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KAK’s marriage secrets — ‘Why we’re still going strong’

Kerri-Anne Kennerley

After first setting eyes on her hubby 25 years ago, Kerri-Anne Kennerley’s relationship is stronger than ever.

Almost 25 years have passed since high-flying businessman, world-class power-boat racer and separated dad of two John Kennerley first eyed his bride-to-be Kerri-Anne in New York. Now, unlike many showbusiness marriages, the couple reveal they are more in love than ever — all thanks to a commitment to love, life and, most of all, laughter. Woman’s Day caught up with them…

What was your first impression of each other?

John: I saw her singing in a studio booth. I think I fancied her then to be honest.

KAK: I was in a relationship so for the first two years we started out as really good mates, which I think is one of the reasons we have stayed together. But I did think John was wonderful. In fact, I used to set him up with my friends on dates.

So, when did the relationship turn to romance?

K: Our situations changed and we started spending more and more time together. Our first real date was at the Tutankhamen exhibition at the Metropolitan [Museum Of Art].

J: We never separated from then. That was it.

When and how did John propose?

K: The proposal was the 29th of February, in a leap year. John had been away and told me to book a table at our favourite restaurant.

J: I had the ring under the table and was hoping she would propose to me because of the leap year.

K: He kept hinting and hinting at me but I was “Pigs will fly…”

J: I was nervous and made the diamond box click open and shut — you know the sound it makes.

K: I do! I thought, “I know that sound… I would know that clack any day!”

J: So I had to propose to her.

John, how did you cope with Kerri-Anne’s rise to fame in Australia?

J: Possibly a lot of people who marry someone famous when they are not experience a lot of pressure but it just happened gradually for Kerri-Anne, and I think because we spend so much time together, people have just really accepted me as part of the scene. I do remember saying early on though, “No wife of mine needs to work.” But…

K: Wrong wife! [Laughs].

Would you describe Kerri-Anne as a workaholic?

J: Oh yes, no doubt about it. She just keeps on going and going — you can’t stop her. I don’t think she ever thought she would have such an incredible longevity on TV.

K: For 25 years I have worked under the premise that this year will be my last — if I am lucky. I am under no misapprehensions about the ups and downs of this business and life in general.

Kerri-Anne, you found yourself as a stepmother living with John’s then teenage son Simon. How was that adjustment?

K: It is funny now as Simon and I are great friends. But it was a hard time raising a teenage boy, and Simon was naughty. When we catch up for a drink with him and his mates these days they regale us with the stories of what they used to get up to: the parties they had, pinching our cars when we were out, putting holes in the doors and walls… They say “we were really horrible” and I say “I know!”

You never had children of your own however…

K: All I can say about it is fate’s hand is not always what you wish for, but you accept things. Sometimes options are open to you in life and sometimes they close, but you have to move on and make the best of your situation.

Have you ever contemplated splitting up?

K: No.

J: No. We have had the odd row but we don’t fight a lot. We know if we have gone too far.

Do you ever spend time apart?

K: We very rarely go anywhere without each other. I think lately I have gone 36 hours in Dubai and 32 hours in Japan. I would say John is with me 90 per cent of the time.

Is this because there is no-one either of you would rather spend time with?

J: I think she wouldn’t mind spending some time with what’s-his-name? George Clooney!

K: Mmm… George Clooney.

John, Kerri-Anne is known for many things but cooking is not one of them. When did you discover this?

J: The first time she ever cooked for me! It was in New York and Kerri had dogs at the time, German Shepherds. She did this meatball thing. Well, the meal was so foul and so late — we got there around 7.30 and she started cooking at 10. She started chopping onions and then gave up and was throwing whole onions in. My joke is I gave some to the dog and it had to lick its own bum to get rid of the taste! [Both laugh].

What would you say are your biggest differences?

J: I am organised.

K: I am a bit different. If we don’t have any tickets or schedules when we travel it doesn’t really bother me but he gets very twitchy.

J: Oh, and then there’s the music. She turns it up too loud.

K: I like dancing! [Laughs].

What about singing? Does she really break into song at any opportunity?

K: I don’t sing all the time!

J: I have always liked her singing. It has always been part of her. But she is a bit of a perfectionist. She won’t get up and sing unless she has practiced and rehearsed.

K: Well, I will get up and sing karaoke.

J: Yes, really loud and late at night!

Kerri-Anne is always quick to have a laugh at her own expense. John, do you ever feel protective of her?

J: I walked in last night and someone was having a go at her on TV and I was upset by it.

K: Yeah, someone said, “You’ve got that Kerri-Anne open-eyed look.” What about all the other people on TV who have had work? There’s no looking to him for sympathy though. He thought [comedian Gina Riley’s send-up] Kerri-Anne Kennel was hysterical.

