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Real life: My mum and I are pregnant together!

I'd only just got over my news when she had some of her own!
Natasha with baby

Natasha, 27, from the Sunshine Coast shares her true life story:

Pushing my dinner plate to the side, I stood up, excused myself and rushed to the bathroom.

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I felt sick to my stomach.

It was Motherโ€™s Day and my two half-sisters Maranda, eight, and Leteisha, five, and I had made a big fuss over our mum, Tanya.

But I had other things on my mind that night.

I was 15 and had been in a relationship with a guy for the past year.

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But we hadnโ€™t been very careful in the bedroom and I was worried I might be pregnant.

So that morning Iโ€™d bought a pregnancy test but had put off taking it in case the result ruined Mumโ€™s day.

Iโ€™d writhed uncomfortably through dinner and now, as I crouched over the toilet bowl, I knew I had to find out.

When the test came back positive, my whole body tingled with fear and nerves.

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What would Mum say?

Eventually, I summoned the courage to go back downstairs.

Mum was alone in the lounge room.

Being pregnant at 15 wasnโ€™t exactly in my planโ€ฆ

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โ€œWhere have you been hiding?โ€ she joked.

I felt as if I was about to jump off a cliff.

โ€œHappy Motherโ€™s Day,โ€ I smiled nervously. โ€œIโ€™mโ€ฆ pregnant.โ€

The colour drained from her face.

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She was speechless, just as Iโ€™d been minutes before.

For the rest of the night we ignored my big news as though I hadnโ€™t said it.

But the next day, Mum took me aside for a talk.

โ€œYouโ€™re only 15, Natasha,โ€ she said.

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โ€œWhat are you going to do?โ€

Iโ€™d just started my first full-time job at a clothes store and didnโ€™t want to throw everything away.

But when I thought about the loving home Iโ€™d grown up in, I knew that family was what meant most to me.

โ€œI want to have this baby,โ€ I answered.

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She listened calmly as I assured her Iโ€™d be okay and that my boyfriend and I could make it work.

Not everyone in my wider family was so supportive, though, and a couple told me in no uncertain terms that I should have an abortion.

When I was younger, Mum and I had lived with my grandparents.

When I told Pop the news, he was so disappointed he refused to speak to me.

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It stung me because Iโ€™d always looked at him as my father figure.

Although Nan still gave me a hug and kiss when I saw her, I could see in her eyes that she was upset, too.

โ€ฆbut I wanted to be a good mum.

I felt lucky to have a mum I could confide in and trust.

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Although she was 34, it felt like we were sisters more than anything.

We did everything together.

But becoming a mum myself was a lot to get my head around.

My other mates were planning their big birthday parties, but from now on my baby had to come first.

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Friends soon stopped calling when I could no longer go out with them because I got terrible morning sickness.

Funnily enough, Mum started vomiting, too, and complaining of back aches.

โ€œIt must be my sympathy for you!โ€ she joked, flopping down on the couch.

She put it down to early menopause or the stress of helping care for Nan, whoโ€™d spent years battling breast cancer.

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I was so glad she had a boyfriend because Mum always put everyone else first and deserved to be happy.

But one day, she approached me looking completely stunned.

โ€œIโ€™m pregnant, too,โ€ she stammered in disbelief.

Wrapping my arms around her, I noticed she seemed sad.

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โ€œWhy so glum?โ€ I asked. โ€œThis means my bubโ€™s going to have a twin!โ€

Mum was worried she wouldnโ€™t be able to support me fully through my pregnancy.

โ€œIโ€™ll be fine,โ€ I reassured her.

From then on, Mum and I went baby shopping together and joined each other for our various appointments and scans.

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I learnt that I was having a boy, and Mumโ€™s was a girl.

Soon, our house looked more like a nursery.

I couldnโ€™t have been happier.

Mum and I have always been like sisters.

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She also insisted I make the most of life before the bub.

One night a few days before my due date she told my partner and me to go out for dinner.

โ€œDo it while you can,โ€ she smiled. โ€œYou wonโ€™t have much time when the little ladโ€™s here.โ€

We spent the whole night talking and laughing.

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Weโ€™d both got over the shock and couldnโ€™t wait to be parents.

Next morning, I woke with a start.

My waters had broken.

Mum rushed me straight to hospital, where I gave birth to Ozker.

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Three months later, we returned there and Mum welcomed her daughter, Karcha, into the world.

Each afternoon, we packed the pram and headed to the beach so the bubs could enjoy some fresh air.

โ€œYouโ€™re a great mum, Tash,โ€ she told me.

But Iโ€™d learnt everything I knew from her.

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Over the next couple of years we watched our babies grow.

Our home was far from quiet, but full of love, and Ozker and Karcha were soon best mates.

On top of that, Nan had just reached the five-year remission stage of her cancer, which was a huge load off Mumโ€™s mind.

Our babies, Karcha and Ozker

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By now, Mum and I were both single, but we were happy giving our kids the best lives possible.

Then, one day, the phone rang.

I watched Mum freeze to the spot as she listened to the voice on the other end before turning to me, tears streaking down her face.

For a few moments, she couldnโ€™t speak.

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โ€œIโ€™ve got bad news, Tash,โ€ she said.

Her next words shocked me to the core.

Everything had changed.

Grab next weekโ€™s issue of Take 5 magazine to see what changed for Natashaโ€ฆ

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