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How to succeed at anything

Top six tips to help you achieve success

It doesn’t matter whether you are trying to succeed at work, in your relationship or with your wealth the principles are the same. Accredited nutritionist and exercise physiologist Caitlin Reid provides you with the top six tips that will help you succeed no matter what.

1. Know what you want

You must have the desire to succeed. This means you need to know what you want in life and be able to identify the actions that you need to take to achieve your goals. Goals provide a guide to your destination in life and without them, others determine where you’ll end up.

2. Never give up

Persistence is the number one thing for being successful. It’s easy for people to become disheartened when they are criticised or encounter a hurdle while trying to achieve their goals, but to be a true success you must persist through the criticism, rejection, pressure and failure. A fighting spirit will make you succeed.

3. Believe in yourself

To be successful you need to have a positive outlook and believe that you can achieve your goals. When you feel good about yourself, you react more confidently to life’s challenges. If you believe in yourself and push yourself through shyness and self-doubt you will succeed more far than you will fail. Believe and you will achieve.

4. Never stop learning

Successful people never stop learning. They learn from their mistakes, new experiences and other people. Learning at every opportunity increases your knowledge in old and new areas and keeps you ahead in your field. Read books, acquire new skills and seek additional training and it will definitely set you apart from the rest.

5. Do what you love

To do something well you must at least like it, but it helps to love it. Being passionate about the things you spend your time on is energising and motivates you to succeed. Do what you love, and success will come.

6. Avoid conditional happiness

Too many of us believe that if some problem resolved itself we would finally be happy. But striving for happiness without sitting back and finding happiness at this particular point in your life is no way to live. Successful people avoid delayed gratification and don’t sit around waiting for problems to resolve. Successful people find happiness at every instance, rather than just when they think things are going right for them.

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Manners in the new digital era

Manners in the new digital era

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Twittering and texting are taking over our social lives. So what are the rules – and pitfalls – of this new digital era?

June Dally-Watkins has been the high priestess of Australian etiquette and deportment for 50 years and, quite frankly, she’s appalled by the state of things.

Sick of being knocked in the street by people too involved with their iPhones and Blackberries to watch where they’re going.

Appalled by men wearing sunglasses to evening functions.

Mortified by MasterChef judges holding their forks incorrectly and “shovel in” their food. Even, God help us, on Junior MasterChef, where they should be setting an “example”.

“Me, me, me, me, me! Nobody exists but me!” June despairs. “They are involved with themselves. They don’t really communicate with other people. They’re constantly texting or on Twitter and that’s not face to face, that’s not eye to eye.”

Not that she’s stuck in another era, mind you. June just thinks all people, particularly Generation Y, need to be more considerate. And she believes there is definitely a way to navigate the digital age and keep oneself nice.

Digital etiquette rules:

DO

Answer emails and telephone calls within 24 hours.

Provide a brief introduction if you want to “friend” someone on Facebook and your identity isn’t apparent to them.

Sit the whole family down to dinner a couple of times a week and teach children proper table manners.

Open doors for people, particularly your superiors.

Let other cars in when you’re in traffic.

Send a text message to the parents of a newborn rather than phoning.

DON’T

Speak/text/Tweet/email on your mobile phone in company.

Be seen to “call-screen”; it’s obnoxious. If it’s inappropriate to answer your phone, call back as soon as you can.

Wear sunglasses indoors or at a meal.

Use capital letters in emails or texts – it’s the equivalent of shouting.

Use “emoticons” in business correspondence.

Post mundane status updates on Facebook or Twitter. Nobody cares if you have just had a cup of tea.

Take more than 12 items through the supermarket express lane.

Your say: Do you think new technology is making people ruder? Tell us more at [email protected]

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Nice guys finish last, but women aren’t in the race

Nice guys finish last, but women aren't in the race

The old saying “nice guys finish last” may still ring true when it comes to climbing the corporate ladder, but new research has found nice guys still finish ahead of women.

A US study has found that men with disagreeable personalities out-earn men with agreeable personalities by about 18 percent where disagreeable women, on the other hand, earn only about five percent more than those who are caring and sweet, LiveScience reported.