J: It was very good. [John starts singing “Kerri-Anne, I love you…”.]

K: I don’t see that of me. I remember saying to John, “But she is nothing like me” and John looked at me and said, “Are you kidding? Of course it’s like you!”

So how do you both plan to spend your twilight years?

[Both look perplexed.] K: We have never actually discussed this. What are we doing darling?

J: I will be pushing her in a Ferrari wheelchair. [Laughs]. We don’t actually think that far. There is still lots to do. We can amuse ourselves very easily.

K: I have a LOT left to do. Slowing down would be awful. I would rather be dead.

Would you say you love each other as much or more now than when you first met?

K: I love him more now than ever. No doubt about it.

J: Absolutely. There is a lot more comfort and ease about it now because you know her so well.

What’s the secret of 25 happy years together?

K: The will has to be there. If you don’t have the will to want it to work, it won’t. Also, during time you have to recognise the changes in people and adapt. I am a very different person as a human being now than when I met John at 25.

J: It’s about being in love and having good love. Enjoying the fun of life. Want to spend time together. Wanting to be together.

K: And a cleaner!

J: Yes, and a cleaner. Oh, and it helps that we don’t have a lawn! [Laughs].

BY WENDY SQUIRES

PICTURE: ANDREW JACOB.

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I got ‘the snip’ behind my wife’s back!

Rebecca and I had a great relationship. We rarely argued and when we did we were quick to bury the hatchet. We went out for about a year before we finally got married, and married life with Bec was great. We were two professional people in the prime of our lives and I was in seventh heaven.

We had never really discussed children. Rebecca didn’t seem that eager to have kids and I wasn’t keen on the idea so I chose not to rock the boat by avoiding the topic entirely. Two years into our marriage Rebecca began mentioning that watching all of her friends having babies made her feel a little ‘left behind’. I comforted her as best I could without encouraging her (a fact I feel guilty about nowadays.)

Rebecca never struck me as the clucky type but it wasn’t long before she was cooing over other peoples’ kids and leafing longingly through the baby section of department store catalogues. My heart started to palpitate at the thought of having a child. I had always thought that we would remain D.I.N.K.s (Double Income No Kids) forever. I didn’t know what to do.

Finally the fateful day came when Rebecca confronted me about the issue. “Jason, I want to have a baby”, she stated, all glassy-eyed. I mumbled something and promptly made for the door. I took a long drive, all the while trying to regulate my breathing. This was a nightmare. I had the perfect marriage — so I thought — why was Bec trying to sabotage it?

In the weeks to come Rebecca confronted me again — several times — and for the first time we really fought. Bec tried to reason with me, arguing all the positives of having a ‘real family’. I argued all the benefits of being a couple without children but I could see we were both speaking different languages. Ultimately I came to the conclusion that if I wanted to keep Bec I would have to have a child. It couldn’t be so bad after all. I was making good money so that wasn’t an issue. Maybe it’d be kind of cool to guide a child into the world, watching them grow day by day. It took time but I talked myself into it — or I convinced myself that I had at least.

It was dinner at a mate’s house that restarted my panic attacks. I saw a couple who appeared tired and — truth be told — a little disenfranchised from one another. I feared that the same would happen to Rebecca and me. I began to worry once again. My friend Simon joked that he was getting a vasectomy and a little light switched on in my head. That was it! I could do this quietly and Bec would be none the wiser. We’d try to conceive and fail and that would be it. I might even go for a fertility test sometime later and come back with the result that I was sterile. She couldn’t blame me. It wouldn’t be my fault if she didn’t know I’d had the operation. I plotted and planned, ironing out every little detail. Before long I was ready and I did it. I had to convince the surgeon that I had talked it through with my wife and after a brief operation, it was done.

A month or so down the track I surprised Bec with a romantic dinner at her favourite restaurant and whispered that we should try to get pregnant. Her face lit up and my stomach sank. I felt not relief, but disgust at what I had done. But all the same, I kept up the facade.

After a while, naturally Bec became upset when she wasn’t pregnant. She became moody and she would just fly off the handle for no reason. One day she screamed at me for leaving a towel on the bathroom floor and I blurted out the truth. I told her that she had put so much pressure on me that I felt there was no other choice. In short — I blamed her.

Rebecca and I aren’t together anymore, in fact we don’t speak. We’ve been apart for two years and if I could reverse the whole thing, I would in a heartbeat. What I did was selfish and wrong. I saw her last week at the supermarket with a new man and a beautiful baby. When I saw her — saw how beautiful and complete she looked — my heart felt like it would burst. I felt so full of regret. I’ll never forgive myself for what I have done.

