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Heart disease in women is more common than you think

Uncle Tobys spokeswoman, Olympian Cate Campbell hopes to educate women on the dangers of heart disease.

Do you know which disease kills four times as many women as breast cancer? If you don’t, you’re not alone – heart disease in women is often dangerously overlooked.

This is something young Aussie Olympian Cate Campbell hopes will soon change.

“Normally when I hear the words heart disease I think of a middle-aged man but that’s not the case at all,” Cate said.

“Heart disease is common in women. Everyone knows about breast cancer and it’s so important to get the message out there about heart disease as well.”

In 2008, 47 percent of people who died from heart disease in Australia were women, making it the leading cause of death for Australian women.

At just 18 years of age, Cate is passionate about informing women of all ages on the importance of knowing the dangers of heart disease in women and having regular check-ups for the disease.

Apart from being an Uncle Tobys spokeswoman, the company which runs the Go Red for Women event, Cate has her personal reasons for being so passionate about the cause.

“I had a small heart murmur when I was a baby,” Cate said.

“After I found that out I thought I would check my heart and keep an eye on it,” she said.

“When you think about it, what’s 20 minutes out of your day?”

Cate says heart disease in women is something that all women, no matter what their age, should be mindful of.

“The earlier the detection, the better. Now that I have the knowledge I know what I need to do and I know the warning signs,” she said.

“You can’t start too early.”

Medical research suggests that women tend to develop heart disease at a later age than men. It is not clear why this is the case, but it may be because oestrogen may provide some protection during the reproductive years.

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My kids are driving me mad

Image source: Getty - posed by models

Image source: Getty - posed by models

I hate to say this, but I’m sick of the atmosphere at home which is mainly caused by the kids not getting on. You name it, they’ll bicker over it.

It isn’t helped by my wife and I disagreeing over the best way to discipline them – she shouts and I prefer to ground them or send them to their rooms.

I love my kids but I’m sick of them. They argue over anything and are always pushing and shoving each other, fighting over toys and whining about everything, from washing their hands before meals to helping to tidy up.

Last week I had to go away for work and spent four nights in a lonely boring hotel room and it was absolute bliss – I’d forgotten how nice it is just not to have that constant racket. I know I sound very uncaring but I’d give anything to have the sort of peaceful family life everyone else seems to have.

One of the problems is that while the way you work means you share the child care, it also leaves you very little time as a couple, made worse by the constant breaking up of spats.

Organise a babysitter and go out together, giving yourselves thirty minutes to discuss sorting out this situation and the rest to relaxing and enjoying yourselves.

Kids by nature love to divide and rule, so agree on how you’re going to deal with this and then stick with it, because they will try to wear you down. You’re in a vicious circle at present where they have got into bad habits and they way you deal with it is disjointed and therefore ineffective.

Agree between yourselves that shouting isn’t the way to deal with this in the long term.

Start with a family conference and explain that you want some changes. Tell the children what you expect of them, make it clear that you’re asking them politely but emphasise that if they will not behave as you wish, then they will be punished.

You need to calmly withdraw treats so decide what is most effective – turning off the TV and computer, taking away games consoles and mobile phones, not allowing them to take part in favourite activities such as Brownies or sport, or not letting them see friends.

Not allowing them to spend time with friends if they cannot treat each other kindly can be very effective, especially if you express justifiable concern that you cannot trust them to behave in other people’s homes when they cannot behave at home.

Positive encouragement should be used at the same time; ask them to do things for you and thank them politely for their efforts.

Give them a basic dinner to prepare for the family on a Saturday evening such as homemade pizza, which has them working together and learning to enjoy being a team. Give them specific tasks, so they can work alongside each other.

Always be consistent. Treat the bad behaviour as unacceptable and having unwelcome consequences and reward the good, always giving more attention to the good.

Every family has the occasional moment of war breaking out but with a bit of concentrated effort you can make a huge difference to family harmony and actually find you like your kids as well as love them.

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Review: *Mother and Child*

With a title as homely as this, you might expect a midday movie about the indefinable bond between a mother and her child. But what you get is something much more amazing.

Mother and Child begins with a montage of a young mother who gives up her child for adoption, before cutting to Karen (Annette Bening), now an uptight and difficult nurse, looking after her dying mother, and the object of Paco’s (Jimmy Smits) affections.

