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Isla Fisher: “You can’t have it all”

The debate over women balancing work and family consumes headlines as women struggle to strike perfect harmony between their home and office life but the Australian actress says that balance is a myth
Isla Fisher in FASHION magazine

Isla Fisher doesn’t believe she can have it all.

The debate over women balancing work and family consumes headlines as women strive for perfect work-life balance, but the Australian actress says that brand of balance is a myth.

The 37-year-old mother of two spoke of professional sacrifices she made when she became a mother in a revealing interview with Canada’s FASHION magazine.

“You can’t ‘have it all’ — it’s a total myth,” she said.

Fisher went on to hint that women striving to ‘have it all’ should be grateful with what they get.

“Whatever you are lucky enough to get should be fabulous enough,” she said.

“I have never met anyone with the perfect career and the perfect family life. Something always has to suffer.”

Here’s what other women think about ‘having it all’:

American writer and feminist Anne-Marie Slaughter‘s essay titled Why Women Still Can’t Have It All was widely debated when it was published last year.

Opposition leader Julie Bishop said there was one simple answer to the question over having it all: “No, you can’t have it all,” she told The Sunday Telegraph.

“[Women] can have plenty of choices, but at the end of the day, they choose something which means they can’t have something else.”

Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg says in her book Lean In that there is a difference between having it all and doing it all, and says women let themselves down by trying to have it all on their own.

“Women, as early as junior high, are worried about having careers and families,” she says.

“So, they enter the workforce almost looking for the exit — years before they have children.”

The incredibly successful career and family woman Beyonce has become a poster girl for having it all, but she has said sometimes she feels like she’s “pretending that I have it all together.”

Sarah Jessica Parker says it’s smart to fear having it all. On the publicity rounds for her film I Don’t Know How She Does It she was honest in admitting that women who aspired to have it all by looking up to celebrities like her were looking in the wrong place.

“I don’t think I’m the ultimate parent. I am always looking to other women who really do far better with far less resources than I have.”

Legendary Cosmo editor Helen Gurley Brown is said to have coined the phrase ‘having it all’ and named her booked accordingly: Having It All: Love, Success, Sex, Money, Even If You’re Starting with Nothing.

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iGeneration: Technology we can’t live without

For some people being without their iPad feels like losing an arm — only we’ve had those our entire lives. Apple’s tablet has, shockingly, only been in existence for three years today, yet many of us feel like we can’t live without it.

It wasn’t that long ago that “Googling” was not only impossible but a nonsense word. You didn’t have to confirm relationships with the click of a button to consider someone a “friend” as on facebook, and getting directions meant poring over an actual map, or even having to ask a stranger.

Here are 13 things we can’t live without, even though we did for so long.

The iPad turns three today. As of September last year 84 million had been sold.

Trying to remember life without Google is impossible. In 1998 it was still run out of a garage.

GPS has been guiding wayward drivers since 2003.

YouTube has only been around for eight years.

Twitter was only created in 2006.

More than one billion users can’t imagine life without Facebook, but it’s only nine years old.

eBay and Amazon.com were only launched in 1996. Now online shopping is ubiquitous and practically instant.

Day-to-day banking is much easier online. No queues!

Freed from the shackles of TV schedules, digital TV allows us to record and rewind.

Remember dial up? Wireless Internet came into play in 1999 but didn’t enter most homes until 2003/4.

The iPod only began to replace the humble Walkman in 2001.

Digital cameras didn’t become popular until the early 2000s.

Text messages have been around for more than 20 years but now we rely on them more than calls.

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Once wasn’t enough! Stars who renew their vows

Matt Damon and Luciana Barroso

Matt and his wife are about to renew their wedding vows! In true star style, Matt rented out an entire five-star Caribbean resort for a reported $1 million and the ceremony will include guests such as George Clooney and Stacy Keibler and Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner.

The pair wed in a small ceremony at city hall in 2005 and are now ready for a bigger celebration!

Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban

While rumours spread recently that Nicole and Keith were set to renew their wedding vows, Keith set the record straight saying that the pair renew their vows every day, awww!

“I just love the marriage we have and I think metaphorically renewing your wedding vows is something you’re supposed to do every day,” he told Madison. “I don’t think it’s something that you make a big issue and plan on paper.”

David and Victoria Beckham

David surprised Victoria by re-proposing to her at their home. The pair renewed their vows in front of their children before he whisked her off to Paris for a second honeymoon.

Instead of giving each other rings, they pair got matching wrist tattoos of Roman numerals VIII.V.MMVI — March 8, 2006, the date of the ceremony.

Jay-Z and Beyonce

The number four has great significance for this couple, so it’s no wonder they decided to renew their wedding vows on their fourth wedding anniversary.

