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Keeping fit with a toddler in tow

By Jo McKinnon

When you have a toddler, your world tends to move at their dawdling pace. Here’s how to keep active when things slow down.

It may sound strange, but life can slow down when you have a toddler. Where once you could strap your bub in a pram and stride out for an invigorating walk or an outdoors fitness session, now you have a headstrong little human who demands they’re the one pushing the stroller.

Their voyages of discovery — picking up rocks, flowers, and pointing at dog poo — are a delight, but in the time it takes your littlie to toddle to the shops, you could have walked there and back five times. And if you have been using walking as a way to stay fit, things can get frustrating.

Some toddlers are happy to swap a stroller for a push-along trike that you steer from behind with a handle. These aren’t as all-terrain as a stroller, but they’re fun and keep things going in a forward motion.

Here are some other tricks for keeping fit with a toddler in tow.

  1. Kick!

  2. Kicking a ball around with your child can be surprisingly active — especially when you’re the one retrieving the ball from the far corners of a park. Linda Morrison, a mum of two and a fitness instructor with Melbourne’s Plus One Mums, suggests you kick out at the beach. “The sand means there’s extra resistance for mum or dad when they’re running or walking, and it wears out junior!” she adds.

  3. Get yourself some wheels

  4. Cycling is a great aerobic exercise for you, and toddlers love the thrill of zooming along behind you in a child seat. Child seats are best used for kids aged over 12 months and weighing less than 22kg. (When your littlie gets bigger, they can have their own bike.) If you’re nervous about traffic, stick to a bike track or plot out a route on roads with less traffic. You’ll both need properly fitting helmets and sunscreen, and remember to take drinks. For more on child bike safety, see the Victorian government’s Better Health Channel.

  5. Run rings around them

  6. You can still go for a run when you have kids, but you may have to change how you do it. Fitness instructor Linda used to put her littlies on a rug, with toys and snacks, in the middle of an oval. Then she’d lap them, and zigzag in and out to the perimeter of the oval and back again. She’d add lunges, squats, push-ups and abdominal bracing and plank holds to complete a workout. “It works really well a couple of times a week, and with a whole mother’s group it’s great fun too,” she says.

  7. Aquaerobics with toddler

  8. Playing with your toddler at the pool doesn’t have to restrict you to sitting in the baby pool. If you go with other parents, you can take turns at babysitting and swimming laps. Or you can carry your young one in the big pool and just walk. This gives you a workout as you’re carrying weight and walking against the resistance of the water. You could also get your toddler to grab a float board and pull them along.

  9. Do an exercise DVD together

  10. If you have a yoga, aerobics or other exercise DVD, pop it on and both of you can get a workout. Your littlie will find it hilarious watching you, and will absorb some good fitness lessons, too. (And he or she will probably do the yoga moves perfectly, just to make you jealous.)

  11. Sneak it in while they sleep

  12. If your toddler is still having a day sleep, instead of rushing around doing the housework, sneak in some me-time and exercise a few times a week. You could follow a DVD or your own fitness sequence. (Some trainers, like Plus One Mums, tailor sequences especially for busy mothers.) You could also hire an exercise bike, treadmill or stair machine and raise a sweat while your little one is snoring.Related video:What’s Good For You: Diet versus exercise – which one’s better?

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I drank his priceless wine collection

When I first met Ethan, everything appeared a bed of roses. He was sweet and attentive, everything a new boyfriend should be. He was also a lot wealthier than any of the other guys I’d been out with. I was only 19, so I guess it wasn’t surprising that I mistook his generous gifts of expensive perfumes, handbags and clothes as true love.

When he asked me to move in with him after only three months, it felt exhilarating. I had the rest of our lives planned out, with elegant parties in beautiful houses and the best things money could buy. And he let me indulge in my fantasies all the way through the planning of our wedding just a few months after that. When we drove away from the reception in immaculate vintage cars, me in my designer dress, I believe we were leaving the most expensive wedding my home town had ever seen!

But everything changed the moment we were married. Even on our honeymoon, when I wanted to go and buy souvenirs for our friends at home, he wouldn’t pay for them. I can understand that this might be reasonable if I had my own money to spend, but Ethan had asked me to stop working months before. He wanted a wife who could drop everything at a moment’s notice to fly up to Queensland for a conference or spend a week planning lavish parties. I had imagined a lifestyle of fun and luxury, but I soon found this wasn’t going to be the case.

It wasn’t long before Ethan wasn’t providing me with a cent. If we had an event to go to or a work-related trip, he would pay for everything, but when my own sister got married, he wouldn’t even let me buy the bridesmaid’s dress. I had to borrow money from my parents. It was so humiliating. I lied and told everyone that Ethan was having trouble at work and needed to tighten the belt, but I knew they didn’t believe me. I rarely went out with my friends any more as I couldn’t even afford lunch half the time. Ethan was keeping me a virtual prisoner.