Elizabeth (Naomi Watts), Karen’s daughter, is a high-plains drifter of the legal variety who is taking up her fourth job in different states in 10 years to work for Paul (Samuel L Jackson). She is also measured and controlling in her actions and words. Lucy (Kerry Washington) and her husband Joseph (David Ramsey) want to adopt a child, and Lucy’s anxiety to be a mother is dominating her. And as their fates unfold, their stories slowly come together.

While the movie is about that unbreakable bond, it is examined through the prism of adoption. It looks at the impacts and issues of abandonment on both parties, how it translates to birthing mothers and the people around them.

It is also about the importance of time people need to spend together and how much time we waste looking for ourselves instead of each other. “Time you spend together is stronger than blood,” Paco’s daughter tells us.

The performances of Bening and Watts are sublime. The dialogue is stilted and sparse, yet they say so much with just a turn of their head or the look in their eyes. Some of their best acting involves no dialogue.

Bening and Watts are playing awkward people, scarred by their past, who grow as their lives unfold and they inhabit their characters so deeply, they make this magically moving material. Kerry Washington is unerringly good as the perfectionist mother-to-be. This is acting of the highest order and some of the best you will ever see.

It is heartening to see the male characters (played by Samuel L Jackson and Jimmy Smits) play their roles with complexity and sensitivity. The love scene between Samuel L Jackson and Watts is as awkward, passionless and tender as you will ever see.

There are no stereotypes here. Every support is played with strength and conviction and writer-director Rodrigo Garcia has drawn out some amazing performances from all of them. Shareeka Epps as Ray, the birthing mother, is so strong as a young mother, she will soon star on her own.

This is a film that should deliver higher rewards and awards for all concerned. While the ending may be sentimental, by then you will be lost in the characters’ embrace and happy to see their lives resolved, despite some of the bitter twists on offer.

It’s not often a movie can produce an experience as moving as this, but it is what you get when combining an under-written script, strong direction and beautiful acting and to achieve that is an art. This film is as close to it as you will get.

Mother and Child is in cinemas now.

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Living dolls

Living dolls

They are big business in America – now they’ve hit our shores. JONICA BRAY goes behind the scenes to see what really goes on at child beauty pageants.

They are real-life Barbie dolls… primped and preened with their eyes on the prized tiaras.But behind the scenes it’s not such a pretty scene, as I found with my daughter Caja at the Little Miss Bayside Pageant, in Patterson Lakes, Melbourne.

Inspired by hit US reality TV show Toddlers & Tiaras, Little Miss Bayside went to great lengths to Australianise itself, but the point was the same – children compete against each other to be the prettiest and most talented in the eyes of the judges.

Threats from protesters put organisers on the back foot, and public outcry caused the “swimsuit” category to be changed to the less provocative “active wear”.

The pageant was supposed to be a fun event, where little girls got to be princesses for a day. As my two-year-old Caja and I arrived I promised that as long as our objective was “fun”, all would be well. But when face-to-face with a baby in a pink tutu it was hard not to gently encourage Caja to brighten her smile a little.

Three hours later, I’d seen kids parade across the stage smiling sweetly and waving at their parents – most encouraging, some scary. The grandmother who loudly criticised contestants on stage was awful. Little girls weren’t allowed to play with their new friends in case their hair got mussed up.

“You had better do this right for mummy,” snapped one mum to a tot. “Make sure you look at the judges this time and baby steps, baby steps, baby steps when you’re walking out there.”

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Marion moves on

Marion Grasby

The MasterChef favourite missed out on the title, but has won a much greater prize, writes LUCY CHESTERTON.

Marion Grasby might not have won MasterChef, but as she looks adoringly at her boyfriend Tim Althaus across a windswept South Australian beach it’s obvious she has won something even sweeter – his heart.

As Marion leaps onto Tim’s back in a playful, unguarded moment, then rolls up her jeans for a paddle in the chilly shallows, she couldn’t be happier to finally be back beside Tim, feeling the sand between her toes and with more than a thousand kilometres between her and the three beady-eyed MasterChef judges in Sydney.

