battle of the bulge since she was 14 years old. Here, she gives her top fitness tips for over 50s:

1. You’re not too old! Don’t kid yourself you’re too old to start exercising — it’s an excuse that we like to use that has no scientific merit. Your physiology will start to improve the moment you start exercising, no matter what age you are.

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2. Pump iron: Strong women stay young and there’s a strong woman inside your body waiting to get out. Lift weights at least three times a week. The benefits are amazing.

3. Seek help: Get professional advice from a qualified personal trainer or exercise physiologist and get a thorough health assessment and a tailored exercise program.

4. Plan you workout: The over 50s are generally more consistent and better organised. You can also do a lot more than you think you can. Take your time, but don’t limit yourself.

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5. Stretch: The two things we lose most as we age are flexibility and muscle mass. Stretch at the end of each workout and do at least one formal flexibility session — yoga, Pilates — each week.

Read more of this story in the August issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Your say: Do you have any tips for keeping fit as you get older?

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Cyclist Cadel Evans’ big hearted triumph!

Cyclist Cadel Evans' big hearted triumph!

Australia is in the grip of ‘yellow fever’, thanks to the Aussie who dared to dream.

He’s the sort of champion Aussies love to love. A humble man with a big heart, possessed with true grit and the quiet determination to never give up. For Cadel Evans, standing proud and teary-eyed on the podium in Paris – the first Australian to win cycling’s top prize, the Tour de France – this was the fulfilment of all his hopes. Spurred on by the love of his life, Chiara Passerini, and the tragic passing of Aldo Sassi, the coach who never stopped believing in him, Cadel knew his moment had come.

He’s an inspirational role model to us all, living proof that dreams do come true. “Better late than never,” he said in his quiet way, as he reached to feel the fibres of his much-yearned-for yellow jersey. He could barely believe, after being a runner-up twice (2007 and 2008), this golden symbol of victory was finally on his back. His Italian wife of almost four years, Chiara, standing amid the jubilant scene, summed it up beautifully. “Isn’t he gorgeous all in yellow?” she tweeted proudly.

Her man had just triumphed in one of the world’s toughest and most prestigious sporting events, riding a gruelling three weeks through the French Alps, covering a staggering 3600 kilometres. Ever since she met the calm and understated Australian in 2002, Chiara – a pianist, gospel choir singer and music teacher aged 28 – has been Cadel’s greatest champion. “I’m not a cycling fan but a Cadel fan. Come what may, I will love him unto my dying day,” Chiara told fans on her husband’s website.

A clearly overwhelmed Cadel, 34, watched his victory ceremony through a blur of tears, no doubt thinking of his loved ones – his beautiful Chiara, mum Helen and dad Paul, watching their son’s greatest moment on TV. However, it was when Tina Arena began to sing the Australian national anthem with gusto that his tears spilled over. “I was a bit surprised that Tina Arena came out to sing the anthem,” he says. “That was very nice of her.”

Read more about Cadel Evans and the love of his life Chiara Passerini in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 1, 2011.

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Karen Bell tells: I’ve found joy again!

Karen Bell tells: I've found joy again!

The arrival of a baby girl has brought a new chapter of delight into the life of Karen Bell. She tells how she is healing from tragedy and embracing a hopeful future.

With her beautiful baby girl sleeping soundly in her arms, a beaming Karen Bell is in a “very happy place”. That happiness is something Karen, clearly born to be a mother, thought she’d never glimpse again. Then, on Valentine’s Day this year, she received the ultimate gift of love – a much-wished-for daughter, Eva Rose. As Karen sits cuddling her cute little bundle and drinking her in through a blur of joyful tears, the happy moment isn’t lost on her.

Little Eva, along with her brother Connor, 22 months, and the love of her partner and “rock”, Dean Gray, have allowed Karen to experience an emotion that had been out of her reach for some time – overwhelming joy. “This is just wonderful,” says Karen, smiling, as Connor bounds across a vast golden paddock to cuddle his baby sister. “Look at me. I have a little boy and a little girl. Good things are happening.”

If anybody deserves “good things” in life, it’s Karen, now 36. When Woman’s Day first met her in 2008, she was a broken woman, the victim of the most unspeakable act of cruelty. After she escaped a violent and abusive 15-year marriage, her husband Gary Poxon took their three children – Jack, 8, Maddie, 7, and Bon, 16 months – and murdered them before killing himself. Consumed by unrelenting grief, Karen told Woman’s Day then that there would be no coming back from this horror. She would never know happiness again. Nor could she ever love or trust a man again.

“How wrong was I? And how glad I am that I was,” she says, leaning in to nuzzle Dean, 42, the man she credits with helping turn her life around. He had been a long-time family friend, and in her most anguished hours of grief he was always there to offer a shoulder to cry on. “I could never have met a better guy, or a better dad, than Dean,” Karen says. “We were friends first and love progressed from there. “I do marvel at the progress I’ve made. It’s still very hard when I think about the kids. The pain is still as hard and as real as when it first happened, but you learn to live with it. That pain becomes a part of you. It’s always there, but you can keep it on the backburner a bit.” Karen admits there were moments “I thought it was the end of life. I’m so glad I was wrong.”

