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One Man Show: The Stages of Barry Humphries

  • Wear deep V neck lines. It is important to show a little skin. + Make sure you balance your proportions. If you wear a loose fitting top, wear a tailored pair of pants – this will flatter your figure. + Avoid high necklines – eg: scarves, bows and frilly colours. + A narrow tunic style top worn over slim pants will create an illusion of overall slimness and divert attention away from your stomach. Stay away from smock style tops or blouses – these will only make you look larger. + Wide and straight legged trousers will camouflage heavy legs. + If you have curves like Beyonce – flaunt them! Wear belts to cinch in your narrow waist to show off your divine feminine shape. + Do not choose pants with an elastic waist band over a tailored pair. Tailored pants will slim and control your shape – while elasticized pants will give you no shape at all. + Wear colour! Try to stick with solid colours rather than patterns – some patterns can make you look bigger – eg: large spots. + Look for clothes with shape and structure eg: that come in at the waist. Dressing in head to toe baggy clothes will look awful. + Experiment with accessories. Try large drop earrings or long necklaces that will help to elongate your shape. + If you are bigger at the bottom wear darker colours at the bottom and lighter at the top or reverse if you are smaller at the bottom and larger on top.

One Man Show: The Stages of Barry Humphries by Anne Pender, ABC Books, $35

Get your gladdies and wave them Possums, its time to celebrate the life of Edna Everage and the wild genius of her “manager” Barry Humphries. Intellectual, witty, and flamboyant, Humphries stood out in suburban mid-century Melbourne. At his sport loving private school he was the boy sitting with his back to the cricket match, knitting.

Hilarious examples of Humphries’ stinging wit pepper this authorised biography, which celebrates his extraordinary talent without shying away from his many difficulties. There are the drunken antics, some funny, some sad, the critical and popular failures, and his battles with alcoholism and depression.

This is also the story of Australia’s favourite suburban megastar, Edna Everage. From her humble beginnings as a shy twin-set wearing housewife, to her incarnation as a monstrously egotistical couture-clad Dame, her evolution is compelling.

One Man Show shines a spotlight on a sparkling original; an endlessly fascinating artist, satirist, and entertainer.

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Sister

Sisterby Rosamund Lupton, Piatkus Fiction, $32.99

Beatrice thinks of herself as the successful reliable older sister of warm but flaky art student Tess. But when Tess dies and police rush to decide it’s a suicide, Beatrice reevaluates everything about herself and those close to her. What makes this book special is the way the reader is put into the same situation. We’re misled into thinking Sister is a conventional murder mystery. But nothing and no-one is as they seem.

Beatrice is a charming character, she’s smart, determined, and loving, but she may not be as reliable a narrator as she pretends. Eventually you’re forced to rethink everything she’s told you, and that’s when the true suspense begins.

A fresh plot and a stunning twist make Sister truly startling, and combined with a gripping ending, it more than makes up for Lupton’s occasionally overwrought prose. I dare you to try to predict its final pages.

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The Secret Lives of Dresses

The Secret Lives of Dresses by Erin McKean, H & S Fiction, $29.99

From the love, personal growth, and fashion genre, comes “The Secret Lives of Dresses”. Dora is in danger of becoming a professional student, but she’s more enamoured of her hapless boss at the campus coffee shop than she is of her studies.

When the grandmother who raised her becomes seriously ill, Dora heads home, to help run grandma’s vintage clothing store. Many of the dresses are sold with one of her grandmother’s hand-written secret stories, often a tale of a crucial moment in the previous wearer’s life. Those tales help her learn about her wise but secretive gran, and about the parents she never knew. In the process Dora learns about herself, and how to make wiser choices in love and life.

There are no surprises here, and no challenges, but this book delivers exactly what you’d expect: like a fifties cocktail dress it’s comfortable, well executed, and blessed with an understated glamour.

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Red Wolf

Red Wolf by Lisa Marklund, Bantam Press (Random House, Emma Caddy) $32.95

Annika Bengtzon may be a wife, and the mother of two small children, but she’s also one of the most courageous and determined investigative reporters in Sweden. Still suffering psychologically from her last run-in with a psychopath, Bengtzon takes a break from crime reporting, to investigate a terrorism cold case. But when a reporter following the same story dies suddenly, Bengtzon finds herself on the trail of a dangerous man.

