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The Wiggles see red

By Josephine Agostino

The Wiggles are living out their rock ‘n’ roll dreams — albeit without the leather. With celebrity fans around the world and millions more young groupies hanging on their every word, Sam Moran, Anthony Field, Murray Cook and Jeff Fatt have become Australia’s highest-paid entertainers, with their own entourage and annual revenue of more than $50 million.

Despite their success, the guys — who range in age from 29 (Sam) to 54 (Jeff) — are as hardworking as ever and have become the faces of this year’s Red Nose Day.

Leo Sayer makes a guest appearance on your new DVD, You Make Me Feel Like Dancing and sings the title song. How did that come about?

Sam: We met Leo by doing Carols in the Domain and we talked to him about doing a dancing album and he was kind enough to lend us the song and we asked him to be a part of it as well.

Murray: He fits in perfectly, he’s a really positive sort of guy.

Have you had offers from other artists wanting to appear on your albums?

Jeff: A couple of years ago, Jimmy Barnes said, “I should say, ‘Wake Up Jeff'”. And we took him up on the offer…

What’s your favourite song to dance to?

Anthony: The Mooch by Duke Ellington.

Sam: When I was growing up it was Nutbush City Limits.

Murray: When we were having parties in the ’80s it was Madonna — Like a Prayer and Vogue.

Jeff: And Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go.

What is your most memorable performance?

Murray: For me it’s when we did our first own theatre show in New York. It was pretty amazing because Robert De Niro and Jerry Seinfeld were in the audience. We perform in New York at least once a year now.

You have quite the celebrity fan base, don’t you?

Jeff: Sarah Jessica Parker, Matthew Broderick, Courteney Cox, David Arquette, Mick Fleetwood, Chris Rock, Shaquille O’Neal, we’ve met them all at the shows.

Sam: Nicholas Cage and his wife brought their little boy to a show in Melbourne. Apparently he called up our people saying he couldn’t get tickets because they were sold out!

Why did you choose the name, The Wiggles?

Murray: We had a song called Get Ready to Wiggle on the first album. It was just the way the kids danced.

Jeff: And we thought it would be an appropriate name.

Murray: We recorded that first album not thinking there would be another one but we thought if it we release it, we’d better have a name.

Who picked the skivvy colours?

Murray: Jeff and I pretty much had our own colours already.

Jeff: I used to wear quite a bit of purple.

Murray: And I used to wear a lot of red — but not so much now. [laughs] With Greg and Anthony there was a bit of a fight over who was going to be blue.

Jeff: The story is they had a race to the bargain bin at David Jones — and Anthony made it first. We just wore what we had at home.

How many of same colour skivvy do you own now?

Murray: Countless …

Anthony: Many, many and many more after that!

Jeff: Maybe about 20.

Murray: Yeah, about 25 when we’re on the road. We have wardrobe people for that now, which is nice.

Have you ever had a young fan try rip your shirt when they’re excited?

Murray: Kids are actually a really well-behaved audience. If you keep them entertained, they’re much better behaved than a pub audience. The worst they’ll do is lose interest and walk away. [laughs]

What sort of fan mail do you get?

Sam: I got a letter from an 8-year-old boy yesterday and he told me about his sister and then he said that I looked like his dog and sent me a photo to prove it. [laughs] And he included $5 so that I could write back to him. So I’ll be sending one back to him with the $5.

On this album you make lots of costume changes from the skivvies into a Beatles-esque band to folk dancers and farmers. Any favourites?

Jeff: I dressed up as a turkey [laughs] — that was a reflection of my upbringing. I grew up in [NSW country town] Casino — the town which just celebrated Beef Week!

Murray: [laughs] In a barn! Jeff, Sam and I are all country boys.

And you do the waltz on the DVD. Would you consider yourselves good enough for Dancing With the Stars?

Murray: I think Anthony would.

Sam: I’d love to do it but we’re never here long enough. We’re always overseas touring.

Murray: I’m sticking to Spicks and Specks. I’m usually on the winning team when I’m on, so I must have something to do with it. [laughs]

How do you prepare for a show?