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The 2007 Australian Women’s Health Diary

The 2007 Australian Women's Health Diary

It’s time to get organised, take charge of your life — and kick-start the new year with The Australian Women’s Health Diary 2007.

Busy mums such as the Seven Network’s Sydney news anchor, Chris Bath, know how important it is to stay on top of their daily lives by being organised. And what better way to keep ahead of your plans and commitments than by buying The Australian Women’s Health Diary 2007.

The Australian Women’s Health Diary is a real lifesaver,” says Chris, who has thrown her support behind this fundraising diary by writing the foreword and fronting its community service advertisements. “It has plenty of space to help plan your day and lots of health tips to help look after you!

The Australian Women’s Health Diary just doesn’t save me every day — it helps save lives across the globe, with all proceeds going towards vital breast cancer research.”

The diary, produced by The Australian Women’s Weekly on behalf of the Breast Cancer Institute of Australia (BCIA) and sponsored by the Commonwealth Bank and Avon, has raised more than $3 million for research since it was first launched in 1999.

Get your copy

Some quick facts about breast cancer and The Australian Women’s Health Diary

  • Currently in Australia one in 10 women will get breast cancer at some stage of their life.

  • The main risk factors for breast cancer are being female, increasing age and a family history of the disease.

  • More women are surviving a diagnosis of breast cancer due to advances in early diagnosis and treatments produced through clinical trials research.

  • You can learn more about breast cancer screening and treatmenthere.

  • The diary is a wonderful resource for women of all ages on a number of important women’s health issues and includes self-help information sections accompanied by colour pictures, diagrams, statistics and checklists.

  • Health sections include First Aid, Healthy Body, Love that Skin, Healthy Lifestyle, Heart Smart, Healthy Finance, Healthy Mind, Pregnancy and Baby, Healthy Family, Breast Health, Healthy Woman and Healthy Home.

Buy a copy for yourself and the other women in your life, and help save lives.

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Cute felines

My baby boy Willow.

Pepe playing with my sunnies. Barbara.

My very pretty cat, Andrew. Louise.

My Beautiful Scottish Fold Giacomo thinks he is a person, this is a very normal evening pose for him in front of the heater! The beer and remote are all that is missing! Annette.

Here is a picture of my beautiful boy, Harry! Patricia.

Neko the cat loves joining my daughter Ella, 4, in the magical world of fairies. Kelly.

Mishka is only a few weeks old in this picture. She is so snuggly. Tisa.

This is our cat, Nemo. He is three years old. His mo is real and was not painted on or digitaly edited. He was born with Nazi leader Aldof Hitler’s features. He was bought from the RSPCA in 2003. We were suprised that no one had taken him eariler. We are just lucky I guess. Ashlee.

This is Sulltan Snuggles, he’s coming up on his second birthday. Rebecca and Michael.

Jasper

This is a photo of my cute little Siamese kitten Jasper who loves his Rugby League and wearing his little Toohey’s jersey.

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I bought my boyfriend on eBay

Matt and Charmaine

Charmaine Scott, 22, was surfing for shoes on the net, but bagged a man instead.

Charmaine’s story

“Flicking on my computer, I searched for my favourites. I was having a bit of a quiet day, so I thought I’d do some shopping on the web. I was desperate for a new pair of trainers. A few minutes later I’d found what I wanted on eBay and put in a bid. I was just about to switch off the computer when I spotted the words, ‘Boyfriend for sale.’ It really made me giggle so, just for a laugh, I decided to click on the link.

“When a picture of ‘Cheeky Matt’ flashed up I wasn’t disappointed. He had short, spiky brown hair and a real twinkle in his eye. And he lived in the same town as me. I couldn’t believe it. The ad said he was a great catch and would make any girl happy. It made me laugh so much my stomach hurt. Matt was a local radio DJ and was auctioning himself on eBay to raise money for the tsunami appeal. The price was only £11 and bidding was almost over, so I thought, ‘What the hell,’ and bid an extra 50p. There were only a few minutes left to go so I thought I’d have a quick rummage through my wardrobe while I was waiting to see if I’d won. Pulling on a new top, I heard my inbox beep. I rushed over to open the new e-mail — and the message said I’d won a bloke!

“I got straight on the phone to my best mate Emma. ‘You’ve got to be joking Char,’ she laughed. ‘When you go and meet him we’re coming with you too.’

“When I told Mum she thought I’d gone mad. I put her mind at rest when I told her that not only was it for charity, but five of my mates had already told me that they were coming to meet him as well.

