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Secrets of India: sex, tigers and temples

Central India has many dazzling places to visit, but the holy city of Varanasi, the "Kama Sutra" temples of Khajuraho and Panna National Park Tiger Reserve are not to be missed.
The River Ganges at Varanasi

Central India has many dazzling places to visit, but the holy city of Varanasi, the “Kama Sutra” temples of Khajuraho and Panna National Park Tiger Reserve are not to be missed.

Sacred River at Varanasi

It’s probably the biggest communal bathing event in the world. Every day, about 60,000 Hindus come down to the River Ganges at Varanasi to wash away their sins. After all, Varanasi is one of the holiest cities in India and the Ganges, or Great Mother, the most sacred river on the Indian sub-continent.

To visit Varanasi is to spend time on the Ganges – together they are the beating heart of the Hindu universe. The old city’s one-kilometre riverfront is one of the most colourful places on earth. Women dressed in rainbow-hued saris mingle with holy men in saffron robes (right). Buildings painted pink and white, blue and yellow, to name but a couple of the colour combinations, give way to broad flights of stone steps, known as ghats, which sweep down to the water, where the pilgrims bathe.

Some of the busiest ghats are also the most accessible. At Dasaswamedh Ghat, dozens of Brahmin priests gather at dusk to perform holy rites on raised platforms under giant cobwebs of fairy lights. Dasaswamedh is ghat central, a good place to begin a walk along the river.A five-minute walk north is Manikarnika Ghat, where funeral pyres burn all day in front of the Shiva Temple. The cadavers, dressed in linen shrouds with splashes of gold foil, are brought on stretchers and burnt in public – the poorest on pyres of sticks, the richest on sandalwood logs.

To be cremated in the shadow of this temple is highly auspicious, but a spookier place it is difficult to imagine. Once blood red, the temple domes are now black from the soot of countless cremations. If any place inspired the Temple of Doom in the Indiana Jones film, this must be it. Most of the ghats – and there are about 80 of them – are about bathing rather than burial and the best way to see them is by row boat. Hire one at dawn and watch the sun rise over the river. Then, in the lovely light of morning, ask your oarsman to row up and down the river.

Close to Pandhey Ghat, you will see hundreds of saffron-robed yoga devotees meditating as they walk in long processions behind their gurus (right). Around Shivala and Dandi ghats, magnificent palaces, built by maharajas, line the riverfront. Every ruler of note has built a residence on the western bank of the Ganges. Yet, whether rich or poor, every Hindu lucky enough to die at Varanasi has their ashes scattered in the currents of the great River Ganges.

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Hire a row boat at dawn and dusk to watch the multitudes bathing in the river and see the sacred rites and sites along the river’s banks. Overseas visitors are strongly advised not to swim in the Ganges because, by Western standards, it is heavily polluted.

Spend a morning at Sarnath (20 minutes drive away), the 6th-century Buddhist sacred site with its giant brick stupa and holy banyan tree, where the Buddha is known to have preached.

Visit Vishwanath Temple, known as the Golden Temple, and admire the 800kg of gold plate on the tower and dome.

Stay

In the grounds of the Gateway Hotel Ganges Varanasi (www.thegatewayhotels.com),you’ll find a neo-classical marble palace, built by the local maharaja. In 1895, Maharaja Anant Narain Singh decided it was time to court the British, so he built a “guest house” fit for a king. Soon after its completion, an heir to the British throne, George, Prince of Wales, (later George V), arrived with Princess Mary in tow. After that, there was no stopping them – various dukes and duchesses, Queen Elizabeth II, the King of Nepal, a dozen Indian princes, Jawaharlal Nehru, independent India’s first prime minister, and the Dalai Lama followed over the years.

Today, the palace is officially a hotel, called the Nadesar Palace Hotel (above) (www.tajhotels.com) where you can stay in suites named after its former blue blood guests. It’s a tranquil spot in an otherwise notoriously noisy city – the perfect place to be pampered like a royal. The floors are either Italian marble with inlaid semi-precious stones or teak. The suites are spacious, the service immaculate and the food – Anglo and Indian – exquisite.

