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Nicole ‘respects’ her children’s Scientology beliefs

Nicole ‘respects’ her children’s Scientology beliefs

While Nicole Kidman has opened up about her relationship with ex-husband Tom Cruise in recent times, she has been less forthcoming about his controversial religion, Scientology.

But in a recent interview with The Hollywood Reporter the 45-year-old actress touched briefly on the subject.

A new expose on Scientology, Going Clear by Pulitzer Prize winner Lawrence Wright, claims the religion was the main cause of the breakdown of her marriage to Tom, and is heavily referred to throughout.

“I’ll bet it is,” Nicole said when this was pointed out to her by a reporter.

While Nicole no longer has any association with the religion, her two older children, Isabella, 20, and Connor, 17, are devoted to it.

“I’ve chosen not to speak publicly about Scientology,” the actress says. “I have two children who are Scientologists and I utterly respect their beliefs.”

Nicole will neither confirm nor deny the religion forced Tom to turn against her, saying she is more interested in her life today with her second husband Keith Urban and their daughters Sunday Rose and Faith Margaret at their home in Nashville, Tennessee.

“It’s such an easy lifestyle. And it’s more diverse than you’d expect. There’s so much great music,” she said.

“The Black Keys go jogging past the restaurant Keith and I go to. We’ll hang out with Jack White in the studio. And there’s music in our house all the time — Keith plays harmonica, drums, banjo, piano and bass guitar.

“He has a strong will about his career, and so do I. We want each other to thrive and do what we love, and we never interfere in the other’s career choices.”

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Victoria Beckham: Pop princess to style queen

She burst into the spotlight as a baby-faced 20-year-old and morphed into a scantily-clad, fake-tanned WAG before being reborn a fashionista and mother of four.

Now, 18 years after she shot to fame as part of the Spice Girls, Victoria Beckham is a household name with a multi-million dollar fortune, her own eponymous clothing line and one of the most famous faces in the world.

But while she has always been instantly recognisable, Victoria’s appearance has transformed dramatically over the years. These pictures show her changing style.

Victoria Beckham in 1997, 2007 and 2012.

A baby-faced Victoria at the beginning of her career in 1997.

Looking very unlike her current self in 1998.

With new boyfriend David Beckham in 1999.

Victoria in 1999.

Victoria in 2000.

David and Victoria in 2000.

David and Victoria in 2001.

Flashing a lot of cleavage at the MTV Movie Awards in 2003.

Showing off her hair extensions in 2003.

David and Victoria in 2005.

At Fashion Week in 2006.

Victoria in 2006.

Showing off an ample cleavage in 2007.

Victoria looked every inch the WAG in 2007.

Victoria wearing a barely-there minidress in 2007.

Starting to look more sophisticated in 2007.

David and Victoria looking dapper in 2008.

Victoria in 2009.

Looking very fashion-forward in 2009.

At a fashion event in New York in February 2012.

At the opening night of Viva Forever in London last month.

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Vogue diet mum speaks: ‘I made a million mistakes’

Vogue diet mum speaks: 'I made a million mistakes'

Dara-Lynn Weiss and her daughter Bea, who she "shamed" into losing weight. US Vogue.

She sparked worldwide controversy when she wrote about putting her seven-year-old daughter on a diet — now Dara-Lynn Weiss has admitted her approach was far from perfect.

Weiss opened up about her daughter Bea’s battle with her weight in the April 2012 issue of US Vogue.

The now-infamous article went viral, prompting a deluge of vicious criticism of Weiss that has caused her to re-evaluate her parenting tactics.

Related: Is it ever okay to tell your child they’re fat?

“I was expecting a certain level of interest and controversy based on aspects of my approach,” Weiss tells the current issue of NY magazine.

“I lived it, so I knew that was something that people are sort of shocked by. And I accept a lot of the criticism. I am strict. I was abrasive at times. I made a million mistakes. But the idea that I embarrassed or humiliated my child, that’s just wrong.

“It was painful to hear. The whole journey was full of self-doubt and questioning, but I was honest about it. So then to have this wave of people confirming my worst fears …”

But while Weiss insists she didn’t humiliate her daughter, her original account of her “mission” to help Bea lose weight paints a different picture.

Weiss admitted refusing to give Bea dinner, banning her from enjoying her school’s Pizza Fridays, and publicly “deriding” her daughter when she accepted calorific treats like cookies or chocolate from other adults.

In another embarrassing incident, Weiss snatched a cup of hot chocolate out of Bea’s hands and poured it into the garbage bin when the barista couldn’t tell her the exact kilojoule count of the beverage.

