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Sasha and Malia Obama: ‘First Daughters’

**By Jo Knowsley

Life for the new President’s young daughters, Sasha and Malia, is about to be transformed in more ways than they can imagine. Woman’s Day takes a look at what life in the White House holds for them.**

As the armoured car carrying Barack Obama sweeps up the long drive towards the Oval Office, the new US President and his beautiful wife Michelle could be forgiven for reflecting on just how much their lives are about to change.

But the little girls huddled together excitedly in the back of “Cadillac One” can have no realisation of what lies ahead. Malia, 10, and Sasha, 7, are now the First Daughters of America, and the youngest inhabitants of the White House since Amy Carter, who was nine when she moved in after her father Jimmy became president in 1977. And, like all children who grow up in the White House, their lives are set to be an extraordinary mixture of harsh restrictions and amazing opportunities.

“The long road to the White House brought us closer together as a family,” President Obama has said, adding that “the most fun I can have is just sitting there watching my girls play or talking to them about their worries.”

But how do two little girls who grew up in Chicago go from being fairly normal children with $1-a-week pocket money to becoming the most famous “tweens” in America, living at the world’s most famous address?

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Princess Mary’s rugged-up royal kids

Icy temperatures don’t stop the little royals having fun…

Princess Mary’s little ones, Prince Christian, 3, and Princess Isabella, 21 months, were like any other Danish children when they took time out with their favourite uncle to muck around at the local playground.

Dressed in plenty of layers, the young royals were all smiles as they braved the winter temperatures on the trip with Prince Joachim and their nannies to a public park near Marselisborg Palace.

Isabella suffered a brief mishap when she took a tumble, but quickly cheered up after a turn on the swing.

Mary has always hoped to give her children a normal upbringing, although she admits the pressure of royal duties changed her initial decision to raise them without nannies.

“The routines are important to us. It gives us a good feeling that the children follow their routines regardless of whether we are with them or if they are taken care of by the nanny,” explains Mary, 36.

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Are our mums safe in Australian hospitals?

By Glen Williams

Pictures: Andrew Jacob

**A number of recent tragedies have highlighted the controversial debate about how safe pregnant women are in our hospitals. In the past few weeks three women have reported suffering the pain and trauma of losing a baby in hospital bathrooms.

Here one woman tells Woman’s Day of her horrifying ordeal and how she survived it.**

The moment is melt-your-heart tender. Doting new parents Jana Horska and Mark Dreyer can’t stop looking at their 15-week-old baby, Sarah Louise.

This cute little bundle knows she is adored. She stares back, wide-eyed, happy to coo at Mum and Dad. It’s a special moment, but one tinged with raw and angry memories.

Just 16 months ago, Jana, then 14 weeks pregnant, lay alone, doubled over in agony in a toilet in the emergency department at Sydney’s Royal North Shore Hospital.

Jana was no stranger to miscarriage — she’d lost their first baby in April 2007 — so when she started cramping she took no chances. She phoned her trusted family doctor, who advised her to go to her local hospital, where he said she’d be most likely put on a drip and given bed rest.

The couple went to Royal North Shore, not knowing they’d chosen that hospital on a night when staff were overworked and beds scarce.

“You go to a hospital expecting basic care, at least compassion,” says Mark. “When we arrived at RNS, we explained Jana had the same symptoms as her first miscarriage and we wanted to have her checked out. The response was, ‘Oh, well, if you’re going to miscarry, you’re going to miscarry’…”

For the full story, see this week’s Woman’s Day (on sale January 26).

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I’m in love with my high school principal

As a 30-something single lady who found the thought of going clubbing to meet a male nauseating, I had to consider a more modern way of meeting a life partner.

I tried speed dating and internet dating but only met weirdo after weirdo. I wouldn’t say I was one of these fussy woman who wanted the perfect man — just someone who was funny, smart and kind of normal!

Just when it seemed hopeless and that I would die alone and get eaten up by my cats, I joined Facebook to re-connect with my old high school chums — and hopefully find a few desperate and dateless ones like me to boost the old ego.

I soon found myself with 236 friends and a page that was the envy of many — OK, so I may have been a little bit obsessed with this new phenomenon!

Soon I received a funny friend suggestion — my high school principal, Mr Freeman. I remembered him as a young, embittered gentleman who never cracked a smile. Nevertheless, I requested his friendship as a joke, which I knew would get a laugh from my online buddies.

The very next time I logged on, there it was — he had added me. I could hardly contain my laughter and I clicked on his page to see his profile and photos. I wasn’t surprised at all to see him single and still looking like he had never had a day of fun in his life. Now in his 50s, he was still quite an intimidating chap.