If you have a royal budget, stay at the palace. Otherwise, make a booking at the Gateway with its modern, stylish rooms, where you don’t have to be a prince to pay the bill.

Sex, Sculpture and Temples: Khajuraho

Sex sells. In the 10th century, the Chandela dynasty covered their temples at Khajuraho (right) with copulating figures in positions from the Kama Sutra (below). Today, curious tourists still flock to the site, a beautiful park dotted with temples, on the outskirts of the rural town of Khajuraho. “Many people come to see the copulating figures,” said my guide, “and they rarely leave disappointed. As you can see, the figures are most sensual.”

Of all the figures, the ones I liked least were those copulating. Not because I’m a prude. It’s just that sex doesn’t look much fun when fixed in stone. It was the humour that charmed me. Next to one naughty threesome was a row of eight elephant heads, depicting the god Ganesh, all looking straight ahead into eternity, except the one closest to the frolicking figures, whose head was tilted their way with a mischievous expression on its face. That made me laugh – a joke frozen in time, 1100 years after it was put there.

Many of the figures are exquisitely carved. Forget the Elgin Marbles. The work from ancient Greece is as fine, but nowhere near as well preserved and totally without playful humour or as much drama.

At Khajuraho, there are maidens dressed in sheer fabrics standing in rain showers, where rivulets running across their skin look as delicate as tracery. One beautiful woman appears to be smiling at her lover, but when the observer takes several paces back, her expression changes to absolute loathing.

There are two main groups of temples on the outskirts of this charming rural town. Both are worth visiting, but if you’re pressed for time, choose the western group first.

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Panna National Park Tiger Reserve (see below).

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Hotel Chandela (www.tajhotels.com) is surrounded by a gorgeous garden with mature trees and a wonderful vegetable patch, where they grow vegies for the hotel kitchen. It’s comfortable and beautifully maintained, has a swimming pool and garden view rooms.

Panna National Park Tiger Reserve

Just half an hour’s drive from Khajuraho is a beautiful national park that attracts so few visitors, you’re likely to have its 543sq kms to yourself. It’s called a tiger reserve, but at last count, there was only one solitary male, even though there are plans to airlift a young female from Bandhavgarh National Park, where 56 tigers live. Like many tiger reserves, Panna has been targeted by poachers and only recently has the Indian government decided to make almost $180million available to fight this slaughter.

Visitors are more likely to see a leopard than a tiger, but the park is so scenically spectacular it makes for a wonderful day’s safari. Cutting through the national park is the mighty River Ken, where thousands of crocodiles live unmolested. Nearby, there’s a great gorge with towering cliffs on which hundreds of vultures nest.

There’s plentiful wildlife, including large herds of chital (Indian spotted deer), sambur (a deer the size of an elk), nilgai (a large antelope depicted above) and chinkara (gazelle). You’ll also see massive wild boars, hyenas, jackals and maybe a wild cat that looks like a grey alley cat. There are also more than 250 species of birds, some incredibly colourful, such as the peacock, golden pheasant and numerous parrots, and several species of hornbill, including the Malabar hornbill (above).

If you want a guaranteed sighting of a tiger, Panna is not the park to choose. Visit Bandhavgarh, four hours drive south and stay at Mahua Kothi (www.tajsafaris.com). You’ll see plenty of tigers, but you’ll also be rubbing shoulders with hundreds of other tourists.

Stay

Minutes away from the entrance of the Panna National Park is a new safari lodge called Pashan Garh (right) (www.tajsafaris.com). Built with local stone and plate glass, the lodge is an exquisite piece of design and comprises a cluster of stone cottages huddled atop a small hill, with magnificent views over the forest and a large nearby waterhole, where antelope come to quench their thirst.