“He was extremely happy to have me home,” Marion smiles. “The first thing he did was give me a giant cuddle. I missed his laugh and his sense of humour so much.”

While her time on the hit show is a life-changing achievement, being eliminated in ninth place wasn’t exactly the glorious ending Australia had predicted for Marion, who was dubbed the show’s frontrunner when she tempted the judges in her audition with an innovative twice-baked goat’s cheese soufflé matched with garlic snails.

But when her misguided satay sauce saw her slip up in the kitchen, Marion was more than happy to pack up her plates and rush into the welcoming arms of 29-year-old Tim, who remained at home in Adelaide.

“You can’t be perfect every day,” Marion muses. “Every time I walked into the kitchen I knew someone could be going home and it could be me.

“It was just a bad day in the kitchen for me, and it was unfortunate that it happened on a day when I was up for elimination.”

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Aussie mum’s hell: Jen’s got my man…

Aussie mum’s hell: Jen’s got my man

An unsuspecting wife discovers her soon-to-be ex-husband has moved on with one of the world’s most beautiful actresses. Sound familiar? It sure does to Jennifer Aniston, which is ironic, considering she is now the other woman in a love triangle that has shocked Hollywood.

This time the scorned woman is stunning Queensland native Joanne Gartin, a long-time close friend of Jen and her bestie, Courteney Cox. In the Brad Pitt role as ex-spouse is Joanne’s handsome husband, actor Christopher Gartin. Which leaves Jen as the Angelina Jolie in this marriage meltdown – the other woman who appears to have taken up with Joanne’s man so soon after the relationship breakdown.

When Woman’s Day caught up with Joanne last week, after photographs of her ex and Jen leaving a restaurant emerged, the normally immaculate 37-year-old brunette appeared dishevelled and preoccupied.

“I’m really not at all interested in it,” she said dismissively when asked about the relationship between Jen, 41, and Chris, 42.

However, Woman’s Day can exclusively reveal that behind the scenes it’s a different story after talking to Joanne’s stepmother, Robbie Ahlfeld, on the Gold Coast.

“It’s been difficult for Joanne,” admits Robbie, who learned of the story watching morning TV last week. “I saw [Today show reporter] Richard Reid talking about Jen being seen with a mystery man and I thought, ‘Is that Chris?’ And then I thought, ‘Surely not!’

“It just seems so bizarre to me because Jo and Jen are such good friends. I find it very strange that Jen would do that [to Jo].”

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Kyle & Tamara’s shock split

Kyle Sandilands and Tamara Jaber

Kyle Sandilands and Tamara Jaber are on the rocks less than two years after their elaborate wedding, writes JONICA BRAY.

Shock jock Kyle Sandilands has left the marital home he shared with wife Tamara Jaber and has been living in Sydney hotels since the couple’s relationship began to show strain several months ago.

“I’m off with Tamara,” Kyle told friends at a private party in Sydney last week, after repeated rumours the high profile couple are separating.

“It’s an open secret,” a close friend of Kyle’s reveals to Woman’s Day. “They’ve been on the rocks for months.”

Kyle and Tamara have remained friends throughout their troubles. It is understood Kyle has held off on confirming the split because he wants to allow Tamara her time to shine on Dancing With The Stars without distractions.

Friends were informed of the couple’s woes when Kyle celebrated his 39th birthday at the Piano Room in Sydney’s Kings Cross on June 12, although it’s believed their problems began well before that. At Kyle’s big bash, the pair arrived together and walked the red carpet, but Kyle left alone at 10pm.

“He left without Tamara,” confirms one friend. “He’s been staying at Star City [a casino in Sydney] and she’s been staying at their family home.”

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JFK Jr’s secret mistress

Sybil Hill

More than a decade after the shock death of John F. Kennedy Jr, his secret lover reveals details of their romance for the first time.

The love story between Sybil Hill, now 44, and the son of President John F. Kennedy began in 1991, and lasted until he died in the plane crash in July 16, 1999, that also claimed the lives of his wife, Carolyn Bessette Kennedy, and her sister, Lauren Bessette.

“I met John Kennedy on January 6, 1991, at the Moondance Diner,” Sybil recalls. “I walked in with a date when a gorgeous-looking man pointed out a vacant table. I remember thinking, ‘He looks just like John Kennedy Jr!’ We were across the restaurant, but we couldn’t stop looking at each other.