The final straw came at the end of our first year of marriage. Ethan gave me a large amount of money to buy him a bottle of Grange for his wine collection — something he took great pride in and spent a lot of money on. Several days later, I got the news that my grandmother was gravely ill in another state. For two days, I had to beg for the money to go and see her. Arriving in Queensland in a flood of tears, I knew I had to end things. But ending them wasn’t enough; I also wanted to ruin his precious possessions.

During my week away from him, I hatched my plan. I’d heard of jealous women cutting up their husband’s clothes or smashing expensive cars, but this wasn’t enough for me. I wanted to take something he wouldn’t be able to get back so easily. And I soon saw how I could do it. Ethan had some of the rarest bottles of red wine in the country in his collection, not to mention the most expensive. Some of it was worth tens of thousands of dollars, maybe more. It would be a shame if they were consumed without proper appreciation or even tipped down the sink!

I got my chance a few days after my return. Ethan had to go overseas on a business trip and didn’t want me to come, as I’d just come back from a “holiday”! Ignoring his new level of meanness, I watched with relief as he left. The moment he was out the door, I rang all my friends to organise the biggest drinking fest we were ever going to see!

That night, 12 women drank copious amounts of wine that’s only meant to be served on the most special occasions. But I thought this occasion was special enough; I was leaving my mean husband. What we couldn’t drink, I smashed on the expensive tiles of the kitchen floor, then I walked out, never to re-enter.

When Ethan arrived home, he assumed we must have been burgled. His fury was so great that I chickened out and let him believe it. The divorce was nasty enough as it was. But I sure didn’t marry the sharpest knife in the block, because Ethan never did figure out that I destroyed his entire collection of wine!

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What is your body telling you?

Judy Davie

By Judy Davie

Is your body missing out on important nutrients? There are ways to spot the warning signs.

If your answers are “sometimes”, “often” or “most of the time” to the majority of questions in each section, you should consider increasing your intake of foods rich in the deficient vitamin.

If you answer “most of the time” to many of the questions, you should seek nutritional advice from a health professional.

Remember, eating nutrient-rich foods instead of nutrient supplements is a much safer, tastier and cheaper way to tackle health issues, particularly when many nutrients are reliant on others to work to their optimum potential.

  • Do you get a burning feeling in your tongue or lips?

  • Do you get palpitations, racing heartbeat or irregular heartbeat?

  • Do you get numbness or tingling sensations in your hands or feet?

  • Do you tend to get a dull ache in the small of the back?

  • Do you suffer from burning sensations in the feet?

  • Do you find that your co-ordination has diminished?

  • Do you get cracks or soreness in the corner of your mouth?

  • Do you drink more than two glasses of alcohol per day on average?

  • Is your tongue sore or sensitive to hot drinks?

  • Do you find that your ability to concentrate is impaired?

  • Do your finger joints or toes feel stiff or sore on awakening?

Foods high in vitamin B

Oats, barley, wheat bran, avocado, salmon, Brazil nuts…

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  • Do you suffer from frequent coughs or colds?

  • Do you get sore red gums or gums that bleed easily on brushing your teeth?

  • Do you find that you bruise easily?

  • Do you get muscle tenderness or weakness in your legs?

Foods high in vitamin C

Oranges, strawberries, kiwi fruit, broccoli, red capsicum…

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  • Do you get soreness, burning or gritty feelings in your eyes?

  • Are you sensitive to bright lights?

  • Do you get generalised muscle aches and pains?

Foods high in vitamin D

Milk, cheese, fish, liver, eggs…

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  • Do you suffer from restless legs when trying to fall asleep?

  • Do you suffer from dry or flaky skin?

  • Do you get irritation or itching inside your ears?

  • Does the skin on your face or upper chest feel dry or lumpy?

Foods high in vitamin E

Vegetable oils, nuts, sunflower seeds, wheatgerm…

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  • Do you suffer from flatulence?

  • Do you suffer from abdominal bloating, especially after eating?

  • Do you suffer from constipation?

Foods high in vitamin K

Deep green vegetables like spinach and kale…

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  • Do you have trouble getting to sleep or suffer from restless sleep?

  • Do you experience a low backache, especially on waking in the morning?

  • Do you suffer from muscle twitching or cramping?

  • Do you get pain or soreness in muscles with use?

Foods high in magnesium

Buckwheat flour, oat bran, barley, almonds, spinach…

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  • Do you tend to get dull muscle aches during the day?

