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I destroyed our family home

My family has always been close. My mother, father, brother and myself were more like friends than family and saw each other in social circles as well as on family occasions. When my parents decided to sell the waterfront family home and move into a villa five years ago, I saw the potential for a successful business venture.

My brother was against the sale as he did not want to see the family home belong to others. He offered Mum and Dad a measly sum — less than half of what it was worth, in an attempt to keep it in the family. I, on the other hand, knew the sale of the property was important to the retirement plans of my parents. I also knew that my family would never accept the plans I had set in motion when I hired a third party to deal with the situation on my behalf.

The day of the auction arrived and my business associate won the auction with a bid $200,000 more than the reserve. My business became the new owner and no one ever suspected it was me. I pulled down our family home and built a block of units in its place. My family was crushed at what the “hideous property developers” had done to their beautiful home without ever realising it was their own daughter.

This has been a fantastic decision financially for me and I believe for my parents, as they have done things they had never dreamed of. While I don’t regret my decision for a minute, I do worry my family will find out and will never forgive me for my actions.

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Cat toys

The best thing I have ever done for my kitten is to buy a ball of wool and create little balls she can bat around, play with and chase. I add in a long hanging piece which I can swing around for her to leap at. They’re so much fun. My three-year-old and five-year-old cats are as playful as kittens again — it’s so exciting to see, it keeps them fit and you can see a sparkle in their eyes. Cheap and hours of fun — something all cats and their owners can enjoy.

Juanita

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Overcoming obstacles to weight loss

Judy Davie

I am 49 and 136kg. I would like to lose weight but I have found it hard, with dialysis four times a week, and diabetes, and neuropathy that makes it difficult to exercise. There is no gym or access to a pool and I can’t afford a treadmill, can you help with some pointers?

Obstacles can all be overcome where there’s a will and while your personal circumstances make exercise harder for you than most, it’s not impossible. It’s also clear from what you say that, for your health, you have no choice but to lose some weight. That may sound harsh, but there is no way to describe how wonderful you’ll feel when you do achieve significant weight loss. I have a client who has lost 35kg and has turned his life around completely. In a year he’s changed jobs, become a father, exercises five times a week and no longer needs his asthma inhaler. With effort and determination, you too could enjoy a new lease on life. It’s easy to feel like a victim when you’re deeply entrenched in the health system, reliant on medication, but you must take responsibility for your own health and try to reverse some of the damage your lifestyle has been partly responsible for.

Being non-weight bearing, swimming is the best exercise you can do, but if you have no access to a pool you can start by walking every day. Wear good shoes for support and even if you can only walk for 15 to 20 minutes to start with, you should be able to increase the time and intensity each week. Throughout the day you should always try to move around and do more. Any physical activity is better than sitting on the lounge. If there’s an option to take the stairs instead of a lift or elevator, do it. Cleaning is a good way to boost the metabolism and burn calories. Do things you may have been putting off, like cleaning out cupboards, washing windows and floors, steam cleaning carpets and scrubbing the oven. What a sense of accomplishment that could bring — both you and the house will benefit.

No doubt the hospital has given you dietary advice, so follow it and do something physical everyday. Bit by bit you’ll start to feel better. Don’t worry about how long it’s going to take, concentrate on the day you’re in and the sense of achievement you feel when you achieve your daily exercise and diet goal. Even if it does take two years, you have to start somewhere. Two years from today you could be 50kg lighter and looking and feeling 15 years younger … Or not. It’s all up to you.

I love macadamia nuts, and thought they were good for me, but someone recently told me they had as much fat in them as than butter. Is this true?

Macadamia nuts are almost as high in fat as butter, but unlike butter, with two thirds its total fat content from saturated fat and cholesterol, macadamias are a rich source of monounsaturated fat and contain no cholesterol. The difference between the two is that butter (eaten in excess) can raise levels of cholesterol and increase the risk of heart disease, while macadamias can help to lower cholesterol and prevent heart disease. Macadamias are also a reasonable source of fibre, the antioxidant selenium and protein. They are therefore a much healthier food than butter and can be enjoyed in moderation. If you are trying to lose weight, limit your intake to a 20g serve (the equivalent of about 10 nuts). This provides around 600kj of energy and makes it a perfect energy boost for an afternoon snack.