Jeff: I sleep! [others laugh] I’m saving all my energy for the stage.

Sam: And he sleeps on stage, anywhere really.

Murray: The rest of us just stretch and warm up. We’re usually in a sports changing room or similar. I’m finding as I get older the jumping parts are getting harder on the knees than it used it. We have a massage therapist on tour with us when we go to the states because it’s a really energetic show.

Murray and Anthony, do you feel pressure to be the perfect fathers when you’re out in public with your children?

Anthony: No, and if my children have a tantrum in public, so be it, they are just like any children, they have a beautiful well balanced mum and a crazy dad!

Murray: You are conscious of it. If you lose your temper or something, you kind of check yourself because someone there might think that because I’m a Wiggle I know all about kids. But sometimes you are just a parent. I have a background in early childhood education so I know a lot about kids but sometimes you’re just tired. Fortunately my children are older now, so they don’t have temper tantrums.

Jeff: It’s Murray that has them. [laughs]

Do your kids know what you are to so many children around the world?

Murray: My daughter is pretty perceptive and she doesn’t make a big deal out of it. She doesn’t name-drop, which I’m proud of. They go to public school and we’ve been conscious to have as normal a life as possible. My son, on the other hand, is 11 and he just ignores The Wiggles [laughs], whereas my daughter and her friends have been through it and loved The Wiggles when they were little it so now they think it’s a bit cool and nostalgic.

Who do you love to go see in concert?

Sam: We’ve had a chance to see the Rolling Stones, U2, Alicia Keys, Beyoncé, John Mayer, Elton John.

Murray: I’m a huge Beatles fan and I saw Paul McCartney play in Los Angeles.

What would you be doing if you weren’t a Wiggle?

Anthony: I would be a stay at home dad or a deep-sea fisherman.

Jeff: Building houses probably. I’ve done renovating and I’m very hands-on. I studied industrial design too.

Murray: If The Wiggles hadn’t happened I would have been a teacher for the rest of my life.

Sam: I’ve worked in IT for a while and came back to entertainment so I think I’d still be in entertainment.

Murray: Yeah he went and got a real job for a while and didn’t like it! [laughs]

How long do you plan to keep being a Wiggle for?

Murray: I guess there must be an end point…

Jeff: But we don’t know where that is.

Murray: If Mick Jagger can do it in his 60s and he’s moving more than he ever has, there’s still a long road ahead for us. We’ve always said as long as we’re enjoying it and the audience is enjoying it then we’ll keep going. When someone leaves like Greg you think, do we want to keep doing it? Will it still be The Wiggles with someone else there and Jeff and Anthony and I just thought we were loving it and it’s been invigorating having Sam on board.

Sam, do children notice that you’re a new Wiggle?

Sam: We’ve been pretty up front with them and they’ve been really accepting. They’re open to change as their whole lives are something new every day.

Murray: We don’t like him! [laughs] We give him all the bad jobs…

Is it true you once travelled in separate planes?

Murray: Yeah, it was all about risk management then it all got too hard.

And now you travel in two different buses on tour?

Murray: Sam and I are on the same bus with Captain Feathersword and some of the dancers.

Sam: It’s laid-back, we just try get a good mix of boys and girls and different personalities because you’re with each other like 24/7.

Murray: Our bus isn’t so much rock ‘n’ roll but it can get pretty noisy. Whereas the other one is a bit quieter.

You’re Australia’s top-earning entertainers with reported earnings of $50 million. Do you have indulgent lifestyles?

Murray: Sometimes we play in some pretty big arenas in America but there’s the occasional one where the backstage is a toilet and that’s it. That’s where we say, “Welcome to the glamorous world of showbusiness.”

Sam: The success just helps us make better quality videos.

Murray: Yes, all the money does go back into production and we employ a lot of people. We do quite well but I don’t think any of are extravagant. I collect a few guitars but that’s all.

Jeff: I collect nice objects of design, chairs and things like that.

