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Private Pippa’s publishing debut

Pippa Middleton's party planning book

Pippa Middleton's party planning book

Since being thrust into the spotlight at the side of her sister Kate, now the Duchess of Cambridge, Pippa Middleton has played the part of socialite, a formidable bridesmaid, and occasional honorary royal. Now she can also call herself an author.

Following in her parents professional party-planning footsteps, Pippa has released her debut book — a celebration guide filled with recipes, decorating ideas, and other inspirations.

Related: Pippa Middleton ‘devastated’ by ugly face taunts

Celebrate: A year of festivities for families and friends, has been billed as a ‘comprehensive seasonal guide to simple and creative entertaining’, and is reported to be the product of a $260,000 book deal for Miss Middleton.

On the patchwork style cover of the book, Pippa is pictured four times, fixing garden decorations, preparing food with a child, setting a table, and on the beach throwing a Frisbee.

The posed pictures may come as a surprise, as Pippa constantly insists on maintaining her privacy.

UK newspapers are in agreement not to use paparazzi photographs of the Duchess’ sister because of her request to remain out of the public eye, even though she often attends public events, and is now further boosting her profile with her publishing debut.

Whether she is able to maintain her “private citizen” status following the book’s release remains to be seen.

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The book, described as a cross between a party planning bible, entertainment guide and recipe book is set for an October release, but is already attracting criticism.

Some commentators have accused the author of cashing in on her sister’s royal status.

Kate and Pippa’s parents Carole and Mike Middleton, have faced similar accusations, with their online family business Party Pieces, which sold Royal Wedding paraphernalia last year, quadrupling in traffic surrounding the event.

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Why I donate my eggs

Why I donate my eggs

Melissa, her husband Chris and their daughters Caitlin and Emily.

Melissa Bridges is a 29-year-old nurse, mother of two, and egg donor to women who can’t have children. She is responsible for four babies and three more on the way.

One day, I was working at a hospital and I heard crying, so I went to find out what was wrong. One of the nurses was in tears; her seventh IVF cycle had failed.

She was saying, “What if my husband leaves me because I can’t give him a baby?” I wished I could help her, but at that stage, I didn’t know donation existed.

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A few weeks later, I found an “egg donor wanted” ad. I thought many people would apply and they wouldn’t want me. Still, I Googled it and was fascinated. Here were people just like me, only they couldn’t become mothers.

I tried to find something that would put me off, but instead I found an ad from the Gold Coast, where I live. I met the woman and we had coffee together. I just knew.

They had been trying for 13 years — they’d done IVF, acupuncture, herbs — she would have done anything to have a baby. I offered, she accepted, and a few months later she was pregnant with her little boy. I really fell in love with the whole thing.

My husband, Chris, and I have two children, and he has two children from his previous relationship. He’s fine with it.

He comes around to the Egg Donation Australia events and works the barbecue with the other husbands. Because we’ve made so many good friends through the site, we jokingly call them the EDA Widowers.

He supports me, even though he knows more than most guys what the risks are. When I had a bad reaction to one of my donor cycles, he was there for me.

That was a case of ovarian hyper-stimulation. Your ovaries can get swollen and you feel a bit of pain. In extreme circumstances, you can be hospitalised.

When you donate an egg, you generally synchronise your cycles with the recipient. You might both be on the pill, and come off the pill. You’ll do 10 to 13 days of what we call follicle stimulation hormones; small, pen-sized injections once a day.

Then 10 days later they’ll do a trigger injection, which ripens the fruit. A woman’s body naturally has small amounts of this hormone, but we take extra because we want to produce more eggs than usual — maybe between five and 25.

Then, 36 hours after the last injection, we go under a general anaesthetic, and they take out the eggs. I think some people find the procedure harder than others, but most donors describe it as mild discomfort.

It’s not difficult, as long as you look after yourself — the blood tests and needles in the tummy every day are a mild inconvenience.

Once the eggs are collected, they are fertilised with sperm — usually that of the woman’s husband — and most will fertilise.

