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I pretended to be a paraplegic

I met John at a party. I was sitting down because I’d pulled my Achilles tendon in a skiing accident, so while everyone else was standing around, drinking, dancing and socialising, I was lonely. John came right over and started chatting. He was lovely. He told me that he worked as an occupational therapist, helping those with physical disabilities readjust.

I was instantly smitten with this kind and caring, handsome brown eyed man.

Although he must have assumed that I just had a broken leg or something, I couldn’t help myself — I told John that I had been paralysed in a car accident three months ago. John marvelled that I was already up and about at parties, but otherwise didn’t question my story.

We spent the whole party talking about what I could do to make my home an easier environment. He gave me his phone number and left, telling me to call him so he could come around and do an evaluation. I didn’t want to keep it up, but I didn’t think he was interested in me otherwise, and I was totally love-struck. I was going to have to keep pretending I was a paraplegic.

The next day, the first thing I did was to borrow a wheelchair. It wasn’t one of the new motorised ones, so I didn’t know how convincing it would be for someone who supposedly had a permanent disability. In the back of my mind, I knew that eventually John would probably mention my situation to one of our mutual friends, I just had to hope that I could bring him around — and have a miracle recovery — before that happened.

The first time he came around, I asked him not to mention that he was helping me. I told him that I’d been so devastated after the accident, I’d refused all help from my friends and family, and I didn’t want them to feel I was accepting help from an almost total stranger. John understood, and said that happened a lot. He gave me the numbers of some counsellors, and I promised to call.

The next few weeks followed a similar pattern. Always professional, John would come around and we would discuss how I was coping. He installed special ramps, seats and railings around the house. I was obsessed with getting close to him by then, because I didn’t even care that he was probably destroying my rental property. When he wasn’t there, I cursed the massive special seat that now took up half the shower!

But as time passed, John didn’t seem to want more — not even friendship. Whenever I tried to redirect the conversation away from my despicable lie to talk about him, he would only indulge me briefly, and then we had to talk about my illness again. I began to get desperate and realised I was going to have to up the ante.

One day, when John came around, he found me sprawled on the carpet, in a flood of made up tears. I told him I’d tried to reach for something, and had fallen out of my chair. I cried bitterly about how sick I was of being in a wheelchair. John picked me up and carried me to my bedroom. I doubt very much that he would have done anything — he was far too professional — but obviously I wasn’t half as honourable.

As John placed me on the bed, I reached up and kissed him. No further encouragement was needed. We spent the next two hours fused in passion. I finally got what I wanted.

As I lay awake later, I tried to figure out my next move. Obviously, I couldn’t pretend to be in a wheelchair for the rest of my life. But as it turned out, it didn’t even matter. When John rose to get dressed he seemed flustered and embarrassed. He told me he shouldn’t have slept with a client, and that he wouldn’t be able to see me anymore. I begged him to reconsider, but it was no use. John gave me the numbers for a few other occupational therapists and left.

I tried calling him over the next few days — I even considered telling him the truth — but it was all to no avail. I never heard from John again. I gave back the wheelchair and pulled out all the home “improvements”.

A few months later, I almost ran into John down the street. Panicked, I ducked behind a post box and considered, for the first time, how stupid my actions had been. From the word go, I’d completely blown my chances with John. Now all I could do was hold on to my dignity, and hope he never found out I’d faked a disability to be with him.

Picture: Getty Images. Posed by models.

Your say: Have you ever faked an illness or dire situation to get closer to someone? Have your say about this true confession below…

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Cat crazy!

Chloe, the poser, loves laying on her back and having her tummy rubbed.

— Linda

Bella loves to just hang out in the sink, especially when the water is running!

— Niki

Sox’B after a little tipple of port.

— Tess

This is our beautiful kitten Molly. She has brought us so much love and hapiness ever since we brought her home from the RSPCA. As you can see she has attitude!

— Michael

…he’s called ‘Skitsophrenic’ for a reason!

— Lizzie

This is Mango… being camera shy.

— Amanda

My little boy Audi, who loves to play with anything that I hold!

— Nikki

My new kitten Jack enjoying his side of the bed.

— Claire

This is my adorable cat Niño.

— Marcia

This is my cat, Sebastian, who was very annoyed to be rudely interrupted for a photo!

— Elisabeth

This is Russia… in a bad mood!

