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Matthew Newton: Rehab saved my life

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Matthew Newton attends a court hearing in Sydney in 2010.

Troubled actor Matthew Newton has credited rehab with saving his life.

The 34-year-old star checked into the moods unit at Sydney’s Northside West mental health clinic in April after a court ordered him to seek psychiatric care or face criminal action after breaching his Apprehended Violence Order (AVO).

Newton spoke to 104.1FM’s Kyle and Jackie O Show this morning in his first interview since he was admitted to rehab.

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He said he was in a “good place” and felt like his time in the clinic had helped him turn his life around.

“Finding myself in hospital and being surrounded by a great group of people, the people at Northside West really saved my life,” he said. “…I feel like I am in the best place that I have ever been in my life.”

Newton said rehab gave him the opportunity to “take stock” of his life and figure out who he was.

“It’s been a very interesting year for me, a huge year of reflection, there were certain things I had to take stock of,” he said.

“I finished school, straight into drama school and I was very lucky I went straight into work, and I’ve had periods out of work every actor has that where you dream of a dog food commercial that will pay the rent… which you take!

“I’ve been pretty lucky, I haven’t stopped, so going to hospital and having that time to get a sense of who I was, and it sounds corny but to stop and smell the flowers.”

Newton also urged anyone struggling with mental health issues to seek professional help.

“There is a lot of fear that is surrounded and a huge amount of stigma with mental illness and a lot of judgemental people brush it off and say get on with your life,” he said.

“I would urge anybody with the slightest doubt, it doesn’t cost anything, talk to somebody, your family, your GP, someone… just check up because you can’t be sure.”

Newton’s life began to publicly unravel in 2006, when he used profane language and simulated sex acts on Channel Ten’s New Year’s Eve special The Big Night In with John Foreman.

Later that year, he was arrested and charged with intimidation and assault of his then-girlfriend Brooke Satchwell.

He pleaded guilty to one count of common assault and was put on a 12-month good behaviour bond in 2007. The conviction was overturned two months later after Newton’s lawyer claimed the star was suffering from a “depressive illness” at the time of the assault and was therefore unlikely to reoffend.

In November 2009, Newton’s hotel room in Kings Cross was trashed after an event. The damage to the room was $9000, which Newton paid despite denying he was responsible. One day later, he made headlines again when he jumped off a plane before the doors were closed, causing panic amongst passengers and crew.

He was kicked out of another hotel in 2010, after he allegedly caused $4000 damage to his room.

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Newton checked himself into a Melbourne drug and alcohol rehabilitation facility in April 2010. In August the same year, his girlfriend Rachael Taylor took out an AVO after two domestic violence incidents during a holiday in Rome.

Newton was charged with breaching that AVO in February this year and checked into rehab shortly afterwards.

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A Rocky Mountain holiday to Vail, Colorado

They say you come for the winter, but stay for summer. Shonagh Walker finds herself loving every second of her summer in Vail, Colorado.
Vail, Colorado.

The first time I set foot in Vail, Colorado, it was in the depths of USA Winter 2004.

Its cobbled streets were lined with snow, the village twinkled with Christmas tree lights (never mind it was the middle of January), and the welcoming smiles of the locals warmed my heart so much that, despite sub-zero temperatures, thermals seemed superfluous.

I instantly felt a deep sense of belonging. This was the place I had always wanted to be.

I’ve visited every winter since then. Aside from enjoying Vail’s powdery slopes until my legs burned from skiing and my face hurt from smiling, each trip had a common theme, with the locals, whom I now count as lifelong friends, constantly telling me, “you will love it here in the summer!”

It took me until 2009 to make a summer trip there. To say that the beauty of the Colorado Rockies in summer blew me away would simply be understating their majesty.

Summer is equally as magic as winter, and totally captivating. Visiting at either time of year will guarantee you more fun that should legally be allowed.

So, summer or winter? It’s too hard for me to choose. I’ll just give you one piece of advice: the second you walk across Vail’s famous Covered Bridge, you will regret every second of your life that wasn’t spent there. Be prepared to get addicted!

