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James Blundell: I can’t wait to marry again

James Blundell: I can’t wait to marry again

After more than 25 years in the business, country music legend James Blundell was awarded the Hall of Fame trophy at this year’s CMC Music Awards, which gave him the chance to reflect on a quarter of a century of highs and lows.

Backstage at CMC Rocks The Hunter, he spoke to our reporter, Sebastian van der Zwan, about failed relationships, his romance with Australian Idol contestant Jesse Curran and his three sons, Briar, 13, Travis, 8, and seven-month-old Fial.

How did it feel picking up the Hall of Fame Award?

It was really special looking over everything that’s happened over the last 25 years. I’ve had a quarter of a century of highs and lows, and it really gives you a perspective on accolades. More than picking up a trophy, it’s about acknowledging the people you’ve worked with and what they’ve helped you achieve.

How has the music industry changed in your time?

There used to be this stereotype where people always thought country music was check shirts, pigtails, dead dogs and broken hearts. It was a really long, hard slog to try to get people to break that perception, but times have changed. Country music is being performed and created by young people. They’re glamorous, intelligent and articulate, and they’re really good musicians and writers. It’s the most exciting genre of music around at the moment.

What’s been your toughest time as a musician?

I’ve been penniless on several occasions. At other times, I’ve been paid for things that weren’t my best work. You begin to realise it’s just a job and, over 26 years, I’d say it’s a little bit better than the average wage. I’ve been fortunate enough to travel the world and play some music.

However, I did get to the stage of finding commercial music so tedious that I bailed out of it for two years and took off in a kombi van around Europe. That was the best thing I ever did. It made me realise music and the arts are what I do.

How has fatherhood changed you as an artist?

Oh, immensely. It’s given me a whole new philosophical bank when it comes to song-writing. It’s about viewing our actions in light of how they’ll affect the next generation, which is going to have to deal with some really important global issues. We can’t keep polluting and it’ll take a lot of courage for that to stop.

I was born in the mid-sixties and our generation was the one that had to come to terms with personal relationships. We had to work out whether we perpetuate relationships, have numerous affairs and lie about them to keep the peace, or whether we own up to what’s going on and admit we’re not happy. The statistics in regards to divorces and separations for my generation, the baby boomers, are atrocious – and that’s because there was no template for that.

Speaking of personal relationships, how are things with you and your partner, Australian Idol contestant Jesse Curran?

It’s very good. That’s been a wonderful breakthrough. We’ve got our seven-month-old baby, Fian, and he’s an absolute doozy. He’s a good kid.

Do you want to make Jesse your third wife?

That’s a very interesting question. When we first got together, she said, “I want to be clear on the fact that I’m not interested in marriage and I don’t want children.” I said, “That’s fine. I’ve got kids I love and I’m a crap husband.” But now I’m wearing her down slowly because I love being married. I don’t ever want to be a serial monogamist, but I’d like to be married to Jesse and one day she might just give in.

What do you guys do together as a family?

Me and my big boys all surf together, but I’m really bad at standing up on my board, as my eldest son likes to point out. We love being in the bush, camping, fishing, shooting and all that stuff. The only things we ever shoot are things we eat or vermin, so it’s not a bloody red-neck thing!

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Country singer Dierks Bentley: ‘My mates Nicole and Keith are normal people’

Country singer Dierks Bentley: 'My mates Nicole and Keith are normal people'

He’s a heart-throb of the country music world with nine Grammy nominations and celebrity buddies like Taylor Swift and Keith Urban. But superstar Dierks Bentley says his greatest joy comes from his wife of seven years, Cassidy Black, and their two daughters, Evie, 3, and Jordan, 1.

While touring Australia with local music legend Lee Kernaghan, Dierks, 36, spoke to Sebastian van der Zwan backstage at CMC Rocks The Hunter.

This is your second time in Australia. How are you enjoying it?

I don’t know where to start! Physically, it’s a really beautiful country. I love the coast. The Gold Coast is amazing. I stayed at Lady Elliot Island and went scuba diving, which was incredible. Then there’s Melbourne, which has such a great vibe. The people are just really laid-back. I love the “good on ya, mate” attitude. I’ve discovered this great spirit of positivity and pride in being Australian. The first time I came here, I knew I wanted to come back straight away, but I had a family right after that. This time, I brought them down with me. It’s the trip of a lifetime.

What have you been up to as a family?

We’ve got our pictures taken with kangaroos and had lots of beach time. The kids have been to see Annie, the musical, and I took them to a Taylor Swift concert. We went backstage and she was like, ‘What are you doing here? It’s a crazy world!”