The pair held a ceremony at midnight at their New York home where they gave each other new gold wedding bands. The ceremony took place in front of a small group of friends and family including their daughter, Blue Ivy, Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith.

JLO and Marc Anthony

When JLo and Marc Anthony were together, they renewed their vows for the first time in Vegas in 2008! The unplanned affair took place one day at 3.15am at Caesar’s Palace’s Forum Tower Penthouse.

The couple then renewed their vows again for their sixth wedding anniversary, in front of friends and family at their Hidden Hills, California, estate.

Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott

Despite their sometimes rocky relationship, Tori and Dean renewed their wedding vows after four years of marriage.

In a ceremony in front of family and friends at a private Beverly Hills home, the pair wed once again in front of a sand box that had their names written inside, as a memory of their beach Fiji wedding in 2006.

Heidi Klum and Seal

When supermodel Heidi Klum and her musician husband Seal were an item, they made it a tradition to renew their vows every year around the time of their wedding anniversary on May 10.

“We love to renew our vows. It’s our time, a lovely family time,” Heidi told Redbook magazine last year. “It’s about remembering this moment of love we gave to each other and reinforcing it.”

Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore

Despite trying to repair their relationship by renewing their vows, things didn’t work out for Demi and Ashton.

Following reports Ashton had been accused of cheating on his then-wife, the pair flew to Israel where they renewed their wedding vows.

Heidi Montag and Spencer Pratt

Heidi and Spencer first tied the knot by eloping to Mexico. The pair then took part in a scripted over-the-top wedding for TV show The Hills for the second one.

But this wasn’t enough for the pair, who renewed their vows to “restart” their marriage in 2010 in a private ceremony with just the two of them.

Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey

Nick and Mariah love a wedding renewal (they have had four!), but nothing tops their most recent ceremony.

Just one day after their twins were born they called upon their reverend to renew their vows while Mariah was still at the hospital!

Fergie and Josh Duhamel

In 2010 Josh surprised his wife Fergie with a wedding renewal ceremony in Santa Barbara.

Josh organised a private helicopter that took the pair to a beach resort and spa where they renewed their vows overlooking the beach, just the two of them. The pair are now preparing to welcome their first child.

Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom

They got married after just one month of dating, so it seemed fitting that Khloe and Lamar renewed their wedding vows exactly one year after tying a knot.

Lamar sent his wife on a treasure hunt and Khloe finally arrived at the Beverly Hills mansion where they previously wed, to renew their vows.

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Is it possible to raise kids with no body image issues?

Is it possible to raise kids with no body image issues?

With a quarter of Aussie kids now overweight or obese and thousands of others battling eating disorders, mum-of-two Zoe Arnold asks if it’s possible to raise kids with no body image hang-ups.

Fat kids are becoming normal, just like fat adults. Visit any suburban mall and overweight families appear to outnumber average-sized people.

But what about the other extreme?

Kids who are so obsessed with how they look that they stop eating. They compare themselves to Barbies — wondering why their waists aren’t as small.

This is also happening in Australia.

A friend of mine has a gorgeous eight-year-old daughter. She’s slim and healthy, and isn’t quite old enough to know about body image. But she’s not far off.

Last year, children in the year above her stopped eating their school lunches en masse. Parents couldn’t work out why sandwiches were coming home, still packed neatly in cling wrap. Turns out one little girl was telling others in her class that they were ‘fat’ or ‘skinny’ and her fellow nine-year-olds were taking her seriously.

Surely nine is too little to be worried about appearances?

But we are getting fatter. And fatter.

So how do we educate our kids about what to eat, how much to consume, without giving them a complex about the size of their waistlines?

I encourage healthy eating at home. I serve vegetables with all my kids’ meals, and dish up fruit with their snacks. They’re not always eaten, but I figure the more it’s presented, the more it’s consumed.

We eat treats too: small packets of sweet biscuits, milkshakes at cafés, ice creams on hot days.

My three-year-old knows that too much cake is bad for you, just like she knows smoking is yucky. But I don’t want her worrying that she’s going to have a weight problem every time she chows down a piece of birthday cake.

So how do you achieve that balance? How do you educate your kids about being healthy without driving them to an unrealistic ideal of skinniness? Or at the other end of the scale — prevent them from becoming obese, like too many of us are?

It’s tricky, and with two daughters I think my work’s cut out for me. Obesity can be caused by genetics. My Grandmother was obese, as was one of her sisters — the other three were thin as rakes, and they all had the same depression-era diet … long before fast food became a staple.

Most obese people are not fat because of the genes though. It’s what they eat. And eat, and eat. So for my part, I will try to keep my kids on a balanced diet, keep giving them their fruit and veg every day.