— Tayla

Misty Blue is one of the centerfold cats all grown up and so beautiful!

— Jan

This is my beautiful 9-week-old burmese kitten Shakespeare. He loves being involved with everything, even the housework!

— Marissa

Oscar’s warming up!

— Melissa

Pets have a way of forming an unbreakable bond — and not just with you. They are best mates with each other and, sometimes, with their toys! Don’t miss our Best Friends Forever slideshow.

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Chocolate: women’s favourite mood elevator?

A new independent survey has revealed that 44 percent of Australian women eat chocolate as a way of making themselves happier when they feel down or depressed.

The study, which was conducted on behalf of Jenny Craig, shows that chocolate and biscuits are the most popular snacks among Australian women, with 49 percent munching on biscuits throughout the day, 39 percent choosing potato chips and 33 percent opting for lollies.

The Weekly’s diet and fitness guru, Karen Inge says there is “anecdotal evidence which shows that women with low self-esteem are prone to eating more biscuits and women who are premenstrual or have a disappointing love life crave chocolate because it contains high levels of magnesium”.

“Women eat chocolate when they are depressed or stressed”, she continues, which could well explain why one-third of women in Australia also name chocolate as their biggest weakness.

Chocolate has been linked to serotonin levels in the brain for some time, and these chemicals are believed to play an important role in regulating emotions such as anger, aggression, sexuality, appetite and mood. In fact, a study reported by the BBC indicated that melting chocolate in one’s mouth produced an increase in brain activity and heart rate that was more intense than the rate associated with passionate kissing, and also lasted four times as long after the activity had ended.

Inge points out, however, that “it’s important to work out whether our cravings for salty, oily, or sweet junk food are physical or in the mind. You may physically be craving junk food because you are low in blood sugar or you may be feeling stressed, anxious, lonely or frustrated.”

“Moderation is key. Avoiding stress-based eating is learning to distinguish emotions from hunger. Be mindful of what you are feeling, and what situations make you crave unhealthy foods,” Inge says.

With obesity rates reaching record highs in Australia, our attitudes and relationships to food cravings — particularly foods high in saturated fats — require addressing now. Inge believes people must be taught to change the unhealthy relationship they have with food to one of balance and positive behaviour. “It’s about helping people understand what they eat, why they eat and how to eat better to be healthier,” she says.

YOUR SAY: Do you eat chocolate to feel better? Perhaps you have an alternative mood elevator? Tell us below!

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Kate Middleton’s showdown with the palace

Royal correspondent Judy Wade reveals exclusively to Woman’s Day why Kate Middleton is in trouble with the Palace…

She hasn’t got a ring on her finger yet but already Kate Middleton has fallen out with the Queen.

Last month it was reported that Prince William’s grandmother was disappointed by Kate’s failure to hold down a regular job. But even before that story was published, there were whispers that Palace officials did not approve of Wills’ girlfriend.

Despite the great happiness she has brought William, a “Keep Knocking Kate” campaign, orchestrated by people close to the throne, has been ongoing for almost a year — with the apparent aim of splitting up the couple.

After reports of spiteful comments by courtiers about Kate’s middle-class upbringing, the Palace criticism now mostly centres on the alleged laziness of William’s 26-year-old girlfriend.

“What does she do all day?” asked one royal bodyguard. “All she seems to do is go on luxury holidays or fall out of nightclubs.”

For the full story, see this week’s Woman’s Day (on sale June 23).

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Pregnant man exclusive

“Love makes a family and that’s all that matters” — Thomas.

Thomas and Nancy have decked the baby’s nursery in yellow.

Thomas says the baby will be “Daddy’s little princess”.

The couple says their family has been very supportive of them.

“This is a normal pregnancy,” Thomas’ obstetrician, Dr Kimberly James said on The Oprah Winfrey Show.

Thomas has had some size difficulties with some of his usual clothes…

…including putting on his shoes!

Thomas has kept busy throughout his pregnancy…

Soon, the birds won’t be the only little creatures to love in this household.

The scar on Thomas’ belly are from a previous ectopic pregnancy.

“I feel fantastic,” Thomas has said. “I cannot wait to see my baby’s face.”

View our photo gallery of Jennifer Hawkins and Jake Wall. Australia’s hottest couple? You be the judge!

