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Back to work after baby? Sorry-we can’t afford it

Back to work after baby? Sorry – we can't afford it

Each week day care costs my family nearly three hundred dollars. That’s for three days care, split between two children. That’s a lot of dough.

It’s a Catch 22. I want my kids’ day care to be well staffed by qualified teachers and providers, who will educate and look after my children, sometimes for as long as 10 hours a day. But to afford this, I need to work … a lot.

I am thinking about working full-time again, but have no idea how I am supposed to afford day care while sustaining a decent income. So far, it doesn’t seem worth it.

The median income in Australia is just over $1200 a week, per household. The average day care cost in Australia? $80 a day.

That means for two kids, you’re looking at a whopping $800 a week in day care fees.

It’s expensive, inaccessible and unacceptable.

The last reform to fees was made before the 2007 election: the childcare rebate was increased to 50 per cent. This was good, except to meet the newly lowered staff-child ratios … childcare centres raised their fees.

Plus, the rebate is only available if you use a long day care centre or family day care in someone’s home. Employ a nanny, and your pockets will have to be even deeper.

It’s an election year, and so far the response on childcare has been pretty poor from both sides of the policy fence.

Labor wants to continue the rebate, but it will be re-indexed next year that means it could be lowered. The Liberals say they’ll pay the rebate weekly — so parents don’t have to be out of pocket for as long.

Nannies are being ignored by Labor, who claim they’re only for the rich, which is a shame. The Liberals see their potential value for all families, and promise they’ll get the Productivity Commission to look into their potential for a rebate. It’s a good first step.

Neither party addresses the real problem: that quality day care should be available to all, not just the rich. Women are being effectively locked out of the workforce because of the staggering costs associated with child-minding before school age.

In countries like Denmark, parents have to pay just 25 per cent of the cost of childcare — with the state funding the rest. The average cost of day care? Around $140 a week for a fulltime place.

Cheaper childcare means women have options. We can return to work sooner if we want to, knowing that our kids are being well-cared for by trained professionals. We can make sure our careers don’t suffer, that our kids know that Mum is just as capable at working as Dad, and is still a great parent.

We need options. It’s an election year and I for one am waiting.

Your say: Have you gone back to work full-time? How do you afford it?

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Aussie grandma tells: Why I dumped Barry Gibb

Aussie grandma tells: Why I dumped Barry Gibb

Carol Ward was the star’s first love.

Fifty-two years after breaking Barry Gibb’s heart, Queensland grandmother Carol Ward has come face to face with the star. Carol, 65, was among thousands who turned out to Redcliffe on Valentine’s Day to watch Barry unveil a statue of the young Bee Gees. It was in the Brisbane bayside suburb that the Gibb brothers played their earliest gigs.

Carol was Barry’s first love. And Barry clearly remembered the girl who stole his heart then dumped him for another man, who she’s still married to today. “Barry looked straight at me and said, “I’ll talk to you later,” says Carol. “Hopefully, he’ll phone.” As she sorts through mementos, Carol recalls her first encounter with a 15-year-old Barry. “It was my last year in primary school and we had an end-of-year dance. Barry, Maurice and Robin sang,” she recalls. “At the end, I lined up to get their autographs.

“When it was my turn, Barry asked me where I lived. I didn’t think anything more of it, but somehow he found my house and turned up there the next day, and then every day after that. “He would hang around a little too long – long enough to miss the last bus, and my father would have to drive him home. “Dad got a bit sick of this, so using spare parts, he knocked together a bicycle, saying, ‘Here, Barry, ride home from now on.’”

Carol remembers often coming home to find the Gibb brothers singing up a storm in her kitchen. “Barry had this old bomb guitar. He was always playing music in our house, making up little songs. The boys were natural with their harmonies – they weren’t taught. Barry didn’t go to school, so he’d hang around our house, talking to mum. Robin and Maurice, who were 11, would often wag school. “I just think they enjoyed being around Mum and Dad, who were very kind-hearted. No-one ever left our house hungry.” Carol and Barry sealed their love by buying two red love-heart medallions with their names engraved on them. But the young lovebirds were torn apart by a high school dance.

Read more about Carol and Barry’s romance in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday February 25, 2013.

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Blade runner murder twist: She was pregnant!

Blade runner murder twist: She was pregnant!

More questions than answers surround the cold-blooded shooting of Olympian Oscar Pistorius’ girlfriend.

Reeva Steenkamp didn’t expect to spend Valentine’s Day terrified in a starkly lit bathroom, pleading for her life on a cold marble floor. This was meant to be a romantic day with the one she loved.

But somehow the great love between the glamorous South African law graduate-turned model and double-amputee athlete Oscar Pistorius had unexpectedly turned to horror.