So, for women planning on climbing the corporate ladder, playing nice does have its benefits, with disagreeable women being scorned a lot more than men and offered less promotion opportunities.

The study included more than 3500 people across the workforce from those who had recently left school to those in their late seventies.

Men who were disagreeable earned 18.31 percent more than agreeable men, a difference of around $9772 a year more of those surveyed.

Disagreeable women also out-earned agreeable women by 5.47 percent, an average difference of just $1828 per year.

Study researcher Timothy Judge of the University of Notre Dames’ Mendoza College of Business said people may judge no-nonsense women more harshly than no-nonsense men.

“Women who appear to be tough or disagreeable get a special kind of scorn directed toward them,” he said.

“That sort of neutralises the benefit that they might otherwise receive.”

The new research, which will be published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that disagreeable women were less likely to be recommended for a promotion than disagreeable men, with men also being seen as strong leaders.

Judge pointed out that disagreeable behavior doesn’t necessarily mean beaing rude or nasty, it means being more aggressive at setting goals and negotiating harder than agreeable types.

For women, this “toughness” doesn’t win them as many admirers as it does for men, he said.

“Can one become firm and assertive in what one wants but not be seen as aggressive?” Judge asked.

“Women probably have to attend more to not just what they ask for but how they ask for it.”

Judge next plans to research what women can do to escape this trap.

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Glenn McGrath’s new wife on bonding with Jane’s kids

Glenn McGrath's new wife on bonding with Jane's kids

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Glenn McGrath’s new wife Sara Leonardi has discussed the challenges of parenting step-kids in her new food blog.

Sara — who married former cricketer Glenn last year — started ‘The McGrath’s Kitchen’ blog yesterday.

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In her first post, she talked about the difficulties of parenting and how cooking is helping her bond with Glenn’s children with his first wife Jane, James, 11, and Holly, nine.

“I have the best step-kids I could have ever wished for and I pass on to them my traditions and recipes,” Sara wrote.

“They are like I once was to my mum, my little helpers. Being a parent is the hardest job on earth and with its many rewards it has its responsibilities, such as teaching good table manners (very frustrating at times) and teaching kids to eat right and be healthy (the list is endless).”

Sara says she started the blog to try to make cooking more of a hobby than a chore. She hopes her words will inspire other women to share tips and recipes online.

“I’m very excited about this new journey and I can’t wait to learn from other mothers and homemakers any new tips to make my life easier, more fun and taste better,” Sara wrote.

“We can share info about cool recipes and products you have tried that work for you and your families love. This is a loving blog where we share the same love as we do when cooking for our loved ones, so please join in.

“So folks let’s get ready to cook, laugh, share and why not have a glass while doing it.”

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Glenn’s first wife Jane died of breast cancer in 2008. He met Sara in 2009 and they married at his Cronulla home last November.

Glenn and Sara then married again in a religious ceremony in Sicily in in July.

Click here to read The McGrath’s Kitchen blog.

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Princess Mary’s son’s first day of school

Starting school can be scary, but Princess Mary’s son Christian couldn’t stop smiling when he commenced his first term on Friday.

The five-year-old prince started his education at Copenhagen’s Tranegaardsskolen last week. On the morning of his first day, Christian made a brief public appearance outside the palace with his parents Mary and Crown Prince Frederik.

Wearing his school clothes and a tiny backpack, Christian told journalists he was looking forward to his first day. Christian will be the first member of the Danish royal family to attend a state school instead of a private institution.

Christian could barely contain his excitement as he headed to school.

Mary was all smiles as she led Christian to school.

Christian pulled lots of faces for the media.

The family pose for photographers.

Christian talks about his excitement at starting school.

Mary gives Christian a cuddle as he prepares to leave her.

Christian quickly tired of posing for the press and was anxious to get inside.

Prince William on his first day at nursery school in 1985.

William was less thrilled than Christian!

Prince Harry on his first day of school in 1987.

Like his older brother, Harry had trouble smiling for the cameras.