“The next day, Matt e-mailed me to congratulate me on my win and to ask if I wanted to meet him that night. He said he was DJing in a local bar and asked if I’d like to join him for a drink. At first I wasn’t nervous about meeting him. I thought at least me and my mates could have a good night out. But as soon as I got there I started to panic. I sat there for ages watching him dancing and chatting to people. He was gorgeous — even better in person than in his photo. Eventually I plucked up the courage to go and talk to him. Just before I reached the DJ box, he gave me a massive smile and said, ‘You must be Charmaine.’ I was scared he’d ignore me but he couldn’t have made me feel more special.

“We got on brilliantly that night. In fact, we got on so well we arranged to have dinner on Saturday. He came to pick me up and had a cup of tea with Mum while I got ready. We talked and talked all night and straightaway we both realised we were right for each other.

“It’s absolutely amazing! We’re completely in love and have been together for five months. I’m so glad I decided to bid for him that night, especially now I realise what a bargain I got. The ideal man for just £11.50!”

Matt’s story

“My mate James put me up for auction as a laugh — he thought it was time I found a girlfriend. Everyone was watching the bidding to see who would actually win, then at the last minute Charmaine put in the winner.

“I invited her to the bar I DJ at and the rest is history. I was standing in the DJ box and as soon as I saw her I thought, ‘I hope you’re Charmaine.’ She looked great.

“Char is the kindest, most loving, caring girl I’ve ever met. She loves me for me and not because I’m on the radio. I think it’s fate that she was on the internet that day. I hope that we’ll be together for the rest of our lives.”

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My dad ran off with my mum’s brother

It was 12 months ago when my parents decided to separate. After 35 years of marriage they decided it was no longer working. This was a total surprise for everyone, especially me.

Two months later, we sold the family home and went our separate ways. I went and stayed with mum while my other brother and sister moved in together elsewhere. In the months to come, adjusting to our new life was very tough, however my dad seemed to be coping quite well.

One weekend while I was at his place for dinner I was looking through the wardrobe when I came across something I wish I had never seen. It was evidence that my dad was living with another man, and not just as housemates!

When I confronted my dad about what I had seen, he broke down crying saying he couldn’t hide it any more. That the reason he left my mum was because he had fallen for someone else many years before their marriage ended. Dropping the biggest bombshell of all, it was my mum’s brother. I was sick at the thought and, knowing my mum knew nothing of it, I wish I didn’t know now.

When I got home that night mum was already in bed. I lay next to her silently crying, knowing that if she knew what I knew, she would be devastated.

Unfortunately my mum’s brother was killed in a car accident a few months ago. My mum will never fully understand why my dad was so upset at the funeral.

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Australian silky terrier

By Lucy Hine

The Australian silky terrier is a versatile little dog which is adored by people all over the world. Extremely loyal, affectionate and gentle, the silky terrier is a perfect family dog that learns quickly and is willing to please, making it an easy dog to train and a great companion.

The silky terrier is a moderately small dog that is very alert, quick and active, making it an excellent watchdog.

This little breed can adapt to almost any environment and is happy in a small backyard as long as it gets walked for at least 30 minutes every day. Normally seen as a toy breed in the show ring, the silky is mainly a working terrier and still has the instinct to hunt and chase mice and rats, so make sure you curb this instinct with lots of ball and Frisbee games.

Australian silky terriers are known for their fine, glossy, long coat which parts in the middle down their back and comes in a rich blue and tan colour. The silky’s coat is relatively easy to clean, making it a great house dog. They are low maintenance and don’t need much clipping or trimming, however grooming your silky once a week will keep its coat in good condition and prevent tangles.

Most believe silkies were developed along the same lines as the Australian terrier, which came from the broken coated terrier. Early records show that a broken coated terrier female of a blue colour was taken from Tasmania to England in the 1820s and bred with a Dandie Dinmont terrier.

Some puppies from these litters were bred to achieve different characteristics, like a softer coat. Later some of these dogs were brought back to Australia where their owners continued to develop and experiment in breeding them. The new breed of silky coated dogs began to spread around Australia, first from Sydney and then further south and even as far away as Broome.

By 1908 the breed had become well-known and came in two sizes ? over six pounds and under 12 pounds. A club was made for the breed in the early 1900s, called the Victorian Silky and Yorkshire Terrier Club, but a year or two later another club was formed in Sydney, which called the dogs the Sydney silky terriers. Eventually the dogs, regardless of which state they lived in, became known as Australian silky terriers.

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Cheeky pups

My retriever puppy Anna after she just dug up her dad’s garden. Jodie Read.

This is little Buckley Rankin. Renee.

This a picture of my beautiful Bichon Frise, C.J. Short for Calamity Jane.

A melting moment. Yen Hieu.

‘Dis is me mum!’ Young Loki with his mum Scout. He is much bigger now. He is all red under that jacket.

This is my Princess, she is a Bichon Frise she is 1 year old. She would be the most loyal and gentalist dog I have known.