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I fell in love with my gay boss

I was madly in love with my boss, Alan, and had become obsessed with him. I attended every work function that enabled me to spend more time with him and I volunteered for all those extra jobs that would make him think of me in even more favourable terms. We got on extremely well, had loads in common, similar senses of humour and had enjoyed some great times together. Secretly, I prayed that he would leave his wife of 15 years for me.

Finally, after three years of hoping, my dreams were answered and my boss left his wife. I was over the moon and my days were filled with dreams of us getting together. At work I focused on always being at Alan’s side to offer extra support to relieve his workload, and was at the ready with cups of coffee for him when he was looking tired. He seemed to be relying on me and we were definitely getting closer.

Several weeks after the break-up, Alan asked me to join him for dinner at a quiet, romantic restaurant in the city. I was so excited and could barely cope with the anticipation of it all. I knew this was it and that we would be together by the end of the evening.

The night arrived and I spent hours getting ready, including a trip to the beauty salon to get my hair and nails done. I had even splashed out and bought myself a new and rather expensive dress. Alan picked me up and I knew then it was all worth it. On arriving at the restaurant I was pleased to see we were tucked away in a quiet corner — how romantic! We would be able to declare our love for each other without having other people listening in.

The evening progressed wonderfully with Alan really opening up to me and telling me about his wife and the difficulties he had faced in leaving her. I listened and encouraged him, my excitement building by the minute.

Eventually, I couldn’t contain myself any further and I decided that it was now my turn to open up to him and start sharing some of my innermost feelings. So I took his hand and told him of the feelings I had held for him for such a long time; how I knew that I loved him, had waited so long for him and would be there for him forever. Alan looked a little uncomfortable so I hastened to assure him that I was willing to wait for him until he was ready for another relationship. He squeezed my hand, thanked me for being so open, and then proceeded to tell me that after 15 years of married life he had finally realised that he was gay, so he’d left his wife to pursue this new lifestyle.

I handed in my resignation the next day and have not seen Alan since.

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Puppy mischief

Question:

I have a six-month-old labrador who is really naughty. He pulls the washing off the line consistently. I have tried every punishment, and praise when he doesn’t do it, yet he still does it. The dog has lots of toys and is well exercised. I am running out of ideas.

Krystal

Answer:

Labradors are full of life and mischief, especially as puppies. There is only so much you can do and it is fairly normal puppy play behaviour. You are doing all the right things by praising him when he doesn’t pull at the washing. However, any attention — even if he is getting in trouble — can be motivation for dogs. So if you catch him in the act, certainly a stern “no”, clapping hands or a squirt with water will stop him in his tracks, but if it is after the event he will be confused and not remember.

For now, I’d suggest putting the washing up higher or using a temporary barrier so he can’t get to the washing; keep working on the obedience and giving him toys, exercise and games. Keep rewarding him when he is good and hopefully if he gets no attention he will tire of tugging at the clothes. The good news is he will grow out of it — he’s just like a cheeky toddler at the moment, exploring his environment and unfortunately creating havoc in the process.

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Winter fat blaster

Burn that blubber away with ‘The Healthy Chef’, Teresa Cutter, author of 80/20 Diet: 12 Weeks To A Better Body.

Seven day fat-buster plan

Monday and Thursday

Breakfast

Banana porridge

Combine 1 mashed banana with 1 cup water, ½ cup soy milk, ¾ cup rolled oats, 1 tablespoon linseeds and 1 tablespoon wheat germ. Cook over a low heat for about 2-3 minutes until soft and creamy.

Morning snack

1 apple.

Lunch

Greek salad with tuna

Combine 100g tuna in spring water with 2 Lebanese cucumbers, 2 tomatoes, 30g low-fat fetta, 4 olives, 1 teaspoon oregano and 2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar.

Top tip: vegetarians can use a small can of cannellini beans in place of the tuna.

Afternoon snack

1 handful raw almonds, cashews, walnuts or pumpkin seeds.

Dinner

Poached salmon with steamed carrot and broccoli

Poach 180g salmon fillet in fish stock or water for about 12 minutes. Serve with lots of steamed broccoli and carrot. Drizzle a little light soy sauce and sesame oil over before eating.

Top tip: vegetarians can use steamed silken tofu in place of the poached salmon.

