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How to beat the back-to-work blues

How to beat the back-to-work blues

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It is one of the most dreaded feelings we can experience — returning to work after a holiday and although it may make us feel challenged to head back to work, a leading expert says for some it can be a lot harder.

Workplace psychology expert Dr Mary Casey, who runs the health and education organisation Casey Centre, says a surprising number of people feel more than a little anxious about returning to work. She said some can feel stressed, depressed or totally overwhelmed when returning to work.

“Often we do not realise why we feel the way we do until we have had a break and have to return to the negative energy,” she said.

“We have to find out the real issue underlying the blues in order to overcome them. The underlying problems can be many. Our feelings are most vigorously affected by interpersonal relationships. That is why you should start with examining your work relationships to identify the cause of your work blues.”

Dr Casey has identified eight common work-related problems and strategies to beat the “work” blues.

“Ask yourself if you’re being challenged, and believe in the work you do. If you have been dissatisfied for a year or more, it’s could be time to discover what you do like. Learn new skills by embarking on some study, or look for a new role where your existing skills can be applied.”

“People only do what they do because they can,” Dr Casey said.

“My tips are to control your emotions around any difficult person, set strong boundaries within acceptable limits, don’t take anything too personally, remain professional, and channel your attention into areas of your work that will reward you both personally and professionally.”

“Find out what exactly what bothers you. Adopting an attitude of gratitude may be all that you need: identify the positive attributes of your job — for instance a regular income, stability, mentoring and/or work satisfaction. If you can’t identify positive aspects, then maybe it is time for a change,” Dr Casey says.

“Look into why so much work is being delegated to you. Communicate with management if you need more resources and how it would benefit the business; identify where and how you can delegate to another; or are you doing other people’s work for them and it’s simply become a habit? Take responsibility and stop it immediately as it is your health that suffers in the long run.”

“Remember that you’re employed for a reason — you have expertise, skills and experience. Find a course on assertiveness and learn how to confront issues and speak up for yourself.”

“If you don’t have confidence in yourself, neither will your boss or co-workers, leaving you stagnating in your career growth. Ask yourself is this the deep reason why you dread returning from holidays?” Dr Casey says. She suggests enrolling in a confidence building course if this is an issue for you.

“It is up to you to have clear boundaries for yourself as to what is acceptable to you and what is not acceptable. You need to be perfectly clear on how you will be spoken to and treated. If you are not clear, others will walk all over you,” Dr Casey says.

It is important to remember that, while most work-related issues can be resolved, if you continue to feel that your situation can not be changed it may be worth seeking a new role in a new work place.

“Everyone deserves job satisfaction and peace of mind. Find a reason or goal to motivate you to change your situation or yourself, and be assertive enough to take action.”

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Kids can ‘grow out’ of autism, study says

Kids can 'grow out' of autism, study says

Children diagnosed with autism at a young age can “grow out of it”, a new study has found.

The controversial research funded by the US National Institutes of Health challenges the long-held view that the condition is a permanent disorder that cannot be cured.

A team of psychologists identified 34 children and young adults aged eight to 21 who had been diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder but were now functioning at the same level as their non-autistic peers.

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Researchers first confirmed the initial diagnosis of each child or young person, then compared them with a group of kids diagnosed with “high functioning” autism, and those with no developmental disorders.

They found that the kids who appeared to have “grown out” of their autism had a mild form of the disorder, and higher IQs than those with high functioning autism.

This led researchers to query whether the kids no longer had autism, or whether their higher IQ had enabled them to better mask their atypical social behaviour.

The kids are now undergoing further tests to see if there brain activity has changed, or whether they have just become better at hiding their disorder.

The treatment or therapy they received is also being studied to assess what affect it might have had in their “recovery”.

“Although the diagnosis of autism is not usually lost over time, the findings suggest that there is a very wide range of possible outcomes,” National Institutes of Health director Thomas Insel said.

“Subsequent reports from this study should tell us more about the nature of autism and the role of therapy and other factors in the long term outcome for these children.”

Despite the potentially ground-breaking findings of this study, autism experts have urged people not to get too excited about a “cure” for the disorder.

Related: The autism generation – why are so many kids born with autism?

