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Study: Childbirth gives new dads post-traumatic stress disorder

Study: Childbirth gives new dads post-traumatic stress disorder

A new study has shown new fathers are so traumatised by childbirth some suffer PTSD.

Any mum will tell you that childbirth is difficult, but dads can be equally traumatised by the birthing process, new research has claimed.

An Oxford University study found that complicated pregnancies can have a big impact on fathers as well as mothers, with some new dads so deeply affected they are being diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder, the Daily Mail reports.

Researchers interviewed men about their experiences after their partner experienced complications during birth.

Most men admitted they felt excluded from the experience, unable to talk about their feelings for fear of taking attention from the mother and baby, and many reporting being left alone in hospital corridors with no clue of what was happening.

The findings have prompted calls for hospitals to pay more attention to partners of women in the maternity ward and to offer counselling services.

One man interviewed as part of the study, 43-year-old Mark Booth told researchers he was “just put in a corner” while his wife went through a very difficult birth.

He said he was overcome with severe anxiety because there was “nobody there to explain the process”, and still has flashbacks to an image of seeing a placenta lying on a table six years on.

“I didn’t know what it was,” he told the Independent on Sunday.

“That was the most traumatic moment for me because I didn’t know if the baby was dead or alive, and then two nurses came out with an empty incubator, but didn’t speak to me.”

Another couple involved in the study told of how their physical and mental health still suffer seven years after a complication birth.

“It was such a traumatic experience,” said the mother, Susan.

“My husband Darren had a nervous breakdown a number of weeks later and suffered from PTSD.

“It’s taken five years for him to come out of that and he has never returned to work.”

Professor Marian Knight, who led the research, said it was important that men be afforded more consideration in the delivery room.

“The mums are severely ill and need lots of care. And while everyone is running around looking after mum, it can affect dads too,” she said.

“For the dads, it’s extremely vivid because they are fully aware of what’s going on.

“Often, we’re running around trying to save mum’s life, but we need to be thinking about dads as well.”

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Celebrate The Australian Women’s Weekly’s 80th birthday

Celebrate The Australian Women's Weekly's 80th birthday

The Weekly's 132-page 80th birthday souvenir issue is out now.

This year marks a significant milestone for The Australian Women’s Weekly.

It was 1933 when the nation’s first newspaper for women was born, and to start celebrations The Weekly has put together a souvenir edition celebrating 80 memorable years.

The magazine was an overnight success and became a trailblazer in the world of Australian publishing with its unique balance of cooking, news, current affairs, fashion, beauty, and celebrities that has struck a chord with Australian women making it the number one magazine 80 years later.

Delving into the archives from the past 80 years, the 132-page souvenir edition showcases the rich history of The Weekly.

From reporting the shocking trend of women wearing trousers in the 1930s — “People believe that the trousers for women craze will catch on here as it has done in the US” — to championing women’s rights, sending female war reporters into the field and debating the sexual revolution exploding in every household in the country, the stories are captivating.

It’s a compelling snapshot of Australia evolving including coverage of every major news story and celebrity and culminating in the 2000s with our first female prime minister and very own royal princess.

The 80th Birthday souvenir edition is just the start of The Weekly’s celebrations which will culminate in the October birthday issue. In celebrating our past the magazine will be a launchpad to the future with exciting initiatives to be announced in the May issue (on sale April 24).

The Australian Women’s Weekly: Celebrating 80 memorable years, is on sale Monday April 15.

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Joel and Nicole: Twins on the way!

Joel and Nicole: Twins on the way!

Good things come in twos – just ask Nicole Richie and hubby Joel Madden.

For years, Nicole Richie, wife of The Voice coach Joel Madden, has dreamed of having a big family. “I want five children. Twin boys and three girls,” Nicole says. “I’ve wanted that since I was a little girl.” Now the happy couple – who already have two adorable children, Harlow, 5, and Sparrow, 3 – are hoping to add their brood, and they’re hoping for more than one at a time!

“Ever since Nicole was little she’s dreamed of having twin boys,” says a source. “She’d love to have a total of five kids… but she definitely wants a set of twins in the mix.” Last week, Nicole – who once suffered from body image issues – was in the best shape of her life while on holiday with girlfriends in St Barths. “She is a mother of two, a wife, runs a fashion empire, but she still finds time to dance!” says her trainer, celebrity fitness guru Tracy Anderson.