You’re friends with Taylor Swift?

Yeah, I know her as well as you can and I’m just really proud of her. It’s so great to see the impact she’s having on young girls’ lives, inspiring them to make good choices, believe in themselves and live out their dreams. She’s a really good role model and I hope she’s still around when my daughters are old enough.

You’re also friends with Keith Urban, right?

Yeah, Keith is a buddy. He lives down the street from me. I go to his place and we talk about kids. We watch them swim in the pool while we talk about guitars and how amazing it is to have a couple of girls.

What would surprise people about him and Nicole Kidman?

They’re great, down-home people. They just cruise about like any normal family. Keith’s super-devoted to his wife and kids – crazy about them. And he really loves music. I’ve seen some commercials for The Voice down here, which looks really neat.

You got a university degree before becoming a full-time musician. What did you study?

English. When I moved to Nashville, I had some work to do on my skills and I figured it would be the best thing for my song-writing. My English has actually gotten worse, but I’ve become better and better as a musician. I’m really lucky to make it because there are a lot of talented people in Nashville and everybody’s trying to make it big there.

You’re often described as a bit of a heart-throb. How important is image to you?

Not at all. I’m terrible at it and I get bored with it. I don’t put too much time into the image stuff. I mean, I’ll do anything to get people to my shows and buy my records, but I don’t spend a lot of time looking at myself in the mirror. When I’m off stage, I’m just a dad.

How has fatherhood changed you?

It’s made me even more focused on my music. I don’t want to mess around anymore. When I’m away from my girls, I want to make the time count and put 100% into everything. When I’m away from my family, I really miss them, so I want to make the time count. It makes you dig a little deeper as an entertainer.

Are there any signs the girls are following in your musical footsteps?

My eldest daughter is a big fan of musicals and on my last record, she sings a couple of lines of a song with me. She might be a singer one day. We’ll see. I would definitely encourage it. I’d encourage her to do anything she wants to do. It’s all about following your dreams and chasing your bliss.

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Beccy Cole: ‘How I stayed friends with my ex’

Beccy Cole: 'How I stayed friends with my ex'

She’s released six studio albums and won seven Golden Guitar awards, so it’s obvious singer-songwriter Beccy Cole knows what she’s doing when it comes to country music.

But when talk turns to her love life, the 39-year-old resident of Copacabana, NSW, concedes she hasn’t quite worked it out just yet.

“I’m guilty of crimes of the heart, probably,” Beccy admits. “I’m a saint compared to a lot of others, but I’m not an angel by any means – and I like a drink or seven.”

She talked to our reporter, Sebastian van der Zwan, backstage at the CMC Awards.

You have a song called Shiny Things, which declares your love for all that glistens. Does that extend to your wardrobe?

Absolutely. I’ve got lots and lots of bling. I’ve always been that way, whether it’s in fashion or not. And of course going on stage is a great excuse to don even more bling. I love the excuse that I have to be shiny on stage.

But being distracted by sparkly things is more of a metaphor in this song. I can be engrossed in conversation and suddenly something will catch my eye. I’m a bit like that in my love life too!

Sounds interesting. Can you tell us more?

I’m completely single at the moment – I’m between wrong partners. It’s probably because I’m highly dedicated and motivated with my career. When I love, I love really, really big – and that’s probably detrimental to the business side of things. But when it comes to my song-writing, creatively, it’s probably a good thing.

Your ex-husband, Mick Albeck, plays fiddle on your records. What’s the secret to staying friends?

We’re just good mates and we still very much consider ourselves a family. With marriage, we entered into an agreement and it’s changed slightly over time, but the foundations are still there. We laugh a lot and we have the exact same sense of humour, which is a great thing to base a friendship on. We’ll be together forever – just not, you know, and husband and wife – and I’ll welcome all of his girlfriends, wives, ex-wives and kids into my house at any time!

Does your son, Rikki, follow in his parents’ musical footsteps?

He’s definitely a musician. He plays guitar and drums, and he’s very naturally talented, but there’s no push from me. He’s only 13 and he’s the absolute love of my life. It’s up to him whatever he wants to do. I just tell him to be as brilliant as he can be. That’s all we can do as parents.

What does he think about his mum being a well-known singer?

A lot of my friends are singers, so he thinks that’s just what everybody’s mum does. My best friend, Kasey Chambers, has three kids – and her son is his best friend. He does get a bit embarrassed, though, when he sees my face on the billboards.