Sam: I’m a gadgets man. But we live out of a suitcase so much that you can’t take anything with you so you don’t need a lot of stuff.

Have you ever done a private jet?

Murray: Last year we opened Wiggles World at some American theme parks and they flew us between them in a private jet.

Jeff: I equate it to riding in a stretch-limo. They are not that comfortable!

Sam: We had so much luggage that they had to drive them after us because you couldn’t take any on.

Murray: So one of our own would be great, we’d just need a big one! [laughs]

Do you appear in non-English speaking countries too?

Sam: We are dubbed in Italy and Japan.

Murray: We’ve performed in China which was amazing. We just kept the speaking to a minimum and they got up and danced with us.

What do you have coming up for the second half of 2008?

Sam: We have a UK tour, then two American tours and some filming. Then we have an arena tour around Australia at the end of the year.

What would you like to be remembered for?

Anthony: Being part of a wonderful circus for children that is The Wiggles, and my gorgeous children. Actually, change the order there!

**The Wiggles’ DVD You Make Me Feel Like Dancing is out now.

Red Nose Day is on Friday, June 27. To learn more, visit** www.rednoseday.com.au

For more of this interview, see this week’s issue of Woman’s Day (on sale June 23, 2008).

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In the mag – June 30, 2008

On sale Monday June 23, 2008

Kate Middleton’s showdown with the palace

She hasn’t got a ring on her finger yet but already Kate Middleton has fallen out with the Queen.

Jake and Jen: The rumours that won’t go away

Australia’s glamour couple, Jennifer Hawkins and Jake Wall, are again forced to defend their unusual relationship.

Farmer gets his wife!

A year and a day after they met, Farmer Wants a Wife reality TV stars Chris Newsome and Kim Tierney tie the knot.

Shelley Craft is smiling again

After a tough year behind the scenes, TV host Shelley Craft is back on track.

The Wiggles see red for Red Nose Day

With celebrity fans around the world, Sam Moran, Anthony Field, Murray Cook and Jeff Fatt have become Australia’s highest-paid entertainers.

Pregnant man exclusive: ‘I can’t wait to hold my baby girl’

Pregnant Thomas Beatie shares his excitement at giving birth to a little girl, and being a father. Don’t miss the exclusive photo gallery.

  • Exclusive: Bluebell Halliwell’s magical 2nd birthday party

All the gorgeous photos from the birthday party of Geri Halliwell’s adorable daughter Bluebell!

  • Kids’ lifestyle special

Want to make fun and yummy birthday cakes and party snacks? We show you how!

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‘JUL-eye’: Eye health awareness month

By Annette Campbell

Most of us probably don’t think too much about all the wonderful work our amazing eyes do — as long as nothing goes wrong! But people’s fear of losing their vision is second only to cancer.

So to help mark The Eye Foundation’s upcoming event, JUL-eye, we talked with an expert about how to take the best care of our peepers.

Dr Georgina Kourt is an ophthalmologist and ocular plastic surgeon from the Sydney Eye Hospital.

“Having regular checks — either with an optometrist or an ophthalmologist — is so important, as sometimes you don’t know something’s wrong until it’s discovered in an examination,” she explains. “So this helps detect disease early and prevent it progressing.

“Blindness occurs predominantly in the two most vulnerable age groups: the very young and the elderly. The main causes of blindness in Australia are macular degeneration (MD), cataracts, glaucoma and diabetic retinopathy.”

  • Have regular eye checks.

  • Stop smoking. This is a significant risk factor for macular degeneration (MD).

  • Include in your diet, fruit, vegetables, nuts and fish. We know that zinc and antioxidants may help with MD.

  • Wear sunglasses. Australia has the highest rates of skin cancer in the world — 5 to 10 per cent of those occur in the area around the eyelids.

  • Over the counter artificial lubricants are useful for dry eyes.

  • Have your prescription reviewed every two years; unless you notice deterioration in your vision. If you do, it could be that your glasses need updating, but it could also be a sign of more serious eye disease.
  • These need to be used with great caution, as it’s like putting a foreign body in your eye. Serious infections can result in the cornea of the eye, so if you start to develop redness in an eye, seek medical assistance immediately.
  • Have regular breaks to ease eye strain.