My online friends had a field day sending me messages poking fun at my new friend. I stayed up almost to 2am one time replying to them all, when I noticed a message from Mr Freeman.

He thanked me for adding him and told me he thought I was a kind and beautiful person inside and out. Being awake in the wee hours of the morning and feeling sleep deprived, I replied with similar praise. Mr Freeman, or John as I had been asked to call him, wrote to me often and we chatted about everything from music to sports to poetry. I began to see him in a new light, which scared me to death. I was beginning to have feelings I could not explain nor wish away.

John wanted to meet up for dinner and, as much as I tried to resist, his pull was too much. I met up with him, only to find that the silver hair, wrinkles and sourness disappeared into a sweet, caring and smiling man who was normal and nice.

The conversation just flowed and my cheeks began to ache from smiling. I was falling and I felt helpless. At the end of the date we kissed — it felt so right that I invited him in and he stayed with me all night.

I soon fell madly in love with John and we moved to the country because I said I liked the space and fresh air. But it was more because I wanted to be away from prying eyes and judgemental people.

I removed myself from Facebook and disappeared to be with my man. I know it is gutless but I can’t give him up and am not ready to show the world who I really am.

Names in this story have been changed.

Your say: Would you date your high school principal? Have your say about this true confession below…

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Get real: 10 weight-loss goals made achievable

What’s the point in setting yourself such a challenge that you won’t want to stick to it?The Food Coach Judy Davie takes a look at some common — and commonly broken — weight-loss resolutions and suggests how you can make them more achievable.

  • Have at least three alcohol-free nights during the week.

  • Instead of beer, switch to a refreshing white wine mixed with soda, or a champagne.

  • Instead of pre-mixed spirit based drinks, drink vodka with fresh lime juice and soda.

  • Take the stairs instead of the lift.

  • Throw yourself into vigorous housework.

  • Find an exercise you enjoy and do it with a friend for support.

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*The Hunter’s Wife*

The Hunter’s Wife by Katherine Scholes

Exclusive extract from The Hunter’s Wife by Katherine Scholes, the Great Read in the February issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Mara peered intently ahead as she steered the Old Land Rover over the trackless terrain, avoiding the honey-badger holes and termite hills. The two Manyala Land Rovers had set off a little earlier and were now out of sight in the next valley; but there were small clues to the route they had taken: the occasional crushed brush or flattened pile of dung.

Her only passenger was Peter. He’d lingered by the lake taking photographs and, since the others were keen to get back and tackle the equipment maintenance and paperwork that followed each day’s shooting, she’d offered to wait for him. Now he was leaning out through the passenger-side window, assessing the way ahead, lifting one hand, at intervals, and simply saying, ‘This way,’ or ‘That way.’ He seemed to understand instinctively that driving cross-country like this was an activity that involved everyone on board. Mara guessed that if the conditions had been more demanding, he’d have been quite happy to sit on the spare tyre on the bonnet, or even stand on the front bumper bar to asses the ground ahead.

The late-afternoon light brewed strong colours in the land – he sky was purple, the earth a deep red, overlaid with a thin covering of spun gold grass. Trees and bushes were beginning to flatten into silhouettes. The birds resting in their branches were splashes of white that blazed as though lit from within. Mara glanced at Peter. She could see he was struck by the beauty of the landscape as well, and she felt a burst of pride as if she were somehow responsible for it all.

‘This reminds me of home,’ Peter commented. ‘Australia, I mean…’

Mara nodded, feeling a wave of longing at his words. The landscapes of Tanzania often evoked her memories of Tasmania – especially the area around Coal River. Even the names of the two were linked. Tanzania and Tasmania sounded so similar, many people in the world thought they were the same place. In her early days in Africa, Mara had savoured this connection; it had helped her feel a sense of belonging. But now she found it increasingly painful to think about her old home – how she’d left there with such high hopes for her future. Her letters to her mother were becoming shorter and less frequent. The truth about her life here was no longer something she wanted to share.

‘How long have you ever been here?’ Peter asked her.

‘A bit over three years now.’

‘Have you been back for a visit?’

Mara shook her head.

‘You must miss seeing your family. Do you have brother and sisters?’

‘Just brothers,’ Mara said. ‘But lots of them!’

She paused, an aching lump in her throat. She wanted to tell Peter that sometimes the way he did things – his little mannerisms – reminded her of them so keenly it took her breath away.