With Nicole feeling fitter and stronger than ever, there’s no doubt this is the perfect time for a couple of new additions to the clan. “She told me that she got pregnant easily the first two times, so it shouldn’t be that hard,” a friend tells In Touch magazine. “But they are definitely trying.” And seeing the bond between Joel and his identical twin brother Benji has only cemented Nicole’s desire for two bubs at a time.

“Nicole loves how close Joel and his twin brother are,” says the source. “She wants to have two boys who can share that same closeness. She sees so much of her husband in his twin that she considers Benji her best friend.” Joel, who returns to Australia with Nic and the kids next month, agrees he and Benji are close. “We finish each other’s sentences and sometimes when I get really worried about Benji and call him, I find he’s feeling the same way,” says Joel.

Read more about Joel and Nicole in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday April 15, 2013.

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Tom gives Suri a TV show

Tom gives Suri a TV show

As she turns seven, her dad manages to upstage Katie’s gift.

Taking your daughter to Disney World is pretty hard to top, but Tom Cruise has one-upped Katie Holmes’s magical treat for Suri. According to our sources close to Tom, who’s looking after her as she turns seven this week, he’s taken Katie’s Mickey Mouse – and raised her a Hello Kitty!

On top of reports Tom splashed out on a $7 million private jet to ferry Suri from New York to LA, an insider confirms exclusively to Woman’s Day details of Tom’s incredible, money-can’t-buy gift.

“Tom’s assistant, his lawyer and his sister Lee Anne DeVette have been working to get a team of artists within Scientology to create a raft of Hello Kitty-themed presents that incorporates a special character named Suri,” explains our source. “She’ll have a DVD adventure to watch where Kitty meets her new best friend Suri. They’re also making book and school supplies incorporating Suri.”

It’s a unique present for Suri, who’s often seen toting gear emblazoned with the kitten logo. And Tom, 50, called in the heavy guns to make sure he was allowed to re-create the multimillion-dollar cartoon cat juggernaut. “Tom’s lawyer had to be involved to make sure they didn’t break copyright, but apparently it’s fine for them to use all this stuff privately so long as they don’t sell it,” the source tells us.

Read more about Suri’s lavish lifestyle in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday April 15, 2013.

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The curse of MKR

The curse of MKR

The pressures of success prove too much for last year’s winning pair.

The close bond between My Kitchen Rules stars Leigh Sexton and Jennifer “Princess” Evans helped them win the series. But 12 months on, it’s a very different story. “I don’t often talk about the hurt I felt after the show,” Leigh tells Woman’s Day exclusively. “It’s like Jennifer just disappeared and wiped her hands clean of our friendship.”

According to Leigh, when filming wrapped, Jennifer moved to Sydney and things went downhill fast. “I’d send her ‘Hello, how are you?’ texts or an email and nothing would come back to me, and it’s really sad,” says Leigh. “I know she was having a baby, there was a lot going on, but there are a lot of women having babies, your life doesn’t stop. I was always very confused as to why she wouldn’t get back to me.”

The allegations come as a shock to Jennifer. “I never said anything bad about her, I’ve never done anything bad,” she says. “She didn’t even make an effort to try to talk to me. I never wiped my hands of the friendship; I just don’t understand why she would say that.” Despite the growing distance between the pair, when Jennifer gave birth to her baby boy, Harlow, last July, Leigh couldn’t have been happier.

“Wayne [Jennifer’s husband] sent us photos of the baby and it was really lovely. But Anthony [Leigh’s husband] and I didn’t hear from Jennifer, and I heard that she was writing to other contestants.” But Jennifer insists she’s been too busy to be in touch with anyone. “I’ve been going back to Thailand quite a bit, because of Jennifer’s Kitchen [her foodie company and website] and I’ve got a little baby, and we don’t have family here. Harlow has been quite sick, he was in hospital in Thailand, and to hear that, it just really hurts my feelings.”

Read more about Fifi’s baby joy in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday April 15, 2013.