Three-to-five days later, an embryo will be transferred to the mother, and two weeks later she has a blood test to see if there’s a pregnancy.

One of the questions people ask me all the time is, “Don’t you look at that child and think ‘that’s mine’?” My answer is that I’ve got my two girls, and I’m satisfied I’ve finished my family.

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I’ve met the children, I keep in contact with the mums. I look at the children with mild curiosity. But my relationship is not with the children, I feel no bond with them whatsoever.

I think when you have your own children the bond is born, it’s those days and nights of nurture. It’s the care and the love you put into them, not the genetic material.

For more information, visit eggdonationaustralia.com.au.

Read more of this story in the September issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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Disqualified *The Voice* contestant Carmen Smith is back and in a big way

Showgirl Charne bows out of Big Brother

Carmen Smith is the self-confessed funky soul sister who caught our attention with her super-cool singing style on hit TV show The Voice.

After a memorable early exit from the competition – she was disqualified for her performance on Guy Sebastian’s video clip for his track Gold – Carmen is back on the scene with her first funky single They Don’t Know Me.

We chatted to the singer to find out how her life has changed after The Voice and where she hopes to take her new solo career.

Congratulations on your first single! How does it feel to have it released?

Thank you, I’m so excited about it. I love the track and what it stands for — individuality and independence. It’s been a long, hard road to get here but every hard moment makes it all worthwhile.

They Don’t Know Me is a pretty funky track, what was the inspiration behind it?

The song kind of wrote itself. I heard the guitar riff and beat and just started humming melodies and within a few hours, I had written the song. Trust me, it’s not always like that, but some songs are just meant to be written.

How has your life changed since appearing on The Voice?

Drastically. Not so much the fame but it really changed me on the inside. It forced me to step out of my comfort zone and respect a part of myself that I had put to the side for many years.

I will always be grateful for my time on the show for that. I am working harder than ever to show people what I am about and that excites me.

You had a pretty dramatic exit from the show, how did you feel about that at the time?

At the time it felt dramatic. I mean, nobody wants to be disqualified from a show, especially at the point where you feel like you are ready to bloom. It was a tough blow for me, but there was no time for self-pity.

I had to get ready to go on the road with Guy. As they say, the show must go on. I felt a change in me when all the drama went down, like an inner strength I never knew I had.

What is it like to be on the road with Guy Sebastian?

Well, I have toured with Guy for years but the Armageddon Tour — his most recent — was especially amazing for me. I mean, Guy’s fans seemed to embrace me with such love it was overwhelming.

The moment when we sang Gold together was epic. I’ll never forget the roar that song brought from the audience. It was a special time. Guy is a supreme vocalist and talent, but also a great friend. He has always encouraged me and there is a lot of trust between us on stage. I don’t trust him backstage, he’s a prankster!

Has he heard your new single? What does he think of it?

He has, he sent me a message about it and really, any compliment from Guy I’ll take. He does not give them away freely.

Who is your favourite Australian performer to work with?

All of them for different reasons. Guy, Stan Walker, Jess Mauboy, Diesel, I love them all. People know them as faces on television or “famous” but I know them as super talented friends/family.

What can we expect to see from you next?

Well, I have just released my single and EP They Don’t Know Me and I’m going to be doing some acoustic shows with my friend Diana Rouvas.

I am working on putting some live band shows together because performing live is what I do best. Whatever I do, I’ll be keeping it cool and funky!

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Did Adele marry in secret?

Did Adele marry in secret?

Since announcing her pregnancy back in June, Adele has been out of the spotlight and it seems she may have a very good reason for laying low – a secret wedding!

The UK singer has stepped out for the first time since announcing her pregnancy and she is not only sporting a baby bump, she is also wearing a gold band on her wedding finger, claims US magazine Life & Style.

But Adele quickly denied the claim tweeting: “I’m not married…Zzzzzzz”.

The rumours started when the 24-year-old, who is around eight months pregnant, was snapped in London enjoying a quiet dinner out at smart Asian restaurant Eight Over Eight, followed by window-shopping for antiques and books with her fiancé Simon Konecki.