  • Artificial lubricants can help for dry eyes.

  • Take care when mowing or DIY-ing on the house — 90 per cent of eye injures can prevented by wearing glasses or safety goggles!

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The spring allergy survival guide

By Annette Campbell

It must be springtime: the sun is shining; the birds are singing — and lots of us are sniffling and sneezing thanks to hay fever!

“Spring can be a miserable time of year for those living with either mild, or debilitating hay fever,” says Dr Raymond Mullins, spokesperson for the Australasian Society of Clinical Immunology and Allergy.

“Mild symptoms can just be a sneeze; but debilitating ones make it very hard to function or sleep. You get very run down and medications only help, they don’t cure anything.”

We asked Dr Mullins for his expert advice on surviving springtime allergies.

  • Anti-histamine tablets: These are good for reducing the sneezing and itching; just use them when you want to and can stop anytime when you don’t. You can also use them as a preventive measure — for example, just before you’re going to mow the lawn.

  • Eye drops: Effective for sore, hot and stinging eyes.

  • Nasal sprays: Most of these take a while to work, so they’re better used regularly. They can be anti-histamine, or cortisone sprays. They’re very safe.

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Conquering cravings post-exercise

Judy Davie

**Dear Judy,

“I have been trying to lose weight. I’ve been going on the treadmill every day or second day for 15-30 mins a day. The problem is, the more I exercise the more hungry I get, and I’m always craving sweet followed immediately by savoury. I never seem to be full. Can you tell me why that is please?”

— Ely**

Dear Ely,

Firstly, well done for taking up exercise and doing it with such frequency and discipline. Did you know that running on a treadmill for 30 minutes burns off approximately 1000 kilojoules? And, even without sticking to a weight loss diet, provided you don’t eat more than normal, with this exercise regime you could lose as much as 1kg in a month.

It’s interesting that you say you get cravings straight after you exercise as most research suggests that exercise helps to suppress cravings.

There are a few reasons why this might be:

Are you exercising with reluctance?

If you drag yourself up to the treadmill tell yourself you dislike it, focus on the discomfort, and wish the 30 minutes was over even before you have started, the sweet cravings may be a psychological form of reward after the “torturous experience” is over.

If this sounds familiar you will have to practise positive self-talk. Instead of thinking negatively before you start, focus on how much fitter you are getting, the benefits, your weight loss goal, and the euphoric feeling you have at the end. You may need to look for other types of exercise you enjoy more.

Is your body crying out for nutrients?

Some scientists believe that food cravings are a result of the body crying out for missing nutrients. Now that you are exercising regularly and boosting metabolic activity, your body may be demanding more nutrients. It’s very important, therefore, to eat a balanced diet.

Include five serves of veggies and two serves of fruit each day and combine them with wholegrains such as brown pasta and rice, oats, wholegrain and rye bread, protein from lean meat, eggs, fish, beans and lentils, and some amount of good fat from avocado, olive oil, nuts and seeds. As well, be sure to include some low-fat dairy for calcium. If your body is getting what it needs it may crave less.

Are you craving sugar to replace lost energy?

Fitness guru and former iron man champion Guy Leach believes when we burn energy through exercise, our body naturally wants to replace the lost energy by eating sweet-tasting high-GI carbohydrates that the body can convert quickly into energy. Unfortunately, when weight loss is the goal, you simply have to ignore these cravings. Instead, have a large glass of water or fresh vegetable juice.

Are you thirsty?

Your cravings may simply be due to thirst. It’s more common than you would imagine since few people feel thirsty when they are dehydrated. As well adequate amounts of water (6-8 glasses a day) help transport water soluble vitamins through the body and ensure nutrients from food are transported through the blood cells to various parts of the body.

At this point, others reading this may well be thinking, if exercise is making you eat more, why exercise at all?

