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Investing in your clothes

Investing in your clothes

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To help you make the most of your wardrobe staples, save a few hundred dollars each year and build a wardrobe full of wearables, follow these quick tips and tricks.

Garment care instructions

It’s important to look after the items in your wardrobe so always read the garment care instructions before washing.

Dry cleaning

Research good dry cleaners in your area and when taking the garments to be cleaned, make sure you point out any marks or delicate features in the garment, such as beading or embroidery. Also, mention the fabric to the cleaner and make sure they’re aware of the best way to clean it.

Study your fabrics

Know the fabrics that you’re wearing. Cottons are perfect for the summer months; it’s also an easy wash-and-wear fabric and long lasting. Silks are a little more delicate, expensive and generally need to be dry-cleaned. Wool is a natural fibre, hand washable and should be laid flat to dry, to avoid stretching out of shape.

Fabric snagging

Be careful when wearing delicate fabrics not to snag the fabric on jewellery such as rings and bracelets. Also, be mindful of the handbag you’re carrying. Will it catch on the fabric?

Hanging your garments

Always refer to care instructions on your garments when hanging delicate fabrics. Knits are best not hung, as they can stretch and lose their shape easily ? they’re best folded neatly and placed in a drawer. Always handle your garments gently to avoid fabric “bruising”.

Choosing the right water temperature

Hot water is best for sheets and towels. It’s a better cleaning wash but can also shrink and fade fabrics. Most people wash in warm water; it’s perfect for heavily soiled clothing and is softer on your clothes. Delicate fabrics should always be washed in cold water, to avoid shrinking and loss of colour.

Be cautious of wardrobe mould

In places of high humidity, wardrobe mould can be common. Invest in a dehumidifier and sprinkle baking soda in the bottom on your wardrobe to save your clothing from mould and foul odours.

Colour saver

Always try and hang your clothes in a wardrobe instead of on a clothes rack. Keeping them out of natural light will help save the colour.

Clothes dryers

Try to avoid using a clothes dryer at all costs. Natural drying will prolong the longevity of your clothing. High heat and tumbling can cause shrinking and weaken the fabric.

Storing your clothes

When the warmer months start to roll around, it’s time to do a spring clean of your wardrobe and store away your winter woollies. Scarves, gloves, coats and sweaters can be stored in airtight vacuum-sealed storage bags. They’re easy to use and shrink down into small packages that can be stored away under your bed or high in cupboards. Make sure the clothes are clean before putting them in the bags, otherwise insects may have a feast on your garments.

Choosing a washing machine

If you want to prolong the life of your clothes, it’s important to choose a machine that is gentle on fabrics. As well as being energy-efficient and a great water saver, front loaders are more tender on your clothes because they don’t have the middle agitator found in top loaders, which can be tough on your clothes.

Liquid v powder washing detergent

If you’re torn between buying liquid and powdered laundry detergents, don’t be ? there isn’t any difference between the two. But liquid can be a little more expensive than powder. Just make sure you’re buying the right detergent for your washing machine. Any detergents can be used in a top loader, but for a front loader you need to buy the suitable detergents as they use fewer suds.

Do you have any handy clothing care tips? Share your gems of wisdom with other Woman’s Day readers below.

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True Confessions Agony Aunt: A family friend is dating my 20 year-old daughter

Family disagreement

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An old friend of mine has started going out with our 20 year old daughter and we are so upset.

My wife is distraught and I can hardly sleep thinking about this horrible man pawing my lovely daughter and that he seems to have no shame over taking advantage of her and our friendship.

He was at her 18th birthday party with his then girlfriend and has known our daughter since she was born – how could he possibly be thinking of her in this way when he knew her as a little girl?

We’ve tried talking to her but she says she loves him, it’s none of our business and she is old enough to see whoever she chooses.

She stays in a flat with friends and seems to think she’s done a great favour in telling us about it as she says she could have seen him without us knowing.

I find the 24 year age difference absolutely disgusting and I keep wondering if he was waiting for her to grow up before he made his move.

She says they would like to come round to see us together but that’s like agreeing to this.

Sometimes a relationship with a big age difference can work and you don’t want to lose your daughter by refusing to accept this possibility, though it could take you and your wife a long time to come to terms with it.

Another worry is your daughter’s reaction if you turn this into Romeo and Juliet and drive them together, because the one thing she wants to do at the moment is prove that she’s right, even if it means clinging onto a relationship which isn’t going to last the distance.