But no matter how much criticism she faces, Weiss says she will never regret acting on her daughter’s weight problem, and would do it again if she needed to.

Related: Why are Australian women too posh to push?

“You have to parent your child around the issue of childhood obesity, even if it’s in a public setting,” she said.

“In so many situations in parenting, you have to do what’s unpopular. It’s not something a kid wants to help you out with. It’s not something that other parents are happy to see someone going through.

“Childhood obesity is such an important issue to bring out, and the shaming of parents was at the heart of it. So while there were many times I wanted to recede back into a private life, I didn’t want to be scared off by the criticism, either by people I felt disagreed with me correctly or incorrectly. The importance of this issue overrode my concern about undertaking it.”

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Why are Australian women too posh to push?

Why women should have babies before 35

Every day, in hospitals all around Australia, women who don’t need caesareans are having them.

In the past 15 years our caesarean rate has nearly doubled — leaving us with one of the highest rates of C-sections in the world.

Thirty-two per cent of women now have their babies delivered by caesarean in Australia, and that rate soars in private hospitals to 42.5 per cent.

So why this move to not push?

Midwives blame the medicalisation of childbirth.

“We have an obsession with removing pain in Australia,” Midwifery Professor Sue Kruske says. “Most women want to have a natural birth, but they rely on the advice of the caregiver, and too often it’s to have a caesarean — for no medical reason.”

Doctors, unsurprisingly, disagree. Obstetrician and current President of the Royal Australian and New Zealand College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, Professor Michael Permezel, blames the increasing age of first-time mothers for the increase in surgical intervention.

“It’s patronising to suggest doctors impose their decision on women,” he says, “Women are well educated on their choices now, and increased caesareans are due to older mothers having babies after pursuing their careers first.”

International figures don’t support his claims. In the country with the lowest caesarean rate — The Netherlands — the average age of women having their first baby is pretty much the same as Australia.

Research from Australia also contradicts Permezel’s claims. Data from the Queensland Centre for Mothers and Babies shows that in that state, it’s not just old mothers having babies delivered by caesarean, nor is it sick or fat mothers: it’s all women, across the entire spectrum.

Midwifery Professor Hannah Dahlen believes that “there are a whole series of obstacles and realities that prevent normal birth in this country, and the private sector is driving those increases”.

That we even have to emphasise that a vaginal delivery is ‘normal’ is worrying. Women have been delivering babies the old fashioned way for millennia.

While there have been leaps and bounds in improving safety for mums and bubs in the birthing process, Aussie women need to be more aware about their choices — more aware that having a caesarean is major invasive surgery, and there are real risks involved.

Academics tell us the number of ‘unnecessary’ caesareans is 10,000 nationally. Can you imagine the outcry if Doctors were found to have removed 10,000 appendixes without due cause? The anger if they had used 10,000 anesthetics for no good reason?

But there’s no outcry, because women accept their doctor’s advice, which is often made with convenience, rather than the best outcome, in mind.

Caesareans have their place, but as long as most of us having babies are healthy and fit, more of us should get to experience a natural childbirth.

Yep, it hurts. Yep, bits tear and it’s not exactly graceful to have your legs spread asunder while bellowing at the top of your lungs. But it’s what our bodies were made for. And when that little life you’ve been growing for 10 months is finally laid on your chest, the pain of pushing is forgotten.

Zoe Arnold has two daughters, aged 15 months and three years, who were born naturally.

Writer’s note: Thanks for all the feedback. This is obviously a polarising issue, and while there is opinion in this article, it is based on fact.

A few points, to clarify:

  • The national figures on caesareans quoted in the article are from the 2009 Mothers and Babies report, which can be found here;

  • Australian women are NOT too posh to push, but we do have an ever growing rate of caesareans (according to the OECD and our most prominent maternity researchers), which is not necessarily a “good” thing;

  • I have NO judgement how you have your baby, but science tells us that the optimal way for a baby to be born is naturally, in most cases. Of course, high-risk pregnancies and labours are a different story: often in those cases a caesarean is the best option;

  • This article was based on interviews with 3 eminent maternity experts who all had different opinions, but all agreed that the caesarean rate in Australia was too high, and could be lowered;

  • The best thing for all women is to be well-informed before they head into Labour. Caesareans can save lives when used in the right circumstances, but they can also put both mum and bub at risk when performed unnecessarily, particularly when women have multiple caesars. It’s important we are getting good information from our care providers about all our options.

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Sir Elton John welcomes a second son

Sir Elton John welcomes a second son

Sir Elton John and his partner David Furnish have welcomed their second child – a son named Elijah Joseph Daniel Furnish-John.

The new addition to their family was born in Las Vegas last Friday via a surrogate mother.