Speaking of Kasey, you guys have been friends for more than 20 years. What do you do on girly nights in?

We drink and we laugh. We care about each other and that’s the most important thing. I know she’s always got my back and we know each other secrets – and there are a lot of them! We get together a lot. We had lunch today, actually! She has the biggest heart of anyone I’ve ever come across – and I’ve met a lot of people. She is incredibly generous, but not just because it’s good for her career. She genuinely cares and makes a lot of anonymous contributions, which I’ve probably blown by mentioning it. Oops. She makes you want to be a better human being.

This year, we won an award together for a song we wrote about our friendship and it was so poignant. Twenty years earlier, we’d gone to Tamworth to go busking and then there we were winning an award. We’re doing exactly what we wanted to do when we were kids. We’ve had to work really hard, and we’ve had our dreams shattered and our hearts broken, but essentially we’re living the dream, which is kind of cool.

Is it true you saw Dolly Parton seven times when she was here last?

Oh, yes! She was amazing, incredible… I looked at her and I thought, “That’s what I want to be doing when I’m 66.” She used to say, “Make ‘em laugh, make ‘em cry, scare the hell out of them and go home.” She is the quintessential entertainer. I admire everything about her, especially her ability to laugh at herself – that’s just so important in the business we’re in. You can’t take anything seriously.

You’ll be 40 in October. Would you ever have a nip/tuck like your idol, Dolly?

I’d never say never. Each to their own, I say. If I had the time, there are probably one or two things I would do, but at the moment I’m not completely horrified by the way I look, so I’ll stick with it for a bit.

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I was abused by my husband for over 20 years

I was abused by my husband for over 20 years

Domestic violence victim Catherine Smith.

Catherine Smith was terrorised by her husband in one of the worst cases of domestic violence ever recorded in Australia. Yet while the blows were directed at her, it was her children who suffered the most.

It’s the night that Catherine Smith fears the most. Not for the darkness, but for the nightmares that lurk in it.

And of all the nightmares — and there have been many since she escaped from her dominating and violent husband — there is one that terrifies her most of all.

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“I’m clutching at my neck, clawing at it with my fingers,” recalls Catherine, now 62.

“He’d sliced open my throat with a rusty razor and I’m trying to hold the wound together. It was so vivid. When I woke, I was standing on the brass railing at the head of bed, trying to climb the wall.”

Catherine doesn’t sleep much these days. “I’m too afraid to sleep because of nightmares like that,” she says.

“The nightmares started after I escaped from him. When I was with him, I never dreamed. When I was with him, I was living a nightmare every day.”

Catherine Smith is a survivor. She endured more than 20 years of abuse and violence — physical, emotional and psychological — at the hands of a brutal man.

Kevin John Smith waged a cold, calculated campaign of physical intimidation and psychological warfare against his own family, time and again using his children to emotionally blackmail Catherine into returning to a noxious relationship.

During two decades of living hell, Catherine was strangled, beaten, tortured with a cattle prod, raped and shot at in a reign of perpetual terror described by some as one of the worst cases of domestic violence ever recorded in this country.

Even after she escaped in 1997, Catherine’s nightmare continued as her obsessed husband sent private detectives to track her down and relentlessly harassed their children to discover where she was.

He even kidnapped his adult son and his partner, held them both at gunpoint and forced them to call Catherine.

Driven by fear and desperation, she eventually bought a gun of her own and confronted him.

During an ensuing struggle, Kevin suffered a gunshot wound to the stomach. Police charged Catherine with attempted murder, but a jury acquitted her after just 25 minutes, ruling lawful self-defence.

In a final ironic twist, police charged Kevin for his many crimes against Catherine and he is now serving a 17-year prison sentence.

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Now, Catherine, a mother of six, is waging a campaign against domestic violence and, in early March, addressed the United Nations in an attempt to draw attention to what she believes is a national crisis and a dark stain on the Australian psyche.

“The system failed me and I will never forgive or forget that,” says Catherine. “The system failed my children, too. They had no protection — none. And it’s the children who suffer most because of the horror they see and the abuse they hear.

“The children suffer most. We have to change people’s perception, make them see domestic violence for what it truly is, a crime of the very worst kind.”

Read more of this story in the April issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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Mother of teenage ‘living doll’, Venus Palermo, defends her lifestyle

Venus Palermo is 15, dresses in children's clothing and posts provocative videos of herself online posing as a "living doll" but her mother insists there is nothing wrong with her daughter's lifestyle
Venus Palermo

Venus Palermo is 15, dresses in children’s clothing and posts provocative videos of herself online posing as a “living doll” – but her mother insists there is nothing wrong with her daughter’s lifestyle.

