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10 reasons why cats are better than husbands

No offence to husbands...
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My poor cat, Mister Fluffy Pants, has been low on the food chain at my house for a while but whilst ‘big-spooning’ his furry warmth in bed recently, I realised he was the perfect companion.

Let me share with you 10 reasons why cats are better than husbands. It’s a no-brainer when you think about it.

1.You can have more than one cat, and many people actually recommend it. They play together and keep each other company. No one has ever recommended having more than one husband. It’s not only taxing emotionally, but it would be physically arduous.

2.A cat doesn’t gag if you fart in bed. In fact, I suspect mine secretly likes a Dutch oven because he’s doesn’t move. Some mornings I expect him to be dead, like a canary in a mine shaft, but so far so good.

3.A cat doesn’t complain about cold hands touching him. Haven’t worked out how to train him to warm my feet, but I’m sure there is a technique that Hollywood animal trainers use for stuff like this. I’ve heard about people rubbing honey on their feet for their pets to lick off with their warm tongues but I think socks are far more practical.

4.My cat is totally happy to eat the same oral care biscuits and meat in gravy for years on end. No imaginative or time-consuming food preparation required. Husbands? Not so much.

5.Mister Fluffy Pants gives me complete control of the remote control when we snuggle on the couch, as long as he can sit on me somewhere and somehow. If I don’t let him get cosy, he does sometimes stand on the remote and ruin everything. I’m pretty sure it’s premeditated.

6.If he wakes me up amorously pre-dawn, I can shove him unceremoniously off the bed and he doesn’t take it personally or bear a grudge.

7.Never, ever finishes the wine and doesn’t put a freshy in the fridge. In fact, never drinks my wine full stop. He will lick the ice-cream bowl after I’m finished with it but I’m cool with that arrangement.

8.Never wants to sit up late watching tv and is always ready to go to bed when I am. Any time of day or night.

9.Never leaves the toilet seat up. In fact, doesn’t mess my bathroom at all. Admittedly, he occasionally kicks a cat nugget out of his box by mistake but picking that up with toilet paper is preferable to Toilet Ducking someone else’s bowl skids.

10.Takes care of his own washing. Sometimes yaks a fur ball on my cow-skin rug, but otherwise, he’s fresh-smelling, self-cleansing, and requires no folding or ironing.

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Ellen DeGeneres lets John Travolta’s daughter drive her car

It’s Grease lightning Jr! When John Travolta's daughter Ella Bleu stopped by The Ellen DeGeneres Show, the last thing she expected was to get a driving lesson.
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The 16-year-old revealed to the funny talk show host that she had her driver’s permit, so naturally, Ellen took it upon herself to teach her how to Parallel Park.

“So, we’re gonna use my car …” Ellen quipped as the audience was shown a bulky, retro, lime green vehicle.

“It’s an easy car to, uh, parallel park. So let’s all go out there. I’m gonna get in the car with you!”

Ella was there to support her dad… the last thing she expected was to have a driving lesson from one of Hollywood’s funniest stars!

The surprise driving lesson saw her 62-year-old dad in the front and Ellen in the back.

“Wait, is it on?” Ella timidly asked.

“There you go, honey,” John said proudly while his child figured out how to work the car.

“See that? She’s a genius … Look at this, look at my genius girl.”

We’re not sure if we’d agree [See for yourself in the video player above]

Before: Ella with her parents in 2002 [L] Now: Ella joined her dad for a red carpet back in 2013 [R].

The beloved Grease star is a father of three, Ella, Jett and five-year-old Benjamin. Sadly the family lost their darling son, Jett in 2009, at the age of 16 in January 2009, after he suffered from a seizure.

Ella is clearly the apple of John’s eye, with the dad candidly speaking about what it’s like raising a teen daughter.

“I don’t interfere with that,” John said of Ella’s love life while the teen sat in the audience with mum Kelly Preston.

John’s heartbreaking tribute.

“I’m saving her because she has two guys that she hangs out with, I don’t ask anything about what they say or do with each other.”

Kelly pipped in, saying, “I know everything!”

Ella quickly confirmed she wasn’t dating to which the relived dad quipped, “Good, let’s keep it that way!”

Check out the hilarious impromptu driving lesson in the video player above

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20 of the best parenting tweets ever

If you’re a parent, we’re sure you can relate to basically all of these.
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5 ways to bust stress in 60 seconds

Strung out and anxious? Don't be. Bust that stress in one minute flat.
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Everybody lives with stress. We’re all busy and juggling multiple roles in our lives, and a manageable amount of stress can actually help us to perform at a higher level.

