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How having an affair could save your marriage

How having an affair could save your marriage

Infidelity ends thousands of marriages every year, but a new book is suggesting cheating could help couples stay together.

It is an opinion sure to prove controversial, but bestselling British author Catherine Hakim has written a self-help book explaining how having an affair could make your relationship stronger.

An excerpt from the paperback — entitled The New Rules of Marriage: Internet Dating, Playfairs and Erotic Power — was published in the UK’s Telegraph yesterday, and advocated infidelity as the way to reduce high divorce rates.

Hakim thinks fidelity is a “trap” which turns humans into “caged animals”.

She advises men and women to explore their sexuality outside their relationships, comparing extramarital affairs to eating out at a restaurant.

“The fact that we eat most meals at home with spouses and partners does not preclude eating out in restaurants to sample different cuisines and ambiences, with friends or colleagues,” she writes.

“Anyone rejecting a fresh approach to marriage and adultery, with a new set of rules to go with it, fails to recognise the benefits of a revitalised sex life outside the home.”

Hakim says the optimal time for an affair is 45 for women, and 55 for men. Herself happily married, the author says she wouldn’t care if her own husband had an affair, and thinks others should be equally open-minded.

“I am not saying that everybody should do it, and most people do not have affairs,” Hakim said in an interview with BBC Radio 4.

“The key point is that we need to be more tolerant of them. Sometime they can ruin marriages, but if you take the view that most of them blow over and a good marriage is still a good marriage we should be a bit more laid back about them like the French, Italians and Spanish.

“The temptation is always there for everyone. I am happily married, and I would hope that if my partner had an affair he would be so discreet about it that I wouldn’t notice anyway. Total discretion is the absolute rule, the other party should never find out.”

The New Rules: Internet Dating, Playfairs and Erotic Power will be released in September.

Your say: Do you think affairs strengthen relationships, or destroy them? [email protected]

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48-year-old mum of 10 expecting quintuplets

A 48-year-old mother of ten is expecting quintuplets.

A 48-year-old mother of ten is expecting quintuplets.

A 48-year-old Melbourne mother of 10 is pregnant with quintuplets conceived without the help of IVF.

The mother, who is expected to give birth any day now, became pregnant naturally, the Seven Network reported.

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Doctors say the natural pregnancy could be considered a miracle, with the mum’s chance of multiple conception already slim because of her age.

“Fertility naturally declines and to conceive spontaneously after the age of 45 is particularly uncommon, as is a multiple pregnancy after 45,” obstetrician Dr Len Kilman said.

The likelihood of such a conception is thought to be around one in 55 million.

The quintuplets, expected to arrive at the Monash Medical Centre in Melbourne, will be the first set of quins born in Victoria since the 1980 and will be one of only about a dozen sets in the country.

One of those belongs to a Queensland lesbian couple Rosemary Nolan and Marissa Keevers, who gave birth to Noah, Charlie, Eireann, Evie and Abby last year with the help of a sperm donor.

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The Nolan-Keevers quins were born more than 13 weeks premature, each weighing less than a kilogram.

The Victorian quintuplets born to the Kissane family in 1980 were 11 weeks premature. None of the babies — four boys and one girl — survived.

While the Monash Medical Centre would not confirm the report, a spokeswoman said they did have a patient expecting a multiple birth.

The woman is said to be in her 29th week of pregnancy.

Video: Quintuplets go home

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Prince Harry parties in Vegas

Partying Prince Harry is living it up in Las Vegas. The 27-year-old prince has been enjoying himself at Las Vegas’s Encore Beach Club wearing a white hat, dark sunglasses and board shorts.

Partying poolside in a bungalow with a private Jacuzzi, the prince was filmed by US TV channel Extra.

He was joined by two police bodyguards and his best friend, Tom ‘Skippy’ Inskip.

The pair checked into a suite at the five-star Wynn hotel and casino with the prince telling one fellow guest he was there for some ‘full-on partying’, the UK’s Daily Mail reported.

Prince Harry Parties in Vegas. Pictures: Extra TV.

The prince was there for some rest and relaxation.

One onlooker said Prince Harry was “mingling with everyone” and having a great time.

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Royal splits and scandals

Members of the royal family have certianly got themselves into a bit of trouble over the years. Here, we take a look at the most publicised royal splits and scandals.

Rewinding back to 1955, Princess Margaret is forced by the royal family to renounce marriage plans to Battle of Britain war hero, Peter Townsend, because he is a divorcee.