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Pregnant man exclusive: ‘I can’t wait to hold my baby girl’

By Alison Crombie

Pictures: Regine Mahaux/Kristian Dowling/Getty Images

Pregnant Thomas Beatie shares his excitement at giving birth to a little girl, and being a father…

Sex-change patient Thomas Beatie hit the headlines when he revealed his pregnancy to the world.

Thomas, 34, from the north-west US state of Oregon, was born a woman and formerly known as Tracy Lagondino. Following gender reassignment surgery, he’s now legally male but chose to keep his female reproductive organs intact. His wife Nancy, whom he married in 2003, had a hysterectomy, so she couldn’t carry a child.

But Thomas’s first pregnancy — like this one, achieved through artificial insemination at home — ended in drama. He had an ectopic pregnancy with triplets, and the surgery to save his life removed all the embryos and his right fallopian tube. Happily, this pregnancy has been trouble-free.

And just like all parents, the couple are full of enthusiasm for the arrival of their baby girl.

Congratulations on your daughter’s imminent arrival. How has the pregnancy been?

It has been excellent. I’m 36 weeks pregnant, so almost due, but I feel fantastic. I’ve been so lucky — I didn’t have ailments or discomforts. I feel on top of the world. We’re so excited for her arrival. I just can’t wait to hold her in my arms and be a father.

Was it difficult to adjust to being pregnant? What did you find hard?

I have actually been very fortunate. When I became pregnant, I went online and read how a lot of women suffer from a lot of pain in their back, but I haven’t had any of that. It has been remarkably easy.

Did you find the scans an emotional experience?

Oh incredibly. It made our bond even stronger. To be able to see her face, her lips, her body … she went from being a figment of hope to a real person, our baby. The experience has been very special.

For the full interview, see this week’s Woman’s Day (on sale June 23, 2008).

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Jake and Jen: The rumours that won’t go away

Australia’s glamour couple are again forced to defend their unusual relationship…

Model and TV star Jennifer Hawkins has refuted claims that her relationship with long-time love Jake Wall is over, after he was reportedly spotted in a clinch with a young socialite.

The couple have been dogged by break-up rumours — which they have constantly denied — since shortly after Jen was crowned Miss Universe in 2004.

But this latest report — that Jake, 25, locked lips with 19-year-old socialite Ali Longworthy late one night at Sydney nightspot Trademark and was also seen with her at Ivy — was “the worst yet”, according to an insider.

“They don’t really pay too much attention to what is said about them, because there is always one rumour or another,” says a source close to the couple. “But this time they felt they had to make a point because it was just so off the mark.

“They were worried because it’s hurtful to accuse someone of cheating, and Jake isn’t that sort of guy. They were also concerned because neither of them had even met this girl, and she contacted them later and was very upset about being accused of breaking up a relationship.”

For the full story, see this week’s Woman’s Day (on sale June 23).

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Jennifer Hawkins and Jake Wall

Jennifer Hawkins takes to the catwalk.

Jake Wall and Jennifer Hawkins arrive for the Myer Winter 2008 Collection Launch.

10th Birthday Party of Marie Claire Magazine in Sydney.

Jennifer is known for her track-side fashions, including this floral look at 2006 Melbourne Cup.

Jennifer Hawkins and Jake Wall pose together in the Emirates Marquee at the 2007 Melbourne Cup.

TV fashion stylist Carson Kressley poses with Jennifer. Does her hat match his coat on purpose?!

Jake with Lara Bingle at the Nickelodeon Kids’ Choice Awards in Sydney, 2006.

Jen and Jake at the Dancing with the Stars final in 2006.

Jennifer Hawkins poses in the Myer city store window for her first official portrait to be painted by multiple Archibald Prize finalist Michael Mucci on June 5, 2008 in Melbourne, Australia.

Jake, a carpenter-turned-model, strips off his shirt at the launch of the ‘Eyes’ fragrance from Police.

Looking “casual”, Jake and Jen attend Cirque Du Soleil’s ‘Varekai’ premiere in Sydney.

Even when they’re “casual”, they still look good enough for a photo shoot!

At the Australian Open.

They’re all smiles at an MTV after party at Sydney’s Hilton.

Jennifer and Jake visit the Children’s Hospital in Randwick to hand out Lovable Teddy Bears.

Jake shoots Jen a look at the Myer Winter 2007 Fashion Launch.

