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My love for Rove

Photography: Julian Kingma/Styling: Kate Gaskin

Photography: Julian Kingma/Styling: Kate Gaskin

Their love was forged in friendship and a shared loss, and for actress and author Tasma Walton husband Rove McManus has brought her a happiness she never knew, she tells Larry Writer.

In her new novel, Heartless, Tasma Walton’s heroine’s heart is broken again and again. Her father abandons her. She is emotionally and physically abused. She falls in love, but dumps her man because, her heart in shreds, she feels unworthy of him. Happily, Heartless is no roman à clef. “It’s all imagined,” says the writer, actor and new wife of Rove McManus. “My life is good, very good.”

As Tasma counts her blessings over a peppermint tea on a clear and icy Melbourne morning, we believe her. There’s Rove, of course, the imminent publication of Heartless, her role as Detective Senior Sergeant Claudia Leigh in the Seven Network’s City Homicide, a new movie, Blessed, her return to health after a battle with asthma and, as a board member of Flora & Fauna International (FFI), she’s doing her bit for the planet.

“I’m happy,” Tasma says, “because I’m fulfilled in love and work.”

Marriage to talk-show host Rove is one huge reason the diminutive Tasma, 35, is standing tall. “It spins me out to call him my husband,” she says, with a smile that illuminates the room.

“Sometimes, for an instant, I forget we’re married and refer to Rove as my boyfriend, and then I remember in a rush and I feel, ‘Wow!’ It’s unbelievable waking up beside him every day.

“He’s kind, intelligent, generous. And he’s funny, so joyous and playful, and he brings that out in me. We still behave like schoolchildren. We laugh a lot – little things, like when he puts on his cap and his ears stick out.”

Tasma loves it, too, that her man is strong, that he endured the cruel death from cancer of his first wife, Belinda Emmett, and didn’t give up. “The upbeat Rove you see is grounded on a base note that is deep and profound,” she says. “He has strength and wisdom forged through experiences that required him to draw on a well of courage.”

Rove, says Tasma, “understands that only consistent, hard work brings success. He’s the Energizer bunny. He’s only 35 and look what he has achieved.”

Read the rest of this story in the October issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly with Tracy Grimshaw on the cover.

*Tasma wears Gorman dress and Jamin Puech necklace from Belinda.

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EXCLUSIVE: Matt the cravat

We came to know him as the flamboyant judge on hit show MasterChef, but behind the foppish, internationally renowned food critic is Matt Preston the devoted family man, with a wife who is the icing on his cake.
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We all know him as the flamboyant judge on hit show MasterChef, but behind the foppish, internationally renowned food critic is Matt Preston the devoted family man, with a wife who is the icing on his cake, writes Wendy Squires.

It is late morning and MasterChef judge Matt Preston is still asleep, his wife Emma explains, having spent all night awake with jetlag after returning from a family holiday in Europe. “I’ll just check in on him,” she whispers, before tiptoeing along creaking floorboards to the end of the hall in their inviting Melbourne home.

Within minutes, the sleeping giant awakes, emerging as a vision in pink – matching shirt, cravat and eyes. He looks tired, like a man who would want anything but a stranger in his house ready to quiz him. Yet it soon becomes apparent that Matt likes to chat — a lot.

In fact, it’s hard to keep up with the ebullient host, who quickly settles in after a strong cuppa. So rapid-fire are his witty stories, memories and theories on everything, from the colloquialisms of Home and Away‘s Alf, to male neck adornment throughout history and storage methods for rhino sperm (don’t laugh, he actually wrote a freelance article on the subject), it’s hard to keep up. It’s a far cry from his astute observations and measured comments on MasterChef, but, as his lovely wife so deftly points out, Matt did have his mouth full for most of the show.

Like a great meeting of flavours, Emma is the counter-balance to her husband of 10 years. While one could describe Matt as a hearty dish, robust and rich in flavour, Emma, an attractive 44-year-old with large blue eyes, long legs and a wry sense of humour, is the special touch that elevates his dish to a delicacy.

Together, the pair is like a great comedic couple and, while Emma might play the straight guy, she still lands her share of laughs. Take, for example, how they first met. While Matt, 48, recalls the minute and date of their first sighting, first kiss, second major kiss (they had broken up for a brief period), attempt at a proposal and the moment she finally said yes, Emma’s first recollections are less starry-eyed.

“I thought he was probably gay,” she says dryly of her first impression of Matt, who, at the time, was dating one of her closest friends. (Matt moved from his native London in 1993 to live with his ex, who remains a great friend to both and is godmother to their nine-year-old son, Jonathan).

