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Being a woman: How much does it cost?

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Cost of being a woman revealed

Million Dollar Woman has uncovered the truth at last, with research confirming it costs 4 per cent more to be a woman than a man.

Given that, I have a confession. I have a shoe fetish. Some people go weak at the knees at a new car, the latest designer handbag, an overseas holiday or a night out at an expensive restaurant. For me, it’s what’s wrapped around my feet. The trouble is, new shoes often look and feel fabulous in the store, but by the time I get them home and have worn them once, they feel like wooden clogs — with the same pizazz as a pair of Ugg boots. This winter I have two perfectly good black pairs sitting in my wardrobe, never to see the light of day — rejected by their mother.

Are all women like this? Are we chronic spenders, splashing out on our favourite playthings while men earnestly count their savings? We spend more on clothing, hair, beauty and gift giving, while our blokes splash out more on entertainment and health.

Is it any wonder that it costs more to be a woman than a man when we pay more than $70 for a simple haircut and blow-dry when men are often handed change from $35?

Why do women’s clothes always seem to cost more than men? Is our fashion more upmarket or are guys simply tighter with their cash? Or is it because we are suckers for a good sales pitch?

Let’s face it we’ve all been there, you walk into a shop and the assistant says you look ‘great’ in that over-priced, barely-fitting dress. “Oh, that’s such a good colour on you”. We shouldn’t fall for such a transparent sales pitch, particularly when the sales assistant is barely out of nappies. For me I’d much rather go shopping with a girlfriend who’ll provide some honest advice: “Lynette, that colour clashes with your eyes and the cut makes you look like Aunt Cheryl”. That’s what friends are for.

In the past I’ve felt like a fool for buying the same thing over and over again. I’m now drawing a line in the sand. This winter I said no to the six pairs of near identical black pants in the wardrobe and took the shocking move of drawing up a clothing ‘list’.

We do it shopping for groceries at Woolworths and Coles, so why not Westfield? The turnaround has been dramatic. I feel liberated, free from the impulse purchases that hit the credit card hard and make the monthly repayments more difficult than they need to be. I’ve got back to basics, even though my husband still heads out to JB Hi-Fi every second weekend with our 10-year-old son to feed his gadget habit. Sure, there’s some great father-son time going on there, but I’d be just as happy if they kicked a footy around the local park.

One half of me is happy being the ‘sensible shopper’ while the other half yearns for the instant joy of wandering past a boutique window and saying ‘I’ve just GOT to have that gorgeous dress’. What does all this mean? This Saturday night my husband is staying home to look after the kids and I’m going to hit the town with my girlfriends to have a good time.

We deserve it. What are you going to do? More results from the Cost of Being a Woman survey.

Lynette Argent is the CEO of Million Dollar Woman, an insurance brand designed to meet the needs of women.

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Holiday inspiration: St Petersburg, Russia

The tsars are long gone, but their great city of palaces built to impress the West still continues to dazzle 100 years on.
Peterhof Summer Palace

When in St Petersburg there’s nothing quite so decadent as to slip into Yeliseyev’s food hall on Nevsky Prospekt, buy a 300gm tin of chilled caviar ($80) and eat it by the spoonful just up the road in Arts Square.

For something more delicate, opt for golden Oscietra; a tonic that enlivens the senses and helps a hangover. Then there’s sevruga, an intensely dark, almost luminous caviar that’s reputed to add sparkle to a love affair.

Caviar, it has to be said, is one of the city’s great bargains, costing only a third of the price it does Down Under. And a park bench in leafy Arts Square, under the steady gaze of the statue of Russian poet Alexander Pushkin, is the perfect place to enjoy it.

If you’re feeling a little jaded, choose beluga caviar; its opalescent grey-blue beads are said to clean the palate and lift the spirits like vintage champagne.