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Scott Cam: Meet my gorgeous wife

Scott Cam: Meet my gorgeous wife

The loveable larrikin fell in love with Ann the first time he set eyes on her. They share their 22-year love story with Katherine Chatfield.

As Scott Cam opens the door to his home, his dog Rosie stands in the doorway and gives the Woman’s Day team friendly licks all round. Satisfied that Scott has given everyone the seal of approval, she pads softly into the kitchen, and dozes amid a scene of domestic bliss. Scott’s wife, Ann, is making everyone tea, while their children, Charlie, 14, and twins Bill and Sarah, 11, help themselves to seconds from the dinner table before loping off to do their homework. They’re in a hurry to get it done because at 7pm they down pens and watch Dad on The Block. “They like to watch it,” Scott smiles. “They try to get me to tell them what will happen, but I never do!”

The relaxed nature of the Cam family home is testament to Scott and Ann’s loving marriage. Ann normally keeps out of the public eye, preferring to concentrate on the hectic task of looking after her family. But as the couple approach 20 years of marriage, for the first time Ann has decided to open up about what makes her and Scott’s marriage work.

The couple has been together 22 years, and as they both curl up on the lounge, it’s clear they still love being in each other’s company. “We haven’t had much romance recently as Scott’s been away [working on The Block],” says Ann. “We might have an extra kiss tonight!”

Despite Scott being such a big personality, it’s clear Ann is the backbone of the tight family unit. Happy to let Scott shine, the petite blonde is certainly no pushover. Her striking looks and calm manner are what entranced Scott when they first met in 1989. Scott, now 49, had just returned to Sydney from travelling Australia working as a carpenter.“My father had passed away and I came home to stay with my mum for six weeks,” he says. “Some mates were playing footy in the Blue Mountains and I went to watch.” He spotted school teacher Ann chatting with friends and was immediately smitten.

Read more about Scott and Ann’s love story and find out their ultimate renovating tips in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 15, 2011.

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Jennifer Aniston’s baby news

Jennifer Anniston's baby news

She’s found the perfect father, now a newly curvy Jennifer Aniston is preparing for her dream baby.

It was just two short months into their relationship, in early June, that Jennifer Aniston sat her new boyfriend Justin Theroux down and tentatively broached the sensitive subject of babies. It was a risky move – and one that’s spelled doom for several of her previous romances – but for once, this premature talk of children paid off. To Jennifer’s surprise, Justin replied instantly, “Yes, let’s do it!”

“He’s just as excited as Jen to start a family together,” a long-time friend of the star says. It certainly seems as if, after six years of failed relationships, the former Friends actress has found the perfect partner – and ideal father for the baby she’s long dreamed of.

Already Jen refers to Justin as her “soul mate”. They’ve been living together since May and, adds another close source, “There is no doubt in her mind that he is ‘the one’.”

Since their initial chat about children, the pair – who met on the set of upcoming comedy Wanderlust – have talked at length about getting married and becoming parents. “She is anxious for the next phase of her life and feels like this is the time,” says another insider. Indeed, at 42, Jen had already decided to take next year off to focus on motherhood, and Justin, 40, came along at the right time.

Find out more about the couple’s holiday, her suspicious baby bump and nursery plans, plus more about the baby daddy in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 15, 2011.

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Princess Charlene: secrets, lies and royal scandal

Princess Charlene: secret, lies and royal scandal

The principality is buzzing about what’s really going on between Prince Albert and his new wife.

They are calling her “The Silent Princess” – a pale, sad-eyed beauty who hasn’t said a word in public since murmuring “yes” to her husband on July 2. A month after the lavish wedding of Prince Albert of Monaco and ex-swimming champion Charlene Wittstock, doubts and suspicions still swirl around the couple. In fact, the Mediterranean realm was last week buzzing with talk that the royal pair will secretly live apart – and that their marriage is a sham intended only to produce an heir.