Dessert

1 cup chopped rockmelon, if desired.

Tuesday and Friday

Breakfast

Scrambled eggs on toast

Combine 1 whole egg with 5 eggwhites and 1 tablespoon chopped chives or sage. Pour into a medium-hot non-stick pan sprayed with a little olive oil. Stir until eggs are cooked but still creamy. Remove from heat and fold in 1 tablespoon low-fat ricotta or cottage cheese. Pile over 1 slice of wholegrain sourdough.

Morning snack

1 pear.

Lunch

Vegetable minestrone

Combine 1 diced onion, 2 cloves chopped garlic, 3 stalks chopped celery, 2 diced large carrots, 1 seeded and diced red capsicum, 1 seeded and diced yellow capsicum, 400g can crushed tomato, 2 x 400g cans beans (drained), ½ cup green peas and 3 cups vegetable stock. Cook for 15 minutes until vegetables are tender. Fold ¼ cup chopped parsley through just before serving. Store for 3 days in fridge or freeze in individual containers. Serves 3-4.

Afternoon snack

1 piece of fresh fruit or 1 tub low-fat yoghurt.

Dinner

Stir-fried chicken with snow peas and mushrooms

Stir-fry 1 sliced organic chicken breast in non-stick pan or wok until cooked through and browned, occasionally adding a touch of water while cooking to prevent sticking. Add 1 clove crushed garlic, 1 teaspoon chopped ginger, 1 handful snow peas, 1 handful sliced mushrooms, 2 tablespoons mirin and 1 tablespoon light soy sauce. Toss to warm through and lightly cook the vegetables.

Top tip: vegetarians can use firm tofu in place of the chicken.

Dessert

1 cup chopped pineapple, if desired.

Wednesday and Saturday

Breakfast

Teresa’s organic brown rice porridge

Place 1 cup warm, cooked brown rice in a saucepan or microwave. Add ½ cup soy milk, 1 grated apple, 2 tablespoons LSA (ground linseed, sunflower seeds and almonds), ¼ teaspoon cinnamon and a sprinkle of sultanas. Just heat and enjoy. You can also top this with a sliced banana.

Top tip: keep a large bowl of cooked brown rice in the fridge to make this porridge for breakfast or a delicious lunchtime salad.

Morning snack

1 apple.

Lunch

Chicken Caesar salad

Arrange 1 baby cos lettuce into a serving dish or lunch box. Top with 1 skinless cooked chicken breast (can be store-bought if you like), 3 sliced semi-dried tomatoes (wipe off any excess oil), green onions (shallots) and 2 chopped boiled eggwhites (with yolks removed). Top with 1 tablespoon grated parmesan and green onion. Serve with a little store-bought low-fat Caesar dressing.

Top tip: vegetarians can use sliced marinated tofu in place of the chicken.

Afternoon snack

Low-fat hot chocolate drink.

Dinner

Vegetable curry

Combine 1 diced onion, ¼ cup red curry paste, 1 litre vegetable stock and ¼ cup light coconut milk. Add 1 chopped eggplant, 4 sliced zucchini, 300g chopped pumpkin and 400g can of chickpeas (drained). Cover and simmer for about 15 minutes until vegies are tender. Add 1 cup broken-up bok choy and cook for a further 3 minutes. Serve in bowls, garnished with a little coriander. Serves 3-4. Mix can keep for about 3 days in the fridge.

Dessert

2 sliced kiwifruit or one orange, if desired.

Sunday

Breakfast

Strawberry power smoothie

Combine ½ cup apple juice with ½ cup Jalna strawberry yoghurt, 1 punnet strawberries, 2 tablespoons Aussie Bodies strawberry or vanilla protein powder and 1 tablespoon ground linseeds. Blend with a little ice until smooth and creamy, and serve. Serves 1-2.

Top tip: vegans can replace the yoghurt with silken tofu, and the protein powder with a good-tasting, low-fat soy-based protein powder.

Morning snack

1 pear.

Lunch

Wholemeal turkey pizza

Place a wholemeal pita bread onto a baking tray lined with baking paper. Spread with 1 tablespoon tomato sauce/paste, 100g sliced turkey breast, ½ seeded and sliced red capsicum, 1 chopped tomato and a handful of sliced mushrooms. Sprinkle over 20g low-fat shredded cheese and a light sprinkle of oregano. Bake in a hot oven (200°C) for 10 minutes until hot and golden. Remove from the oven and eat.