A stone’s throw away is the Winter Palace, former home of the tsars, who proclaimed that caviar from the sturgeon could be eaten only by members of the imperial family. Anyone found ignoring the decree was imprisoned or put to death.

Ninety years after the fall of the tsars, caviar is making a comeback. In the Caviar Bar of the Grand Hotel Europe on Arts Square, men in Zegna suits buy beluga for $200 a pop — three swallows and it’s gone — that’s equal to twice the average Russian’s monthly wage.

Sharp-suited men such as these could easily stroll into Yeliseyev’s and save themselves a small fortune. But that’s missing the point. Known as blatnoi, they flaunt their wealth as a badge of high office within Russia’s vast black market economy. In St Petersburg, one sees them at all the best addresses.

It’s fascinating to watch them arrive at the Grand Hotel Europe, as I did 18 months ago. Like any international airport, the hotel lobby has a metal detector through which everyone is required to walk.

Every time, without fail, the blatnoi would trigger the alarm. And every time, they would stand aside and shrug their shoulders, before slipping a hand under their jacket to retrieve a gun. Once it was deposited in the hotel safe, they were free to enter.

Yet, it’s a different story down town on Moscow Square (seven stops south of Nevsky Prospekt on the Metro’s Blue Line). Here a monumental statue of Lenin, one of two left standing in the city, dominates a square the size of two football fields.

Nearby ragged pensioners can be often found attempting to sell their last possessions — a few cheap heirlooms, laid out on the grass, or a war medal or two.

After working all their lives under the communist system, this generation now faces abject poverty, their state pensions rapidly evaporating with the onset of capitalism.

Founded over 300 years ago by Peter the Great, St Petersburg was one of the great metropolises of Europe.

Adorned with palaces that matched Versailles, here the ruling Romanovs made their cousins, the Windsors of London, look suburban. Their family feuds, scandalous affairs, secret marriages, coups d’etat, regicide … all ensured that there was never a dull moment at the Romanov court.

Their palaces were the setting for some of St Petersburg’s greatest dramas, and they remain the city’s most glamorous monuments.

By the River Neva runs the colossal facade of the Winter Palace, built by Peter’s daughter, the Empress Elizabeth. A town house for the Romanovs, the palace contains no fewer than 1500 rooms and 117 staircases.

Today it houses the Hermitage Museum, one of the world’s great art collections, started by Elizabeth’s daughter-in-law, Catherine the Great.

Their homes are not confined to the city. To escape the summer heat, the Romanovs built great parks and palaces.

The grandest is the Peterhof, a thunderous statement of the tsars’ power and untouchability. In its Baroque staterooms, mirrors on facing walls reflect a sense of infinite space, as if the Romanovs believed they would go on for ever.

Located just 800km south of the Arctic Circle, St Petersburg may be famous for its freezing winters when ice skating on the Neva is all the rage, but during its sultry midsummer, the sun barely sets.

During the festival of the White Nights, its residents forsake their beds and party all night. You’ll find them drinking vodka on boats cruising the city’s canals, eating borsch and blinis in restaurants on Nevsky Prospekt, the city’s Champs-Elysées, or dancing the night away at one of the grand palaces, dressed in 19th century costumes under crystal chandeliers the size of cars, almost as if the tsars were back in town.

Climb the 262 steps to the colonnade under the great dome of St Isaac’s Cathedral’s and the views of the city will keep you mesmerised for hours. From here, you can see why St Petersburg is the new buzz city in tourism.

A 90-minute boat trip (from the Anichkov Bridge on the Fontanka River) will cover most of the canals, cross the Neva, pass by the Winter Palace, to the Peter and Paul Fortress on the north bank.

Watch out for the historic 1900 cruiser Aurora, which fired the shot of the 1917 Russian Revolution.

Walk along the Griboedova canal and you will pass several beautiful pedestrian bridges, one supported by giant lions, another by cast-iron griffons with golden wings and a thousand reflections of shabby, but still handsome, 18th century buildings.

