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Meet the woman behind the Mother’s Day Classic

“I was shocked that so many women were dying young.”

Like 130,000 other women around Australia, 47-year-old Louise Davidson will be lacing up her runners on Sunday 8th May and taking part in the 19th Mother’s Day Classic.

Many of the runners and walkers taking part will have special reasons for joining in. Breast Cancer affects as many as one in eight women in Australia, so it has touched most of us in some way.

But, as the founder of the Mother’s Day Classic, it’s probably fair to say that the event means more to Davidson that anyone else.

Davidson became well acquainted with breast cancer when she lost her mother to the disease in 1994.

“My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was 50, and she died at 52. I was her main carer and supporter during her illness.”

“Aside from my personal grief, it seemed quite shocking to me that someone could die so young from this disease,” Davidson recalls.

After losing her mother, Davidson became acutely aware just how many young women were dying from breast cancer.

This was made all the more poignant because of her role as a professional in the superannuation industry – women were working hard to save for their retirement, but not living past retirement age.

Elsewhere in the world, other women were having similar conversations and fundraising events in aid of breast cancer research were starting to become more prominent. Serendipitously, a colleague and mentor of Davidson, Mavis Robertson, came across one such event while on holiday in New York.

Back in Australia, Robertson shared the story with Davidson and, inspired by a previous conversations about breast cancer, the pair started to hatch a plan to hold a similar event in Australia.

“We went into it somewhat naïvely. I’d never been to a fun run – I don’t think any of us had,” Davidson laughs.

The first events held in Sydney and Melbourne in 1998, were resounding successes. There were in excess of 2,500 people at the Melbourne event alone.

“I stood outside the tent [at the Melbourne event] watching people doing warm up aerobics and was overwhelmed by the number of people that had showed up to take part.

“Particularly, knowing that so many people were taking part in memory of a loved one,” recalls Davison.

“I remember thinking that my mum would have been very proud. She was quite an activist herself.”

While Davidson spent her own childhood presenting her beloved mother with burnt toast and tea on Mother’s Day, her own three daughters have grown up thinking that Mother’s Day and the Mother’s Day Classic are one and the same.

“They don’t know anything about Mothers Day apart from the Mother’s Day Classic. When they were little they used to write ‘Happy Mother’s Day Classic’ on the cards they made at pre-school,” laughs Davidson.

Louise Davidson with Mavis Robertson

There is no time for a Mother’s Day breakfast in bed in Davidson’s household. Instead she is up at 5am, getting ready to participate in the 4km run.

Davidson hasn’t always been a runner though. In fact, it was her involvement in the Mother’s Day Classic that inspired her to take up the sport.

“The first time I ran the Mother’s Day Classic was an amazing experience. To be on the track running with other people who were united in their desire to make a difference was exhilarating,” she remembers.

Davidson says that lots of other women have taken up running because of the Mother’s Day Classic.

“It’s a very supportive community environment. A lot of people come to the event to walk and see the runners and think ‘maybe I’ll run it next year’,” she explains.

The event was going from strength to strength and with her new love of running, so was Davidson. But then, in what seemed like a cruel twist of fate, Davidson went for a check up and discovered that she had breast cancer.

“It was a terrible shock to me. I somehow thought that all my involvement in the Mother’s Day classic would make me immune from getting [the disease] myself,” she jokes.

Thankfully, Davidson’s diligence with her own health meant that her breast cancer was detected early. She then got to experience the developments that have been made since her mother’s breast cancer diagnosis.

“Everything had advanced really significantly, imagining, surgical technique, the drugs available, radiotherapy.

“It made me feel really excited about the impact fundraising for breast cancer research has had. So much progress has been made,” she says.

Last year, Davidson participated in the Mother’s Day Classic as a breast cancer survivor. While she had always found the event to be an emotional roller coaster, this time the sheer magnitude of the day hit home like never before.

“I was participating for me and my mum, not just for my mum. It was very emotional,” she recalls.

“My diagnosis gave me a different perspective, it was much more personal.”

This year Davidson will be lacing up and joining around 40,000 participants to walk and run around the Tan Track, in the shade of Melbourne’s elm trees.