I can only hope they grow up knowing healthy is beautiful, and while they may not be supermodel skinny, they learn to love their strong and capable bodies.

What about you? How do you teach your kids to be healthy, without going too far?

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The decade style forgot: Fashion of the 90s

Eighties fashion is much-maligned but the decade that followed had even more questionable style moments.

Even the classic pant suit – so hard to get wrong – went hideously awry in the decade style forgot, with Celine Dion wearing hers baggy and back-to-front and Bon Jovi choosing a maroon crushed velvet variety.

Hair was huge, fabric couldn’t be too garish or shiny, one-armed jackets were perfectly acceptable and dark glasses were paired with almost every outfit. Here are our nominations for the nineties fashion hall of shame.

Geena Davis, Cher, Celine Dion, Susan Sarandon and Jon Bon Jovi.

Kim Basinger in a white ball gown and matching one-armed jacket in 1990.

Will Smith’s wife Jada showed off her midriff in spangled green in 1997.

Whoopi Goldberg in lime green and purple in 1993.

Celine Dion’s infamous take on the pant suit in 1999.

Jon Bon Jovi in crushed velvet in 1991.

Cher at the Oscars in 1998.

Julia Roberts chose a man’s suit for the Golden Globes in 1990.

Geena Davis in a mullet dress and white satin gloves in 1992.

Blythe Danner looking voluminous in 1993.

Halle Berry in lurid mauve in 1996.

Rachel Griffiths in garish orange/pink in 1999.

Glenn Close in 1991.

Jennifer Aniston in 1995.

Susan Sarandon in dazzling bronze in 1996.

Glenn Close in 1993.

Kate Winslet looking like Maid Marion in 1998.

Reba McEntire in 1991.

Too many sequins weren’t enough for Celine Dion in 1997.

Tyra Banks in 1996.

Dennis Rodman in 1999.

Madonna experimented with a denim smock in 1992.

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Hollywood nutritionist reveals star’s beauty super foods

Hollywood nutritionist reveals the star's beauty super foods

Tired eyes? Try eating a banana. Acne breakout? Snack on some coconut yoghurt. Need a little collagen boost? Munch on some pineapple.

These are the tips from renowned Hollywood nutritionist to the stars Kimberly Snyder, who says it’s easy to get glowing skin and shiny hair simply by eating the right foods.

Kimberly, whose client list reads like a who’s who of Hollywood and includes everyone from Drew Barrymore to Dita Von Teese, shares her lifestyle guide in her new book The Beauty Detox Foods.

The book contains recipes and tips which naturally assist the body, using the mantra “beauty from the inside-out”.

“Many clients see more glowing skin and improved energy in as little as three days. Weight will come off steadily but, more importantly, stay off,” she told the UK’s MailOnline.

So exactly what does her guide involve? All her meal plans are gluten- and dairy-free, and are based on everyday products readily available in grocery stores. Kimberly says her lifestyle guide includes foods that are high in minerals and fibre, which “help cleanse and unclog the waste from the intestines, so that your body can start to absorb nutrients optimally”.

She also suggests:

  • Pineapple as a complexion booster.

  • Flax seeds for an injection of essential fatty acids, and avocados which are loaded with vitamins C, E and K.

  • One banana per day to combat eye bags, as the high potassium level helps to regulate the fluid levels under the eyes.

  • A combination of foods help with acne breakouts including coconut yogurt to clean the system, apple cider vinegar to flush out toxins and onions to support the liver’s detoxification.

“Vitamin A is necessary for a shiny, well-moisturised head of hair, as well as promoting a healthy scalp, which is essential for healthy hair growth.” She also suggests pumpkin seeds as a good source of zinc, sulfur and vitamin A – three compounds which help promote strong and healthy hair.

Gluten-free wholegrains, such as millet, will also help to strengthen nails.

Firstly, she recommends cutting out diet soft drinks and processed foods.

“They are zero calories but what I see them do to women’s and girl’s skin . . . It’s so full of acidic chemicals, it imbalances your body completely. There are just so many issues with soda,” she said.

While Kimberly doesn’t believe in calorie counting, she does point out that the detox is a long-term program.

“[It] needs to take place continuously to get the tangible results you are after,” she says.

She also stresses the importance of doing this program slowly, saying that if the shift takes place too quickly, devotees can feel or become ill.

“My Beauty Detox program is a lifestyle, not a short-term liquid fast or diet. I speak of detox as principles you need to incorporate on an ongoing basis. I always emphasise progress, not perfection,” she says.

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Tax on fat fliers: Airline asks customers to pay if they’re overweight

A Samoan airline has started charging customers by the kilo, instead of per seat.
Fat man in airplane seat

Air Samoa requests passengers enter their weight when they book flights online.