Too much stress, however, has a detrimental effect on the body and mind. You can become irritable, sleepless, anxious and even depressed. Over a prolonged period it may cause life-threatening heart problems, issues with immunity and effect your reproductive cycle. Your relationships may suffer and you may struggle to make sensible decisions.

By managing your stress level on a moment-to-moment basis, you can prevent the build-up that leads to chronic stress overload, and possible brain explosion (NB not a technical medical side effect of stress, merely a suggested messy side-effect.).

1. Mindful breathing

When we’re feeling stressed our autonomous nervous system kicks in. One of the first physical symptoms can be irregular or shallow breathing. Our heart rate elevates, our fight or flight response activates and our blood pressure can soar.

“There are two ways that controlled breathing helps with stress: The first is that by focussing on the breath we are using Mindfulness, and that focusing on the present, we are not thinking about the past or the future, and the source of the stress fades away. Focus on the breath coming in and the breath as it goes out, and become aware of it passing over your upper lip (breathing should be done with the mouth closed), and you will find that you become calmer,” Northern-beaches-based psychotherapist, Annie Gurton says.

“The second is that by having a longer out-breath than in-breath, we calm our autonomous nervous system, which controls our basic bodily functions. Do this and you will notice that you can immediately think more clearly.”

2. Tense and relax

Close your eyes for a moment and put both feet on the floor. Clench your fists as tight as you can, and hold for a few beats before releasing them back to relaxed. Lift your shoulders up as high and as tense as you can, and then relax them.

Repeat the process with all of your major muscle groups in your body for one minute and allow the stress to slip away a little further every time you relax.

3. Five-things focus

Wherever you are, gently take your focus to five things that you can hear. Maybe you hear a car in the distance, the air-conditioning, or people talking?

Once you have mentally listed five things, move on to things you can feel. And then five things you can smell.

This practice catapults you into the now and calms your mind to focus on this precise moment. You become present in the here and now. Unless you are actually in a true fight-or-flight situation, often stress is in our head so getting into your body can help dissipate the stress.

4. Get active

Research has shown that regular exercise relieves stress and is great for overall health, but what you might not know is that as little as 60 seconds of getting your blood pumping can help with stress-busting.

“Exercise has multiple and complexly-interlinked effects on mind and body, but mainly it is a release of energy that calms us down, and allows us to think more clearly and rationally,” Annie tells.

Keep a skipping rope nearby, or do push ups or jumping jacks for 60 seconds and help reset your brain. As long as the exercise is high intensity one minute bursts can alter the chemicals in your brain sufficiently to see you right.

5. Stretch it out

As much as high intensity helps reset the brain, as can taking it down a level. Deeps breaths, big stretches, getting out of your head and into the tight areas of your body can have the same effect.

“When we are stressed we have a lot of pent-up feelings and frustrations, and the process of stretching our muscles, breathing more deeply and focusing our minds on something else will allow those pent-up feelings to release,” says Annie.

“Some stress is good for us, it’s the amount, frequency and intensity that matter. And some people like more than others. Some people really thrive on stress while others find the smallest amount is too much. We are all different, and our responses are different,” says Annie.

“There is a big school of thought that says that too much stress causes cancer or other serious illnesses, and there is no doubt that excesses of stress can have a detrimental effect. But a life that is too cruisy gets boring and dull, and that can be equally unhealthy.”

Manage your daily stress levels carefully, and be aware of when you’re carrying too much stress for your body and mind. Take small steps regularly to prevent stress piling up and consuming you.

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Is your significant other secretly on Tinder? Now you can find out!

A scandalous new website is turning up the heat by making it easy to expose cheating partners on Tinder.
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A new website called Swipe Buster has swooped in to expose cheating partners who are using the notorious dating app, Tinder.

For the sum of $4.99, Swipe Buster allows you to search for users on Tinder, simply by entering the suspected cheaters gender, name, age and last used location.

The entered search then scans the Tinder database for a match using the app’s API, which is freely available to be used by developers.

Whilst it is a sufficient way to discover if your partner is seeking out other companions, the creators of Swipe Buster believe their app is less about exposing cheaters, and more about showing people how easily their information is accessed.

“People have way too much information about themselves available publicly,” said the app’s developers.

“People should be aware of the privacy settings on all the services they use.”

A sneak peek of the site.

However, a Tinder spokesperson has issued a statement, claiming that all Tinder information is public, and that should you wish to discover a friendly face on the app, you need only download it for yourself.

“If you want to see who’s on Tinder we recommend saving your money and downloading the app for free.”