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*The Voice’s* Harrison: I want to fall in love

The Voice's Harrison: I want to fall in love

The Voice’s new star tells JACKIE BRYGEL how singing helps him feel more free.

He had all four coaches fighting over him, but there was a time when The Voice contestant Harrison Craig felt anything but in demand. “It’s really good to see Harrison get the recognition because for so long he didn’t,” says his mum, Janine Cochrane. Suffering from a severe speech impediment all his life, growing up wasn’t easy. “In primary school, I was bullied for seven years, the whole time I was there,” he recalls, quietly. “You try and ignore it – that’s the best you can do.”

He found the easiest way to rise above the nastiness was to focus on his true passion of performing, inspired by a mix of jazz, classical and pop (he calls it “popera”). “When I sing, the speech impediment goes away,” he says. “Singing is a way that I can express myself freely in a sense that I can’t do when I’m talking.” By his own admission, Harrison has always had plenty to say but hasn’t quite been able to get it off his chest.

He explains, “At certain points in time, it’s a matter of it being blocked or not coming out as clearly as I would like it to.” Now, the 18-year-old remains hopeful he will get his stutter completely under control. “Having a stutter is like you’re driving along and then you hit a pothole. To be able to slowly and, with time, control it, is a goal of mine,” Harrison explains.

“For me, it’s not about a cure – it’s about controlling it.” Unsurprisingly, Janine, who raised Harrison and his younger brother Connor, 13, on her own, couldn’t be more proud.

Read more about Harrison in this week’s Woman’s Day on sale Monday April 15, 2013.

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Darren McMullen confirms romance with Delta Goodrem

Darren McMullen has admitted he "had something going on" with Delta Goodrem.
The Voice Darren McMullen and Delta Goodrem.

It was the question on the lips of all Voice fans last year — were judge Delta Goodrem and host Darren McMullen dating?

Months after the pair were photographed looking very cosy in Sydney and Los Angeles, Darren has admitted he and Delta “had something going on”.

Darren told Kyle Sandilands and Jackie O’s radio show he had a casual relationship with the blonde singer, but insisted they “were never dating”.

“We were just two very young single people who would hold hands occasionally,” he told Austereo. “We are still very close”.

Rumours Darren and Delta were dating started circulating during the early stages of filming for season one of The Voice last year and the pair were photographed enjoying numerous dinner dates in Sydney.

They were later snapped hiking in Los Angeles, but denied they were an item.

They were also spotted kissing at Lady Gaga’s Sydney show in June, but the romance had reportedly fizzled out by August.

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The horrors and delights of travelling with kids

The horrors and delights of travelling with kids

It was meant to be two weeks of blissful relaxation in the sun but as Zoe Arnold quickly discovered, holidays are never the same once you have kids.

I always love those articles with celebrity mamas-to-be, where they gush about their pregnancy, proclaiming, “MY lifestyle’s not going to change, the baby will have to fit in with ME!” They give me a giggle, as it’s so far from the reality of having kids.

My little family has just finished a two-week stint in Bali. This is lucky, and privileged, and I’m well aware of that.

But my God — I’m exhausted. And I am craving the normality of our day-to-day routine, day care included.

A number of my friends wished me a “relaxing” time as I set off to our island paradise. Not the word I’d use.

As we arrived in our villa, jumping straight into the pool, my three-and-a-half year old had an accident of the bad variety almost immediately. She’s been toilet trained for a year-and-a-half now, so there was no predicting this.

Every time we took the children out to a local café or restaurant they would turn into feral demon children, running laps around the furniture, whooping with delight as they worked each other into a frenzy.

I became THAT mother: the one people look at with a mix of compassion and dismay, their thoughts reading, “that poor lady, with her ‘challenging’ offspring”.

Mine are not children who have never set foot in a café: quite the contrary. We go at least weekly for a babyccino or milkshake, but all my training was to no avail.

We’ve travelled internationally before with the kids, but that was while one of them still couldn’t move. Finding her legs was like a giant bolt of electricity for my youngest, and she simply can’t comprehend “sit still”.

So it was exhausting. Constantly being mindful of where the children were, which piece of furniture they were climbing on, whether they could escape from our villa.

But I would do it again, in a heartbeat.