If you liked The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo, then Red Wolf will probably appeal. Just like Larsson, Marklund writes of a wintery, corrupt Sweden, and Annika has to rebel against authority while hunting a killer. She also does it while raising two kids, and fighting a younger woman for the affections of her sulky husband.

This is the fifth Annika Bengtzon book, but don’t be afraid to jump in here, like me, you might find yourself rushing out for the first four.

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Are you too busy to enjoy life?

Are you a NETTEL? This acronym, coined by market researchers to describe people struggling with crazy-busy lives, stands for: not enough time to enjoy life.
Are you too busy to enjoy life?

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Are you a NETTEL? This acronym, coined by market researchers to describe people struggling with crazy-busy lives, stands for: not enough time to enjoy life.

These 10 tried-and-true tips can help you to find a little bit more time for yourself on even the most hectic day.

1. Break it down: When faced with a huge task, as the saying goes, “Take one bite of the elephant at a time” — do one thing at a time, do it well, and move onto the next. Don’t waste time by panicking over what you have to do, or haven’t done yet.

In pictures: Feel better on the Bollywood diet

2. Plug time leaks: Fill in those little leftover moments of time with something constructive. When you’re stuck in traffic or kept waiting for an appointment, listen to your iPod or a talking book, read a magazine, plan a menu.

3. Clean up as you go: If you spend 10 minutes every day looking for your keys, work files, bills or lost earrings, you waste more than 60 hours a year. Remember what your mother told you, “A place for everything, and everything in its place.”

4. Work out what you’re worth: Calculate your hourly wage. Then, perhaps you can pay someone less than your rate to do the time-consuming chores you hate most. That way, you’ll have more time to either do the work that pays you more, or just chill.

5. Don’t say “yes” straight away: When you’re asked to do something you don’t have to time to do, train yourself to say, “I need 24 hours to think it over — I’ll get back to you.” When you call back to say no, suggest someone who may be able to do the job instead. That two-letter word “No” is the single most important time-management tool you have.

6. Shorten your “to-do” list: According to Forbes magazine, the most effective managers identify only three top priorities every day. Try it. Your self-esteem gets a big boost when you repeatedly cross off all three tasks, day after day. Anything more than three is a bonus.

7. Write a “don’t do” list as well: This should include any tasks you can delegate, anything that you do just to please others, and any job that really doesn’t matter much. Ask yourself: “What’s the worst that can happen if I don’t do this?” If the answer is “Not much” — don’t do it.

8. Pick your peaks: Are you a day person or a night person? Everyone has a biological clock and certain times of day when we are most alert, and other times when we’re not. Schedule routine chores and low-priority jobs for your “down time”.

9. Jump in: The most insidious thing about procrastination is that the job gets bigger and harder and scarier the longer you keep putting it off. Once started, most people are surprised to find it doesn’t take that long after all.

Related: The meltdown-free guide to time management

10. “Stop when you’re hot,” Ernest Hemingway said: In other words, stop a task at a point when you’ve achieved something, rather than in the middle of a problem. It’s much easier to return to it.

Your say: Do you have any time for yourself? How do you make sure you have time for you?

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Body sculpt: Best workout for your body type

Which workout will give you the best results in the shortest amount of time? It all depends on your body type. Exercise physiologist and nutritionist Kathleen Alleaume reveals the right fitness level for your body type.
Body sculpt: Best workout for your body type

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Which workout will give you the best results in the shortest amount of time? It all depends on your body type. Exercise physiologist and nutritionist Kathleen Alleaume reveals the right fitness level for your body type.

There are a number of different body types and you can thank (or blame) your parents for the genetics you have inherited. Although you can’t change your height or bone structure, you can certainly change your body shape (fat versus muscle) with the right exercise and eating habits.

As soon as you adjust your fitness routine according to your build and metabolism, you will achieve success more easily and faster than ever before.

If you don’t feel you fit exclusively into one category, opt for the body type that best describes most of your characteristics. This guide to body types is a helpful place to start but remember, no matter what category you fit into, your first concern should be health.

People who are inactive, overweight or have any medical problems may need a clearance from their doctor before embarking on any new exercise program. If you have any doubts or concerns, see your GP or exercise physiologist for individualised advice.

