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Socialise your dog

Question:

Socialise your dog off the lead as much as possible. This is getting easier and easier, with more safe, off-lead parks being made available.

Answer:

Dogs can’t interact with each other the way they like to when they’re on a lead and even really placid dogs can get over-excited if they can’t engage with a new friend the way they like to.

If dogs are allowed to do their thing in a safe, controlled environment as often as possible, then they’ll generally be much more responsive when you need them to be. Melanie, Armidale.

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Bad perm

Question:

I had a disastrous perm and it’s left my hair incredibly dry and frizzy. What can I do?

Anon, via e-mail.

Answer:

Next time you decide to have a perm, ensure your hair is in top condition, as dry, porous hair can become coarse and brittle.

However, to rescue a bad perm I suggest you have two centimetres cut off each layer, followed by an intensive salon treatment that uses a steamer to allow penetration of the cuticle layer. Then buy a shampoo and conditioner for dry and damaged hair. Pantene have a range for dry, damaged hair.

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Eating disorders

Eating disorders

By Annette Campbell

Tracie Fielding never used to like what she saw in the mirror.

The now 17-year-old from the western suburbs of Brisbane, QLD, remembers running to her room and crying after being called “hippo” by her brother, when she weighed 57kg at the age of 10.

As a young teen she was painfully aware that the boys preferred to stare at her “gorgeous” friends. So, at the ripe-old age of 14, she decided that she had to do something about her weight.

She tried a few diets that didn’t work, and then started jogging on a treadmill for 30 minutes a day. This soon became 30 minutes twice a day and then Tracie was jogging for up to 60 minutes, twice a day. At the same time, she was eating less and less.

Within only a few months Tracie had lost loads of weight – and was firmly in the grip of an eating disorder.

“I was so ecstatic with the results that I thought if I ate anything and then didn’t workout afterwards, the weight would simply pile back on,” she says.

During a routine appointment, the local G.P. noticed straight away how skinny Tracie had become.

“I was 169cm tall and weighed 55kg,” Tracie recalls. “The doctor explained I should be at least 60kg, and warned me that unless I put on weight, I would end up being sick. But of course I didn’t listen. I still thought I was too fat.”

So Tracie continued eating only an apple and yoghurt for breakfast, an apple for lunch and nothing for dinner. And she was still exercising for two hours every day.

It was only when she saw herself in some family photos, that Tracie suddenly, truly understood how sick she was.

“I was at my lowest weight of 49kg and I knew that I had to do something,” she says. “So I went to see the guidance counsellor at school, broke down crying and told her everything. That afternoon mum and I talked and cried and I made her a promise that I was going to get better.”

From that day, Tracie cut-down the amount of exercise she was doing and made a determined effort to eat more and more each day.

Now she weighs a much healthier 60kg, is happier than ever and is keen to help others battling with eating disorders.

“I used to think that to be skinny was to be beautiful and that everyone will notice you…I was wrong,” she says. “And for others going through what I went through – don’t judge yourself from the outside but look at yourself from the inside because that’s where the true beauty is.”

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Foundation

Question:

I want to know how to apply my foundation so I get a polished clear skin. I always find that after applying it I end up looking older and more lined. Sue, via email.

Answer:

Apply your foundation with a damp, flat synthetic sponge starting down the centre of the face and blending outwards. This ensure there is no foundation build-up around the hairline.

Avoid applying foundation around the eye area if you have a few lines as this will only accentuate them. Avoid powder as well.

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Great read in the headlines

Nineteen year old Queenslander and marketing student, Sarah Risley, who works at Cleveland Newsagency in Brisbane, was given a challenge – how to promote the books selected as the Great Read by The Australian Women’s Weekly?

Sarah Risley set up a fantastic display just inside the front door of Cleveland Newsagency, where customers can check out all the Great Reads in one spot. “Our sales have increased and it’s also saving time when customers come in looking for a Great Read and they’re a bit vague about the title or the name of the author,” says Sarah. “This way they’re not scattered through the shop, but all on one stand.”

Sarah loves reading, so we thought we’d ask her to nominate her favourite Great Read, so far: “My favourite Great Read is Three Wishes by Liane Moriarty. It is hilariously funny and a must read for anyone with sisters, or female friends.

“I particularly love the way this book shows both how the sisters deal with their lives and how the public view the three sisters. It makes you realise how our actions affect other people’s lives in ways we can’t imagine.”

As a further incentive to book and magazine lovers, Cleveland Newsagency plans to offer 10% discount to all customers who purchase an AWW Great Read and a copy of The Australian Women’s Weekly at the same time.

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Allergic to cats

Question:

I have a five-year-old cat and a boyfriend who is allergic to cats. He itches, has trouble breathing and can’t stay over because I share my bed with my cat. Please help – giving up either is not an option. Frustrated, Waramanga ACT

Answer:

If you want your man to stay over, you will have to make the bedroom off limits to the cat, which it will get used to.

Regular vacuuming and grooming puss to remove loose hair may help but the allergy is to the cat dander, which will be floating through the air as well as everywhere else.