Nationwide there will be a further 90,000 Australians turning up to 116 venues to take part in the Mothers Day Classic. To date, the event has raised over $27.4 million for cancer research.

The numbers both inspire and sadden Davidson.

“Unfortunately, one of the things that it means is that breast cancer does impact a very large number of people in our community.

“It would be great if it didn’t affect so many people,” she says.

“I would happily give up the Mother’s Day Classic if it meant that breast cancer wasn’t affecting so many people.”

For Davidson, the Mother’s Day Classic will always be a celebration of the lives of those who have breast cancer and others who have been lost to the disease.

“It’s emotional but not depressing,” she says. “There is solidarity in seeing so many people wearing placards on their backs to remember or support someone with breast cancer.”

**For more information on the Mother’s Day Classic, click here.

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Man finds chilling secret in new home

He was exploring his new home and was shocked when he went into the attic.

Reddit user, NukeStorm, was exploring his new home when he stumbled upon a mysterious door in the attic.

The Reditor had no idea that the room was there – and it certainly hadn’t been a selling point of his new property.

According to NukeStorm, the sinister looking door was approximately four feet tall with a metal grate fastened over the hole.

Inside the room, he found a single light, a small unenticing bed, and a wall with foam padding.

But the most disturbing thing of all is that there’s no doorknob on the inside of the room. Which means that whoever slept in the room would be stuck until someone let them out.

Many Redit users put forward theories about the room’s purpose, but no one has managed to come up with a definitive answer.

In another mysterious twist, there hasn’t been an update from NukeStorm since his original post – we really hope he’s not trapped in his attic.

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Why I had my family killed

Erin was just 16 when she arranged the murders of her entire family.

She’s a self-confessed “daddy’s girl”, but when Erin Caffey was just 16, she organised the murders of her entire family.

Why? Because her mum and dad had told her she couldn’t see her 18-year-old boyfriend Charlie Wilkinson anymore.

“I was shocked, angry and hurt, this was the guy I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with and he loved me,” she told The Sun. “We were going to get married.”

So one night, a few days later, Erin sat outside her Texas family home in a car with friend Bobbi Johnson, 18, while Wilkinson and his friend Charles Waid, 20, (also Bobbi’s boyfriend) stabbed and shot her parents and siblings.

Her mother Penny was shot then stabbed with a samurai sword. Her 13-year-old brother Matthew was shot in the head. Her eight-year-old brother Tyler was cornered hiding in a cupboard and repeatedly stabbed with a sword.

Her father Terry was shot five times but miraculously survived, even after the house was set on fire.

When she was arrested, Erin claimed she had been drugged and kidnapped by her three friends, but they confessed she had planned the killings, a claim proven by cell phone records.

Erin is now 24 and serving a minimum of 42 years in prison. She will be 59 by the time she’s eligible for parole.

She regrets her crimes, but not because she appears to feel any real remorse.

“When I look back on it now, this was all just stupid,” she says from jail, now aged 24. “I mean, for what? They weren’t beating me, they weren’t starving me to death. I had it made.”

Erin’s father has recovered from his injuries and still visits her once a month. He has forgiven her because he believes her young mind was corrupted by her controlling boyfriend.

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When rejected men turn nasty

An Instagram account is lifting the lid on the awful online abuse women receive.

The top caption of the Bye Felipe Instagram account aptly says: “Calling out dudes who turn hostile when rejected or ignored.”

And that’s exactly what this account does – because in 2016, it’s still not ok for women to choose not to respond to unwanted comments and unsolicited nudes by men.

The account is documenting the horrific abusive behaviour of men on dating sites who’s initial approach turns nasty and aggressive if they believe they’ve been rejected.

There are a bunch of disgusting examples of men calling women ‘bitch’ and ‘whore’, plus telling them their ugly and fat.

These are confronting examples of day-to-day truths of women.

Bye Felipe was started up by 28-year-old Ali Tweten from LA who was fed up after her friend was labelled an ‘asshole’ after not replying to a guy’s message.

According to Eileen Beard, 32-year-old co-host of the new Bye Felipe podcast, this aggressive behaviour comes from male entitlement and deep insecurity.