In pictures: Gym habits that are holding you back

Which body type are you?

While we’re all individuals, most of us fall into one of three basic categories: endomorph, mesomorph and ectomorph. Don’t be dazzled by these scientific terms. Working out which group you fit into and knowing the most effective exercise for that body type will give you the best chance of reshaping your body.

  • Ectomorphs tend to be thin, long-limbed and typically described as the “ruler” shape. They are usually tall in stature, with a long, slender neck. And due to their super fast metabolism, they carry very low levels of body fat, but have poor muscle definition compared to mesomorphs (below).

  • Mesomorphs tend to be the best body types for controlling weight. Typically referred to as the “hourglass” shape, mesomorphs have broad shoulders with a narrow waist and have a muscular physique enabling them to lose weight more easily than endomorphs (below).

  • Endomorphs are generally shaped like “apples” or “pears” and carry more body fat relative to muscle. They tend to have a round, chubby face and usually struggle to control their weight, due to a slower metabolic rate than other body types.

How to exercise

Ectomorphs

Since ectomorphs burn kilojoules very quickly and tend to want to gain weight, their fitness routines will differ. Good exercise for ectomorphs includes intense weight training workouts that will tire the muscles and build them up. Weight training is also good for building bone density, which is important for women, whose bones are prone to osteoporosis. Cardiovascular exercise is still important for general health and wellbeing.

Weight training: Three times per week, targeting the upper and lower body. Perform moderate to heavy weights with a low number of repetitions (2 x 8 repetitions), as too much activity will burn lots of kilojoules. The goal should be to try to build muscle, rather than waste kilojoules minimising what muscle tissue you already have.

Cardio: Thirty minutes, three times per week, of low-to-moderate intensity aerobic activity, such as brisk walking and swimming. Swimming is highly recommended because the water provides resistance, which is great for muscle toning.

Mesomorphs

Strength training: Yoga or Pilates, three times per week, provides muscular conditioning in a routine more likely to develop muscle tone, not size. This type of exercise will ensure a good balance between the upper and lower body, and encourage balance, stretching and flexibility.

Cardio: Circuit training (moving quickly from one exercise to the next without a break), one or two times per week, promotes strength and stamina without building bulk. Other options include boot camp, spin and step classes.

Endomorphs

Endomorphs usually carry extra fat around the lower abdomen, hips and thighs, so the key is to start with a program that burns kilojoules. Many endomorphs avoid weight training because they don’t want to bulk up. You should not avoid weights! Since building lean muscle also burns fat, endomorphs should also include weight training in their fitness plans to give their metabolism an extra boost at the same time.

Related: Women march for a better life

Weight training: Once or twice per week of moderate weight training, using the whole body. Use light to moderate exercises, with lots of repetitions, at a slow pace (3 x 15 repetitions) to burn extra kilojoules. To improve body symmetry, you may want to double up on upper-body exercises. For example, push-ups, pull-downs and chin-ups.

Cardio: Thirty to 60 minutes of cardio work, three to six times per week, for maximum fat and kilojoule burn. Your cardio workouts should generally be done at a moderately intense level, such as brisk walking (adding hills), elliptical training, stair climbing, jogging and incline walking. Be sure to choose a safe exercise as the extra weight can cause increased pressure on joints and bones, so it is important to avoid engaging in exercises that can add stress to these areas. Also, increase incidental exercise levels by walking (instead of driving) and taking the stairs (instead of lifts or escalators). The goal should be to burn as many kilojoules as possible.

What about diet?

Ectomorphs: Lucky you! Due to an extra fast metabolism, you actually need to eat more kilojoules than people with other body types, especially if you’re trying to build muscle. Don’t get too carried away, though, thinking you can eat whatever you want – making healthy choices is still important. Focus on complex carbohydrates, such as multi-grain breads, pasta and whole grains, fruit and vegetables. It’s best to eat often and snack on kilojoule-dense foods, such as nuts and dried fruit.

Mesomorphs: If your goal is to put on muscle, you need to consume an excess of both complex carbohydrates and protein. If you consume too many kilojoules and don’t exercise, you will put on extra fat. Aim for lean protein, such as turkey, chicken, low-fat dairy, fish and legumes, and opt for carbohydrates with a low-glycaemic index (slow-digesting), such as grainy breads, brown rice and noodles, and include healthy fats from raw nuts, olive oil, flaxseed oil and avocados.

