Mother of the bride

Question

Is it appropriate for the mother of the bride to wear a black dress? If not, what would you advise? I don’t want to wear a fuddy duddy suit as everyone seems to be suggesting.

Sue Thomas, via email.

Answer

Traditionally, black would not be the ideal colour for the mother of the bride. However these days, dress rules are far more relaxed, and black is slowly making an appearance on women in bridal parties.

We would suggest that black is only used as a last resort. Stereotypically, the mother of the bride is seen in the type of pastel coloured 3-piece suit you mention, which can look very dated.

If you feel more comfortable in darker colours, try olive green, charcoal or brown. Break it up with an interesting piece of jewellery or contrasting silk scarf or cropped jacket.

Go for a sleeker, sharp look in a pants suit. Try a lighter colour for a day wedding, soft linen for a beach wedding, or fine wool for evening. Wearing one colour from head to toe creates a flattering unbroken line that makes the wearer appear slimmer.

Use accessories to dress up plain clothes – embellished wraps, a beaded clutch, sparkly brooches, flower pins, silk scarves, and hats.

Another option is to have your outfit made. If you have a picture in your head and can never seem to find the right thing, this could be a great option. Find a beautiful fabric and have it made into what you want, and it will also fit you perfectly! Try looking for fabrics at Saigon Fabrics or Tessuti Fabrics.

Ultimately you need to wear what you are most comfortable in, weather it be black, pastels, pants or skirt. You want to enjoy this special day without worrying about your outfit.

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