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Women suspicious of nice husbands

Women suspicious of nice husbands

Men often complain of feeling like they can’t do anything right in the eyes of their spouse — and a new study suggests they’re correct.

A UK survey has found that more than two-thirds of women would suspect an affair if their husband was “too nice” to them.

The poll of over 2000 women found that while ladies dream of being wooed with flowers and chocolates — they would be convinced their man was cheating if he actually came up with the goods.

Other things likely to trigger suspicions included a partner suddenly having ‘new tricks’ in the bedroom, cooking them breakfast in bed, buying them jewellery or sexy underwear or making grand romantic gestures.

Even helping out with the housework — which millions of women nag their partners about every day; led to infidelity worries, suggesting men really are right when they complain of being “damned if they do and damned if they don’t”.

But even if women suspect their husbands of an indiscretion, one third of the ladies surveyed said they would be willing to turn a blind eye if it meant their partner was easier to live with.

“Today’s work and life pressures have resulted in romantic gestures like making your wife or girlfriend breakfast in bed much more of a rare occasion,” Louise Thompson Davies, a spokeswoman from Kellogg’s, which conducted the survey, said.

“This is why most women tend to reach for the panic button and suspect the worst when they are made a fuss over.

“The smallest changes in a man’s behaviour can set a women’s mind whirring and get them worrying.”

The top 20 things that make women suspicious

Buys jewellery

New moves in the bedroom

More emotional

Buys flowers

Buys chocolates

More attentive

Buys sexy underwear

Books a romantic weekend away

Buys you more things

Helps more with the chores

Tells you he loves you more

Makes breakfast in bed

Pays more compliments

Texts more

Does the cooking

Calls more

Listens better

Runs baths

Hands over the TV remote

Cuddles more

Twenty percent of respondents said they would immediately assume their partner was having a full-blown affair if he did any of the above, while the rest would conclude he had “something to hide” or was trying to distract them from some other misdemeanour.

Your say: Would you be suspicious if your partner brought home flowers? Tell us more at [email protected]

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Could regular arguing keep couples together?

Regular arguing KEEPS couples together

Arguing once a week is the secret to a happy relationship, a new study has found.

An survey of married couples in India concluded that regular arguments made relationships stronger and happier, provided the fights didn’t become abusive.

The research — conducted by relationship site Shaadi.com and market research agency IMRB — said people reported reduced stress levels when they regularly had it out with their partners instead of bottling their feelings up and growing resentful.

But relationship expert William Doherty, a professor in the University of Minnesota’s Department of Family Social Science, has warned that the study’s findings shouldn’t be seen as encouragement to argue.

Doherty says that while constructive arguments can be productive, abusive rows can be a fast-track to a break-up.

“What the studies have shown is that it’s not so much whether couples get angry but how they handle it”, Doherty told the StarTribune.com.

To avoid destructive arguments, Doherty advises people steer clear of angry accusations and instead start the discussion with a considered, calm statement about how the other person’s behaviour makes you feel.

“A soft start-up is the best way”, Doherty says. “Attacking or blaming immediately puts a partner on the defensive.”

Your say: How often do you argue with your partner? Contact us [email protected]

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Thirteen unusual and amazing uses for lemons

Thirteen unusual uses for lemons

Who would have thought that this humble fruit bowl staple was actually a versatile medicine in disguise?

The potential uses for lemons reach far beyond home remedies, too — there’s even scientific evidence that they reduce the risk of cancer and heart attacks.

Related: What to eat to avoid cancer

Here are more reasons to enjoy the zesty tang of lemons:

Spot buster: Dab lemon juice on pimples — its acids slough off the outermost layer of dead skin cells, keeping pores clear and unblocked.

Beat morning sickness: Many pregnant women find relief by sipping lemon water, sucking a lemon wedge, or adding lemon zest to weak black tea. The sharp taste and aroma counter nausea and settle the stomach.

Smell sweet: Lemon juice is an effective underarm deodorant, fighting the bacteria that cause the odour by making the pH level of your skin more acidic.