  • Do you suffer from muscle twitching or cramping in legs or feet at night?

  • Are your nails soft and papery?

  • Do you restrict your intake of dairy foods?

Foods high in calcium

Milk, soy milk, yoghurt, cheese…

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  • Does your hair tend to fall out or break easily?

  • Is your vision at dusk or nighttime poorer now than before?

  • Is the skin on the back of your arms rough, thickened or scaly?

  • Do you find that your food tends to be tasteless?

Foods high in zinc

Oysters, red meat, poultry, beans, nuts…

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  • Do you get dizzy or lightheaded on standing up?

  • Do you feel tired on waking in the mornings?

  • Do you frequently feel excessively tired or exhausted?

  • Do you feel like your head is in a fog and your memory is not what it should be?

Foods high in iron

Beef, certain cereals, green leafy vegetables, liver, prunes…

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  • Do your nails easily split or peel back?

  • Have you been on a strict weight loss diet in the last two years?

  • Do you find that you tire easily?

  • Do you feel drowsy or sleepy after meals?

Foods high in protein

Eggs, meat, legumes, dairy products…

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  • Do you have a tendency towards eczema or other skin rashes?

  • Do you tend to have cold fingers or toes, especially at night?

  • Are your nails brittle or breaking easily?

Foods high in EFAs

Flaxseed oil, avocados, oily fish…

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  • Has your memory deteriorated?

  • Do you eat less than two servings of leafy green vegetables daily?

Foods high in folate

Asparagus, lentils, spinach, brussel sprouts, broccoli…

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Weight loss for teenagers

Judy Davie

By Judy Davie

**”I’m a 15 (turning 16) year old teenage girl with a height of 169cm and I currently weigh 85kg but I’ve always had a fairly solid build. I want to lose the excess weight fast, how can I do this without using weight loss tablets, shakes or drinks?”

— Jenny**

Oh dear, this is such a hard subject to deal with, particularly at your age when the future is only as far away as next week.

Quick weight loss is easy to achieve by eating very little and moving around a lot more than you do now, but don’t think for a second that I’m going to suggest you do that. The problem with quick weight loss is that it almost always results in quick weight gain, often gaining more weight than the amount originally lost.

If you want to be slim for the rest of your teenage years and into your twenties and thirties you have to change your eating habits to include foods you’ll want to eat forever.

If you start tomorrow by changing what you eat and increase the level of physical activity you can be one kilogram lighter at the end of the week. Carry on into week two and you may be able to knock off another one kilogram. A great way to understand the significance of this loss is to find something that weighs two kilos — it’s pretty heavy. You’re certain to notice the difference in your energy levels even after week two.

Another reason to take it slow and steady is that you said you have always had a fairly solid build. Given that, you no doubt think of yourself as large. The psychological impact of that is significant. Until you see yourself as slim — something that can only happen with time, you will always steer yourself back to being big. It’s complex, but trust me, it happens.

Another reason why I’m sounding like your mother is that at your age your body is still developing and growing and while that may not be apparent on the outside, on the inside body organs and systems are still developing and maturing. You must ensure you give them everything they need so you can enjoy a healthy and happy life well into old age.

In saying that you have a perfect opportunity to lose weight and nourish your body into healthy adulthood.

Start by working out how much time you can spend exercising each week and try where possible to do something fast and physical every day or at least six days a week.

Think about how many white carbohydrates, such as white bread, biscuits, chips, cakes, muffins and pastries you eat and try to cut them out and replace them with wholegrain bread, grainy crackers, brown pasta and brown rice. The quickest way to lose weight is to try and cut out all cakes, biscuits, muffins and pastries, but if you love them you may need to include the occasional one as a treat.

Fat has more energy per gram than carbohydrate and protein so where possible switch to low fat products — low fat or skimmed milk, reduced fat cheese and yoghurt are better and try to cut out cream. If your Mum cooks meals at home ask her to substitute these lower fat dairy options for you.

Chocolate, butter, many desserts, fast foods (or rather fat foods) are all demons when it comes to weight.

Protein is the key to growth and a key to feeling full on an energy restricted diet. Make sure you include protein in every meal such as eggs for breakfast or low fat yoghurt, chicken or canned fish for lunch and fish or red meat with dinner.

Of all foods, vegetables are the least energy dense. With the exception of potatoes (especially when they’re fried in fat) you can enjoy heaps of veggies with every meal — for weight loss and great health. Fruit is a great sweet snack so do try to replace cakes and biscuits with fruit instead.