This five-star lodge draws inspiration from the dry-packed stone houses of the Panna region. The cottages reflect Haveli tradition and have spacious central courtyards. The interiors are a contemporary mix of chocolate linen, block-printed black silk, celadon cotton and cotton lace chandeliers.

The lodge features 12 stone cottages, with a central guest area showcasing leather furniture made in Delhi, with massive black and white photo canvasses of the dramatic Panna landscapes. There are subtle references to the erotic stonework at the nearby temples of Khajuraho.

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Larry Emdur: The nicest guy in TV

Larry Emdur: The nicest guy in TV

Larry Emdur

Larry Emdur hit a career low withCelebrity Dog School, but the master of re-invention is now one of TV’s most loved hosts.

It was not so long ago that Larry Emdur was the butt of jokes in Australian television circles.

Finding himself jobless — yet again — after the axing ofWheel of Fortune, the TV presenter had to sit back and cop it as a placard-wielding Rove McManus, from the rival Ten Network, launched a tongue-in-cheek crusade to “Save Larry Emdur”.

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Then cameCelebrity Dog School, a dog of a show, which Larry hosted for just three episodes in 2007 before it, too, was canned.

“You know times are tough when you end up doingCelebrity Dog School,” says legendary TV producer Adam Boland, chuckling.

Even Larry’s sister, the acclaimed artist Martine Emdur, admits that the close-knit family has had some “serious giggles at his expense” over the years.

Yet, these days, it is Larry who is having the last laugh — all the way to the bank.

When we meet, Larry has just wrapped up another episode of the infomercial-packedThe Morning Show, which over the years has seen him rap with Vanilla Ice, strut the catwalk with Australian supermodel Alyssa Sutherland and get naked under the covers while discussing the sexual droughts of married couples.

“When I’m driving to work each day, I know it’s going to be fun, it’s going to be different,” he says. “That’s the beauty of it.”

Larry says nobody — least of all him — predictedThe Morning Show’ssuccess when it launched in 2007, immediately knocking Australia’s daytime TV queen Kerri-Anne Kennerley off her ratings throne.

He had planned to give the show six months “to see how it worked out”, but a month into the new gig, he went home to his wife, Sylvie, and told her he could see himself doing it for the next decade.

He had found a place, outside the “boxing ring” of prime-time TV, where he could have fun, use his creative talents — and still be home for the school run.

Friends and family speak of Larry’s devotion to his family — to Sylvie, their children Jye, 17, and Tia, 12, and his wider family.

He lives within five minutes of his mother, his sister, Martine, and her young son, Asher, and of his psychologist sister, Nicole, and her four children.

“We spend a lot of time together and Laz and Sylvie are still holding hands and kissing at the dinner table,” says Martine. “They still look at each other with googly eyes!”

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Last year, Larry whipped his wife off to Bora Bora to renew their wedding vows after 15 years of marriage.

“The business is so crazy and all-consuming,” he says, “and she’s been so supportive. I just wanted to tell her that I love her and to make it special.”

Adam Boland, who is now a consultant and director of social media and strategy with Seven, predicts the network will use Larry for special broadcasts, such as New Year’s Eve. “He’s back from the wilderness in a big way.”

Read more of this story in the October issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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Oprah Winfrey reveals her biggest mistake

Oprah Winfrey reveals her biggest mistake

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Oprah Winfrey’s eponymous talk show aired for 25 years, but in all that time the TV star only had one major regret — her infamous “wagon of fat”.

In the now-legendary ‘Diet Dreams Come True’ episode of The Oprah Winfrey Show, Oprah donned a pair of size 10 Calvin Klein jeans and wheeled out a wagon containing 67 pounds of fat to represent the weight she had lost.

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The episode aired on November 15, 1988, but the star still regrets it 23 years later. In a candid interview with Entertainment Tonight the talk show queen named the incident as her biggest blunder.

“Big, big, big mistake,” she said, rolling her eyes. “When I look at that show, I think it was one of the biggest ego trips of my life.”