These are my two gorgeous dogs Sasha and Boz after hearing they were going to get chicken.

This is my pet, Shakira. Flavia Charquero.

Sleeping in.

Tess

A picture of Tess after she won the tug off war. Jacinta.

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Steve Irwin 1962-2006

There will never be another bloke like Steve Irwin.

He was out-of-the-box. A unique Australian who turned croc hunting and conservation into fame and fortune as a TV star — and “Crikey!” into a national catchcry.

In America, khaki-clad Steve was a super-hero. In Australia, he was a loveable larrikin who was able to gain the ear of everyone from the Prime Minister down.

Sometimes outspoken, sometimes controversial, Steve, 44, was dedicated to saving animals and making the best life possible for his wife, Terri, and children, Bindi, 8, and Bob, 2.

Until his accidental death on September 4, Steve Irwin seemed indestructible.

In one of his last interviews, the Queensland croc-hunter shared with The Weekly his extraordinary appetite for life and we republish the interview in full below.

In remembering this remarkable and proud Australian, we invite readers to recount their own stories and thoughts about Steve and to pass on their best wishes to his family via email at [email protected].

Ordinary families fight over the bathroom, or whose turn it is to take out the garbage. The Irwins squabble over snakes. Today, at Australia Zoo, Steve, wife Terri, and children Bindi and Bob, perched together on a pile of boulders, are fussing over who’ll hold which python for The Weekly’s photo shoot.

“Can I please have the yellow diamond?” wheedles Bindi, caressing its scales.

“As long as I get the black-headed one — hey, Bob-Bob, look at the snake on Mamma’s head!” yells Steve, dangling his reptile in the face of Terri who, unfazed at having her make-up smudged by its flicking tongue, laughs, “Bags the yellow-head!” Toddler Bob seems happy to take whatever’s going.

As the photographer snaps away, a tiger yawns, a crocodile blinks sleepily and Bindi’s elephant, Bimbo, plods by. They’ve seen it all before.

It’s just another day at Australia Zoo, the soon-to-be 890ha wildlife and fun preserve at Beerwah, 70km north of Brisbane, where, as Steve says, “any animal that won’t kill and eat ya” can be patted by the public. A sighting of the Irwins is as prized by customers as that of any croc, big cat, or even Harriet the Galapagos tortoise, the world’s oldest living creature, who died of a heart attack in June aged 176.

Bindi is buzzing. “I love being photographed, it’s cool,” she says, beaming. Just as well, because the eight-year-old is soon to star in her own 26-episode TV show for the Discovery Channel’s Animal Planet network, which broadcasts irrepressible, khaki-clad Steve’s Crocodile Hunter documentaries to more than 200 million subscribers in more than 100 countries.

In her programs, to air later this year, Bindi sings, dances, interviews celebrities and schmoozes with wildlife. “When people clap and cheer me, it makes me happy because I feel I’ve done something well,” she says. “When I grow up, I want to be doing exactly what I do now: sing, act and work with animals.”

Though he’s in agony from a shoulder strained by digging 500 postholes at the zoo, Steve, 44, hugs her proudly. “This little girl can put on a show and she’s fearless.” As she proved the time she was nipped on the lip by a carpet snake and neither cried nor held a grudge.

Bindi’s new series will feature a kitchen segment with Steve who, Terri reveals, does all the cooking at home (“We’d starve if he didn’t!”). They’ll rustle up Crikey Bananas on Sticks, Dreamy Creamy Apple Pie and Fair Dinkum Flapjacks. “Bindi is the person I really want to work with,” says Steve. “We have the best time.”

The series follows Bindi’s health and fitness DVD for children. “Too many kids spend all day eating fatty junk food in front of TV and video games,” she chides.

And if Bindi and Steve, whose wide-eyed wonder at the animal kingdom and fearless wrangling of crocs, sharks, lions, spiders and snakes in exotic locales has turned millions into wildlife lovers, can’t entice children to get fit, no one can. “Crikey!” says Steve. “I haven’t seen an animal I haven’t wanted to kiss!”

Yet earlier this morning, Steve faced what he insists was the most frightening incident of his life. Bob, whom they’re trying to ween off nappies, “dropped a huge poo in his duds — I panicked! Terri was out and I was absolutely bloody useless. Poo was everywhere, on his legs, on the carpet. Bindi’s screaming, ‘Dad! Bob-Bob stinks!’ Just then [manager, film director and best mate] Johnny Stainton phones and says, ‘The people from The Weekly are arriving, we have to get the snakes and elephants ready’. I yelled, ‘John, I can’t do a bloody thing. It’s a poo alert!’ Thank God, Terri arrived…”

“Amazing,” says Terri, laughing, “how mothers never need to mention events like this, only dads.”