“Adele was relaxed and calm, and she and Simon looked really great together,” an unnamed eyewitness told Life & Style

“She seemed very, very happy. She absolutely does have a pregnancy glow.”

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Known for her under-the-radar behaviour, the singer kept her pregnancy news under wraps for months.

“Adele and Simon managed to keep the baby news a secret for so long…there are rumours they’ve already gotten married too,” an insider told the magazine.

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Don’t let your guard down against cold and flu

Don’t let your guard down against cold and flu

Each year, one in five Australians suffers from the influenza virus, with more than 2.5 million people taking time off work to overcome their symptoms.

Although we are now heading towards warmer days, health professionals warn that this is not the time to let your guard down.

Pharmacist Gerald Quigley says the change of season is a key time to suffer from the flu.

He explains that throughout winter our immune system works overtime to fight against viral infections and is always active, but slows down in the warmer months.

“As the weather warms up towards the end of winter, our immune system relaxes and we tend not to rug up as much as we should,” he said.

“This also means we become a little careless when the sun appears. Nurturing our immune system all year enhances wellness and reduces the impact of an invading viral infection at any time of the year.”

Although many of us try to “soldier on” and deal with the symptoms, Gerald warns this will only make matters worse.

He says it is important to seek affective treatment and, above all, get lots of rest so that symptoms aren’t prolonged.

“The best way to fight a winter bug is to take time off work and get plenty of rest, keep warm and drink lots of water,” he said.

“It’s also important to increase immune supporting foods like garlic and onion to your diet when you are feeling particularly run down.”

Gerald says that apart from not getting adequate rest, flu sufferers ignore their symptoms for too long.

“A survey by the Chemists’ Own brand showed that a quarter of Australians persist with symptoms for at least three days before finally getting treatment, with one in five failing to treat a nagging cough or cold at all,” he said.

“While there are no hard and fast cures to beat the common cold and flu, there are over-the-counter remedies that can help ease the symptoms.

“Rather than ignoring the symptoms and therefore spreading germs and prolonging your illness, the best course of action is to take a trip to your local pharmacist who will be able to determine whether you have a simple infection like the common cold, or something more serious such as the influenza virus.”

Here are Gerard’s 5 top tips to surviving the cold and flu season:

  1. Drink plenty of liquids to maintain hydration.

  2. Increase your intake of Vitamin A and C and zinc from nutritious food to help your body withstand viral infection.

  3. Eat immune supporting foods like garlic and onions.

  4. Keep warm at all times to avoid a chill.

  5. Most importantly – get plenty of bed rest.

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Great read: Nine Days by Toni Jordan

Multiple characters and an interweaving, thrilling plot make this novel from one of Australia's most exciting writers a must-read.
Nine Days by Toni Jordan

Nine Days by Toni Jordan, Text Publishing, $29.99.

From her exciting debut novel Addition, through the quirkily funny Fall Girl and now Nine Days, Toni Jordan loves to explore love’s journey from subtle hits of ignited passion, through winding paths of romantic liaisons.

Yet this third book sees the author take a brave leap into a much more complex world of multiple characters with sharply executed interweaving tales in different time zones.

This is Toni really stretching her literary wings, and while she doesn’t always soar, there are plenty of beautifully drawn cameos in here, underpinned by a linking plot that adds an edge of thrilling detective-style guesswork to make this the Melbourne-based author’s most ambitious and engrossing book yet.

It is set in the streets of Richmond, and while locals will delight in all their haunts etched in a palpably realistic light, it is a universal yarn.

“It’d be the same story if it was set in West End or Balmain or Subiaco or Port Adelaide,” says Toni — and she’s right. These characters leap from the page and really speak to us.

As the title says, the book charts nine days, told in first person by a different character, each of whom is part of, or connected to, the Westaway family.

First up is Kip, who is really the lynchpin. It is 1939, with the world on the brink of war and Kip is a stablehand — having quit school to help support his family following the death of his father, falling from a tram while drunk.

Kip has a strained relationship with his twin brother, Francis, but a very special one with his sister, Connie.