Reeva’s life was about to be snuffed out in the dark early morning by several fatal gun shots. Her boyfriend, the star of the London Olympics, the man known as “Blade Runner”, is now in a red-brick South African cell, accused of her “premeditated murder”.

Was there a history of domestic violence between the so-called “blissful couple” who first met last November at a car racing track? The attraction had been instant, even though Oscar was still dating another woman.

Police have said there had been later “domestic altercations” between the couple. A friend of Reeva, Maddie Simms, has also spoken out, claiming: “While Oscar definitely loved Reeva, he was insanely jealous. He would get angry if she was late, if she asked a waiter too many questions or dressed too casually, in his mind.”

Another shocking aspect of this bizarre killing are new, as yet unconfirmed, reports that Reeva was pregnant with Oscar’s child. News of Reeva’s murder shocked the world. Her distraught mum, June, best summed up the bewilderment: “In the blink of an eye and a single breath, the most beautiful person who ever lived is no longer here. Why? Why my little girl? Why did this happen? Why did he do this?”

Oscar, 26, has staunchly denied the killing, emotionally telling a packed court room: “We were in love and I could not have been happier. I know she felt the same way.”

Stunned onlookers packed the Pretoria court, craning their necks to catch a glimpse of the sporting hero now accused of murder. Oscar says he noticed the bathroom window was open and the toilet door off the bathroom was locked. He says he was convinced there had been a break-in, and that the intruder had locked themselves in. He claims he had been receiving death threats. He said he called for Reeva, who he thought was still in bed.

“I fired shots at the toilet door and shouted to Reeva, ‘Phone the police’. She did not respond.”

He says when he realised Reeva may be in the bathroom, he put on his prosthetic legs, tried to kick down the door, then bashed it in with a cricket bat to find Reeva, 29, shot inside.

“I had no intention to kill my girlfriend. I fail to understand how I could be charged with murder let alone premeditated murder.”

The prosecution dismissed Oscar’s emotional account. They claim it was all pre-planned.

“Why would a burglar lock himself inside the bathroom,” prosecutor Gerrie Nel demanded. And as mourners gathered at a private funeral ceremony in Reeva’s hometown of Port Elizabeth, the world is left wondering what really happened that shadowy Valentines morning. Murder, or a tragic case of mistaken identity?

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Jennifer Hawkins dazzles in Myer fashion show

She was crowned Miss Universe in 2004 and Jennifer Hawkins showed she’s still got what it takes to shine on stage, putting on a dazzling display at the Myer Autumn/Winter 2013 fashion show last night.

Jennifer took control of the catwalk, modelling an array of local designers at the department store’s biannual runway show in Melbourne.

She was joined by a bevy of beauties who helped her showcase the upcoming season’s best fashion. Which is your favourite look?

Jennifer Hawkins on the Myer catwalk.

Jennifer modelling Sass & Bide.

Jennifer modelling Sass & Bide.

Jennifer in an Arthur Galan design.

Jennifer modelling Manning Cartell.

Jennifer in Maticevski.

Jennifer modelling Charlie Brown.

Jennifer and her fiance Jake Wall arriving at the show.

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Victoria Beckham’s most unusual outfits

Victoria Beckham is the toast of the fashion world, producing one sell-out fashion collection after another, but she hasn’t always been so effortlessly stylish.

Her Spice Girls days saw Victoria squeeze into all manner of pleather outfits but it was her time as a WAG that saw her push the boundaries of fashion to their very limits.

With long blonde hair extensions, a whippet-thin figure and a great fondness for hotpants, Victoria was certainly brave with her style choices in those days!

Take a look at some of Victoria’s more adventurous fashion moments

Some of Victoria Beckham’s more unusual fashion choices.

Forgotten your pants? In London in 2007.

Sporty Spice with husband David in 2001.

Showing a lot of skin in 2005.

Looking sporty in 2003.

Rocking heel-less boots in New York in 2008.

Flashing her bra at the MTV Movie Awards in 2007.

At Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ wedding.

My Fair Lady: At Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ wedding.

Nipples and very short shorts in 2000.

Big hair and pleather in 1997.

White bra under a sheer black shirt in 2001.

Gold pleather jumpsuit in 2007.

Rock chick in 2007.

An unusual outift in November 2007.

Too much tan and protruding chest bones in 2005.

Looking very bronzed in 2005.

At a fashion show in 2007.

An unusual halter top in 2006.

Sheer white lace in 2008.

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With a furry back in August 2008.

In a voluminous frock in 2008.

In New York in 2007.

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Big brother love triangle: Layla’s heartbreak

Big brother love triangle: Layla's heartbreak

Big Brother beauty Layla Subritzky dumped her boyfriend Sam Wallace by phone, claiming he was too interested in skinny girls and there was no spark left in the relationship they started in the house.