Summer in Vail

Vail’s summers are like nowhere on earth — and it’s happening NOW, so don’t wait to book, as the deals are incredible (visit www.vail.com for more details).

The lush landscape comes alive with the twinkling leaves of Aspen trees, the crisp, invigorating air and the sound of the many lakes and rivers rolling through the Rockies.

While you might easily spend the day just taking in the views, there are so many thrill-filled activities to enjoy that you could spend a month and not have checked everything on your list.

Rafting and kayaking

Otherwise known as White Water Mecca, Vail offers Class I to Class V rafting day trips with Timberline Rafting Company. Experience the thrills of the Eagle, Colorado or Arkansas Rivers, then finish the journey with an outdoor barbecue on the river’s edge. Paddlers will love the river kayaking experience offered by Alpine Quest Sports. Riding the rapids of the Colorado River is an unrivalled experience, where Bald Eagles soar in blue skies above you and all manner of wildlife gaze at you from the river’s banks.

Hiking and Biking

Hiking and mountain biking on Vail Mountain is essential to your summer trip. You’ll discover views and vegetation so amazing you’ll think you’ve fallen into Alice’s Rabbit Hole. Hiking? Simply set foot at the base of the mountain and start walking. Those biking can catch the gondola up to any of Vail’s many picturesque biking trails. There are also more challenging descents for adrenaline-junkies.

Pack plenty of water and enough food to get you through the day. A bell or whistle will come in handy too, in case you happen across a bear. If you do, make it aware of your presence by ringing your bell, sounding your whistle, or making other sounds. Generally, bears retreat if they hear humans coming.

Cast Away

Gore Creek Fly Fisherman offers free casting clinics daily, so even novice fishermen and women can test their skills. The more experienced angler can consider casting in a pristine alpine lake, wading a Gold Medal stream, or floating one of several scenic rivers into the remote wilderness.

Giddy Up

Guided horseback tours are one of the most relaxing ways to see Vail Mountain. Meander up and around Game Creek Bowl, where you take in the summer surrounds and marvel at mountain’s vast beauty.

Rock Climbing

Rugged alpine peaks surround Vail and seasoned climbers have access to top-rope and multi-pitch routes throughout the valley. Beginners can hit the climbing walls or have a guide take them up. You can cut your climbing teeth at the Lionshead climbing wall at the base of the Gondola or on the indoor climbing wall at the Vail Mountain Lodge and Spa.

Sunday Markets

Every Sunday, the streets of Vail village are alive with a fresh produce, arts and crafts market. Many of the village restaurants take the opportunity to buy the ingredients for the evening’s menu from here, so be sure to make a booking! Also take note that legendary Nobu restaurant is set to open its doors there any time soon, right in the lush new Solaris complex in the centre of town, which also boasts a five-star bowling alley and luxury movie theatre!

Less active pursuits

No matter what season you visit Vail you will always find lively bars, unrivalled restaurants, and accommodation for all budgets, indulgent spa choices and incredible shopping.

Aprés

Vail has more watering holes than you could shake a swizzle stick at. The new Tavern on the Square at the Arrabelle at Vail Square is spacious, friendly and fun, with a list of apré’s-hour cocktails and snacks as long as lift queues on powder day.

Other favourites include The Red Lion in Vail Village for the best margaritas this side of Mexico, and Vendetta’s, a favourite spot for Vail Ski Patrollers and home of the best pizza slice in the village.

Down the street and over the Covered Bridge, stop at The George, a basement-level sports bar with great Happy Hour deals.

For a more subdued atmosphere, head to the Marketplace on Meadow Drive, where friendly bartender Rob will whip you up a cocktail and keep you entertained with stories of locals all night long.

Frost at the Sebastian Hotel is a New York style cocktail bar, offering trendy new concoctions, as is the bar at Bol, the village’s funky new five star bowling alley.