As we flit forward and back between this generation of Westaways and those who follow, Kip and Connie’s destinies unfold with a poignancy that creeps up and grabs your heart.

About the author: Toni Jordan

Born and raised in Brisbane where her mum worked in the local TAB, Toni Jordan, now 45, was a molecular biologist who quit to write fiction. She is fuelled by a passion for “sitting down and wrangling sentences,” and her debut novel Addition was long-listed for the 2009 Miles Franklin Literary Award.

Toni’s characters “lurk in my subconscious until they’re needed,” and while destiny does play a part in their paths, she believes that “life makes sense only in retrospect”.

Nine Days is set in Melbourne, where Toni lives with her “wonderful husband Robert”. Her next project? “No idea!” she says. “I still can’t get the Westaways out of my head.”

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My father was murdered by a family of killers

My father was murdered by a family of killers

Ben Ryan

Ben Ryan was just 24 years old when his father Jeffrey was murdered by a contract killer paid for by his ex-wife and her cold-blooded family.

Jeffrey, 48, a respected grazier and cattle breeder died alone in the darkness at his 485-hectare property, Callemondah, at Duri, near Tamworth in northern NSW, after a 12-gauge shotgun blast blew apart his back around 9pm on Friday, October 23, 2009.

His wounds, though extensive, weren’t enough to kill him instantly and it took him many agonising minutes to die, his blood soaking into the soil that he worked and loved.

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“Nobody deserves to die that way,” Ben, Jeffrey’s 27-year-old son from his first marriage, tells the September issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

“When I’m lying awake at night, I think about what it was like for him, out there by himself. How could anyone do that to another human being?”

It was a cowardly assault, carried out next to farm sheds and a shipping container in which Jeffrey had been sleeping following the breakdown of his marriage. His wife, Helen Ryan, then 48, was in their marital home just 400 metres away, but said she heard nothing.

Jeffrey died in a calculated conspiracy, a deadly web of intrigue inspired by greed, jealousy and revenge.

Police eventually identified a tattooed former truckie named Ken Brooks as the man who pulled the trigger. However, Brooks was a bit player in comparison to Jeffrey’s wife.

Despite her denials in court, Helen Ryan had the lead role in this rural tragedy which might smack of a Hollywood plot if it wasn’t based in such grim reality.

Helen Ryan played the grieving widow, but she masked a darker character as a femme fatale, a woman with a spectacular talent for lying and an inexplicable hold over men, who hired a hitman to kill her husband, even as he was in the throes of divorcing her.

Her 42-year-old younger sister, Ganene Coulter, became Helen’s weak, easily manipulated pawn, a former prostitute and drug user with the right criminal connections to “get the job done”.

Their 70-year-old mother, Coralie Coulter, filled the role of the cynical crone, an eager accomplice who not only helped conceal the crime, but also provided $10,000 of the $30,000 payment to the hit man.

They were an alliance united around Helen in a quest to kill Jeffrey, to make Callemondah — in her words — “all mine” and set her up for life, complete with discussions about future “boob job” surgery and tropical holidays.

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“My dad was a good man,” says Ben. “Helen told lies and manipulated people to get her own way, to get the property from under Dad’s feet. It was all about money, greed and control.

“I think about the man we’ve lost. The local high school has named a perpetual trophy after him, that’s how much people thought of him.

“But Dad wouldn’t want us to let Helen beat us. He’d be saying, ‘Keep your chin up and keep walking forward’. That’s what we’re doing. We’re okay and we’ll be okay. For him.”

Read more of this story in the September issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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Why men have no friends

Why men have no friends

When Simon realised two years ago he didn’t have any close male friends in his life, it hit him like a hammer blow.

“I was in my office at home one Friday night and out of the blue it struck me that I’d really love to have a beer with a mate, just a chat and a beer,” Simon, a 52-year-old freelance designer, tells the September issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

“I’d been having a pretty tough time of it financially, and the work wasn’t coming in like it had been. That’s stressful when you’re a solo operator.