Eventually you’ll arrive at the Church on Spilled Blood, a riot of colourful onion domes and mosaics, architecture more reminiscent of medieval Moscow than baroque St Petersburg.

Everyone should explore Nevsky Prospekt and Gostinyy Dvor, the city’s 18th century bazaar; Yeliseev’s food hall, the elegant glass-covered Passazh shopping arcade and the incredibly kitsch Versace store (opposite Yeliseev’s), an old palace lodge with its original stone statues of scantily clad Roman legionnaires standing guard outside.

Today Nevsky Prospekt looks like a temple to conspicuous consumption, but it wasn’t always the case. During the 900-day Siege of Leningrad, when Hitler’s armies surrounded the city between 1941 and 1944, when the bombs rained down and the food ran out, people ate cats, dogs, glue, shoes and, in some cases, corpses.

Officially, 632,000 citizens died, though the true figure is probably much higher.

So spare a thought for the old men and women selling summer berries and war medals on Moscow Square. Some of them are the last surviving children of the great siege.

Indulge yourself with a tin of caviar by all means, then make your way Moscow and share your good fortune with some real Russian heroes.

TRAVEL FACTS

A grand tour

Insight Vacations has an eight-day Easy Pace Russia guided tour (from $2350; flights not included) that visits St Petersburg for four days, including visits the Winter Palace, St Isaac’s Cathedral, Fortress of Peter and Paul and Peterhof Summer Palace, and three days in Moscow that includes visits to the Red Square, the Kremlin Fortress, Lenin’s Mausoleum, St Basil’s Cathedral and the metro station, known as “the palaces of the people” with their chandeliers and marble columns. The tour also includes train travel “Soviet-style” between the cities and stays at the St Petersburg Crown Plaza hotel and the Hilton Leningrad Skaya in Moscow. Contact your local travel agent.

Tips

Beware of pickpockets when strolling the city streets. Ensure all valuables are hidden, including cameras. Use money belts and avoid handbags. Wear comfortable shoes as the palaces, historic squares and other historic sites require a lot of walking.

In the northern winter (November-April), take warm clothing suitable for Arctic conditions, such as padded ski jackets and pants, and layers of insulated clothing which are easy to peel off when indoors. In summer, take light clothing, such as cotton trousers, shorts, T-shirts with a fleece for colder snaps at night.

Visas are $85 (single entry tourist). Visit: www.sydneyrussianconsulate.com

Local currency: 31 Roubles = $1.

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Getting around

The best way to get around the centre of this historic city is to walk. For longer trips, hire a private car and driver or a taxi with a meter at your hotel (avoid flagging down taxis on street); or take the metro — it’s cheap, clean and safe, has some beautiful historic stations, and is the deepest subway in the world.

Normally trains arrive every 2-3 minutes, with slightly longer waiting periods early in the morning and late at night. Most stations open at about 5:45am and close between midnight and 0:30am. Ensure your city guide book has a metro map.

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Are cartoons ruining our kids?

Violent video games, book, make kids more aggressive

Some of our children’s favourite cartoons are damaging their ability to concentrate, a new study has claimed.

Psychologists in the US found that four-year-olds shown clips of modern fast-paced animations, such as the popular Spongebob Squarepants, performed significantly worse in memory, attention and logic tests than those who spent their time drawing instead.

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The study, published in the current issue of Pediatrics, put 60 American four-year-olds into three groups. One group watched a nine-minute clip from Spongebob Squarepants, in which scenes change every 11 seconds on average, while another group watched an educational cartoon where scenes changed every 34 seconds.

The third group was given paper and crayons and allowed to draw for the same period of time.

The children were then asked to complete several exercises, designed to test their logic, concentration and short-term memory.

The group that watched the fast-paced cartoon performed half as well as the children that watch the educational clip, who performed half as well again as those allowed to draw.