“The birth of our second son completes our family in a most precious and perfect way. It is difficult to fully express how we are feeling at this time; we are just overwhelmed with happiness and excitement,” the couple told Hello! magazine.

“Both of us have longed to have children, but the reality that we now have two sons is almost unbelievable.”

The pair, whose son Zachary was born two years ago, are said to have used the same unnamed California-based surrogate mother.

They have chosen to not reveal the identity of the woman.

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How to beat the back-to-work blues

How to beat the back-to-work blues

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It is one of the most dreaded feelings we can experience — returning to work after a holiday and although it may make us feel challenged to head back to work, a leading expert says for some it can be a lot harder.

Workplace psychology expert Dr Mary Casey, who runs the health and education organisation Casey Centre, says a surprising number of people feel more than a little anxious about returning to work. She said some can feel stressed, depressed or totally overwhelmed when returning to work.

“Often we do not realise why we feel the way we do until we have had a break and have to return to the negative energy,” she said.

“We have to find out the real issue underlying the blues in order to overcome them. The underlying problems can be many. Our feelings are most vigorously affected by interpersonal relationships. That is why you should start with examining your work relationships to identify the cause of your work blues.”

Dr Casey has identified eight common work-related problems and strategies to beat the “work” blues.

“Ask yourself if you’re being challenged, and believe in the work you do. If you have been dissatisfied for a year or more, it’s could be time to discover what you do like. Learn new skills by embarking on some study, or look for a new role where your existing skills can be applied.”

“People only do what they do because they can,” Dr Casey said.

“My tips are to control your emotions around any difficult person, set strong boundaries within acceptable limits, don’t take anything too personally, remain professional, and channel your attention into areas of your work that will reward you both personally and professionally.”

“Find out what exactly what bothers you. Adopting an attitude of gratitude may be all that you need: identify the positive attributes of your job — for instance a regular income, stability, mentoring and/or work satisfaction. If you can’t identify positive aspects, then maybe it is time for a change,” Dr Casey says.

“Look into why so much work is being delegated to you. Communicate with management if you need more resources and how it would benefit the business; identify where and how you can delegate to another; or are you doing other people’s work for them and it’s simply become a habit? Take responsibility and stop it immediately as it is your health that suffers in the long run.”

“Remember that you’re employed for a reason — you have expertise, skills and experience. Find a course on assertiveness and learn how to confront issues and speak up for yourself.”

“If you don’t have confidence in yourself, neither will your boss or co-workers, leaving you stagnating in your career growth. Ask yourself is this the deep reason why you dread returning from holidays?” Dr Casey says. She suggests enrolling in a confidence building course if this is an issue for you.

“It is up to you to have clear boundaries for yourself as to what is acceptable to you and what is not acceptable. You need to be perfectly clear on how you will be spoken to and treated. If you are not clear, others will walk all over you,” Dr Casey says.

It is important to remember that, while most work-related issues can be resolved, if you continue to feel that your situation can not be changed it may be worth seeking a new role in a new work place.

“Everyone deserves job satisfaction and peace of mind. Find a reason or goal to motivate you to change your situation or yourself, and be assertive enough to take action.”

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Kids can ‘grow out’ of autism, study says

Kids can 'grow out' of autism, study says

Children diagnosed with autism at a young age can “grow out of it”, a new study has found.

The controversial research funded by the US National Institutes of Health challenges the long-held view that the condition is a permanent disorder that cannot be cured.

A team of psychologists identified 34 children and young adults aged eight to 21 who had been diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder but were now functioning at the same level as their non-autistic peers.

Related: Dancing robots helping kids with autism

Researchers first confirmed the initial diagnosis of each child or young person, then compared them with a group of kids diagnosed with “high functioning” autism, and those with no developmental disorders.

They found that the kids who appeared to have “grown out” of their autism had a mild form of the disorder, and higher IQs than those with high functioning autism.

This led researchers to query whether the kids no longer had autism, or whether their higher IQ had enabled them to better mask their atypical social behaviour.

The kids are now undergoing further tests to see if there brain activity has changed, or whether they have just become better at hiding their disorder.

The treatment or therapy they received is also being studied to assess what affect it might have had in their “recovery”.

“Although the diagnosis of autism is not usually lost over time, the findings suggest that there is a very wide range of possible outcomes,” National Institutes of Health director Thomas Insel said.

“Subsequent reports from this study should tell us more about the nature of autism and the role of therapy and other factors in the long term outcome for these children.”

Despite the potentially ground-breaking findings of this study, autism experts have urged people not to get too excited about a “cure” for the disorder.

Related: The autism generation – why are so many kids born with autism?