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Asked what she would tell herself if she could go back in time, Oprah shrieked: “I would say, ‘Don’t do it! It’s a great TV moment but don’t do it!”

Oprah’s new show Lifeclass premieres on her OWN network next week. It will see her teaching her life lessons to others in a bid to make their lives happier.

Your say: Did you think Oprah’s “wagon of fat” was entertaining, or a mistake?

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The best moisturisers for your age

The best moisturisers for your age

Are you unsure of what moisturiser to use for your age? Woman’s Day beauty editor Mary Zavaglia has the answer!

In the video above, Mary explains the ageing process of the skin and the best moisturising options for each age group.

From simple tinted moisturisers in your 20s through to vitamin C brightening moisturiser for your mid-40s, Mary has your skin covered.

Watch the video of Mary above where she shares her tips and tricks for how to maintain glowing healthy skin through the ages.

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Tom Cruise’s most embarrassing moments

Tom Cruise stunned onlookers last weekend when he took part in an impromptu dance-off at his friend’s wedding – but it’s not the first time he’s embarrassed himself in public.

The 49-year-old actor is famous for his questionable public behavior and never seems embarrassed by the mortifying things he does.

From the infamous “couch jumping” incident on The Oprah Winfrey Show in 2005, to accidentally farting on live TV in 2008, Tom can’t seem to stop humiliating himself.

Here are some of his most outrageous incidents.

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Tom professes his love for Katie Holmes to Oprah in 2005.

A pirated video of Tom rambling about his love of Scientology became a viral hit in 2008.

Tom dancing with Jennifer Lopez at the 2010 MTV Movie Awards.

Tom laughed so hard he farted on *Late Night with David Letterman* in 2008.

Tom laughed so hard he farted on Late Night with David Letterman in 2008.

Tom hams it up as rocker Stacee Jaxx in upcoming movie *Rock of Ages*.

Tom hams it up as rocker Stacee Jaxx in upcoming movie Rock of Ages.

Tom during his dance-off at producer David Ellison’s wedding.

Tom kept speaking through two attempts to get him offstage at the 2007 Bambi awards.

Tom lost his temper during a *60 Minutes* interview with Peter Overton in 2005.

Tom lost his temper during a 60 Minutes interview with Peter Overton in 2005.

Tom criticised Brooke Shields’ use of anti-depressants in 2005, saying mental illness was a myth.

Tom later exploded when US *Today* show host Matt Lauer brought up Shields in an interview.

Tom later exploded when US Today show host Matt Lauer brought up Shields in an interview.

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Kids do the cutest things!

Kids do the cutest things!

As most parents know, kids can sometimes do the cutest things!

Take this little girl, who took it upon herself to clean up after her fellow flower girl who is dropping flower petals down the aisle.

To the enjoyment of guests and the wedding party, the adorable little girl makes sure she picks up every rose petal before she gets to the end of the aisle.

Has your child done something cute lately? Share it in the comments box below.

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Is reality TV making girls mean?

Is reality TV making girls mean?

Since the first series of Big Brother Australia aired in 2001, the nation has been in the grips of reality TV fever — but are the constant arguments and vicious gossip captured on today’s hit shows making our kids mean?

Parenting expert and psychotherapist Robi Ludwig is convinced the bad behaviour flaunted in popular programmes like Jersey Shore, The Real Housewives and The Only Way is Essex is negatively influencing teen audiences.

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While girls might not imitate the violent brawls seen on their favourite shows, Ludwig says they do mimic other behaviour because TV tells them that “nasty and mean” girls are the most popular.

“Relational aggression, which is very common amongst girls, is where there’s increased gossip and being nasty to one another,” Ludwig told the US Today show yesterday.

“The truth is, if kids are watching these kinds of interactions, the message is ‘You’re popular if you’re nasty and mean.’ Girls who identify with that will certainly make that a part of their mental script.”

