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Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness

Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness

In Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness Alexandra Fuller braids a multilayered narrative around the perfectly lit, Happy Valley-era Africa of her mother’s childhood; the boiled cabbage grimness of her father’s English childhood; and the darker, civil war- torn Africa of her own childhood.

At its heart, this is the story of Fuller’s mother, Nicola. Born on the Scottish Isle of Skye and raised in Kenya, Nicola holds dear the kinds of values most likely to get you hurt or killed in Africa: loyalty to blood, passion for land, and a holy belief in the restorative power of all animals. Fuller interviewed her mother at length and has captured her inimitable voice with remarkable precision. Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness is as funny, terrifying, exotic, and unselfconscious as Nicola herself.

To read the first chapter of Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness click here.

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Australia’s biggest family…15 kids and counting!

Australia's biggest family...15 kids and counting!

Jeni and Ray Bonell have just welcomed their 15th child to the world – and they’re not planning to stop there. The Queensland couple tell Woman’s Day why….

When paying a visit to the Bonell family’s Toowoomba home, you’d be forgiven for hesitating before knocking gingerly at their front door. You just don’t know what explosion of chaos will confront you once that door is opened. After all, this is the home where “born to be parents” Jeni, 42, and Ray, 43, live with their 15 kids. That’s right, 15 – the latest addition being the very cute and plump Damian, just three months old.

“Welcome to our world,” beams Jeni as she ushers Woman’s Day through a front room heaped high with mint-condition Barbie dolls. “The dolls are mine. As you can see, I collect things. I collect everything, including children.” She’s sort of joking, but isn’t – for living happily under the roof of this seven-bedroom Queensland home are Jesse, 21 (he’s recently moved out but visits all the time), Brooke, 20, Claire, 18, Natalie, 16, Karl, 15, Samuel, 13, Cameron, 11, Sabrina, 10, Timothy, 8, Brandon, 6, Eve, 5, Nate, 4, Rachel 3, Eric, 18 months, and baby Damian. All siblings are thoroughly enchanted by their new little brother.

“It’s like having your own hot water bottle to cuddle,” says doting big brother Karl. “He’s easy to look after, he just sleeps a lot.” “There’s certainly no shortage of babysitters around here,” grins a proud Jeni. “You ask what baby number 15 means to me? It means less sleep, more nappies and more adventures ahead. He’s just gorgeous.” You’d expect mayhem in a house teeming with kids, but the chaos is ordered. “We have fun, but we run the house with rules of tough love,” Jeni explains. “Let’s just say the ‘misbehaving mat’ gets used on a regular basis.”

Does the ‘misbehaving mat’ work when it comes to keeping her big brood in line? “Yes, and no,” she laughs. “With a couple of the kids, I don’t think anything would work! Ultimately, the family works as a team and we get things done.” Colour-coded rosters keep each family member on track. As soon as a child turns eight, they know they have to contribute to the chores.

See more pictures of the Bonell family and find out how much they spend on their weekly shopping in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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Exclusive: Inside Schapelle’s new prison cell

Exclusive: Inside Schapelle's new prison cell

See more exclusive pictures in this week's Woman's Day on sale September 12, 2011.

A single mattress, a doona and Donald Duck… As these shock photographs reveal, Schapelle Corby has created a strangely cosy world within Bali’s Kerobokan Prison.

The mountain of stuffed toys and sheets covered in love hearts may make it look like a teenage girl’s overcrowded bedroom, but this is the Balinese prison cell that Schapelle Corby calls “home”. It is in this surprising setting that the former Gold Coast beautician, now 34, paints her toenails, dyes her prematurely grey hair and lies on her bed reading books about the meaning of life as she ponders what she’s lost and how she’ll cope with another 11 years behind bars.

As news broke in Australia last week of a possible suicide attempt, Kerobokan Prison’s longest-serving female prisoner – jailed in 2004 for trafficking 4.2kgs of cannabis – was back doing what she does every monotonous day. There’s reading, beading, painting and staring into space, sometimes for hours at a time.

“Every day I see Schapelle sitting in front of her cell in a daze,” a fellow prisoner says. “Once I asked what she was doing and she told me, ‘Waiting, waiting, that’s all I do. I wait because there is nothing to do in here except wait.’ She looks really sad.”

Around the time of Schapelle’s birthday two months ago, prisoners reportedly found her slumped on the ground drowsy, suffering the effects of a drug overdose. She had apparently swallowed nine days’ worth of her prescribed anti-psychotic medication in one go. Her sister, Mercedes, is unsure whether it was a suicide attempt, although Schapelle has cut her wrists twice in the past three years.