Savour

Vail boasts diverse restaurants for every budget. Nearly all of its restaurants have organic, locally produced options with many menus offering low-fat, low-carb, low-cholesterol options.

Don’t miss Centre V at the Arrabelle at Vail Square, for heavenly French cuisine and seafood that is shipped in daily.

La Bottega on East Meadow Drive in Vail Village serves mouth-watering Italian, as does Campo Di Fiori across the way.

Kelly Liken offers seasonal American fare made lovingly with locally produced and cultivated products.

Equally as tasty, yet not as pricey, Sweet Basil in Vail Village is a Zagat-rated restaurant offering modern American cuisine with Mediterranean, Italian and Asian influences.

The Montauk Grill at Lionshead Village has seafood to salivate over, while Moe’s BBQ is a local legend — queue up early at lunchtime to be sure not to miss the daily specials.

Octillo Prime at The Marriott in Lionshead Village serves hearty steaks and chops for dinner, offering equally as tasty meals for breakfast and lunch.

A great lunch venue is Mezzaluna, which is slope-side in Lionshead Village. Choose from either over-sized tasty pasta dishes, or Italian-style pizza.

Spend Up

Shopaholics will love Vail’s art galleries, clothing and ski stores. The Golden Bear is a favourite jewellery store — its signature bear charm is as synonymous with the Vail Valley as Tiffany’s Elsa Peretti Coffee Bean is with Manhattan.

If you’ve made it to Minturn, stop by the newly opened Jayded, a fashion boutique that stocks Mek denim and affordable men and women’s clothing.

Definitely stop by the neighbouring town of Silverthorne and lose a day at the Outlet Mall, which boasts designer brands including the Gap, Coach, Calvin Klein, Nike, Osh Kosh, Nine West and Timberland.

Entertainment

Vail is an entertainment epicenter, with some of the biggest names in showbiz dropping by to perform. Everyone from Ben Harper, Stephen Marley, the Black Eyed Peas, Train, Counting Crows and the New York Philharmonic Orchestra have graced a stage and thrilled audiences at Vail, generally (but not always) for free admission.

Spa Time

A trip to Vail would be incomplete without a spa experience. Book in for a Vin Chaud (Hot Wine) Indulgence at the The Spa at the Arrabelle at Vail Square.

The 105-minute pampering session includes full body exfoliation, heated wrap and a full body vino-therapy massage and mini facial. As you float out to the relaxation room, you’re presented with an oversized glass of red wine and a serving of sorbet, exactly how every spa treatment should end.

Over at the The Golden Leaf Spa at the Marriott, the Pumpkin Pie Body Mask proves a deliciously warming end to any day, while the Signature Moor Mud Remedy at the Vail Mountain Lodge and Spa is a must to relieve mountain-weary muscles.

Stay

The Vail Marriott Mountain Resort and Spa, is just minutes walk to the Eagle Bahn gondola at Lionshead and directly on the free village shuttle route. It has a true Five-Star feel, but without the price tag.

The Arrabelle at Vail Square is slightly more expensive, but has a seconds-to-the-slopes location and beds that feel as though you’re sleeping on clouds; as does the Lodge at Vail, which is in the heart of Vail’s beautiful village and seconds to the Vista Bahn lift and mountain access.

A favourite of this author though, is boutique hotel Austria Haus. It’s located just seconds from Vail’s bustling Bridge Street, but t offers privacy, cosiness and the friendliest staff of any hotel I’ve ever stayed in, anywhere in the world.

For more information, bookings and holiday packages, visit www.vail.com .

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Time saving skin care

Time saving skin care

Vegetarian,Kid friendly,Gluten free,Low Carb,Egg free

In our busy lives, finding the time to do any more than a few steps in a skin routine can be impossible. Thankfully, you only need a couple of minutes twice a day to help your skin glow.

Cleanse twice a day

It is easy to get confused when it comes to your daily skincare routine. Dermatologists recommend cleaning your face morning and night to prepare the skin for toning and moisturising in the morning and to remove any build-up of make up or pollutants in the evening.