‘I was an only child,’ Peter said. That’s why I always wanted to have a big family of my own. But I had a happy childhood. We had a house right on the beach at Bondi. I lived in the surf – before school, after school, during school. That’s why I had become an actor. I couldn’t get a real job.’ He smiled, but then grew serious. ‘I’d love to move back to Australia, actually. I’d prefer to bring the kids up there. But Paula doesn’t want to leave America and I guess it’s more important for her to be where she wants to be. I’m away now and then, after all.’

Mara was unsure how to reply – the conversation seemed to have grown suddenly personal. Being alone together in the Land Rover, after the day’s filming, had made them seem like old friends. But they weren’t, Mara reminded herself. He was Peter Heath and she was jus the safari hostess, driving him home from location.

She slowed and swerved to avoid a dried-out riverbed. A narrow ribbon of dark earth was the only clue to its presence, but she knew that beneath the dry surface of the ground that bordered it, was a layer of deep wet mud. The Land Rover would break through the firm crust, and sink to its axles. She hauled at the steering wheel, aiming towards higher ground.

‘Wait! Stop!’ Peter called.

Responding to the urgency in his voice, Mara slammed on the brakes.

‘What’s that over there?’ Peter pointed along the riverbed to the place where it opened onto a wide pan of dark mud – all that remained of a rainy-season lake – and raised a pair of binoculars to his eyes. ‘It’s an animal – stuck in the mud. It looks like a young buffalo.’ There was a brief silence as Peter leaned further out of the window, still peering through the binoculars. ‘It moved its head!’ he called back into the cab. ‘It’s alive! We have to do something.’

He swung one arm in an arc. ‘If you drive round that way we can get right up to it, The ground looks fine.’ Mara kept the engine idling. She knew the rile: in a situation like this, a wild animal should be left to its own fate.

Peter lowered the glasses, turning to Mara. ‘There must be a way to get out of there.’

Mara’s hand hovered over the gear stick as she scanned the open grassland. The only animals in sight were a few Thomson’s gazelles, grazing in a relaxed manner, tails flicking constantly from side to side. There was no sign of buffalo. She felt a wave of relief. Buffalo were some of the most dangerous animals in the bush. A herd could materalise soundlessly, encircling a hunting party or group of sightseers. Usually they just stood in a menacing stillness, but if stirred to anger for some reason, they became murderous – and the hard shell of a Land Rover offered only temporary protection from their attack.

‘The herd has gone,’ Peter said, as if reading her thoughts.

‘They’ve left it behind,’ Mara nodded.

‘There wouldn’t have been much they could do by staying. They haven’t got trunks, like elephants, to try to pull it out.’

‘Come on, then,’ Peter said impatiently. ‘Let’s go.’

Mara looked away. Inside her head, she could hear John’s voice – calm and sure and reasonable. Leave it alone. The herd is gone. It’ll die anyway. Glancing sideways, she saw Peter guessing the meaning of her hesitation. Shock and outrage gathered in his eyes. Again, Mara knew exactly what John would have said. You have to be able to make the tough decisions. Africa is not for the faint-hearted.

Mara looked at Peter’s face. His eyes were screwed up at the corners like someone wincing in pain. She knew just how it felt, to look like that – the way each muscle tightened, pulling the skin into lines. It was so familiar to her that she might have been watching her own reflection.

Suddenly, she made her decision. Without saying anything, she reached down to select low ratio and then let out the clutch. The vehicle lurched off slowly in the direction of the dried-up lake.

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Think smarter, not harder

Are you sometimes stumped by the simplest question? It has nothing to do with being stupid, and everything to do with learning how to think more efficiently. Here’s how:

  • Hit ‘pause’ Avoid wasting time by asking people to repeat themselves (or misunderstanding what you were asked to do) by taking a ‘verbal photograph’ of the question; say something like, “Let me just recap what I think it is that you’re asking.”

  • Ask for more information Whether you’re deciding if a teenager can go to a dance, or if you should buy shares in a company, the process should be the same: you must have as many facts as possible so you can make an informed decision.

  • Consider different options Solving a problem doesn’t mean doing what you’ve always done before; nor does it mean coming up with a completely new idea. The best decisions are often a combination of an old idea and something fresh. Look for synergies: Are there two projects you’re working on that can be rolled together? Two trips in the same direction, but at different times, that you can reschedule? Give new ways of doing things a chance – many good ideas are killed by snap judgments.

  • Sleep on it Putting a decision aside for a while is often the only thing to do. Other people may not like the delay, but it’s better than making the wrong decision and then having to back-track. Even if you don’t wake up with the answer, at least you can attack the problem feeling refreshed.