An easy meal plan can be found on the Food Coach site but I’ll give you a rough idea of what would be an effective day’s intake for weight loss:

Breakfast

2 Weetbix with ½ cup skimmed milk

1 boiled egg with 1 slice wholegrain toast and a smear of butter

Morning Tea

Apple

Lunch

Grain bread roll with 3 slices avocado, tomato, sprouts, lettuce, beetroot and tuna

Mandarin or orange

Afternoon tea 1 tbsp hummus

1 carrot (raw)

2 celery sticks

10 almonds

Dinner

½ cup brown pasta

120 g cooked chicken breast

½ cup pasta sauce

20 green beans

½ cup boiled pumpkin

120 grams low fat natural yoghurt

½ cup stewed apple (no added sugar)

Pay attention to the portion control as overeating is often the reason why people gain weight.

And finally on the subject of drinks — one of the biggest factors causing excess weight, especially in teenagers, is soft drinks. Artificially sweetened drinks are known to increase the appetite — the consequence is you eat more. Sugar sweetened drinks contain the equivalent of around 10 teaspoons of sugar — and that’s a lot when you equate it into kilojoules.

Adding a can of coke to the daily intake above adds close to 10 percent extra kilojoules so you can soon see the benefits of cutting it out altogether.

Good luck!

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Kirstie in hiding – ‘My fat shame’

Kirstie Alley has become a virtual recluse in her Beverly Hills home, filled with shame and embarrassment about gaining back all the weight she lost. Hitting the scales at 130 kilos again, the distraught star has fallen off the weight loss wagon in spectacular fashion, following a string of humiliating romantic disasters.

Insiders says she is now trapped in a hellish cycle of binge eating and self-pity that has even isolated her from her closest friends.

Kirstie has been conspicuously absent from the public eye since April, preferring to stay at home, where friends believe she prepares lavish meals for herself in a bid to stave off the pain of failure and rejection.

Terrified of being seen, it is thought she has cut most of her good friends out of her life, refusing invitations to go out and only communicating over the phone.

For the full story see this week’s Woman’s Day (on-sale August 6)

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Prince Harry’s secret proposal

Prince Harry has proposed to his Zimbabwe-born girlfriend Chelsy Davy — but is being forced to keep the happy news a secret by a disapproving palace.

Senior royals have scotched 22-year-old Harry’s plans to walk down the aisle before his older brother William, whose relationship with former girlfriend Kate Middleton remains under question, amid rumours of a reconciliation and a string of secret dates.

“Both Harry and Chelsy realise that no engagement announcement is possible just yet,” says a royal source.

“His family believe that at 22, Harry is too young to marry and can’t do so without his grandmother the Queen’s permission, until he is 25.”

“Chelsy is her own person and that’s what Harry loves about her,” says a royal source. “Despite the pressures from his family, Harry is determined to marry her — even if he has to wait three years to make the announcement.”

For the full story see this week’s Woman’s Day (on-sale August 6)

Your say: Should the princes have to ask the Queen’s permission to marry?

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Princess Mary’s break-in terror

The Aussie princess’s fears of a plot to kidnap her young son are reignited after a naked intruder invades the palace.

Princess Mary is living in fear for her family’s safety following a shocking security breach at one of Denmark’s royal palaces.

The worried mum-of-two is begging officials for an urgent security review since it was revealed that a Danish prostitute mysteriously gained access to the Christiansborg palace in Copenhagen, where she posed for a series of explicit photographs.

The pictures — which show the 43-year-old woman sprawled naked on the throne and romping in the banquet hall and meeting rooms — have been laughed off by palace steward Jen Greve as “an amusement”, but other aides say Mary doesn’t see the funny side.

Instead it has reignited fears — which first arose when her son’s safety was threatened in April — that 22-month-old Prince Christian is a potential kidnapping target…

For the full story see this week’s Woman’s Day (on-sale August 6)

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Jake and Reese: We’re in love

Five months after they started dating, Reese Witherspoon and Jake Gyllenhaal have at last revealed their relationship to the world, in a move that friends say signals the pair’s seriousness about building a life together.

The star couple were twice spotted leaving Jake’s Hollywood Hills home together last week — the first times they’ve allowed themselves to been seen together since they began dating in March.

Wearing matching his and hers sunglasses, Reese and Jake made no attempts to avoid photographers, laughing and smiling as they sped off towards Reese’s Brentwood home.

The couple’s relaxed demeanour was a far cry from the undercover antics of the past few months. The couple had gone to great lengths to avoid being seen together, leaving restaurants in separate cars and even conducting some of their earlier dates in the privacy of their agent’s offices.

“It’s been real cloak and dagger stuff,” says a friend. “Reese wanted to make sure she was serious about Jake before being seen with him. She’s not one to rush into anything — especially relationships.”

For the full story see this week’s Woman’s Day (on-sale August 6)

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