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Study leader Dr Angeline Lillard from the University of Virginia said the study’s findings should make parents seriously reconsider the type of TV shows they let their children watch.

“Given the popularity of some fast-paced television cartoons among young children, it is important that parents are alert to the possibility of lower levels of executive function in young children at least immediately after watching such shows,” she said.

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How do women find a man? It’s all in the voice

How do women find a man? It's all in the voice

When it comes to remembering a male, women rely heavily on the deep pitch of a male’s voice and will use this information when it comes to choosing a mate.

A new UK study conducted by David Smith and colleagues from the University of Aberdeen, found that a low masculine voice is important for both mate choice and the accuracy of women’s memory.

The findings, which have been published online in Springer’s journal, Memory & Cognition, suggest that a woman’s memory is sensitive to a male’s voice pitch.

“Our findings demonstrate that women’s memory is enhanced with lower pitch male voices, compared with the less attractive raised pitch male voices,” Smith said.

“Our two experiments indicate for the first time that signals from the opposite sex that are important for mate choice also affect the accuracy of women’s memory.”

So how does it work? Smith and colleagues found that the pitch of a male’s voice is important for mate choice because it can indicate genetic quality as well as signal behavioural traits which woman may find undesirable in a long-term partner.

In order to select and eliminate a potential partner, women rely on their memories to rapidly provide information about the attributes and past behaviour of potential partners.

During the study two experiments were conducted. The first involved 45 women who were initially shown an image of a single object while listening to the name of the object, spoken either by a high- or low-pitch male or female manipulated voice.

The women were also shown two similar but not identical versions of the object. They were then asked to identify the one they had seen earlier and which voice they preferred.

The second experiment saw researchers use real male and female voices to test how 46 new women rated the voices and how they scored on object memory.

Both experiments found that women had a strong preference for the low-pitch male voice and remembered objects more accurately when they had been introduced by the deep male voice.

“We think this is evidence that evolution has shaped women’s ability to remember information associated with desirable men,” Dr Kevin Allan, who supervised the research, said.

“Good memory for specific encounters with desirable men allows women to compare and evaluate men according to how they might behave in different relationship contexts, for example a long-term committed relationship versus a short-term uncommitted relationship.

“This would help women to pick a suitable partner, and that’s a particularly important ability to have because the costs of poor mate-choice decisions can be severe.”

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Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness

Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness

In Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness Alexandra Fuller braids a multilayered narrative around the perfectly lit, Happy Valley-era Africa of her mother’s childhood; the boiled cabbage grimness of her father’s English childhood; and the darker, civil war- torn Africa of her own childhood.

At its heart, this is the story of Fuller’s mother, Nicola. Born on the Scottish Isle of Skye and raised in Kenya, Nicola holds dear the kinds of values most likely to get you hurt or killed in Africa: loyalty to blood, passion for land, and a holy belief in the restorative power of all animals. Fuller interviewed her mother at length and has captured her inimitable voice with remarkable precision. Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness is as funny, terrifying, exotic, and unselfconscious as Nicola herself.

To read the first chapter of Cocktail Hour Under the Tree of Forgetfulness click here.

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Australia’s biggest family…15 kids and counting!

Australia's biggest family...15 kids and counting!

Jeni and Ray Bonell have just welcomed their 15th child to the world – and they’re not planning to stop there. The Queensland couple tell Woman’s Day why….

When paying a visit to the Bonell family’s Toowoomba home, you’d be forgiven for hesitating before knocking gingerly at their front door. You just don’t know what explosion of chaos will confront you once that door is opened. After all, this is the home where “born to be parents” Jeni, 42, and Ray, 43, live with their 15 kids. That’s right, 15 – the latest addition being the very cute and plump Damian, just three months old.