Feeding the rumour frenzy is the puzzling behaviour of 33-year-old Charlene. On her rare public appearances she seems – in the words of royal watcher Joelle Deviras – “distant and distracted”. When Albert, 53, summoned a group of journalists to issue an impassioned denial that the pair was unhappy, Charlene did little to help the cause, sitting expressionless at his side.

Asked by her husband if she wanted to add anything, the South African-born blonde shook her head, and quickly left the room. The fear now is that her silence may speak volumes about what is happening behind palace walls. Meanwhile, on the streets of Monaco, it seems everyone else is having their say.

The latest rumour is that the couple will, effectively, live in separate houses. According to French magazine VSD, Albert will remain at the palace, and Charlene at Roc Agel, a luxury villa owned by the royals in the village of La Turbie, just across the French border. With stunning views over the Mediterranean, it was a favourite retreat of Albert’s mother Grace Kelly. Villagers say Charlene has been a constant visitor since arriving in Monaco nearly five years ago. “She loves it here, she likes to walk in the hills,” says one local. “She’ll go off for the day with a backpack and friends, but you never see her with Albert.”

Read more about the silent princess and the scandal that threatens to ruin her marriage in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 15, 2011.

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The secret to getting your kids to eat vegetables

The secret to getting your kids to eat vegetables

A child that prefers broccoli to ice cream might seem like a biological impossibility but scientists think it could be as simple as getting pregnant women to eat more vegetables themselves.

A new study published in Pediatrics found that babies can develop a taste for healthy foods in the womb.

Researchers from Philadelphia’s Monell Chemical Senses Center found that flavours were passed from mother to baby in amniotic fluid, and later in breast milk.

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“Things like vanilla, carrot, garlic, anise, mint — these are some of the flavours that have been shown to be transmitted to amniotic fluid or mother’s milk,” study leader Julie Mennella told NPR News.

Scientists gave pregnant women capsules filled with garlic or sugar before taking samples of their amniotic fluid. The samples were then given to a panel of testers, who were asked to smell the fluid. In all cases the testers could easily identify the women who had eaten garlic.

This means that the unborn babies would have been able to taste the garlic too.

In the second phase of the research scientists looked at the foetus’ ability to remember tastes it had been exposed to in the womb.

One group of pregnant women were asked to drink carrot juice every day, another group to drink it while breastfeeding and a third asked to avoid carrots entirely.

When their babies were old enough to start eating solid food, they were given cereal mixed with water or carrot juice.

The babies who had been exposed to carrot juice in the womb and via breast milk ate more of the carrot cereal than the plain cereal, proving they had developed a taste for what their mother’s had consumed.

Related: Tips for getting your family to eat more vegetables

Researchers think the findings could result in healthier children who are born with a taste for fruit and vegetables.

Your say: Are you surprised that what you eat while pregnant could affect your children so much?

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Linda Evangelista needs $43,000 a month to stay beautiful

Linda Evangelista needs $43,000 a month to maintain her looks

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Linda Evangelista has told a New York court she needs $43,000 every month to maintain her looks while being a single mother.

The 46-year-old supermodel appeared at Manhattan’s Family Court this week to claim child support from French businessman Francois-Henri Pinault, the father of her four-year-old son Augustin.

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Evangelista has asked the court to grant her $43,000 per month to allow her to raise Augustin while continuing to work as a model.

She told the judge she required the money to pay for a team of armed drivers and a 24-hour nanny to care for her son while she was working, visiting the gym and attending her many beauty appointments.

“When I work it can be a 16-hour day,” she told the court. “On days when I do not work, I am working on my image. I have to hit the gym. I have beauty appointments. I have to work toward my next job and maintaining my image.”

If Evangelista’s request is granted, it will be one of the largest support orders ever granted in the family court.

Pinault is married to actress Salma Hayek. His family is worth $1.5 billion and he was only revealed to be the father of Evangelista’s son last month.

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Pinault and Hayek have a three-year-old daughter, Valentina, and Evangelista claims the child is living in luxury while her son has been completely ignored.

The judge is expected to give his ruling on the case next month.

Your say: Do you think Linda Evangelista really needs $43,000 to be a working single mum?

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