“Then I met his English friends, who are all married and they were the same – they all love their clothes and are pedantic and fussy about their food.

“But Matt is probably more feminine than most blokes. Not many men will go out and pick flowers for the spare bedroom if guests are coming to stay. But Matt loves women and women love Matt. All Mum’s friends, all my friends, just adore him.”

“And I love female company,” Matt interjects. “Nothing makes me happier than having a long discussion with women about shoes and dating.”

It’s this camaraderie with women that opened Emma’s heart to Matt, with the couple becoming close friends over weekly tennis matches, followed by a movie or bite to eat. “I used to pour out my heart to him about being single,” Emma recalls. Adds Matt, “And I used to sit there listening to this thinking, ‘That’s amazing. She’s such an incredible, beautiful woman’.”

Read the rest of this story in the October issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly with Tracy Grimshaw on the cover.

Your say: Are you looking forward to the new season of MasterChef? Why do you think Matt is such a popular judge?

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Belinda Neal: I will fight for my marriage

Photography: Peter Brew-Bevan/Styling: Julie Russell

Photography: Peter Brew-Bevan/Styling: Julie Russell

She may have her own public image problems, but nothing prepared Belinda Neal for her husband John Della Bosca’s confession of infidelity, writes Tracey Curro.

It’s not easy to reconcile the gentle image of the well-groomed blonde woman posed wistfully by the window of a Canberra hotel room with Belinda Neal’s reputation as the volatile federal MP and wife of recently resigned NSW Health Minister John Della Bosca.

As she responds to the “click, click” of the photographer’s shutter, there is no hint of the sharp edges or the outbursts that have shaped the public perception of 46-year-old Belinda, most infamously last year at Iguana Joe’s nightclub at Gosford, in her NSW Central Coast electorate. Yet Belinda Neal has had the kind of start to the month that would make anyone a little reticent.

It’s just weeks since the shock, front-page revelation in Sydney’s The Daily Telegraph that her husband had been having a secret six-month affair with a 26-year-old woman and had quit his job as a minister in the NSW state government. These past few weeks have transformed Belinda Neal. The tough-talking federal MP has had to confront her complicity in a neglected marriage, to face her own mistakes and personal failings, and take “a quantum leap” in learning a whole new way to love and be loved, if she wants her 23-year marriage to survive.

“We both love each other and we want to keep building on that,” she says. “We have decided that, despite everything that’s happened, we are the most important people to each other, and … ”, she falters, momentarily, as the words catch in her throat and tears well in her eyes. She takes a deep breath and rushes out the rest of her thought, “and that’s worth maintaining”.

It’s a rare moment of fleeting emotion during an exclusive interview with The Weekly, in which Belinda Neal, a mother of two, reveals her profound shock at her husband’s confession, the couple’s decision to stay together and the pact that she and John, 53, have now made to save their marriage.

She says she has decided to share her story of a cheating husband to help other women understand that their partner’s infidelity in no way devalues them. There is also a woman’s natural desire to regain her dignity, the sensing of an opportunity to rehabilitate her belligerent image.

Read the rest of this story in the October issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly with Tracy Grimshaw on the cover.

Your say: What do you think of Belinda’s decision? How do you work at your relationships? Share your thoughts below.

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Tracy’s year of living dangerously

After 29 years in journalism, A Current Affair’s Tracy Grimshaw is finally getting the recognition she deserves, thanks in part to a series of bruising public encounters this year, writes Michael Sheather.

Tracy Grimshaw couldn’t believe what she was hearing. Driving home on a Saturday afternoon, she took a call from Grant Williams, executive producer of A Current Affair, but the news he delivered was the very last thing she expected.

“Grant’s a capable bloke, but he had trouble telling me what had happened,” recalls Tracy, the 47-year-old host of ACA. “And, finally, he just blurted it out – Gordon Ramsay had gone off half-cocked and publicly called me a fat pig, said I was old and needed Botox. I was completely stunned, absolutely gobsmacked. That’s the only way to describe it. I nearly drove off the road. I had to pull over to take it all in. It simply didn’t make any sense.”

It still doesn’t. Chef Gordon Ramsay’s bizarre, unprecedented and all too public attack on Tracy, with his cruel and sexist accusations about her sexuality, her appearance and her personality in June is as much a mystery to Tracy today as it was when it made headlines around the world three months ago.

Ramsay’s unprovoked tirade and Tracy’s sharp, eloquent and dignified television response – leaving her rude assailant sliced and diced, with nowhere to hide but the kitchen waste bin – was just one contest in a year of high drama and personal success for Tracy, who, with a series of hard-hitting TV encounters, has risen to be considered on the highest tier of Australia’s broadcast interviewers.