Heart helper: Along with other antioxidant-rich fruit and veg, such as berries and onions, lemons are a good source of vitamin C, which counters the effects of free radicals (unstable cell-damaging molecules) in the body. Low levels of antioxidants in general, and vitamin C in particular, are associated with an increased risk of stroke and heart attack because unchecked free radicals oxidise cholesterol and encourage it to be deposited as plaque, which blocks the arteries.

Oil change: Lank, limp hair can be caused by over-active sebaceous (oil-producing) glands in the scalp, which may be due to poor diet or illness. Lemon juice helps control oiliness: mix the juice of 1 lemon into 1 cup of water and pour through wet hair as a final leave-in rinse.

Kidney care: The citric acid found in lemons helps to prevent the formation of painful kidney stones — drink a glass of hot water each morning with the juice of a lemon added. Bonus: this also stimulates peristalsis (the wave-like contractions that move food along the digestive tract), and so helps to counter constipation.

Quit the hiccups: Suck on a slice of lemon to get a bout of hiccups under control — the sourness acts as a circuit breaker to the spasms, by temporarily interrupting swallowing and breathing patterns.

Breast cancer hope: Cancer researchers have found that a chemical compound in lemon peel called limonene will inhibit the development of cancerous cells, at least in a test-tube situation; other evidence suggests that limonene stimulates the liver to break down toxins, including potential carcinogens, more effectively.

Breathe easy: If you’re plagued with sinusitis, lemony remedies can help. Try hot lemon tea with a dash of cayenne pepper to thin mucus, or mix the juice of 1/2 a lemon and a good pinch of salt with 1 cup of lukewarm water, and fill a neti pot with it. To use, tilt your head to one side and pour the liquid into one nostril until it comes out the other side. Blow your nose softly and then repeat on the other side.

Wave goodbye to warts: Crush three vitamin C tablets and mix with enough lemon juice to form a gritty paste. Paint directly onto the wart, avoiding surrounding skin (smearing petroleum jelly around it will help), and cover with a bandaid. The acidic effects of the vitamin and the juice will fight the wart virus and also dissolve the wart.

Lighten up: Fade age spots by applying lemon juice to them twice a day. Lemon juice is a mild bleach and its citric acid gently exfoliates and fades pigmented skin.

Cancer fighter: One study found that people who regularly drank black tea with a slice of lemon in it were less likely to get skin cancer; it’s thought the lemon activates the enzyme glutathione, which counters carcinogens in the body.

Dry mouth cure: Lack of saliva is an annoying side effect of certain medications; it’s also linked to ageing. To stimulate saliva flow, add a dash of lemon juice to water.

Related: The secret to growing perfect lemons

Viral vigilante: Never underestimate the healing power of a hot lemon drink when it comes to reducing the miseries of coughs, colds and flu, as it will help to soothe irritated tissues, reduce histamine — the chemical that causes inflammation, stuffy noses and runny eyes — and deliver an immune system-boosting dose of vitamin C, all in one go.

Your say: Do you have any interesting uses for lemons?

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Why you should give booze a break

Why you should give booze a break

The silly season is well and truly over, but many of us are struggling to reduce our holiday alcohol consumption.

Enter Febfast, which is challenging Australians to give up booze for the month of February to raise money for young people struggling with substance abuse problems.

Related: Support Helen’s Febfast campaign

The Weekly’s editor-in-chief Helen McCabe has risen to the considerable challenge and is avoiding alcohol for the next four weeks.

Here, nutritionist Lola Berry tells you why you should quit booze too, and how to do it.

Why should I give up alcohol for a month?

We all indulge a little bit more than we should over Christmas and New Year, which can be really hard on your liver. Avoiding alcohol for a month will take the pressure off and if you stick with it you’ll find you have clearer skin, more energy, improved moods, and you’ll sleep better. You may even find you lose a bit of weight too, because alcohol is so high in kilojoules.