Without physical activity, an energy-reduced weight loss diet can reduce the metabolic rate by 15 to 30 per cent. Without getting too technical, this means that, to lose weight, you have to eat much less and even then there’s no guarantee of weight loss. Nature’s way is to store food for energy in the event of famine, so unless you eat regularly with exercise, weight loss is hard to achieve.

When to exercise

The best time to exercise is always when it’s most convenient for you, although research shows we are physically stronger and have more endurance in the afternoon.

Having said that, research also shows that early morning exercisers are more consistent and likely to stick to their regime. It makes sense — especially if you don’t really like exercise. You can just get up and get on with it, without the gnawing reminder that you have to do something you’d rather not later in the day. As well, in the afternoon/evening it is easy to sabotage exercise plans with excuses.

Exercising the morning is also the perfect solution to your food cravings. Once you have exercised and showered, you can sit down to the legitimate meal of breakfast.

Satisfy your sweet craving with fruit, and the savoury one with an egg on wholegrain toast with grilled tomato. I can’t think of a better reward for your hard work.

— Judy

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Jane McGrath’s brave battle ends

Sydney surgeon Dr Charles Teo says Jane McGrath embraced life right to the end, and fitted more into 42 years than most people cram into twice that time.

Ms McGrath, wife of former Australian cricketer Glenn McGrath, died on Sunday after an 11-year battle with cancer.

The British-born former flight attendant had survived breast and bone cancer but succumbed to complications stemming from a brain tumour first diagnosed in 2006.

Ms McGrath’s neurosurgeon Dr Teo paid tribute to his former patient on Monday, saying she was “incredibly positive right to the end and she embraced life right to the end”.

“Sometimes when you meet someone like Jane you realise that she crammed more into 42 years than most people cram in 84 years,” Dr Teo told ABC Radio.

“In some ways it is very sad, but people should be envious of the life she had — she had this fantastic relationship with Glenn, she’s left a great legacy, she embraced life, she had two loving children, she was a great mother.

“If you ever saw her smile in real life it was even more amazing than the smile you saw on TV.

She had an amazing smile and amazing attitude.”

Meanwhile, Australian cricket captain Ricky Ponting has passed on his sympathies to former teammate Glenn McGrath and his family.

Ponting spoke on behalf of the Australian team, currently touring the West Indies, in paying tribute to Ms McGrath’s courage in battling her illness and said she would be fondly remembered.

“Jane was a wonderful person who fought and maintained grace and dignity during her long-term illness,” Ponting said.

“She was an exceptionally friendly and lovely person who displayed great courage and stoicism during her illness.

“She was a tremendous mother to James and Holly and shared a very special and deep relationship with Glenn in the time they had together.

“All of us are thinking about Glenn and their children at this very sad time.

“We all wish to convey that our best wishes go with him and to know our heartfelt sympathies are with the family at this time.

“Jane will be very fondly remembered by all of us.”

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My wife doesn’t know I’m a cross-dresser

My wife Marian and I have been married for almost 10 years now. When we first met, she said she loved my creative side. But she doesn’t know how far my ‘creativity’ goes.

Marian works reasonably long hours and most nights she plays netball at a sports centre only one suburb away. What she doesn’t know is that, at night, I take advantage of my solitude and wear women’s clothes.

The signs were there when I was younger. I was raised solely by my mother and she was working three jobs to pay the bills and I spent a lot of time alone. Sometimes when I was bored of playing or watching TV, I used to go through her enormous wardrobe and look through all of her outfits. It felt to me as though I had access to another world, a world of beauty and glamour.

One afternoon, I came across a red evening gown that I just fell in love with. The garment told a story (in my daydream-prone adolescent mind, at least) of a world of nightclubs and bewitching songstresses living a life of unparalleled colour and vibrancy. I grew tired of just fantasising about it — I wanted to ‘be’ it.

I stood in front of the mirror that hung on the inside of one of the wardrobe doors and put the evening gown on. It felt so good and right, but also a little forbidden — which only served to heighten the excitement of it all. I struck a few poses for myself and, before long, I was strutting around the room singing in a husky, Marlene Dietrich-like voice. I felt alive and free; it was then that my mother came home — early!