She has, say her many supporters, come of age as a journalist, presenter and interviewer, while just as many believe that recognition is long overdue. Her confrontational interview with former colleague and NRL footballer Matthew Johns earlier this year – in which she questioned Johns over his involvement in allegations of group sex during a football trip seven years ago, while his wife, Trish, sat beside him – is being touted as a contender at this year’s Walkley Awards, Australian journalism’s highest honours.

Awards aside, there seems little doubt that Tracy, one of the most accomplished journalists on Australian TV, is at the peak of her game. Her versatility is rarely equalled, slipping easily as she does from an interview with Prime Minister Kevin Rudd to a visiting Hollywood celebrity or a touching encounter with an injured policewoman left for dead after a vicious assault in Sydney’s Kings Cross.

And across them all, she hits the key issues with tenacity and compassion. “She always does a professional job, always had a great sense for a story, but also great humanity and humour,” says friend and Nine Network colleague, Liz Hayes, of 60 Minutes. “She knows how to keep her nerve, how to ask a tough question and not blink.”

They are skills Tracy has needed in spades recently. First, there was her confrontation with disgraced Australian swimmer Nick D’Arcy in April, putting the Olympic hopeful on the public record over his bar-room assault on fellow swimmer Simon Cowley, which left Cowley with a shattered jaw.

“I do like a vigorous interview, I must admit,” says Tracy, whose questioning had D’Arcy on the back foot. “You wouldn’t want to do them all the time because it’s exhausting, for everybody. But I was surprised to get Nick D’Arcy. We had spoken with Simon Cowley and it’s hard not to do a sympathetic piece with Simon because he’d been beaten unconscious. So I was surprised, but I think that showed some bravery on his part.”

Read the rest of this story in the October issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly with Tracy Grimshaw on the cover.

Your say: Why do you find Tracy inspirational? Which of her interviews has been your favourite? Share your thoughts below…

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Brad Pitt: Why we will never marry

Michael Muller/Contour by Getty Images

Michael Muller/Contour by Getty Images

Twice voted the sexiest man alive, heart-throb Brad Pitt seems to have it all. Dotson Rader goes behind the headlines to find a star who is in love, but who has vowed not to marry until homosexuals are given the same right.

“My life has been about big changes,” says actor Brad Pitt. “It’s always been that way. When I go down a path, I take it to the end. Then I take another one. I took the path of not having kids – now it’s time for family.” The actor tells me this during a long afternoon at his home in Los Angeles.

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“Children are a dominant value in my life now and they weren’t before. They were always something I thought I’d get around to having when the time was right. It wasn’t what I was really seeking. In a way, I think I had to go and exhaust me before I could be good at being a parent.”

Brad and actress Angelina Jolie may be the most followed, admired and photographed couple in the world. They met on the set of the 2005 movie Mr & Mrs Smith while Brad was still married to actress Jennifer Aniston. The birth of Brad and Angelina’s first child, Shiloh, in May 2006, was treated by the international media like the crowning of royalty. Last year, they had twins – Vivienne Marcheline and Knox Léon. They also have three adopted children – Maddox, eight, Pax, five, and Zahara, four.

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When someone asked me why Angie and I don’t get married, I replied, ‘Maybe we’ll get married when it’s legal for everyone else’,” he says. “I stand by that, although I took a lot of flak for saying it, hate mail from religious groups. I believe everyone should have the same rights. They say gay marriage ruins families and hurts kids. Well, I’ve had the privilege of seeing my gay friends being parents and watching their kids grow up in a loving environment.

“Would it bother me if a child of mine turns out to be gay? No, not one bit. Listen, I want my kids to live the lives they want to live, I want them to be fulfilled. I hope I teach my kids to be who they really are.”

He gets up and begins pacing the room. He is dressed in dark tan slacks, a black T-shirt and an unbuttoned white dress shirt that flutters like a silk flag. “Man, I resent people telling others how to live! It drives me mental!” he declares, loudly. “Just the other night, I heard this TV preacher say that Angie and I were setting a bad example because we were living out of wedlock and people should not be duped by us! It made me laugh.

“What damn right does anyone have to tell someone else how to live if they’re not hurting anyone? How many times do you think real love comes to someone in a lifetime? If you’re lucky, maybe two or three.”

Brad shakes his head in exasperation. “Do you know how you tell real love?” he asks. “It’s when someone else’s interest trumps your own. I like to put it that way – trumps your own. Love of somebody else – of family, of your kids – becomes the most important, most worthwhile thing in your life. It’s what you foster and protect.