Jennifer admires Jake at the 2008 Myer Autumn Winter Launch Dinner, with designers and their muses.

Can’t get enough home-grown glamour? Check out our gallery of stunning pics from

Megan Gale’s super career.

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Farmer gets his wife!

By Glen Williams

Pictures: Andrew Jacob

A year and a day after they met, the reality stars tie the knot…

There was a buzz running round the streets of Tamworth. Word had travelled over backyard fences and milkbar counters — the nice bloke from that TV show, The Farmer Wants A Wife, was getting married.

The locals were thrilled for Chris Newsome and his beautiful bride-to-be Kim Tierney. They’d been brave enough to go on a reality TV show but, better still, they’d actually found love.

“The local people have been so kind to us,” Kim tells Woman’s Day on the morning of the big day. “There has been such a positive buzz about town. Wherever we go, people have been wishing us well. We’re looking forward to sharing a happy day filled with laughter, friends, family and the people of Tamworth.

“Chris and I now live on a farm outside Byron Bay, but we wanted to come back here, to where it all began, to get married. It’s exactly one year and a day since Chris and I first met, sitting on that hay bale, and felt an instant connection.”

Indeed, the people of this northern New South Wales town can’t show Kim and Chris enough kindness.

When Woman’s Day shows up at St Nicholas Catholic Church, volunteers are tending the grounds so it looks immaculate for the couple. Some are so keen to see farmer Chris take his wife, they gather on the steps a couple of hours before the ceremony is even set to start.

For the full story, see this week’s issue of Woman’s Day (on sale June 23, 2008).

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Shelley Craft’s smiling again

By Angela Mollard

Pictures: Gina Milicia

After a tough year behind the scenes, TV star Shelley Craft is back on track…

When Shelley Craft makes a few life changes, she doesn’t do things half-heartedly. In the past few months, she’s thrown in her job on The Great Outdoors, split from her husband of eight years and moved from Sydney to Melbourne.

It’s the sort of upheaval which would find many cowering in a corner, but instead the girl regarded as television’s bubbliest blonde is flourishing, appearing on Nine Network programs Domestic Blitz and Australia’s Funniest Home Videos.

But for all her optimism, Shelley has just gone through the hardest time of her life and still struggles to make sense of what she’s experienced.

Even now, many months after the breakdown of her marriage to marketing expert Brett De Billinghurst, her eyes fill with unshed tears as she says, “My life was a fairytale but then it doesn’t always turn out how you think it’s going to.”

For the first time, 32-year-old Shelley talks about the struggle of the past 12 months and why, ultimately, she remains so full of happiness and hope for what lies ahead …

Domestic Blitz is proving enormously popular. Why do you think it’s so successful?

We’re making a difference to someone’s life and they’re really deserving people. Even though the hours are ridiculous and we’re sometimes working until 2am, you feel you’re doing something worthwhile. That was another reason for me leaving The Great Outdoors — it was hard staying in five-star resorts in Third World countries. Last year I went to Chennai in India and it was horrifying. These people had lost their spirit and their joy — they had lost what makes us human. As a travel reporter you have no real chance to help or become involved in their cultures. You’re always seeing it from the outside.

Has the upheaval in your life and this new show changed the way you feel about home?

I recently moved to Melbourne and, fortunately, having travelled so much I’m very good at settling in and finding the heart and soul of a place. Home is really important to me and I’m a mad decorator — homewares is my Achilles heel. During all those years of travelling I always cried whenever I left and always cried whenever I landed back home, even if I’d only been to Noosa for three days.

You recently cut your hair short. Was that in reaction to all the changes in your life?

I’d always wanted to do it, but on The Great Outdoors they’d sometimes hold stories off so my look had to be consistent. I hadn’t had short hair since I was 12 so I just did it and didn’t realise it would have such an impact. My Mum has since had her hair cut shorter, too.

How have you managed to stay so slim after all those years travelling and eating in restaurants?

Genetics! I’m very lucky but I also eat healthily. I always had a “one plate rule” when it came to the breakfast buffet and I’d always help get luggage off the carousel and carry tripods up the sides of volcanoes. The crew always thought I was being helpful but I was just doing it to get in some exercise!

Domestic Blitz screens Sundays at 7.30pm on the Nine Network.

For more of this interview, see this week’s issue of Woman’s Day (on sale June 23, 2008).

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