He doesn't know I was nearly a 40 year-old virgin

I had been in three serious relationships with men who were fantastic. But as for meeting all the criteria and my sexual life – none of them went all the way.

I met my current boyfriend through the most random of introductions, and, as often with life’s funny ways, he turned out to be that guy who swept me off my feet. And he later proved that he was very much in love. He adored me.

I knew I was finally ready to make a change to my sex life. By no means was I a forty year-old virgin, but I wasn’t a spring chicken either. I was at once both scared and excited.

My dilemma was that since the first day my boyfriend and I had talked about past relationships, I had admitted to sleeping with my exes. I am intrinsically a very passionate and affectionate person, and during this conversation came across as very experienced with sexual dalliances. I was intimidated by his age and experience – quite the attractive man with quite the list of ladies to his name. I felt the need to meet him in expectations. Yet I told him I wanted the two of us to wait, until it was the ‘right time’. I felt really rotten, but compelled to tell this story. He had no idea what ‘the right time’ was, but was incredibly sensitive to my feelings and acted like a true gentleman. We were passionate in all other aspects and he even admitted to me he couldn’t wait for the moment.

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