Endomorphs: If you eat more kilojoules than you need to maintain your current weight, your body will store those extra kilojoules as fat. So, you should try to lower your total kilojoule intake by eating five or six mini-meals per day (this also helps stave off hunger). Never wait until you’re hungry to eat and never eat until full. Instead, load up on high-fibre, low-glycaemic index carbohydrates, such as fruit, vegetables, wholegrain breads, pastas and brown rice, to keep you satisfied for longer. Avoid sugar, processed food and junk food entirely. Drink enough water to stay properly hydrated. Also eat as much lean protein as possible, avoiding fatty meats and alcohol, which are high in kilojoules.

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How to wear: The new skirt length

How to wear: The new skirt length

Images from Fendi's spring 2011 ready-to-wear catwalk show

Somewhere in between a midi and a maxi, a new length of skirt arrived during the spring-summer shows and looks set to stay for autumn. The hem hovers a few centimetres above the ankle, and looks beautifully chic on the genetically blessed blondes wafting down the runway, but can it work for the rest of us?

This new hem length is a welcome alternative to the panic-inducing miniskirts of late — not only do they cover a multitude of sins; they are also an easy piece to throw on for work that will transition easily from summer to winter. However there are a few guidelines to help you pull it from frumpy to fabulous.

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Firstly, heels are a must. Even though Chloé paired floaty Grecian numbers with soft ballet flats, mere mortals should opt for sky-high heels. Although the ankle-strap version was a favourite with designers, beware of this style as it can easily cut you off and make your legs look shorter. Demure pumps will elongate your silhouette while also lending to a ladylike and polished look for work and evening, or try wedges for a modern, daytime feel.

Avoid wearing heavy layers on top. Instead, keep it simple and fresh with a T-shirt for the weekend, or a silk or chiffon blouse for easy glamour. Add a pop of colour or a statement print on the top if you are bottom heavy, and once the colder weather sets in, team it with a slouchy jumper, belted around the waist for a defined figure, or try a slim fit cardigan.

Your say: Are you glad skirts are getting longer again? Will you wear the new lengthier garments?

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Are you too busy to enjoy life?

Are you too busy to enjoy life?

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Are you a NETTEL? This acronym, coined by market researchers to describe people struggling with crazy-busy lives, stands for: not enough time to enjoy life.

These 10 tried-and-true tips can help you to find a little bit more time for yourself on even the most hectic day.

1. Break it down: When faced with a huge task, as the saying goes, “Take one bite of the elephant at a time” — do one thing at a time, do it well, and move onto the next. Don’t waste time by panicking over what you have to do, or haven’t done yet.

In pictures: Feel better on the Bollywood diet

2. Plug time leaks: Fill in those little leftover moments of time with something constructive. When you’re stuck in traffic or kept waiting for an appointment, listen to your iPod or a talking book, read a magazine, plan a menu.

3. Clean up as you go: If you spend 10 minutes every day looking for your keys, work files, bills or lost earrings, you waste more than 60 hours a year. Remember what your mother told you, “A place for everything, and everything in its place.”

4. Work out what you’re worth: Calculate your hourly wage. Then, perhaps you can pay someone less than your rate to do the time-consuming chores you hate most. That way, you’ll have more time to either do the work that pays you more, or just chill.

5. Don’t say “yes” straight away: When you’re asked to do something you don’t have to time to do, train yourself to say, “I need 24 hours to think it over — I’ll get back to you.” When you call back to say no, suggest someone who may be able to do the job instead. That two-letter word “No” is the single most important time-management tool you have.

6. Shorten your “to-do” list: According to Forbes magazine, the most effective managers identify only three top priorities every day. Try it. Your self-esteem gets a big boost when you repeatedly cross off all three tasks, day after day. Anything more than three is a bonus.

7. Write a “don’t do” list as well: This should include any tasks you can delegate, anything that you do just to please others, and any job that really doesn’t matter much. Ask yourself: “What’s the worst that can happen if I don’t do this?” If the answer is “Not much” — don’t do it.

8. Pick your peaks: Are you a day person or a night person? Everyone has a biological clock and certain times of day when we are most alert, and other times when we’re not. Schedule routine chores and low-priority jobs for your “down time”.