Pictures of Margaret in a swiming costume with a man 17 years her junior were published in 1976 — two years later she divorced Anthony Armstrong-Jones.

Sarah Ferguson was photographed in 1992 in, er, intimate poses with John Bryan.

Photo: News of the World

Sarah and husband Prince Andrew (pictured with daughters Beatrice and Eugenie) divorced in 1996.

In a 1994 TV documentary, Charles admitted he was unfaithful to Diana. An “authorised” biography the same year reveals how he was pressured by his parents to marry Diana even though he never loved her.

A year later, Diana agreed to an interview with the BBC, in which she revealled her own infidelity with Life Guards officer James Hewitt, among other intimate details about palace life and dealing with the press.

The next day, headlines about Diana’s candid interview ran wild.

Even from as far back as the ’80s, claims of infidelity emerged about the couple, and Diana’s bulimia and attempted suicides were also talk among royal-watchers.

When Diana was killed in a car crash alongside companion Dodi Fayed in 1997, Dodi’s father Mohamed claimed it was a conspiracy. The royals, meanwhile, were criticised for their detached reaction to the event.

Both Anne and Mark sparked headlines in the lead up to their divorce. In 1989, there were love letters found from former royal attendant Tim Laurence, while Mark was accused of fathering a child with another woman in 1991.

In a more bizarre royal mishap, 2001 saw Sophie of Wessex chatting all too candidly with a “sheikh” — who was actually a British reporter in disguise. The News of the World investigations editor claimed that Sophie called then-Prime Minister Tony Blair “too presidential”, his wife Cherie “horrid, horrid, horrid”, while opposition leader William Hague was “deformed”.

Wills and Harry have made headlines for their party-hard approach to socialising, reportedly spending thousands of dollars on alcohol and frequenting nightclubs with hoards of similarly festive friends.

In 2002, Harry admitted to smoking marijuana and drinking under age.

Prince Harry got into a slittle strife when he was photographed drunk in the backseat of a car with his friends.

Pictures of a young Prince William emerged in 2011 of him partying in his boxer shorts and covered in feather bowers. The images were taken during a friend’s 21st birthday party during his university days.

Prince William and Kate Middleton’s on-again, off-again relationship makes headlines, with Kate nicknamed “Waity Katey” by UK press.

The royal family was rocked by allegations Princess-in-waiting Kate Middleton’s uncle offered drugs and hookers to an undercover policeman. Prince William was forced to stand by his girlfriend who was reportedly too embarrassed by the scandal, involving her mother’s estranged brother, to visit his family home.

Princess Beatrice has been slammed for her fashion sense and gained attention with a love-it-or-hate-it butterfly headpiece. Her Royal wedding hat also gained her a lot of unwanted attention.

Continuing his streak of scandal, in 2005 Harry turned up at a fancy-dress party as a Nazi — for which he has since apologised.

One of the guards hired to protect Queen Elizabeth was found to be an illegal immigrant who entered the army under a false name, causing red faces for palace officials.

University student Princess Beatrice was heavily criticised over taxpayer-funded refurbishments to her new apartment, which cost more than half a million dollars – while her fellow students were roughing it in 88 pound-per-week digs.

Rumours fly after Prince Harry is spotted partying late one night at the birthday celebrations of Natalie Imbruglia, who is ten years older than the young royal. They were also allegedly hugging and kissing at a London music festival, though both have denied the pair were ever a couple.

Pictures of Prince Harry partying naked in Las Vegas were published online in August 2012. At first there was speculation that the images weren’t of him, however Clarence House soon confirmed that it was indeed him.

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Mel B steps out with baby Madison

Check out these cute snaps of Mel B with her 11-month-old daughter Madison!

The busy working mum of three stepped out on Sunday with her little girl in tow as she attended some work meetings at the channel seven Sunrise studio in Sydney.

The 37-year-old showed off her curves in a figure-hugging dress, while baby Madison looked extra cute in a white dress with a polka dot bow.

Mel has had a busy month after reuniting with The Spice Girls for the London Olympics closing ceremony, she is now working as a judge on the X Factor.

Check out the pictures of Mel B and her family here.

Mel B and Madison.

Mel B on set of the X Factor with fellow judge Natalie Bassingthwaighte.

Mel tweeted this picture of baby Madison.