Telling news.com.au, “They lash out with insults to make themselves feel better after being rejected. I sympathise with them being insecure, but I don’t sympathise with them being arseholes.”

This rings true with the Margaret Atwood quote: “Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.”

Right now, Ali is working on a change.org petition to Facebook to make punishments the same for sending unsolicited nudes to flashing in public.

Let’s hope this legislation spreads all over the world.

Click through to see some of the worst of the worst.

WARNING: Some may cause offence.

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Is this the most brutal break up ever?

We think so...

Breaking up with a significant other can be tough.

But in the age of the smart phone, are break ups becoming more brutal than ever?

A young lad in the UK has found himself in the spotlight this week after his epic break up text message exchange was shared on twitter by his big sister Annie.

In the text messages, Liam tells his former girlfriend that he ‘cba with a relationship’ before asking his ex one cold hearted question. Cba is ‘can’t be assed’.

This is how the exchange went down.

Loz: Why was you speaking to Jess today? xxxxxxx

Liam: Cos she’s me mate

Loz: Do you fancy her more than me? xxxxxxxx

Liam: She’s fit like xx

Loz: Does tha mean yeah?Xxxxxxxxxx

Liam: Dunno cba with a relationship though xx

Loz: Do you not want to be with me anymore? Xxxxxxxxxx

Liam: Nah not really sorry xx

Loz: Really Liam why didn’t you say this before? xxxxxxxxx

Liam: Couldn’t be assed with the hassle tbh xx

Loz: Crying face emoji x3 xxxxxxxxxx

Liam: Sorry x

Loz: It’s fine I’ll be okay xxxxxxxx

Liam: Have you got Jess number? X

Liam’s big sister Annie, shared screenshots of the brutal conversation on Twitter and they have been shared thousands of times.

Really Liam, that’s not the way to do it.

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Frozen fans petition Disney to give Elsa a girlfriend

Will Disney finally be ready to represent the LGBTI community with a lesbian princess?
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Is Disney ready to represent the LGBTI community with a lesbian princess? Are they ready to show that “love is an open door” and when it comes to gay inequality we’re ready “to let it go, let it gooooooooo”?

One Disney fan has created the hashtag #GiveElsaAGirlfriend, and asked exactly that question.

The hashtag refers to Elsa, the ‘Let It Go’ princess come queen from the smash hit 2013 film, Frozen, and the fact that she wants to see a lady love interest in the upcoming sequel, Frozen 2.

Alexis Isabel started the hashtag with a simple enough request, and it didn’t take long for others to respond to the call out for a progressive princess to join the Disney ranks.

A large majority of people are supportive of the movement for reasons ranging from normalising all kinds of love so LGBTI kids feels accepted, but also by way of potentially explaining to peers of kids with two mummies that that love is normal too.

Obviously, there were haters, because where there is talk of equality there will always be haters.

The fear is that introducing idea of same-sex relationships to children through the medium of film will actually “make them gay.”

But it was summed up perfectly by Writing Writer who said –

“If a gay Disney princess can turn little girls gay then why didn’t all those straight princesses turn me straight?”

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Rose Byrne: I haven’t left my house in months

She’s the first to admit the past few months have not been easy.

Rose Byrne was picture perfect on the red carpet at the Met Gala last night, but the Aussie beauty wasn’t afraid to admit that the past few months have not been easy.

Rose welcomed her first child, son Rocco, three months ago and says her life has been so chaotic that she hasn’t left her apartment since.

“I’m still in a fog,” she told news.com.au. “I haven’t even left my apartment in three months.

“It takes an hour and forty-five minutes to get out of the house with a baby, and by the time I’m ready, I’m exhausted. I’m done, I’m going back in. I don’t care!”

It’s a struggle millions of women around the world can relate to – becoming a mother certainly takes some getting used to – but one that is simultaneously hard and the best thing that has ever happened to you.

“I’m tired, but even so, all of it’s great,” she said. “You definitely go into a cocoon.”

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Mila Kunis talks about how motherhood has changed her

Many have said that parenthood changes you for the better, and Mila Kunis couldn't agree more!
Mila Kunis

The starlet is currently promoting her new film, Bad Mums.