“This study is looking at a small sample of high functioning people with autism and we would urge people not to jump to conclusions about the nature and complexity of autism, as well its longevity,” Dr Judith Gould, Director of the National Autistic Society’s Lorna Wing Centre for Autism, said.

“With intensive therapy and support, it’s possible for a small sub group of high functioning individuals with autism to learn coping behaviours and strategies which would ‘mask’ their underlying condition and change their scoring in the diagnostic tests used to determine their condition in this research.

“This research acknowledges that a diagnosis of autism is not usually lost over time and it is important to recognise the support that people with autism need in order to live the lives of their choosing.”

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What your skirt length says about you

This provocative image has sparked an international debate about what women's skirt lengths say about their sexual habits.
What your skirt length says about you: Artist's image goes viral

This provocative image has sparked an international debate about what women’s skirt lengths say about their sexual habits.

Amateur artist Rosea Lake — an 18-year-old illustration student at Vancouver’s Capilano University — posted the image on her Tumblr page under the headline “Judgements”.

Within days, the image had gone viral, attracting more than 270,000 comments from around the world.

Lake shot the picture as part of a high school project last year, when she was just 17.

She told Canadian newspaper The Province the idea was born of her own prejudices against scantily-clad women.

“I realised that when I looked at a woman in a short skirt I automatically thought ‘slut’ and I felt bad about that,” Lake said.

“And I thought all women who wore hijabs were being oppressed. I thought about slut shaming and thought we need to get to a place where we are not judgmental.”

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Kim Kardashian: It’s a miracle I’m pregnant!

Kim Kardashian: It’s a miracle I’m pregnant!

While Kim Kardashian didn’t plan her pregnancy, she says it’s a miracle she conceived at all, as she secretly suffered fertility issues.

“It’s kind of a miracle that I even got pregnant,” she told Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda on the US Today show on Tuesday.

“’It was a pleasant surprise when so many doctors were telling me one thing and then the opposite happens.”

Kim’s younger sister Khloe has also suffered fertility issues in the past and has been open about her struggles to fall pregnant with her husband Lamar Odom.

“Khloe has been very open about her fertility issues and I think I was always really kind of quiet about mine, and I have similar issues,” Kim said.

She says she still finds it difficult to believe she is pregnant.

“I think until I really start seeing, like, a belly, it won’t really sink in. It’s just like a weird realisation until you really start seeing the physical changes, um, and every day’s different,” she said.

Although the 32-year-old is looking forward to welcoming her first child with singer Kanye West, there is one thing still bothering her – her failed 72-day marriage to basketball player Kris Humphries.

The pair are yet to finalise their divorce, as Kris is refusing to sign the necessary papers.

“I can’t speak for anyone else [about why the divorce hasn’t been finalised]. It’s a process… It’s happening, hopefully,” she said.

Kim says she has discussed marriage with Kanye but for now they are “focusing on the baby”.

“[I’m] so content with how things are right now. And how life is and we’re so happy. We definitely want [marriage] in the future, but I’m not in a rush.”

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Stars reveal the super foods that keep them fit

We take a look at the twitter pics stars share of their healthy eating habits.

Liz Hurley

We take a look at the twitter pics stars share of their healthy eating habits.

Liz Hurley kicks things off with this posted pic of freshly picked berries which are a rich in antioxidants snack.

Miranda Kerr

Miranda Kerr has always been a cheerleader for organic food.

She posted this picture of her freshly made gluten free muffins with chia seeds.

Kim Kardashian

First time mum Kim Kardashian decided to swap this sundae for this tuna salad. She is a fan of eating fresh, fast and healthy.

Jennie Garth

You won’t see Jennie Garth splurge on a soft drink, she clearly prefers to drink coconut water after posting this pic of her fridge full of it.

Oprah

Oprah suggests that having everything prepared for week night meals will help you to plan ahead and eat healthier.

Julianne Hough

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day and Julianne Hough knows how to start her day off right! She enjoys a breakfast of peaches, yoghurt and honey.

Jessica Alba

Following a work out Jessica Alba snacks on celery and cucumber with a small amount of dip mid-morning.

Heidi Klum

Heidi Klum snacks on plenty of fruit and vegetables including berries and carrots.

Hilary Duff

Hilary Duff raved about this healthy breakfast that her sister Hayley cooked for her. The new mum is trying to slowly get back to her pre-baby body.