How long until I start feeling good?

It normally takes about four days to start feeling good. You will feel rubbish for the first three days. While your body is getting rid of toxins you can get headaches, feel nauseous and feel bloated but that should all ease by the fourth day.

How can I possibly last the whole month?

  • Try and do it with a few mates so you’ve got people to inspire you

  • Have a bit of fun with it — make mocktails or have a dinner party at home instead of going out.

  • Find a replacement drink so that you don’t feel like you’re missing out when you’re out on the town. Cranberry, apple juice and a little bit of soda water is a nice little mixed drink that still lets you feel like you’re enjoying a bit of a beverage.

If alcohol is so bad, what difference will just one month off make?

Australians generally consume a lot of alcohol, so it’s always a good idea to take a close look at your intake and maybe cut down a little bit. You don’t need to stop drinking forever though. As long as you look after your liver and give it a little detox every six months it should okay.

Okay I’ll do it! How do I make the most of it?

You can really use this month to have a full detox. Start the day with a bit of lemon in warm water because that will help stimulate bile secretion of the liver. On top of that, think about getting more veggies in. Switch any white carbs to brown carbs — switch white bread for wholemeal pasta. Go for less-processed options and more whole foods. Your body will definitely thank you for it.

Related: Why every woman should stop drinking now

Click here for more information on Febfast or to support Helen’s campaign.

Your say: Would you consider reducing your alcohol consumption?

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Eat to beat Alzheimer’s disease

Eat to beat Alzheimer's disease

Alzheimer’s disease is shrouded in mystery but a new study has shed some light on one of its possible causes — a high-fat diet.

The research — conducted by the Veterans Affairs Health Care System in Seattle and published in Archives of Neurology — found that people who ate low-fat diets high in fruit and vegetables were far less likely to develop Alzheimer’s than those who consumed lots of saturated fats.

In a four-week trial, people who ate a diet that was low in saturated fat and focused on low-glycaemic-index foods (e.g. whole grains, beans, vegetables) were shown to have decreased levels of B-amyloid 42, which is a protein that is a biomarker of Alzheimer’s disease risk and is also associated with problem-solving ability and brain inflammation.

Related: What to eat to avoid cancer

However, a second group of test subjects, who were given a diet that was high in saturated fat and high-glycaemic-index foods (e.g. white bread and white rice), demonstrated not only unhealthy changes in their serum cholesterol and insulin levels, but also a striking effect on their concentrations of B-amyloid 42, which, according to the report’s conclusion, “essentially moved them in a direction that may characterise a pre-symptomatic stage of Alzheimer’s disease”.

Study leader Dr Susan Craft adds, “A healthy diet that contains a lot of fruit and vegetables would be important for people who have Alzheimer’s disease or conditions that put them at risk for developing Alzheimer’s disease”.

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Home birth death stirs up mixed emotions

Home birth death stirs up mixed emotions

Home birth hit the headlines worldwide this week when advocate Caroline Lovell died after delivering her baby daughter at home.

Caroline, 36, is believed to have suffered a cardiac arrest shortly after giving birth to baby Zahra on Monday, January 23.

She was already “critically ill” by the time paramedics arrived at her north Melbourne home and she died the following day in Austin Hospital.

Related: Home birth v hospital birth

It was Caroline’s second birth and she was reportedly being assisted by two private midwives.

News of the tragic death broke yesterday and quickly spread around the world, igniting calls for home births to be banned.

Within minutes, social networking sites were inundated with passionate defences of home birthing from the small core of devotees that Caroline herself was a member of.

They were quick to point out the statistics — that Caroline is the first woman to die as a direct result of a home birth since 1999.

As a contrast, the latest figures show that 65 maternal deaths occurred between 2003-2005, with none being related to a home birth.

Homebirth Australia spokeswoman Michelle Meares said these statistics prove it is ‘illogical’ to ban home births because of Caroline’s tragic death.