During the press junket for the comedy, the 32-year-old mum candidly spoke about what it was like being a parent to her and Ashton Kutcher’s 19-month old daughter, Wyatt.

“I reprioritised my life, in all honesty. I traveled through all my twenties and I was very selfish… in a good way, not in a way I regret. And I think having a kid made me realise how incredibly selfless I want to be,” Mila explained to Entertainment Tonight.

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“It does change the way you think and look at life. I would never trade it for the world,” Ashton’s wife continued.

“But I know that when we decided to have a kid, we were ready to no longer be selfish. Or at least start the process, because innately, as humans, we are really selfish people.”

She may be selfless, but Mila also admitted staying up is now a thing of the past!

“I can let loose as much as I want, but at 6:45 in the morning she’s awake, so so am I. They don’t care that I let loose the night before. Honestly, I don’t know what letting loose means, probably not going to sleep at 9:30,” she laughed.

Adding, “[With parenthood] you learn how to be a great partner and great wife and a great woman and be yourself and still be responsible for you know, a living child. It’s definitely a learning process.”

Mila is besotted with Wyatt…

What a cutie!

Mila and Ashton, 38, first met back in 1998 during their time on the beloved sitcom, That ’70s Show.

The duo stayed friends before becoming one of Hollywood’s hottest items in 2012.

Two years later they welcomed their first child, little Wyatt, before tying the knot the following year.

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In 2013, Mila admitted during an interview with Playboy that her family would always be her first priority.

“I want to be a present mum!”

“If that means I do one movie a year, if people still want to see me and hire me and I don’t suck by that point, great. But my only source of happiness can’t be dependent on something so fickle. And I find this industry to be incredibly fickle.”

The little tot loves daddy time!

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Why I refused to have my baby’s cord cut

Lotus Birth is the practice of not cutting your baby's umbilical cord. Are the benefits higher than the weird factor?
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Whether you desire a water birth, a home-birth, a drug-free birth or an epidural at the first contraction, the [one desire all mothers have](http://www.aww.com.au/latest-news/news-stories/the-childbirth-myth-1-22059

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Everybody desires the most stress-free birth possible for all parties concerned. Some women take stress-free to a whole new level by embracing the holistic, energetic, some believe spiritual practice of lotus birth.

Lotus birth is the process of non-severance of the umbilical cord. In other words, you leave the placenta attached to the baby until it falls off naturally.

The philosophy behind the lotus birth is that a child has spent nine months in the womb with their placenta and lopping it off the second they arrive may cause them pain and distress.

By allowing the placenta to fall off naturally, you are allowing your baby to gently enter the world with no scary scissors in sight, and absorb the last vestiges of goodness from the placenta.

It appears to be a fairly polarising subject with some women recoiling in horror at the thought of carrying their placenta for the seven-14 days it takes to fall off, while other embrace the concept of giving their baby the gift of a supremely gentle start.

Kim Vale’s first encounter with a placenta was when it was attached to her sister’s newborn during her lotus birth.

“I didn’t really know much about placentas to tell the truth so it was quite a shock! You couldn’t see it but just knowing it was there,” she recalls.

When it came time for Kim to have her own baby, she and her husband had done extensive research online and decided keeping the umbilical cord intact was something they wanted to try themselves.

“It was a little awkward to manoeuvre the baby. I was a bit concerned if I dropped the placenta would the baby would be yanked from my arms?” said Kim. “We were so cautious and delicate and in a sense I think that helped our baby transition into the world quite smoothly. We weren’t rushing about with her.”

Kim found it also stopped many people from manhandling her newborn.

“When you tell people the placenta is still attached there is no pressure whatsoever to hand the baby over to anyone else,” she laughs.

Kim is now considering placenta encapsulation (eating the placenta in pill form) for her second child, although she loved the experience that lotus birth gave her family.

“It gave me peace of mind. We found she was really calm after the birth. She didn’t actually cry for a very long time, and I just found it a really gentle experience.”

The concept of a gentle experience for your baby is hard to dispute but the logistics of lugging a slab of meat around with your newborn can be a little confronting at best.

Shamanic midwife and holistic psychologist, Avalon Darnesh, is a great advocate for lotus birthing.

