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In an article shared on the 31-year-old actresses website HappilyEvaAfter.com, the mother of two — daughter Marlowe Mae, 2, and son Major James, 10 weeks – has opened up about the traigic cirumstances surrounding her son’s serious injury.
She wrote, “A couple of days after Thanksgiving, our Night Nurse fell asleep while holding Major and dropped him, and he cracked his head on the hardwood floor.”
The That’s My Boy actress went on to explain that she and her soccer player husband, Kyle Martino, 35, “were awoken by the sound of his head hitting the floor, and then hysterical piercing screams.”
Eva explained, that though Major had suffered a fracture, “some skull displacement, and bleeding, the skull did not touch his brain and the bleeding was localised.”
Eva added, “He suffered a fractured skull and bleeding on his brain, and was transported by ambulance to Yale Medical Center where I spent two harrowing days with him to receive emergency care and further testing. To say these were the most traumatic and anxious two days of my life is an understatement.”
Amazingly, the lifestyle blogger has managed to find some respite in the fact that baby Major’s fate could have been far worse.
“But here’s the good part: by the grace of all of his many angels, and every God one cares to pray to, MAJOR IS FINE. Completely fine,” she wrote.
“He has been healing well, hitting milestones, cooing, smiling, and generally showing us that he is and will be [okay] as he grows and develops.”
What a beautiful family! Here Eva is pictured with her husband Martino, daughter Marlowe Mae and son Major James.
Eva admits that it has taken her months to share her terrifying experience for fear of judgement.
She wrote, “I chose not to share [for] fear of judgement. The internet can be a peculiar place, where some people forget about humanity and go for the jugular. I know that this news might reach many, and of those many there will always be the people who say that this accident was my fault.”
“That if it had been me in there holding him instead of a Night Nurse, that this never would have happened. That I deserve this for allowing my child to be in the care of somebody other than me.”
“Well, let me tell you — the guilt I bore in the days and weeks after this accident was more intense and more damaging than anything I would wish upon my worst enemy. I had all those same thoughts and more.”
She added, “I wept in the hospital, telling anyone who would listen that it should have been me. That I was to blame. The truth is, even this woman who came so highly recommended, with a perfectly clean track record, could make a very human mistake. It ‘could happen to anyone,’ and as they told me repeatedly in the hospital, it DOES happen to anyone. More often than you’d like to hear.”
Eva believes that Major and the entire family were “absolutely, divinely lucky that day.”
Eva went on to explain that she has forgiven Major’s Night Nurse but the “extremely upset and remorseful” worker is no longer employed by the family.
The decision to dismiss the Night Nurse was in part influenced by the fact that Eva has been struggling emotionally since the accident occurred, believing that she could be dealing with “some form of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, possibly linked to some form of Postpartum Depression.”
She wrote, “It’s nearly impossible for me to trust anyone but myself to take care of Major now.”
“Hearing Major cry hard immediately triggers my memories of the moments after the accident and instigates an immediate panic attack – my heart races and tears spring to my eyes.”
Since sharing her harrowing experience, Eva has been met with much love and support from family, friends and the internet alike.
Eva noted that since the accident she has experienced a variety of side effects.
She wrote, “I feel nauseous and overwhelmed and even small discomforts he [Major] has make me anxious. My appetite has decreased to nothing, I have a hard time getting to sleep after night time feedings, and my milk supply goes up and down depending on the stresses of the day.”
“Any time we are near an edge or a ledge, I fear that he will fall, somehow, and be hurt again. Just last week, we were on the second floor of a Starbucks, and I sat there panicked and frozen as I imagined Major falling from my arms over the edge of the banister and on to the floor below. My brain played back the sound of his screams that night. I had to close my eyes and clench my teeth as the waves of nausea eventually subsided.”
In the hopes of addressing her current condition, Eva is currently seeking help from a therapist to deal with the aftermath of baby Major’s tragic accident.
Choosing to finish her blog post on a note of positivity and readiness, Eva wrote, “With open arms, I welcome 2017 as the year I learn to forgive a little deeper, to let go a little more easily, to accept some things I cannot change, and to love myself a lot more unconditionally.”
She added, “To anybody else who is suffering from similar feelings or challenges, no matter the cause– I am with you in this. Let’s get better. It’s time.”