Venus – known online as Venus Angelic – has become an internet sensation.

Her mother Margaret Palermo doesn’t see any harm in her daughter’s choice of hobby, telling the UK TV’s Daybreak that Venus is simply an “innocent and good girl who likes frills and ribbons”.

Do you think Venus’ actions are harmless or dangerous?

Venus says the secret to her look is opaque contact lenses.

Venus’ posts video tutorials so fans can copy her bizarre look.

Venus’ mother says she is happy her daughter is such a “girly girl”.

Venus’ mother would be more worried if her daughter got drunk or smoked.

Venus has attracted criticism for sexualising children.

Venus’ look is inspired by Japanese anime.

She started dressing like a doll after a trip to Japan.

Venus says she has always been into ribbons and pigtails.

Venus dresses like a “living doll” every single day.

Venus says lots of people want to look like she does.

Venus has posted 78 video tutorials on Youtube.

Venus posts fashion advice on her official blog.

Venus with no make-up on and wearing regular clothes.

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Amazing William and Kate waxworks unveiled

Wax figures don’t always look like the people they’re modeled on, but the team at London’s Madame Tussauds got Prince William and Kate Middleton spot-on.

The waxworks – which were unveiled yesterday – cost more than $230,000 each and took a team of artist four months to complete. Kate’s hair alone took six weeks and was crafted from thousands of strands of human hair.

The figures are dressed in copies of the outfits William and Kate wore to announce their engagement in 2010. Madame Tussauds have also recreated three other outfits, which the figures will be dressed in when they travel to other cities.

Spot the difference! The waxwork (left) and the real thing (right).

William and Kate as the appeared in Los Angeles last July.

The wax figures of William and Kate are extremely lifelike.

The royal couple stand near a 1980s version of William’s mother Diana.

A Madame Tussauds employee puts the finishing touches on the waxworks.

A 2007 waxwork of Charles, Camilla, William and Harry stands nearby.

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Miley’s makeover to keep Liam

Aussie actor Liam Hemsworth knew when he hit the red carpet last week that it was the biggest night of his life. But even with his new film The Hunger Games breaking box office records, and his star hitting the big-time, he was surprised to find that all eyes were on his girlfriend Miley Cyrus – and that’s just the way she’d planned it. The former Disney star underwent a dramatic style makeover in time for her boyfriend’s special day. Gone were the scruffy clothes and ragged hair extensions, and her multiple tattoos were discreetly covered. In their place were a glamorous haircut, sleek gown and toned body. But the cameras were only focused on one thing – the enormous sparkling rock on the 19-year-old’s ring finger.

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Then and now: Miley Cyrus has transformed her look.

Miles takes underwear as outerwear.

Leaving veeery little to the imagination.

Where are your pants Miley?

Miley transformation first became apparent on the People’s choice awards red carpet.

Liam is said to be unimpressed by Miley’s hunger for fame, just when he’s hit the big time.

Liam’s achievement was overshadowed by what turned out to be a “fake engagement”

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Is Harper Beckham the cutest baby ever?

With parents like David and Victoria Beckham, baby Harper was always going to be gorgeous – but no one expected her to be quite so adorable.
Harper Beckham

With parents like David and Victoria Beckham, baby Harper was always going to be good-looking – but no one expected her to be quite so adorable.

With her angelic face and designer wardrobe, Harper has quickly become the cutest kid in Hollywood, eclipsing previous favourites Suri Cruise and Shiloh Jolie-Pitt.

Harper even has several fashion blogs dedicated to documenting her style, despite the fact that she is only eight months old.

Do you think Harper is the cutest celebrity baby?

Harper with dapper dad David in February 2012.

Victoria takes Harper shopping at Marc Jacobs in September 2011.

Harper and Victoria out on the town in New York City in November 2011.

Jetset baby: At JFK airport in February.

David and Harper in February.

Victoria tweeted this picture of David and Harper last October.

David and Harper just days after she was born.

David put this picture of his “sleeping girls” on Facebook last year.

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William and Kate surprise passengers on budget airline

William and Kate surprise passengers on budget airline

William and Kate board a plane in Canada last July.

Prince William and Kate Middleton might be royalty, but it appears they still appreciate a bargain, choosing a budget airline to fly home from their ski trip on Sunday.

Passengers on an easyJet flight from Geneva to Manchester were stunned when they boarded their plane and found the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge sitting in the main cabin.