The age difference would probably have been difficult for you anyway but the added issue of him already being your friend is making it worse.

Discuss with your wife how you can take the drama out of all of this, even though that’s currently the last thing on your mind. You want this over and life to go back to what it was, but that’s not going to happen while you remain visibly upset about it and nor is it going to happen just because that is what you want.

Keep things low key, agree that she can bring him round for a coffee and diffuse any grand declarations of love before they happen by saying that it came as a shock but you realise that she’s an adult and you’ll leave them to get on with it.

Then talk about anything else, stay determinedly cheerful and if either of them go on about how wonderful it is to have found each other be maddeningly distracted – ‘Lovely. Another slice of cake anyone?’

It’s not ideal but if you stay calm maybe the contrast between their ages will kick in soon and finish it naturally, with your daughter still close to you and confident you’re not going to say ‘ I told you so.’

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The joys and challenges of raising an autistic child

Kids can 'grow out' of autism, study says

When Julie Hawkins’ third child was born, she and her husband thought they had “struck gold”.

Unlike her two older siblings, baby Sarah was quiet, laid-back and had no problem sleeping for hours on end. But as their “perfect child” started to grow up, Julie began to notice that something might be wrong.

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“With our older children, they had so many sleep problems and Sarah was the baby that was happy, seen and not heard,” Julie says. “We initially thought we’d struck gold and had the perfect child.

“But then we noticed something was wrong. She was reaching all her milestones when it came to sitting up, crawling and walking but she wasn’t responding to her name.

“Fortunately my mother-on-law is a special needs teacher, and she helped us. By the time we took her to the paediatrician, we were pretty much sure she had autism.”

Doctor’s diagnosis

Sarah was informally diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum when she was just 18 months old, and formally diagnosed at three years old.

Julie admits she was upset when she realised Sarah was autistic, but quickly decided to make the most of the situation.

“We went to the doctor for confirmation, rather than a diagnosis, so we weren’t shocked,” Julie says. “That’s not to say I didn’t shed a tear when I got back to the car.

“Everyone wants their child to be ‘perfect’ but there are a lot of things that could have happened to Sarah that are a lot worse than autism.”

The joys

Sarah is now eight years old. She attends a special needs school and ongoing therapy sessions and Julie says the family is stronger than ever.

“It’s tough, but I think Sarah was sent to make us better, more understanding and compassionate,” she says.

“One thing I am very adamant about is that we don’t shy away from the fact that she is autistic. I’ve met people who are embarrassed about their children’s disabilities but I think you have to speak up for your kids because they can’t speak for themselves.”

The challenges

Tomorrow is the first day of Autism Month. Julie hopes Australians will notice this and decide to find out more about the autism spectrum.

She has faced many challenges raising an autistic child, but says one of the most difficult things is the reactions she gets from other parents when Sarah is “misbehaving”.

“The looks I get in shopping centres because she’s having a meltdown can be awful,” Julie says. “Other parents don’t understand that she isn’t just being naughty. I hope more people use Autism Month as an excuse to find out more so that they can be a little bit more understanding and compassionate to me and all the other carers out there.”

A helping hand

Julie says she and her family owe a lot to Autism Spectrum Australia, a not-for-profit group that provides education and support for autism sufferers and their families. Without the organisation, Julie doesn’t know where she would be.

CEO of Autism Spectrum Australia Adrian Ford is thrilled Julie’s family has blossomed with his organisation’s help, but says there are thousands of others out there who deserve assistance and recognition.

“Parents with children who have an autism spectrum disorder face all sorts of challenges,” Adrian says.

“Some families have to deal with the heartbreak of watching their children struggle to make friends; others have to accept that their children may find it difficult to speak and have to come up with other ways to help their children communicate.

“It can be a very isolating experience for a family, as well as for the person with autism. Autism Month is about awareness and acceptance, but it’s also a time to celebrate the achievements of these people and their families, as well as the professionals who work with them.”

Related: Diagnosing autism

Autism spectrum disorders affect one in every 160 people. It is a lifelong developmental disability that affects sufferers’ social skills and ability to communicate and interact.

Autism month runs from April 2 to May 3. For more information about autism, contact Autism Spectrum Australia.

Your say: Do you know someone who is raising a child with autism? What challenges do they face?

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Prince William won’t wear wedding ring

Prince William won't wear wedding ring

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Prince William will not wear a wedding ring following his marriage to Kate Middleton later this month, a senior palace source has claimed.