Read more about Karen Bell and her beautiful daughter Eva Rose in in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 1, 2011.

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*The Block*’s Katrina and Amie: Our blokes are the best!

The Block's Katrina and Amie: Our blokes are the best!

While Katrina and Amie did battle on The Block, their men held the fort at home.

Knocking down walls in this year’s series of The Block was easily one of the biggest challenges Katrina Chambers and Amie Godde have faced. But it pales to insignificance compared to their greatest test – leaving their husbands and children behind for nine weeks to take part in the show.

“Now that was hard,” says Amie, mother to one-year-old Nash and three-year-old Priya, chatting to Woman’s Day from her gorgeous new home in Albury, in south NSW. “I sobbed the whole plane ride from here to Melbourne. I had a tissue and I was blubbering into it – it was terrible.” The sisters barely had time to comprehend they’d been selected for Nine’s renovation reality series when they were whisked away from their families for the elimination challenge. It was a whirlwind few days and emotional for them both.

“Then after the elimination challenge, we had three days to get home, get things sorted, and then it was like, ‘See you in nine weeks,’” says Katrina, 33, who is based in Wagga Wagga, NSW, with her husband Andrew and their three boys, Cruise, 9, Tex, 6, and Chevy, 4. “But, in some ways, that was better, because there wasn’t any time to think about it. We had a few days in that first week wondering how things were going, who was picking who up from school and things like that, and then we just had to move on, because it was go, go, go from that point onwards.”

While the girls were going at a frantic speed on The Block, back home, husbands Andrew and Josh were adopting a more relaxed attitude. “Things certainly weren’t happening the way mums do it,” says Amie, amused by some of the goings-on. “The kids were quite often having chocolate for breakfast and sleeping in Dad’s bed.”

Read more about sisters Katrina Chambers and Amie Godde in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 1, 2011.

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Gary Mehigan: My mystery ingredient…my wife!

Gary Mehigan: My mystery ingredient...my wife!

The star chef has found the perfect recipe for a happy family life.

From his days as an ambitious young cook slaving over hot stoves in London restaurants to his celebrity status as a judge on Australia’s top reality show, chef Gary Mehigan has come a long way. And he owes it all to his wife of 20 years, Mandy. Not the type to revel in the spotlight, ever-smiling Mandy is the love of the MasterChef judge’s life, his touchstone and his always reliable reality check.

“I couldn’t do it without her,” says Gary of his hectic life, which includes running two restaurants and being dad to Jenna, 10. “She keeps everything going. But when I’m home, I cook and I love that.” Gary and Mandy, both 44, met as “penniless” students in southern England, where Gary studied cuisine and Mandy was preparing for a career in administration.

“I fell in love with her straight away,” Gary recalls. “It was those big blue eyes of hers.” For young Mandy, the instant attraction was Gary’s sincerity. “What appealed to me was he was just a genuinely nice person,” reveals Mandy in a rare interview. “I mean, he was a boy when I met him, but he was very genuine and loving – that’s never changed.”

With Gary moving to London to break into the restaurant world, the couple barely saw each other. “He worked incredible hours,” says Mandy. “We had one day a week together, Sunday – and sometimes Monday night. But we were meant to be.” When Gary did propose – after a romantic meal at the Michelin-starred restaurant in which he worked – it was still a big surprise.

Read more about Gary’s marriage proposal and the married life of Gary and Mandy in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 1, 2011.

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Kate and Wills: Our first 100 days

Kate and Wills: Our first 100 days

As the young couple reinvent the way we look at the royal family one charming appearance at a time, Katie Nicholl has a front-row seat.

The bar was set on April 29 and the expectations were high. After their fairytale wedding at Westminster Abbey, we wondered if and how William and Kate, the royal family’s youngest, brightest stars, could continue the magic they made on the balcony of Buckingham Palace. Now, 100 days after the momentous occasion, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge have proved they have that rare combination of royal stardust and accessibility – a tool they have used to enchant and captivate the world.

The newlyweds, who are said to be “delighted” and still riding the wave of euphoria that followed their first overseas tour, have already been labelled Britain’s most dynamic and powerful “brand”. Their tour of Canada and California has generated millions of dollars for their charities and Britain. There is even talk of them being trade ambassadors, now Prince Andrew has stepped down as the trade envoy.

Their huge success has not gone unnoticed at the palace, and a possible tour to Australia and New Zealand next year, the Queen’s Diamond Jubilee, could be in the offing. The Queen is naturally delighted that her grandson and his new wife triumphed in Canada and California. William and Kate were treated like rock stars. Everywhere they went, crowds waited for hours for a glimpse of them. I accompanied the couple and witnessed the excitement.