“The call for a ban on home births because of one maternal death since 1999 is completely illogical,” Michelle told The Weekly. “Sadly many women died in Australian hospitals in childbirth last year — should we ban hospital births, too?

“It’s tragic, but women do die in childbirth, both in hospital and at home. It’s very rare but it does happen.”

However, these figures do not take into account the glaring differences in the number of women who choose home birth over hospital birth.

Currently, home births make up 0.33 percent of all births in Australia — in 2009, there were 863 planned homebirths and around 300,000 hospital births. This huge difference in scale makes statistical comparisons between home births and hospital births impossible.

But Michelle said the small number of home birth enthusiasts is steadily increasing — Homebirth Australia reported a 33 percent rise in the number of women planning home births between 2004 and 2009.

The increasing popularity of home births worries Australian Medical Association president Dr Harry Hemley. He disagrees with the home birthing movement, saying the mortality rate for planned home birth babies is significantly higher than those born in hospitals.

“Obstetric, anaesthetic and paediatric care need to be readily available to deal with unpredictable complications,” he told the Herald Sun. “This cannot occur when a birth takes place in the home.”

Related: My battle with post-natal depression

Your say: Would you ever considering giving birth at home?

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Megan and Miranda’s style tips

They have had plenty of practice as ambassadors for David Jones, so who better to get red carpet ready tips from than Megan Gale and Miranda Kerr.

The pair hit the red carpet of the AACTA awards on Tuesday night, among an array of Aussie actors, and explained exactly what they think makes a red carpet outfit.

Watch the video of the pair sharing their tips and then take a look at the Aussie celebrities who graced the red carpet in style.

Megan Gale and Miranda Keer share their style tips.

Model Miranda Kerr.

Model Megan Gale in Alex Perry.

Alex Dimitriades and Anji Lake.

Actress Sarah Snook.

Red Dog star Rachel Taylor.

Actress Cate Blanchett.

Actress Jackie Weaver.

Offspring star Asher Keddie.

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George Clooney’s lovely ladies

He is arguably Hollywood’s sexiest bachelor and has dated a number of beauties from cocktail waitresses to models. But 50-year-old George Clooney is yet to be locked down.

This year is set to be a big one for George. With his latest squeeze Stacey Kiebler by his side, he is set to take out the top gong at this year’s Oscar Award for Best Actor after being nominated for his role in The Descendants.

Until now only one woman has married George, but it only lasted three years and he has been fancy free since 1993. Let’s hope Stacey has more luck!

Take a look at the ladies who have dated George Clooney over the years.

George Clooney

George and his current girlfriend Stacy Keibler.

George dated Italian model Elisabetta Canalis for two years from 2009.

Former cocktail waitress Sarah Larson dated George between 2007 and 2008.

George met Norwegian-born journalist Mariella Frostrup at the Cannes Film festival in 2002.

George and Renee Zellweger dated in 2001 after she broke up with Jim Carrey.

Two Guys and a Girl actress Taylor Howard dated George briefly in 2000.

George dated English model Lisa Snowdon for five years between 2000 and 2005.

While filming in Paris George met law student Celine Balitran. They dated three years.

Talia Balsam is the only one to marry George. They were married from 1989 to 1993.

Kelly Preston dated George for two years from 1987.

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Brad Pitt: My kids have coke for breakfast

Brad Pitt: My kids have coke for breakfast

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie admit that looking after six children isn’t easy — but Brad has revealed just how tough it can be, especially when travelling.

“Listen, I admit there’s times like, ‘We gotta get up. Get up! Here’s your shoes. Here’s your shoes. Drink this Coke. Drink this Coca-Cola. Drink it all. Right now! Drink it! Drink it! Drink it! Just so we could get ’em up and going,” Pitt said.

In an interview with CBS, Pitt talked about travelling with their six children — Knox, Vivienne, Shiloh, Maddox, Zahara and Pax — who travel with their parents around the world.

“I couldn’t imagine life without any one of them,” Pitt said. “There’s something automatic that just, something happens.”