Dating apps have been the topic of many a privacy breaching conversation as of late, with over 32 million cheaters’ details exposed in the mass hack of the ‘extra-marrital’ dating website, Ashley Madison in 2015.

See for yourself! Click the video player below for a look at an old Ashley Madison advert.

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Ask Danielle: My husband prefers his kids to my daughter

What if your partner obviously favours his children over his step-child, or a family member buys caged eggs? The Weekly's Danielle Colley tackles the tough issues...
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Dear Danielle,

When I married my husband, I was the mother of one daughter and he was very accepting of my little girl. We have since gone on to have more children together.

My problem is that my partner clearly favours his biological children and although I understand that they are his blood connection, I feel that my eldest is just someone who lives in our house for him.

My daughter is a smart kid and she’s approaching her teenage years, and although her relationship with her father is strong, I worry that she will notice her step-dad’s favour with the others and it may negatively impact her.

What should I do?

Loving Mum

Hi Loving Mum,

Often we do have favourites with our kids, even if it may differ from day to day depending on who is being the larger pain in the butt at the time, however as parents it’s important that we never let our kids feel like we love them differently.

Although there are three parents in this relationship, you do need to gently broach this with your husband as he may be unaware that it is obvious to others.

I would suggest they do an activity together without the rest of the family, whether it’s weekly or monthly, and that it’s just ‘their thing’. It will allow your eldest to feel like her step-father is making special time for her, and it may also help him to increase his bond with her as she’s entering a notoriously interesting stage in her life.

Any effort put in to build their relationship now, will be reaped tenfold later.

Dear Danielle,

I have a conundrum. I have an aunt, a rather wealthy aunt, who buys caged eggs and I feel sick about it.

I told my mother last time we were at my aunt’s place that I was going to bring up the importance of buying chicken eggs from a reputable source but my mother said this would be me “over-stepping the mark about someone else’s choices”.

I know that my aunt can afford cruelty-free eggs (and they aren’t that hard to come by) but she is basically a tight-ass and will do anything to save a cent. I feel like this just says so much about who she is – it kind of makes me not like her.

Am I being too judgemental?

EggFriend

Dear EggFriend,

When we have an issue we feel strongly about, it’s often hard to understand people who do not feel passionate about the same thing, but this is what makes us all wonderful and unique. Different things light different fires for us, and this is something that obviously ignites a spark for you.

I think a discussion with your aunt would be better than silent judgement because at least you can then be certain that she is making an informed decision about her egg purchase.

Although cage eggs are frowned upon by a majority of society, they are still for sale in our supermarkets and some people simply aren’t aware of the conditions caged birds live in.

I suggest you give her the benefit of the doubt, have a chat about why it’s important to you and if she continues to buy the eggs, then you can be certain it’s just not something that lights a fire for her and you can judge her as you see fit.

Danielle is not a qualified counsellor and all advice is opinion-based only, to be followed at the responsibility of the recipient.

Do you have a dilemma or conundrum you would like to ask Danielle?

Drop her a line at [email protected] and she will endeavour to help you sort your life out.

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These gorgeous little cancer fighters have come so far

In 2014, a photo of these beautiful cancer survivors went viral. Now, they've been reunited in another photo shoot to show how far they've come.

In 2014, photographers brought together these three beautiful cancer survivors in a photo shoot and the photo went viral, touching the hearts of people all over the world.

Now, shared exclusively with Today, the three girls have been brought together again.

Rheann Franklin, 8, Ainsley Peters, 6 and Rylie Hughey, 5, first met at the first photoshoot while battling different types of cancer.

Earlier this year, photographer Lora Scantling who lives in Oklahoma, US, decided to bring the families back together to see how far the girls had come.

L-R: Riley, Rheann and Ainsley. Photo: Lora Scantling

“We decided to do it holding the original picture this year so everyone could see how much they have changed! All three girls are doing great and are still cancer free and in remission,” Lora told Today.

“I love seeing the girls with each other!” she continued. “The bond they have is incredible and it’s really neat that they understand that their picture has been seen all over the world and that they have made a huge difference for childhood cancer awareness!”

Photo: Lora Scantling

Lora also shared updates on how the girls are doing in their remission:

Rylie is getting scans every three months but is doing well. “She has left the hospital and now enjoys her days in Pre-K, gymnastics, dance and T-ball,” said Lora.

Rheann, the oldest of the three, won’t regain her hair due to dozens of rounds of chemo and radiation. Her eyes slightly droop due to where the tumour was, but “she loves to ride her bike, hang out with her school friends, and she loves to play with her sisters.”