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“Then, it dawned on me that I didn’t have a mate I could call. I was stunned, horrified. How did this happen? How did I end up in this sad, lonely little office with no men I could call my friends?”

Yet the truth is that Simon (not his real name) isn’t by nature a loner. In fact, he’d been a popular, gregarious student back in his boisterous university days.

Even into his 20s, he’d enjoyed a strong, vibrant social life, but somewhere in the intervening years, amid the ever-deepening commitments and responsibilities of marriage, children and career, and a course-altering move from Perth to Sydney 13 years ago, he’d lost touch with his former male friends and hadn’t made lasting new ones.

“I love my wife — in fact, she’s my best friend — and my kids,” says Simon. “But I needed to hang out with men. When I thought about it, I hadn’t had that in my life for a long time; but it was something that I desperately missed.”

Simon’s experience may seem strikingly familiar to many Australian men and also the women they love.

While there is little formal research into the subject, men often report that as they approach middle age, their close male friendships diminish in both quantity and quality, while their relationships with wives, partners and families remain strong.

Dr Elizabeth Celi, a Melbourne psychologist specialising in men’s mental health, has seen many clients with friendship problems, and says their wives are often to blame.

“Women are often all for the idea of letting a man catch up with his mates, but the reality is that they set all kinds of limitations,” she says.

“And then there is the barrage of questions: Who will you be with? How long will you be? How much will it cost? Why do you have to go out again? He gets the third degree about it. Or he comes home and she’s upset, but he doesn’t know why.

“Over time, it’s just easier not to go. He loves her; he wants to be with her, but being with her and keeping up with his mates just becomes too hard.”

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Fortunately, there is a solution, but many women won’t like it.

“I’ll put this bluntly,” says Dr Celi. “Girls, get off your man’s back. And guys, learn to put some healthy boundaries on her control issues.

“Masculine company is vital for a man’s own masculine development and women need simply to let it happen — it’s not all about her! Men have to fight for their male time while women don’t have to fight for their female time and that’s unfair.”

Read more of this story in the September issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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The autism generation: Why are so many children born autistic?

The autism generation: Why are so many children born autistic?

Valerie Foley's son Billy, 8, has autism.

Why is the number of children with autism doubling every five years? For Louise Milligan, the quest for an answer is deeply personal.

There is no other way to describe the feeling, except to say I felt I had been shot. We were sitting in a psychologist’s office, being told that our son, our delicious three-year-old boy, had an autism spectrum disorder.

Thing is, I kind of knew for about six months there was a very good chance I would be shot. That’s how long, all things considered, it takes for an autism assessment to take place.

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In that time, I had been oscillating between thinking he was absolutely fine and that I was kidding myself to think he was fine.

Yet it didn’t matter last June. For two numb days, I curled in the foetal position on my bed and grieved for the boy I thought I had … and tried to come to terms with the boy he would now be.

“I hate autism,” I wanted to scream from the rooftops. “WHY HAS THIS HAPPENED TO MY BABY?!”

Jump forward a year. We’ve just had the news that the tenth child we know is having a formal autism assessment.

This doesn’t include the kids who we suspect are autistic, or the ones who have one parent that’s certain but the other doesn’t want them “labelled”, or even the many other diagnosed kids we have met through the various professionals we go to.

Something is going terribly awry. Autism rates in Australia are now at one in 110, doubling every five years.

Amaze, the peak body managing the disorder in Victoria, reports that it’s seeing 40 to 50 new families a week.

Autism SA, South Australia’s body, has 4600 clients. In 1995, it had 580. As one of my friends, a mother of a boy with autism says, “They’re dropping like flies.” It’s an epidemic. And it scares me.

Some argue it’s just “diagnostic” — improved testing to detect autism in children from what we had decades ago.

Of course, poor diagnostics in the past and the terrible practice of blaming autism on cold and unresponsive “refrigerator mothers” mean there are many adults running around who are on the spectrum and don’t know it.

Yet any notion that’s the only explanation for the epidemic just doesn’t cut it with me anymore. And it doesn’t cut it with any of the other autism parents or professionals I know.

