If you’ve ever watched Sex And The City (surely, that’s all of us, right?), you may or may not have felt a pang of jealousy over just how close-knit characters Carrie Bradshaw, played by Sarah Jessica Parker, and Samantha Jones, brought to life by Kim Cattrall, are.
However, if reports are correct, their on-screen relationship was one that only lived on our TV screens, and certainly not in real life.
Tensions seemingly escalated and boiled over in 2018 following the tragic passing of Kim’s brother, Chris.
“I don’t need your love or support at this tragic time @sarahjessicaparker,” Cattrall wrote in response to SJP sending Cattrall her condolensces following the tragic passing of her brother, Chris.
“My Mom [sic] asked me today “When will that @sarahjessicaparker, that hypocrite, leave you alone?” Your continuous reaching out is a painful reminder of how cruel you really were then and now.”
She continued: “Let me make this VERY clear. (If I haven’t already) You are not my family. You are not my friend. So I’m writing to tell you one last time to stop exploiting our tragedy in order to restore your ‘nice girl’ persona.”
So, what went wrong? When did this hostility actually start? And what fuelled it?
Well, THIS is everything we know so far…
Sarah Jessica Parker and Kim Cattrall: What we know so far
SJP and Kim Cattrall
February 2004: SATC showed its final episode after six seasons of production. The first SATC movie was supposed to start filming soon after the show wrapped up but rumours swirled that the delay in shooting it came down to salary negotiations – namely Cattrall asking for a raise on account of SJP being promoted to executive producer after Season Two. As reported by The Telegraph four years later, it was Cattrall’s move to ask for more money that caused SJP, Kristin Davis and Cynthia Nixon to distance themselves from Cattrall.
SJP and Kim Cattrall
September 2004: While Sarah Jessica, along with Cynthia Nixon and Kristin Davis, were seen celebrating the hit show’s big Emmys wins of the year at a HBO afterparty, Cattrall was nowhere to be seen with her three co-stars. (Notably, Cattrall also didn’t sit with SJP, Cynthia and Kritsin during the Emmys, themselves.) When quizzed about this following the event, Cattrall said: “Are we best friends? No. We’re professional actresses. We have our own separate lives.”
SJP and Kim Cattrall
December 2004: When asked by Jonathon Ross what went down between her and her SATC colleagues and why the show wrapped up, Cattrall replied: “I felt after six years it was time for all of us to participate in the financial windfall of Sex And The City. When they didn’t seem keen on that, I thought it was time to move on…”
SJP and Kim Cattrall
May 2008: Fast-forward three-and-a-half years later and the subtle, yet very noticeable Hollywood hum of the rift between SJP and Cattrall resurfaced. When asked about rumours of a feud between them during an interview to promote the Sex And The City movie, SJP replied: “Honestly, we are all friends and I wish I saw more of Kim. She mentioned money and no-one should vilify her for it. People made a decision that we had vilified her. No one bothered to say [to the rest of us], ‘Are you disappointed by not making the movie?’ Yes. ‘Do you respect and support her choice to not do it?’ Absolutely.”
SJP and Kim Cattrall
November 2009: The rift that keeps giving… SJP is asked yet again about her feud with Cattrall – this time, in an interview with Elle magazine. “I don’t think anybody wants to believe that I love Kim. I adore her. I wouldn’t have done the [first Sex And The City] movie without her. Didn’t and wouldn’t.”
SJP and Kim Cattrall
January 2010: Just two months later, Cattrall echoed SJP’s sentiment, claiming that pitting the two of them against each other is only done so for pure “gossip”. “I think Sarah was right: People don’t want to believe that we get on,” she said. “They have too much invested in the idea of two strong, successful women fighting with each other. It makes for juicy gossip and copy. The truth of us being friends and getting along and happily doing our jobs together is where near as newsworthy. I think Sarah is fantastic… She and I are sick of this. It’s exhausting talking about it, and a real bore. Next?”
SJP and Kim Cattrall
May 2010: Another day, another interviewer probing SJP about the talked-about unrest with Cattrall. This time, however, she didn’t soften the blow with niceties… “When you’re on set, you’re working 90-hour weeks, you’re never home, you’re exhausted,” she said during a promo interview for Sex And The City 2. “There are times when all of us have been sensitive, and sometimes feelings get hurt. But I don’t have any regrets about how I’ve treated people.”
SJP and Kim Cattrall
June 2016: So, would there be another SATC movie? Without commenting on any cast members, Cattrall carefully/politically diffused the question. “Everyone is doing their own thing and if it was going to happen, it would have happened by now,” she said. “It would be a challenge to do a third installment. It could be fun though. To say goodbye completely to Samantha would be pretty hard.”
October 2016: Three months on and SJP lashes out at “society” for pitting owmen against each other while talking about how she and Cattrall were always thought to be amid a “catfight”. “Was every day perfect? Were people always desperately, hopefully in love with each other? No, but this is a family of people who needed each other, relied upon each other and loved each other,” she said.
“This sort of narrative, this ongoing catfight, it really upset me for a very long time.”
September 2017: It’s official: Sex And The City 3 has been ditched reportedly because Cattrall flat-out didn’t want to do the movie. While Cattrall was quick to deny the allegations – “‘The only ‘DEMAND’ I ever made was that I didn’t want to do a 3rd film….& that was back in 2016,” she declared on Twitter – SJP couldn’t help but vent her disappointment. “I’m disappointed. We had this beautiful, funny, heartbreaking, joyful, very relatable script and story,” she said. “It’s not just disappointing that we don’t get to tell the story and have that experience, but more so for that audience that has been so vocal in wanting another movie.”
January 2018: There, she said it: Cattrall tells Piers Morgan that she and SJP have never been friends. “We’ve never been friends,” she began. “We’ve been colleagues and in some ways it’s a very healthy place to be because then you have a clear line between your professional life and relationship and your personal.” SJP seemed to be shattered by this revelation, telling Andy Cohen soon after the Morgan-Cattrall interview that she was “heartbroken” by Cattrall’s admission. “Just…heartbroken,” she replied. “I mean that whole week, you and I spoke about it … I found it really upsetting because that’s, you know, that’s not the way I recall our experience.”
February 2018: Following the untimely death of her brother, Chris, Cattrall received an outpouring of love and support from people all over – including SJP. “Dearest Kim, my love and condolences to you and yours and Godspeed to your beloved brother,” SJP wrote on Cattrall’s Instagram post that confirmed her brother’s passing. Cattrall replied: “My Mom [sic] asked me today “When will that @sarahjessicaparker, that hypocrite, leave you alone?” Your continuous reaching out is a painful reminder of how cruel you really were then and now.”