Tonal remedy

A toner is not necessarily a must-have ingredient in your daily routine. Some skin types can become irritated if the product contains alcohol and so a toner might not be right for you. Think of your skin as a sponge. A sponge can’t absorb anything until it has been wet first; the same principle applies to the skin. It is has been cleansed and then toned it is more equipped to absorb a moisturiser to hydrate your skin the whole day or night through.

Good moisture

Repeat after me: “Thou must moisturise.” It’s not a tricky rule to remember but it is an important one. Moisturiser gives your skin a good drink of water and we all know that hydrated surfaces are much better at repairing and replenishing. If you’re thinking, “But my skin is oily”, don’t be fooled into thinking your skin in hydrated. Even oily skin types can be dehydrated.

The sun protection factor

Living in the sunburnt country means we all know the dangers of the sun. Sun exposure equals wrinkles and the appearance of aged skin, so help your skin out by protecting it every day with a broad-spectrum sunscreen. If time is of short supply why not combine your moisturiser and SPF in the one step. There are plenty of great moisturisers on the market that combine a hydrating agent plus an SPF and light colour coverage.

Your say: What does your daily routine consist of? What areas of skincare would you like to know more about? What are your favourite products? Share with us below.

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Posh’s extreme baby diet

With just three weeks until Victoria Beckham is due to officially unveil her post-baby body at New York Fashion Week, the former Spice Girl has gone into overdrive to ensure there’s no sign of the 9.5kgs she gained while pregnant with her daughter Harper Seven.

Unable to resume her strenuous exercise routine due to the caesarean delivery six weeks ago, Posh has instead focused on her food, adopting a specially tailored “Five Hands” diet that involves eating five palm-sized meals a day.

High in protein and low in carbohydrates, the plan has Victoria, 37, dining on smoked salmon, chilli prawns, yellow-fin tuna sushi and scrambled eggs, accompanied by leafy green vegetables and plenty of water.

Read more in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale Monday, August 22.

Posh’s extreme baby diet

Posh pregnant and Posh in 2010 at the size she is aiming to get down to.

Posh with her baby daughter Harper.

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Lleyton’s sister’s sorrow: Hewitt family feud

Lleyton's sister's sorrow: Hewitt family feud

Lleyton and Bec are the golden ones, but the tennis star’s sister Jaslyn has been left out in the cold, with her family not even turning up to see her marry the man she loves.

It should have been the happiest day of her life when Jaslyn Hewitt married her soul mate in the lush surrounds of a tropical paradise, but the celebration was tinged with sadness. The beautiful bride, 28, looked serene as she said her vows – despite her private devastation that her big brother Lleyton, and none of her immediate family, were there to share her joy.

Missing – thanks to a simmering feud over Jaslyn’s groom, Logie-nominated actor, writer and stand-up comedian Rob Shehadie, 34 – were her parents Glynn and Cherilyn Hewitt. Totally against her relationship with Rob, an extrovert who is proud of his working-class roots and Lebanese-Australian background, they made a point of shunning their only daughter’s nuptials, while Lleyton and his wife Bec also missed the ceremony due to a scheduling conflict.

“You couldn’t help feeling frustrated for Jaslyn. She and Rob are so in love and had wanted their wedding to be a reflection of their amazing chemistry, the perfect day. And it was – except for the absence of the bride’s family,” says a guest at the November 2010 ceremony in the North Queensland resort town of Port Douglas.

“Not having Glynn and Cherilyn there was crushing for Jaslyn, even though she was pretty good at hiding the fact that she was upset. “She’s a cool, understated person, so she handled the hurt by smiling all day and all the way through the reception at night, despite the difficult moments – having no mum there to help her with the last minute details, no dad to escort her down the aisle or propose a toast. “It was brave. She must have felt so alone, and that really seems unfair, because she’s always been the most supportive daughter and sister through all the years in Lleyton’s shadow.