Ainsley remains in remission and has her blood monitored monthly. Lora said ‘she is enjoying the springtime.’

Lora was inspired to take the original image after her stepfather was battling lung cancer.

Photo: Lora Scantling

“I wanted to capture something that would speak a million words in a single portrait! Bringing awareness to childhood cancer holds a special place in my heart,” she said.

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Are the Gold Logie nominees rigged?

It seems some people are puzzled as to why and how the Gold Logie nominees were chosen.

This story originally appeared on tvweeklogieawards.com.au

Taylor Swift tells the world “haters gonna hate”, and it looks like since our recent nominations announcement, TV WEEK has copped a few of those haters.

It seems some people are puzzled as to why and how the Gold Logie nominees were chosen.

At TV WEEK we were pleasantly surprised with the six nominees up for the Gold Logie. To us, it shows just how much Australian audiences are enjoying a diverse range of personalities on the box.

The award is voted by the Australian public. So, that means if the Australian public voted, then the Australian public are happy with the Gold nominees. Crazy, we know.

Here’s how it all works.

What are the two types of categories at the TV WEEK Logies?

Thanks so much for asking! Well, we have two types of awards that we hand out.

1) Best Awards (which are voted by the AUSTRALIAN PUBLIC)

There is a common misconception here that this list is picked by TV WEEK staff solely. That has never been the case. As much as we love TV, the biggest award in TV isn’t picked by three people in our office. We put it to the Australian public to vote for the shows and personalities that they love.

2) Most Outstanding Awards (which are peer-voted and adjudicated by panels of industry experts)

How do you get the list of nominees before they are voted on?

Another excellent question!

We open up submissions to:

• All major metropolitan free-to-air networks such as SBS, ABC, Nine Network, Channel Seven and Network Ten

• Subscription TV networks (Foxtel and the channels they provide to customers)

• Subscription streaming services (Netflix, Stan, Presto)

The above then submit programs and personalities for each of the award categories.

Wait, what, I don’t get it?

OK, for example, Nine Network can say:

“We would like to put up House Husbands in the Best Drama category and these people for the individual awards.”

All of the stars and shows submitted by the networks appear in the lists for people to choose from.

Then, Roy Morgan Research sets up and manages the voting survey. They work with independent voting scrutineer Ernst & Young to make sure the voting process is fair and that the vote collection and compilation is in accordance with Australian auditing standards.

So again, it’s not three people in the TV WEEK office on one Wednesday afternoon picking the nominees. It is a combination of the networks putting them forward and then the Australian public vote on the TV WEEK website.

How are the Gold Logie nominees chosen?

So many great questions.

All candidates that are submitted for Best Actress, Best Actor and Best Presenter by the networks and streaming services are automatically entered into the Gold Logie category for voting.

The public then vote for either an Actor, Actress or Presenter from this big list that they would like to see crowned the Best Personality on Australian Television. Also known as the Gold Logie.

So, can I vote for Gold now?

Sorry, voting closed on January 17. The voting was open between November 16 and January 17 for TV lovers to vote for their favourite shows and personalities. We have our final list now and then winner will be announced on Sunday, May 8.

This story originally appeared on tvweeklogieawards.com.au

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7 highly effective habits of kick-arse women

You want to kick some serious butt? Here's how.
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This kick-arse article written by Dr Sasha Lynn was first published on Champagne Cartel.

We’re all searching. Searching for the magic thing that will help us be totally kick-arse. Is there a pill we can take? A tonic we can drink? We want to be all the things, but that’s hard when we’re juggling so much on our plates. Work, family, parenting, friendships, self-care- how do we do it and still feel like we’ve got enough left in the tank?

How do we keep on our path no matter how hard we might be swayed?

All too often we feel we’re not doing enough, and not ‘being’ enough. We’re often struggling to manage multiple roles in life, and look to other ‘more successful’ women to see what their ‘tricks’ are. There’s no quick fix. Sorry, the magic wand is in the repair shop at the moment. But there are some kick-arse women out there who follow a few key factors to keep them chugging.

What’s their secret? A lot of hard work, and some of these:

1. They put their oxygen mask on

I can’t stress this enough- you can’t be there for anyone else, unless you’re there for yourself. Too often the ridiculous myth is perpetuated that women have to put everyone else first. No. Just no. How the fuck can you look after anyone else if you can’t even look after yourself? You need reserves in the tank to be fully present and give it your all for those around you, so oxygen mask on first, then tend to others.