Top tip: for a gluten-free version, just use a soft corn tortilla base and make sure all ingredients used are gluten-free. Vegetarians can use beans or tofu in place of the turkey.

Afternoon snack

1 apple.

Dinner

Lean beef and vegetable bolognaise

Combine 1 diced onion with 2 cloves chopped garlic, 500g lean beef or veal steak (mince it yourself in a food processor), 1 large carrot (grated) and 1 stalk chopped celery. Cook for 5 minutes until golden. Add 2 tablespoons tomato paste, 2 cups chicken stock, 800g chopped canned tomatoes. Cover and cook for 30 minutes until the sauce is rich and thick. Serve over freshly steamed broccoli and carrot. You can also add 1 tablespoon grated parmesan if you like.

Top tip: the sauce is enough for 4 people, so it can be stored in the fridge for 4 days or frozen in portions and used as required.

Dessert

1 cup chopped pawpaw/papaya, if desired.

And on Saturday…

Follow the menu above, but don’t forget this is also a day to relax and have a little fun … so give yourself a treat like a Freddo or a Mint Pattie.

All information and recipes come from Teresa Cutter’s latest book, 80/20 Diet: 12 Weeks To A Better Body (Murdoch Books, rrp $29.95) For further information, visit www.teresacutter.com

Top 10 ways to lost fat

Teresa Cutter talks — are you listening?

  1. Think before you eat!

  2. Reduce your intake of refined carbs like alcohol, sugar, white bread, white flour, biscuits, doughnuts, lollies, cakes and chips.

  3. Always, always eat a good breakfast!

  4. Limit your intake of high-fat and processed foods.

  5. Eat vegetables and salads with your lunch and evening meals.

  6. Eat regular amounts of good-quality lean protein, to repair muscle tissue and maintain every cell in your body.

  7. Drink plenty of water every day.

  8. Don’t overeat late at night before going to bed.

  9. Increase your metabolic rate by eating regular, healthy small meals, and by doing regular exercise.

  10. Stay positive and set realistic goals.

Winter exercise tips

Teresa has more great ideas for shifting that extra padding.

Just because it’s cold outside, it’s no excuse to hide under the covers and abandon your exercise routine. Here are some great tips to help you stay motivated and burn fat this winter.

Join your local gym

Winter is the best time of year to get into the gym and burn kilojoules. Your instructor will set up a program suitable for your fitness level and goals. Weight training combined with cardio is one of the best ways to shape and sculpt your body, as well as burn body fat. Many gyms also have cardio options like spin classes or cardio boxing. So, get into it — it’s great fun!

Go swimming

Or at least do some deep-water running in your local indoor pool. Swimming and deep-water running are easy on the joints and great for toning muscles. Another great leg-and-butt toner is to grab a kickboard and kick up and down the pool. Your legs will burn, but the results will be sensational!

Start martial arts

If you want a total body workout, join your local martial arts club. The instructors will show you the moves and correct technique, but be sure to work out at your own pace. Kickboxing is another option. It burns fat like crazy, plus you’ll have the added benefit of feeling empowered in your other day-to-day activities.

Buy or hire a treadmill or stationary bike

If it’s too cold outside, indoor exercise equipment is the best option. Make sure you invest in a good-quality piece of equipment that will last and is durable. It’s better to pay extra for quality.

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Slimmer of the year

Together they lost 267kg … meet the state finalists in Weight Watchers’ 2006 Slimmer of the Year contest..

Stella

Age: 37

Before: 129kg

Now: 69kg

Weight lost: 60kg

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Overweight for much of her adult life, Stella Nicola had tried almost every diet imaginable.

“But I couldn’t find one that I managed to maintain,” says the mother of six from Melbourne.

Everything changed when Stella joined Weight Watchers.

Today, the 37-year-old barely resembles her “before” photos, having lost 60 kilos.

“Being caregivers, we seem to put everyone else first,” Stella says. “Now, I’m up there with all the other ‘firsts’ in my life.

“I had two sick children, and that’s when I put on the last 20 or 30 kilos. I let myself go. I’m the world’s worst emotional eater — I could eat a whole tub of ice-cream — but now I can control it rather than let it control me.”