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Julianne Moore on love, marriage and working with Steve Carell

Julianne Moore on love, marriage and working with Steve Carell

She has been nominated for an impressive four Oscars, six Golden Globes, three BAFTAs and nine Screen Actors Guild Awards, but Julianne Moore is surprisingly grounded.

The mother of two, who is gearing up to play Sarah Palin in Game Change chats to Emily Weaver about her role in her hit romantic comedy Stupid Crazy Love alongside Steve Carell.

What do you think sets this film apart from other romantic comedies with big casts?

I think it starts with the script, I really do. I think that when you don’t pay attention to that, when you don’t have a basis for a movie and you just think I’m just going to put a bunch of, you know, movie stars in a movie and they’re going to look beautiful and they’re going to fall in love, it’s not going to work.

And when you think about all the great romantic comedies, you think about something like Annie Hall or When Harry Met Sally or Tootsie or any of the ones that we consider classics, you think about how strong the scripts were. And this one, I think, has that. It has that kind of structure.

Working with Emma Stone on this film, did you even give her any advice or just let her be?

I always say, ‘Don’t say anything unless you’re asked,’ although I love to give advice. I mean, she’s so wonderful. She’s so talented and a lovely girl and I enjoy her so much, so, I mean, I don’t think she needs any help. She lives here in New York and we’ll continue being friends.

Emma had said that she was surprised at how grounded you and Steve and everybody were. She said that she thought it was because you put your families first.

It was nice that Emma said that. I think, yeah, I mean, I love my life. I love my career and my job and stuff. But I love my family and, like I said, that’s what our lives are about.

Freud always said you need love and work and you have to have that balance. And if you have a family that you care and you love about, and it kind of sustains you, and you have work that you enjoy, then you do feel balanced and you do feel really good.

I remember another young actress was telling me that her mom, who is also an actress, said to her, ‘Work is work. Compartmentalise that. Know that when you come home work is not your life.’

The chemistry between you and Steve Carell was just uncanny. Can you talk about working with him in this?

Thank you. It was so easy with him. He’s somebody whose work I admire so much. I think he’s got a real soulfulness and an ability to connect with an audience as well as with other actors.

So, obviously, the audience is feeling it; I’m feeling it; and then, on top of that, he’s got this impeccable comedic ability. It’s like something I’ve never seen before.

And he’s so humble about it. That’s what’s funny. So, he was just a pleasure. We had a lot in common. We talked a lot about our families and just about other stuff and it was nice. It was always nice to go to work and just be with him. He’s a really, really good guy.

The interesting challenge with this role and your role in the film The Kids are Alright is that you seem to take these characters who are having an affair and humanise them.

And do it twice, too, right? I know. You do think, ‘Is this a trend?’ Like, ‘What is this?’ It is challenging. It totally is, but then you realise that, I think, as you get older and you know people who have been married for a really long time, with the stuff you hear after a while, you’re like, ‘Okay, marriages can survive a lot. They really can.’ There was just, on the front page of the New York Times Magazine, that article about marriage and infidelity.

One of the things that I loved in that article, actually, was that they said that children deserve parents who are going to behave, have responsibility towards them and towards that family, basically that you have to allow marriage to withstand a lot if you’re in a family unit and I thought that was a great thing to put out there.

So, in both cases in these movies, you see someone who has acted out because of some reason in the relationship, but doesn’t want out of the relationship necessarily, just wants something different in their lives.

It’s also interesting to see it unfold through a woman’s point of view. You really never see that.

No, you don’t. It was kind of nice to see someone saying, ‘Hey, I don’t want to be living my life this way. I’m not satisfied with it. I want things to be different.’

Is there any humane way to break up with someone?

Oh, God, no, I don’t think so. I don’t think so. I think somebody’s always going to be hurt. Even if they see it coming. I mean, I don’t know that I’ve ever been on either end of it and felt like it went well.

Crazy Stupid Love is out on DVD and Blu-Ray now.

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