Itโs no secret that reality shows get tricky with editing to turn up the drama.
Comments are taken out of context and whole conversations are sometimes left out to craft an unforgettable, keep-em-coming-back-for-more narrative to ensure viewers are engaged. And weโll be darned if they donโt do it well!
But how much of what goes on in The Bachelor, The Bachelorette and Bachelor In Paradise is real and what can they fake?
Ex-producer Steph* (name changed for privacy) spoke to Sea FMโs Fifi, Fev and Byron about her time working on Tim Robardsโ 2013 season. Hereโs what she had to say.

The 2019 Bachelor In Paradise contestants were recently revealed.
Are the contestants paid?
How do reality show stars up and leave their lives for a three-month stint on TV?
Steph reveals they receive an allowance to cover general life costs only.
โ[They donโt get paid] a lot โ enough to cover their rent, their phone bills,โ she says. โTheyโre certainly not making a profit from it. Well not on my series, anyway.โ
Do producers tell the Bachelor/Bachelorette what to do?
How does that backstabbing contestant no-one โ not even the Bachie โ seems to like, make it to the finals?
While keeping them around surely makes the producersโ lives easier, Steph tells they canโt force the Bachelor/Bachelorette into giving contestants roses.
โ[Heโs] not told, but heโs guided towards decisions,โ she explains.
โI think the Bachelor keeps certain people in because it takes the weight off his shoulders.
โHe knows for the show to do well itโs got to be interesting, but itโs hard for him to be interesting the whole time. If he keeps the crazies in, thatโs a great show.โ
Is the show scripted?
Steph lets the radio team in on a clever producer trick used to get contestants to say certain things but insists they are not fed lines.
โIโll say, Iโm going to ask a question, you repeat the question back in your answer,โ she says, explaining the technique.
โIโll say โHow did you feel when Richie brutally rejected you at dinner?โ and they have to [say] โWhen Richie brutally rejected me at dinner, I felt โฆ'โ
She adds that contestants donโt have to say anything theyโre not comfortable with, but adds fame-hungry participants know how to get the most air-time.
โThe thing with people on reality shows nowadays is theyโre quite savvy, so they want to be entertaining because that means more airtime,โ Steph says.
โThe smart ones will give us good stuff naturally.โ
Does the Bachelor/Bachelorette come up with date ideas?
Ahh itโs the age-old question. Just when do they have time to plan these elaborate dates? The short answer is: they donโt!
However, Steph says the Bachelor has input into the dates.
โYou start planning them, and then bring him in: โAre you cool with this date? Can you even ride a horse?'โ
โYou donโt want a Bachelor on a beach looking like an idiot.โ

Confirmed! The Bachelor/Bachelorette doesnโt design the dates.
How much do the contestants drink?
In Australia, Bachelor contestants are limited to roughly two drinks per hour. Steph cites the sexual assault on one Big Brother season as the reason for this.
โThat changed all the rules, you werenโt allowed to get blind after that,โ she says.
โThey threaten that someone could turn up on set at any time [to police the rule].โ
Do the contestants get to eat?
The answer to this one actually comes from Osher Gรผnsberg himself.
โThereโs plenty of meal breaks, and everyone eats,โ he says. โBut if youโve ever watched MasterChef youโll know that watching people chew isnโt excellent telly.โ
Can contestants sleep with the Bachelor/Bachelorette?
Steph says the answer is a firm no, as there is a โduty of careโ towards to stars.
โOn overnight dates, thereโs always a producer โcโ blockingโ them, if you will,โ Steph reveals. โThey can chat privately, but not even second base.โ
The rule, obviously, extends to relationships between cast and crew.
โWe are threatened, basically, with death, if any of the crew members second glance or flirt with the girls,โ she says.
โYou want to get on to the next series, so itโs at your own peril if you make a move.โ
So there you have it! Thatโs what really goes on behind-the-scenes of The Bachelor.
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