“And now,” Steve explodes in mock outrage, blue eyes wide, “she’s pushing for another one. We have a boy and a girl — why would we want a third?” Then he smiles, leaving no doubt that another Irwin in the menagerie would be welcome indeed. “Mate, parenthood is like marriage. You work at it. At first, marriage is easy, it’s all about sex. Then you gotta learn to compromise.”

Animals can teach parents plenty. “Crocs like to tear chunks out of each other…so do kids,” he says. “When Bindi belts Bob, I say, ‘Bin, I realise you have to pick on your little brother, but take off your shoes before you kick him in the head.’ That way, she gets to whack him and he doesn’t get hurt. That’s a compromise. Everybody’s happy!”

And so they seem. “I treat my children and Terri as I expect them to treat me and as I treat animals,” says Steve, who still bristles at the worldwide furore in 2004 when a photograph showed him holding baby Bob near a crocodile. “The photo deceived,” he insists. “I was further away than it appeared. I’d never put my kids at risk. We’re a close family, big-time.”

Bindi, who is home-schooled, is so well-behaved, says Terri “that we expected our second child to be Satan. But Bob’s an angel, too. They’re wake-up-happy kids.”

“We’ve connected a big green cord from the ground to Bindi’s butt to keep her earthed!” Steve says with a guffaw. “She has celebrity parents, lives half the year in America and the other half in a zoo with 1000 animals. She travels to amazing places, is part of a multi-million-dollar conservation foundation. It’d be easy for her to develop an ‘I-don’t-need-to-work, I’ll-do-whatever-the-hell-I-want’ mindset, thinking that life’s only about fun. That just ain’t true. Bindi has to earn her own money. She has to earn respect.”

Bindi is truly her dad’s little beauty. At age one, she instinctively knew Steve was hurting badly when his mother, Lyn, died, and sat holding his hand for hours. At five, she sponsored a Filipino child through World Vision. And, says Steve, “In the zoo hospital, a baby koala is dying of kidney failure. On weekends, Bin spends six hours a day stroking it, feeding it, loving it as it passes from life to death. She throws herself into causes and never gives up. Bindi drives those vets mad…She’ll take in a dead bug and she’s like, ‘You have to bring it back to life!'”

“I tell them, ‘You gotta save it…Can’t you just try to save it?'” says Bindi, who also collects mice, ants, cockroaches and worms, and never steps on ant trails. “In the zoo, I saw a line of ants and I’m, like, to the customers, ‘Please do not walk on the ant trail!’ Like Dad, I’m not scared of anything: spiders — they’re cute. Rats — adorable. Snakes — I love ’em!”

Terri was similarly smitten when, in 1992, the American wildlife conservationist — specialty, bears and cougars — visited Bob and Lyn Irwin’s 10ha Queensland Reptile and Fauna Park at Beerwah and saw their boofy blond son staging a crocodile demonstration. “He was a cross between Tarzan and Indiana Jones,” says Terri, who’d scared off suitors back home in Oregon because she loved plucking maggots from injured raccoons. Steve recalls, “We were on each other’s wavelength right away. Mate, I was no stud. I was obsessed by wildlife and hopeless with women, but Terri was as passionate about animals as me and the spark was unbelievable.”

The couple honeymooned the same year in the mangrove swamps of Far North Queensland, where Steve, who’d trapped crocs that had strayed into populated areas with his father since age nine, filmed himself wrestling reptiles with an old video camera. TV director John Stainton saw the footage and shot some more. It was sold to the Discovery Channel in 1996 and the Crocodile Hunter’s entertainment juggernaut was spawned.

The Irwins have since poured their wealth into Australia Zoo, formerly Steve’s parents’ reptile park, their conservation projects and turning large tracts of land in Australia, the US, Vanuatu and Fiji into wildlife refuges.

“They reckon for every person there’s a perfect partner and Terri and I have found ours,” says Steve. Not that they’re Snugglepot and Cuddlepie.

She’s a procrastinator, a planner; he’s Mr Bull-At-A-Gate. “Steve’s a morning person and I’m a night owl. He yells, ‘Terri, come quick! Look at the sunrise!’ I go, ‘I’ve seen a sunrise. It’s a sunset in reverse’.”

She also suspects Steve of sabotaging her action figure in the shop at Australia Zoo. “Mine has a design fault — its shorts are detachable. Boys are always dakking me to see what’s underneath. You should see them scatter when I catch ’em at it.”

The Irwins, who live in a bungalow in the zoo grounds, are flat out. Besides Bindi’s show, Steve and John Stainton, who directs all Steve’s documentaries and helmed his hit movie Crocodile Hunter: Collision Course, are shooting an IMAX 3-D version of Crocodile Hunter.