Read more about Jaslyn and Rob’s relationship and how Jaslyn helped Bec when she first married Lleyton in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 22, 2011.

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Ita Buttrose: Love, life and secrets

Ita Buttorse: Love, life and secrets

Susan Duncan, Ita’s friend and colleague and a former editor of The Australian Women’s Weekly, gives her unique insight into the magazine icon who’s suddenly back in the spotlight.

Ita Buttrose was once the most famous and influential woman in Australia. With a lisp that did as much to set her apart from the pack as her huge blue eyes and an unshakable belief in her ability, she blazed a trail for women’s liberation in the 70s and set the tone for a new generation of women who wanted more.

Now, after a couple of decades of relative obscurity and as she hovers on the brink of 70, she is back on the public’s radar after the hit ABC series Paper Giants catapulted her into the media limelight once more. A new generation has discovered the woman who was once a household name and who arguably helped to shape us into the nation we are today. And it is fascinated. Last week, more than one million people tuned in to the ABC’s Australian Story to discover the “real” Ita.

Who is this glamorous tall poppy whose career in the media spans five decades, including several years in the 80s as a columnist for Woman’s Day? Why did she “disappear” after being one of the most powerful women in the country? And why would a woman, who could still pick up the phone to call prime ministers and get an instant response, name Kerry Packer’s long-retired secretary as her “best friend”?

Ita is the first to laugh off suggestions of her “disappearance”. “I haven’t been anywhere. I’ve been around,” she says. She has been quietly living in Sydney, taking on small projects such as a book on etiquette, making speeches for causes she believes in. Struggling, like most ageing women, to keep her weight under control. Out there – but until Paper Giants, no-one really gave a damn.

Read more about Susan Duncan’s insight into how Ita changed the media world in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 22, 2011.

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Heather Locklear locks in wedding number three

Heather Locklear locks in wedding number three

The former Melrose Place actress is heading down the aisle with her one-time co-star.

A s two of the characters in 90s drama Melrose Place, Heather Locklear and Jack Wagner’s on-again, off-again TV romance kept fans captivated for years. They sizzled as Amanda Woodward and Peter Burns, a mega-manipulative duo who faked their own deaths – only to remarry on the pristine sands of a Hawaiian beach in the super-soap’s final scene.

Now the two are at last getting their real-life happily-ever-after. A delighted Heather and Jack have announced their engagement after four years of dating. Heather, who turns 50 next month, hopes it will be third time lucky when she heads down the aisle.

Back in 1986, the beautiful blonde – who also starred in Dynasty and Spin City – wed her first husband, Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee. In 1994, a year after that marriage ended, she took the plunge again, this time exchanging vows with Bon Jovi guitarist Richie Sambora.

“I don’t date rock ’n’ rollers – I just marry them,” Heather once quipped of her penchant for bad-boy musicians. In 1997, she and Richie welcomed their daughter Ava, now a budding actress, into the world. Sadly, their union was also not destined to last, with the couple’s divorce finalised a decade later.

Read more about Heather’s marriage plans in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 22, 2011.

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After seven boys, we finally had a girl through IVF!

After seven boys, we finally had a girl through IVF!

After having seven sons, Jodi and Andrew McMahon took matters into their own hands to conceive a little girl.

You could be forgiven for thinking there must be something in the waters flowing by the lush Snowy Mountains property belonging to Jodi and Andrew McMahon. Some life-giving force that has seen this mum and dad bring seven sons into the world. The McMahons always wanted a large family. And after producing seven boys, folks in Tumut, in south-eastern New South Wales, began wondering if Jodi and Andrew were trying to start up their own footy team.

Sadly, they lost one son, Riley, in infancy. But while their remaining six – Luke, 17, Aydan, 14, Josh, 12, Billy, 10, Cody, 6, and Declan, 2 – are adored unconditionally, Jodi and Andrew didn’t think their family would be complete until they had a little girl. “The desire for a girl was pretty acute,” Jodi says. “We tried all the old wives’ tales. We tried different positions, went on high calcium diets, I put Andrew on decaf coffee. We don’t smoke or drink, so in theory, we should have had all girls from the things we were doing.”