Ludwig says it is up to parents to make sure their daughters don’t become mean girls. She recommends watching shows with children and pointing out the negative consequences of TV character’s gossiping and nastiness.

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“If parents train their kids to think critically, that makes all the difference in the world,” Ludwig says.

“Train your child to say, ‘How do you think the victim feels in this situation?’ Then you’re really teaching empathy and you’re using what’s part of this media diet in an effective way.”

Your say: Do you think reality TV shows are making girls nastier?

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Gok Wan: How to look good with any body shape

Gok Wan: How to look good with any body shape

Celebrity stylist Gok Wan

Feeling fat and frumpy? Celebrity stylist Gok Wan is here to help you banish those feelings forever with his top tips for looking fabulous no matter how old you are (or what those numbers on the scale say).

AWW: What are the three biggest fashion mistakes women make?

Gok: Not dressing for your body shape, not dressing for your body shape And not dressing for your body shape! It’s the biggest and most common mistake I see women make every day. Far too many gorgeous women hide their best asset and make themselves look larger!

AWW: Lots of women lose their body confidence as they get older or after having children — what can they wear to start feeling good about themselves again?

Gok: Here are Gok’s Golden Rules for those that need a confidence boost:

    1. Form an honest relationship with the mirror
    1. Buy yourself some good underwear
    1. Clear out all the rubbish from your wardrobe
    1. Learn what your body shape is.
    1. Go shopping and buy items that will show off your best bits

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AWW: Do you have some fast tips to update your wardrobe without spending too much money?

Gok: Simple solution — accessorise! There are so many amazing accessories this season that can really lift your outfit taking your look from simple to sensational. Reinvent your wardrobe favourites with a bright scarf, statement neckpiece or clutch and when in doubt, you can never go wrong with a fabulous pair of killer heels!

AWW: How old is too old for short skirts and cleavage?

Gok: For me, age isn’t important: it’s all about accentuating your best assets, whether it’s womanly curves or killer pins. While I wouldn’t recommend a plunging neckline or mini-skirt for a more mature lady, it’s really about finding your comfort zone and working within that.

AWW: Support undergarments: figure-fixing miracle or uncomfortable myth?

Gok: A figure-fixing miracle! A great look always starts with great underwear. There are many great support garments on the market that there is no excuse to settle for uncomfortable underwear!

AWW: Lots of women have wardrobes bursting with clothes, but still don’t have anything to wear. What is your advice for editing down your closet and what should you restock it with?

Gok: First and foremost, if it hasn’t been worn in over 12 months it has to go. An overstuffed wardrobe of unworn items only creates clutter and prevents you from recognising your fabulous favourites. And if it doesn’t fit, get rid of it. There’s no use holding onto that ‘dream’ pair of pants if they’re ultimately not right for your body shape. Focus on items that fit well and flatter your figure.

AWW: What are your tips for dressing a fuller figure?

Gok: The common error that many fuller-figured women make is hiding what they’ve got! Understanding your body shape is key. Whether you’re a big-bottomed beauty, a round, luscious apple or a top heavy inverted triangle shape, the rules are the same: Draw attention away from the areas you want to hide by bringing the focus to your best bits. If you’re blessed with a great bust, then don’t be tempted to cover it up — go for wraparound dresses that show a little cleavage (but not too much) and invest in a good quality bra to keep your best assets firmly in place. If it’s a generous lower half that you’d like to play down, accentuate your waist and disguise a big bottom with a swirly full skirt. The curvy figure really is back with a vengeance so ladies, if you’ve got it flaunt it!

AWW: We’re coming into summer — what can more mature women wear to work to keep cool without flashing too much flesh?

Gok: We’re all in charge of our wardrobes, girls, not the other way around! It’s simply a matter of seeing what works best for you and what showcases your beautiful bod best. And, remember babes, natural fibres are your best friend! Cotton and linen breathe and feel gorgeous, so drape yourself in them. Find a maxi in a light, summer fabric and with a big and bold print or be daring in a flowing kaftan, just remember to cinch it in at the waist with a pretty belt.