Family shot: Mel B, her partner Stephen Belafonte, Madison, Angel and Phoenix.

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Australia’s buzzing new metropolis: Brisbane

The Sunshine State’s capital has come of age. Now seen as Australia’s new hip getaway city, here are 15 of Mike Dolan’s favourite ways to spend a great long weekend in Brisbane.
The Story Bridge and Brisbane's CBD.

1. A GRAND ARRIVAL

Brisbane’s Airtrain allows you arrive in style without breaking the bank. On arrival at the domestic terminal, follow the signs to the front of the building, go up the travelator to the station, where the trains leave every 20-30 minutes. It takes just 15 minutes to central stations, such as Fortitude Valley and Roma St Station, and costs $15.50 at the station and $13.95 online, rather than $45 by taxi. Beats Sydney and Melbourne equivalents hands-down.

2. CLIMB THE BRIDGE

On this two-and-half-hour climb, there are 1138 steps to the Story Bridge’s viewing platform, 80-metres above the Brisbane River. Famous for its long-slung arches, the bridge, circa 1940, is 74 metres lower than Sydney’s 154-metre span, but the view is just as spectacular. In the east, you can see the Gold Coast and, inland, the Glasshouse Mountains. At dusk, as the sun sets and the bridge lights come on, the city across the river twinkles like a fun fair. It’s a more intimate view than the one in Sydney, where you could be an eagle soaring above the city far, far below. In Brisbane, you feel you can reach out and almost touch the CBD. The same man: engineer Dr J.J. Bradfield built both bridges and when the two spans of the Brisbane bridge met above the river, they were one-tenth of a millimetre out of line. Needless to say they didn’t decide to start all over again! Tickets, from $84.

3. MEET AN ANCIENT EGYPTIAN

Exclusive to Brisbane, this British Museum exploration of an ancient Egyptian priest’s life and death has been extended due to popular demand. It tells the story of Nesperennub, aged about 30, who served in the great temple complex of Karnak, Luxor, 3000 years ago. Using the latest forensic space-age technology, it explores inside the priest’s mummified body without even moving the bandages and delivers an extraordinary 3D film, plus more 100 funerary objects. Very little gold, but rivetting.

4. VISIT A WING OF THE PRADO

A grand art coup, Portrait of Spain: Masterpieces from The Prado brings more than 100 paintings and drawings to the banks of the Brisbane River and allows punters to take a long hard look at the richest and poorest people in the world during the 16th and 17th centuries. Spain was the super power and on show are all the royals in their splendid gowns, attended by courtiers, dwarfs et al. Queensland Art Gallery director, Dr Tony Ellwood, says, “The Prado has come to Brisbane.” In truth, it’s a tiny selection of what’s on offer at one of the world’s greatest galleries. It does, however, include masterpieces by Goya, Velazquez, Ribera, Murillo, Tiepolo, Titian, Rubens and Pereda. The characters painted range from the pompous to the bizarre. Spot the facial deformities of interbred Hapsburg royals, the bitter expressions of the court dwarfs, the hideously obese little peasant girl shown off as a court monstrosity, the pious expressions of the true believers and the richly adorned lady, dripping in jewels, who looks just like Aunty Jack — little moustache and all.

5. SLEEP IN A MODERNIST MAYAN TEMPLE

You won’t forget the 5-star Brisbane Hilton. First, it’s in an extraordinary building — the only hotel ever designed by controversial Australian architect Harry Seidler. Second, it’s had $37 million lavished on it. And third, it delivers comfort, service and food with finese. The lobby soars up 55 metres to a light well and is reminescent of the interior of a Mayan step pyramid. Gliding up and down the north wall are three tubular see-through lifts — a touch of Stanley Kubrick’s film 2001 — and behind a glass wall is the one Chef’s Hat Vintaged Bar & Grill restaurant. The kitchen is open and allows diners to watch executive chef Dario Fiorino in action as he grills and barbecues meat, game, poultry and fish. The bar next to the reception glows like a collection of giant ice-cubes and is surrounded by cubist red leather lounges. It’s a very cool space. The rooms and suites are shrewdly designed to give maximum space and comfort. The executive floors and lounge are superb. If you can’t stay here, at least treat yourself to dinner.