  • Move your mind Do a crossword puzzle. Read a book. Go to an art gallery. According to a report in Science News, the very act of learning creates ‘neural efficiencies’ in your brain that make it easier to think clearly the rest of the time.

Your Say: How do you keep your mind active? Share with us below…

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Belly Fat Fears

Can you pinch an inch?

It seems your stomach really does have a mind of its own.

While researchers have previously believed that hunger signals only originated in the brain, new research published in the Journal of the Federation of American Societies for Experimental Biology (22:7) indicates that fat cells themselves produce a substance, called neuropeptide Y, which helps you to grow even more fat cells. In other words, depressingly, having belly fat is a risk factor for gaining more belly fat.

Your say: What are your tips on maintaining a toned tummy? Share with us below…

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Hello, sunshine

Hello, sunshine

Nicknamed the ‘sunshine vitamin’ because your body makes it from sunlight, vitamin D is essential for overall health. However, even in sunny Australia, you might not be getting enough, says Pamela Allardice.

  • Bone densityVitamin D (which is technically not a vitamin, but a hormone which your body produces in response to UVB rays) builds a strong skeleton and teeth by ensuring your bone cells absorb calcium. Without vitamin D, your body cannot absorb calcium from food or supplements, no matter how much you consume. Vitamin D is critical in preventing osteoporosis, a disease which causes brittle bones. Studies show supplements of calcium and vitamin D slow bone loss and reduce the incidence of fractures in men and women.

  • Immune functionSome of the most exciting work in nutritional science is being undertaken in the area of disease prevention, and vitamin D certainly shines here. Numerous studies indicate that getting enough D decreases your risk of developing many ailments, including type 1 diabetes, depression, and heart, muscle, and kidney disorders. It also improves the body’s disease-fighting capacity. Studies show that the production of germ-killing compounds and antimicrobial peptides – which defend the body against bacteria, viruses, and fungi – is increased in skin exposed to sunlight.

  • Cancer preventionVitamin D is a vital weapon in the fight against cancer, with high levels being associated with lower incidences of colon, prostate, and ovarian cancers, and especially breast cancer. In one study of over 3,900 women, researchers discovered that those participants who spent the most time in the sun halved their likelihood of getting breast cancer; low blood levels of vitamin D are also correlated with a higher breast cancer risk. In one small study, vitamin D actually seemed to arrest progression of breast cancer; in another, women with low vitamin D levels when diagnosed with breast cancer had double the risk of their cancer spreading. Vitamin D may even offer hope for one of the most difficult-to-treat cancers: pancreatic cancer. A Harvard University study indicates that taking D supplements could reduce risk.

  • Getting enoughMost people aren’t getting enough vitamin D, especially if they spend days office-bound, wear sunscreen, have dark skin (which filters out sunlight), or are over 45 (the body’s ability to manufacture vitamin D declines with age). Two Australian studies have highlighted low levels in one in three women in summer, rising to one in two in winter, and almost half of nursing home patients have a deficiency. Balancing skin-cancer protection with careful sun exposure – 15 minutes on your arms and legs, preferably not between 10 a.m. and 2 p.m. – is enough to produce your daily requirement of vitamin D. Cold-water fish (e.g. salmon, tuna) and fish liver oil are good food sources, followed by beef liver, cheese, and egg yolks. Fortified milk, juice, dairy products and cereals can boost levels, as can supplements – look for products containing vitamin D3 (cholecalciferol), which is considered to be more bioavailable than vitamin D2 (ergocalciferol).

Bone density

Immune function

Cancer prevention

Getting enough

YOUR SAY: Are you getting enough vitamin D? How do you ensure you keep your levels of vitamin D high?

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The get-up-and-glow 30s

Buying jeans for your age and shape can be a dizzying experience. The Weekly’s fashion team have road-tested the best styles to help you find the perfect pair despite your age and budget.

What suits your shape in your 30s?

“I adore jeans, they’re so comfortable and different styles suit different moods, I prefer low-rise jeans with big pockets, adn ones that aren’t too tight”.TV presenter, actor and model, Annalise Braakensiek, 35.

DO

  • Reverse the proportions. If your jeans are tight-fitting, wear them with a loose top, such as a knit or untucked blouse to balance your shape. Likewise, if your jeans are wide-leg or flared, pair them with a fitted top.

  • Opt for skinny-leg jeans if you have a long and lean silhouette, but avoid this style if you don’t, as it will look too tight.

DON’T

  • Let your underwear show above your jeans — a big no-no at any age!

Your say: What are you favourite jeans for your 30s? Tell us below…

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