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The couple were travelling with police protection officers, but otherwise behaved like any other passengers.

They went through the usual security checks before boarding, and received no special treatment in the air.

Other passengers were delighted by the couple’s appearance, and took to Twitter to express their excitement at seeing the royals in the flesh.

“Still can’t believe how close I was to Will and Kate,” one flyer Chris Nash posted.

William and Kate were returning to the UK after a week-long ski trip in the French Alps.

William is believed to have organised the romantic trip to make up for missing Valentine’s Day due to his six-week RAF posting in the Falkland Islands.

Kate’s parents Carole and Michael Middleton and her sister Pippa joined the royal couple for a few days, but they finished their break alone.

This isn’t the first time senior royals have chosen to fly with a budget airline. William and Kate flew with Flybe to attend Zara Phillips’ wedding in Edinburgh last July, while Prince Harry took an easyJet flight to the same nuptials.

Harry also chose easyJet to travel to Geneva for a New Year skiing holiday last year.

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William and Harry’s uncle Prince Andrew, however, prefers a more luxurious flying experience.

The prince, known as ‘Air Miles Andy’, is frequently criticised for abusing his position. In 2010, he spent $7700 to hire a helicopter to take him to an engagement just 95km away, while in 2009, he rented another helicopter to fly him to his favourite golf course for an hour.

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Don’t have a favourite child? You’re lying

Don't have a favourite child? You're lying

Parents might say they don’t have favourites, but research shows they are lying. Jordan Baker reports on the science of parental preference and its life-long effects.

When US writer Kate Tietje confessed that she loved her son “just a little bit more” than her daughter, she provoked an enormous response.

Yet, surprisingly, there was more empathy than anger. Many parents sheepishly — and anonymously — confessed that they had a favourite, too.

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“This is exactly how I feel with my three-year-old daughter and 10-month- old son,” read one comment.

Parents who say they don’t have a favourite child are lying, says Jeffrey Kluger, author of The Sibling Effect.

There might be equal amounts of love, but parents usually have a stronger connection to one of their children.

Not that they admit it, perhaps even to themselves, but that doesn’t matter, their preference will be betrayed by their actions.

“They tend to direct more attention to one child than another — their laughter, applause — and they tend to celebrate accomplishments [of the favourite child] with greater enthusiasm,” says Jeffrey.

His view is backed by myriad studies. One showed 70 per cent of fathers and 60 per cent of mothers demonstrated a preference for one child over another even when they knew their behaviour was being watched.

In another, 70 per cent of mothers named a child to whom they felt closest.

Children pick up on this, says Professor Dalton Conley, head of social sciences at New York University.

When siblings are interviewed as adults, they will all name the favourite. “They are shocked at the agreement between them,” he says

Often, the parent’s favourite will be the child most like them, with extra points if they are the opposite gender — Daddy’s girl or Mummy’s boy.

“We are all reproductive narcissists,” says Jeffrey Kluger. “We have children because we are driven by this primal need to reproduce ourselves. We tend to respond best to a child who reminds us of ourselves the most.”

There are also market forces which determine favour in families. Parents have limited amounts of time and money, so must distribute them wisely. Children will instinctively learn how to compete for those resources.

“We found that sibling equality is really a luxury,” says Professor Conley. “Wealthier parents can afford to invest in a way that creates equality.

“Sometimes, wealthier families are more likely to send the kid that’s doing the worst to private school. Poorer families have to put eggs in the most promising kid’s basket.”

Favouritism, real or perceived, can be damaging for the less-favoured child. One study found kids who felt less loved than their siblings were more likely to develop anxiety, low self-esteem and depression.

Another found that those who felt their mother preferred another suffered the emotional after-affects well into adulthood.

Yet there are down-sides for the favoured child, too. “There are obviously kids who do tend to come out of the incubator with a greater level of self-esteem or competence,” says Jeffrey Kluger.

“When you have been a favourite, you feel worthy. The down-side is there also tends to be a real sense of entitlement and often an inability to be comfortable with a larger world in which laurels have to be earned before they are bestowed.”

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Denying the existence of a favourite, the tactic of most parents, is the kindest thing they can do.

“There are two benefits to parents not saying it out loud,” says Jeffrey. “One is that the child still has a level of plausible deniability.

“Secondly, when kids know it anyway, there’s an act of love and protection in the very act of denial. It’s a generous thing to do — it takes an effort to deny. You know, at some level, that your mother or father is making an effort to protect and love you.”

Read more of this story in the April issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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