9. Jump in: The most insidious thing about procrastination is that the job gets bigger and harder and scarier the longer you keep putting it off. Once started, most people are surprised to find it doesn’t take that long after all.

Related: The meltdown-free guide to time management

10. “Stop when you’re hot,” Ernest Hemingway said: In other words, stop a task at a point when you’ve achieved something, rather than in the middle of a problem. It’s much easier to return to it.

Your say: Do you have any time for yourself? How do you make sure you have time for you?

Video: Stress-proof your morning

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Body sculpt: Best workout for your body type

Body sculpt: Best workout for your body type

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Which workout will give you the best results in the shortest amount of time? It all depends on your body type. Exercise physiologist and nutritionist Kathleen Alleaume reveals the right fitness level for your body type.

There are a number of different body types and you can thank (or blame) your parents for the genetics you have inherited. Although you can’t change your height or bone structure, you can certainly change your body shape (fat versus muscle) with the right exercise and eating habits.

As soon as you adjust your fitness routine according to your build and metabolism, you will achieve success more easily and faster than ever before.

If you don’t feel you fit exclusively into one category, opt for the body type that best describes most of your characteristics. This guide to body types is a helpful place to start but remember, no matter what category you fit into, your first concern should be health.

People who are inactive, overweight or have any medical problems may need a clearance from their doctor before embarking on any new exercise program. If you have any doubts or concerns, see your GP or exercise physiologist for individualised advice.

In pictures: Gym habits that are holding you back

Which body type are you?

While we’re all individuals, most of us fall into one of three basic categories: endomorph, mesomorph and ectomorph. Don’t be dazzled by these scientific terms. Working out which group you fit into and knowing the most effective exercise for that body type will give you the best chance of reshaping your body.

  • Ectomorphs tend to be thin, long-limbed and typically described as the “ruler” shape. They are usually tall in stature, with a long, slender neck. And due to their super fast metabolism, they carry very low levels of body fat, but have poor muscle definition compared to mesomorphs (below).

  • Mesomorphs tend to be the best body types for controlling weight. Typically referred to as the “hourglass” shape, mesomorphs have broad shoulders with a narrow waist and have a muscular physique enabling them to lose weight more easily than endomorphs (below).

  • Endomorphs are generally shaped like “apples” or “pears” and carry more body fat relative to muscle. They tend to have a round, chubby face and usually struggle to control their weight, due to a slower metabolic rate than other body types.

How to exercise

Ectomorphs

Since ectomorphs burn kilojoules very quickly and tend to want to gain weight, their fitness routines will differ. Good exercise for ectomorphs includes intense weight training workouts that will tire the muscles and build them up. Weight training is also good for building bone density, which is important for women, whose bones are prone to osteoporosis. Cardiovascular exercise is still important for general health and wellbeing.

Weight training: Three times per week, targeting the upper and lower body. Perform moderate to heavy weights with a low number of repetitions (2 x 8 repetitions), as too much activity will burn lots of kilojoules. The goal should be to try to build muscle, rather than waste kilojoules minimising what muscle tissue you already have.

Cardio: Thirty minutes, three times per week, of low-to-moderate intensity aerobic activity, such as brisk walking and swimming. Swimming is highly recommended because the water provides resistance, which is great for muscle toning.

Mesomorphs

Strength training: Yoga or Pilates, three times per week, provides muscular conditioning in a routine more likely to develop muscle tone, not size. This type of exercise will ensure a good balance between the upper and lower body, and encourage balance, stretching and flexibility.

Cardio: Circuit training (moving quickly from one exercise to the next without a break), one or two times per week, promotes strength and stamina without building bulk. Other options include boot camp, spin and step classes.

Endomorphs

Endomorphs usually carry extra fat around the lower abdomen, hips and thighs, so the key is to start with a program that burns kilojoules. Many endomorphs avoid weight training because they don’t want to bulk up. You should not avoid weights! Since building lean muscle also burns fat, endomorphs should also include weight training in their fitness plans to give their metabolism an extra boost at the same time.

Related: Women march for a better life

Weight training: Once or twice per week of moderate weight training, using the whole body. Use light to moderate exercises, with lots of repetitions, at a slow pace (3 x 15 repetitions) to burn extra kilojoules. To improve body symmetry, you may want to double up on upper-body exercises. For example, push-ups, pull-downs and chin-ups.