2. They do give a f—k

Contrary to the popular “zero f—ks given”, some f—ks are needed. But they’re used sparingly and for what really matters. Shit is prioritised, and they know what to expend energy on, and what to walk away from.

3. They raise up, not tear down

No one is in competition with anyone. Truly. Kick arse women focus on their own backyard, and also help others to keep their grass green (yeah, that sounds like a double entendre, doesn’t it?). When someone does well, they celebrate that. There’s no snide remarks, or catty comments. Just wanting others to do well for themselves, and hoping they also do well.

4. They say no

Have you tried it? It feels goooooood. Saying no to taking on too much. Saying no to things that move them further away from where they want to be. Saying no to being used. It’s not a bad thing to say no!

5. They flip things around

It’s true. Flipping it works. Sometimes that may also require flipping the bird, I’m cool with that. Being able to grabble with a shitty situation, reflecting and being able to turn it around is core in being kick ass. It can enable us to deal with almost anything on our plate. Research has shown for example, that women who are higher in positive affect, demonstrate greater resilience and even show less pain when dealing with chronic illnesses (Zautra, Johnson, & Davis, 2005). It’s important to note though that flipping it around doesn’t mean being trippy hippy happy about every single thing. It just means being able to see both sides of the story and balance things out. It’s not all sunshine and lollipops, just as it’s not all storm clouds and douchebags.

6. They ask for help

Woman is not an island. Again, kick-arse women debunk the whole myth of doing it all themselves, without ever asking for help. Seriously, is that even possible? We all need help. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, and it’s not an affront on pride to be offered help. It’s not about expecting help or relying on others for everything, but knowing when help is going to be needed, and being open about asking for help is totally kick-arse. It takes a strong person to know when they need support and to ask for it. Fact.

7. They throw guilt out the window… as much as they can

Look, as nice as it would be to say ‘kick -arse women throw guilt fair out the window’, let’s be honest. It’s near impossible to be rid of that damn guilt. We all feel it from time to time, even the most kick-arse of kick-arse. But we can really reduce that guilt to a bare minimum. There is just shit we do not need to be feeling guilty about. Look at the big picture, is it really going to mess life up by missing the odd thing here or there?

Or feeding your kids baked beans or toast for dinner? Guilt does no good in large doses. It doesn’t change the situation, it doesn’t make us feel better. In a way it can make us reflect on things and reassess what’s going on, but really, throw the rest out the window.

These things can take time, and a lot of practice, and we can often forget them, but part of being kick-arse, is being human, and knowing your limitations and knowing your strengths, while understanding that balance is a work in progress.

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I’m not naughty, I’m autistic

A child with autism gets too much information, but do you have enough to know what that looks like?
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It can be difficult for an outsider to fully grasp what goes on for someone with autism when they experience a sensory overload.

Simple tasks such as going to the shops, or something or someone touching you can send a child into a spin that to the uneducated eye may look like a tantrum, but is actually a mind overloaded with information that just wants the internal noise to stop.

The last thing the family needs during an episode is the judgement of bystanders, but sadly many people love to judge a child’s behaviour in public.

About a Bugg blogger, Renee Bugg, writes regularly about her experiences with her daughter, Poss*, who was diagnosed with autism when she was five.

Poss is a highly intelligent, determined, funny and loving 11-year-old, but there has been many sensory overloads in her life, and Renee has felt the scrutiny of the judgemental public eye.

“Once we had a diagnosis and understood what was happening for Poss, we cared less about people’s judgement and more about calming her down and removing her from the situation,” Renee tells.

“I’ve had people say in the past ‘she’s too big to be in a stroller’ or ‘why is she behaving like that?’, or even older women walking passed and giving me the tutt,” she says. “Some people are really understanding and just get it, and other are just waiting to pass judgement. Your job as a parent is just to focus on your child in that moment.”

Some parents carry cards that say “My child is not naughty, they have autism,” with a link to a website for more information about the subject. This is a great way to educate people, but for Renee, she just found it easier to get a thick skin.

“It’s a good tool for educating people, but I just don’t really think it’s anyone else’s business. If I have the opportunity to educate, I will, but if I’m on my own, my focus is on my child.”

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UK’s National Autistic Society has created a powerful video to try to show what an autistic child experience when they have a sensory overload. Although this video is very good, it can only visually show us a couple of the senses, missing out the power of smell and touch which also have a huge impact.

The campaign hopes to spread the message-

TMI (too much information)- I’m not naughty – I’m autistic. Sometimes I get too much information. And if you only see a naughty kid, you haven’t got enough.

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