Not surprisingly, her health has improved since those days.

“My blood pressure is normal, and my doctor said my cholesterol levels are the best he’s ever seen,” she enthuses. “Never say never if you want to lose weight.”

Stella’s diet makeover

Breakfast: bowl of cereal with fruit and a piece of toast.

Morning tea: tub of low-fat yoghurt.

Lunch: roll with “everything you can imagine — turkey or ham, cheese, vegetables”.

Afternoon snack: rice crackers or cut up fresh vegetables.

Dinner: grilled chicken or fish with steamed vegetables. Serve of low-fat ice-cream.

Emma

Age: 20

Before: 97kg

Now: 66kg

Weight lost: 31kg

WA

Emma Thickett can hardly believe she let her weight get so out of control before losing more than 30 kilos on the Weight Watchers program.

“My life was so depressing!” says Emma, a student from Safety Bay, south of Perth. “I felt sick and I was an emotional mess.

“I hadn’t really acknowledged my weight until I saw a photo at my father’s 50th birthday. I was so disgusted!”

Emma’s weight-loss success has turned her life around. And she’s having trouble convincing people she’s the same person!

“I used to be a binge eater,” she says. “Now I feel so healthy. I have been able to conquer my emotional eating by recording how I felt when I wanted to eat.”

Emma’s dramatic results have also inspired her family. “My mother, uncle and aunt are all joining Weight Watchers!”

Exercise has become a daily event for Emma. “I try to do something every day, even if it is for 15 minutes.

“I still don’t like exercise much but I feel better for it!”

Emma’s diet makeover

Breakfast: Nestlé diet yoghurt with a few spoons of Weight Watchers muesli.

Morning tea: Weight Watchers nibbles or a Special K bar.

Lunch: salad and mayo sandwich/roll or a big salad.

Afternoon snack: piece of fruit and a cup of tea.

Dinner: chicken and either vegies or salad. Weight Watchers chocolate mousse.

Natasha

Age: 27

Before: 118kg

Now: 73kg

Weight lost: 45kg

NSW/ACT

All dressed up and ready to go, mother-of-two Natasha Cowan was heading off to a friend’s wedding when she bent over to pick up a bag and split her pants.

“I can laugh about it now, but I was really upset at the time,” she says. “My Mum did a quick stitch-up for me before we left, but then my pants split again in the car. I had to keep my jacket around me the whole time at the wedding, even though it was a 30-degree day. It was horrid.”

Determined to shed her excess kilos, the restaurant supervisor from Bolwarra, NSW, joined Weight Watchers.

There’s no doubt she has succeeded. Having lost an inspiring 45 kilos, she looks and feels better than ever.

“It’s given me so much more confidence. I’m happy to go out and socialise now — I just wanted to stay home before,” she says. “I have so much more energy.

“And,” she laughs, “The lights don’t have to stay off in the bedroom any more!”

Natasha’s diet makeover

Breakfast: bowl of cereal with fresh fruit.

Morning tea: tub of low-fat yoghurt or Weight Watchers Cereal Bar.

Lunch: plate of fresh salad and sliced cold meat, piece of fruit.

Afternoon snack: cup of tea with two low-fat biscuits.

Dinner: piece of grilled steak or chicken, served with steamed or stir-fried vegies. Low-fat custard.

Nicole

Age: 28

Before: 133kg

Now: 65kg

Weight lost: 68kg

SA

Bubbly school teacher Nicole Gully realised she had to do something about her weight during a school camp. She got stuck on a fence and had to be lifted off by another teacher and one of the dads! She joined Weight Watchers as soon as she got home.

“It was really quite mortifying,” says Nicole, who lives in the southern Adelaide suburb of Happy Valley. “But at the same time, it was the point where I said, ‘I can’t continue like this’.”

She teaches her students about health and fitness. Now, after losing a massive 68 kilos, she feels more qualified and confident to do so.

Nicole realised how much her appearance had truly changed when she attended a high school reunion.

“I was really stunned,” she says. “I was talking to these guys, and they were talking back and they didn’t know who I was.

“My best friend had to tell them, ‘That’s Nicole’.”

Nicole’s diet makeover

Breakfast: small bowl of cereal and low-fat milk. Piece of toast, no butter.