6. EAT LIKE A NEOPOLITAN

Elegant simplicity is how Andrew Baturo likes to sum up his restaurant. “Italian eating is family coming together … Mama bringing out the dishes,” he says. I didn’t spot his mama, but the words capture the ambience — relaxed, friendly and fragrant with flavour. The design is edgy: murals of Neopolitan graffiti, rust-aged wrought-iron fixtures, parquet flooring and marble table tops. There’s a terrace and the glass doors fold back so the inside becomes a shaded outside. Its prime South Bank position offers spectacular river views, but it’s the food that rings true. For starters, try the pan-fried sardines with green chilli and herb salsa or crispy whitebait with caper and artichoke cream. For mains, don’t miss out on the Kingaroy suckling pig with spiced peach compote and anchovy sauce (on the side) or the free-range chicken, truffle butter, roasted in the oven. The food is simple and divine … and the desserts are irresistible. This is Italian at its freshest best.

7. WHILE AWAY SOME TIME ON THE RIVER

For just $5.20, visitors can explore the Brisbane River on a citycat ferry as its snakes its way through the city and suburbs. If your last journey starts within two hours of buying a ticket, it’s just $5.20, no matter if you disembark two and a half hours after buying the ticket. This allows you to go the 17 stops from one end of the route, such as the University of Queensland campus, to the other at Northshore Hamilton, where Cirque du Soleil have set up their circus tent. It’s a great way to get to know the city and very relaxing, too!

8. BE MESMERISED BY CIRQUE DU SOLEIL

As Cirque du Solei sets out to explore the world of insects in Ovo, I’m sitting in their tent wishing I had an enormous can of insecticide. It’s so twee, I’m blushing. Then, without warning, the show explodes into something so compelling, I’m sucked into a vortex of incredulity. The turbo-charged energy and sinew-defying gymnastics are irresistible, so are the choreography, the lighting and kaleidoscope of colour. There’s no story worth following and the humour is aimed at the kids, but the feats of derring-do and brilliantly conceived scenes leave you enthralled … and the kids mesmerised.

9. STAY IN A QUEENSLANDER

There’s French champagne available at the rooftop honesty bar and a view of Brisbane’s illuminated Story Bridge, where the sun sets. Welcome to Spicers Balfour, a nine-room boutique hotel housed in a Queenslander, circa 1901, in the inner-city suburb of New Farm. With so few rooms and such welcoming staff, it almost feels like staying with friends. The rooms aren’t large, but so well designed you seem to have plenty of space. Mine looks over a Japanese-style garden with elegant bamboo and scrubbed pebbles. Inside, there’s a Nespresso machine, fount with filtered water, mini-chandelier, light grey decor with turquoise armchair and queen bed with mauve quilt cover. There’s no bath, but a generous rain shower and fluffy towels. It’s stylish and comfortable. Upstairs, breakfast is served either in the dining room or on the wrap-around verandah, where clipped hedges and lawns, frangipani and silver birch give delightful views over the garden. Bird song and freshly squeezed orange, watermelon and lime juice greet me, followed by a generous plate of smoked salmon omelette with rocket and goats cheese, and an excellent latte. I didn’t see a barista, but then Spicers Balfour is full of pleasant surprises.

10. DISCOVER THE ART OF ENTERTAINING KIDS

The Children’s Art Centre at the Gallery of Modern Art (GOMA) takes children seriously and rarely fails to enchant them. Exhibitions and workshops that captivate kids are held all year round. Kids: Fly Away Home (until October 2, 2012) is an installation created by Fiona Hall that recreates the world of migratory birds out of wood and paper. Trees, nests and colourful bird models fill a large play space and this wonderful room, which is just like a kids’ den, aims to get children thinking about birds and contemporary human migration. Children are invited to create new species of birds with paper “banknotes” and build a home in the form of a nest. Earlier in the year, during the Easton Pearson fashion exhibition, children created wardrobes of paper outfits for their dolls. And to coincide with the Portrait of Spain: Masterpieces from The Prado, drawing classes and workshops are being organised for the young ones.