Layla, 25, broke down in tears on the set of Celebrity Apprentice after breaking up with Sam two weeks ago. She’d heard rumours he had been seen kissing fellow Big Brother contestant and self-confessed “firecracker” Angie Murray. Sam and Angie deny it, and he insists he’s been faithful to Layla since they fell in love with each other when he entered the house as an intruder last year.

“I didn’t want it to end and I still don’t know why it did,” Sam, 22, says. “Layla was the first girl I’ve been in love with. I’m not interested in anyone else. My priority has always been Layla and, yes, she did hurt me. I spent Valentine’s Day alone!” Angie, 22, feels sorry for Sam because he has had his heart broken. But she is very happy with her own boyfriend, Sam Amey, who she met after leaving the Big Brother house and is now living with on the Gold Coast.

“He had a giggle when I told him what Layla was saying about us,” she says. Layla fell hard for handsome Sam when he entered the house. The couple quickly hooked up, despite Angie making a play for him behind Layla’s back. “I was instantly attracted to Sam,” Layla says. “It was really nice to have a friend in the house. We knew it might be different on the outside, but when we got out of the house we continued the relationship. We came to Sydney the day after the finale and we’ve been together ever since.

“I knew he played the field but he told me he wanted a serious relationship.” Layla still hasn’t seen a full episode of Big Brother but did watch the bit where Angie flirted with Sam. She and Angie fell out over it, particularly as Angie used Layla’s flirtation with fellow contestant George Baramily to drive a wedge between her and other housemates. “Angie fancied Sam but I kissed him,” Layla says. “She told everyone I broke George’s heart but it’s not true. George is one of my best friends to this day. Angie and I never really made up or resolved anything properly. I think she will be happy to hear our relationship failed.”

Read more about Layla and Sam’s break-up in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday February 25, 2013.

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Prince Harry charms African schoolkids with dad dancing

Prince Harry charms African schoolkids with dad dancing

Prince Harry in Lesotho.

He’s put in plenty of hours perfecting his moves in some of London’s most exclusive nightclubs and it finally paid off yesterday, with Prince Harry using his daggy dance skills to delight a group of African schoolchildren.

Harry arrived in the tiny kingdom of Lesotho on Tuesday, and yesterday travelled to the Kananelo Centre for the Deaf.

After spending time learning sign language with several of the school’s pupils, Harry headed outside for some impromptu dancing.

His mistimed and awkward grooving thrilled the kids, who screeched with laughter as he gyrated around, busting out some of his best dad dancing moves.

Prince Harry charms African schoolkids with dad dancing

Prince Harry meeting schoolkids.

Harry, 28, is in Africa visiting projects set up by his charity Sentebale. He told reporters he feels he can “truly be himself” on the continent, and it showed yesterday.

The third in line to the throne seemed completely relaxed as he travelled around meeting locals, displaying the same ease with children his mother Princess Diana was famous for.

Diana was on Harry’s mind too, and he paid an emotional tribute to his mother at a HIV/AIDS fundraising dinner in Johannesburg last night.

“I hope that my mother will be proud,” Harry said.

Prince Harry learning sign language at the Kananelo Centre for the Deaf.

The prince is expected to return to the UK tomorrow. He has been in Lesotho for two days, touring the country with close friend and charity co-founder Prince Seeiso, who Harry met while travelling on his gap year in 2006.

Harry and Seeiso set up Sentebale — which means “forget me not” in the country’s native language Sesotho — in the same year.

The name was chosen to pay tribute to Harry’s mother Diana who devoted much of her time to raising money for AIDS research.

Harry last travelled to Lesotho in 2010 along with his brother William, when he told reporters he could see himself living in the area.

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Former Vogue editor Kirstie Clements responds to Good Weekend feature

She was the subject of an incredibly unflattering feature in last Saturday's Good Weekend, now former Vogue editor Kirstie Clements hits back.
Kirstie Clements: In response to Good Weekend

Kirstie Clements. Photography Steven Chee. © The Australian Women's Weekly.

Tonight is the launch of my book The Vogue Factor (Melbourne University Press) and now that I’ve been through the dreary process of being sniped at by the press, I’m ready for the exciting part, which is meeting and interacting with readers.

That was always the best part, for the 13 years that I edited Vogue Australia.

People often have a preconceived idea of what a Vogue editor is like (imperious, vain, bitchy), and what it’s like to work there (easy, fun, indulged), so I hope my memoirs of 25 years at Vogue go some way to dispelling these myths.

While many are waiting for a salacious, withering tell-all, I must confess I didn’t write the book with that intention. We always criticised by omission at Vogue, which I think is a rather elegant way to live life in general, rather than endlessly dishing dirt.

Insiders will be able to read between the lines. The story I wanted to tell was more of a motivational tale — that any young person starting out in the workforce can make it to the top.