“You can provide a gentle beginning to life, rather than rushing in with scissors to chop the cord. You can provide a gentle quiet space for the baby to gradually adjust to life outside the womb.”

Quiet is good, especially in the “fourth trimester” with a tiny baby, but what about that stinky old placenta?

“You need to care for it and there is maintenance required to care for it,” says Avalon. “You can support the placenta to dehydrate, so it kind of dries out, so by the time it comes off there is an aroma but it is not rotting.

“I used rosemary, some people use salt because salt helps to preserve it. It’s like ancient cultures preserving meat – Similar thing. You can use rosemary which helps to dry it so you need to be prepared with a good jar of ground dried rosemary.

“When you cover the placenta with that it helps to shrivel and dry out. I also used a few drop of lavender oil to help freshen it because it has an earthy smell. You can also wrap it in a bag if you like, but I don’t like the idea of it rotting in a bag. I prefer to let it dry it out,” explains Avalon.

“The beauty of lotus birth is that it actually encourages me as a mother to slow down, and not be rushing out to the shops. I spend that week just being quiet at home and honouring the fourth trimester,” says Avalon.

The baby and the placenta are the same DNA so it is also thought that even if you don’t leave the cord attached until it falls off, at least having a prolonged cord cutting (until the cord stops pulsing) and then keeping the placenta nearby for a few days can help the baby transition into the world.

“Not a lot of scientific research has been done to substantiate medical benefits of a lotus birth. There is also little to prove the cutting of the cord and the separation of baby and placenta is medically necessary,” says doula from Birthing Brave, Chelle Luke.

“The placenta is an essential organ, its function, just as important to life as baby’s heart,” says Chelle.

“Ancient practices and rituals that honor the placenta and the cord can be found everywhere in traditional and indigenous cultures. These kinds of practices are becoming increasingly popular in our modern society.”

It may not be for everyone, but knowledge and research may demystify this practice and if not normalise it, at least allow us to understand the choices people make for their families.

“Baby is more likely to remain skin to skin with mother (benefits of this are extensive) and mother is more likely to rest and stay at home, even in bed, until the cord comes away at three-10 days. These first precious days recovering from birth, and learning about your baby are essential, difficult and beautiful, and can create treasured memories for many mothers and new families.”

Danielle Colley

*Danielle Colley is a writer, blogger, mum and ice cream afficionado. She is a regular contributor to The Weekly and other online and print publications.

You can see more of Danielle on her blog, Keeping Up With The Holsbys, or her Facebook page facebook.com/keepingupwiththeholsbys.*

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Hero 9yo who saved mum’s life wins bravery award

He was awarded the ‘Triple Zero Hero’ after making a life-saving call after his mother suffered a stroke.

A young boy who saved his mother’s life has been dubbed a hero and rightfully honoured with a bravery award.

The nine-year-old boy Noah Mattani from Sydney’s North Shore was cool and calm under pressure while dialling 000 when his mother had a stroke.

He yesterday received the ‘Triple Zero Hero’ award after describing the moment when he had to make the life-saving call.

Noah was with his mum on the way to a swimming lesson when they pulled over. He seemed to instantly know there was something wrong.

“When my mum was parking she turned her head and then she felt something weird and then she started to feel a little bit worse,” Noah said.

“I saw mum’s parking and it was not very straight.”

“My dad called the ambulance and then they called my mum’s phone and they talked me through it.”

Noah told the 000 operator their location so an ambulance could make its way to them.

“They said can they ask me to ask her if she can smile and if she could put her arms up. I knew something was not right with her… I was scared.”

The Scots College Preparatory School student was quite humble about the whole thing – he didn’t even tell his brother or sister about the award!

Ambulance officer Kate Phippard was the first responder to the incident and praised Noah’s efforts in helping his mum.

“Noah gave us a lot of important information including where he was because he was not at his residential address. He was able to tell us the shops he was across the road from,” she said.

“He put the hazard lights on as instructed by the call taker and all those things made it much easier to find them at quite a busy time of day.”

“It was quite a serious condition and all those little things together made sure (his) mum’s treatment happened really efficiently.”

Mrs Mattani has made a full recovery from her stroke and is incredibly proud of her quick-thinking son.

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