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AWW: How can more mature ladies adapt the new season fashions without looking like mutton dressed as lamb?

Gok: The key is dressing for your shape regardless of the trend you want to adapt. And remember you don’t have to go top-to-toe in the latest trends to be considered fashionable.

Gok Wan is in Australia from today until October 16 on his second Westfield Style Tour, which will see him jetting around the country to advise women on this season’s hottest trends. For dates and times at your local centre, visit Westfield’s website.

Your say: Do you have any style questions? Post them below and we’ll do our best to answer them for you.

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Pinch the salt from your diet

Pinch the salt from your diet

Doctors say it could be as deadly as nicotine – but Australians are still overdosing on salt without even realising it.

Last night, A Current Affair revealed the alarming amount of salt in food items we eat every day.

Here are some tips for reducing the amount of salt you eat every day:

  • Read the labels when shopping. Look for lower sodium in cereals, crackers, pasta sauces, canned vegetables, or any foods with low-salt options.

  • Ask about salt added to food, especially at restaurants. Most restaurant chefs will omit salt when requested.

  • If you need to salt while cooking, add the salt at the end; you will find that you need to add much less.

  • Limit your intake of high-sodium foods like pickles, olives, cured meats, soy sauce and other condiments.

  • Keep the salt in your pantry instead of on your table where it is so easy and tempting to use.

  • Snack on fresh fruits rather than salted crackers or chips.

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My mum’s an 83-year-old gym junkie

My mum's an 83-year-old gym junkie

Weights and treadmills won’t be every octogenarian’s cup of tea, but Liz Deegan’s 83-year-old mother has found a new lease of life working out at the gym.

It’s not often my mother surprises me. We talk most days and I like to think we’re pretty close. She knows what I’m doing, what I’m feeling, what I’m cooking and reading, and vice versa.

We share a mutual understanding of activities and attitudes — or so I thought.

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Who then was this woman on the other end of the phone several weeks ago who, in answer to an enquiry about her day pronounced, “I’ve joined the gym”.

The gym? What sort of gym? “How many sorts of gyms are there?” she replied. “A gym with weights and treadmills, of course.”

It took a few seconds to get my breath back. I appreciate this may not be so remarkable for many mothers, but mine is 83. It’s not exactly a common demographic for gym membership.

To be fair, she wasn’t a couch potato — there were weekly aquarobics sessions and regular walks — but a gym with steppers, cycles and circuit classes is in a totally different league.

“Have you actually been inside it, Mum?” I asked, hoping like hell she hadn’t been conned into a two-year contract by a 6pm call centre spruiker.

I should have given her more credit. Not only had she been inside, she’d done a trial class, met the instructor, made new friends, studied the timetable and committed herself to two sessions a week to begin with.

Sensibly though, she decided to only sign for three months, just to be sure she liked it. Oh, and she’d been to the local sports shop and bought her first pair of gym-suitable trainers. Seriously? Had we met?

A few weeks later and she was buying protein powder at the health food shop, rethinking her exercise wardrobe and discussing weight-lifting technique.

There’s even talk of going alone, not just doing the group classes. “I’m enjoying it, feeling quite good,” she tells me.

While I used to encourage Mum to do more, now it’s my exercise regimen under scrutiny and she’s the one gently urging me to get physical.

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Oh, and lose weight. I certainly didn’t see this coming. You see, 15 months ago, she lost her eldest daughter to melanoma. We didn’t see that coming, either.

The trauma of that sudden, savage death and the ensuing grief exacted a heavy toll. The light went out in Mum’s eyes and I wondered if we’d ever see it shine again. It will never fully return — how could it? — but at least now there’s a flicker of her old spirit and determination.

I’m still surprised, but even more proud.

Read more of this story in the October issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Your say: Do you know anyone who has become a gym junkie later in life?

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