You don’t have to have the right connections. You must have passion, it requires hard work and tenacity. I know: I started as a girl from the Shire on the reception desk, and managed to survive seven CEOs.

Whilst my sudden and very public firing last May has put me, (unwillingly!), in the news, the bigger picture of what is happening in magazine publishing is largely being avoided.

There is a seismic shift in the media landscape, falling circulations, magazine closures, and uncertainty about the financial returns of digital platforms.

Many editors have lost their jobs, a slew of journalists and media players are being shown the door or have asked to been shown the exit.

But for the press, when discussing the departure of a former Vogue editor, it seems to be easier to drop into the obvious clichés of discussing handbags and nail polish, parties (and tea refills!) than look at what is happening to the publishing industry, and its standards.

The Vogue Factor does tackle some of these issues, along with the perennial concern of body image and anorexia in the modelling world.

And of course there are recollections of the glamorous parts of the job, such as producing the Princess Mary issue and working with Karl Lagerfeld during his guest editorship of Australian Vogue.

It’s an insider’s view of what can be a very crazy, but stimulating world, and one that I loved being a part of for 27 years, mostly because of the wonderful people that I met along the way, and the ever-loyal readers. The book is for them.

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Keli Lane, the woman who allegedly murdered her newborn has been denied bail ahead of appeal

The secret life of a baby killer

Keli Lane outside court in 2010

Keli Lane has been denied bail in a bid for release ahead of her upcoming appeal in the NSW Supreme Court over her conviction for murdering her newborn baby.

The former elite water polo player was sentenced to at least 13 years and five months in jail in April 2011 over the disappearance and murder of two-day-old baby Tegan in 1996.

Lane’s 2010 conviction which found her guilty of murder caused great controversy as Tegan’s body was never found and no cause of death determined.

Lane reportedly has two abortions as a teenager and subsequently kept three pregnancies and births secret. She put her first and third children up for adoption, but was convicted of murdering Tegan.

She claims she handed her two-day-old daughter to the baby’s father with whom she had a brief affair, but in 2011 a court decided that Lane had murdered her daughter “in a situation of desperation”.

Lane is now planning to appeal the conviction. In a bid for release ahead of the appeal her legal team led by high profile defence lawyer Winston Terracini argued her trial was unfairly prejudiced from the start.

In today’s bail application Mr Terracini argued the jury that convicted Lane should have been instructed that manslaughter and infanticide were alternate charges to consider, and also cited “conduct of the prosecution” as grounds for appeal arguing there was a problem with the prosecution’s method of questioning during the trial.

Justice Hoeben said while he understood the points raised by Lane’s defence, they were an issue for the appeal court, and denied bail saying he would hand down his reasons tomorrow.

One of Lane’s barristers James Trevallion said outside the court that the defence remains positive leading up to her appeal.

“I’ve spoken to Keli, obviously she’s very disappointed, but we’re still positive in respect of the appeal,” he said.

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CrossFit Week 9: Game On – A Super Hero in the making

Week 9 of Karen's CrossFit Challenge

This week my dad emailed me a photo from the archives of me with the weight of the world on my shoulders. I’m guessing this was me about age 6, just coming to terms with my destiny as a future superhero. I took a few decades off from my training but now I’m truly back at it.

…And just in time too, because Nicole and I were informed on the weekend that we’re parachuting straight into the regular CrossFit class. Here I thought we’d have a month worth of the On Ramp program to get us up to gear but apparently Pete couldn’t keep his mouth shut about how much progress we were making. So now low and behold we’ll be joining in with the people I’ve been staring at in awe. I did lose some sleep over this… the sort of sleep one loses when they were the kid that only passed gym class because of getting an A for effort.

I’ve always been a little bit uncoordinated apart from my fine motor skills and so the idea of teaming up with a bunch of people who look like elite athletes is daunting to say the least. When the time came I have to admit I was pleasantly surprised.

Number one, all those elite looking athletes were incredibly friendly and encouraging. Which meant that even when I was finishing the workout last they were all standing by to cheer me on… embarrassing? YES… but somehow it made it easier and quitting was definitely out of the question.

Number two, the workouts were actually easier (NOT EASY) than what Nicole and I had been doing in our personal training sessions. There were fewer reps, the workouts were shorter in total and while you were supervised it wasn’t quite the same as having someone whose only focus is you and notices any inadvertent slacking off.

Number three, it was interesting. We were trying new things that we hadn’t gotten to in our PT sessions. Welcome to the world of chin ups, burpees and double unders… I have yet to master any of them.

So ultimately while I still prefer the personal training I could tell this had other elements that would keep me heading toward my goals and it felt like something I could stick with. Which is good because this super hero in training stuff is hard work… isn’t there a spider that can just bite me or something?

See www.crossfitathletic.com.au for more.

Watch video: Woman’s Day’s Karen Birkemoe takes on the CrossFit challenge.

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