“You have to recognise real love when it’s there and know that in going after it, there is always risk. To live with love, you have to chance losing it. That’s also true when you decide to have kids. It’s the risk you take for love.”

Read the rest of this story in the October issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly with Tracy Grimshaw on the cover.

Your say: What do you think of Brad’s decision? Do you think they will ever marry? Share your thoughts below…

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Personal trainers: for you or not for you?

Once upon a time, it was only the famous and very rich who enlisted the help of personal trainers to help keep them in shape. But these days, personal trainers are popular with a wide variety of people.

“Personal trainers are now very accessible and are considered to be effective,” says Lauretta Stace, Chief Executive Officer of Fitness Australia. “Shows like The Biggest Loser help people to understand the role of a personal trainer and that personal training does get results, such as weight loss. However, most personal trainers would agree that becoming fit and healthy is a long-term strategy for most people, not a quick-fix.”

The great news for us mere mortals just trying to be fit enough for the day-to-day demands of life is that hiring a personal trainer is more affordable than ever!

“Exercise and fitness is no longer an issue that revolves around glamour and appearance,” says Lauretta. “It is now an important part of being healthy and remaining that way for an enhanced quality of life into the future. The cost of using a personal trainer is really an investment in your longer term health and fitness, so I believe it is a prudent investment.

“And you can pay even less, by working with a trainer in a small group, maybe with friends or work colleagues. There are now many flexible options available for working with a trainer which gives people greater choice and they can shop around. Most people don’t baulk at spending money on the latest technology or beauty services and products. A similar investment should be made in your health and wellbeing.”

Lauretta says personal trainers are increasing in popularity because people consider it to be a very motivating, fun, safe and effective way to exercise and meet their fitness and health goals, regardless of age or current fitness level.

“There are loads of benefits of using a PT,” she adds. “Goals are set with the client and worked towards in a collaborative and supportive manner; it is far more motivating if someone is there to keep you focused and it’s a safe option too, as exercise programs are tailored to meet the needs and abilities of the individual.”

Here’s some info from Fitness Australia about personal trainers:

  • Help you make the best use of your exercise time.

  • Help with technique, for the sake of both efficiency and safety.

  • Monitor your progress.

  • Adjust your exercise program in response to your changing fitness level.

  • Offer sound advice on good nutrition.

  • Vary your exercise options to keep you motivated, interested and enjoying your workouts.

  • Anyone who needs additional motivation, advice and support to increase their level of exercise and make positive changes to their lifestyle.

  • Inexperienced people who need special attention, education and support or those who prefer individual, personalised or small group training as opposed to group exercise or developing their own program.

  • People who enjoy goal-setting and monitoring their progress — this is more easily achieved with a personal trainer.

  • People who enjoy a broader range of exercise activities, including outdoor training.

  • Find out what the trainer specialises in and decide on your needs.

  • Feel comfortable with their training approach.

  • Ask to see proof of their public liability insurance cover.

  • Check out the fees and their policy on contracts and cancellations.

  • If you already belong to a fitness centre, ask whether the centre will allow your personal trainer to train you there.

You can check that the trainer is registered as a personal trainer with Fitness Australia through the relevant state or territory association.

Remember, personal trainers can also be accessed through your local gym.

For even more information visit www.fitness.org.au and to find out if your personal trainer is registered with Fitness Australia, call 1300 211 311.

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Patrick’s final words of love

When Patrick Swayze discovered he was dying, he sat down with his beloved wife Lisa Niemi to write about their life together. Woman’s Day shares this yet to be released extract from The Time Of His Life.

Since Patrick Swayze passed away from pancreatic cancer last week, fans and peers have been paying tribute to the incredible life of the 57-year old. He’s described as “gorgeous and strong … with a tender heart,” by Dirty Dancing co-star Jennifer Grey, and “a really good man … to whom I owe much that I can’t ever repay,” by fellow Ghost actor Whoopi Goldberg. Everyone who worked with the Texan-born dancer is in agreement; he had a lust for life which was inspirational and infectious. But Patrick’s most important role was off-screen, as husband to wife of 34 years Lisa Niemi.

They married when Patrick was 23 and Lisa just 19. Instead of crumbling under Patrick’s battle with alcoholism and Lisa’s miscarriage, their love endured. Patrick’s cancer diagnosis in 2007 inspired the couple to renew their vows, sharing heartfelt words with each other in front of family and friends …

“I noticed Lisa Haapaniemi right away, with her lithe dancer’s build, her long blonde hair, and the look of indifference she had whenever she passed me by. I was still intrigued by this mysterious, beautiful girl, but she acted as cool as ever to me … But then came the moment we first danced together onstage. And suddenly, everything changed. We were performing an exhibition of classical dance at a junior high school auditorium in 1972. Lisa and I had learned and rehearsed the pas de deux from the ballet Raymonda.