Amaze’s Chief Executive Officer, Murray Dawson-Smith, agrees. “If it was purely diagnostics, you would expect all of the growth at the mild, difficult-to-diagnose end of the spectrum,” Murray says. “But the increases in diagnosis rates are comparable throughout the spectrum.”

He’s referring to “low-functioning” autistic children — with lower IQs, fewer abilities, often intellectually disabled. Their diagnoses are skyrocketing at the same rate as those who, once upon a time, might have been considered “a bit odd”.

For my Facebook friend Valerie Foley, whose son Billy, eight, has autism, the theory that the increases are down to mere ‘diagnostics’ is outrageous.

“The idea that we are ‘pathologising normal behaviour’ is so insulting on so many levels, I can barely type straight,” she wrote.

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Valerie believes the only thing we can do to halt this dizzying acceleration in diagnoses is invest heavily in research.

“I don’t want more children to develop autism and deal with its challenges if there’s a chance it might not be necessary, or that we could reduce the severity of it, if it does happen. Even a small chance is worth fighting for,” she says.

To read more about visit Valerie’s blog.

Read more of this story in the September issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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The day I met Zara Phillips

The day I met Zara Phillips

Zara Phillips. Photography by Grant Thomas, styling by Jane De Teliga.

Zara Phillips is one of the most private royals but last month, she granted an exclusive interview to The Weekly’s deputy editor Juliet Rieden. Here, Juliet describes her meeting with the Queen’s oldest granddaughter.

In the days leading up to my interview with Zara Phillips I had lived through every cross country scramble and perilous jump as she and horse High Kingdom battled for a medal position in the Olympics.

When the duo clipped a fence in the final show jumping event I started to panic. Until then a gold medal had been in sight, how would Zara be feeling?

She ended the round well, despite the fence down … and ultimately the team claimed silver spot.

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Like Wills, Kate, Harry and the rest of her cheering (royal) family, I was leaping up and down. Anyone would think I’d won a medal.

Climbing the steps of the plane that would take me from Sydney to the UK I felt really chuffed: Zara’s win was my win.

And when I touched down in London I quickly realised that air of joy was all around. The usually dour, drainingly miserable Brits were positively overflowing with optimism.

A few hours later my phone rang. It was Peter Phillips, Zara’s brother and business manager — could I meet Zara the following afternoon at her stables in Gloucestershire, a few hours from London.

Twelve hours later I was on the tube to Paddington station where I waited for the main line train to the tiny village of Kemble in the lush British countryside.

Paddington was bursting with families flooding in for the day’s Olympic action, and at least 50 percent in Team GB T-shirts … no wonder the Brits were racing up the medal table.

Finally, the train arrived and I headed away from the crowds and into the fields.

Zara’s stables are on Gatcombe Estate — where her mother Princess Anne lives.

The approach is through a locked wooden gate controlled by an entry buzzer — a strange sight in the countryside, but I guess this is no ordinary stables.

Preceding Zara’s arrival two dogs bounded up, sentinels for the 14th in line to the throne.

Zara came straight from work — a day spent training and riding her horses. She was makeup-free, tired and desperate to see how the Team GB show jumpers were doing.

With the dogs running in and out and the horses whinnying in the stables we sat down to talk.

Zara is not a natural interviewee, not only does she hate talking about herself, she’s suspicious of the press and keenly aware that her royal position demands that she choose her words with care.

But move on to the subject of her horses and that awkwardness disappears. Her brother Peter sat with us, siblings united.

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And while it’s clear this chosen corner of England’s green and pleasant land is a haven for the royal duo, where they have their own loyal team of co-workers, the fortress that necessarily exists around the royal family was never far away.

After an afternoon with Zara and Peter, I left thinking how very strange it must be to live in this rarefied bubble, especially when your life is just evolving, and I started to understand why Zara at least chooses to throw herself so completely into her world of horses, competitions and country life. Here perhaps she feels free.

Read Juliet’s exclusive interview with Zara in the September issue of The Australian Women’s Weekly.

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