I barely had time to get the dress over my head. She wasn’t sure what to think about what she saw. She yelled at me for ruining her favourite dress but in her eyes I thought I saw something else — a look of disappointment and confusion, perhaps. I was so ashamed. The years passed and I didn’t do it again, that was until after I met Marian.

Marian and I had a whirlwind romance and I had never been happier. We were so happy I rarely thought of what had happened in my childhood. Admittedly, I would pass certain women’s fashion stores and catch sight of a mannequin wearing a beautiful frock or a stunning pair of shoes and I would yearn to walk in and try those wonderful garments on. But I had convinced myself that it was just a passing fancy and that I could suppress it. I was very wrong.

It was a couple of years into our marriage and our schedules became very different due to the diversity of our careers and social circles. Marian and I have always been very much in love but not seeing each other took its toll and before long I was reaching out for ways to fill the void.

One day I came home from work to find that Marian had left a skirt draped over the lounge along with a blouse and her bra. She must have been in a hurry to change and get out the door again. I stared at the clothes for a brief moment before giving in to the inevitability of the moment and picking them up.

I put the bra on first. It felt like coming home. I quickly hunted around for something to stuff the cups with and settled on a few pairs of socks which did the trick. I then put on the rest of the outfit — I am fairly slim so it wasn’t much of a struggle to fit into my wife’s clothing — and ran to the mirror in the hallway. I nearly cried when I saw myself; I was so happy — I felt complete.

For years now, I have come to look forward to the nights I have alone, the nights when I can transform from Jeremy into Jasmine. I wear make-up and a wig I had specially made through a costumer online. I even have latex padding to fill out my bust. I have several of my own outfits now and I have to be very careful to hide them so that Marian doesn’t stumble on them. My primary fear is that my wife will find my feminine underwear and think I’m having an affair!

I love my wife and I am 100 per cent heterosexual. I just love the feeling of being Jasmine. One day I hope to gain the courage to tell my wife my secret. It is my sincere hope that the three of us can live happily together.

Picture: Getty Images. Posed by model.

Your say: How would you feel if you discovered your husband was a cross-dresser? Have your say about this true confession below…

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Get good and mad

Photos by Getty Images

Getting angry every so often is, in fact, a very healthy thing to do, while keeping it all pent up inside is not. These seven ideas will help you vent your vexations more constructively.

  1. Take a break. Anger lowers inhibitions and causes you to blurt out things you later regret. In the heat of the moment, do something to clear your head: slowly sip iced water, or lock yourself in the bathroom for five minutes of deep breathing. Clench and relax the muscles in your jaw, forehead and mouth. These actions will stop you — or at least slow you down — when you’re about to say something rash.
  1. Let it out. Anger needs to be acted upon, not necessarily acted out. If you swallow your rage, it will eventually erupt and make you sick, and if you stay trapped in a “you made me angry because of what you did” mindset, you remain at the mercy of someone else. Either way, you become a victim — alone and suffering. Feel and express your anger by thumping a pillow or kicking a cardboard box ’til it’s in shreds.
  1. Get physical. Vigorous exercise is a great way to discharge aggressive feelings, whether you go for a brisk walk, run, take up boxercise or belt a few balls at the golf range. As you run or move, visualise the anger streaming out of your heart and head with each exhalation. If you practise yoga, focus on back-bending poses like the Cobra or Bridge which, open your chest, boost circulation to the heart and facilitate fuller, deeper breathing.
  1. Make a noise. Crash saucepan lids together as long and hard as you like. Sing at the top of your voice, sigh, groan or scream alone in the car. Making any sort of noise releases frustration and helps your body relax by creating endorphins, those “feel-good” hormones in your brain.
  1. Appoint an anger buddy. Find someone trustworthy you can call or e-mail to blow off steam. Make a pact that you can confess and share your most intimate thoughts without feeling judged or having the other person attempt to explain away your feelings.
  1. Try the ‘Heart Lock-in’. This technique was devised by doctors at the US Institute of HeartMath. Close your eyes and visualise your heart beating in your chest. Recall a feeling of love and tenderness you have for someone. Then gently send that feeling to yourself and imagine your heart absorbing it. If your mind wanders, return to the feelings in your heart.
  1. Redirect the anger. If someone has seriously compromised you, then focusing on justice, rather than forgiveness, may be more appropriate. We would not have organisations such as MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving) if a parent hadn’t taken her rage and turned it into a creative instrument for change. Your response to extreme anger could be volunteering or establishing a fundraiser for disadvantaged youth. That way, your anger creates a world that reflects your values.