Cardio: Thirty to 60 minutes of cardio work, three to six times per week, for maximum fat and kilojoule burn. Your cardio workouts should generally be done at a moderately intense level, such as brisk walking (adding hills), elliptical training, stair climbing, jogging and incline walking. Be sure to choose a safe exercise as the extra weight can cause increased pressure on joints and bones, so it is important to avoid engaging in exercises that can add stress to these areas. Also, increase incidental exercise levels by walking (instead of driving) and taking the stairs (instead of lifts or escalators). The goal should be to burn as many kilojoules as possible.

What about diet?

Ectomorphs: Lucky you! Due to an extra fast metabolism, you actually need to eat more kilojoules than people with other body types, especially if you’re trying to build muscle. Don’t get too carried away, though, thinking you can eat whatever you want – making healthy choices is still important. Focus on complex carbohydrates, such as multi-grain breads, pasta and whole grains, fruit and vegetables. It’s best to eat often and snack on kilojoule-dense foods, such as nuts and dried fruit.

Mesomorphs: If your goal is to put on muscle, you need to consume an excess of both complex carbohydrates and protein. If you consume too many kilojoules and don’t exercise, you will put on extra fat. Aim for lean protein, such as turkey, chicken, low-fat dairy, fish and legumes, and opt for carbohydrates with a low-glycaemic index (slow-digesting), such as grainy breads, brown rice and noodles, and include healthy fats from raw nuts, olive oil, flaxseed oil and avocados.

Endomorphs: If you eat more kilojoules than you need to maintain your current weight, your body will store those extra kilojoules as fat. So, you should try to lower your total kilojoule intake by eating five or six mini-meals per day (this also helps stave off hunger). Never wait until you’re hungry to eat and never eat until full. Instead, load up on high-fibre, low-glycaemic index carbohydrates, such as fruit, vegetables, wholegrain breads, pastas and brown rice, to keep you satisfied for longer. Avoid sugar, processed food and junk food entirely. Drink enough water to stay properly hydrated. Also eat as much lean protein as possible, avoiding fatty meats and alcohol, which are high in kilojoules.

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Ruby Rose on how she beat bullying

Ruby Rose on how she beat bullying

One in four Australian students will be bullied at school this year. Bryce Corbett talks to TV presenter Ruby Rose about how she overcame the bullies who made her school days hell.

Ruby Rose:

“It only really started when I got to high school. I was never really one of those kids who blended in. By the time I got to high school, I was different enough to attract the attention of bullies. The fact I refused to apologise for being different just added fuel to their fire.

“I was raised by a single mum; we never had much money. I couldn’t afford the clothes all the girls were wearing and I’d get around in Blundstones and trackies. I started doing a bit of modelling and that seemed to annoy the bullies. Plus there was the fact I was gay. It was usually groups of girls who would hassle me.

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“Year 10 was the worst. It got so bad I begged my mum to change schools. It’s not her fault, she never really knew how bad it was, but she would tell me to ignore the bullies and they would go away. They didn’t.

“One afternoon after school I was attacked in a café. A metal chair was smashed repeatedly against the back of my head. The whole school had gathered to watch it happen. And as much as the pain of the attack was awful, the thing that hurt me the most afterwards was that no one stepped in to try to stop it. I remember looking up while the attack was taking place and seeing people laughing. I had to be taken to hospital.

“When you’re at school, it’s hard to see beyond those four walls. You’re too young and have too little life experience to know that school is just a tiny blip on what will hopefully be a long and happy life. It was only when I left school that I discovered there’s a whole world out there – and it’s a big, exciting, tolerant world, filled with people just like you.

Related: A parent’s guide to bullying

“Do I harbour any bitterness towards the bullies? Not really. I used to, but now I’m older I look back and think those same girls have probably had their own disappointments and challenges and tragedies in their lives and at some point had to face their own demons. As Oprah says, hating someone is like drinking poison every day.”

Read more of this story in the March issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Your say: Were you bullied at school? Do you think children these days are bullied more than in the past? How do you think society should deal with bullies?

Get 3 issues for Only $6 when paying by direct debit. That’s a massive saving of 71% on your first 3 issues! $18.95 every 3 issues thereafter.

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