The St James’s Palace aide said only one ring will be exchanged at William and Kate’s wedding ceremony in London’s Westminster Abbey on April 29, due to “personal preference”.

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William will give his bride a “simple band” made of Welsh gold, but she will not give him anything in return because he doesn’t like jewellery.

“It was something the couple discussed but Prince William isn’t one for jewellery — he doesn’t even wear a signet ring — and decided he didn’t want to. It really is just down to personal preference,” the unnamed source told the UK’s Daily Mail.

“Catherine will wear a ring fashioned from a lump of Welsh gold owned by the royal family that has been smelted down. The couple have both had a hand in the design. This is the ring Prince Harry will carry and hand over in the traditional way.”

Most male royals wear some sort of wedding ring. William’s father, Prince Charles, wore a ring given to him by Princess Diana from the day of their wedding in 1981 until the day he announced his engagement to his current wife, Camilla. Charles now wears a wedding ring given to him by Camilla next to his signet ring on the pinkie finger of his left hand, as is the tradition in aristocratic circles.

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The Queen’s husband, Prince Philip, is the only exception in the modern royal family, declining to wear any sort of ring.

Kate’s ring will be crafted from a large gold nugget that has been in the royal family for years. It came from the now-closed Clogau Gold Mine in Wales, and has been used to make jewellery for several royals, including the Queen.

Your say: Do you think men should wear wedding rings?

The Weekly will be tweeting live from London on April 29. Follow @AWW_London and @WomensWeeklyMag for the latest news and gossip.

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Delta Goodrem and Brian McFadden split

Delta Goodrem and Brian Mcfadden split

Delta Goodrem and Brian McFadden have announced that they have split up.

The pair released a joint statement today saying they had “mutually decided” to end their engagement and separate.

“This decision has been made with a lot of soul searching from both parties with the realisation that they have grown apart,” representatives for the couple said in a media release.

“They leave the partnership with respect for one and other, wishing each other success and happiness for the future.

“Delta and Brian appreciate there will be interest regarding this announcement but request that their time together is respected and they are given privacy during this time of transition.”

The singers, who had been together since 2004, became engaged in 2007.

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Michael Bublé ties the knot

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Well it is official ladies, Canadian singer Michael Bublé is off the market. The Grammy Award-winning singer married his Argentine fiancée, actress Luisana Lopilato, in a civil ceremony in Buenos Aires yesterday.

Taking a new spin on the traditional white wedding dress, Luisana wore a purple pleated mini-dress with sheer tulle trim and held a small bouquet of orchids, which she later tossed into the crowd of fans who had gathered outside the ceremony.

But this civil ceremony is just the first part of the couple’s big wedding plans.

“We are doing one in Argentina and that’s for her close family, and then we are doing one in Vancouver,” Michael has previously said about their wedding plans.

And at the request of his 23-year-old bride, Michael won’t be singing at any of the ceremonies. Instead, Argentine-Venezuelan singer Ricardo Montaner will belt out a tune.

After all the ceremonies and celebration the pair won’t be heading off on a relaxing honeymoon. They have instead chosen to spend the time doing charity work with children in Africa.

The pair became engaged in 2009 after meeting after one of Michael’s concerts in 2008.

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Epidural case sparks medical review

Epidural case sparks medical review

Grace Wang and baby Alex

The catastrophic medical accident at Sydney’s St George Hospital that confined Grace Wang to a wheelchair and deprived her of the ability to hold her baby son has prompted a review of epidural procedures across the NSW health system.

Grace, 32, had antiseptic injected into her spinal instead of anaesthetic after a mix up between chemicals on the sterile equipment table as Grace began giving birth to her baby son Alexander on June 26 last year.

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In an exclusive interview in this month’s Australian Women’s Weekly, the young mother revealed she has lost the majority of movement in her legs and now cannot lift her arms above her shoulders, hold her son or feed herself. She needs a mechanical sling to move in and out of bed.

It prompted a report by NSW Health that recommends topical antiseptics be banned from the sterile equipment table to stop them from being injected into patients accidentally, the Sydney Morning Herald says today. Further, the report says antiseptics should be distinctively coloured to reduce the possibility of confusing solutions used during the epidural procedure. The NSW Health Department says the report is an internal document, and refused to release it.

Grace’s husband Jason told The Weekly that doctors administered an epidural to Grace, but realised shortly after that it had failed. They also noticed blood in the catheter indicating that it had touched a vein or artery.