YOUR SAY: Do you sufffer from bouts of anger? How do you deal with them? Tell us below…

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Create ripples

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Create ripples

Imagine you have tossed a pebble into a pond and you are watching the ripples spread out. The same principle applies to your life — your smallest action can have far-reaching effects.

By seeking opportunities to pay a compliment, show kindness, offer a helping hand or just listen with courtesy at least once every day, you create “ripples” that can go a long way towards making you feel happier and calmer. Why? Because we humans are tribal animals and the need for communication and strong, authentic connections with other humans is hard-wired into us.

In creating ripples, you are also making a subtle but very powerful life choice: to be a positive force in the world, rather than a negative one. Positive relationships and experiences aren’t elusive gifts; they’re the result of habits. Instead of reflexively seeing the worst, focus on the beauty and goodness in people and events. Try one — or all — of these eight easy ideas today.

  1. Give a reason. Tell the people that you love why you love them. Say, “I care about you because you …” or “You matter to me because …”. And say it out loud, don’t expect them to guess.
  1. Praise other people’s abilities. Say to the postman, the taxi driver or the garage mechanic, “You’re doing a great job” — magic words that can make a person’s day. Move on to your co-workers or friends.
  1. Compliment a stranger. Tell someone that you love their haircut, handbag, puppy or shoes. Walking past a mother with a baby in a stroller? Say, “Oh, isn’t she sweet!” and smile.
  1. Reach out and touch. Gently squeeze a colleague’s hand when you thank them for helping you. Never pass up an opportunity to give a congratulatory slap on the shoulder, a hug or an affectionate pat.
  1. Show good manners. There is always time for courtesy. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman — opening doors, giving up your seat on the train or bus, or offering another person the next place in a queue can all make someone else’s day and improve yours.
  1. Say ‘Thank you’. Acknowledge everyone, whether they are young or old, fast or slow, family, friends or complete strangers. The simplest expression of gratitude is a gift to the giver as well as the recipient.
  1. Play the game ‘New or Good’. At the end of each day, ask your flatmate, partner or child to tell you about one new or good experience they’ve had. Then offer your own response. It doesn’t have to be big; maybe the roses were out in the park where you had lunch. Notice all the small, sweet blessings in your life.
  1. Sparkle. For one week, sprinkle “fairy dust” on everything that you do: be enthusiastic at the office; recognise people, remember their names and use them — no one likes to be ignored; smile and speak pleasantly; tell jokes. See the difference in how others respond to you.

YOUR SAY: Are you making a conscious effort to stay more positive? Perhaps you’ve already begun reaping the benefits? Share your thoughts below…

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In the mag – June 23, 2008

On sale Monday June 16, 2008

Katie and Suri locked away

Katie forced to live under 24-7 surveillance in her super-secure new mansion.

Princess Mary’s fun in the sun

A relaxed Mary and her family welcome an Aussie friend — and the northern summer — to Denmark.

Denise Richards speaks out: Charlie is broken and can’t be fixed

The actress opens up about her ex, Charlie Sheen, their kids and her new TV show.

Rolf Harris is heading home

In a candid interview with Woman’s Day, Aussie living legend Rolf Harris talks of love, art, family and why this might be his last working visit to his beloved homeland.

Brian McFadden’s on the ball

The 28-year-old father of two has a burgeoning solo career, a new life in Australia with fiancée Delta Goodrem, and the hosting role on a football reality show.

True life: ‘I’ve been pregnant for 20 years’

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