“My ambition is to get people inside a crocodile’s jaws,” Steve yelps.

Soon, Steve will set sail with French conservationist Philippe Cousteau, grandson of the legendary oceanographer Jacques Cousteau, on his 23-metre research vessel Croc One to film the Pacific Ocean’s deadliest denizens. “There’ll be crocs, sharks and the world’s most venomous creature, the box jellyfish,” Steve says. “In 1986, I saw a guy wade into the water on Hinchinbrook Island [in Queensland]. He screamed, the most terrible sound. He’d been stung by a box jellyfish. He was dead in half an hour.”

The Steve Irwin Conservation Foundation will continue its research into crocodile behaviour. “They’re hard to study because if you go underwater with them they’ll kill you,” says Steve. “So we’re catching them and releasing them fitted with telemetry gear to learn how they live. Many croc-related fatalities could have been avoided if we’d had more knowledge.”

This year, Steve went to LA to capture Reggie, a home-raised alligator, which had been dumped in a lake when he outgrew his owner’s backyard. So far, no luck. “The water is freezing and polluted, so Reggie may have died, or maybe he’s dug a burrow and is waiting for his chance to surface. Wouldn’t that be great!”

In 2002, while shooting the movie Collision Course, he risked his life to drag his great friend, zoo managing director Wes Mannion, from the jaws of a crocodile. Wes received 150 stitches. “I’ve been an endangered species myself,” says Steve with a hoot. “I have been gored, clawed, jumped, bitten, savaged, jumped on, whacked, peed on, even groped.”

Usually, though, animals recognise a kindred spirit and leave him alone. “After a Japanese tourist was eaten by lions in Africa,” says Terri, “Steve walked among those lions, and they didn’t try to attack, just stood there mesmerised.”

Steve handles rattlers and when asked how he knows they won’t bite him replies, “I have a feeling I’ll be okay”.

“The Masai were amazed when I handled a red cobra that spits blinding venom in its prey’s eye,” says Steve. “I got squirted and had to wash it out with water — that turned out to be cow’s urine. I dunno what was worse, the poison or the piss!”

He first realised he had a “sixth sense” for wildlife when, aged four, he stepped on a two-metre brown snake that should have killed him but slunk away. “Dad couldn’t figure out why the snake didn’t strike and why I wasn’t scared. Then I’d be in the bush with him and just know there was a king brown in the vicinity…

Yet the tough guy gets teary when he speaks of his late mother, Lyn, and father Bob. To see Steve perform, you’d think sadness had never touched his life. Yet when his beloved mother died in a car crash in 2000, he was grief-stricken for two years. “I have never felt such pain,” he says quietly. “The day I lost her, I lost something huge. The veterinary clinic at the zoo is named after her. Dad has always been my action hero.”

Wildlife holds no terrors for the Irwins, but people do. “Bad guys with guns and bombs have made the world a worse place,” Steve says, shaking his head. “And people who advocate ‘sustainable use of wildlife’, when really they want to make a buck by turning animals into wallets, perfume and shark-fin soup.”

The family founded Wildlife Warriors, a non-profit organisation opposing crocodile farming and other “sustainable animal-management programs”.

“These Hitlers use the camouflage of science to make money out of animals,” says Steve. “So whenever they murder our animals and call it sustainable use, I’ll fight it. Since when has killing a wild animal, eating it or wearing it, ever saved a species?

“There are people who butt out their cigarettes in gorilla-paw ashtrays, with wastepaper baskets that were once elephant feet, who have ivory ornaments…who wear cheetah fur. Don’t buy these things! Then there’ll be no market and the animals won’t be killed.

“We have domesticated livestock raised for consumption and perfectly good fake leather and fur, so why must we kill wild animals to satisfy the macabre taste of some rich person?”

In Asia, Steve stormed out of a restaurant selling shark-fin soup. “‘Sorry, mate,’ I told the proprietor, ‘we’re leaving.’ He said, ‘But Mr Irwin, there’re other things to eat.’ I said, ‘You’re not hearin’ me. I cannot eat here. I will not eat here.’ They are raping the oceans and stuffing up the food chain by eliminating the No.1 predator.”

Nor will the Irwins holiday in Canada because, says Terri, “that’s where they whack the seals in the head”.

“Groups such as Wildlife Warriors, who educate the public about the beauty of even the scariest species and why cruelty to them is wrong, can make a difference,” says Steve. “In a short time, crocs have become cool, snakes are no longer seen as evil monsters. Loved ones of shark victims won’t allow the shark to be destroyed.”

The Irwins’ uncompromising stand and Steve’s gee-whiz enthusiasm has made them enemies, but a bloke who’s stared down a man-eating lion is not about to be spooked by criticism. “I’m here for the long haul,” says Steve, who believes his wired derring-do on TV makes him an accessible spokesman for conservation.