11. CELEBRATE SEASONAL DISHES AT SPRING

As you walk into Spring, Brisbane melts away and Barbados emerges from within this imaginatively decorated space. It’s the tropical shutters, the scrubbed French oak floorboards, the palest blue and white paintwork and naive art that conjure up a mirage of Carribbean chic that lifts the spirits before you’ve even had time to pick up the menu. Kym Machin, Queensland’s Good Good Guide Chef of the Year, is in the kitchen. The vegetable tart with parmesan crisp top looks uninspiring, but delights the palate. The exquisitely cooked vegetables are wafer thin and full of flavour; the pastry is perfect. A simple dish in the hands of an inspired chef can transcend its ingredients and Machin’s vegetable tart is just such a delight. But the star of the meal is the wagyu sirloin, hand cut chips with Cafe de Paris butter. It’s tender, of course, but the taste is what distinguishes this as the finest quality meat. The desserts are fascinating — miniature landscapes created in glass bowls. Machin’s take on lemon meringue tart is highly imaginative and exquisite. My only regret is that this CBD restaurant is not open on weekends.

12. A TASTE OF FRANCE

Be transported to France with the food of Thierry Galichet, whose artistry and craft have won over a loyal and discriminating clientele. Classics such as Coquilles St Jacques are served with pea mash; the double baked souffle with sand crab meat and Gruyere cheese will transport you to the Left Bank, as will the roasted quail sitting on beetroot risotto. Polished wooden floors and bar, red banquets and bar stools and gilt mirrors recreate the atmosphere of a traditional French brasserie.

13. STROLL AROUND THE FARMERS MARKET

Visit the colourful and bustling farmers market in the park in the appropriately named suburb of New Farm. Among its 120 stalls, you’ll find flowers and the freshest produce, including red claw yabbies, all types of breads, meat, fish and poultry. It’s a feel-good grass roots experience. Held on the second and fourth Saturday of each month, there are plenty of food stalls and entertainment … and just around the corner on the river is The Powerhouse, the city’s edgy arts centre — home to stand-up comedians, theatre, jazz and every type of music and and performance.

14. SOAK UP SOME OF BRISBANE’S HERITAGE

This triple-storey hotel, with its wrap-around verandas adorned with ornate white and green wrought-iron, is one of the last remaining family-owned hotels in Brisbane. And it’s a landmark with many a legend and the perfect place to quench your first after the Bridge Climb. It’s where all the workers who built the bridge drank in the late 1930s and early 1940s. In fact, locals will tell you that the hotel is the only reason the carriageway leading off the west side of the bridge isn’t straight. Rather than knock the hotel down, Bradfield built the carriageway around the pub.

15. PADDLE DOWN THE RIVER

Embark on a leisurely one-and-half hour kayak trip along the iconic Brisbane River and then indulge in platters of fresh king prawns and a drink to toast the weekend. As you glide gently down river with the stream lending a hand, take in the glittering shores of South Bank, the Botantic Gardens, Eagle St Pier and Story Bridge.

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Prince William saves girl from drowning

Prince William saves girl from drowning

Prince William in the cockpit of a Sea King helicopter.

He’s already a prince, but William became a knight in shining armour for a drowning 16-year-old girl last week.

The Duke of Cambridge was part of a team of Royal Air Force search and rescue pilots who plucked the struggling girl from the dangerous waters off the coast of Wales on Thursday.

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The teenager had been body-boarding in Silver Bay when she was caught in a rip current and dragged out to sea.

The alarm was raised and William and his team — who were taking their Sea King helicopter through its paces as part of a routine exercise nearby — arrived less than a minute later.

The girl was rapidly losing strength as they approached and had disappeared under the water when William positioned the helicopter above her struggling form.

A paramedic was winched down to fish her out of the water, literally saving her life.

“We never know what we’ll face when we’re called out,” Master Aircrew Harrison said in a statement.

“Sometimes it’s just a twisted ankle or a broken bone, but this was one rescue where we truly did arrive in the nick of time and managed to save this young girl’s life.”

William then flew the girl and her younger sister — who was rescued by a surfer — to a nearby hospital for treatment.

In pictures: Charles checks up on William at work

The Duke has been working as a search and rescue pilot on the remote Welsh island of Anglesey since 2010.

He and his wife Catherine live on the island in their beloved rented farmhouse.

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MasterChef’s Marion Grasby is engaged!

MasterChef's Marion Grasby is engaged!

Marion Grasby got the best sort of surprise when her boyfriend Tim presented her with a diamond ring in a romantic sunset proposal.

It comes as no surprise to learn that the quietly spoken man who won Marion Grasby’s heart charmed her after he cooked an incredible feast when they met in Adelaide six years ago. “He was very impressive,” recalls a besotted Marion with a blinding smile matched by the sparkling diamond engagement ring that Tim designed in secret with Affinity Diamonds.