“Welcome to our world,” beams Jeni as she ushers Woman’s Day through a front room heaped high with mint-condition Barbie dolls. “The dolls are mine. As you can see, I collect things. I collect everything, including children.” She’s sort of joking, but isn’t – for living happily under the roof of this seven-bedroom Queensland home are Jesse, 21 (he’s recently moved out but visits all the time), Brooke, 20, Claire, 18, Natalie, 16, Karl, 15, Samuel, 13, Cameron, 11, Sabrina, 10, Timothy, 8, Brandon, 6, Eve, 5, Nate, 4, Rachel 3, Eric, 18 months, and baby Damian. All siblings are thoroughly enchanted by their new little brother.

“It’s like having your own hot water bottle to cuddle,” says doting big brother Karl. “He’s easy to look after, he just sleeps a lot.” “There’s certainly no shortage of babysitters around here,” grins a proud Jeni. “You ask what baby number 15 means to me? It means less sleep, more nappies and more adventures ahead. He’s just gorgeous.” You’d expect mayhem in a house teeming with kids, but the chaos is ordered. “We have fun, but we run the house with rules of tough love,” Jeni explains. “Let’s just say the ‘misbehaving mat’ gets used on a regular basis.”

Does the ‘misbehaving mat’ work when it comes to keeping her big brood in line? “Yes, and no,” she laughs. “With a couple of the kids, I don’t think anything would work! Ultimately, the family works as a team and we get things done.” Colour-coded rosters keep each family member on track. As soon as a child turns eight, they know they have to contribute to the chores.

See more pictures of the Bonell family and find out how much they spend on their weekly shopping in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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Exclusive: Inside Schapelle’s new prison cell

Exclusive: Inside Schapelle's new prison cell

See more exclusive pictures in this week's Woman's Day on sale September 12, 2011.

A single mattress, a doona and Donald Duck… As these shock photographs reveal, Schapelle Corby has created a strangely cosy world within Bali’s Kerobokan Prison.

The mountain of stuffed toys and sheets covered in love hearts may make it look like a teenage girl’s overcrowded bedroom, but this is the Balinese prison cell that Schapelle Corby calls “home”. It is in this surprising setting that the former Gold Coast beautician, now 34, paints her toenails, dyes her prematurely grey hair and lies on her bed reading books about the meaning of life as she ponders what she’s lost and how she’ll cope with another 11 years behind bars.

As news broke in Australia last week of a possible suicide attempt, Kerobokan Prison’s longest-serving female prisoner – jailed in 2004 for trafficking 4.2kgs of cannabis – was back doing what she does every monotonous day. There’s reading, beading, painting and staring into space, sometimes for hours at a time.

“Every day I see Schapelle sitting in front of her cell in a daze,” a fellow prisoner says. “Once I asked what she was doing and she told me, ‘Waiting, waiting, that’s all I do. I wait because there is nothing to do in here except wait.’ She looks really sad.”

Around the time of Schapelle’s birthday two months ago, prisoners reportedly found her slumped on the ground drowsy, suffering the effects of a drug overdose. She had apparently swallowed nine days’ worth of her prescribed anti-psychotic medication in one go. Her sister, Mercedes, is unsure whether it was a suicide attempt, although Schapelle has cut her wrists twice in the past three years.

See more exclusive pictures of Schapelle inside her Bali prison cell in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

Your say: Is it time to bring Schapelle Corby home? Share your thoughts below.

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Kate and Pippa’s beauty secrets

The Middleton girls have a couple of well-kept beauty secrets that keep them looking blemish free and beautiful.

Kate wears barely any make-up, usually opting for just tinted moisturiser, blush, mascara and eyeliner, and uses a light emulsion day-and-night cream containing liquid oxygen and vitamin A. Pippa on the other hand is a fan of oxygen facials that plump up skin, lasting for at least 24 hours.

The pair are also fans of Lancôme’s Visionnaire Advanced Skin Corrector, which you could have the chance to win!

See all the compeition details and read more about their beauty secrets in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale September 12, 2011.