Just before we stepped out onstage, I kissed her on the cheek for good luck, but that wasn’t the magic moment. The magic happened when she took my hand to start dancing, and our eyes locked. It felt like an electric charge suddenly coursed through my body.

I looked into Lisa’s eyes, and it was as if I was seeing her for the first time. We moved together as one, and I felt a stirring deep in my soul. It was a fleeting moment, but I never forgot it. But after the dance was done, I didn’t mention it to her, afraid that the feelings had been mine alone. But the attraction between us was so strong, and the intensity of our emotions so high, that something eventually had to give. And boy, did it…

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Stressed Ange’s weight crisis

Shocking new pictures of Angelina Jolie taken in Africa last week show the toll of her relationship dramas with Brad Pitt, Matthew Denby reports.

Angelina Jolie’s emaciated appearance while visiting an African refugee camp has sparked new health fears — amid reports that that her weight is plummeting rapidly.

With tension rising in her relationship with Brad Pitt over his drinking and her desire to add to their family of six children under the age of eight, the actress appears to be showing the stress with her gaunt frame.

Looking frailer than some of the Somalian refugees she was visiting in the impoverished Dabaab camp in northern Kenya last week, the star’s new figure has friends and family concerned.

“She is absolutely tiny,” one stunned witness at the camp told the US media last week. “She is skin and bones.”

It’s an assessment shared by New York physician Dr Craig Title, who fears Ange has become too thin in recent weeks. “She looks underweight, and if I were her personal physician I would be alarmed,” he says. “She appears to be around 53kg. This low weight level could be detrimental to her health [and put her at risk of] muscle wasting, fatigue and potential injury to vital organs…”

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Posh’s sister: “You’re too skinny”

Victoria Beckham’s little sister Louise confronts her over her shock weight loss, Katherine Chatfield reports.

One lives in a $25 million mansion in LA with her famous footballer husband and is always seen draped in designer brands. The other is a divorced mum-of-three who lives around the corner from her parents and works hard to ensure there’s food on the table.

Their lives are a million miles apart – yet these two women are sisters.

Victoria Beckham and her younger sister Louise Adams grew up under the same roof, went to the same school and attended the same family gatherings, but their adult lives could not be more different.

While Posh, 35, is rarely out the spotlight, Louise, 33, prefers to live a quiet life, working for a small company in Essex, England, where she and Victoria grew up.

“You’d think it would be a rough deal to be the baby sister of Victoria Beckham, always in her shadow,” says a family friend. “But Louise can hold her own against Victoria any day, and is very content with her life.”

In fact, it’s Louise’s down-to-earth nature that prompted her to have a showdown with her big sister over her diminishing waistline.

“Louise will often tell Victoria when she’s looking too thin, but she’ll make a joke of it, saying something like, ‘Oh, for God’s sake girl, eat McDonald’s or something – it won’t kill you!'” reveals the friend.

“But Louise got a real shock when she flew to LA recently to see Victoria. She is used to her sister being skinny, but this time she actually gasped when she saw her. She sat Victoria down and told her she was really worried about her, and said she could barely hug her, as there was nothing to grab on to.”

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Katie stands tall: I’m not ashamed

Since her bitter divorce from Aussie singer Peter Andre, British model Katie Price has been called everything from a “despicable mother” to a “disgrace”. But now we finally get to hear from one of the most reviled women in Britain. Katie explains that she won’t be apologising for moving on with cage fighter Alex Reid, nor will she be toning down her lifestyle for the sake of her ex-husband.

It’s been reported you were sending Pete love texts just days before your divorce went through. Would you get back with him now if he called?

Never. No. There’s two sides to every story, that is all I am saying. I am in a relationship now. Everyone knows that.

You’ve moved on with Alex, but Peter says he is still single.

I hear different. But I don’t really care what he says; I am getting on with my life. I advise every woman out there, you only live once. If a man says it is over what is the point of grovelling back. It’s over, move on, and Pete has made it very clear it was the end — he never wanted to get back with me. So what am I going to do, sit around and wait till he says you can have a boyfriend now … you can do your stuff?

Peter is quite upset about you flaunting your new relationship with Alex in front of the children …

Pete didn’t complain when he was introduced to my son Harvey by Dwight [Harvey’s dad, Dwight Yorke] when we first got together. Did he worry about Dwight then? No. So you can’t have one rule for one and not the other.

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