“It was a six-course dinner with matching wines, and he spent six hours reducing down this crab sauce which was just amazing. And it wasn’t even a date, because he had never met me before that night!” The couple met through a mutual friend, and while there was an instant attraction, it still took several months before they fell in love — and yes, it was after a fantastic meal, at iconic Adelaide restaurant Star of Greece.

“I told him I was cold and needed to snuggle,” remembers Marion, who admits she wasn’t in the least bit cold. “We’d been friends for a few months, and I thought he was pretty cute, and there was a bit of fancying going on…and he can cook!” Marion was so impressed to find a man who knew his way around a kitchen, she “forgot” to tell him she was also a passionate cook.

“I didn’t cook for Tim for a few months, because I enjoyed being cooked for — I actually pretended I couldn’t cook,” she says. It was preparing a batch of her mum’s spring rolls that brought her unstuck. “All of a sudden the requests were coming thick and fast, and now Tim doesn’t cook at all — although he does the best steak and lamb on the barbecue.” The couple moved from Adelaide to Sydney when Marion was selected for MasterChef, renting a home at Palm Beach, overlooking Pittwater on Sydney’s northern peninsula — a perfect backdrop to his romantic proposal.

Read more about Marion’s proposal in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday August 20, 2012.

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Jennifer Aniston says YES!

Jennifer Aniston says YES!

The beaming bride-to-be has found real love, and Ange, her nemesis, isn’t happy.

Jennifer Aniston’s love-life has often mirrored those romantic comedies she’s so famous for. Dumped by her A-list husband Brad Pitt for his sexy movie co-star Angelina Jolie, Jen was then forced to watch from the wings as Brad became cast in real life as dream dad to six cute children. Meanwhile, she endured a string of failed relationships with the likes of Vince Vaughn, John Mayer and Gerard Butler.

But, just like in the movies, she never gave up hope that one day she’d find “the one”. “It will happen,” she promised Vanity Fair in 2005. “There’s an amazing man wandering the streets right now who’s the father of my children.” And last year, she found him in the form of quirky scriptwriter/actor Justin Theroux — her patience had paid off. Last week, Justin surprised Jen by showing up unannounced to her movie set and proposing on his 41st birthday.

The pair later celebrated at a restaurant. And this time, Jen knows she’s in this marriage forever. “The proposal totally melted Jen’s heart,” says a source close to the actress. “She couldn’t resist — she screamed out, ‘Yes!'” The overjoyed couple confirmed the news two days later, with his rep saying, “Justin had an amazing birthday on Friday, receiving an extraordinary gift when his girlfriend accepted his proposal of marriage.”

It’s no secret Jen, 43, has had a hard and humiliating time trying to find the perfect man. And even when she first met Justin back in 2007, introduced by their mutual friend Ben Stiller, it wasn’t exactly love at first sight. “I remember thinking he was very dark. At first, you think he could be, like, a serial killer,” she recently revealed. “But he’s actually the nicest person in the world!”

Read all the details about Justin’s proposal in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday August 20, 2012.

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John Mayer moves on to Katy Perry

John Mayer moves on to Katy Perry

He’s happily loved up with Katy but can’t help thinking about how he lost Jen.

When news of Jennifer Aniston’s engagement broke late last week, all John Mayer could do was wistfully wonder what might have been. The singer, now in a fledgling relationship with Katy Perry, knew he’d lost a good thing when his bad-boy ways broke them up back in 2009.

“Jen really liked him,” says a close friend. “He could’ve been where Justin is right now but he didn’t play his cards right. He regrets screwing up.” The 34-year-old — nicknamed Mayer the Player — humiliated Jen by calling an impromptu press conference with the paparazzi after they split. “He played games,” says the source. “Not calling her when he was on tour, coming up with all kinds of excuses not to show up to things…that sort of s**t doesn’t fly with adult women.”

It’s this kind of behaviour that has Katy’s friends concerned for the pop star, 27, who’s fresh from her divorce from UK comedian Russell Brand. But a mutual friend of the hot new couple says John’s learned his lesson from losing Jen – and this time he’s playing for keeps.

“He’s very happy with Katy — and they’re much more of a good match,” the source says. “They both have immature sides and serious sides, and they’re closer in age and career.” And while John has — perhaps deservedly — beaten himself up over his Lothario ways, which also broke the hearts of Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Love Hewitt, a close insider says he’s ready to move on from that time in his life.

Read more about John and Katy in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday August 20, 2012.

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