Pippa and Kate Middleton’s beauty regimes are all about simplicity.

Kate chooses a hair colour and highlights that enhances her complexion.

The sisters are fans of wearing their hair half up half down which lifts the face.

Pippa enhances her natural tan with a professional spray-tan.

She also never leaves home without moisturizing her legs.

In the lead up to the Royal wedding both sisters stuck to a beauty and diet regime.

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How Kate Winslet got her best body ever!

How Kate Winslet got her best body ever!

At 35, Kate Winslet has never looked better!

After revealing she had to “starve” herself for her role in the blockbuster movie Titanic, Kate Winslet famously declared, “I’m not a twig and I refuse to be one.” Proud of her womanly curves, the Oscar-winning actress maintains a healthy approach to beauty and diet, even in body-conscious Hollywood.

In fact, many believe the mother-of-two is looking sexier than ever at the age of 35. The UK beauty – who was so “uncomfortable and self-conscious” about her weight as a teen that she took diet pills – has overhauled her body, beginning with an alcohol ban in January. “She used to enjoy a glass of wine now and then or some champagne,” a friend reveals. “Now she’s convinced all alcohol is terrible for your body and she has a good time without it.”

A trimmer figure isn’t the only reward clean-living Kate is reaping after avoiding alcohol. The actress is enjoying glowing skin, and is now launching her own limited edition make-up line with beauty giant Lancome. When off-duty, Kate applies her own make-up, and relies on simple tricks like using blotting papers to keep her fresh-faced.

Even working in plastic fantastic LA won’t change her mind that natural is beautiful. “[Plastic surgery] goes against my morals, the way my parents brought me [up] and what I consider to be natural beauty. I will never give in,” she says.

Read more about Kate Winslet’s body secrets in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

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Kate and Pippa’s diet secrets!

Kate and Pippa's diet secrets!

The svelte Duchess of Cambridge and her equally stunning sister have the Dukan Diet to thank for their enviable figures.

As Kate Middleton walked down the aisle towards Prince William in April, she looked fabulous – and it wasn’t just her bridal glow people were commenting on. The one thing royal watchers wanted to know was how normally sporty Kate, 29, transformed her athletic 173cm figure into the lean lines of a fashion model almost overnight.

Now Woman’s Day can reveal the secret behind her svelte shape. Kate followed the Dukan Diet, alongside mum Carole and sister Pippa who both tried out the same eating plan to get in shape. And, boy, did it work for them. Remember Pippa in that bridesmaid’s dress? This wow-look-at-us-now diet, devised by French nutritionist Pierre Dukan, is taking the world by storm and has been since it was translated into English and eight other languages ahead of the royal wedding.

With a tagline “Five million French people can’t be wrong”, it’s an eating plan that has put Dr Dukan’s 30-plus years of experience in the nutrition industry to great use. Backed by science – not to mention scores of skinny ladies – Dr Dukan’s diet kick-starts your metabolism with an intense protein-only phase, before you slowly reintroduce other foods. Soon after that, followers can go back to eating what they want forever, provided they have one pure protein day a week. Its creator claims it is the “most effective and easy-to-follow diet available”. And while no-one would have called the Middletons overweight before, a modified version of Dukan provided the key to speedy and safe weight-loss – to help you lose 5kgs fast.

For those of us with a few more to lose, Dr Dukan’s regime, devised a decade ago, is made up of four phases, each of which is detailed in his bestselling book The Dukan Diet. These stages are essentially four mini-diets that form the overall plan. Like the famous Atkins Diet of the 1970s and 80s, the plan is meant to put your body in a state of ketosis, meaning it uses up its fat reserves in the early stages. Unlike its high-protein pal, The Dukan Diet bans fats as well as carbs in the initial stage of the four-phase regime.

Read more about the Dukan Diet in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale September 12, 2011.

Your say: Have you tried the Dukan Diet? Share your story below.

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