While pregnant with Cody, Jodi started to make inquiries about gender selection with fertility clinic Sydney IVF. “But then the National Health and Medical Research Council (NHMRC) banned it,” says Jodi. “I was completely gutted.” It was after the birth of their seventh son that Jodi and Andrew, a fitness instructor, decided to seriously pursue their dream of adding a splash of pink to their world of blue. Due to the ban on gender selection in Australia, the McMahons flew to the US. There Jodi was given treatment to increase egg production. These eggs were extracted and Andrew’s sperm sorted into those that primarily produce girls. The eggs were implanted with the ‘female’ sperm and the embryos returned to the womb.

“If you have to fertilise eggs from ordinary sperm, you’ve only got a 50/50 chance of getting a girl or a boy,” says Jodi. “But we had 90 per cent chance.” Two weeks later, Jodi and Andrew were delighted to discover she was pregnant. Addison was born on May 3 this year. “I was still in shock, even after she was born,” says Jodi. “It’s finally happened, and we feel complete. We feel we’ve done what we came here to do. To bring some beautiful, loving children into the world. I’ve got one more frozen egg back in the US. So we’ll try for one more girl next year.”

Read more about The McMahon family’s journey to have a baby girl in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 22, 2011.

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Josh’s surprise proposal: I was planning it all along

Josh's surprise proposal: I was planning it all along

The Block sweethearts take their relationship to the next step – and Josh takes Woman’s Day along to buy Jenna’s spectacular engagement ring.

Before the hammer had even dropped on the final bid at The Block auction, one contestant was already a winner – in love. Josh Densten knew that win, lose or draw the home renovation TV series, he had already gambled on the biggest victory of them all, secretly meeting with producers for months to plan an onscreen proposal to his beloved girlfriend Jenna Whitehead.

“Planning the moment actually calmed me down about getting through the auction. I couldn’t care less about the auction in the end!” Josh, 25, tells Woman’s Day as he lets us in on the most romantic TV proposal ever. “All I’ve been thinking about was Jenna and her reaction. But I knew she’d say yes!” His confidence didn’t stop him getting nervous about popping the question before the whole country. “I worried about Jenna finding out because we spend every minute together, and I didn’t want her to know anything,” Josh says. “She quizzes me about everything, so I’ve had to play it cool.

“The best thing with Jenna is to take her out to lunch and feed her because she doesn’t ask questions when she’s eating! I always said that I would set the bar high when I proposed… and it doesn’t get much higher than this!” Despite being joined at the hip, especially in the lead-up to the auction, Josh managed to sneak away with The Block producers and Woman’s Day. He was on a mission to buy Jenna, 23, the ring she had dreamed about since the couple met six years earlier – a Tiffany & Co. round-cut solitaire diamond with a platinum band. “I looked at rings with her a year ago as research,” Josh admits.

“The one I bought for her is the one she has always talked about wanting. And it’s so beautiful, I could stare at it all day.” Their delightful love story began when Josh gatecrashed Jenna’s house-warming party in Albury Wodonga and they locked eyes across the crowded room. “I was like, ‘Who’s this guy?’” Jenna told Woman’s Day in an earlier interview. “He crashed my house-warming party. Then he paid my entry to get into a nightclub and it was love at first sight!” Adds Josh with a cheeky smile, “I used my charm!”

Read more about Josh and Jenna’s relationship and proposal in this week’s Woman’s Day, on sale August 22, 2011.

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Real life story: “I married my high school teacher”

The ultimate taboo? One woman reveals how her high school crush... became her husband!
I married my high school teacher

True confession: Student and teacher relationship

I’m really nervous about going to my 10-year high school reunion. It’s not that I had a terrible time at school, in fact high school was a fantastic experience. I got on well with all of the teachers, I was vice captain with my best friend Laura was captain, I came first in mathematics each semester. And when I compare my figure now to my high school body, well, it’s changed for the better…

After school, I started studying science at university and hated every minute of it. I tried hard to please my parents and because everyone expected me to do well. But in the end I just wasn’t ready. I dropped out after the first year, saved like crazy over the summer and spent the next four years travelling around South America teaching maths and English.