Meeting epidural victim Grace Wang

During a second epidural the team noticed a pinkish tinge to the liquid they were injecting into Grace, which should have raised alarm bells, but they assumed the colour came from blood in the catheter. They continued the procedure, injecting eight millilitres of the antiseptic chlorhexidine into Grace’s spine.

The report also suggested the NSW Health Department consider using different sized and coloured syringe plungers.

Read more of this story in the April issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

Your say: Do you have any words of encouragement for Grace and her family?

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Why you’re never too old to flash some flesh

Gok Wan: How to look good with any body shape

Celebrity stylist Gok Wan

It is a fashion truth universally acknowledged that women of a “certain age” should keep their cleavage and thighs to themselves.

But to celebrity stylist Gok Wan, ankle-length skirts and billowy blouses belong in a Jane Austen novel and nowhere near the modern-day woman.

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“There is no such thing as being too old to flash a bit of cleavage,” he told The Weekly. “You shouldn’t have to lengthen your hemline and cover up when you get to a certain age.

“These parts of your body are what make you a woman and sexy and gorgeous and feminine. I don’t think you should ever have to hide them away. If you’ve got it girl, get it out.”

Dressing for dates

The most important time for flaunting flesh is when on a date. Gok has encountered hundreds of women who donned slinky dresses for dates when they were in their twenties, but have no idea what to wear now they are over the age of 35.

His answer to all these worried women is simple: if you dress for your body type you can keep wearing the same styles for decades of dating.

“When choosing clothes for a date, dressing for your body shape is number one,” Gok said. “You’ve got to be slightly flirtatious on a date. You are trying to impress someone, after all.

“My biggest tip is probably [choose] boobs or legs. Pick one, never both — that might send out the wrong signal. It’s chest and arms, or legs. Then reduce that down the more dates you go on until you’re suddenly in your underwear.”

The importance of ‘she time’

To all of you who cringe at the thought of a man seeing you in your underwear, Gok has some more words of wisdom.

“For all those people who are sitting at home thinking ‘I’m too old, I’m too fat’, I would say, number one, ‘You’re a long time dead.’ And number two, you’ve worked pretty hard establishing who you are as a person, I’m sure you’re absolutely wonderful, it’s time for you to invest in some ‘she’ time.

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“You need to really honestly appreciate who you are as a person. You have much right as anyone else to feel great about yourself.”

Gok is currently in Australia for Westfield’s Style Tour, which will see him travelling to shopping centres across the country to dispense style tips and makeovers.

Your say: Do you think women should stop wearing revealing clothes as they get older?

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The Summer Without Men

The Summer Without Men

The Summer Without Men by Siri Hustvedt, Sceptre, $25

When Mia’s husband of 30 years calls for a pause in their marriage (“the Pause was French with limp but shiny brown hair. She had significant breasts”) she goes mad briefly, is hospitalised, and emerges from hospital shaken but sane into a world entirely made up of women.

They span the generations, from her mother and the four formidable widows with whom she lives in assisted care, to the seven pubescent girls who join her poetry class and the young mum struggling with two kids next door.

Mia becomes friend and confidante to them all – while brooding a little on her husband and a lot on the essential differences between men and women. It’s nowhere near as meaty as Hustvedt’s best-selling What I Loved but it’s funny, literary and fiercely smart.

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Savages

Savages

Savages, by Don Winslow, William Heinemann, $29.95

It was Sir Michael Parkinson — well-known TV interviewer, lesser-known crime buff — who first put me onto Don Winslow, describing his 2005 novel The Power of the Dog as the best crime thriller ever written. He’s probably right.

Four books on, Winslow returns to Dog territory, where corruption-riddled American anti-drug enforcers wage war on ultra-violent Mexican drug cartels, leaving a trail of headless bodies in their wake. Only now the Baja cartel is crossing the border into southern California.

Home to a small, good-vibes drug business run by two amiable beach bums. Chon the ex-Navy seal, Ben the surfer son of two psychiatrists. They’re like yin and yang and the book opens with the cartel’s message to them: co-operate, or die.

Turns out neither Chon nor Ben are the co-operative kind. Savages is dark, violent, and funny, like a hopped-up mix of Elmore Leonard and Quentin Tarantino. It’s also sharp about post-GFC America. “You gotta love ‘home invasions’. We thought it would be Mexicans, turns out it was mortgage companies”.

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