Emma roberts

Actress Emma Roberts is all about balance in her diet and this is the perfectly balanced meal. She tweeted this pic of grilled salmon, veggies and grains.

Christina Milan

Singer Christina Milan loads her plate up with plenty of greens and healthy protein to keep herself in shape.

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Hugh and Deborra-Lee in love

Hugh Jackman is the man of the moment and he has nothing but praise for the woman he claims is behind his success, his wife Deborra-Lee Furness.

After accepting his Golden Globe for Best Actor he ended his speech by saying “My wife is the greatest woman in the world” and praised her for talking him into playing his role in Les Miserables.

“Baby, I’m gonna say it now in front of the entire world, Baby, thank you for always being right Baby. I love you.”

The pair who have been married 16 years and have two adopted children together have never been more in love. See their incredible love story here.

Hugh Jackman posted this pic on twitter following his win and thanked his wife.

Hugh and Deborra-Lee with their children Oscar and Ava.

Hugh and Deb met on the set of 90s TV show Correlli and have been together ever since.

The pair married in 1995 in a ceremony in Melbourne.

Hugh recently admitted Deb had multiple miscarriages before the couple adopted.

The pair both wear engraved rings that say: “We dedicate our union to a greater source.”

Deborra-Lee is 13 years older than Hugh.

“Thanks to my amazing wife for presenting my award” he tweeted at last year’s Tony Awards.

The pair have maintained a strong bond over the years.

The family on holiday at Disneyland.

Deborra-Lee and Hugh host during 59th Annual Tony Awards together in 2005.

The pair take a romantic stroll through New York together.

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Jodie Foster comes out as a lesbian in emotional speech

She's been in the spotlight for 47 years, but Jodie Foster proved we don't know everything about her yesterday, coming out as gay at the Golden Globes.
Jodie Foster comes out

She’s been in the spotlight for 47 years, but Jodie Foster proved we don’t know everything about her yesterday, coming out as gay at the Golden Globes.

The 50-year-old actress revealed her sexuality in an emotional speech after she won the Cecil B DeMille Award for lifetime achievement, leaving the audience in tears.

An obviously nervous Jodie started her speech predictably, thanking colleagues, friends and family before moving on to an altogether more unexpected topic.

“While I’m here being all confessional, I guess I just have just a sudden urge to say something that I’ve never really been able to air in public,” she said.

“[It’s] a declaration that I’m a little nervous about — but maybe not quite as nervous as my publicist right now. I’m just going to put it out there — loud and proud.

“This is not going to be a big coming out speech tonight because I already did my coming out about a thousand years ago back in the stone age.

“But seriously, if you had been a public figure from the time that you were a toddler, if you’d had to fight for a life that felt real and honest and normal against all odds, then maybe you too might value privacy above all else.

“Privacy. Some day, in the future, people will look back and remember how beautiful it once was. I have given everything up there from the time that I was three years old.”

Jodie’s remarks earned her thunderous applause from the audience, many of whom shed tears as she spoke.

She went on to pay tribute to her former partner Cydney Bernard, and her two children Charles, 14, and Kit, 12.

“There is no way I could ever stand here without acknowledging one of the deepest loves of my life, my heroic co-parent, my ex-partner in love but righteous soul sister in life, my confessor, ski buddy, most beloved BFF of 20 years, Cydney Bernard,” she said.

“Thank you, Cyd. I am so proud of our modern family. Our amazing sons, Charlie and Kit, who are my reason to breathe and to evolve, my blood and soul. And boys, in case you didn’t know it, this song, all of this, this song is for you.”

Jodie also spoke about her mother Evelyn, 84, who is suffering from dementia.

“This brings me to the greatest influence of my life, my amazing mother, Evelyn,” she said. “Mum, I know you’re inside those blue eyes somewhere and that there are so many things that you won’t understand tonight.

“But this is the only important one to take in: I love you, I love you, I love you. And I hope that if I say this three times, it will magically and perfectly enter into your soul, fill you with grace and the joy of knowing that you did good in this life. You’re a great mom. Please take that with you when you’re finally okay to go.”

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No royal twins: William and Kate confirm one baby due in July

No twins: William and Kate confirm baby due in July

William and Kate leaving London's King Edward VII hospital.