Morning tea: low-fat yoghurt and an apple or muesli bar. Coffee with skim milk.

Lunch: flavoured tuna in spring water, rice crackers and fruit.

Afternoon snack: piece of fruit.

Dinner: mushroom lasagne. Point-free salad or vegies. Occasional glass of wine.

Chrissy

Age: 37

Before: 138kg

Now: 77kg

Weight lost: 61kg

QLD

It’s a case of second-time lucky for Chrissy Bull. She joined Weight Watchers again after her first attempt didn’t stick — and she lost more than 60 kilos. So what changed for her this time around?

“I had more confidence, determination and faith in myself,” says Chrissy, who comes from the Chermside in Brisbane.

“I knew my body better, too — what I can and can’t do. I really don’t think I took that in well enough the first time.

“I know I can keep it off this time, because I don’t want to go back to Weight Watchers a third time!”

One of her main motivations was her 11-year-old son Reece.

“He’s a very outdoorsy kid, so he was always wanting to kick the ball or ride his bike with Mum … and Mum was always too tired, couldn’t be bothered or wanted to watch something on TV.

“Now I’m a new person and I’m out doing those things with him. He’s so proud of me.”

Chrissy’s diet makeover

Breakfast: couple of Weet-Bix with some milk.

Morning tea: soup in a cup.

Lunch: tuna salad.

Afternoon snack: Weight Watchers Choc Crisp bar or something similar.

Dinner: chicken or fish and steamed vegies.

Who’ll be judged Slimmer of the Year? Meet the winner in Woman’s Day on sale July 31.

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Red Nose Day

By Annette Campbell

In 1988, more than 500 Australian babies died from Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Thanks largely to the research and education programs funded by Red Nose Day campaigns, that number has dropped by 90 percent, with less than 60 deaths in 2004.

That’s still 60 babies too many though, so the good work of the SIDS and Kids Safe Sleeping Program continues.

This year Red Nose Day is on June 30 and the focus of the campaign is research into other areas of infant mortality such as stillbirth.

“Operation 400 will be the major theme of Red Nose Day 2006 and is aimed at creating a wider awareness of the 400 unexplained stillbirths that happen in Australia each year,” explains Jennie Cameron, Chairman of National SIDS Council of Australia.

“The total number of stillbirths in Australia each year is 1300, a number that has remained constant for the past decade.”

What is SIDS?

SIDS is short for ‘Sudden Infant Death Syndrome’ and used to be called ‘cot death’. It describes the sudden and unexpected death of a baby from no known cause. SIDS is the most common cause of death in babies between one month and one year of age. Most babies who die of SIDS are under six months.

More babies die of SIDS in winter than in summer.

It is still not clear what causes SIDS. Some factors are thought to work together to reduce the risk of SIDS, but they may or may not help prevent any one SIDS death.

Remember, 1999 out of 2000 babies will not die of SIDS.

Sleeping your baby safely

Since the SIDS and Kids Safe Sleeping program’s inception in the early 1990s, it’s saved the lives of over 4500 Australian babies.

There are four main messages in the campaign:

  1. Put baby on the back to sleep, from birth.
  1. Sleep baby with face uncovered.
  1. Cigarette smoke harms baby before birth and after. Keep baby in a smoke-free environment at all times. Parents who smoke during pregnancy, and after the baby is born, increase the risk of SIDS for their baby.

In fact, if mother smokes the risk of SIDS doubles, and if father smokes too the risk doubles again, even if they smoke outside, away from their baby.

  1. Use a safe cot, safe cot mattress, safe bedding and a safe sleeping place day and night.

For more information about Red Nose Day, including details of all the merchandise available (‘Super Hero Bears’, pens, bracelets and of course, red noses!) visit www.rednoseday.com.au or phone SIDS and Kids on 1300 308 307. Resources for the Safe Sleeping campaign, including brochures, doorhangers, posters and fact sheets, are also available

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My family and friends think I’m crazy

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By Judy Davie

For further information about food and nutrition, visit Judy Davie’s website at www.thefoodcoach.com.au

**I am 21 years old, weigh 55kg and am 155cm in height. As long as I can remember I have believed myself to be obese. My family and friends think I’m crazy and that I say these things to get attention it’s not the case. I am uncomfortable in all my clothes and, when in public, I believe everyone is staring at my huge stomach. I avoid mirrors and shopping centres filled with skinny, young people. My family are all smaller than me. I eat healthily and run every second day. Please give me some tips to keep the weight off my stomach.