“When my date went to the bathroom, I went up and we chatted … He found a piece of paper and wrote ‘John’ and a phone number.”

Sybil, a successful artist and willowy look-alike of John’s future wife Carolyn, called him a week later.

“We went out to dinner at a small restaurant,” she recalls. “John said, ‘You haven’t asked me my last name’, and told me.”

After a month of dating, the two went to bed together for the first time. “The sex was breathtakingly wonderful. I remember the first time I woke up in his bed, looking at photos of his parents, President Kennedy and his wife Jackie. It was surreal.”

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First photos of Ethan Smith

Proud parents Dannii Minogue and Kris Smith have introduced their son Ethan Edward Smith to the world by posting the first photo of their little boy on Twitter.

“Hey everyone thanks for all your wishes, we are loving baby Ethan and Kris is the best dad in the world,” wrote a clearly delighted Dannii, 38. “He is the most adorable little man, looks like his amazing mum,” added Kris, 31.

Dannii had to abandon plans to have Ethan at home after last minute complications, and their first son was eventually born at Melbourne’s Royal Women’s Hospital on July 5.

Dannii Minogue, Kris Smith and baby (Twitter)

A close-up of baby Ethan Edward Smith (Twitter)

Dannii and English model Kris have been dating since 2008

Kris posted this message on Twitter earlier in the week.

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The Governor General’s love story

Photography by Jason Loucas

Photography by Jason Loucas

When Michael Bryce fell in love with a determined young woman, his life changed forever. Now she is the nation’s first female Governor-General, Ms Quentin Bryce, and the love story has spanned a lifetime, writes Michael Sheather

Michael Bryce remembers the moment he realised Quentin was the woman he wanted to marry. “She would have been 18 or 19 at the time,” recalls Michael, now 71. “It was the early 1960s and I’d been at university for a couple of years by then.

“She’d been in and out of my focus for a while, then one day, she just appeared. We were on the Gold Coast; she was with a group of friends. I saw this skinny girl with white hair. It was all curly and sticking up. She was tanned and walking through a hotel foyer. Even today, it’s like a picture imprinted on my mind.

“I knew from that moment I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.”

And what an extraordinary life that has been. Quentin Bryce carved out a distinguished career, first as a lawyer, mother and feminist, then as the federal sex discrimination commissioner under the Hawke government. She then broke ground as the first female governor of Queensland, before becoming Australia’s first female governor-general in 2008.

Yet, as Quentin Bryce, 67, would be the first to acknowledge, these are accomplishments she has not achieved completely on her own. Standing beside her through all that time was Michael, a man who led no less a distinguished career of his own, as well as being a devoted husband, confidant, father and grandfather.

Quietly spoken, but with strong and considered opinions, Michael is one of the country’s leading architects and designers, a member of the Australian Design Hall of Fame, a former federal president of the Industrial Design Institute of Australia and a winner of the House of the Year Award. He was also the driving force behind such enduring logos as those for the Wallabies, the National Trust, the ring-tailed possum of the National Parks and Wildlife Service and even the Sydney Opera House-inspired 2000 Olympics logo which marketed Australia to the world.

While regarded as something of an icon in the design community, Michael remains largely unknown to the general public. And yet, his role in Quentin’s success – as her self-appointed minder in a sometimes gruelling vice-regal schedule – is as vital today as it has ever been.

Michael met Quentin at primary school in Camp Hill, Brisbane, when he was a teenager and she was aged about nine. “Quentin was a close friend of my sister and she was always at our house, in and out. She’d moved to Brisbane from the country, when her father came to manage a wool scour nearby.”

Quentin moved away and Michael didn’t see her again until they met again at the University of Queensland, in the early ’60s. “At first, I didn’t really notice her, even though she was pretty active in student affairs. We were both going out with other people,” says Michael.

“But, eventually, we moved into the same circle of friends and started going out, and I asked her to marry me. She remembers more about it than I do.

“She remembers exactly what she was wearing – pearl earrings and a blue dress, and that we ate coq au vin for dinner at the Belvedere Hotel. Her memory is so good – she can remember every occasion and appointment she has had in her life.”

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