Her extreme morning sickness had many speculating the royal baby was in fact royal babies, but the Duchess of Cambridge has confirmed she is expecting just one child.

St James’s Palace released a statement on behalf of William and Kate, revealing their baby’s due date and giving an update on the mother-to-be’s health.

“Their Royal Highnesses the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge are delighted to confirm they are expecting a baby in July,” a St James’s Palace spokesman said.

“The Duchess’s condition continues to improve since her stay in hospital last month.”

Kate, 31, is believed to be 14 weeks pregnant. She was forced to announce her pregnancy early after she was hospitalised with hyperemesis gravidarum — a rare complication of pregnancy that results in severe nausea and vomiting.

Bookmakers are taking bets on the day the baby will arrive, with the current favourite being Wednesday, July 17.

Elizabeth and Diana remain joint favourites for the new arrival’s name.

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Royal baby could share birthday with Diana – or Camilla

No twins: William and Kate confirm baby due in July

The late Princess Diana and her one-time love rival Camilla, the Duchess of Cornwall.

William and Kate have confirmed their baby is due in July, which means the tiny tot could share a birthday with one of the royal family’s most famous women — or one of its most infamous.

Both William’s mother Princess Diana and his much-maligned stepmother Camilla were born in July.

In pictures: Glowing Kate shows first sign of baby bump

Diana’s birthday was July 1, while Camilla’s is July 17.

William and Kate would no doubt love their first born to share a birthday with Diana.

William, 30, has gone to great lengths to keep his mother’s memory alive, giving her treasured engagement ring to Kate and choosing Kensington Palace — where he and his younger brother Harry lived with their mother after her split from Prince Charles — as his marital home.

But given that Kate is believed to be 14 weeks pregnant, experts say a mid-July due date is more likely, putting the new arrival closer to Camilla’s birthday than Diana’s.

William and Kate have an excellent relationship with Camilla, with the mother-to-be being particularly close to her, and are likely to be thrilled if their little one shares her birthday.

The general public however, feel entirely differently. Many people still blame Camilla for breaking up Charles and Diana’s marriage, and have refused to accept her as Charles’ wife.

Interestingly, the British public have warmed to Camilla dramatically in the past five years, now regarding her to be one of the most hard-working royals, while the Australian public seem to be finding it much harder to forgive and forget.

Despite getting a good reception when she visited Australia with Charles last November, Camilla remains unpopular with many readers, who are quick to criticise her every time a story is run.

Related: No twins for William and Kate

“I have and always will think that Camilla is a wicked, ugly and self-serving, cunning person, not deserving her current ‘respected’ position,” one reader wrote on a recent Camilla story.

“What a PIG to put Diana through that,” another wrote. “I hate both Charles and the cow for what they did and Diana would be rolling in her grave today seeing her boys being chummy with her. Lucky she didn’t come to my home town when she visited Australia … I would have thrown rotten eggs at her head!”

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Prince Harry beats George Clooney to sexiest man title

Prince Harry beats George Clooney to sexiest man title

Prince Harry

He’s got ginger hair and freckles, but Prince Harry’s unconventional looks have seen him leapfrog George Clooney to be named the sexiest man of 2013.

Harry, 28, has topped high-brow British magazine Town & Country’s annual bachelor list, beating more traditionally handsome hunks including Clooney.

“He’s the wild-card royal, the naughty one, the one who goes out with rah women, hangs out with a fast crowd, downs too many drinks, and goes home at the wrong moment. That’s why we all like him best,” the magazine reported.

“Harry might not possess a towering intellect but he is cooler and more appealing than his older brother, sweet as William undoubtedly is.

“Being the heir to the throne has its perks, such as getting to be king of England (not anytime soon, in William’s case, given the legendary Windsor longevity). But it is also a life sentence and a straitjacket. William has to spend the rest of his life being cautious, dutiful, and dull. Harry, free of the monarchical burden, gets to have all the fun.”

Harry beat 39 other eligible bachelors to top the list, including fellow royals Prince Carl Philip of Sweden, Prince Philippos of Greece and Denmark and Prince Amedeo of Belgium.

George Clooney, twice voted People magazine’s Sexiest Man Alive, came in at number 33.

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