William, who as a teenager had blushed furiously at the “Wills-mania” he first encountered in Toronto, now revelled in the attention, as did Kate. They beamed, waved and seemed genuinely keen to meet as many people as possible. According to one senior courtier, “The Duke and Duchess are still on a high and absolutely thrilled with how the tour went.” Now that they are home, they are keen to resume “normal life”, and after William’s cousin Zara Phillips’ wedding to Mike Tindall last weekend in Scotland, they plan to keep a low profile.

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Amy Winehouse’s dad to open rehab centre

Amy Winehouse's dad to open rehab centre

Amy Winehouse’s father has revealed his plans to set up a drug rehabilitation centre for addicted youth in his daughter’s name.

Mitch Winehouse is set to meet with a Home Office minister today to discuss support for the centre, the UK’s Daily Mail reported.

Mitch will be joined by his late daughter’s managers Raye Cosbert and Trenton Harrison-Lewis as well as a former cocaine abuser and addiction expert Sarah Graham.

Graham, who met Mitch in 2009 when the pair addressed the Home Affairs Select Committee on drug abuse, said she will be heavily involved in the project.

“We didn’t know it (Winehouse’s death) was going to happen but we hope it will show people that addiction is something that can kill people when they are very young and that we should not wait until it is too late,” Graham said.

“Rehabilitation is more expensive than treatment in the community but in reality most desperate young people cannot access it.

“It might be because their dealer meets them at the school gates or it could be that they are getting abused at home. As a rich country we should be able to afford a rehabilitation centre for young people and we don’t think charities should pay for it totally.”

Following the death of his daughter, who had a very public battle with drugs and alcohol, Mitch revealed that he wanted to do something for addicts who could not afford private treatment.

Amy Winehouse was found dead at her London home on July 23. Her family is still awaiting the results of toxicology tests to establish the cause of her death.

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Zara and Mike’s royal wedding

Zara Phillips wed her long time love England rugby star Mike Tindall in a romantic ceremony in Edinburgh at the weekend.

The bride, who is said to be the Queen’s favourite grandchild, wore a full-length ivory silk gown with silk tulle detail designed by the Queen’s favourite couturier Stewart Parvin.

The couple wed in front of close family and friends as a crowd of 6000 gathered outside to catch a glimpse of the happy couple.

After the ceremony the couple and their guests, including the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, headed to the Palace of Holyroodhouse, which is the Queen’s official Scottish residence.

Read more about Zara’s Royal wedding in next week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 8, 2011.

Zara is lead to the church by her father Captain Mark Phillips.

Zara Phillips sealed her marriage to England rugby star Mike Tindall with a kiss.

Zara looked effortlessly beautiful on her big day and wore a Greek Key tiara lent by her mother.

Zara and Mike’s bridal party looked simple yet elegant.

The Duke and Duchess of Cambrdge attended the wedding.

Queen Elizabeth wore a pink coat and matching hat.

Princess Eugenie opted for a brown and cream essemble by Angela Kelly.

Her sister Princess Beatrice wore a bright blue number by the same designer.

Princess Anne with her ex-husband Mark Phillips.

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Should you tell your daughter she’s beautiful?

Should you tell your daughter she's beautiful?

It’s a conundrum for every woman who wants her pretty daughter to grow into a confident woman: should she tell her she’s beautiful, or should she ignore her beauty and compliment her other, more lasting gifts — her intelligence, her creativity, or her sense of humour?

According to Lisa Bloom, author of Think: Straight Talk for Women to Stay Smart in a Dumbed-Down World, mothers should take the second option.

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Telling girls they are beautiful teaches them that looks are more important than anything else, and blames the obsession with appearance for early sexualisation of girls, promiscuity and growth in plastic surgery among young women.

“The problem is not just about that 25 per cent of young women who would rather be hot than smart; rather, it’s about a culture that actually makes that a rational choice; rewarding girls for looks over brains,” she writes.

One mother of an exceptionally pretty teenager told The Weekly that she does not tell her daughter she is beautiful, but she has worried about that decision.

“Because she is so beautiful, other people tell her, so I don’t,” she says. “I kept telling her all her life that beauty comes from within.

“Sometimes I worry that I didn’t do the right thing, as she had low self esteem in her teens and never felt beautiful. She looked in the mirror and found fault. But maybe all teenage girls do that.”

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Another woman said she did tell her daughter that she was beautiful. “But it backfired a little, because she felt if she was going through a period when she wasn’t particularly beautiful — when she’d put on weight, for example — it affected our relationship and she felt I didn’t have the same regard for her.”

A third woman said: “I tell her she’s pretty or beautiful — my husband does too because, well, she is! But we are conscious of not saying it too often — so she doesn’t think that’s all she’s good at — and balancing that with telling her she’s clever, smart and capable.”

Jordan Baker is The Weekly’s News Editor. Click here to follow her on Twitter and here to follow The Weekly.

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