Kirra**

Your body mass index is 23, which for your age is healthy, so try and recognise that your friends and family are telling you the truth. Hollywood stars and the fashion world are largely responsible for poor body image and sadly, there are many girls your age who feel the same as you. It’s important to understand that the women we see in magazines do not have typical, run-of-the mill bodies. They may look great but in truth they are the freaks!

Looking at yourself in the mirror and in photographs is the first step to freeing yourself from the nightmare you’re in. Once you do, you’ll probably see that you’re much smaller than your imaginings.

If you are carrying a little extra abdominal fat around the stomach there are a couple of simple things to do.

Running is a great cardio workout and worth doing but it won’t help shift stubborn fat. The best way to move abdominal fat is by strengthening the area. Exercising the abdominals with ab crunches on a Fit ball is a great way to strengthen the core muscles and flatten the stomach.

Ab crunches on a fit ball

Sit on the ball and walk your feet out, rolling back onto the ball until you are lying with your spine along the ball. Take both hands behind your ears, keeping your elbows out to the side. Pull your navel in towards your spine and curl your torso upwards. Breathe out on the lift and in on the way down.

Do it 10 times a day and increase the amount as you get stronger. The slower you do it the more effective it will be.

Diet

Sometimes excess carbohydrates can cause a build up of abdominal fat. If you eat white carbohydrates, eg white bread, cakes, pasta etc, cut them out altogether and substitute them with grain bread, wholemeal pasta and other wholegrain carbs. These can be eaten during the day but try to cut them out at night.

The tape measure does not lie, so before you do anything, measure yourself around the middle. You’ll have no choice but to believe it when you start to see results.

And finally …

Remember you are healthy. Look at yourself in the mirror and notice all the things you do like. Tell yourself what these things are each and every day throughout the day.

Positive self talk is just as effective as negative self talk and you’ll enjoy yourself far more when you start to like yourself better.

**I am only 17 years of age and determined to be thin and as healthy as I possibly can. What I believe makes my case extremely unusual is the fact that all I want to do is lose five to seven kilograms but am regularly unsuccessful. I’ve tried everything — I have the healthiest diet and participate in over two hours of exercise and/or physical activity in a single day. I juggle school, work, life as an athlete and my healthy lifestyle, only to be constantly disappointed.

Regularly criticised for my goal and often told I am “too healthy” (if that is even possible), I am often reminded that if I continue “doing what I’m doing”, things could develop in to an unhealthy eating disorder. Though I know I am not overweight, I am very far from my ideal weight and need to achieve this goal simply for personal acceptance and self-esteem and for my own stubbornness. Once I set a goal I will not let it rest until I complete it.

Understanding that what I do daily is probably unnatural to most 17-year-olds, I am confessing not knowing what to do next. How do I go about achieving my goal? Will I end up hurting myself? I guess you could say that my confession to you is actually a plea for help.

Amy**

There’s a lovely saying that goes along the lines of “be careful what you wish for in case it comes true”. I don’t know what you weigh currently but from what you say it sounds like you are a very healthy young woman.

As an athlete you will no doubt have well-developed muscles. Muscles weigh more than the same volume of fat, so a well-defined, toned body will be heavier in most cases than a thin, slight body. I’d suggest you may be too concerned with the numbers.

My suggestion would be to first identify your priorities in life. If you want to be an athlete and a scholar you may need to revisit your goal of losing five to seven kilograms. The numbers may not be high, but five to seven kilograms on an already healthy frame is a significant amount of weight that your body may not have stored in fat to lose.

If you have no body fat, the weight will come from your muscle and other lean body tissue, impacting on your physical and mental strength. Overdoing it can cause chronic fatigue syndrome — a disease that is debilitating for many, many years.

To find out if you are already at your ideal weight you should seek professional help to look at the ratio between your bone weight, fat tissue and lean tissue mass.

For a body composition analysis visit www.bodycomposition.com.au or, if you are in Sydney, call Dr Jarrod Meerkin on 02 9386 0201.

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