See more exclusive pictures of Schapelle inside her Bali prison cell in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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George Clooney in love again

George Clooney in love again

The sexy silver fox has been tamed, this time by a beautiful blonde wrestler.

Sipping champagne in the sunshine with a love-struck George Clooney by your side… life could certainly be worse. So it’s little wonder former professional wrestler-turned-actress Stacy Keibler couldn’t wipe the smile off her face as she enjoyed a leisurely lunch with the man many believe to be the world’s sexiest.

The 31-year-old blonde beauty wasn’t shooting a scene for a movie with the impossibly handsome Hollywood heartthrob – she was living every woman’s dream! And word has it that things are quickly getting serious between Stacy and the silver-haired eternal bachelor, with Stacy on the verge of moving into George’s lavish Los Angeles residence. While the pair haven’t been dating for long, their red-hot romance is reported to be very much the real deal.

“Not only are they hanging out, she’s already practically living at his home in California,” a close friend of Stacy reveals exclusively to Woman’s Day. “It is more than just a fling.” It’s understandable if Stacy may have harboured a few reservations about giving her heart to George. For starters, the Ocean’s Eleven star had only just come out of a two-year relationship with beautiful Italian model-turned-actress Elisabetta Canalis, 33 – they broke up in June this year.

Ironically, Elisabetta is now preparing to waltz up a storm on the US version of Dancing With The Stars, just as Stacy did in the 2006 season of the hit reality show, and insiders say Elisabetta hopes her sexy moves and revealing costumes will win back George’s heart. No-one could blame Stacy for fearing the 50-year-old may have simply been looking for love on the rebound.

See the beautiful pictures of George and Stacey together in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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Suri Cruise starts “Scientology” school

What would Suri be asked during an interrogation?

Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ precocious five-year-old is getting an education like no other.

Ever since the day Suri Cruise was born, her superstar dad Tom has dreamed of making her the poster child for his controversial religion. Suri, 5, took a huge step towards making that dream come true last week. Despite totally unfounded reports that Tom and his wife Katie Holmes have turned their backs on the faith, their little girl spent herfirst day at a special “Scientology” school in Los Angeles – and it offers an education that is nothing short of bizarre.

At the New Village Leadership Academy – founded by Tom’s close friend, actor Will Smith, and his wife, actress Jada Pinkett Smith – normal favourites of young students such as finger painting, counting and reciting the alphabet have been replaced by a wide range of lessons based on Scientology. There’s no time to waste. On her first day, Suri was introduced to Scientology founder L. Ron Hubbard’s mantra of “Affinity, Reality and Communication” – even though she is far too young to understand any of these concepts.

One former Scientologist, who attended the religion’s controversial Delphi Academy schools, tells Woman’s Day that Suri will have many more unusual lessons to wrap her head around in the coming weeks. “Instead of learning basic words and maths, Suri and the other children will learn how to rid themselves of engrams – that is, past memories that block learning and understanding,” our source says.

“Everything is so different. The kids are on a special diet that includes low-carb lunches and even days of fasting, and the lessons are steps towards the eventual ‘revelation’ that we are all descended from aliens.” The science fiction doesn’t stop there. One of the cornerstone subjects of Suri’s education at the $30,000-a-year school is robotics, where the children learn to build and interact with robots!

Read more about Suri’s first day of school and why her mum Katie Holmes is feeling on edge in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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Kate and Pippa’s diet secrets!

Kate and Pippa's diet secrets!

The svelte Duchess of Cambridge and her equally stunning sister have the Dukan Diet to thank for their enviable figures.

As Kate Middleton walked down the aisle towards Prince William in April, she looked fabulous – and it wasn’t just her bridal glow people were commenting on. The one thing royal watchers wanted to know was how normally sporty Kate, 29, transformed her athletic 173cm figure into the lean lines of a fashion model almost overnight.

Now Woman’s Day can reveal the secret behind her svelte shape. Kate followed the Dukan Diet, alongside mum Carole and sister Pippa who both tried out the same eating plan to get in shape. And, boy, did it work for them. Remember Pippa in that bridesmaid’s dress? This wow-look-at-us-now diet, devised by French nutritionist Pierre Dukan, is taking the world by storm and has been since it was translated into English and eight other languages ahead of the royal wedding.