Steve has just signed a new three-year contract with the Australian government to be the face of the Australian Quarantine and Inspection Service, which prevents the importation of banned wildlife.

“We’re an island continent,” he explains with trademark passion. “We don’t have foot and mouth disease, we don’t have screw-worm, we don’t have rabies. Let’s keep it that way.”

Says Terri, “My husband has a unique ability to jump through the TV screen and into your lounge room. He grabs you and drags you into the wild so you share his wonder and excitement. People are going to faint when they see him in 3-D!”

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I dobbed my neighbours in to family services

I was so pleased when Melissa moved into the house next door to me a couple of years ago. Melissa was a single mum about my age and had two little boys aged three and five years. Her kids often came over the fence and played with my two children. Since Melissa and I were both at-home mums, we soon became really close friends as well. My husband was a shift worker doing really long hours and I was pretty lonely, so it was great to have some adult company for a change.

About a year after she moved in next door, Melissa introduced me to David, a guy she’d met at a singles night at our local pub. Melissa was really keen on him and not long after they met, David moved in to live with Melissa and her boys. At first I thought David was really nice, but it didn’t take long before I realised that he was an alcoholic and lazy as well. He didn’t have a job and never tried to look for work. The only things he would do for himself was to go to Centrelink to collect his unemployment benefits, and he made regular trips to the bottle shop to stock up on booze.

I saw how things changed at Melissa’s place, and after a month or two, eventually summoned up courage to talk to her about David. I tried to point out to Melissa that David just wasn’t good for her or her boys as she seemed to be completely unaware of the bad effect he was having on her family. It did no good though. Melissa only got angry with me and wouldn’t discuss her new relationship any further. I didn’t want to sour our friendship, so I let it go at that. Still, it just didn’t seem right to me that Melissa should have to support her lazy man on her single parents’ pension, but that was how it was because David always blew his money on more and more drink.

After a few months things started to get worse. I soon found out from Melissa’s boys that David was a violent drunk and it became a regular occurrence that I would hear him screaming at the kids. He would often start ranting and raving at them for no reason at all. Seconds after I’d hear David yelling, I’d then hear one or both of the boys screaming and crying as David starting laying into them with his belt. David was a fairly big man and it turned my stomach to see the way he treated those poor little boys. They were covered in bruises all the time and had quickly turned from being happy and confident kids into terrified children.

I tried to talk to Melissa about David again as I couldn’t just stand by and let him treat her kids like that. She became really angry when I told her it was her job as a mother to protect her boys from bullies like David. She started yelling at me that I’d always had it in for David. Melissa told me she was sick and tired of being lonely and that even if David wasn’t perfect, he made her happy and he was going to stay whether I liked it or not. She said he’d been telling her for ages that I was only a troublemaker and as she walked out the door, she told me that I was no friend of hers and she wasn’t going to talk to me again. I was devastated by our fight, but didn’t know how to patch things up with Melissa. Whatever happened to our friendship, I couldn’t just ignore those little boys’ sufferings.

After one particularly bad weekend of listening to David drunkenly rant and rave at Melissa’s kids, I finally took the plunge and phoned Family and Children’s Services to tell them what had been happening next door. I asked that my phone call be kept anonymous as I was hoping that the counsellors at Family and Children’s Services would make Melissa see that David was no good and had to go. I thought they would make her see sense and that once David left, we could be friends again.

A few days after my phone call, I answered frantic knocking at my front door to find Melissa standing there in tears. She eventually managed to choke out to me that the counsellors from Family and Children’s Services had just been to see her. David had been drunk as usual and not only did he use his belt on the boys in front of the counsellors, but he tried to assault the counsellors as well. They had quickly left and returned not long after with two police officers to take Melissa’s boys into protective custody. Melissa was distraught by what had happened and clung to me asking for help to get her boys back. I felt so two-faced as I assured Melissa that I would be there for her, knowing that it was my phone call that had caused her children to be taken away in the first place.

Melissa was absolutely heartbroken that her children were gone and kicked David out of her home the next day. When Melissa went to see the counsellors at Family and Children’s Services to find out how she could get her children home again, I went with her and supported her every step of the way. Melissa has now managed to get weekend access to her kids and is working on getting her boys home for good. She always tells me what a wonderful friend I’ve been to her through this ordeal, never judging her and never being too busy to listen. I’m still glad that I made that phone call, but I also feel so awful knowing it was me that caused Melissa’s boys to be taken away. I never realised things would go so far. I just wanted David to leave. Melissa often wonders which of her neighbours dobbed her in to welfare and I know I can never let her know that it was me who made that call. We’re as close as sisters, but she’d never speak to me again.

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