Their mass is then added to the weight of their baggage and used to calculate the fare cost, with thinner people paying considerably less than their larger counterparts.

On short flights, the pay-per-kilo rate is as low as $1 a kilogram, while longer flights have higher rates of more than $4 for the passenger and their luggage.

The airline — which was established last year and services the Pacific Islands of Samoa, American Samoa, Tonga, the Cook Islands and French Polynesia — boasts its pricing policy is the “fairest way to fly”.

“This is the fairest way of you travelling with your family or yourself,” Air Samoa’s CEO Chris Langton told ABC radio. “You can put your baggage on, there is no separate fees because of excess baggage — it’s just a kilo is a kilo is a kilo.

“The people that have been most pleasantly surprised are families because we don’t charge on the seat requirement, even though a child is required to have a seat — we just weigh them.

“So a family of maybe two adults and a couple of mid-sized kids and younger children can travel at considerable less than what they were being charged before.”

But while parents might be relieved to pay less for kids, there are likely to be many others who are outraged by the controversial fare structure. What do you think? Are the fares fair or outrageous?

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Ryan Gosling flips out: Don’t call Eva “baby”

Ryan Gosling flips out: Don't call Eva "baby"

Ryan Gosling has laid down the law when it comes to his girlfriend Eva Mendes. The 32-year-old-actor reportedly caused a scene at the Bowery Hotel in New York when a photographer, who recently shot Eva for a fashion spread, saw her and yelled out, “Hey, baby!”

Ryan was not impressed, with one eyewitness telling The New York Post he “completely flipped out and it got heated”.

“Ryan got in the guy’s face and said, ‘Who are you calling baby?’ Eva had to jump in and calm everyone down before it came to fisticuffs,” the witness reveals. “Ryan then made nice and shook the guy’s hand.”

Eva and Ryan, who have kept their relationship under the Hollywood radar since hooking up in September, were in New York for the premiere of their new movie, The Place Beyond The Pines.

The extremely private pair have done their best to keep their relationship secret and, at a party for the film the previous night, the two stayed well apart.

Ryan arrived with his mother as his date, while Eva arrived 45 minutes later than the rest of the cast.

“I didn’t see Eva and Ryan interact once,” a source at the party said. “They stayed at opposite ends of the room from one another.”

The couple even left separately.

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Fat kids having tonsils removed to help them breathe

Fat kids having tonsils removed to help them breathe

Australian children are now so fat doctors are removing their tonsils so they can breathe.

A shocking report in today’s Daily Telegraph revealed the toll the obesity epidemic is having on our children’s health.

Westmead Children’s Hospital’s paediatric obesity specialist Dr Shirley Alexander said he had treated kids as young as 18 months, while some two-year-olds weighed 36kg, three times the recommended weight for children of that age.

By the time kids are eight, many need machines to ensure they don’t stop breathing while they’re asleep and by 10, several are having their tonsils out for the same reason.

Other young kids were having hip operations because their joints couldn’t cope with their soaring weight.

“We’ve got five, six and seven-year-olds with insulin resistance and 10-year-olds with Type 2 diabetes,” Dr Alexander told the publication.

“It used to be 30 years ago you didn’t see that until people were in their 40s, 50s and 60s.”

Dr Alexander has spoken out about the obesity crisis in response to the Federal Government’s National Health and Medical Research Council (NHMRC) new draft obesity guidelines, which advocate “weight maintenance” instead of “weight loss” for children.

Westmead Children’s Hospital says some children are now so obese maintaining their current weight is not enough, and they must slim down through diet and exercise.

“Adolescents may benefit from youth-appropriate structured gym programs,” it told the NHMRC.

“The message needs to be that any child or adolescent with severe obesity needs to be considered for referral and weight loss.”

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Heidi Klum saves son, Henry, in dramatic beach rescue

Heidi Klum's family holiday in tropical Hawaii turned into a dramatic rescue scene as her eldest son Henry was caught in a dangerous rip.
Heidi Klum and family

Heidi Klum’s family holiday in tropical Hawaii turned into a dramatic rescue scene as her eldest son Henry was caught in a dangerous rip.

The supermodel’s maternal instincts sprung into action as she pulled the seven-year-old from the water with the help of bodyguard boyfriend Martin Kristen.

“We got pulled into the ocean by a big wave,” she told ET Online.

“Of course, as a mother, I was very scared for my child and everyone else in the water.”

Two of Klum’s nannies came to Henry’s aid trying to pull him from the water, but got caught themselves with Heidi dragging the two women from the surf herself, helped by her father, Gunther, who was also holidaying with the family on the Hawaiian Island of Oahu.

“Henry is a strong swimmer and was able to swim back to land. We were able to get everyone out safely,” Klum said.

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