Your boyfriend can speak to his doctor about desensitising vaccinations, use anti-histamines and handle the cat minimally – making sure he washes his hands well afterwards (and doesn’t rub his eyes).

It is a common problem, but with a bit of compromise you can have harmony without getting rid of either of the two men in your life!

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Using your dog’s name

Question:

Be positive! Try not to use your dog’s name in a negative way – such as when you’re reprimanding or warning your dog.

Answer:

You want your dog to feel it’s a good thing when you call his or her name – not a cause to be frightened or hesitant. Jeff, via email.

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Led astray by lust

Through my eyes, my sister Lisa had it all. She was beautiful, with a perfect figure, shiny blonde hair and an amazing, committed boyfriend, Harry.

I’d always been jealous of Lisa while growing up, always wondering why I had not been blessed in the way she was. Compared to her, I was ordinary. I had ordinary hair and an even more ordinary figure – and, of course, I had no boyfriend to speak of.

Despite my jealousy, my sister was lovely towards me and often invited me out with Harry and herself. On one of these outings at the local nightclub, Lisa stood on a piece of glass and cut her foot. Not wanting to ruin Harry’s night or mine, Lisa said she’d catch a taxi home alone and insisted we stay and enjoy ourselves. That’s the sort of person my sister is – kind and considerate.

Harry and I partied on until the early hours of the morning, drinking more than we should have and spending far too much money. When we finally decided it was time to go home, we realised we only had enough money for one taxi fare. I suggested we share the trip to my place and I’d drive him home in the morning.

As soon as Harry hit my couch he fell fast asleep. I removed his shoes and shirt and then covered him with a blanket. Suddenly, in a silly moment of lust, I found myself wriggling in between his arms, imagining that he was my boyfriend as I fell into a deep, drunken sleep.

The next morning I awoke to find Harry frantically pacing the room. Not remembering much about the night before, he pleaded for me to tell him what had happened. With one look I confirmed his worst suspicions. Letting him think we’d made love seemed less embarrassing than admitting to my little fantasy.

Confused and shocked, Harry quickly left. I remained sitting in the same spot on the couch as the realisation of what I had just done dawned on me. I knew there was no way to undo what I had just done.

An hour later I received a phone call from my sister, who was crying hysterically. Between sobs, Lisa told me that Harry had just broken up with her. “All he said was that it wasn’t working,” she cried.

I couldn’t believe it. Harry had chosen to break both her heart and his own, rather than break up my whole family with what he’d supposedly done.

Six months on, Lisa’s still deeply confused and upset, and wonders what she did wrong to ruin the relationship.

I can only hope she never finds out what really did – or didn’t – happen that night.

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Nicole Kidman: dieting, motherhood and Tom

It’s hard for Nicole Kidman to avoid the subject of marriage – after all, she’s one of Hollywood’s most famous divorcées.

In the July 2004 issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly, Nicole tells Jenny Cooney Carrillo why she loved being a wife, about her ongoing relationship with Tom Cruise, and why she took the role in a film that questions what men really want in a partner.

In her new film, The Stepford Wives, a remake of the 1975 classic, Nicole plays Joanna Eberhard, a successful TV network president who suffers a nervous breakdown after a reality show disaster. She moves with her husband, Walter (played by Matthew Broderick) and their two children from their Manhattan apartment to the upper-class planned community of Stepford, Connecticut, where all the housewives in town are strangely blissful and subservient to their husbands.

In her open discussion with her friend of 20 years, Nicole reveals why has she chosen to remain single all this time, what she thinks of reports that she and Tom are dating again, and whether she see a man in her future.

She discusses motherhood and the importance of raising her children, and addresses her alleged weight loss.

PLUS five top Aussie men – Jamie Durie, Ray Martin, David Koch, Mikey Robins and Andrew Denton give their views on the perfect wife.

Image from The Stepford Wives

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Arthritis: spotting the problem

Aches and pains of the joints don’t necessarily mean you have arthritis and since the disease has so many forms, diagnosing isn’t always immediate or easy. Some types of arthritis are very common an...

Aches and pains of the joints don’t necessarily mean you have arthritis and since the disease has so many forms, diagnosing isn’t always immediate or easy. Some types of arthritis are very common and easily observed , while others are extremely rare and hard to detect. Some people feel only minor discomfort, while others can suffer extreme pain. If you have joint pains which you think may be arthritis, the sooner you find out what it is and what you can do about it, the better. But, whatever you symptoms, it’s important that you have them correctly diagnosed. TAKE ACTION It’s hard to believe that about 25 per cent of people with arthritis don’t do anything to alleviate their symptoms. This not only causes unnecessary suffering, but actually aggravates the condition and allows it to deteriorate. Arthritis is usually chronic – this means its here to stay. However it needn’t mean a life of constant pain. The symptoms may come and go; there will be some days when it will be hard to believe that anything can help, but others with little or no pain. Rest assured, there are many ways of easing arthritis, and remission – complete control of all inflammation – is possible. ARTHRITIS CHECKLIST If you are in any doubt as to whether your symptoms warrant medical attention, ask yourself these questions:

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