With a tagline “Five million French people can’t be wrong”, it’s an eating plan that has put Dr Dukan’s 30-plus years of experience in the nutrition industry to great use. Backed by science – not to mention scores of skinny ladies – Dr Dukan’s diet kick-starts your metabolism with an intense protein-only phase, before you slowly reintroduce other foods. Soon after that, followers can go back to eating what they want forever, provided they have one pure protein day a week. Its creator claims it is the “most effective and easy-to-follow diet available”. And while no-one would have called the Middletons overweight before, a modified version of Dukan provided the key to speedy and safe weight-loss – to help you lose 5kgs fast.

For those of us with a few more to lose, Dr Dukan’s regime, devised a decade ago, is made up of four phases, each of which is detailed in his bestselling book The Dukan Diet. These stages are essentially four mini-diets that form the overall plan. Like the famous Atkins Diet of the 1970s and 80s, the plan is meant to put your body in a state of ketosis, meaning it uses up its fat reserves in the early stages. Unlike its high-protein pal, The Dukan Diet bans fats as well as carbs in the initial stage of the four-phase regime.

Read more about the Dukan Diet in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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How Kate Winslet got her best body ever!

How Kate Winslet got her best body ever!

At 35, Kate Winslet has never looked better!

After revealing she had to “starve” herself for her role in the blockbuster movie Titanic, Kate Winslet famously declared, “I’m not a twig and I refuse to be one.” Proud of her womanly curves, the Oscar-winning actress maintains a healthy approach to beauty and diet, even in body-conscious Hollywood.

In fact, many believe the mother-of-two is looking sexier than ever at the age of 35. The UK beauty – who was so “uncomfortable and self-conscious” about her weight as a teen that she took diet pills – has overhauled her body, beginning with an alcohol ban in January. “She used to enjoy a glass of wine now and then or some champagne,” a friend reveals. “Now she’s convinced all alcohol is terrible for your body and she has a good time without it.”

A trimmer figure isn’t the only reward clean-living Kate is reaping after avoiding alcohol. The actress is enjoying glowing skin, and is now launching her own limited edition make-up line with beauty giant Lancome. When off-duty, Kate applies her own make-up, and relies on simple tricks like using blotting papers to keep her fresh-faced.

Even working in plastic fantastic LA won’t change her mind that natural is beautiful. “[Plastic surgery] goes against my morals, the way my parents brought me [up] and what I consider to be natural beauty. I will never give in,” she says.

Read more about Kate Winslet’s body secrets in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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Kate and Pippa’s beauty secrets

The Middleton girls have a couple of well-kept beauty secrets that keep them looking blemish free and beautiful.

Kate wears barely any make-up, usually opting for just tinted moisturiser, blush, mascara and eyeliner, and uses a light emulsion day-and-night cream containing liquid oxygen and vitamin A. Pippa on the other hand is a fan of oxygen facials that plump up skin, lasting for at least 24 hours.

The pair are also fans of Lancôme’s Visionnaire Advanced Skin Corrector, which you could have the chance to win!

See all the compeition details and read more about their beauty secrets in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale September 12, 2011.

Pippa and Kate Middleton’s beauty regimes are all about simplicity.

Kate chooses a hair colour and highlights that enhances her complexion.

The sisters are fans of wearing their hair half up half down which lifts the face.

Pippa enhances her natural tan with a professional spray-tan.

She also never leaves home without moisturizing her legs.

In the lead up to the Royal wedding both sisters stuck to a beauty and diet regime.

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True Confessions Agony Aunt: Does my husband just want me back for money?

Woman worried about her unloving husband

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I have been with the same man for thirty-one years and married to him for ten years. We have two grown-up children together and three grandchildren.

In our years together he has had two affairs that I know of and at these times I left but went back for the family. This was earlier on in our relationship so for the later years I thought everything was okay.

We have our own business which our son and son-in-law also work in. As my husband is 60-years-old and I am 53 I thought we could start winding-down on the work-front and spend more quality time together as over the years we were too busy building up the business to make much time for each other.

We only ever had a couple of holidays together which I put down to him being a workaholic but I am now starting to believe he just didn’t want to spend time with me. Our sex life has also suffered, I tried to talk to him to explain that I need him to spend more time with me socially but nothing changed, so in December 2010 I left and moved to Perth hoping he would try and get me back.

I have now been here for six months and I have a job and keep myself busy but he has made no effort to try and get me to go home which hurts a lot. Recently I approached him about paying me out of the business as I need to make a new start, and low and behold now he says he wants to talk.

