A Reddit user** bravely opens up about her heartbreaking decision to leave her cheating husband…
The day I picked up my husband’s phone, I’d been with him for five years and married for 1.5. I’d never once doubted his fidelity.
He was great. Super smart, funny, handsome, and, I thought, loyal. He’d never given me a reason to doubt him or be suspicious.
I thought it was kind of odd when he downloaded Snapchat; he’s not big on social media. I had one, but I wasn’t very active. He said his friends were really active and he liked it better than Facebook. As I said, I’d never had any reason not to trust him. So I thought nothing of it.
One morning my husband was in the shower and left his phone on my nightstand. I was half-asleep when his phone started chirping and woke me up.
We both had the same phone and ringtone for text messages. Not knowing that he had put his phone on my nightstand for whatever reason, I thought it was my phone in my half-asleep state.
I looked at who had texted and it read “Mum”.
Okay, my Mum texted me, I could ignore that until I was actually awake. Under that was a Snapchat notification. A snap from someone named “Roxy”.
Who the heck was Roxy and why was she Snapchatting me?
I opened it and in front of me was a picture of another woman’s genitals and an extremely explicit and personal caption.
“I opened it and in front of me was a picture of another woman’s genitals and an extremely explicit and personal caption.”
At first, I thought had been a mistake.
But I was alert now, and I pretty quickly realised that this was my husband’s phone. I started to sweat. I looked at his contacts on Snapchat, and this woman had a yellow heart next to her name. I had to look up what that means – turns out they were “best friends”, meaning they communicated A LOT.
I felt like I was going to be sick. I didn’t do any other snooping because honestly, I knew what I’d find.
I just didn’t understand how he could have done this.
We were happy. I thought we were happy.
And here’s the real kicker: I was almost 12 weeks pregnant at the time with our first child.
I put the phone back but all that day I couldn’t stop thinking about Roxy.
My husband knew something was up. Every hour he asked if I was okay.
I told him my sister was having a hard time and I was going to go over to her place for dinner.
That night I stayed at my sister’s prepared to confront my husband the next day.
My sister is a whizz at the social media thing. She “stalked” my husband’s Facebook to see if this Roxy person popped up anywhere and BINGO, we found her. Well, at least we were pretty sure. I didn’t see her face in the image.
She was listed as a receptionist at my husband’s friend’s law firm. My husband worked a couple streets away from the law firm and he stops by often to grab lunch with his friend. That would explain how they met.
That night I stayed at my sister’s prepared to confront my husband the next day.
The confrontation
I was very calm when confronting my husband, informing him that he needs to explain to me who Roxy is and why she is his “best friend” on Snapchat. His face gave him away immediately, but he still tried to lie to me at first.
He actually had the nerve to say something along the lines of, “I feel like I’m on trial here. People warned me that you’d get crazy when you’re pregnant but I never thought it’d be this bad.” He the told me I shouldn’t have looked at his Snapchat.
Finally, after I asked to see the messages between the two, he broke down and started to cry telling me he wouldn’t let me see any of the messages because they would hurt me.
I found out then it had been an ongoing affair for months.
I still wonder what would have happened if I’d never opened Snapchat that morning.
Thanks to my amazing family I always felt supported and secure in my decision to leave him and keep my baby.
I have a phenomenal support system; this baby will be loved so dearly by so many. Yes, I will have to deal with my husband for the rest of my life if I have this child and it will make future relationships for me more difficult, but it is worth it. I’ve wanted this baby since day one and I am her mother, which means that I am strong enough to raise her alone because I have to be strong enough.
I’m ready to be done with this marriage,which is crazy because just a few months ago I thought my life was as close to perfect as you could get.
Here’s to hoping for a speedy divorce.
** Reddit user Thisgirlisonawire.