Travelling for me opens your mind to new ideas, to new foods, to new people and experiences.

And the kids weren’t always feral. They loved the monkey forest in Ubud (kindred spirits?), the pool was used again and again, and they were made to feel special every day by the generous and kind-hearted Balinese who treated them like demi-Gods.

My girls learnt about offerings to Buddha; that people speak different languages to their own; that we are so lucky to live in a country where drinking water from the tap is something taken for granted.

And we did have a “holiday”: we did minimal cooking and cleaning, had beautiful sunny weather and affordable spa treatments when one of us felt brave enough to look after both kids at once.

Travelling with children is not anything like travelling as a couple or alone: you’re on their schedules and as much as you might try, they don’t want to sample local delicacies and really don’t care about discovering art galleries or museums.

It is worth going away, though. I asked my eldest what she had enjoyed most about our holiday as we left for the airport. She looked at me as she said, “playing with you and Daddy, Mummy”. And that made it all worthwhile.

What do you think is the best kid-friendly holiday? Do you think it’s worth travelling with kids?

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Women sharing baby news before 12 weeks

Pregnant women sharing baby plans before 12 weeks

Parents-to-be are no longer waiting until the 12-week mark to share their pregnancy news, with many telling family and friends just seven weeks after conception.

Traditionally, women have been advised to wait until after their first trimester passes to tell people they are expecting because of the high risk of miscarriage in the first three months of pregnancy.

Dr Alison Gee, who works with fertility clinic Genea, says technology is behind the growing trend to make pregnancies public earlier.

“We can have earlier imaging of pregnancy now,” she told the Daily Telegraph. “We have a scan at seven weeks and they see a foetus and a fetal heart (beat) and that is very encouraging.

“Some pregnancies are still lost between having a positive scan at seven or 12 weeks, but we have more information about pregnancies earlier on and that gives patients a bit more confidence to share pregnancy information.”

But University of NSW head of obstetrics and gynaecology Professor William Ledger has warned that the risk of miscarriage remains high until the 12-week milestone has been reached.

He added that sharing conception plans — which 67 per cent of women now do, according to a national study by pregnancy and fertility test company Clearblue — can put added pressure on a couple

“People often don’t realise the average (time to become pregnant) is between three and nine months, even for young couples,” he said.

“So if you announce to the world you are trying and then if it doesn’t happen quickly, you could be announcing there is a fertility problem, which not everyone wants to share.”

Your say: How and when did you tell your friends and family you were expecting?

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Prince Harry set to trek to South Pole

Prince Harry set to trek to South Pole

Prince Harry on a charity trek to the North Pole in March 2011.

Prince Harry is ready to strap on his snow boots and head south for the winter, joining a group of wounded soldiers on a charity trek in the South Pole.

The 28-year-old prince is yet to speak publicly about the event, but The Daily Mail reports he is anticipated to announce he will be taking part in the challenge which launches this week after joining an amputee team on a trek to the North Pole for the same cause in 2011.

Harry, who is a patron of the charity Walking with the Wounded, joined an amputee team which trekked to the North Pole with soldier Captain Disney who lost his right leg in battle.

“I know he’s wanting to be involved,” Captain Disney told The Telegraph.

“He’s a soldier — of course he’d love to do this. But first and foremost I’d like him to be there because he is a really good bloke.”

The North Pole trek was at the centre of a two-part film called Harry’s Heroes which documented the wounded British soldiers and the prince before he had to head home early to attend his brother’s wedding.

“These guys have been to hell and back and come out the other side,” he said during the documentary.

“They are amazing, absolutely astonishing; the inspiration they give to everyone is unbelievable.”

Known as Captain Wales in the army, the soldier spoke of his love for the military life.

“I guess I have three different lives. One is my military life, one is my public life, one is the public stuff. But me as a military man is my number one favourite, because I get to spend time with people like this,” he said.

The South Pole trek will take place as a race between a British team, a US team and a combined team with representatives from Canada and Australia.

If the prince participates, after extensive training he will fly to Antarctica in November to begin the trek expected to reach the South Pole around December 17.

In a statement released ahead of the Allied South Pole Challenge launch this Friday, Prince Harry urged everyone to get behind the trek.

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