Apart from visits from my family, in that time I completely lost touch with everyone from my life in Australia.

Towards the end of my time living in Peru I started to realise it was time to go home and grow up, and I was excited to give university another go. I moved back in with my parents, enrolled in Education at uni and breezed through the course.

Back to reality: from travelling the world to everyday life

My mum encouraged me to catch up with my best friends from high school, but I felt a bit nervous meeting up with Laura and the girls after five years which felt like five decades.

When I had been climbing pyramids on my own and meeting new friends over tacos, my old friends had all been planning their futures together and some even having babies. We all became friends on Facebook but attempts to meet up were never realised.

The return of my high school crush

For my first teaching practical I went to work at a public boys’ school in the outer suburbs of Sydney and discovered to my delight that my supervisor was my favourite maths teacher from high school.

Thomas, who had been my teacher for years 11 and 12, had been every girl’s crush as he was not just the only young, attractive male teacher at the all-girls school; he was also a genuinely nice person who we could tell wanted us to succeed.

Thomas was still the fantastic teacher I remembered him to be and in the first few weeks of my first practical Thomas gave me lots of helpful advice as well as being fascinated to listen to my stories from my time in South America.

It felt so good to talk to him, and in our break times I started asking Thomas about his life too. He had just gone skydiving for his 33rd birthday and loved spending the weekends with his sister’s kids.

One day he explained that he had stopped teaching at my high school the year after my year group had left because he felt a lot of pressure being a male teaching at an all-girls school. I was about to joke about how to my 17-year-old self he was the closest thing to Leonardo DiCaprio I had seen in my life. Then I realised that my 25-year-old self felt attracted to him in a completely new and very adult way. Was this the start of a teacher student affair?!

I was embarrassed to feel myself blushing and remembering the way my friends and I used to talk about him after class and felt really awkward around him for the last few weeks of my prac. I could tell he was confused about the way I avoided being alone with him and I really missed being able to ask him for advice — really I just missed talking to him.

On my last day Thomas organised a going-away afternoon tea for me and when he came over to give me a card and flowers from the staff he asked if he could speak to me privately.

I followed him down the corridor until he suddenly stopped and stood looking at me without speaking for a few seconds. It was the first time we had been alone together for weeks and my heart was racing. I felt so sad to be leaving the school and I also accepted that I was sad to leave him too. I was tempted to ask him out but was worried he would feel it was too odd since he had been my teacher so long ago.

Was I in love with my teacher?

When he asked whether I would be interested in coming back to the school for my next prac I was stunned for a minute. I had been thinking about him on a more personal level but there he was thinking about organising the next school term. Of course I replied that I would love to come back and, wanting to get away before he saw the tears that had started welling in my eyes I turned away to walk back to the staff room.

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I had taken about three steps back towards the staff room when I heard Thomas say something quietly behind me. I felt his hand on my shoulder and heard him say my name like a question. I turned back to face him and he saw how upset I was. I remember laughing through my tears as I felt his arms come around me.

We have been married for two very happy years now, and I got a full-time job teaching at a school near our house while he still teaches at the boys’ school where we met again as adults. It doesn’t feel at all like a teacher and student having sex – thank goodness!

A high school reunion… with a difference

Everything has been wonderful but I am really nervous about going to the reunion with my old teacher as my date. I’m very proud he is my husband, but at the same time I’m nervous for how the other students will react to him and what they will say about him. I’m also anxious about what the other teachers will say when they see that we are together and how they will act towards Thomas.

I’m tempted not to go, but at the same time I’m so curious to see where everyone’s lives have taken them and hope to see that they are all as happy as I am.

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