“This study is looking at a small sample of high functioning people with autism and we would urge people not to jump to conclusions about the nature and complexity of autism, as well its longevity,” Dr Judith Gould, Director of the National Autistic Society’s Lorna Wing Centre for Autism, said.

“With intensive therapy and support, it’s possible for a small sub group of high functioning individuals with autism to learn coping behaviours and strategies which would ‘mask’ their underlying condition and change their scoring in the diagnostic tests used to determine their condition in this research.

“This research acknowledges that a diagnosis of autism is not usually lost over time and it is important to recognise the support that people with autism need in order to live the lives of their choosing.”

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What your skirt length says about you

This provocative image has sparked an international debate about what women's skirt lengths say about their sexual habits.
What your skirt length says about you: Artist's image goes viral

This provocative image has sparked an international debate about what women’s skirt lengths say about their sexual habits.

Amateur artist Rosea Lake — an 18-year-old illustration student at Vancouver’s Capilano University — posted the image on her Tumblr page under the headline “Judgements”.

Within days, the image had gone viral, attracting more than 270,000 comments from around the world.

Lake shot the picture as part of a high school project last year, when she was just 17.

She told Canadian newspaper The Province the idea was born of her own prejudices against scantily-clad women.

“I realised that when I looked at a woman in a short skirt I automatically thought ‘slut’ and I felt bad about that,” Lake said.

“And I thought all women who wore hijabs were being oppressed. I thought about slut shaming and thought we need to get to a place where we are not judgmental.”

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Kim Kardashian: It’s a miracle I’m pregnant!

Kim Kardashian: It’s a miracle I’m pregnant!

While Kim Kardashian didn’t plan her pregnancy, she says it’s a miracle she conceived at all, as she secretly suffered fertility issues.

“It’s kind of a miracle that I even got pregnant,” she told Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda on the US Today show on Tuesday.

“’It was a pleasant surprise when so many doctors were telling me one thing and then the opposite happens.”

Kim’s younger sister Khloe has also suffered fertility issues in the past and has been open about her struggles to fall pregnant with her husband Lamar Odom.

“Khloe has been very open about her fertility issues and I think I was always really kind of quiet about mine, and I have similar issues,” Kim said.

She says she still finds it difficult to believe she is pregnant.

“I think until I really start seeing, like, a belly, it won’t really sink in. It’s just like a weird realisation until you really start seeing the physical changes, um, and every day’s different,” she said.

Although the 32-year-old is looking forward to welcoming her first child with singer Kanye West, there is one thing still bothering her – her failed 72-day marriage to basketball player Kris Humphries.

The pair are yet to finalise their divorce, as Kris is refusing to sign the necessary papers.

“I can’t speak for anyone else [about why the divorce hasn’t been finalised]. It’s a process… It’s happening, hopefully,” she said.

Kim says she has discussed marriage with Kanye but for now they are “focusing on the baby”.

“[I’m] so content with how things are right now. And how life is and we’re so happy. We definitely want [marriage] in the future, but I’m not in a rush.”

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Stars reveal the super foods that keep them fit

We take a look at the twitter pics stars share of their healthy eating habits.

Liz Hurley

We take a look at the twitter pics stars share of their healthy eating habits.

Liz Hurley kicks things off with this posted pic of freshly picked berries which are a rich in antioxidants snack.

Miranda Kerr

Miranda Kerr has always been a cheerleader for organic food.

She posted this picture of her freshly made gluten free muffins with chia seeds.

Kim Kardashian

First time mum Kim Kardashian decided to swap this sundae for this tuna salad. She is a fan of eating fresh, fast and healthy.

Jennie Garth

You won’t see Jennie Garth splurge on a soft drink, she clearly prefers to drink coconut water after posting this pic of her fridge full of it.

Oprah

Oprah suggests that having everything prepared for week night meals will help you to plan ahead and eat healthier.

Julianne Hough

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day and Julianne Hough knows how to start her day off right! She enjoys a breakfast of peaches, yoghurt and honey.

Jessica Alba

Following a work out Jessica Alba snacks on celery and cucumber with a small amount of dip mid-morning.

Heidi Klum

Heidi Klum snacks on plenty of fruit and vegetables including berries and carrots.

Hilary Duff

Hilary Duff raved about this healthy breakfast that her sister Hayley cooked for her. The new mum is trying to slowly get back to her pre-baby body.

Emma roberts

Actress Emma Roberts is all about balance in her diet and this is the perfectly balanced meal. She tweeted this pic of grilled salmon, veggies and grains.

Christina Milan

Singer Christina Milan loads her plate up with plenty of greens and healthy protein to keep herself in shape.

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