Be at peace

Consider this Buddhist saying: “The perfect disciple is one who is always stumbling – but never falls.” We all fall into traps of selfishness and delusion when we least expect it. The chance remark that wounds someone else, the careless lie, the irresistible urge to cheat are universal. Forgive yourself for being human. Apply to yourself the same gentle acceptance as to others. You are doing the best you can, with the tools available to you, right now. Try these strategies:

Put it on paper: provides perspective. Divide a piece of paper into two parts. On the left side, list the things that irritate you that you may be able to change, and on the right, list the ones you can’t. Change what you can, and stop fretting over what you can’t.
Create a new vocabulary for yourself : Although there is no harm in expressing worries and problems, you want to avoid falling into the pit of constantly “talking down”. Toward that end, create a new vocabulary for yourself where you focus on optimistic words and phrases. For example, instead of seeing a problem or obstacle, try to see an opportunity for learning and growth.
Reward your good tries as well as your achievements: After suffering a setback we’re often not functioning at our best, so we may find we need more rewards than usual. Have a nurturing treatment, such as a relaxing facial or a soothing aromatherapy massage.