Even though I still love him I don’t want him to have me back just because he doesn’t want to pay me anything if we divorce and I don’t want things to just go back to the way they were if I do give him another chance. What do you think I should do?

You have nothing to lose by being brutally honest and asking why he wasn’t willing to discuss you coming back until you mentioned the business. Maybe that’s what made him realise that you were serious about separating but you’ll have no idea of that until you talk properly.

You will have to be prepared to face the possibility that you care for him much more than he cares for you, although it could just be that he is unable to open-up about his feelings and therefore couldn’t express what he was going through.

Did you know for sure that he had those two affairs or did you just suspect it? And each time you went back, was that without him explaining or asking you to return? Perhaps a pattern was established then when he started to believe that if you were unhappy you would leave but would then return when you had worked your anger out of your system.

He might have expected you’d do the same this time. On the other hand six months is a long time for no communication or discussion so perhaps it is the thought of losing out financially which has spurred him on to ask you to stay.

Whichever it is you won’t begin to get some idea of your future until you have a very full and frank talk and if you can do it without anger so much the better.

You also need to talk about the past to see if you do have a future – and you need to make sure he gives you the reasons he didn’t ask you to come back until now.

You must also make it clear what you want if the marriage is to continue and don’t just give vague answers such as socialising more together – be specific and ask if he is prepared to do what you want. In return you need to know what he wants from you and remember that no matter what you both agree on you can always put a time limit on coming back and things changing.

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Top tips to beat the blues

Top tips to beat the blues

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Banish stress, beat the blues and re-energise with these mood-boosting techniques.

Think like an astronaut

Along with elite athletes, policemen and airline pilots, astronauts are taught autogenic training as part of their space-training programs.

Developed by a German doctor, Johannes Schultz, in the 1920s, this technique has been scientifically proven to relieve tension, lessen anxiety, lower blood pressure and cholesterol, and even improve communication, decision-making, business and sporting skills.

Autogenic training teaches you to focus your attention inwards through mental exercises that are designed to switch off the body’s “fight or flight” stress mechanism and let you deal with traumas and challenges calmly.

Typically, people report feeling that they are in control of their lives, rather than feeling that life is controlling them. Find a qualified teacher at www.autogenics.com.au.

Float away

Lying in darkness and silence in very salty water is one of the best ways to beat stress. Flotation therapy was developed in the 1950s by a neurophysiologist, Dr John Lilly. He was intrigued by what happened to the brain and body when external stimuli were removed, and experimented with the soundproof chambers used to train navy divers.

He found that floating caused blood pressure and heart rate to fall and stimulated the body to produce endorphins, natural painkillers. Flotation has been used in the treatment of psychological disorders, including addiction and phobias.

Artists and musicians have claimed it leads to increased creativity and problem-solving ability. Type “float tank” into an internet search engine to find a centre near you.

Try brain yoga

Mindfulness is the brainchild of Jon Kabat-Zinn, a scientist and stress reduction expert. He felt sure that the answer to many chronic physical conditions lay in teaching his patients how to activate their inner healing ability.

Drawing on Buddhist and yogic practices, he developed this form of meditation, which, at its most basic level, teaches you how to stop and become aware of the moment, and to practise being kind to yourself.

It sounds simple, but it’s not always easy — and it’s extraordinarily effective, helping to provide you with greater certainty, self-confidence, and self-acceptance.

It’s incredible how much stress we create for ourselves by disliking, blaming and criticising ourselves. Find a class at www.mindfulnesscentre.com.

Pick a flower

Rescue remedy, a mixture of Bach flower essences, is a wonderful stress fix. If you feel tense or panicked, place a few drops under the tongue, or add it to a glass of water and sip regularly.

Other Bach flower remedies for stress include Aspen (for fear and anxiety), hornbeam (for fatigue), white chestnut (for “monkey mind”, where your thoughts are constantly swirling in your head), vervain (for people who push themselves too much) and pine (for feelings of guilt and inadequacy).

Shake things up

When you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, take time out and hide somewhere private, like your bedroom or a bathroom at work. Now, “shake” the tension out of your body — loosely shake every limb, every bit of your body, and feel it wobble.

Visualise the bad feelings being tumbled out of you, onto the floor. If you feel like you could scream, go ahead and do so. One of the greatest releases is car screaming — roll up the windows and let it all out. Or, bury your face in a pillow and howl. Kicking a cardboard box around the room until it is in shreds is also excellent.

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